On Purpose with Jay Shetty

Why do we fall victim to love bombing?

Why do we attract narcissists?

Dr. Ramani is back with eye-opening and science-based insights on narcissism. Dr. Ramani is a licensed clinical psychologist, Professor Emerita of Psychology at California State University Los Angeles, and the Founder and CEO of LUNA Education, Training & Consulting. 

Dr. Ramani discusses the difference between narcissism versus narcissistic personality disorder. She dives into the signs of love bombing and how to stop attracting narcissists. Dr. Ramani also talks about the practical strategies for safeguarding yourself from attracting narcissistic personalities into your life and how to spot the red flags and establish healthy boundaries. 
Join us in understanding the complexities of narcissism, how to foster resilience, establish boundaries, and reclaim yourself.

With Love and Gratitude,
Jay Shetty

What We Discuss:

00:00 Intro
01:09 Narcissism Versus Narcissistic Personality Disorder
05:41 Why Narcissistic People Make History
09:28 How to Not Attract a Narcissist
11:27 A Narcissistic Person is Like a Volcano
14:38 Love Bombing is Winning You Over with Attunement
15:24 From Love Bombing to What Went Wrong 
18:11 Empaths Get Stuck in Trauma-Bonded Relationships
21:45 The Impact of Narcissistic Abuse
25:29 Can You Disengage from a Narcissistic Partner?
26:36 Repeat Perpetrators Harm the Forgiver
28:21 You Can Empathize and Not Forgive
30:42 What is Radical Acceptance?
32:39 Flexibility in Our Psyche
35:20 Grief is the Most Human Experience
38:06 How to Recreate Your Own Subjective Focus
44:13 How to Pull Yourself from any Form of Gaslighting
48:58 Can a Narcissist Ever Heal?
53:38 Is Change Possible?

Episode Resources:
- Dr. Ramani | Website
- Dr. Ramani | Instagram
- Dr. Ramani | YouTube
- Dr. Ramani | TikTok
- It's Not You: Identifying and Healing from Narcissistic People

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Do you find yourself thinking too much about other people’s opinions?

Is it starting to feel like it’s negatively affecting your life? 

Today, Jay unveils the subtle yet pervasive signs that indicate a deep-seated concern for others' opinions and the telltale signs that you may be overly influenced by external validation, from struggling to assert boundaries to outsourcing your decision-making to others.

Jay Also talks about actionable tips and strategies for reclaiming your sense of self-worth and how to draw inspiration from those who have walked a similar path before you, cultivating resilience and self-assurance in the face of external judgment. Explore the transformative power of reframing your self-perception and embracing a mindset of self-acceptance, as Jay emphasizes the importance of clarity and self-awareness in navigating life's challenges. 

In this episode, you'll learn:

• How to not crave external validation
• How to stop people-pleasing
• How to not get swayed by other people’s opinions
• How to stand your ground 

Gain practical tools for cultivating inner strength and confidence, from reframing negative self-talk to recognizing the inherent value of your own opinions and choices.

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

What We Discuss:

• 00:00 Intro
• 02:11 Stop Caring About What People Think
• 04:10 Sign #1: You Get Easily Swayed
• 05:36 Sign #2: You Struggle to Say NO
• 06:18 Sign #3: We Often Want to Please Others
• 06:40 Sign #4: You Outsource Your Choices
• 09:22 Tip #1: Someone Has Been Through a Similar Experience Before You
• 17:00 Tip #2: Don’t Be Someone Who Gossips About Others
• 18:52 Tip #3: Be Clear About How You Feel About Yourself
• 21:06 Tip #4: Opinions Don’t Become Your Reality
• 22:19 Tip #5: Think of the Three Best Decisions You’ve Made in Your Life
• 24:20 Tip #6: People Are Not Thinking About As Much As You Think They Are

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Do you tend to feel tired after eating? 

Do you want to learn simple changes to stay energized and avoid the 3 PM slump? 

On this special episode of On Purpose, My wife Radhi joins us! Radhi is a clinical dietician, nutritionist, and always learning to cook. Radhi brings a modern approach to the ancient principles of holistic wellbeing and earned her Ayurvedic Health Counselor 1 degree at the California College of Ayurveda. Radhi's first ever book called JoyFull: Cook Effortlessly, Eat Freely, Live Radiantly is out right now.

In this episode, Radhi teaches how to nourish our body in a way that's truly individual to you. Plus, pick up some practical tips for making sustainable changes in your diet and embracing the method of Ayurveda for balance and well-being.

Further into the episode, Radhi touches on the three modes of Ayurveda and how they influence our eating habits, intuitive eating practices that honor your body's signals, and the valuable insights to optimize digestion and transform your relationship with food.

In this interview, you'll learn:

• How to change your diet
• How food affects your mood
• The right way to eat proteins
• How to create positive daily routines
• How to change your mindset about food

Get ready to savor each moment, embrace mindful eating, and cultivate a deeper connection with your body and soul. 

