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Are you struggling to figure out what is going on in your relationship? In this episode, I unpack emotional immaturity and its connection to abusive behaviors in relationships. 

Key Points Discussed:

• Self-Doubt vs. Self-Work: Many individuals question their sanity due to others not doing their work; it's essential for everyone to examine their behavior.
• Emotional Maturity Misconceptions: Smart or successful people can still be emotionally immature; intelligence does not equate to maturity.
• Signs of Emotional Immaturity: Lack of boundaries, difficulty with conflict resolution, inability to regulate emotions appropriately – these traits often present themselves subtly at first but are indicative of deeper issues.
• Impact Over Intentions: The true measure is not what was intended but the actual impact a person's actions have on others.
• Empathy Deficit: A lack of empathy can lead an emotionally immature individual to justify harmful behaviors without considering others' feelings.
• Boundary Respect & Resolution Skills: Healthy relationships require respected boundaries and mature conflict resolution – something emotionally immature individuals struggle with.
• Patterns vs. Moments: Distinguishing between occasional moments versus consistent patterns is critical when assessing someone’s emotional maturity level.

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Website: Emotional Abuse Coach
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

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Read by Juliet Prew

Production and Sound Design by Kevin Seaman

Emmy Marie joins me to dive into trauma responses—how they develop from abusive relationships and ways to manage them. It's crucial to know ourselves better without the weight of judgment or guilt.

We delve into how triggers can remind our bodies of past threats and activate our fight-flight-freeze-fawn responses. Recognizing these patterns allows us to seek safety cues that bring us back to a state of peace instead of shame or blame.

Emmy shares her journey as an abuse survivor turned coach for others healing from similar experiences. With certifications in somatic approaches and complex trauma recovery, she offers one-on-one coaching, courses, and validating social

You can learn more about Emmy here: https://www.instagram.com/bloomingwithemmy

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

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Today's episode provides an assessment tool for understanding emotional abuse. Often, abusers distort our reality, making us question ourselves. This tool offers clarity and validation to identify what's truly happening in your relationship. Understanding context, intent, and effect is crucial as they reveal whether actions are part of systemic abuse or isolated incidents.

Remember that it’s not about individual behaviors but recognizing ongoing manipulation or exploitation patterns. These insights can empower you to make informed decisions about your relationship moving forward. The assessment tool is available on my website: emotionalabusecoach.com

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

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Today we welcome back a School of Greatness favorite, licensed clinical psychologist, Dr. Ramani Durvasula. Her latest book, "It's Not You: Identifying and Healing from Narcissistic People," is a groundbreaking guide for anyone struggling to understand and recover from the effects of narcissistic relationships. It's available now, and I highly recommend you grab a copy to unlock insights into healthier, more fulfilling connections.

For those of you looking to dive deeper and embark on a transformative journey, Dr. Ramani has something special for you. Her healing program, "Taking Yourself Back: Healing from Narcissistic & Antagonistic Relationships," is designed to empower you with the tools and knowledge to reclaim your life. This program is a must for anyone ready to break free from the chains of toxic relationships and find their path to true self-healing.

In today's episode, we're going to explore the intricate dynamics of narcissism, uncover strategies for healing, and learn how to thrive in the face of adversity.

Buy her new book, It's Not You: Identifying and Healing from Narcissistic People (February 20th, 2024) 

Check out her healing program: Taking Yourself Back: Healing from Narcissistic & Antagonistic Relationships

In this episode you will learn

• To recognize red flags: Through introspection and education, you'll identify behaviors and traits common in narcissists, helping you steer clear of similar individuals in the future.
• To establish healthy boundaries: By understanding the dynamics of abusive relationships and the importance of boundaries, you'll develop the tools to safeguard your emotional and psychological well-being.
• To trust your intuition: Through self-reflection and practice, you'll strengthen your ability to trust your instincts, enabling you to make sound judgments and avoid falling into patterns of toxic relationships.
• To prioritize self-care: By prioritizing self-care and seeking support from trusted friends, family members, or professionals, you'll cultivate resilience and gradually rebuild your sense of self-worth and confidence.
• To reclaim your power: Through therapy, self-reflection, and personal growth, you'll reclaim your sense of agency and autonomy, empowering yourself to create fulfilling relationships based on mutual respect and genuine connection.

