Self-Awareness

For today’s episode, I’m honoured to welcome Master Shi Heng Yi. He belongs to the 35th generation of Shaolin Masters and began practising Kung Fu at the age of four. In the 36 years since, he’s acquired a wealth of knowledge in Chinese martial arts and Zen Buddhism. He’s now headmaster of the Shaolin Temple Europe in Germany, responsible for the physical and mental development of all the students and disciples of the Buddhist Order in Otterberg.

Along with the free videos he posts regularly to YouTube, Shi Heng Yi has several online training courses via his website, to help teach the basics of the ancient practices he lives by. He wants to bring the wisdom of ‘self-mastery’ to the world in a practical, tangible way – and he does just that in this episode.

This is a wonderful, profound conversation that explores what self-mastery means. While mastering a skill can be taught by others, self-mastery is a personal matter. Our awareness is naturally drawn outwards in life, so we need to cultivate the ability to look inwards.

We discuss some of the ways we can start to do this, from practices of mindfulness and gratitude, to following a structured day. Shi Heng Yi explains what we can learn from the restrictions of temple life, how to identify our attachments and find happiness and freedom within us. Self-mastery, he says, means choosing the middle path of harmony, balance and stability.

We discuss the notion of ‘owning’ ideas and wisdom and discuss the fact that there is no truly original thought. Shi Heng Yi explains that he is not sharing his teachings with the world, only what he has learned and witnessed in life. Everything is infinite so already exists somewhere. Finally, Master Shi Heng Yi explains a beautiful concept – and caution – that our thoughts can shape our destiny.

It really was a privilege for me to have an in-depth discussion with such a knowledgeable, wise and compassionate man. I hope you enjoy listening.

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Lewis Howes welcomes his good friend Jay Shetty back to discuss love, relationships, and the often tricky subject of money. They dive deep into the complexities of financial responsibilities in dating, unraveling the intricate ways we assess value in men and women, while dissecting societal expectations, gender roles, and the power dynamics that influence our views on relationships.

Lewis and Jay shed light on the essence of intentional living and the impact of our energy on attracting meaningful relationships. They offer invaluable insights into cultivating a peaceful and safe environment, building enduring connections, and creating a unified approach to financial conversations with your significant other. 

In this episode you will learn

• How societal norms and personal beliefs influence financial decisions in dating and relationships.
• The importance of open communication about finances to establish fairness and respect in relationships.
• Insights into navigating financial dynamics in a relationship, including the consideration of prenuptial agreements.
• The impact of traditional gender roles on financial expectations and the importance of challenging these norms for healthier relationships.
• Strategies for couples to approach financial discussions in a way that strengthens their relationship.

Buy Jay's book 8 Rules of Love: How to Find It, Keep It, and Let It Go for yourself and a friend!

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Previous episodes of Lewis & Jay’s Awkward Therapy sessions:

Can You Make Money & Still be Spiritual? – https://link.chtbl.com/1298-pod

5 Relationship Mistakes You Msut Avoid to Find Deep Connection – 

https://link.chtbl.com/1322-pod

In this episode, we delve into the world of longevity, health, and vitality with the esteemed Dr. Mark Hyman, where you'll discover the keys to living a longer, healthier, and more fulfilling life.

Dr. Mark Hyman is a distinguished figure in the field of Functional Medicine, renowned for his commitment to promoting health and well-being. With a background as a practicing family physician and as a fourteen-time New York Times best-selling author, he has left an indelible mark on the world of medicine and holistic health. Dr. Hyman's passion for uncovering the secrets to living a longer, healthier life has made him a sought-after expert, and his influential work has inspired countless individuals to take charge of their well-being. As the host of The Doctor’s Farmacy one of the leading health podcasts, he continues to share valuable insights and empower listeners to lead vibrant lives. Dr. Hyman's dedication to improving human health and his advocacy for functional medicine have solidified his reputation as a true pioneer in the pursuit of wellness.

Check out Dr. Hyman’s book, Young Forever: The Secrets to Living Your Longest, Healthiest Life

In this episode you will learn

• Insights into the possibility of being stronger, fitter, healthier, wiser, smarter, and more energetic at 60 than you were at 40, and the steps to achieve it.
• The 7 Core Biological Systems that underline disease.
• How to get your health-span to equal your lifespan.
• The impact a healthy love life has on your lifespan.
• Top nutritional supplements that can support your quest for a longer and healthier life, enhancing your overall well-being.

