Emotional Well-Being

Today I'll start with a gentle reminder that our upcoming book "Unstressable: A Practical Guide to Stress-Free Living" is available for preorder. It is written by me, Mo Gawdat and my wonderful co-author Alice Law and we hope it will truly make an impact in getting a million people out of Stress.

To help us learn more about Stress, in this episode of Slo Mo, I am honored to welcome Robert Sapolsky, a luminary in the field of neuroscience and a master storyteller of human behavior. A truly remarkable human being. Like a deep and engaging dialogue between friends, Robert shares his journey through the intricate maze of the human brain, discussing the marvels of biology that underpin our emotions, actions, and the essence of what makes us human.

Beyond his groundbreaking research on stress, Robert explores his passion for teaching, his profound insights into the intersection of biology and behavior, and his unyielding curiosity about the human condition. This episode is a celebration of intellectual exploration, the wonders of scientific discovery, and the profound impact of sharing knowledge to illuminate the mysteries of our existence.

Listen as we discuss:

• The upcoming release of Unstressable
• The Biology of Stress
• How our Compassion sometimes contributes to our Stress
• How humans are a species of Contradictions
• How Contextual is Stress
• The Evolution of our Tribal mentality 
• Dopamine
• Free Will
• The Positive impact we can make

For more insights and inspiration from Robert Sapolsky, dive into his lectures and books (his most recent: https://a.co/d/iZTAUed), and follow his work at the forefront of neuroscience and behavior. To stay in touch with Robert, you can follow his academic contributions and public engagements, or subscribe to his Instagram page.

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Jonny Miller is the founder of Nervous System Mastery, a course that has helped hundreds of founders and tech leaders cultivate calm, reduce nervousness, enhance resilience, and elevate their sense of aliveness. Having personally benefited from Jonny’s teachings, I’m especially excited to have him on the show. In this episode, we discuss:

• How shifting your focus from the mind to the body can help ease nervousness

• The power of breath in changing states

• The importance of “interoception”

• Specific breathing exercises to both calm and excite your nervous system

• The A.P.E. (awareness, posture, and emotion) framework for recognizing body signals

• The “feather, brick, dump truck” phenomenon

• The concept of emotional debt and how to release it

• The competitive advantage of feeling emotions

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Find the full transcript at: https://www.lennyspodcast.com/managing-nerves-anxiety-and-burnout-jonny-miller-nervous-system-mastery/

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Where to find Jonny Miller:

• X: https://twitter.com/jonnym1ller

• LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jonnym1ller/

• Website: https://www.jonnymiller.co/

• Podcast: podcast.curioushumans.com 

• Email: jonny@curioushumans.com

• Course: https://nsmastery.com/lenny

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• Newsletter: https://www.lennysnewsletter.com

• X: https://twitter.com/lennysan

• LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lennyrachitsky/

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In this episode, we cover:

(00:00) Jonny’s background

(07:19) The bottom-up approach to nervousness and anxiety

(09:42) The power of breath in changing states

(11:47) The concept of state over story

(13:56) Personal experiences with nervousness

(15:01) Breathing exercises to calm you down

(20:40) The “espresso” breath exercise to give you energy

(25:44) Interoception and the A.P.E. framework

(34:47) The “feather, brick, dump truck” phenomenon

(37:40) Recognizing emotional debt and avoiding burnout

(40:47) Using somatic-oriented therapy for healing

(45:26) Telltale signs of emotional debt

(48:13) The competitive advantage of “feeling the feels”

(50:20) Advice for people overwhelmed by stimuli

(52:36) The NSDR (non-sleep deep rest) practice for emotional release

(55:38) Daily practices for emotional well-being

(58:23) Thoughts on meditation

(01:01:26) The Body Keeps the Score

(01:01:58) Contrarian corner

(01:04:43) Lightning round

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Jonny’s If [This] Then [Breathe] Recipes:

• If [overwhelmed], then [hum]

• If [anxious], then [breath of calm]

• If [lethargic], then [espresso breath]

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Referenced:

• The Operating Manual for Your Nervous System: https://every.to/p/the-operating-manual-for-your-nervous-system

• Afferent vs. Efferent Neurons: https://www.osmosis.org/answers/afferent-vs-efferent-neurons

• Insular cortex: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Insular_cortex

• Jonny’s TED Talk, “The gifts of grief”: https://www.ted.com/talks/jonny_miller_the_gifts_of_grief/details