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Coercive control is psychological and emotional abuse involving manipulation and oppression—it often goes unnoticed as it disguises itself as care but undermines autonomy. Understanding it is crucial and this episode seeks to better understand this topic.

Key Points Discussed:

• Definition and understanding of coercive control
• The relationship between coercive control, traumatic bonding, and intermittent reinforcement
• How victims may experience pressure to conform to an abuser's demands
• Recognizing signs such as limiting autonomy, technological surveillance, health-related pressures, sexual coercion

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
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Diane & Rick explore the phenomenon of children engaging in  “gaslighting” as a strategy to either survive their parents’ conflict or to manipulate a parent to get what they want. Is it a learned behavior from an alienating parent, or is it part of something deeper? The hosts break it down.

If you have a problematic paragraph in your parenting plan that you would like the hosts to review,  email it to 1234Dilemma@gmail.com.

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The digital version of our Communication Protocol Workshop is available for purchase. Click here to buy the video.

Those who are Patreon VIPs get resources like these for free upon release, so consider supporting the show so you can get these perks, but more importantly, so we can continue offering the best advice in the business, to the world, for FREE!

You’ll find instructions about the DRAGON method in the I Am Non-Impossible journal, AVAILABLE on Amazon for a limited-time price of only $9.95 (Kindle version is $2.99). This is also a great gift for those in your life who are seeking co-parenting peace. ORDER YOURS NOW!

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Christina Pierce is a single mother who was stripped of parental rights following her daughter’s heart-wrenching reports of abuse. With each court appearance and every legal document filed, Christina faced an uphill battle against not just her ex-partner but, the judge on her case. 

Christina's story is one that resonates with too many. As she navigated the turbulent waters of custody battles in Boston, Massachusetts, her journey has become emblematic of a system fraught with challenges.

Christina walks us through her story and the fight to get her parenting rights back in this episode. We discuss navigating false accusations, documenting meticulously yet knowing when to act decisively, police involvement, temporary suspensions of visitation rights, and gut-wrenching decisions made under duress—all pointing towards systemic failures at safeguarding those most vulnerable: our children.

Christina's fight mirrors struggles happening behind closed doors across nations.  

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Website: Emotional Abuse Coach
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

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{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

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How do we detach from an abusive partner?  This episode explores why detachment feels tough—it's often likened to breaking an addiction—and offer strategies for stepping back.

One common obstacle is the urge to control an ex-partner's actions post-breakup—like checking if they get to work—but this hinders our own healing process. We also tend to manage how much they miss us by monitoring social media interactions or ensuring visibility in their lives.

Detachment isn't just about creating space between you and another person; it’s about prioritizing yourself over someone who has had too much power over you. This podcast covers how to start detaching effectively.

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

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Listener Heather shares a paragraph from her parenting plan entitled “Special Considerations”. Diane& Rick explore how you can go too far in trying to explain an abstract phrase and find yourself right back into the conflict that prompted the language to begin with! Ultimately, they settle on the simple concept of doing what is right without expecting reciprocation, which always benefits the child. 

This episode is sponsored by SoberLink. For a discount on your device, CLICK HERE.

If you have a problematic paragraph in your parenting plan that you would like the hosts to review,  email it to 1234Dilemma@gmail.com.

The digital version of our Communication Protocol Workshop is available for purchase. Click here to buy the video.

You’ll find instructions about the DRAGON method in the I Am Non-Impossible journal, AVAILABLE on Amazon for a limited-time price of only $9.95 (Kindle version is $2.99). This is also a great gift for those in your life who are seeking co-parenting peace. ORDER YOURS NOW!

To get a copy of the communication protocol order, CLICK HERE.

Want to talk about this episode with Diane and other parents? Be part of the conversation on the NON-Impossibles Facebook group

CLICK HERE to offer help to the Right to Peace Foundation. We’re on a mission!

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Have a co-parent dilemm

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A lot of us wonder how we can be healthy after a toxic relationship. Today's guest, Ginger Dean, is a licensed psychotherapist and creator of Loving Me After We.  Ginger shares her expertise in helping women overcome toxic relationships to become their best selves. We discuss attachment trauma, abusive patterns and how to begin to heal.

