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    The Psychology of your 20s

    A podcast that explains how everything is psychology. Even your 20s. New episodes every Friday!

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    186. The psychology of sleep

    186. The psychology of sleep

    Sleep is one of our most vital functions but how many of us actually know that much about it, the links to our physical functioning, mental health, relationships and overall wellbeing. What about some of the strange experiments they've conducted to investigate dreams or how long we can go without sleep? In today's episode we take a deep dive into the psychology of sleep, including: 

    • Why we need sleep?
    • What actually is REM sleep?
    • The Russian Sleep Experiment 
    • Sleep debt 
    • Sleep as a form of self sabotage
    • Revenge bedtime procrastination 
    • The impact of blue light and screens in the bedroom 
    • How to improve your sleep hygiene and more 

    Listen now for when you want to maximise your shut eye! 

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    185. Living with your parents in your 20s

    185. Living with your parents in your 20s

    More and more 20 something year olds are choosing to live with their parents; we are moving out later and a lot of us are boomeranging (coming back home after moving out). In today's episode we explore the emotional and psychological impacts of living with your parents in your 20s, why more of us are living at home because of financial anxiety or housing insecurity, how to handle conflict with your parents whilst you're still living under their roof and 6 tips for a successful living at home situation + some of your stories, advice and the benefits. 

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    184. How to get your spark back

    184. How to get your spark back

    We lose our spark and love for life for many reasons: burnout, mental ill health, people pleasing, a breakup. When we do it can feel like life gets very boring, it loses colour, we lose interest and we can become cynical towards all of the small joys and brilliance of being alive and being human. In this episode we break down six tips for getting your spark back: 

    • The power of rest
    • Choosing to live light versus live heavy 
    • Reconnecting with your inner child + play 
    • Seeking inspiration in the mundane and The Alchemist 
    • Exercise + the healing power of nature 
    • Ignoring the urge to compare 

    Listen now for when you're in a rut or have lost your spark! 

     

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    183. Disliking your friends partner

    183. Disliking your friends partner

    You're not going to get along with everyone and one of those people you don't get along with might end up dating someone you love i.e your friend. Disliking your friends partner often stems from one of three reasons: your dating preferences don't match, you're experiencing platonic jealousy, you're genuinely worried about this other person being bad for your friend, exploitative or abusive. We talk about all three of these outcomes in today's episode along with what to do in response: do you stay silent or speak up? 

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    182. Social media is ruining my mental health

    182. Social media is ruining my mental health

    Social media is impacting our mental health in ways we are not ready or willing to acknowledge, and it's time we talk about it. In today's episode we discuss all the psychology of social media and how it is embedded in our social lives, our relationships, our beliefs, our daily routines, our news and our self worth. We break down how social media was designed to be addictive, how it captures more of our time than we think, the differences between people who have been on social media for over 10 years versus who have never been and what we can do about it. We also discuss the role of algorithms and misinformation. There is so much negativity spread online and innate need to compare ourselves to others, but I also believe we can have a positive and moderated relationship with these platforms. Listen now. 

     

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    181. The psychology of father wounds

    181. The psychology of father wounds

    Father wounds arise from a disorganised or complicated relationship with our father figure - either due to them being physically or emotionally absent, harsh and critical, unfeeling or abusive and can result in a number of dysfunctional behaviours and emotional patterns as we grow older. In this episode we are breaking down the psychology of father wounds and discussing: 

    • The origins of father wounds and the role of generational trauma
    • Mother wounds versus father wounds 
    • Attachment theory and father archetypes 
    • Father hunger and father replacements 
    • Is forgiveness the only answer? 
    • The power of inner child healing 

    All of that and more, listen now! 