• Humming (Simple Bhramari Pranayama) as a Stress Buster: A Holter-Based Study to Analyze Heart Rate Variability (HRV) Parameters During Bhramari, Physical Activity, Emotional Stress, and Sleep: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC10182780/

• 14-Minute Guided NSDR (non-sleep deep rest) practice: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vjXX2c72fYY

• Breathing Techniques to Reduce Stress and Anxiety | Dr. Andrew Huberman on the Physiological Sigh: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kSZKIupBUuc

• Interoception: the hidden sense that shapes well-being: https://www.theguardian.com/science/2021/aug/15/the-hidden-sense-shaping-your-wellbeing-interoception

• Exteroception: https://dictionary.apa.org/exteroception

• Interoceptive Awareness and ADHD: https://chadd.org/adhd-news/adhd-news-adults/interoceptive-awareness-and-adhd/

• Childhood Trauma Affects Stress-Related Interoceptive Accuracy: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC6813623/

• The Hour Between Dog and Wolf: How Risk Taking Transforms Us, Body and Mind: https://www.amazon.com/Hour-Between-Dog-Wolf-Transforms/dp/0143123408

• Somatic Experiencing: https://www.somaticexperiencing.com/

• Hakomi Institute: https://hakomiinstitute.com/

• Decisions and Desire (about Antonio Damasio’s work): https://hbr.org/2006/01/decisions-and-desire

• When enough is enough | Andy Johns (ex-FB, Twitter, Quora): https://www.lennyspodcast.com/when-enough-is-enough-andy-johns-ex-fb-twitter-quora/

• What Is Yoga Nidra?: https://health.clevelandclinic.org/what-is-yoga-nidra

• Becoming Fully Yourself, What AI Wants, Family Rituals & Rites of Passage, with Kevin Kelly: https://podcast.curioushumans.com/episodes/becoming-fully-yourself-what-ai-wants-rites-of-passage-with-kevin-kelly

• Tim Ferriss: https://tim.blog/

• The Power of Sensations: Intermediate’s Vipassana Body Scan: https://insighttimer.com/carola.ananda/guided-meditations/the-power-of-sensations-intermediates-vipassana-body-scan-meditation

• Vipassana Meditation: https://www.dhamma.org/en/index

• The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma: https://www.amazon.com/Body-Keeps-Score-Healing-Trauma/dp/0670785938

• Waking the Tiger: Healing Trauma: https://www.amazon.com/Waking-Tiger-Healing-Peter-Levine/dp/155643233X

• Consolations: The Solace, Nourishment and Underlying Meaning of Everyday Words: https://www.themarginalian.org/2015/04/29/david-whyte-consolations-words/

• The 15 Commitments of Conscious Leadership: A New Paradigm for Sustainable Success: https://www.amazon.com/15-Commitments-Conscious-Leadership-Sustainable/dp/0990976904/

• The Conscious Leadership Group: https://conscious.is/

• Recapture the Rapture: Rethinking God, Sex, and Death in a World That’s Lost Its Mind: https://www.amazon.com/Recapture-Rapture-Rethinking-Death-World/dp/0062905465

• Kubo and the Two Strings on Prime Video: https://www.amazon.com/Kubo-Two-Strings-Charlize-Theron/dp/B01K5BSWX0

• Wolfwalkers on AppleTV+: https://tv.apple.com/us/movie/wolfwalkers/umc.cmc.amuoq00hqelfi98j0gvg641x

• Scavengers Reign on Max: https://www.max.com/shows/scavengers-reign/50c8ce6d-088c-42d9-9147-d1b19b1289d4

• Jerry Colonna on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jerry-colonna-reboot/

• Ra Optics “Sunset” blue-light blockers: https://raoptics.com/collections/night-lenses

• Nurosym vagal stimulation device: https://my.nurosym.com/vns1564/

• Pulsetto vagal stimulation device: https://pulsetto.tech/new-year/?gc_id=20124962116&h_ad_id=686249897188&gad_source=1

• Apollo vagus nerve stimulator: https://apolloneuro.com/products/apollo-wearable

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Additional research:

• Cellular allostatic load is linked to increased energy expenditure and accelerated biological aging: https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S0306453023003001

• Somatic experiencing: using interoception and proprioception as core elements of trauma therapy: https://www.frontiersin.org/articles/10.3389/fpsyg.2015.00093/full

• Relationship between interoception and emotion regulation: New evidence from mixed methods: https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S0165032718323723

• Out-of-the-blue panic attacks aren’t without warning: body sends signals for hour before: https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/21783179/

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This podcast will change your mind! Today’s episode is another brilliant compilation, this time on the theme of mindset – how changing your thinking can change your life. The team and I have selected some of the most practical, inspiring and can-do clips. Each one is filled with hope and potential, guaranteed to get you into a positive frame of mind. It’s a fantastic episode to help you begin 2024 as you mean to go on.