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

What We Discuss:

• 00:00 Intro
• 04:17 Recipes Inspired by Family and Love for Food
• 07:09 The Individual nature of Healing Your Body
• 12:01 How to Make Sustainable Changes in Your Body
• 14:52 The Three Modes in Ayurveda
• 20:08 Your Body Deteriorates when You Stop Listening to the Body Cues 
• 23:40 Eat Until Satisfied, Not Stuffed
• 28:35 Why You Need to CHew Your Food Properly
• 32:50 Avoid Cold Drinks and Iced Beverages
• 35:38 Does Skipping Meals Work?
• 38:31 On a Busy Day, How Can You Slow Down?
• 41:41 Overeating Proteins Harm the Body
• 45:02 How to Change Your Relationship with Food
• 51:18 The Value of Spices 
• 55:58 What is Your Morning Routine?
• 58:03 How to Not Feel Lethargic After Lunch
• 01:00:57 Best Practices for Evening Routines
• 01:05:24 The Recipe Game
• 01:11:28 What is Your Hope for People?

Episode Resources:

• Radhi Devlukia | Website
• Radhi Devlukia | Instagram
• Radhi Devlukia | YouTube
• Radhi Devlukia | Facebook
• Radhi Devlukia | TikTok
• JoyFull: Cook Effortlessly, Eat Freely, Live Radiantly

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How do your 'icks' affect your dating life?

And what's the ultimate key to better dating?

Today, Jay is sharing the conversation he had with Jared Freid and Jordana Abraham where he was being interviewed in their podcast, U Up?. The U Up? is a definitive modern dating podcast where they discuss their take on the ebbs and flows of the crazy dating world we live in.

Jay talks about a wide array of topics including the challenges of booking guests for new podcasts, the importance of preparing for important interviews, and his  unique approach to every show, offering listeners a diverse and enriching experience with each episode.

The conversation takes on a serious note when Jay talks about his take expressing anger, dealing with insecurities, and navigating the complexities of modern dating. Gain valuable insights into mindfulness practices and learn how to focus on the wins while amplifying the abundance of life.

In this interview, you'll learn:

• How to deal with insecurities
• How to become a better partner
• How to change your mindset about dating

Truth be told, dating remains one of the challenging hurdles we go through in life but it is also one of the most rewarding when we find the right person to spend our life with.  

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

What We Discuss:

• 00:00 Intro
• 02:43 Calming Positive Influence to Others
• 03:29 The Competitive Aspect of Drinking Games
• 05:26 The Difficulty of Booking Guests for New Podcasts
• 07:05 Preparing for Important Guests
• 08:54 Every Show Has a Unique Offering
• 11:27 How Do You Express Anger and Hate?
• 13:57 Did You Ever Felt Wrongfully Targeted?
• 16:41 Did You Ever Block Anyone?
• 19:58 What are the Biggest Mistakes About Dating Today?
• 25:44 What’s Your Go-To First Date Activity?
• 27:16 Working in the Same Industry with Your Partner 
• 28:52 How Practicing Mindfulness Changes Your Mindset
• 31:07 How Do You Deal with Insecurities?
• 36:18 Focus on the Wins and Amplify the Abundance of Life
• 38:26 Two Things I Look Forward To
• 39:29 What’s Your Travel Pet Peeve?

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What's the top habit for mastering time and energy?

How can we make this habit our own for better time and energy management?

Today, Jay welcomes back his good friend Ed Mylett. Ed is a highly successful entrepreneur who has blended his unique experiences with a diverse set of practical strategies that have made him one of the most sought-after inspirational speakers in the world today. He is a serial entrepreneur who has enjoyed considerable success in part through his unrivaled work ethic and ability to fire up people with his dynamic, high-octane presentations.  Over the years, he has been involved in several tech, real estate, medical, and food ventures, among many others, leading him to be named a Success Magazine SUCCESS 125 most influential leader in 2022.

Have you ever stopped to ponder what lies within the depths of your being? Jay and Ed dive into the depths of self-discovery, from uncovering subconscious anchors to making courageous choices, discover the keys to unlocking your full potential and living a life of purpose. 

The duo explores the power of intention and action in validating your path, and learn how to navigate the challenges of speaking truth with kindness and compassion. Gain insights into overcoming obstacles, embracing change, and cultivating resilience on the path to success, and reflect on the concept of time and its malleability, and discover the rhythms of success that shape our lives. 

In this interview, you'll learn:

• How to maximize your time
• How to not get tied to the past
• How to speak your truth
• How to achieve success
• How to change the trajectory of your life

Tune in to this enlightening conversation with Jay and Ed as they share wisdom, inspiration, and practical guidance to help you navigate the journey of self-discovery and personal growth.

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

What We Discuss:

• 00:00 Intro
• 02:37 What Have You Been Working Inside?
• 05:56 In Life, We Move Towards What We’re Familiar With
• 06:58 How Do We Stop Creating Stress and Chaos?
• 09:12 The Subconscious Anchors That We’re not Using
• 12:50 Doing the Most Courageous Choices in Life
• 15:31 You Are Always Making People Feel Something
• 19:53 What Do You Do with the Weeds in Your Life?
• 21:07 You Validate Your Intention with Your Action
• 26:28 How to Speak Truth to People in a Kind Way?
• 32:54 You Are Born to Do Something Great with Your Life
• 40:15 Can You Bend and Manipulate Time?
• 46:11 Why You Aren’t in the Rhythm of Success
• 51:57 The Things that Got You Where You Are Won’t Get You Where You’re Going
• 55:34 Your Identity is the Thermostat Setting of Your Life  
• 01:01:28 The Danger of Tying Your Identity to What You Do
• 01:04:16 The Three D’s that Will Lead to Burnout 

Episode Resources:

• Ed Mylett | Website
• Ed Mylett | Instagram
• Ed Mylett | Twitter
• Ed Mylett | YouTube
• Ed Mylett | Facebook
• Ed Mylett | TikTok
• Ed Mylett | Books

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How do we build our inner confidence?