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    180. "Your 20s are NOT your best years" ft. Dr Meg Jay

    180. "Your 20s are NOT your best years" ft. Dr Meg Jay

    In this episode we are joined by clinical psychologist and author of 'The Defining Decade' to talk about all the frustrations, stressors, misconceptions and hard moments of our 20s and why it's only going to get BETTER from here. We talk about: 

    • Shifting from a 'what if' to a 'what is' or 'what else' mindset
    • Why we fear uncertainity 
    • Milestone anxiety 
    • Sliding versus deciding 
    • Catastrophic thinking 
    • Insecure and anxious attachment styles vs. insecure and anxious moments
    • And so much more 

    Listen now to hear all of Dr Meg's amazing advice and hear a bit about her new book, coming out next month. 

     

    Link to The Defining Decade: https://www.amazon.com.au/Defining-Decade-Meg-Jay/dp/0446561754 

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    179. Why can't I cry?

    179. Why can't I cry?

    Sometimes all we want to do is a have a big, old fashioned sob and when we can't it leads us feeling emotionally pent up, defective and frustrated. There's an explanation for why we go through periods where we are unable to cry. In today's episode we discuss: 

    • The evolutionary function of crying
    • Crying as an attachment behaviour 
    • The difference between basal, reflex and emotional tears 
    • The 4 major reasons we struggle with crying 
    • How to heal your connection with your emotions 
    • How we process emotions through the body, and more.

    Listen now when you're in need of an emotional catharsis or could really do with a few tears. 

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    178. 5 steps for building self discipline

    178. 5 steps for building self discipline

    Self discipline is the key ingredient to unlocking everything you want in life. But despite that many of us treat it like its optional and believe the narrative that self discipline requires perfection, requires sacrifice and is too hard. Actually, self discipline is anything but, it is actually the road of least resistance. In this episode we break down 5 tips for building self discipline in any area of life: 

    1. Understanding your motivation
    2. Leveraging social accountability and desirability bias 
    3. The power of micro habits 
    4. Hacking our dopamine systems through instant versus delayed gratification
    5. Shifting from learned helplessness to learned industriousness 

    All of that and more! Listen now!

     

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    177. Understanding our fear of intimacy

    177. Understanding our fear of intimacy

    Love is scary. There are so many opportunities to be hurt, to be let down, to have thing turn out in a way we never wanted them to. But it's also one of the best things in live and brings incredible joy and fulfilment. Why is it that some of us avoid the experience all together. In today's episode we are going to discuss the fear of intimacy in all its forms. We will discuss: 

    • Signs you have a fear of intimacy (serial dating, situationships, emotional avoidance)
    • Childhood and early relationship wounds
    • The fear of engulfment and overbearing parents 
    • How insecurity drives protectiveness 
    • Our misconceptions about love 
    • 4 steps to healing your fear of intimacy

    We also discuss some of the ways people in their 20s might not realise they have a fear of intimacy and why our society sometimes celebrates the things that keep us in a state of avoidance. All of that and more, listen now! 

     

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    176. A conversation with my Mum

    176. A conversation with my Mum

    This International Women's Day as part of iHeart's Women Take the Mic Initiative, I'm bringing on my Mum for a vulnerable chat about our relationship as mother and daughter, what she's learned from being a mother, what she would do differently, life lessons and her success in a male dominated field. We discuss everything from motherhood, child-parent dynamics, feminism and career advice. It's a beautiful conversation, one that I'll hold dearly for a long time and we hope you enjoy, listen now! 

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    175. Living alone in your 20s

    175. Living alone in your 20s

    This week we are discussing the ups and downs of living alone in your 20s: from the freedom and independence, to the loneliness and social isolation, financial anxiety and stress, but the authenticity and emotional maturity that comes with it. We talk about: 

    • Why being alone doesn't make you lonely
    • Sliders versus deciders - why you should wait before moving in with a partner
    • Cognitive distortions and overspending 
    • Lifestyle creep 
    • Habits for building social connection and community
    • How to successfully live alone 

    All that and more, listen now! 