The idea behind this theme was to collect all the best tips, tricks and evidence-based techniques to help you reframe some of the ways you might see the world. Reframing means that when challenges arise, or difficult conversations or decisions present themselves, you can choose to approach them in a different way. With time you will genuinely feel differently about them – and find yourself embracing life with a new sense of freedom and fulfilment.

The clips you’ll hear include some powerful, life-changing ideas and insights on controlling your reaction to stressors, managing anxiety and overwhelm, learning to sit with your thoughts, and growing your resilience and self-compassion. As we see in a new year, with all its talk of resolutions and ‘new yous’, I think you’ll appreciate our experts’ realistic take on making healthy habits stick and overcoming limiting beliefs or unhelpful thought patterns. If you ever feel a bit lost in life, as if you’ve strayed from your intended path, this podcast will help. Together, my guests will help you to reconnect with your true, authentic self. And that’s something we could all do with in modern life.

You’ll hear from former guests including Jay Shetty, Oliver Burkeman, Rich Roll, Peter Crone, James Clear, Jim Kwik, Mel Robbins, Dr Kristen Neff, Dr Edith Eger, Pippa Grange and Julia Samuel – to name but a few – on how to harness the power of your mind and cultivate emotional and spiritual growth.

Remember that each of the clips in this podcast comes from a full-length episode. So if you like what you hear, check the show notes for links to listen to those speakers’ episodes in full. My team and I loved compiling this episode for you, it’s been a wonderful reminder of our purpose in life. And I hope that some of the wisdom you hear today will inspire you to find yours. 

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The foundation of our health is a robust immune system that has a very important mechanism of cleaning out inflammatory cells. If this process is broken, the inflammatory cells can actually turn other functioning cells into inflammatory cells. Our daily life habits and exposures, such as sleep, stress management, diet, and toxins, affect key biological processes that impact our immune function. When our immune health is functioning properly, the rest of our body follows with less illness and disease.

In today’s episode, I talk with Dr. Elizabeth Boham and Dr. Leonard Calabrese about ways that we can support our immune systems to reduce the chance of illness and disease.

Dr. Elizabeth Boham is a physician and nutritionist who practices Functional Medicine at The UltraWellness Center in Lenox, MA. Through her practice and lecturing she has helped thousands of people achieve their goals of optimum health and wellness. She witnesses the power of nutrition every day in her practice and is committed to training other physicians to utilize nutrition in healing.

Dr. Leonard Calabrese is a Professor of Medicine at the Cleveland Clinic Lerner College of Medicine of Case Western Reserve University and Vice Chair of the Department of Rheumatic and Immunologic Diseases. He is also the director of the RJ Fasenmyer Center for Clinical Immunology at the Cleveland Clinic and holds joint appointments in the Department of Infectious Diseases and the Wellness Institute.

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Attractiveness and beauty is something we all inevitably find ourselves considering. We question whether we would be happier if we lost weight, would find love if our skin was better, would be more successful if we looked more like her or him. Our obsession with beauty is psychological and deeply rooted in our biology and evolution as a species. In today's episode we break down the existence of pretty privilege and beauty standards in our 20s and how they are impacting our mental wellbeing, sense of self worth and even our financial decisions. Listen now! 

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Lewis welcomes Dr. Nicole LePera, renowned author of the #1 New York Times bestsellers "How To Do The Work" and “How to Meet Your Self” Workbook. Dr. LePera, the creator of the #SelfHealers movement, discusses her latest book, "How to Be the Love You Seek," offering invaluable insights into healing relationships starting with oneself. She highlights the significance of understanding past traumas and how they shape current relationship dynamics, emphasizing the importance of self-love, emotional resilience, and cultivating healthy connections.