And how can we stop pretending that we’re okay even if we aren’t?

In a world where we're constantly comparing ourselves to others, Jay reminds us of the importance of embracing our unique qualities and building inner confidence. We'll dive into the dangers of comparing our relationships to others and how it can affect our self-esteem. And find out why nurturing inner confidence is key for personal growth and happiness. 

Jay also shares practical tips for boosting confidence, like embracing our quirks, celebrating our strengths, and shifting from seeking validation from others to validating ourselves. 

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• How to build self confidence
• How to boost your own strengths
• How to focus more on self-validation

Together, let's learn the actionable ways and and empowering wisdom to help you embrace your uniqueness and cultivate unshakable confidence from the inside out.

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

What We Discuss:

• 00:00 Intro
• 02:45 Getting Lost in Comparison to Other People’s Relationships
• 05:13 Why We Need to Build on Our Inner Confidence
• 08:35 Confidence is the Belief That You Matter
• 12:47 #1: Being Okay with Liking Things That Others Don’t
• 17:19 #2: Start Noticing Your Own Strengths 
• 18:20 #3: Giving Self-Validation Versus Needing External Validation
• 24:05 Your Hero is Your Future Self

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Why does trauma manifest as guilt and shame?

How do we untrap ourselves from the past?

Today, we welcome back renowned speaker on addiction, stress, and childhood development, Dr. Gabor Maté. They dive into the core of human identity and explore the delicate balance between being yourself and seeking acceptance, discovering the liberating truth that authenticity is the ultimate path to self-discovery. Gain insights into the complexities of the human emotional landscape and learn how to navigate and process fear, a powerful force that often holds us captive. 

Gabor talks about the top five regrets of dying people - a profound insight that serve as a compass, guiding us to live a life aligned with our deepest values and aspirations. He also talks about the intricacies of guilt and shares wisdom on how we can untrap ourselves from it, the universality of pain and trauma, the synergy between logic and creativity in problem-solving. 

In this interview, you'll learn:

• How to live with fear and anxiety
• How to deal with deep-rooted trauma
• How to handle grief and pain
• How to improve your personal growth

Together, let's explore the infinite possibilities that unfold when we awaken to our true potential and embrace a mindset of continuous growth.

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

What We Discuss:

• 00:00 Intro
• 03:56 How Do You Heal a Broken Man?
• 07:34 Tell Me Who You Are
• 11:33 The Small Still Voice Within Us
• 13:19 Be Yourself or Be Accepted But not Both at the Same Time
• 17:10 What Are the Most Common Emotions We Feel Everyday? 
• 20:26 How Can We Process and Heal From Fear
• 28:11 How Can You Help Someone Who Refused to Be Helped?
• 31:06 The Top Five Regrets of Dying People
• 36:09 How Do We Untrap Ourselves From Guilt?
• 43:03 There’s No Path Without Pain, So Choose Which Path to Take
• 46:53 Embrace Your Freedom Responsibly 
• 48:46 There’s No Hierarchy in Pain and Trauma
• 51:07 What is Integrative Thinking?
• 59:27 The Book “Blessed with a Brain Tumor” 
• 01:02:00 Can I Continue to Grow?
• 01:04:15 How Do Emotions Translate to Physical Reality?
• 01:13:13 If We Could Just Wake Up to Our Possibilities

Episode Resources:

• Dr. Gabor Maté | Website
• Dr. Gabor Maté | Instagram
• Dr. Gabor Maté | Twitter
• Dr. Gabor Maté | YouTube
• Dr. Gabor Maté | Facebook
• The Myth of Normal: Trauma, Illness, and Healing in a Toxic Culture 

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Have you been struggling to get over your ex?

Do you want to find healing after a painful breakup?

Then this episode is for you.

Today, Jay will talk about the complexities of heartbreak and grief, shedding light on the profound emotional and physiological effects of romantic loss. He unravels the intricate workings of the human brain's obsession with love, exploring the biological and psychological mechanisms triggered by heartbreak. There are different physiological changes that occur in the body during a breakup, illuminating the intensity of emotions experienced in the aftermath of romantic dissolution.

Through poignant anecdotes and expert insights, Jay navigates through the stages of grief, offering a compassionate understanding of the rollercoaster of emotions that accompany loss. From denial to anger, bargaining to depression, and ultimately acceptance, Jay guides listeners through the transformative journey of healing and growth.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• How to overcome a breakup
• The physical manifestations of a heartbreak
• The different stages of grief

Whether you're in the midst of a breakup or seeking to support a loved one through their journey of healing, this episode offers invaluable insights to help you navigate the path forward with grace and resilience. 