For more information go to www.lewishowes.com/15

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Eckhart Tolle – https://link.chtbl.com/1463-pod

Rhonda Byrne – https://link.chtbl.com/1525-pod

John Maxwell – https://link.chtbl.com/1501-pod

For today’s brand new episode, I’m pleased to welcome back the wonderful Dr Tara Swart. Tara is a neuroscientist, a former medical doctor & psychiatrist, a lecturer at MIT, an executive coach and author of the bestselling book, The Source. She also hosts the podcast Reinvent Yourself with Dr Tara.

If you’ve listened to my two previous episodes with Tara, you’ll remember her unique talent for using neuroscience and behavioural psychology to probe ideas, theories, and practices that many believe work, but we’re not sure why. 

This insightful and often unusual episode takes a deep and meaningful look at stress - what exactly it is, what impact it has on health and how it predisposes us to storing fat. We also discuss the most effective ways to manage stress, the best ways to build resilience and the benefits of practices like journalling. 

We really do cover a whole variety of different topics today including metacognition, the definition of spirituality, what exactly intuition and interoception are, and how we can use them to get to know our minds and bodies more intimately. We talk about rituals, the incredible power of creativity, beauty, and time spent in nature. And finally, we ask some big questions around the topic of death and consciousness, which Tara is increasingly drawn to studying. 

If you’re someone who’s interested in alternative thinking and new ideas, but likes the reassurance of scientific backing, Tara’s warmth and wisdom will tick all your boxes. If you’re a sceptic - well, this conversation might just open your mind.

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DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast and on this webpage is not intended to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or qualified healthcare provider. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

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HAPPY NEW YEAR! Get ready for an incredibly personal and heartwarming episode of The School of Greatness Podcast, recorded LIVE at The Summit of Greatness 2023. In this special moment, Martha Higareda and Lewis Howes share the stage for the first time, and their candid conversation about love and relationships is one for the books. Stay tuned until the end, there’s an unforgettable surprise you won't want to miss!

Don’t miss the action at SUMMIT 2024 – buy your tickets TODAY at https://lewishowes.com/tickets and use promo code GREATNESS for 20% off at checkout.

In this episode you will learn

• Why so many women face challenges in love and relationships, and how can they overcome them.
• The complex feelings of wanting to leave a relationship but feeling stuck, and how to break away from an unhealthy relationship.
• Martha "BALANCED" acronym for love and relationships, and how this has helped shape Martha & Lewis’s relationship.
• Discover why choosing someone based on their potential may not be the best approach.
• Differentiate between accepting someone for who they are and trying to change them. Learn how to build a healthy, conscious relationship based on acceptance and the fundamentals of a thriving partnership.

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Vanessa Van Edwards: https://link.chtbl.com/1231-pod

Dr. Ramani Durvasula: https://link.chtbl.com/1195-pod & https://link.chtbl.com/1196-pod

Lori Gottlieb: https://link.chtbl.com/1191-pod

Today’s episode is a special episode that I have recorded all about the transformative power of journalling. Journalling is a practice that I’ve been recommending for many years. Doing it regularly can help improve sleep, lead to better decision making and reduce symptoms of anxiety and depression. It has also been shown to decrease emotional stress, make it easier to turn new behaviours into long term habits, improve the quality of our relationships and, ultimately, help us lead more mindful and intentional lives.

My hope is that this episode will help you understand the key benefits of journalling and some of the ways in which you can get started. The key - as with all new behaviours - is to experiment and find out what works best for you.

In order to celebrate the launch of my own journal ‘The 3 Question Journal’, I outline what I consider to be the three most impactful questions that you can ask yourself every morning and every evening. Answering these questions will take less than 5 minutes, but doing so can prove transformative. Journalling helps you step outside of your life, in order to reflect on your life. And so, whatever your current goals are, the path towards them becomes clearer.

Journalling is a practice that I myself do regularly and my hope is that this episode inspires you to start.