Relationships have always been essential to human survival. Our bodies and brains are programmed to seek out connection, whether familial, romantic, or platonic. And yet, these vital bonds are often at the root of our deepest suffering. While our hearts are primed for compassionate connection, our nervous systems—which store all our past hurts and disappointments—are wired for threat and negativity.

For decades, leading relationship advice has maintained that successful relationships require a specific compromise—that we must change our authentic expression to better meet the needs of others, and vice versa. It may sound reasonable in theory, but as Dr. LePera explains, this approach is nothing less than a recipe for a lifetime of resentment.

Buy her new book How to Be the Love You Seek: Break Cycles, Find Peace, and Heal Your Relationships

In this episode you will learn

• The difference between self-love and self-worth, and how to focus attention effectively on both.
• Strategies to practice self-love while maintaining healthy relationships.
• Common patterns and beliefs that hinder the ability to receive love and ways to shift these mindsets.
• The role of self-compassion in emotional healing and reprogramming the brain.
• Techniques for setting healthy boundaries and overcoming self-sabotaging behaviors in relationships.

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I was talking sh*t about my daughter and got caught red-handed. Talk about unnecessary drama.

We've all been there. And according to today’s expert, this type of conflict is causing more stress than you think.

Today, I am joined by Dr. Scott Lyons, a medical doctor, holistic psychologist, and renowned body-based trauma expert. He says there are 6 telltale signs that you’re addicted to stress.

I never considered myself to be a person who is addicted to stress until this conversation.

Dr. Lyons is certified in more healing modalities than you want me to list and has even created his own body-based trauma therapy called Somatic Stress Release™, taught in over 20 countries.

You and I are digging into the fascinating science, research, and psychology of stress. And more importantly, you are going to get the tools you need to remove it from your life.

Dr. Lyons will explain why we keep ourselves on edge, why we find ourselves picking fights, gossiping, zombie scrolling, and staying in relationships where drama is present.

This is a cycle you need to break. It’s time you slow down and learn:

• The shocking ways you are addicted to stress.
• How to deal with drama-addicted friends and significant others.
• What zombie scrolling, zoning out in front of the TV, and always being on the go say about you.
• What it means when you always need to be the center of attention.
• What “revving” is and why you need to stop doing it today.
• The 3 ways to break free from a stress addiction.

If you’ve read this far, it means you want to feel less stress. I want that for you, too.

That’s why I can’t wait for you to listen and learn how to remove all the unnecessary drama from your life.

Xo, Mel 

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• 3:28: What exactly does it mean to be ‘addicted to drama’?
• 4:56: Here are the 9 external signs you might be addicted to drama.
• 5:00: If you use these 6 words, you might be addicted to drama.
• 5:15: Do you feel these two emotions when things are calm?
• 5:30: Gossiping is a double-edged sword
• 8:23: How addicts feel inside vs. how they seem to others
• 10:26: What is a revving reflex?
• 11:10: Whoa. I had a major lightbulb moment here.
• 11:50: Addiction to drama is really an expression of trauma.
• 12:57: Mic drop: We chase our drama to avoid our traumas.
• 15:15: How we are reclaiming this word ‘drama’.
• 16:00: The 3 ways drama feels good.
• 16:12: What is drama exactly?
• 20:15: Dr. Scott begins to share his own vulnerable story.
• 21:20: Are you ‘drama bonding’?
• 23:50: This is why hurt people can’t let go of drama.
• 27:35: What is dissociation?
• 28:20: Do these signs feel familiar in your own life?
• 36:55: Examples of childhood traumas that can create drama addiction.
• 37:50: Here’s what we did so that our kids felt abandoned.
• 43:25: How to be in a healthy relationship with someone like this.
• 48:15: Do this so you don’t get involved in their drama cycle.
• 51:40: One surprising sign of dissociated tolerance I bet you’ll recognize.
• 54:00: How the heck does stress give you pain relief?
• 1:00:20: How do you create boundaries around controlling children?
• 1:06:22: Here are 4 ways to take control and end the drama addiction.

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Lewis engages in a discussion with three notable guests: Andrew Huberman, a neuroscientist from Stanford University, Dr. Susan David, an award-winning Harvard medical school psychologist, and Rainn Wilson, who shares personal insights on healing from early childhood trauma. The episode delves into understanding the human mind and unlocking its power, particularly during stressful situations.

Andrew Huberman is a neuroscientist at Stanford University. He also runs the Huberman Lab, which studies how the brain functions, how it changes through experiences, and how to repair the brain after injury or disease. Andrew and I dive deeper into understanding the amazing human mind. We talk about how to unlock its power — particularly during really stressful situations.

