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Today we share conversations on love and relationships with an SOG fan favorite, Stephan Speaks. Stephan and Lewis touch on the transformative power of healing, the strength found in showing vulnerability, and the secret sauce to keeping connections alive and thriving over time. Stephan opens up about the journey of mending from past wounds as a gateway to more joyful and satisfying partnerships ahead. He draws a clear line between the kind of disagreements that foster growth and the arguments that tear us apart, reminding us that respect is the way through any rough patch.

In this episode you will learn

• How to navigate the healing process from past relationships to make room for healthier future connections.
• The difference between constructive disagreements and harmful arguing, and the importance of maintaining respect.
• Strategies for improving communication skills to better express needs and understand those of a partner.
• The significance of emotional safety and vulnerability in deepening relationship connections.
• Ways to recognize and address unhealed trauma that can affect current and future relationships.

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As we delve deeper into the intricacies of intimacy within marriage, I'm excited to announce our upcoming AwakenYou in Your Marriage podcast episode, #156: Creating Safety and Trust: The Foundation of Intimacy in Marriage.

In this episode, we'll explore the fundamental aspects of safety and trust within marriage and how they lay the groundwork for genuine intimacy. Here's a sneak peek at what you'll discover by tuning in:

1. Understanding Safety and Trust: Learn how safety and trust are cultivated over time through genuine sharing and positive responses within the relationship.

2. Starting with Yourself: Discover the importance of building trust within yourself before extending it to your spouse, and explore personal anecdotes that shed light on this journey.

3. Practical Steps to Building Trust: Explore actionable steps you can take to foster trust within your marriage, from setting ground rules to acting in trustworthy ways in both big and small matters.

4. Destructive Patterns to Avoid: Identify behaviors and habits that erode safety and trust in your marriage, and learn how to steer clear of them to nurture a healthy relationship.

As you reflect on your own relationship dynamics, consider how you can contribute to creating a safe and trusting environment with your spouse. Remember, you are the love leader in your journey towards intimacy.

If you find yourself seeking guidance or support along the way, I invite you to schedule a Courageous Love Conversation with me. Let's work together to navigate the path towards stronger, more fulfilling relationships.

Don't miss out on this insightful episode as we pave the way towards deeper connection and intimacy in your marriage. Tune in and join the conversation!

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I hope this message finds you well as we step into 2024 filled with opportunities for growth and connection. I'm excited to share a sneak peek of my upcoming podcast episode 151: "Hearts Unveiled: Nurturing Marital Intimacy," where we'll explore the key components to create deeper intimacy in your marriage.

In this episode, you will learn:

• Differentiation: Understand the importance of recognizing that you and your partner are unique individuals with separate thoughts and beliefs
• Curiosity: Dive into the core of building intimacy by asking questions and cultivating a genuine desire to understand and explore each other.
• Vulnerability: Learn how opening up allows your spouse to see into your core, fostering a profound connection.
• Empathy: Understand that sharing dreams, pains, and joys builds trust and strengthens intimacy. It's not about agreement but about understanding and reflecting back emotions.

As you embark on this journey to nurture marital intimacy, keep in mind that these components come together to build something truly amazing. While working on these aspects might not be feasible at the start, especially without going through the untangling process, the rewards are profound when both partners stand on their own feet, own their emotions, and work towards building a path back together.

To dive deeper into these components and explore what it takes to enhance intimacy in your marriage, don't miss this episode. Subscribe to AwakenYou in Your Marriage to catch all the follow-ups as we delve into the steps to amplify intimacy. If you're ready for the challenge and seeking a more intimate relationship, consider booking a Courageous Love Conversation. 

Let’s make this a year of growing closer to the one we’re with!

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Dating with an anxious attachment style comes with a number of challenges: struggling to feel secure, requiring constant reassurance, mistrust, a fear of abandonment, feeling unworthy of love or difficulty setting boundaries. But your attachment style is not a life sentence, it is something you can challenge and heal by embracing vulnerability, healthy love, boundary setting and applying the love you crave from others to yourself. We are joined by the wonderful Thais Gibson, an author, speaker, leader in the personal development field and founder of The Personal Development School as we break down what it means to date and love as someone who is anxiously attached. 

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Welcome to another round of your questions and my advice. I have a stack of your crazy, raw, and unbelievably direct questions, so we are going to have an unfiltered conversation about sex, competitive parents, getting over your ex, and this light and easy question... Is there a God?

You are getting the coaching you need right now.

The questions you asked are juicy:

Why am I still obsessed with my ex? It’s been 7 years.

My partner refuses to have sex with me. What do I do now?

The parents of my kid’s friends are so competitive; how the hell do I get out of this rat race?

Is there a God?

Imposter syndrome is killing my career. What the hell do I do?

What are the 4 new habits I can’t stop? (Because they are THAT GOOD.)

Why do I feel so trapped in my life? What do I need to know to get out?

Why can’t I fix myself after years of personal development courses?

Get the tough love, “ah-ha” moments and laugh your ass off at some of the crazy stuff that goes down in this episode.

You asked… and I can’t wait for you to hear my answers.

Xo, Mel

In this episode:

1:00: The 4 best tips I’ve learned in these first 100 podcasts.

4:25: How do you stop checking in on your ex’s social media?

7:50: 3 techniques to help you argue with your partner in a healthy way.

10:30: The “red light:green light” technique that’s worked for me and Chris.

14:15: What’s my astrological sign? 

15:40: Here’s what I believe about faith and signs and a higher power.

22:30: What happens when we die? This is what I think.

24:20: How do you deal with difficult parents of your kids’ friends?

30:10: Husband is ready for sex months after his wife has a baby, but she’s not.

35:08: This is how I learned I was dyslexic. 

35:35: Hard line advice on promoting your business without feeling egotistical.

37:30: Why all your personal development work doesn’t feel like it’s working.

41:50: Behind the scenes and blooper clips just for you.

Want more resources? Go to my podcast page at melrobbins.com/podcast.

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Join us for Part 2 as we redefine your understanding of sexual wellness and intimacy as Eva Hunter, co-author of Sex, God, and the Chaos of Betrayal, graces us with her insights. We'll dissect the powerful idea of intimacy as a state of deep 'knowing and being known', and how this integrates into our sexual experiences. We’ll also reveal how a rigid religious upbringing can shape a woman's sexuality, and examine the crucial role of emotional connection in preserving a thriving sexual relationship. You won’t want to miss this episode!

In this episode, you are going to learn how to have better sex. You have an appointment with a leading sex expert, Dr. Emily Morse. I will be the first to admit that I want to have better sex, but I don’t know how to achieve it.

And I’m asking all the uncomfortable questions you want to ask.

This conversation is going to make you think differently about this topic and inspire you to prioritize pleasure and connection in bed, no matter your age, relationship status, or gender.

And if you are saying, “This doesn’t apply to me,” or as my friend just said, “I’m in way worse than a drought! At this point, I’m a born-again virgin."

No, you’re not. And this episode is for you too, because our expert says improving your solo sex life is the first step.

You may not want your little ones to listen because, when it comes to confessions about sex, I'm going first.

Dr. Emily claims that everything you have been taught or observed about sex is WRONG.

Wait. WHAT??...

Dr. Emily is insightful, and this conversation is hilarious and actionable.

You will learn:

• The 3 unexpected ways you are killing your sex drive.
• How to get out of your head when you’re in bed.
• Why meditation and sex might be the combo you need to orgasm.
• You are NOT alone if you cannot orgasm from penetration.
• How to tell time with your vulva (yes, it is a thing).
• Masturbation without shame and secrecy.
• Why skipping foreplay is ruining your chance of having great sex.
• The 5 ways your self-awareness ignites hot and steamy sex.
• Let’s stop faking orgasms. Know the four steps to how you can really get there.

Grab your mirrors and vibrators, and leave your inhibitions and embarrassment at the door. And according to our expert, it’s amazing foreplay to talk about sex. So why don't you and your partner listen to this together? You’ll thank me later.

Maybe we’ll call these sex episodes “Listen and Lube”?

Xo, Mel

In this episode:

• 2:40: Great sex starts here first.
• 5:20: Can you relate with these sex questions from our listeners?
• 9:00: The 3 elements that kill our desire to connect.
• 10:20: My ‘killer’ sex life right now, in the raw.
• 13:25: What partner are you?
• 17:30: Let’s unpack our lady parts. What exactly is a vulva?
• 20:20: One big reason why we are all being disserviced as young adults.
• 24:00: I love the empowering name Dr. Emily gives for masturbation.
• 24:30: The 3 reasons not to wait for someone else to give you pleasure.
• 28:00: It wasn’t until I got this from my friends that I learned to masturbate.
• 30:25: There are thousands more nerve endings in a clitoris than we thought!
• 33:00: Why are women so uncomfortable about asking for what we need?
• 35:30: The 3 T’s you need to start an awkward conversation with your partner.
• 37:40: Never talk about sex in this room.
• 38:40: Be prepared that your first awkward conversation will go this way.
• 43:05: 5 Pillars for having great sex.
• 46:06: Do this exercise with your partner to feel more relaxed and in control.
• 48:25: A technique to do on your own during sex to make you more present.
• 49:55: What happens in your body when you orgasm?
• 50:38: Is it healthy to have multiple orgasms?
• 52:55: What to do when you’re in a relationship that has become just friendly.
• 55:10: Learn to do this to increase your chances of having an orgasm.
• 57:00: How can vulva owners ask for what they need sexually?
• 59:20: It often takes between 20-40 minutes for this to happen.
• 1:01:40: How many times a week should we be having sex?
• 1:04:30: What to do when you’ve not had sex for a long time.
• 1:06:35: How is your current sex life tied to your childhood needs?
• 1:07:40: The difference between fantasy and fetish.
• 1:11:05: Jumping back into dating after divorce from 30 years of marriage.
• 1:11:58: Becoming intimate again after getting sober.
• 1:12:55: Why can’t I handle the intensity of pleasure?
• 1:13:45: How to have healthy intimacy when you’ve experienced trauma.
• 1:16:53: See a pelvic floor therapist if this happens when you have sex.
• 1:17:46: Is it possible for women to have sex and not get attached emotionally?
• 1:20:45: What is the “Yes-No-Maybe List”?
• 1:21:15: 5 steps to having the best sex of your life.

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Join us on today's episode of Mama Says Namaste as I, Ashley, dive deep into the powerful concept of fierce conversations. Inspired by Susan Scott's thought-provoking book, Fierce Conversations, Nathan and I discuss how these principles can revolutionize our relationships at home.

We break down the importance of honest and clear communication, both in the workplace and with our loved ones. We explore why the "compliment sandwich" approach may not be as effective as we think and how addressing concerns head-on can lead to growth and understanding.

We take it a step further and apply these principles within our own homes. Nathan and I share personal stories of navigating tough conversations with our children and each other. We discuss the compromises necessary to cultivate a peaceful and supportive environment for everyone involved.

Through Susan Scott's "Mineral Rights" approach, we learn the four essential steps in having a fierce conversation. We delve into the power of feeling heard and the importance of creating understanding and harmony in our relationships every day.

We don't shy away from the tough topics - we address the emotional burden children can carry in a tense household and the impact it has on their well-being. We challenge the notion of staying in an unhappy relationship for the sake of the kids, emphasizing the significance of commitment and showing up authentically every day.

So, grab your earbuds, lean in, and prepare to ignite change in your relationships. Join us on Mama Says Namaste as we explore the transformative nature of fierce conversations and how they can guide us toward intention, growth, and connection in our homes and beyond.

Pride, it’s a tricky emotion because, in the right context, it's healthy. Feeling proud of your accomplishments or efforts is wonderful. But, unhealthy pride can act as a barrier to intimacy and connection.

This week on the AwakenYou in Your Marriage podcast I am exploring:

1️⃣ What pride is
2️⃣ Identifying its characteristics
3️⃣ Delve into why pride develops into a behavior
4️⃣ How to break it down so you can foster a deeper connection with your partner

If you've resonated with the recent episodes on pride and control, consider booking a Courageous Love Conversation (link in bio). Remember, discovering these behaviors within yourself is a positive step towards becoming a more loving, open, and honest person. These behaviors are symptoms, not signs of brokenness. Your journey to a healthier, more connected marriage begins with you.

EP 139: Pride - From Arrogance to Intimacy

I'd love to hear how these episodes have impacted you. Share them with someone who might benefit, and let me know your thoughts. Plus, I'm eager to hear what topics you'd like me to explore in future episodes. Send me an email or a DM; your feedback shapes this podcast. 

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Prepare to redefine your understanding of sexual wellness and intimacy as Eva Hunter, co-author of Sex, God, and the Chaos of Betrayal, graces us with her insights. We'll dissect the powerful idea of intimacy as a state of deep 'knowing and being known', and how this integrates into our sexual experiences. We’ll also reveal how a rigid religious upbringing can shape a woman's sexuality, and examine the crucial role of emotional connection in preserving a thriving sexual relationship. You won’t want to miss this episode!

Welcome back to Mama Says Namaste! In today's episode, we're diving into the world of co-parenting. We've received a listener question from Willow about how to feel supported by your partner and co-parent in a way that shows up as a unified front.

Last week, we tackled the first part of her question and explored the importance of supporting each other as partners. But now, it's time to take it to the next level and discover the secrets to successful co-parenting.

Join hosts Ashley and Nathan Logsdon as they share their own experiences and insights on this topic. They'll guide you on a journey from chaos to clarity and help you bring awareness and intention into your home. Whether you're in an intimate relationship or navigating co-parenting after separation or divorce, these tips are relevant for everyone.

Learn how to make decisions together, avoid getting played by your kids, and create a strong, consistent front as parents. Ashley and Nathan will share some practical strategies and personal stories to help you navigate the complexities of co-parenting. So take a deep breath, get ready to strengthen those family connections, and let's dive into this episode of Mama Says Namaste!

When it comes to your most intimate relationship, there is more to distinguish it from others than simply in the bedroom. How intentional are you about supporting one another? Have you considered a mind, body, and soul approach? 

This week Nathan and I dig into tips for mind, body and soul connections with our partners, along with that as-always reminder: it starts within first. 

Here are some tips on intentional connections for a more "functional" model, and how this is one place multitasking can really work to your advantage! 

Why do we often struggle when we are trying to build a lasting relationship with someone?

Why is love not enough to make two people genuinely care for each other and stay happy together?

Let's unpack the conversation I had with Lori Gottlieb. Lori is a psychotherapist and New York Times bestselling author of Maybe You Should Talk to Someone, which has sold nearly two million copies and is currently being adapted as a television series. In addition to her clinical practice, she is co-host of the popular “Dear Therapists” podcast now in its 4th season.

In this digital age, the power of in-person conversations is unparalleled, therefore, face-to-face discussions not only ease challenging topics but also strengthen connections, even in times of disagreement. We will eExplore the fascinating urge to share our stories when conversations turn distant. Uncover the psychology behind this impulse and its impact on nurturing authentic connections.

It's important to find the balance between desired traits and the potential for mutual growth. And boundaries aren't about controlling others; they're about prioritizing self-care. 

In this interview, you'll learn:

• How to deal with unwanted peer pressure
• How to master difficult conversations
• The importance of setting early relationship goals
• How to balance the qualities we look for in a partner
• The positive impact of active listening
• How to navigate relationship triggers 

Let's uncover the truths, debunk the myths, and reshape the way you perceive and nurture connections.

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

What We Discuss:

• 00:00 Intro
• 01:02 What should you do if a friend is pushing you to do something that makes you uncomfortable?
• 03:24 In-person conversations ease difficult discussions; connection persists despite disagreement
• 05:16 Set relationship goals early; they reveal compatibility quickly
• 07:47 Social anxiety often mirrors our childhood treatment
• 11:51 The urge to discuss oneself grows when sensing disinterest or neglect in conversations 
• 16:24 Your potential partner might possess certain preferred qualities, yet not encompass all you seek
• 18:26 Identify your deal breakers and let go of the relationship fantasies we grew up with
• 22:25 How to shift from rigidity to actively listening to your partner?
• 26:47 By comprehending your partner's triggers, you can guide them back to the present moment
• 29:28 Boundaries involve defining self-care actions, not manipulating others' behavior around you
• 35:14 Consistency with our self-set boundaries fosters meaningful connections
• 39:10 Let go of what you couldn’t have and then go find it in someone without trying to change them
• 41:41 What does money and gender roles represent in your relationship? 
• 44:56 Having an authentic, open, and genuine conversation, even if uncomfortable, isn't unkind
• 49:22 Dating entails the concessions you're ready to offer and those your partner commits to as well
• 53:32 You can multitask your pursuits. It's fine to follow your passion while staying in your current situation
• 57:33 Journaling creates a safe space for self-expression, free from the fear of judgment by others
• 01:02:02 Journaling offers the advantage of cultivating accountability through increased self-compassion
• 01:04:45 A breakup is a form of grief, as you've lost a shared past and the gradually constructed future with that person  

Episode Resources:

• Lori Gottlieb | YouTube
• Lori Gottlieb | Instagram
• Lori Gottlieb | Website
• Dear Therapists Podcast
• Maybe You Should Talk to Someone

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On this episode of Mama Says Namaste, we dive deep into the importance of physical touch in relationships.

We know there is scientific evidence supporting the claim that physical connection improves patience and overall connection. We challenge listeners to examine their physical and sexual intimacy with their partner, noting how finding out what kind of touch their partner likes is crucial.

We emphasize the importance of carving out intentional time for physical touch and suggest ways to connect physically even during busy seasons of life.

We also discuss the significance of sexual intimacy in relationships and offer tips on how to make it a daily habit.

Finally, we present several challenges to take action and start today on your most intimate relationship. Join us as we explore how physical touch can enhance emotional and relationship health, leading to a deeper level of vulnerability and connection that can impact all aspects of life.

"It's hard to remain emotionally distant when you physically connect on a daily basis."

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Play The Numbers 24:34

The Ideal Sexbots, Android Romance, Society's Lack of Intimacy, Hypergamy, Stop Watching Blues 29:56

Set Traditions, Predicting The Future and Living In The Moment 41:43

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