If you want to take a look at ‘The 3 Question Journal’ go to https://drchatterjee.com/journal

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Jason Fried is the co-founder and CEO of 37signals, the maker of Basecamp and HEY. 37signals is a very different kind of company. With fewer than 80 employees, they have over 100,000 customers, generate tens of millions of dollars in profit each year, and have no investors, board, or any plans to ever raise money or sell the company. In our conversation, we explore a path many tech founders never consider—bootstrapping. We discuss:

• Why he and his team prioritize profit above all else

• The unexpected challenges with raising venture capital

• The “Shape Up” framework for building products

• Why, and how, to foster a gut-driven culture

• Jason’s thoughts on why work should not feel like war

• Advice for starting a bootstrapped business

• The philosophy behind Once, 37signals’s new line of software products

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Where to find Jason Fried:

• X: https://twitter.com/jasonfried

• LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jason-fried/

• Email: jason@hey.com

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In this episode, we cover:

(00:00) Jason’s background

(03:49) The success of 37signals

(06:46) When raising money makes sense

(09:58) The power of small teams

(13:55) Defining success and goals

(17:08) Playing “infinite games” in life

(20:11) Starting a business vs. staying in business

(22:13) Lessons from 25 years in business

(27:28) Venture scale vs. bootstrapping

(30:30) Choosing the right path for your business

(33:19) The “Shape Up” framework

(37:59) The drawback of promises

(39:56) Adopting a new way of working

(41:36) The two-week cooldown

(43:53) Trusting intuition and gut

(46:41) Creating a gut-driven culture

(49:44) What Jason looks for in new hires

(56:19) Advice on making changes and adapting

(01:00:06) What Jason has changed his mind about

(01:02:33) Planning in 6-week stretches and figuring it out as you go

(01:06:43) Being proud of the work you do

(01:09:05) Jason’s thoughts on why work should not feel like war

(01:11:31) Advice for starting a bootstrapped business

(01:14:33) You must be at peace with the worst that can happen

(01:15:42) The benefits of bootstrapping

(01:19:11) The value of constraints in business

(01:22:00) Jason’s philosophy: “Just keep making great s**t”

(01:23:19) Once, 37signals’s new line of software products

(01:26:33) The philosophy behind Once

(01:35:47) Closing thoughts

(01:37:23) Lightning round

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Referenced:

• 37 Signals: https://www.smartsheet.com/

• Basecamp: https://basecamp.com/

• Finite and Infinite Games: https://www.amazon.com/Finite-Infinite-Games-James-Carse/dp/1476731713/

• Ingram Micro: https://www.ingrammicro.com/

• Once: https://once.com/

• Basecamp’s Shape Up framework: https://basecamp.com/shapeup

• Hill charts: https://basecamp.com/features/hill-charts

• Jason Fried’s quote about long-term business planning: https://medium.com/@farkhan569/unless-you-are-a-fortune-teller-long-term-business-planning-is-a-fantasy-jason-fried-quote-a69e8778e9c4

• Brian Chesky’s new playbook: https://www.lennyspodcast.com/brian-cheskys-new-playbook/

• Matt Mullenweg on X: https://twitter.com/photomatt

• Leo Polovets on X: https://twitter.com/lpolovets

• HEY: https://www.hey.com/

• Redefining success, money, and belonging | Paul Millerd (The Pathless Path): https://www.lennyspodcast.com/redefining-success-money-and-belonging-paul-millerd-the-pathless-path/

• It Doesn’t Have to Be Crazy at Work: https://www.amazon.com/Doesnt-Have-Be-Crazy-Work/dp/0062874780

• Squarespace: https://www.squarespace.com/

• Stoic negative visualization: https://dailystoic.com/premortem/

• Linear: https://linear.app/

• Peter Rahal on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/peter-rahal-037bba43/

• RXBAR: https://www.rxbar.com/en_US/home.html

• Jason’s LinkedIn post: https://www.linkedin.com/posts/jason-fried_just-keep-making-great-s**t-keep-your-costs-activity-7130978623523614720-VBGX/?trk=public_profile

• Several Short Sentences About Writing: https://www.amazon.com/Several-Short-Sentences-About-Writing/dp/0307279413

• Hell Yeah or No: What’s Worth Doing: https://www.amazon.com/Hell-Yeah-No-whats-worth/dp/1988575117/

• Home-Made: Contemporary Russian Folk Artifacts: https://www.amazon.com/Home-Made-Contemporary-Russian-Folk-Artifacts/dp/0955006139

• Oppenheimer: https://www.oppenheimermovie.com/

• Tom Petty’s “Crawling Back to You” on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/track/1JenqZNMU6unIwVWmoP3J0

• Poor Charlie’s Almanack: The Essential Wit and Wisdom of Charles T. Munger: https://press.stripe.com/poor-charlies-almanack

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Dr. Jordan B. Peterson sits down with public speaker and mental health advocate Aaron Stark. You might recognize Aaron’s name from his deeply impactful TED Talk, “I was almost a school shooter.” They walk through his life story and discuss the all-too-real result of deep parental trauma, the psychology of abuse that shapes self loathing and self harm, the drivers that nearly pushed Aaron from victim into monster, and the real, tangible act of kindness that saved lives.