Dr. Susan David is one of the world’s leading management thinkers and an award-winning Harvard medical school psychologist. She’s the author of the bestselling book, Emotional Agility, which describes the psychological skills critical to thriving in times of complexity and change.

Rainn Wilson shares how he healed from early childhood trauma and shares his insights on how self-awareness and the ability to manage emotions can lead to better decision-making and stronger relationships. We explore practical strategies for understanding and regulating one's emotions, emphasizing the importance of mindfulness and self-reflection. Buy Rainn’s book, Soul Boom.

In this episode you will learn,

• Steps to develop emotional agility in your life.
• How to respond in moments that we feel triggered.
• How to use the mind to our benefit when we experience stress, fear or trauma.
• The two types of stress and how to deal with them.
• Different breathing techniques you should be practicing on a daily basis.

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Loss is something we all have to deal with. But few of us are taught how to heal from these difficult experiences—a divorce, an accident, a miscarriage, a cancer diagnosis, losing the love of your life, or the death of a loved one. 

Today on The Doctor’s Farmacy, I talk with my good friend, Kris Carr, about some of the greatest lessons she has learned through her own grief, and how even the most difficult losses can reveal a roadmap to our next chapter of fully living. 

Kris Carr is a multiple New York Times best-selling author, wellness activist, and cancer thriver. She’s been called a “force of nature” by O magazine and was named a “new role model” by The New York Times. Kris is also a member of Oprah’s SuperSoul 100, a group of the most influential thought leaders today. Other media appearances include Good Morning America, The Today Show, and The Oprah Winfrey Show. She and her work have been featured in Glamour, Prevention, Scientific American, Forbes, The Wall Street Journal, and other national publications. Kris has helped millions of people take charge of their health and live like they mean it through her award-winning blog, books, online courses, and membership communities. 

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• The importance of getting curious about your emotions (5:51 / 3:41) 
• The moment that Kris decided to learn about grief (7:37 /  5:40) 
• My recent experience with loss and grief (10:30 / 8:31)
• Normalizing our experiences with grief (13:01 / 10:48) 
• Embracing difficult emotions (19:48 / 16:50) 
• Diseases of despair and how emotion manifests in the body (28:19 / 24:38) 
• Prioritizing joy in the midst of loss and grief (38:57 / 34:50) 
• Practical ways to navigate grief (43:24 / 42:27) 
• Sharing our experiences with others (57:00 / 52:53)
• The message Kris received from her father after his death (1:00:07 / 56:25) 

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Perfectionism is everyone’s favorite flaw. It’s easy to assume that our push to be perfect is what leads to academic, athletic, and professional success.  But psychologist Thomas Curran says perfectionism has a dark side, and that there are much healthier ways to strive for excellence. 

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Today we have a special guest, Pastor Michael Todd, who is a renowned spiritual leader and relationship expert. Pastor Michael and his wife, Natalie, have been leading Transformation Church in Tulsa, Oklahoma, since 2015. They are known for their impactful teaching on relationships, marriage, and personal growth. 

Michael Todd is the #1 New York Times bestselling author of Damaged but Not Destroyed, Relationship Goals and Crazy Faith and is the lead pastor of Transformation Church in Tulsa, Oklahoma, with over 5,000 people in physical attendance and over 250,000 viewers live online every week. With a 6.3M+ and growing social following, Todd speaks at a variety of influential churches, events, and conferences each year, including Elevation Church, C3 Conference, Lakewood Church, VOUS Conference, Relentless Church, XO Conference, and has been featured on many prominent media outlets such as The Today Show, Fox & Friends, Forbes, Ebony, The 700 Club, and the Tamron Hall Show. He and his wife, Natalie, have been married since 2010 and live in Tulsa, Oklahoma, with their four beautiful children: their daughters, Isabella, Ava, and Gia, and their son, Michael Jr. Learn more at iammiketodd.com.

Buy his book: Damaged but Not Destroyed

In this episode you will learn,

• The importance of addressing and healing past trauma to become better partners in current relationships.
• The concept of a "kingdom couple" – a dynamic duo that transcends the conventional relationship. Learn what it means to build a powerful partnership rooted in purpose, trust, and shared values.
• How selecting the right partner can significantly impact your journey towards fulfilling your life's purpose.
• Michael Todd delves into the importance of self-discovery and purpose-driven living for a fulfilling relationship.
• How the intimate aspect of a partnership can either strengthen or strain the connection between two individuals.