     

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    174. Retroactive jealousy

    174. Retroactive jealousy

    Feeling jealous over our partners past can feel highly irrational, but its still a feeling many of us have and contributes to a lot of obsessive and unhealthy behaviours like stalking their exes, asking intrusive questions, starting arguments in hopes of getting the reassurance we need. In today's episode, we talk about the psychology of retroactive jealousy, including its origins and how to move past your jealous feelings. We will talk about: 

    • How past relationships and trauma create jealousy
    • Overthinking and anxiety 
    • Rejection sensitivity 
    • Self sabotage 
    • Interrupting mental compulsions 

    Listen now! 

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    173. Your guide to panic attacks

    173. Your guide to panic attacks

    Panic attacks are awful, they sneak up on us in the worst moments and make us feel overwhelmed by an invisible fear. In today's episode we are going to talk through the psychology of panic attacks including: 

    • Why they occur?
    • Panic disorders vs. panic attacks 
    • The flight, fight, freeze or fawn response
    • The car alarm analogy 
    • The function of anxiety and panic
    • Anxiety avoidance vs. acceptance
    • 7 evidence based tips for managing panic attacks 

    We also have a 7 minute meditation at the end of the episode that will talk you through a visualisation exercise for managing an actual panic attack. Listen now! 

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    171. Changing careers in your 20s ft. The Career Contessa

    171. Changing careers in your 20s ft. The Career Contessa

    Our 20s are one of the best times for us to change careers. Perhaps you're feeling burntout, bored, unmotivated, craving something bigger, something with purpose or better hours, a change from the life and job you currently have. In this episode we break down how we can change careers in our 20s, some of the challenges, how to manage the financial insecurity, the signs your old job is not right for you and discovering your true mission and purpose and life (even if it doesn't always revolve around your job and a pay check). 

    We are joined by the founder and CEO of The Career Contessa, host of the hit podcast and author, Lauren Goodwin who shares her years worth of advice and best tips. 

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    170. The psychology of acne

    170. The psychology of acne

    Acne has just as many emotional and mental symptoms as it does physical. Having acne in our 20s is a significant source of insecurity, frustration and hopelessness, impacting how we go about making new friends, dating, career opportunities and so much more. In this episode we break down the psychology of acne, investigating the myths about the causes of acne, the subsequent stigma towards acne, the mental consequences we are observing more and more, the impact of social media and facetune, along with how we can manage our self esteem in the face of chronic acne. Listen now! 

    The article I reference: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5029236/ 

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    169. The mental load in relationships

    169. The mental load in relationships

    Sustaining a relationship has a lot more to do with the division of domestic, emotional and physical labour. A massive component is the mental load - the additional energy that goes into organising, scheduling and managing the daily tasks, chores and things that need to be done whilst also accounting for your partners needs. It's not a secret that women carry a lot more of the mental load than their male counterparts and in this episode we break down exactly why that is, how an unfair division of cognitive labour can lead to resentment and relationship breakdown and how we can address this in our relationships, including our friendships. Listen now! 

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    168. Do you really need closure?

    168. Do you really need closure?

    The end of a relationship or a friendship can leave us with a lot of unanswered questions, especially when the split is sudden, out of the blue, and the other person is unresponsive. In other instances, we don't quite know what went wrong and are looking for answers. In today's episode we talk about the elusive myth that is closure: whether we need it, how to get it, and why we should not rely on others to provide us with permission to move on. We also discuss the closure cycle and the reasons we may THINK we are looking for closure, but are really looking for an excuse to reconnect. All of that and more, listen now! 

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    167. 5 steps to build a life you love

    167. 5 steps to build a life you love

    A considerable question for those of us in our 20s is how do we create a good life? What does it mean to design a life we love and how exactly do we do that? In today's episode we break down five ways we can do this, including: 

    1. Deconstructing your old life for your new one + the Odyssey Plan
    2. Prototyping your new life + the 15 minute rule 
    3. Addition through subtraction 
    4. Pursue daily joy 
    5. Positive future planning + dopamine scheduling 

    Listen now! 

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