Understanding personal needs is crucial; often derived from what was lacking in our past relationships. It’s important not only to know these needs but also seek partners who respect them instead of repeating patterns that hinder healing.

Her work includes the Inner Circle membership—a safe space for healing—and one-on-one coaching. Find her on Instagram @lovingmeafterwe or at lovingmeafterwe.com.

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
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Diane & Rick address listener Shary’s dilemma about parenting time with an infant. How much does the co-parent relationship determine the best schedule? The hosts break it down, as well as discuss the similarities between toddlers and teens when it comes to co-parenting issues.

This episode is sponsored by SoberLink. For a discount on your device, CLICK HERE.

If you have a problematic paragraph in your parenting plan that you would like the hosts to review,  email it to 1234Dilemma@gmail.com.

BE FIRST in line for individual co-parent coaching, being launched by CNFC this year. Just fill out the info form to get on the pre-registration list! To learn more about the Center for Navigating Family Change, go to: CNFC.org. FINALLY, the digital version of our Communication Protocol Workshop is available for purchase. Click here to buy the video.

You’ll find instructions about this method in the I Am Non-Impossible journal, AVAILABLE on Amazon for a limited-time price of only $9.95 (Kindle version is $2.99). This is also a great gift for those in your life who are seeking co-parenting peace. ORDER YOURS NOW!

To get a copy of the communication protocol order, CLICK HERE.

Want to talk about this episode with Diane and other parents? Be part of the conversation on the NON-Impossibles Facebook group

CLICK HERE to offer help to the Right to Peace Foundation. We’re on a mission!

Those who were Patreon VIPs get resources like these for free upon release, so

Want to talk about this episode with Diane and other parents? Be part of the conversation on the NON-Impossibles Facebook group

Find us on X (Twitter) and Instagram @CPDilemmas

If you are a professional working with high-conflict co-parents, join our LinkedIn group.

Interested in Individual Co-Parent Communication Coaching? Click Here!

Have a co-parent dilemma? Email 1234Dilemma@gmail.com

Become a Non-Impossible VIP Listener for some really cool perks!

To get a special discount on therapy through BetterHelp, visit www.BetterHelp.com/Dilemma

Dealing with alcohol addiction in your co-parent relationship? Explore peace of mind with SoberLink. For a discount on your device, CLICK HERE.

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Is it possible to heal narcissism? Is there hope for our narcissistic friends and family to change? Today I sit down with clinical physiologist, Dr. Peter Malinoski, to unravel some of the misconceptions about narcissism. We discuss the intricacies of narcissistic heart and behavior, the emptiness of the heart that every narcissist is trying to fill, and how being rooted in the truth of their identity can be a healing balm to their deepest wounds.

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Are you drowning in your High Conflict Divorce? Todays guest, Tori, a Family Court Strategist, shares expert strategies to navigate the turbulent waters of family court. Tori unravels the complexity of the family court system and illuminates the path to a smoother divorce process. Through her story, you'll learn how high-conflict divorces are often mislabeled domestic violence cases, why abusers prolong court cases, and the importance of a strategic approach.

We cover some key questions: How do we mediate effectively with an abuser? What tools do we need? Tori focuses on understanding your assets, knowing why you're fighting for what you want, and having a clear order of topics ready for when you're at the negotiation table. She also shares invaluable insights on documenting and categorizing instances of abuse, and the challenges that might arise during parenting time.

You can connect with Tori here: https://www.onyx-arrow.com/start-here

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

Listener Michael shares his problematic parenting plan language about birthday parties with Diane & Rick. They discuss not only the problem with the wording, but what really matters to the child — the one being honored by the celebrations. The hosts warn against creating language to manage co-parent conflict at the expense of the child.

This episode is sponsored by SoberLink. For a discount on your device, CLICK HERE.

If you have a problematic paragraph in your parenting plan that you would like the hosts to review,  email it to 1234Dilemma@gmail.com.

BE FIRST in line for individual co-parent coaching, being launched by CNFC this year. Just fill out the info form to get on the pre-registration list! To learn more about the Center for Navigating Family Change, go to: CNFC.org. FINALLY, the digital version of our Communication Protocol Workshop is available for purchase. Click here to buy the video.