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Have you ever resented someone from keeping a secret from you?

Do you often put other people's feelings before your own?

In this incredibly vulnerable episode with Kerry Washington, we dive into the complicated nature of family and generational trauma. We learn about how both compassion and pain co-exist. We explore how to receive and react to challenging news. This episode is one that you definitely do not want to miss if you have ever dealt with navigating familial relationships and dynamics. 

Kerry Washington is an Emmy award winning, SAG & Emmy- nominated actor, producer and director, and activist. Washington received widespread recognition for her role as Olivia Pope on ABC’s hit drama Scandal.  

Today we get to see a side of Kerry that we’ve never seen or heard before. She takes us through a journey of unveiling a long guarded family secret. A secret that took her down a journey of transformation, resilience and healing. This is a story that we can all relate to in our own ways.  

If you love this episode, Kerry’s new memoir is Thicker Than Water and you can hear even more stories about how Kerry has navigated challenges of life. 

This conversation is an invitation to explore the depths of truth, the human heart and the transformative power of rewriting your own story. 

In this interview, you will learn:

• The family secret that changed her life 
• How she leaned into compassion and not anger 
• How do you share challenging news to your children or loved ones?
• How she embraced her new truth and allowed herself to take control of her narrative 
• The secret to what has allowed her to be deeply rooted 
• How we can hold space for many truths at once
• How the revelation of a truth can make way for greater and deeper love 

We invite you to join us on this deep exploration of secrets, truth, self discovery and witnessing the power of compassion and love in the presence of pain.

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

What We Discuss:

• 00:00 Intro
• 03:15 What is a childhood memory that stands out to you?
• 09:11 Kerry describes a panic attack she had at age 7
• 12:55 “I wasn’t emotionally safe”
• 16:11 Kerry's feeling of needing to perform at a young age
• 19:15  Why has Kerry been trying to walk away from acting? 
• 26:30 How we are impacted by our dharma and how we can’t extract our dharna from ourselves 
• 30:37: “I survived a childhood where I learned what truth does not look like and so I am really aware of what it looks like now.” 
• 32:30 How can we get closer to our own personal truth? 
• 33:40: Why keeping ourselves busy = control 
• 37:30 Kerry had to redefine what success means to her
• 38:08 “Everytime I sat down to write it didn’t feel honest.”
• 38:50  **book spoiler alert - Kerry shares news that changed her life 
• 39:25 “So my parents sat me down and told me…”
• 49:25 How to move forward with love after receiving life-changing news
• 59:08 Growing up with shame 
• 01:03:36 How to have compassion over anger 
• 01:16:16 “Sometimes the truth seems so scary.”
• 01:16:36 How does a parent tell their kids life changing information? 
• 01:21:19 Bonding together as a family not a part after trauma 
• 01:26:32 How we should allow ourselves to be nurtured by love. 
• 01:32:30 Kerry Washington on Final Five 

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• Kerry Washington | YouTube
• Kerry Washington | TikTok
• Thicker than Water: A Memoir

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Dr Joe’s passion can be found at the intersection of the latest findings from the fields of neuroscience, epigenetics, and quantum physics to explore the science behind spontaneous remissions. He integrates that knowledge to teach people how to heal their bodies of health conditions, make significant changes in their lives, and evolve their consciousness. 

Since 2010, he has partnered with scientists and universities to perform extensive research on the effects that meditation has on the brain and body. During his advanced retreats around the world, his team has gathered more than 18,000 brain scans (quantitative QEEG) and 10,000 heart-rate variability measurements (HRV) to correlate the effects that sustained elevated emotions and self-regulation have on heart and brain function, immune response, and overall mind-body health. 

He and his team have also studied gene expression, protein regulation, immune response, neurotransmitter changes, telomere length, and variations in bioactive cellular metabolic particles in both novice and advanced meditators. As a New York Times best-selling author, researcher, lecturer, and corporate consultant, Dr Joe’s research has led him to develop a practical formula to help people transform their lives.

Dr Dispenza's latest findings have the potential to transform your understanding of meditation's impact on immunity. Dive into the science behind it and unlock the secrets to enhancing your well-being.