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

What We Discuss:

• 00:00 Intro
• 02:19 What Happens When Someone Breaks Our Heart?
• 03:54 The Human Brain Is Obsessed with Love
• 04:55 What Happens in the Body During a Breakup?
• 09:36 Why Breakups Are Comparable to Addiction Withdrawal
• 11:36 The Rage Room
• 13:58 The FIve Stage of Grief
• 16:38 THe First Stage - Denial
• 20:42 The Second Stage - Anger
• 23:03 The Third Stage - Bargaining
• 25:37 The Fourth Stage - Depression  
• 27:33 The Final Stage - Acceptance
• 29:02 This is the Best Way to Describe Grief

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How can you let go of something you love to do?

And when is the right time to let go?

Today, Jay is joined by Emmy Award winning host, writer, producer, and actor, James Corden. James is also a Tony Award winning and Golden Globe nominated actor; and a multiple BAFTA Award winner. In April 2023, James wrapped up his eight-year run as host of THE LATE LATE SHOW, which premiered on CBS in March 2015. The show garnered Corden four Emmy Award wins and an additional twenty-three Emmy Award nominations. Corden is the co-creator and executive producer of CARPOOL KARAOKE: THE SERIES for Apple TV+ which won five consecutive Emmy Awards and is currently nominated for 2023. The series also won three Producers Guild Awards, a Critics’ Choice Real TV Award and was nominated for a Writers Guild Award.  

James takes you through the successive successes and inevitable misses that shape our lives, the impact of expectations on our experiences and unravel the true meaning of success. He touches on his love for performance, the driving force behind success, and the reality that not all efforts receive the recognition they deserve; as well as the reflective process during significant transitions and gain insights into the complexities of the narcissistic dream.

As the conversation continues, James presents the powerful analogy of letting a balloon go, symbolizing the liberation that comes with releasing expectations. They also touch on the importance of mindful living, questioning how much of tomorrow you're willing to borrow.  

In this interview, you'll learn:

• How to effectively chase after success
• How to pick yourself up after failure
• The importance of surrounding yourself with good people
• How to balance family life and career
• How to make your marriage work
• How to slow down when things get tough

This episode is a reminder to cultivate a life filled with purpose, the art of slowing down, embracing life's pace, and savoring each moment. 

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

What We Discuss:

• 00:00 Intro
• 02:52 The Successive Success and the Many Misses in Between
• 08:32 The Expectation OF is What Mostly Ruins Things
• 10:22 What is the True Meaning of Success?
• 12:56 Love for Performance and the Drive for Success
• 17:23 Not All Efforts Get Rewarded
• 20:36 Your Life Can Get Flipped Over Every Single Day
• 23:38 Reflection Process During Big Transitions
• 28:13 The Narcissist’s Dream
• 35:50 The Analogy of Letting a Balloon Go
• 41:02 Becoming More than the Man You Actually Are
• 46:44 Sleep is an Extraordinary Gift
• 49:42 How Much of Tomorrow Are You Willing to Borrow?
• 53:15 Why Do You Need to Stop Going on a Diet?
• 56:21 How Do You Keep Good Friends Around?
• 01:00:32 How to Calmly Talk to Your Child?
• 01:06:14 Where is the Best Place to Raise Your Family and Kids?
• 01:11:24 Effective Communication Between Married Couple
• 01:15:43 The Story of a Man Who Just Kept Going
• 01:21:08 The David Beckham Statue Prank
• 01:22:35 Learning to Slow Down and Not Rush Anything
• 01:32:27 James on Final Five

Episode Resources:

• James Corden | Instagram
• James Corden | Twitter
• The Late Late Show with James Corden | YouTube
• The Late Late Show with James Corden | TikTok

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Do you want to do more this month?

How do you effectively become more productive?

Today, Jay will share with us how to maximize your efficiency, ensuring that this month becomes your most productive one yet. Are you ready to unlock your full potential? 

Jay introduces the concept of 25-minute stretches of focused work, strategically interspersed with 5-minute breaks—a game-changer for heightened productivity. Or engage in job-related tasks for 52 minutes and then take a 17-minute break. 

Jay sheds light on the wisdom behind the practice of tackling the easiest or hardest tasks first, providing valuable insights into mastering time management. Let's uncover the secrets of distinguishing between creative and logical days, understanding how to harness each for optimal results. 

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• How to become more productive effectively
• How to manage your time without stress
• How to be more intentional with time management

The best way to remain productive is to find ways to eliminate distractions that keep you from accomplishing your tasks. 

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

What We Discuss:

• 00:00 Intro
• 01:20 Do you want to become more productive this month?
• 03:44 #1: Engage In Job Related Tasks For 52 Minutes And Then Take A 17-Minute Break 
• 06:57 #2: The 25 minute stretches of focused work broken down by 5-minute breaks
• 11:32 #3: TTC - Task, Time, Calendar
• 15:44 #4: The Practice of Doing the Easiest/Hardest Things First
• 17:38 #5: Creative Versus Logical Days
• 22:00 #6: Energy Versus Time
• 25:13 #7: Putting Your Phone Away Lessens Distraction

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Do you feel that you struggle with being authentic? 

Do you want to overcome the judgment of society's perceptions of what it means to be authentic? 

Today, Jay sits down with Lil Nas X. Lil Nas X is a 24-year-old award-winning rapper, singer, songwriter from Atlanta, Georgia. Dubbed “an internationally recognized phenomenon” by Billboard, Lil Nas X rose to fame in 2019 when he released “Old Town Road” and shattered genre norms, disrupted the charts and went viral worldwide.  After a highly successful EP and several multi-platinum songs, Nas went on to release his critically acclaimed and GRAMMY-nominated debut album Montero in September 2021, which featured the culture-shifting 6x Platinum hit “MONTERO (Call Me By Your Name)”. Following the release of Lil Nas X’s latest single “J CHRIST”, his beautiful new documentary, Lil Nas X: Long Live Montero, debuted this weekend on HBO and is available to stream now on Max.

In this vulnerable episode Lil Nas X shares his story from being a shy kid in Atlanta Georgie to achieving his wildest dreams. Lil Nas X has proven that there is power of self-awareness and embracing your true identity, even in the face of loss and grief. He shares with us personal stories that have shaped him into the person he is today, and the person he is working on becoming. 

The conversation navigates through fears, the misunderstood aspects of Lil Nas' message in his latest single, and the importance of cherishing time with family. They discuss spirituality, the quest for genuine love, dealing with a lack of control, and overcoming inner voices. 

In this interview, you'll learn:

• How to embrace authenticity
• How to deal with societal expectations
• How to be true to yourself
• How to genuinely believe in what you love to do
• How to make peace with your inner voice

Tune in for a thought-provoking and heartwarming conversation that validates our humanness, flaws and strengths, and our ability to overcome difficult times.

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

What We Discuss:

• 00:00 Intro
• 02:42 Fascination for Time Traveling
• 03:55 Lil Nas X Helped Montero Morph Out of Being a Super Shy Kid  
• 07:04 There’s No Reason to Stop, Even You Mess Up
• 08:57 What’s Your Favorite Childhood Memory?
• 10:32 Becoming Self Aware and More In Tune with Your Sexuality
• 11:24 Losing a Loved One to Cancer
• 16:22 A Song About not Being Present When a Loved One Needed You So Much
• 17:39 Appreciating and Cherishing Time Spent with Family  
• 19:27 What Scares You the Most Right Now?
• 20:56 What Does Positive Chaos Look LIke?
• 22:14 The Part of Montero’s Message That Got Misunderstood
• 26:30 My Relationship with My Father
• 28:52 We All Have Our Own Ideals in Seeing Other People 
• 31:09 Freedom to Explore Your Spirituality
• 35:05 This One Being That’s Connected to Everything
• 36:28 Being Authentic and Relatable at the Same Time
• 38:37 Fully Open to Finding Real, Genuine Love
• 42:10 Overpowering the Voices in Your Head
• 45:23 The Ability to Recognize that Everything has Its Place
• 45:58 Allowing Your Younger Self to Grow 
• 47:35 Things that Haven’t Been Said to My Family Are in the Documentary
• 50:35 How to Help Others Work on Their Best Self
• 54:04 How Do We Deal with Our Lack of Control?
• 56:03 Why We Need to Relax Sometimes to Stay Sane
• 57:23 The Habit of Watching a Movie to Take a Break
• 59:34 What Are You Focusing on Over the Next 12 Months?
• 01:01:39 Do You Believe in Angel Numbers?
• 01:03:24 What Do You Do When You Can’t See the Signs?
• 01:05:11 Lil Nas X on Final Five

Episode Resources:

• Lil Nas X | Instagram
• Lil Nas X | Twitter
• Lil Nas X | YouTube
• Lil Nas X | TikTok
• Lil Nas X | Facebook
• Welcome to Montero

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Are you struggling to silence your inner critic?

Is it becoming too loud and overwhelming? 

Today, Jay guides you through the art of silencing your inner critic and the reasons behind our tendency to quit. Unpack the various types of criticism influencing our inner dialogue, and discover actionable tips to befriend your inner critic. Jay's insights span from the importance of self-love in catalyzing change to the transformative power of language, urging you to remove the "I Am" statement. 

Learn the practice of journaling wins, cultivating resilience, and celebrating daily victories. And unpack how to navigate challenges with resilience, staying true to your goals despite the internal resistance.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• Why your inner critic is so loud
• How to take control of your inner critic
• How to think differently about yourself
• How to celebrate small wins

Listen in, reflect, be in tune to a more positive and empowered self-perception. 

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

What We Discuss:

• 00:00 Intro
• 02:00 How To Silence Your Inner Critic When It’s Too Loud
• 03:29 This Is The Reason Why We Quit Doing Something
• 05:15 The Two Broad Types Of Criticism
• 06:35 7 Tips To Befriend Your Inner Critic
• 08:03 #1: You Can’t Hate Yourself Into Change
• 12:24 #2: Give Your Inner Critic A Name
• 12:56 #3: You Heard Your Inner Critic From Someone Else First
• 16:55 #4: Remove The “I Am” Statement
• 17:59 #5: Don’t Let Your Inner Critic Stop You From Making The Right Action
• 23:24 #6: Start Journaling Your Wins And Good Moments
• 26:04 #7: Write Down 3 Things You Did Well Today

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Do you want to know how to respond when no one believes you?

Do you know other people’s perception of you isn’t your reality?

Today, Jay Shetty sits down with Daniel Kaluuya. Known for his role as Fred Hampton in Shaka King's American biographical crime drama film Judas and The Black Messiah, Daniel won the 2021 Academy Award, British Academy Film Award, and Golden Globe Award for Best Actor in Supporting Role. His feature film writing debut with Netflix, The Kitchen has received positive reviews.

While football is a well loved topic between Jay and Daniel, the conversation shifted on Daniel’s earliest childhood memories that left an indelible mark on his life. We uncover the roots of his resilience and determination and his unwavering interest in writing. 

Daniel looks back into the challenges he faced for having dark skin and offers his insights on how to change our mindset around racism. We will learn about the cost of chasing our desires, the inspiration behind “The Kitchen”, and the transformative power of bringing ideas into existence. Together they unpack the importance of making peace with people's perceptions, and the courage it takes to share your work and passion with the world. 

In this interview, you’ll learn:

• How to pursue your passion
• How overcome your limits
• How to turn ideas into reality
• How to develop resilience

Join us on this soul-stirring exploration of life, growth, and the resilience that lies within each of us.

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

What We Discuss:

• 00:00 Intro
• 01:19 Earliest Childhood Memory That Changed Your Life
• 06:07 What Would You Do When No One Believes In You?
• 08:51 How the Interest in Writing Started
• 11:52 Learning the Art of Improv
• 14:25 Shared Love for Football
• 19:27 Getting Shamed for Having Dark Skin
• 23:37 How to Change Your Mindset Around Racism
• 25:41 Standing Up For the Decisions that You Make
• 27:46 The Cost of Wanting Something is High
• 30:25 The Inspiration for The Kitchen
• 33:54 Exposing Why People Live the Way They Do
• 38:36 Overcoming the Fear of Making an Idea a Reality
• 43:16 The Power of One Idea
• 48:21 How Bringing Things into Existence can Change You
• 52:29 Making Peace with People’s Perception of You
• 58:51 Sharing Your Work and Passion to the World 
• 01:01:36 Daniel on Final Five

Episode Resources:

Daniel Kaluuya | Instagram

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Do you want your relationships in 2024 to uplift you and the others around you?

Do you want your relationships to bring you energy and not drain you?

Then this episode is for you.

Today, Jay shares insights on building stronger connections. Discover the proactive steps to create bonds that will withstand the test of time, moving beyond surface-level ties. Uncover the five types of relationships you can invest in for genuine and enduring connections.

Jay explores the concept of belonging—the magic that happens when we become part of a community. From the joy of shared experiences to the comfort of knowing you're not alone. Your journey can take an introspective turn when you look deep into the vital relationship with ourselves—the key to true independence and the layers of self-discovery and the profound impact it has on our overall well-being.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• How to boost your existing relationships
• How to create new and better relationships
• How to be more in-tune with yourself
• How to upgrade your connections and community

Join Jay as he guides us through the transformative power of relationships built on selfless love and devotion.

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

What We Discuss:

• 00:00 Intro
• 01:56 The 5 Types of Relationships We Need in Our Life
• 03:16 Type #1: Belonging - Being a Part of a Community
• 09:32 Type #2: Legacy - Feeling Connected to Something Bigger
• 14:11 Type #3: Independence - A Relationship with Ourselves
• 18:33 Type #4: Safety Relationships - The People that Bring Stability in Our Lives
• 23:39 Type 35: Service - Relationships Based on Surrender and Service

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Do you want to know the secret to know if your chemistry will last? 

Are you wondering why you can't move on from your ex?

If you have questions about love and relationships, this episode is for you. Psychotherapist and New York Times bestselling author Esther Perel is back. Esther is recognized as one of today’s most insightful and original voices on modern relationships. Esther’s TED Talks have garnered more than 40 million views and her bestselling books, Mating in Captivity and The State of Affairs, are global phenomena. Esther is also the host of the hit podcast Where Should We Begin? which is available on Apple Podcasts.

If you've ever wondered when a relationship is worth saving or why we grieve after a breakup, Esther has incredible insights to share that you can apply to your own relationship. Let's discover the power of accountability in relationships and how it can trigger positive change. We discuss the art of turning conflict into connection. Also, we uncover the negative effects of losing curiosity and how it impacts our connections.

The conversation also fearlessly tackles the topics of betrayal, lack of trust, and the intersection of relationships, technology, and mental health. Get ready for a fascinating exploration of the narratives that shape our relationships, the dynamics between rationalists and romantics, and what truly makes a real relationship.

In this interview, you’ll learn:

• How to turn conflicts into genuine connection
• Why relationships often fail
• How to save your correct relationship
• What to do after a breakup
• How to boost trust and confidence in a relationship

It is truly a thought-provoking and heartfelt journey into the essence of human connection.

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

Thank you to Soho Works 10 Jay in Dumbo for hosting us for this episode.

What We Discuss:

• 00:00 Intro
• 02:12 When is a Relationship Worth Saving?
• 03:51 Why Do We Grieve After a Breakup?
• 05:14 Accountability in Relationships Can Trigger Change
• 10:00 How to Turn Conflict Into Connection 
• 14:10 People Try to Overcome Fear by Gaining Control
• 17:14 The Negative Effects of the Loss of Curiosity
• 22:09 Blaming the Other Doesn’t Solve Anything
• 27:21 How to Make Your Partner Feel Important 
• 29:10 Other Mediums to Express What You’re Unable to Say
• 36:01 Do New Things Together
• 38:08 There are Lingering Feelings that Stays Even After Breakup
• 41:53 We All Fear Betrayal and Lack of Trust
• 43:35 How to Value and Protect Your Relationship
• 50:50 The Real Story Before and After Betrayal
• 55:33 The Intersection of Relationships, Technology, and Mental Health
• 01:01:50 The False Relationship Narrative that Failed us
• 01:04:22 The Rationalists and the Romantics
• 01:06:23 What Makes for a Real Relationship?
• 01:10:04 Diversifying Long-Term Relationships
• 01:15:55 Your Partner’s Opinion Matters
• 01:21:11 The Real Definition of Self Confidence
• 01:24:59 We Are Drawn to People We Don’t Want to Become
• 01:28:03 Where Should We Begin A Game of Stories with Esther Perel

Episode Resources:

• Esther Perel | Website
• Esther Perel | Twitter
• Esther Perel | Instagram
• Esther Perel | YouTube
• Esther Perel | Facebook
• Esther Perel | Books
• Where Should We Begin? with Esther Perel

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How can you stay motivated in 2024?

How can you stay on track when things get though?

There is always a challenge, some resistance, or pressure to break your goals and lose motivation. Today, Jay will unpack why it’s become difficult to maintain motivation throughout the year. There are scientifically proven ways to boost your motivation and stay motivated.  

From investing on people and personalities that is linked to your goal and that can give you positive influence and the three people you need in your life when things get too tough to doing the things that you’ve been planning to do but haven’t got the time to complete, there are options and tips available for you to get that motivation back and stir your path to the right goals. 

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• How to stay focused on your goals
• How to effectively set goals
• How to bring back motivation
• How to do the things you’re set on doing

There's a wealth of options and insights waiting for you to reclaim your motivation and steer your journey toward the right goals.

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

What We Discuss:

• 00:00 Intro
• 01:22 There’s always a challenge to break your goal
• 02:59 Tip #1: The Four Stages of Cognitive Restructuring
• 07:52 Tip #2: Follow All The Right Accounts That Is Linked To Your Goal
• 10:26 Tip #3: Tick Off Anything That You’ve Completed In The Day
• 14:21 Tip #4: The Three People You Need In Your Life When You Lose Motivation
• 17:04 Tip #5: The Most Important Thing Is How You Feel After You Do Something
• 20:05 Tip #6: You Got Everything Done Except For The One Thing That You Needed To Do
• 22:10 Tip #7: Your Fitness And Wellness Is Based On The Quality Of Your Sleep
• 24:01 Tip #8: The 20-Minute Routine You Need To Practice

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Do you want to learn how to strengthen your relationship over time? 

Do you want to have better communication and expectations with your partner? 

On this very special episode of On Purpose, Jay Shetty sits down with the former First Lady of the country, Michelle Obama. During Michelle’s time as First Lady, Michelle launched several initiatives, including "Let's Move!" which aimed to combat childhood obesity, and "Reach Higher," promoting higher education. Her memoir "Becoming," released in 2018, became one of the best-selling books of that year and took the world by storm. Today we sit down to talk about her most recent book, “The Light We Carry.” 

In this raw conversation, Michelle opens up about her thoughts on marriage, fame, and public service. She talks about the toxicity of social media and technology that affects our mental health and how to be open to the changes and possibilities people bring with them. She also talks about how negative news and social updates are affecting our society and the community we are in.

We also dive deep into relationships and  why we put so much pressure on our marriage, how to choose the right person for you and make the relationship work even when it isn’t perfect, and how to practice constructive arguments with your partner.

In this interview, you’ll learn:

• How to think freely and independently
• How to take care of your mental health
• How to become a supportive partner
• How deal with negativity
• How to become an effective leader
• How to make your marriage last  

Together we’ll learn how to find calm amid life's noise, give people the space to be seen and heard, and explore topics that resonate with the very fabric of our personal growth journey.

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

What We Discuss:

• 00:00 Intro
• 01:18 What is the Best Part of Being You?
• 02:16 What’s Your Longest Friendship?
• 03:16 The Struggle of Leaving the People You Love Behind
• 06:36 Be Open to the Possibilities of People
• 11:36 What’s the Hardest Part of Being You?
• 14:23 When You Lose a Piece of Yourself
• 16:48 What Keeps You Up at Night?
• 19:00 Allow Your Brain to Rest from the Noise
• 24:26 Mindful Usage of Technology
• 26:48 We Consume More Negative News Daily
• 31:03 How Do You Sustain a Successful Relationship?
• 35:33 The Non-Negotiables in Any Relationship
• 37:08 You Are Responsible for Your Own Happiness
• 42:50 What is Your Fight Style?
• 48:42 Giving People Space to Be Seen and Heard
• 53:15 What Offends You the Most?
• 54:39 The Best Personal Growth Moments
• 59:59 Conclusion with Michelle Obama

Episode Resources:

• Michelle Obama | Instagram
• Michelle Obama | Facebook.
• Michelle Obama | Books
• Obama Foundation 
• The Light We Carry: Overcoming in Uncertain Times

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What do you want to change in 2024?

What goal do you want to achieve this year?

Happy New Year! Today, let’s focus on making your new year’s resolution into a reality. For many, there’s a lot they want to change, overcome, and succeed in but not everyone has the resolve to take action and actually make it happen. 

As we step into 2024, Jay guides us through four dynamic approaches: a year of learning, experimenting, performance, or thriving. No matter your choice, let's laser-focus on your top goals. Remember, even colossal goals can be conquered by breaking them down into manageable chunks. 

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• How to set better goals
• How to make your year productive
• How effectively achieve your goals 

Let's make 2024 a year of learning, experimenting, and finding success in life, love, and career! 

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

What We Discuss:

• 00:00 Intro
• 03:10 What Type Of Year Is 2024 For You?
• 04:22 #1: What is 2024 For You?
• 05:10 A Year of Learning
• 08:02 A Year of Experimenting
• 09:58 A Year of Performance
• 10:48 A Year to Thrive
• 12:30 #2: A Year From Now, What Would You Want To Be True About You And Your Life?  
• 15:57 #3 The 1-4-3-1 Method
• 20:18 Know That You Will Fall Off Your Plan
• 22:20 Be Compassionate to Yourself and to Others
• 27:00 Let’s Make 2024 the Year You’ve Been Waiting For

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Do you want to know the secret to living a long healthy life? 

Do you want to know what the healthiest people in the world drink everyday?

Dan, a best-selling author and explorer, shares his extensive research and knowledge on the communities where people live the longest and healthiest lives. As the mind behind the acclaimed book, "The Blue Zones Secrets for Living Longer: Lessons from the Healthiest Places on Earth," and the visionary behind the Netflix docu-series, Dan Buettner brings a wealth of knowledge about how to live to 100+.

This conversation explores the common threads that weave through these diverse group of people, unlocking the keys to a fulfilling and enduring life .From diet and daily habits to the profound sense of community, Dan Buettner offers profound insights into how these lessons from the Blue Zones can be applied to our own lives. 

Tune in for a thought-provoking conversation that bridges ancient traditions with modern living, and learn how you can integrate the Blue Zones' transformative lessons into your own pursuit of a healthier, more meaningful and longer life

In this interview you’ll learn: 

• Practical lessons for a longer life 
• What role your genes play in the length of your life 
• What you can add to your diet daily that will add 4 years to your life 
• How our environment plays a key role in our life 
• Tangible steps we can take to improve our overall well being 
• How plant based diets can significantly improve our health 
• How a sense of purpose and community can enhance our life and longevity 

Dan’s passion for understanding and unlocking the secrets to longevity has influenced the world and I hope it does the same for you. 

With Love and Gratitude, 

Jay Shetty 

What we Discuss:

• 00:00 Intro 
• 03:40 How much of our genes determine how long we will live 
• 09:23 The secret to a healthy America 
• 14:30 The overconsumption of meat is hurting us
• 18:15 We spend twice as much time in our cars than we did in the 1980s
• 20:24 The power of community  
• 24:50 The hack to a longer life isn’t based solely on diet and exercise but also community 
• 27:13 Using elders as a longevity strategy for community 
• 30:40 Green tea can add to your longevity 
• 35:33 How beans and grains are cornerstones in the oldest global communities 
• 38:11 What has changed over the years that has added to our mortality rate 
• 43:40 The power of creating a social circle around health 
• 44:35 Reminder to stop eating when stomachs are 80% full 
• 47:27 What the last bluezone 1.0  will be 
• 51:16 What most cities should consider in order to become a blue zone 
• 54:43 How a sense of purpose and clarity can add to our longevity 
• 55:03 Conclusion 

Episode Resources:

• Dan Buettner | Facebook
• Dan Buettner | Instagram
• Dan Buettner | Website

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As we approach the close of 2024, this episode is not just about reflecting on the lessons learned; it's about sharing the transformative insights that will illuminate our path forward.

Jay poses a question that resonates deeply: How many of us stress about our well-being? From health and meditation to daily journals and affirmations, the pursuit of self-improvement often brings with it a surge of stress. 

Jay challenges you to explore the idea of stress as a spectrum, a nuanced scale rather than a binary state. This concept is monumental and understanding stress can be a game changer for you this coming year. 

In this episode, Jay unpacks the idea that sometimes the goal of wanting to be better and do better puts us under greater pressure. 

Let Jay guide you as he explains positive stress, distress and the lessons he learned this year that are meant to be carried forward and put into practice. It's not just about learning; it's about application, about making these lessons a living, breathing part of our lives.

This episode is your go to to close off the year and prepare yourself for a beautiful journey in 2024. 

With Love and Gratitude, 

Jay Shetty 

In this episode you’ll learn: 

• Differentiating positive stress and distress
• Finding your center 
• Top stressful events for adults 
• Knowing when to be hard on yourself and when to let go 

What we discuss: 

• 00:00 Intro 
• 03:02 The Big Lesson I Am Taking Into 2024 
• 03:34 #1 Understanding Stress As A Spectrum
• 04:49 The Positive Side Of Stress
• 10:30 Living In Distress
• 17:09 #2 Finding Your Center 
• 20:28: #3 Being More Compassionate And Understanding Of How Others Deal With Stress 
• 21:25 The Ultimate Gamechanger

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