Aaron Stark was almost a school shooter. As a dark and destructive teen, Stark almost committed a terrible attack. Today he is a happy father of four, and he wants to do all he can to help anyone on that path to find a way into the light again and to see that they matter.

After watching the news coverage of the Parkland school shootings, Stark wrote an open letter, “I was almost a school shooter.” This was sent to local news 9KUSA in Denver and was the feature story on “Next with Kyle Clark.” This story gained national attention and over 17 million views in a very short time, which propelled him into a life of activism for mental wellness awareness. He has been featured on ABC, NBC, CBS, CNN, MSNBC and has published an article in the Washington Post. These features were followed by his viral TEDx talk, “I Was Almost a School Shooter” that currently has over 14 million views and is shown in schools, colleges, and universities, all the way up to the Dept. of Education.

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Arthur Brooks is a social scientist, professor at Harvard University, columnist for The Atlantic, and bestselling author. In this episode, Arthur returns to the podcast to discuss his new book, Build the Life You Want. He delves into the nuanced concept of happiness, differentiating between momentary feelings and overall wellbeing. He explains the importance of understanding one’s personality pattern with respect to positive and negative emotions in order to better self-manage emotions. He delves into the three key elements of happiness, offering practical strategies for enhancing those specific domains through methods such as metacognition, transcendent experiences, discipline, minimizing self-focus while directing attention outward, and more. Through personal examples, Arthur demonstrates that one can actively track well-being levels and take intentional steps to cultivate happiness and enhance overall well-being.

We discuss:

• Happiness vs. happy feelings, and how happiness and unhappiness can coexist [4:30];
• The six fundamental emotions [8:00];
• The evolution and heritability of happiness, and the four personality patterns with respect to positive and negative emotions [17:30];
• Navigating relationships: the power of complementarity over compatibility [23:30];
• The importance of self-managing your mental habits [25:30];
• Enjoyment: one of the three macronutrients of happiness [32:00];
• Satisfaction: one of the three macronutrients of happiness [43:45];
• The reverse bucket list, metacognition, and other techniques to protect yourself from your limbic system [51:00];
• Meaning: one of the three macronutrients of happiness [57:30];
• The four quarters of your life and how that relates to the meaning of your life [1:05:00];
• Putting metacognition into practice [1:09:00];
• What might explain the societal downdrift in happiness over the last few decades? [1:17:00];
• Taking charge of your happiness: discipline, transcendent experiences, and other deliberate actions for happiness [1:30:30];
• Tracking happiness: biomarkers and micronutrients behind the macronutrients of happiness [1:42:00];
• The value in minimizing the self and looking outward [1:49:45];
• How Arthur surprised himself with his ability to improve his happiness [1:54:00]; and
• More.

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Gary John Bishop is a leading personality development expert, coach, and New York Times bestselling author for his book – Unfu*k Yourself: Get Out of Your Head and Into Your Life. That’s not all, as Gary has written several other books including – Stop Doing That Sh*t, Do The Work, Wise as Fu*k, and most recently: Love Unfu*ked. 

Originally from Scotland, UK; Gary has a passion for people and his purpose is to help us in tapping our true potential. From celebrities and athletes to CEOs of several multinational corporations, and stay-at-home individuals and couples, Gary has impacted the lives of thousands of people worldwide through his groundbreaking work. Gary’s “urban philosophy” approach brings to light a new wave of personal empowerment and life mastery that has helped countless people in improving the quality and performance of their lives. 

Combined with world-class development and training, Gary has the uncanny ability to understand people’s circumstances and bring out the deeper issues that consume them and pull them down. If you are willing and ready to learn the keys to a long-lasting relationship, then stick around for what Gary has to say!

In this episode you will learn

• How to approach your life in decades
• The key to a healthy relationship with your family and spouse
• How to let go and move on from your past traumas
• One of the best mindsets to have when approaching marriage
• How to heal family trauma and redefine relationships

For more information go to www.lewishowes.com/1535

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More SOG episodes we think you’ll love:

Rob Dial – https://link.chtbl.com/1516-pod

Dr Joe Dispenza – https://link.chtbl.com/1494-pod

Inky Johnson – https://link.chtbl.com/1483-pod

Paul Millerd spent several years working in strategy consulting and on the “default path” before deciding to walk away to work on his own in 2017. His book, The Pathless Path, chronicles his own journey and deep dive into the history of work and has been read by more than 40,000 people. His podcast, The Pathless Path Podcast, highlights conversations with others following unconventional paths. He also runs the online training business StrategyU, helping people learn the skills of consulting without having to work in the industry. In our conversation, Paul shares:

• An explanation of the “default path” and the “pathless path”

• Signs you may be stuck on the default path

• How to inch your way toward the pathless path

• Why Paul suggests everyone should take a three-month sabbatical

• Tips for embracing fear and betting on yourself

• How to work through the fear of losing money and prestige

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Where to find Paul Millerd:

• X: https://twitter.com/p_millerd

• LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/paulmillerd/

• Website: https://pathlesspath.com/

• Newsletter: https://newsletter.pathlesspath.com

• YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCofS_FvauuHc-x6mq7yz6nA

• Podcast: https://think-boundless.com/podcast/

• Email: paul@strategyu.com

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• Newsletter: https://www.lennysnewsletter.com

• X: https://twitter.com/lennysan

• LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lennyrachitsky/

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In this episode, we cover:

(00:00) Paul’s background

(04:33) An explanation of the “default path”

(06:32) Questions to help clarify which path you are on

(07:35) Paul’s thoughts on “remixing your path”

(09:57) An explanation of the “pathless path” 

(12:06) Examples of the pathless path

(13:54) Why meaning is hard to find and sustain on a traditional career path 

(16:05) A case for the three-month sabbatical 

(18:16) A mindfulness and self-reflection exercise

(20:18) Why Paul recommends three months

(22:28) Advice to founders on offering sabbaticals

(23:40) Other tactics for self-discovery

(27:08) The variability of income in self-employed roles 

(29:12) Methods for staying afloat after leaving your job

(30:42) Tips for reframing your thoughts around money

(33:19) Why betting on yourself usually works out

(34:46) The importance of setting aside time for creative pursuits

(36:22) How to dip your toes in and find your path 

(37:53) Lenny’s personal journey

(39:27) Advice on dealing with the naysayers 

(40:22) How to acknowledge and tame your fears

(44:52) The “ship, quit, and learn” framework

(46:39) Why the pathless path is one of constant reinvention

(51:27) Paul’s response to criticism 

(58:02) First steps for getting started on your journey

(55:42) Lightning round

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Referenced:

• The Pathless Path: Imagining a New Story for Work and Life: https://www.amazon.com/Pathless-Path-Imagining-Story-Work/dp/B09QF6Q421

• David Autor on X: https://twitter.com/davidautor

• Tim Ferriss’s blog: https://tim.blog/

• Why you should define your fears instead of your goals | Tim Ferriss: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5J6jAC6XxAI

• How Lenny Rachitsky Got 531,000 Substack Subscribers: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DMZem1NYfpM

• The Lindy effect: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Lindy_effect

• StrategyU: https://strategyu.co/

• David Deming’s website: https://www.daviddeming.com/nyt-columns

• The Great Work of Your Life: A Guide for the Journey to Your True Calling: https://www.amazon.com/Great-Work-Your-Life-Journey/dp/0553386077

• Wanting: The Power of Mimetic Desire in Everyday Life: https://www.amazon.com/Wanting-Power-Mimetic-Desire-Everyday/dp/1250262488

• Roadrunner: A Film About Anthony Bourdain: https://www.hbo.com/movies/roadrunner-a-film-about-anthony-bourdain

• Nuna travel stroller: https://nunababy.com/usa/trvl-easy-fold-compact-stroller

• Build Your Own Chatbot with OpenAI GPT-3 and Streamlit: https://medium.com/@avra42/build-your-own-chatbot-with-openai-gpt-3-and-streamlit-6f1330876846

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Does this doctor have the health secret you’ve been looking for? Does people-pleasing really make you sick?

Dr. Neha Sangwan is an internal medicine physician, bestselling author, and accomplished researcher.

Today, Mel sits down with Dr. Sangwan to learn the truth about people-pleasing.

Topics discussed include:

People-pleasing: What it is.

Are you a “yes” person?

The difference between “going with the flow” and people pleasing.

Why avoiding conflict makes you a people-pleaser.

What your “childhood blueprint” is and how it shapes adulthood.

People pleasing and the link to illness.

What your parents did or said to turn you into a people-pleaser.

Why people-pleasing is a coping mechanism.

Why you can’t deal with other people’s discomfort.

How to trace your people pleasing back to a single moment in time.

Why being stressed, irritated, and tired is a sign that you are a people-pleaser.

Why being a control freak may be a sign of people pleasing.

How to unlearn people pleasing.

How every conflict in your life traces back to childhood trauma.

What happens, from a medical perspective, when you have an unresolved conflict?

The secret reason you’re an overachiever.

How to stop your people-pleasing behavior at work and set better boundaries.

What it really means when you resent the people you love.

Why people-pleasing is a “protection tool” you learn to use in childhood.

The link between chronic worry and people pleasing.

The simple 3-part framework Dr. Sangwan uses to say "no" when you mean "no".

How 80% of all illnesses are caused by stress.

The 5 questions you should ask yourself to understand what your body is really trying to signal to you.

You can purchase Dr. Sangwan’s book, ‘TalkRx: Five Steps to Honest Conversations That Create Connection, Health, and Happiness’, here: https://a.co/d/iaVNwiL

Download a FREE audio chapter from ‘TalkRx: Five Steps to Honest Conversations That Create Connection, Health, and Happiness’, here: intuitiveintelligenceinc.com/mel

Follow Dr. Sangwan:

Instagram: instagram.com/doctorneha

Webpage: intuitiveintelligenceinc.com

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Lewis welcomes Dr. Nicole LePera, renowned author of the #1 New York Times bestsellers "How To Do The Work" and “How to Meet Your Self” Workbook. Dr. LePera, the creator of the #SelfHealers movement, discusses her latest book, "How to Be the Love You Seek," offering invaluable insights into healing relationships starting with oneself. She highlights the significance of understanding past traumas and how they shape current relationship dynamics, emphasizing the importance of self-love, emotional resilience, and cultivating healthy connections.

Relationships have always been essential to human survival. Our bodies and brains are programmed to seek out connection, whether familial, romantic, or platonic. And yet, these vital bonds are often at the root of our deepest suffering. While our hearts are primed for compassionate connection, our nervous systems—which store all our past hurts and disappointments—are wired for threat and negativity.

For decades, leading relationship advice has maintained that successful relationships require a specific compromise—that we must change our authentic expression to better meet the needs of others, and vice versa. It may sound reasonable in theory, but as Dr. LePera explains, this approach is nothing less than a recipe for a lifetime of resentment.

Buy her new book How to Be the Love You Seek: Break Cycles, Find Peace, and Heal Your Relationships

In this episode you will learn

• The difference between self-love and self-worth, and how to focus attention effectively on both.
• Strategies to practice self-love while maintaining healthy relationships.
• Common patterns and beliefs that hinder the ability to receive love and ways to shift these mindsets.
• The role of self-compassion in emotional healing and reprogramming the brain.
• Techniques for setting healthy boundaries and overcoming self-sabotaging behaviors in relationships.

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Wouldn’t it be nice if there was a way to not get so annoyed or frustrated with the people that you love?

There is. 

It’s called the “Let Them” theory. Mel discovered it while arguing with her son about a taco stand, and she hasn’t stopped using it since.

She first explained the “Let Them” theory in a 60-second reel on Instagram. 63 million views later. The verdict is in. Everyone loves the “let them” theory.

Today, Mel is in the studio, taking your calls live and teaching you 6 ways to improve any relationship with the “Let Them” theory.

In this episode, you hear Mel cover topics like:

How to handle a mother-in-law who is not supportive.

Feeling left out? Good. You need better friends.

Why moving in with your parents is better than living with an ex.

What to say when your sibling wants to gossip about your mom.

Why being the family peacekeeper creates a war inside you.

How to stop being the “fixer” in your relationships.

The truth about addiction in a family and the role you need to play.

Why your dad’s gambling problem isn’t yours to fix.

How rescuing people robs them of the problems they need to face.

What to do when your parents’ marriage is in crisis.

How to tell a friend you are sick of hearing about their relationship drama.

Why you shouldn’t be the “therapist” for your friend group.

Why it's normal for friends to drop you when you start drawing boundaries.

The art of putting yourself first: “Let me” be happy for a change.

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My book! The High 5 Habit  here:  https://a.co/d/g1DQ8Pt

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