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In this episode you will learn,

• Why so many people struggle to heal themselves, and how important the mind and body connection is to long term peace and abundance.
• How to define balance and wholeness for yourself, and tips to live more in alignment.
• Three types of stress and the impact they have on our nervous system.
• The power of visualization when searching for meaning and peace in your life.
• The root cause for so many of our chronic health issues, and the necessary steps you should take to address them.

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Love, dating and friendships can feel like a black box in our 20s when we're trying to make the most out of our formative years. None of us have the answers or a guide to some of our biggest questions - how do I actually make new friends, how many friends should I have, should I be settling down this early or exploring my options? In part two of this series we breakdown how to make the most out of our personal relationships during this decade. We discuss why your answer should always be 'yes', why quantity over quality may actually be more correct when it comes to friendships in our 20s and the benefit on getting our heart broken and loving as deeply as possible during this period. We also cover my 7 tips for personal growth to make the most out of this decade, from letting go of our ego to taking time to uncover our childhood wounds, as well as the power of just having a laugh at yourself every now and then. All that and more, listen now! 

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The scientific case for self-compassion and why it doesn’t have to lead to passivity, self absorption, or cheesiness.

Today's guest is Kristin Neff, an Associate Professor of Educational Psychology at the University of Texas at Austin. She’s the author of the book Self-Compassion: The Proven Power of Being Kind to Yourself and Fierce Self-Compassion: How Women Can Harness Kindness to Speak Up, Claim Their Power, and Thrive.

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In this episode we talk about:

• How Kristin first got into meditation and why she was drawn to the practice of compassion 
• How, paradoxically, self-compassion actually makes us less focused on ourselves
• The three components of self-compassion
• One of the big blockers for men in practicing self-compassion
• What self-compassion is and isn’t
• How research shows that self-compassion is a trainable skill
• Whether we actually need the internal cattle prod to get ahead
• Being kind to yourself even when you notice prejudice coming up in your mind 
• And how men and women deal with shame differently

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Today on the podcast, you and I are having a deeply personal and eye-opening conversation about alcohol and your relationship to it.

Rachel Hart is a best-selling author and master coach who has helped thousands of people re-examine their relationship with alcohol, and that’s exactly what she is going to help you do today.

Rachel knows the surprising reason you (and I) crave a drink (or have the urge to shop, vape, play video games, scroll on social media, or want something sweet).

She’ll also explain that weird cycle of emotions you experience after drinking.

Did I drink too much last night? Did I do anything I regret? Should I stop drinking altogether? Should I detox this week before the wedding next weekend? How do I drink less? Maybe it’s time I stopped altogether.

You’ll learn that this agitation and conflict about alcohol are normal. The question is, how do you change it?

Rachel says it’s by examining the desires underneath the urge.

Today, Rachel will help you unpack urges and desires and teach you why boundaries go right out the window when you feel an urge.

Today you’ll learn:

• What your drinking might really be all about. (it’s not what you think)
• Why feeling conflicted about drinking is normal.
• Where do urges really come from, and how do you ignore them?
• How your first experience with alcohol impacts your relationship with it.
• What your desires are trying to tell you.
• How to ditch the shame once and for all.
• The complicated messaging around alcohol.
• The 30-day plan Rachel uses with all her clients.

Not sure if you have a problem with alcohol? Worried about someone else who does? You're not ready to quit alcohol all together, but you wish you’d not reach for the glass of wine most nights. Wonder if maybe you should stop?

Perfect. Listen in. 

You can change your relationship with alcohol.

After this episode, you’ll know how.

Xo, Mel

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• 02:12: Why is my relationship with alcohol so confusing?
• 05:43: The shame cycle I go through every time I drink.
• 12:08: What does your urge actually symbolize? For me, I had to go back to when I was 14 to figure it out.
• 15:07: You are creating boundaries that justify your cravings and urges.
• 20:06: What your urges and cravings are trying to communicate to you.
• 23:07: The difference between your upper and lower brain and what you need to know.
• 26:10: How to stop drinking without stopping drinking.
• 28:09: Learning how to change means having a different relationship with commitment.
• 36:18: Tool #1: Name the urge when it’s happening.
• 40:06: Why "just say no" doesn’t work.
• 48:03: Stop looking for answers from others. You have an inner knowing of what’s best for you.
• 54:47: Tool #2: Ask yourself, If you couldn’t drink for the rest of your life, what would it feel like?
• 58:30: Disappointment when you give up your urges is normal.

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