You’ll find instructions about this method in the I Am Non-Impossible journal, AVAILABLE on Amazon for a limited-time price of only $9.95 (Kindle version is $2.99). This is also a great gift for those in your life who are seeking co-parenting peace. ORDER YOURS NOW!

To get a copy of the communication protocol order, CLICK HERE.

Want to talk about this episode with Diane and other parents? Be part of the conversation on the NON-Impossibles Facebook group

CLICK HERE to offer help to the Right to Peace Foundation. We’re on a mission!

Those who were Patreon VIPs get resources l

Want to talk about this episode with Diane and other parents? Be part of the conversation on the NON-Impossibles Facebook group

Find us on X (Twitter) and Instagram @CPDilemmas

If you are a professional working with high-conflict co-parents, join our LinkedIn group.

Interested in Individual Co-Parent Communication Coaching? Click Here!

Have a co-parent dilemma? Email 1234Dilemma@gmail.com

Become a Non-Impossible VIP Listener for some really cool perks!

To get a special discount on therapy through BetterHelp, visit www.BetterHelp.com/Dilemma

Dealing with alcohol addiction in your co-parent relationship? Explore peace of mind with SoberLink. For a discount on your device, CLICK HERE.

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Ever wonder what a Narcissist is thinking? Today, we're pulling back the curtain in an enlightening conversation with Ben Taylor, a Self-Aware Narcissist. Ben guides us through narcissistic relationships, shedding light on complex dynamics like hoovering, discarding, and the head-spinning cycle of shame and blame. We also navigate through emotionally abusive behavior and discuss the crucial steps needed to break free and find a clear understanding of reality.

You can learn more about Ben here: https://www.rawmotivations.com/

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

Today, Dr. Mariel Buqué, an Afro-Dominican psychologist and intergenerational trauma expert, takes us on a profound journey towards healing. Dr. Buqué's holistic clinical approach, which blends ancient healing practices with modern therapy, empowers listeners to break the cycle of intergenerational trauma. 

Through her book "Break the Cycle," she shares valuable insights, and in this episode, you will learn how to heal trauma without medication, recognize trauma within your body, and calm your nervous system with practical techniques. Dr. Buqué's wisdom also delves into the impact of unaddressed trauma on our relationships and how to navigate healing when one partner is ready, but the other isn't. You'll discover that every day presents an opportunity to break the cycle and choose a path of healing and growth!

Buy her book Break The Cycle: A Guide to Healing Intergenerational Trauma

In this episode you will learn

• How to heal trauma without medication and practical techniques for inner healing.
• How to recognize and scan trauma within your body.
• The importance of confronting trauma instead of numbing it.
• Ways to reflect on your approach to parenting and break intergenerational cycles.
• The profound impact of unaddressed trauma on relationships and strategies for healing together.

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HAPPY NEW YEAR! Get ready for an incredibly personal and heartwarming episode of The School of Greatness Podcast, recorded LIVE at The Summit of Greatness 2023. In this special moment, Martha Higareda and Lewis Howes share the stage for the first time, and their candid conversation about love and relationships is one for the books. Stay tuned until the end, there’s an unforgettable surprise you won't want to miss!

Don’t miss the action at SUMMIT 2024 – buy your tickets TODAY at https://lewishowes.com/tickets and use promo code GREATNESS for 20% off at checkout.

In this episode you will learn

• Why so many women face challenges in love and relationships, and how can they overcome them.
• The complex feelings of wanting to leave a relationship but feeling stuck, and how to break away from an unhealthy relationship.
• Martha "BALANCED" acronym for love and relationships, and how this has helped shape Martha & Lewis’s relationship.
• Discover why choosing someone based on their potential may not be the best approach.
• Differentiate between accepting someone for who they are and trying to change them. Learn how to build a healthy, conscious relationship based on acceptance and the fundamentals of a thriving partnership.

For more information go to www.lewishowes.com/1554

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Emotional abuse is often depicted as a stark, unmistakable force in relationships. However, many suffer from a more insidious form that whispers and weaves itself into their lives with such subtlety that it's almost invisible. It can make victims doubt their sanity when they feel dismissed after trying to be heard. 

Today's episode dives into subtle emotional abuse by intelligent abusers who mask their manipulation as caring or rational explanations. 

Website: Emotional Abuse Coach
Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach
Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com

{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal
{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner