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Ashley and I are in the Atlanta studio to talk about her precious son Daniel who died from a cord accident and was born still in April 2023. As she approaches his first birthday, she talks about how her grief has evolved, her faith and how she decided to plan a golf tournament in Daniel's name. 

What we discuss:

• Regretting the decision not to have a funeral/memorial service
• Not knowing how to answer questions with grief brain
• The unfairness of how our babies didn't live and others did
• Accelerated Resolution Therapy
• Cord Accidents
• Grief support for living siblings and helping them navigate it
• And so much more relatable info...

Find Ashley on IG: @apattkd15 

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NOTE: I am not a doctor or a therapist. The views of my guests are not always reflective of my own.  I am just a real life loss mom describing her experiences with life after loss. These are my experiences, and I'm putting it out there so you feel less alone. Always do your own research and make informed decisions!

For more REAL TALK about baby loss and grief, hit subscribe to be notified when another episode drops!

Support the podcast and shop the store!  At a Total Loss Shop

 Instagram @thekatherinelazar

Youtube: @thekatherinelazar

Email: thekatherinelazar@gmail.com

Website: www.katherinelazar.com

Some helpful resources:

• https://countthekicks.org/
• https://www.measuretheplacenta.org/
• https://www.pushpregnancy.org/
• https://www.tommys.org/

Local to Atlanta:

• https://www.northsidepnl.com/

As we delve deeper into the intricacies of intimacy within marriage, I'm excited to announce our upcoming AwakenYou in Your Marriage podcast episode, #156: Creating Safety and Trust: The Foundation of Intimacy in Marriage.

In this episode, we'll explore the fundamental aspects of safety and trust within marriage and how they lay the groundwork for genuine intimacy. Here's a sneak peek at what you'll discover by tuning in:

1. Understanding Safety and Trust: Learn how safety and trust are cultivated over time through genuine sharing and positive responses within the relationship.

2. Starting with Yourself: Discover the importance of building trust within yourself before extending it to your spouse, and explore personal anecdotes that shed light on this journey.

3. Practical Steps to Building Trust: Explore actionable steps you can take to foster trust within your marriage, from setting ground rules to acting in trustworthy ways in both big and small matters.

4. Destructive Patterns to Avoid: Identify behaviors and habits that erode safety and trust in your marriage, and learn how to steer clear of them to nurture a healthy relationship.

As you reflect on your own relationship dynamics, consider how you can contribute to creating a safe and trusting environment with your spouse. Remember, you are the love leader in your journey towards intimacy.

If you find yourself seeking guidance or support along the way, I invite you to schedule a Courageous Love Conversation with me. Let's work together to navigate the path towards stronger, more fulfilling relationships.

Don't miss out on this insightful episode as we pave the way towards deeper connection and intimacy in your marriage. Tune in and join the conversation!

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Download my free Love Affirmations Mini-Course to help you to start thinking and feeling in a way that feels more like love.

More resources and how you can start the process of Awakening(YourTrue)You and being the partner who creates your best version of what marriage looks like for you: https://christinebongiovanni.com/

Join my AwakenYou newsletter for weekly marriage tips and early announcements of upcoming offerings.

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Liz's son, Harrison, was stillborn at full term. She joins me in discussing her experiences in her workplace with maternity leave policy and what that looked like. When she found that the terms were not even in place for mothers who didn't get to bring their baby home, she did a ton of research and went to bat for herself and her son, Harrison. She gives some recommendations on how you too can approach your company to try to make change happen.  We also talk about returning to work and the different ways you can handle it.

Going back to work is scary. It's a place where you were at pregnant and happy. Going back after your baby dies seems like going back in time where nothing happened. It's weird and it's a little jarring. Some don't ever want to return and some want to go back ASAP for the distraction. Whatever you feel, it's normal and in this episode we discuss it all.

We hope it helps!

To get some guidance from Liz on how to handle your workplace policy, message her on LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/lizmyers19/

Or on Instagram @lizmyers19 

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NOTE: I am not a doctor or a therapist. The views of my guests are not always reflective of my own.  I am just a real life loss mom describing her experiences with life after loss. These are my experiences, and I'm putting it out there so you feel less alone. Always do your own research and make informed decisions!

For more REAL TALK about baby loss and grief, hit subscribe to be notified when another episode drops!

Support the podcast and shop the store!  At a Total Loss Shop

 Instagram @thekatherinelazar 

Youtube: @thekatherinelazar

Email: thekatherinelazar@gmail.com

Website: www.katherinelazar.com

Some helpful resources:

https://countthekicks.org/

https://www.measuretheplacenta.org/

https://www.pushpregnancy.org/

https://www.tommys.org/

Local to Atlanta:

https://www.northsidepnl.com/

23 January 2024: An alarming percentage of parents in the UAE do not own proper car safety seats for their children. Sophie Huang and Borja Molina, co-founders of Safety On Board are here to stress the importance of car seat safety and give us the harsh facts.We meet an inspiring family: Mum Isabel and 11 year old Aurelia, who had an autoimmune disorder and is now working too help and inspire others. We talk to Julie Mallon from Nurture 2 Sleep about "Sleepy Mocktails" and how to actually get the most out of our sleep. For our psychology hour we focused on Fertility Journeys with Dr Thoriya clinical psychologist at Human Relations Institute & Clinic and Cassie Destino from IVF support, who works as a fertility doula.

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In this episode, I answer your questions and concerns regarding your baby's birthday. I also give perspective on the difference in Brody's 1st Birthday and his 2nd that we just experienced yesterday. Along with all of this, I read to you some examples of what other parents do on their baby's birthday to help give you some ideas or to help normalize what you'd like to or are already doing.

It's a tough topic, and it's not easy being a parent to a dead child. We are doing our absolute best. I hope this episode sheds some light on the subject and helps guide you through the 1st, 2nd or whatever year it is if you need some insight.

Hit me up on IG! @thekatherinelazar

Support the podcast and shop the store!  At a Total Loss Shop

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NOTE: I am not a doctor or a therapist. The views of my guests are not always reflective of my own.  I am just a real life loss mom describing her experiences with life after loss. These are my experiences, and I'm putting it out there so you feel less alone. Always do your own research and make informed decisions!

For more REAL TALK about baby loss and grief, hit subscribe to be notified when another episode drops!

 Instagram @thekatherinelazar 

Youtube: @thekatherinelazar

Email: thekatherinelazar@gmail.com

Website: www.katherinelazar.com

Some helpful resources:

https://countthekicks.org/

https://www.measuretheplacenta.org/

https://www.pushpregnancy.org/

https://www.tommys.org/

Local to Atlanta:

https://www.northsidepnl.com/

Breakups can be tough whether you’re the one initiating the breakup or the one getting broken up with. Let’s discuss how to–and not to–handle a breakup before, during, and afterward.
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To help you, I created a "Breakups Breakdown" worksheet. Get your printable in the 10 for Teens + Tweens Ep. 086 show notes on EmpowerfulGirls.com. 

At the request of many, Liz and I created this short episode to share with those in your circle. We answer your Instagram submissions on what you want others to know. So many times support people just have no idea how to navigate this and in the thick of grief, loss parents don't have the words to tell them. Well, we hope that this episode can be shared with those that are looking for ways to help or maybe a guide on what NOT to do.

Loss Parents, this is also a great episode to help validate how you're feeling in response to how others are treating the death of your baby. We are here to help you realize you are not alone in how you feel and maybe suggest some ways that you can give to those around you that would better help.

Support people are our lifeline during the darkest times a human can experience. So if you are a support person, thank you for even listening to try to help. We can't do it without good support and love.

Liz and I are brutally honest and we of course are only speaking from our own opinions and experiences. Not speaking for everyone out there. In the 100s of conversations I've had with loss parents, I can tell you that these are the most popular things that they want support people to know.

We hope it helps!

Hit up Liz on Instagram @lizmyers19 

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NOTE: I am not a doctor or a therapist. The views of my guests are not always reflective of my own.  I am just a real life loss mom describing her experiences with life after loss. These are my experiences, and I'm putting it out there so you feel less alone. Always do your own research and make informed decisions!

For more REAL TALK about baby loss and grief, hit subscribe to be notified when another episode drops!

Support the podcast and shop the store!  At a Total Loss Shop

 Instagram @thekatherinelazar 

Youtube: @thekatherinelazar

Email: thekatherinelazar@gmail.com

Website: www.katherinelazar.com

Some helpful resources:

https://countthekicks.org/

https://www.measuretheplacenta.org/

https://www.pushpregnancy.org/

https://www.tommys.org/

Local to Atlanta:

https://www.northsidepnl.com/

This is our "Love Of" episode!

Whether it's a laid-back gathering with Brazilian fare for Rick's birthday or a jubilant shindig with many friends, we discuss that it's the love intertwined in these moments that truly makes them shine.

We go through a series of questions -  what movie we love most, what TV show, what food we love most, what relationship we love most... it's a fun conversation and along the way, we're joined by Chris Rossetti, who teaches a different way to think of a question I pose... we love learning something new on All About The Joy!   

As we wrap up, we venture into the realm of family and friendships, discussing the poignant influence of both bloodline and chosen family in our lives. Rick and I share stories close to our hearts, exploring the fabric of relationships that shape us and the threads of TV shows, music and movies that weave into our beliefs and humor. Sit back, pour yourself a mug of your favorite beverage—perhaps not coffee if you're anything like our guest Chris, but join us as we unwrap the gift of connection, love, and the simple joys that life brings our way.

(The song Lemonade that Chris references by Alex Boyé can be found at this link)

Thank you for stopping by. Please visit our website: All About The Joy and add, like and share. We'd appreciate that greatly. Also, if you want to find us anywhere on social media, please check out the link in bio page.

Music By Geovane Bruno, Moments, 3481
Editing by Team A-J
Host, Carmen Lezeth


DISCLAIMER: As always, please do your own research and understand that the opinions in this podcast and livestream are meant for entertainment purposes only. States and other areas may have different rules and regulations governing certain aspects discussed in this podcast. Nothing in our podcast or livestream is meant to be medical or legal advice. Please use common sense, and when in doubt, ask a professional for advice, assistance, help and guidance.

Liz (from episode 1 and 30) is back to discuss this taboo topic of "Gender Disappointment" during PAL. This is a topic we get asked about A LOT. Now, I don't love this phrase but it's general and we understand what it means without further explanation. I'd like to say it's more like Gender Processing because there's definitely a reaction to having the opposite sex of the baby you lost. We dive into the dark, the ugly, the things we only say to each other. Grief is a big topic we discuss as well as how we handled PAL. We LOVE our babies, however, there are moments that we have to process not having the "picture" we always thought we had.

We are open and honest about this and we hope it helps. This is REAL TALK, mommas!

Hit up Liz on IG @lizmyers19 

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NOTE: I am not a doctor or a therapist. The views of my guests are not always reflective of my own.  I am just a real life loss mom describing her experiences with life after loss. These are my experiences, and I'm putting it out there so you feel less alone. Always do your own research and make informed decisions!

For more REAL TALK about baby loss and grief, hit subscribe to be notified when another episode drops!

Support the podcast and shop the store!  At a Total Loss Shop

 Instagram @thekatherinelazar 

Youtube: @thekatherinelazar

Email: thekatherinelazar@gmail.com

Website: www.katherinelazar.com

Some helpful resources:

https://countthekicks.org/

https://www.measuretheplacenta.org/

https://www.pushpregnancy.org/

https://www.tommys.org/

Local to Atlanta:

https://www.northsidepnl.com/

This momma's beautiful daughter was stillborn in 1985. Her perspective ranges over 40 years and she gives insight on what she did and didn't do over the years. We talk about shame behind stillbirth, fear of telling people about them, bringing them through the years and trying to honor them privately.

This is incredible insight from a momma who has done this for decades. If you are a momma who lost years ago, please reach out to her. She is looking to now talk about Sabrina more, help others in this situation, and talk to mommas who may struggle with their grief so long after.

Email Jeanette at jallen@trcac.org

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NOTE: I am not a doctor or a therapist. The views of my guests are not always reflective of my own.  I am just a real life loss mom describing her experiences with life after loss. These are my experiences, and I'm putting it out there so you feel less alone. Always do your own research and make informed decisions!

For more REAL TALK about baby loss and grief, hit subscribe to be notified when another episode drops!

Support the podcast and shop the store!  At a Total Loss Shop

Instagram @thekatherinelazar 

Youtube: @thekatherinelazar

Email: thekatherinelazar@gmail.com

Website: www.katherinelazar.com

Some helpful resources:

https://countthekicks.org/

https://www.measuretheplacenta.org/

https://www.pushpregnancy.org/

https://www.tommys.org/

Local to Atlanta:

https://www.northsidepnl.com/

Brody's dad, my husband Michael is back to answer questions that we polled from Instagram. This is the perspective of a loss dad and you will hear our back and forth regarding how differently we feel and think in grief, coping, PAL and parenting after loss.  Michael also has 3 other episodes: one right after Brody's death, one about TTC and PAL, and the most recent is about holidays after loss. Check them out!

Here are the questions the audience asked and we answered:

• How do you stay strong for Katherine when you feel like you’re struggling too?
• Do you ever have any weak moments in grief that you don't tell Katherine?
• When you have heavy grief moments, how did you deal with it?
• What is the most helpful thing that your wife did for you?
• How did you support Katherine during PAL?
• What was PAL like for the Loss Dad?
• What was helpful during PAL?
• Dad’s perspective of the birth of the second baby?
• Meaningful but useful gifts for Loss Dads?

If you want to reach out to Michael, find him on Instagram at: @lazar.michael 

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NOTE: I am not a doctor or a therapist. The views of my guests are not always reflective of my own.  I am just a real life loss mom describing her experiences with life after loss. These are my experiences, and I'm putting it out there so you feel less alone. Always do your own research and make informed decisions!

For more REAL TALK about baby loss and grief, hit subscribe to be notified when another episode drops!

Support the podcast and shop the store!  At a Total Loss Shop

 Instagram @thekatherinelazar 

Youtube: @thekatherinelazar

Email: thekatherinelazar@gmail.com

Website: www.katherinelazar.com

Some helpful resources:

https://countthekicks.org/

https://www.measuretheplacenta.org/

https://www.pushpregnancy.org/

https://www.tommys.org/

Local to Atlanta:

https://www.northsidepnl.com/

Casey tells us about her beautiful daughter, Charlotte, who was stillborn at 39 weeks from what she feels was a failed induction. She walked into the hospital with a perfectly healthy baby, was heavily monitored but ended up leaving  heartbroken without her daughter. It’s been over 2 years and Casey now hopes to find other loss moms that share her experience of losing her daughter during labor. If you are a momma that has a similar story, please reach out to Casey.

We also discuss:

• Trust in our medical professionals
• The dangers of induction & what we need to be told
• Getting properly informed of ALL risks when having to make decisions
• Having a perfect pregnancy after loss
• Conflicted about God and his involvement
• And a lot more...

You can find Casey on Instagram @Caseyhl21

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NOTE: I am not a doctor or a therapist. The views of my guests are not always reflective of my own.  I am just a real life loss mom describing her experiences with life after loss. These are my experiences, and I'm putting it out there so you feel less alone. Always do your own research and make informed decisions! We are real loss moms telling our FACTS regarding our losses. This isn't to bash anyone, to scare or or lose trust in medical care or deter anyone from decisions they have to make. These are just our stories and we are telling it because it's our life. We wish someone had told us their story. Maybe it would have changed things for us. Take what you want from it and ALWAYS do your own homework. 

For more REAL TALK about baby loss and grief, hit subscribe to be notified when another episode drops!

Support the podcast and shop the store!  At a Total Loss Shop

 Instagram @thekatherinelazar

Youtube: @thekatherinelazar

Email: thekatherinelazar@gmail.com

Website: www.katherinelazar.com

Some helpful resources:

https://countthekicks.org/

https://www.measuretheplacenta.org/

https://www.pushpregnancy.org/

https://www.tommys.org/

Local to Atlanta:

https://www.northsidepnl.com/

Brody's Dad, my husband Michael is back in the studio with me to discuss the upcoming holidays. This is the second holiday season after loss for us and we discuss how different they are from last year's. Michael and I are very different, even in our style of communicating. So this is helpful for those that want to maybe get a glimpse of what their partner may be thinking.

What else we discuss:

• Triggers around the holidays
• Relatives that are insensitive to your loss
• Traditions that include your baby
• Having a living child this year
• Being envious of blissfully ignorant pregnancies
• Him being hyper vigilant with my feelings around the holidays
• Giving pregnant strangers advice
• Having a less than perfect life as a parent vs others
• And a lot more...

This is a candid interview between a married couple. It is our views and ours only. We do not mean to treat or diagnose anyone. We are simply sharing our thoughts and experiences to help you navigate life after baby death.

Follow Michael on Instagram: @lazar.michael

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NOTE: I am not a doctor or a therapist. The views of my guests are not always reflective of my own.  I am just a real life loss mom describing her experiences with life after loss. These are my experiences, and I'm putting it out there so you feel less alone. Always do your own research and make informed decisions!

For more REAL TALK about baby loss and grief, hit subscribe to be notified when another episode drops!

Support the podcast and shop the store!  At a Total Loss Shop

 Instagram @thekatherinelazar

Youtube: @thekatherinelazar

Email: thekatherinelazar@gmail.com

Website: www.katherinelazar.com

Some helpful resources:

https://countthekicks.org/

https://www.measuretheplacenta.org/

https://www.pushpregnancy.org/

https://www.tommys.org/

Local to Atlanta:

https://www.northsidepnl.com/

Lauren tells us about her beautiful boy, Austin, who died at 38 weeks from a cord compression. Her way of accepting what has happened has brought her peace which she explains in this episode. She also discusses how poorly some of the medical professionals around her treated her when Austin was born and then what she DID about it. We've all had experiences with people having no compassion right after our loss and this is how Lauren handled it. She does it the right way and received positive responses from those she spoke to thus making change for all bereaved families to follow her. This is a great episode to listen to if you've ever wanted to approach your medical team about their behavior after your loss.

Lauren has so many great pieces of information on how she handled things in the weeks and months after Austin was born.

We cover:

• How to approach medical staff with facts in order to give feedback on their professional behavior.
• Workplace policy for bereavement leave
• Fighting for policy
• Phases after loss
• Going day to day with loss
• Getting answers and being at peace with them.

Please reach out to Lauren on Instagram at @lkdrizzy 

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NOTE: I am not a doctor or a therapist. The views of my guests are not always reflective of my own.  I am just a real life loss mom describing her experiences with life after loss. These are my experiences, and I'm putting it out there so you feel less alone. Always do your own research and make informed decisions!

For more REAL TALK about baby loss and grief, hit subscribe to be notified when another episode drops!

Support the podcast and shop the store!  At a Total Loss Shop

 Instagram @thekatherinelazar

Youtube: @thekatherinelazar

Email: thekatherinelazar@gmail.com

Website: www.katherinelazar.com

Some helpful resources:

https://countthekicks.org/

https://www.measuretheplacenta.org/

https://www.pushpregnancy.org/

https://www.tommys.org/

Local to Atlanta:

https://www.northsidepnl.com/

Join us as we sit down with Tony, a seasoned veteran, who takes us through the landscape of his life, including the complexities of maintaining family relationships post-divorce. Tony, who's a retired Air National Guardsman and a civil service aircraft mechanic, shares his experiences of navigating life after divorce, the impact it has on mental health, and the importance of family relationships. His story is one of resilience and compassion, offering a candid look at how family dynamics can affect us.

We also delve deep into the challenging world of live streaming, highlighting how negativity can impact the overall conversation. We exchange experiences and strategies to handle such situations and keep the conversations alive. Moving on, we explore different addictions, from money and food to sex and smoking, and how they manifest in our lives. We share our personal experiences, shedding light on how these personal struggles can deeply affect our lives.

Towards the end, we reflect on the significance of healthcare and emergency services in our society, especially in light of a recent distressing incident. We discuss the need for readily available emergency resources and trained personnel in public spaces to ensure everyone's safety. Wrapping up the episode, we extend our heartfelt gratitude to our listeners and promise to continue bringing meaningful and stimulating content. So, tune in and join us in these profound conversations!

Full, unedited episode on YouTube:
Episode 105
https://youtube.com/live/vGvXk_u_pH8

Thank you for stopping by. Please visit our website: All About The Joy and add, like and share. We'd appreciate that greatly. Also, if you want to find us anywhere on social media, please check out the link in bio page.

Music By Geovane Bruno, Moments, 3481
Editing by Team A-J
Host, Carmen Lezeth


DISCLAIMER: As always, please do your own research and understand that the opinions in this podcast and livestream are meant for entertainment purposes only. States and other areas may have different rules and regulations governing certain aspects discussed in this podcast. Nothing in our podcast or livestream is meant to be medical or legal advice. Please use common sense, and when in doubt, ask a professional for advice, assistance, help and guidance.

Crystal-Gayle tells her story from where she lives, Jamaica, and the many efforts she has put in to get change to happen there. Her precious son, Damani, was born prematurely and died just a few short days after his birth. During her time in the hospital, Crystal-Gayle noticed just how horrible the bereavement standards were and how uneducated the staff was on how to treat her. She dives into what she is trying to get done in her country and how she needs help to do so. She is a one woman voice helping so many but needs help from others to amplify her efforts. She is a wonderful mother to her son Damani and you can hear her unending love for him when she tells his story.

To connect with her, find her on Instagram at @4damani 

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I am not a doctor or a therapist. The views of my guests are not always reflective of my own.  I am just a real life loss mom describing her experiences with life after loss. This is my real experiences, and I'm putting it out there so you feel less alone. Always do your own research and make informed decisions!

For more REAL TALK about baby loss and grief, hit subscribe to be notified when another video drops!

 Instagram  @thekatherinelazar

Youtube: @thekatherinelazar

Email: thekatherinelazar@gmail.com

Website: www.katherinelazar.com

Support the Podcast and shop the merch here:  Hoodie Shop

Local to Atlanta:

https://www.northsidepnl.com/

Are you an old soul or forever young at heart? Such a riddle sparked an exciting round table discussion, setting the tone for an unforgettable journey down memory lane. Prepare yourself for an episode filled with laughter, real-life stories, and a touch of nostalgia as my friends and I share our experiences and thoughts. 

Wouldn't it be amazing if you could decode the language of love? Not just yours, but that all-important language of your beloved? We take a fascinating dive into the diverse world of love languages - acts of service, physical touch, gift-giving and words of affirmation, and how understanding these can transform your relationships. And we're not stopping there! We're taking you down the rabbit hole of our social media lives, the good, the bad, and the hilarious. The unexpected pleasures we find through our screens and how it adds a dash of delight in our day-to-day lives.

Imagine if you could time travel and whisper some advice to your younger self. What would you say? We share our thoughts on this, and trust me, it's a wild ride. But what's life without a few embarrassing moments? We bare it all in our final segment, sharing our blush-worthy tales and reflecting on our past choices. So, grab a bowl of popcorn and be ready to giggle along till your sides hurt. Remember, amidst all the chaos and mess, life is indeed beautiful. Join us on this fun-filled ride as we remind ourselves of this fact, one laugh at a time.

Thank you for stopping by. Please visit our website: All About The Joy and add, like and share. We'd appreciate that greatly. Also, if you want to find us anywhere on social media, please check out the link in bio page.

Music By Geovane Bruno, Moments, 3481
Editing by Team A-J
Host, Carmen Lezeth


DISCLAIMER: As always, please do your own research and understand that the opinions in this podcast and livestream are meant for entertainment purposes only. States and other areas may have different rules and regulations governing certain aspects discussed in this podcast. Nothing in our podcast or livestream is meant to be medical or legal advice. Please use common sense, and when in doubt, ask a professional for advice, assistance, help and guidance.

HEADS UP: This episode speaks about having a living baby after loss. Sarah from episode 24 is back to chat with me about our experiences in this phase of loss life with a 4 month and 6 month old. This is uncharted territory for both of us and we have mutually felt that there is not much being said in the loss community about how challenging it is to have a living baby after loss. We want to tell you about what we've learned.  While mine and Sarah's losses are very different, we share the same feelings about the trauma, joy, grief, challenges, and pain that occur when having a living baby after your first baby dies.

We navigated loss life after Brody and Nathanial died. Now we are navigating parenting their little siblings, Wolfy and Thomas. 

This is NOT to scare or treat anyone. This is NOT complaining. We are also not speaking for everyone. This is us talking about our experiences in hopes we can help other mommas who are feeling the same way. Just shedding light on the normalcies having a living baby after loss include. 

What we discuss:

• The less than ideal way the baby after loss arrives
• It's not anything like we imagined
• We prepped for PAL but not for when the baby is here.
• We have the same experiences as other living baby parents do except ours has a layer of trauma 
• Early induction after loss
• Relationships with people who dropped off when our baby died but came back when we had a living one.
• Breastfeeding, pumping, feeding, formula, pain, etc
• Terror over joy
• Guilt for not hyper-focusing on our baby that died.
• The definition of a "good mother"
• Out partners and what they are experiencing
• Finding space to talk about our baby that died.
• Parenting a dead child while raising a living one
• We cover a lot of things...

Find Amy at @whenmybabydied and @totallythomaswilder

Support the podcast and shop the store! At A Total Loss Shop

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I am not a doctor or a therapist. The views of my guests are not always reflective of my own.  I am just a real life loss mom describing her experiences with life after loss. This is my real experiences, and I'm putting it out there so you feel less alone. Always do your own research and make informed decisions!

For more REAL TALK about baby loss and grief, hit subscribe to be notified when another video drops!

 Instagram @thekatherinelazar

Youtube: @thekatherinelazar

Email: thekatherinelazar@gmail.com

Website: www.katherinelazar.com

Amanda from Episode 12 is back! She talks about her recent efforts in DC to create awareness around stillbirth prevention and making moves to stop it. With the organization, Measure the Placenta, she hopes to help make some change in our prenatal healthcare in the US.  She is a wealth of knowledge on this subject and you will learn so much listening to her. This is for anyone that needs light shed on this subject to help others understand what stillbirth actually is and how we can try to stop it from happening in the future...

Here are some great links that we discussed:

Find Amanda's post about DC here! @orangeafmama 

Measure The Placenta info 

Info on the Maternal and Child Health Stillbirth Prevention Act

Info on Measure the Placenta: @measuretheplacenta 

Dr Kliman information

This is a petition to let your members of Congress know why their continued support for both the Stillbirth Health Improvement and Education for Autumn Act (H.R. 5012/S. 2647) and the Maternal and Child Health Stillbirth Prevention Act (H.R. 4581/S. 2231) is crucial to each bills success AND to urge those, who have not supported them in the past, to do so. Link Here: PETITION

Placenta Pathology Findings

Camila is a surrogate Loss Mom who experienced a full term stillbirth. In this episode we discuss her experiences with her surrogacy, the weight it put on her and her family and the preventable death of the baby that she was carrying. We talk about how her grief manifested, her relationship with the biological parents, and her calling to join advocacy and prevention efforts with PUSH for Empowered Pregnancy. As the Director of Communications, she has recently finished her time in DC advocating for changes in legislation to help put a stop to preventable stillbirth. 

This is a very specific topic within an already very rare category. Please share this if you know someone who has had a similar experience as Camila.

Find Camila on IG: @surrogacy_loss_mama 

To get involved: Pushpregnancy.org 

Preventative measures: Countthekicks.org 

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I am not a doctor or a therapist. The views of my guests are not always reflective of my own.  I am just a real life loss mom describing her experiences with life after loss and I'm putting it out there so you feel less alone. Always do your own research and make informed decisions!

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