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    The 5 Relationships You Need To Invest in to Supercharge Your 2024 (Backed By Science)

    enJanuary 19, 2024
    Why is a sense of belonging important for well-being?
    How does belonging combat negative emotions like sadness?
    What does Jay Shetty propose for men to heal socially?
    How does authenticity contribute to personal and professional success?
    What role does legacy play in creating a sense of belonging?

    Podcast Summary

    • The power of belonging: why it's essential for our well-beingCultivating a sense of belonging not only improves our mental and physical health but also helps us combat negative emotions, find inner harmony, and build fulfilling relationships in 2024.

      Our sense of belonging is crucial for our mental and physical well-being. We all crave a feeling of connectedness and being a part of a community. Research shows that when we feel like we belong, it creates inner harmony and balance, leading to better overall health. Belonging helps us combat negative emotions such as sadness, loneliness, anger, and grief. It's important to recognize the groups and communities we are a part of or need to invest in, as they contribute to our sense of identity. Whether existing communities or ones we need to build, focusing on belonging can bring us the uplifting and energizing relationships we desire in 2024.

    • Creating a Safe Space for Men to Heal and ConnectMen can overcome fear of judgment and build deep connections by participating in therapy and coaching sessions within a supportive group, ultimately fulfilling their need for belonging and making a positive impact on others.

      Men often struggle to heal and build deep connections with others due to fear of judgment and a focus on external achievements. Jay Shetty recognizes the need for a safe space where men can open up and support each other's healing. He plans to create a men's group with therapists, coaches, and guides to facilitate sessions that promote healing and deepen relationships. Shetty emphasizes the importance of creating a sense of belonging beyond superficial interactions and finding ways to meet the real needs of our communities. Furthermore, he highlights the significance of legacy, which is about feeling connected to something bigger and leaving a positive impact on others. By fostering meaningful relationships, individuals can create a sense of belonging and contribute to a greater purpose.

    • The Power of Connecting and Nurturing RelationshipsBuilding deep connections with diverse individuals who inspire us can lead to personal growth, a sense of belonging, and support on our journey towards fulfillment and abundance.

      Building deep and meaningful relationships is essential for personal and professional growth. Jay Shetty's dinner gathering showcased the power of connecting with others who share a similar purpose and legacy, even if they are not part of our immediate social circle. The dinner allowed for vulnerability and trust, as each person shared their successes, challenges, and flaws. It highlights the importance of stepping outside of our comfort zones and engaging with individuals from different backgrounds and perspectives. By focusing on who we are becoming and nurturing relationships with others who inspire us, we can create a sense of belonging and support in our journey towards personal fulfillment and abundance.

    • Embracing Authenticity for Personal Growth and SuccessBeing true to yourself attracts aligned opportunities, prevents others from molding you, prioritizes happiness and growth, and fosters trust and deeper connections with others.

      Knowing who you want to become and embracing your true self is crucial for personal growth and success. When you radiate your authentic energy and values, you attract opportunities that align with your desires. By being true to yourself, you prevent others from molding you into someone you're not. It's important to prioritize your own happiness and growth, bringing that positivity into all aspects of your life, including your workplace. This authenticity not only illuminates your own world but also inspires trust and deeper connections with others. Trust is built over time and depth of experience, seeing someone in different emotional states. Building trust is like stacking building blocks, and it requires a holistic understanding of the person.

    • Building meaningful relationships through trust, investment, and service.Nurture relationships like plants in a garden, spend time with mentors, uplift peers, serve others, and follow the five-step model for more fulfilling relationships and positive impact.

      Building meaningful relationships requires trust, investment, and service. It's important to have a few trusted individuals in our lives who we can rely on during tough times, like a "midnight friend." We shouldn't take relationships for granted, but instead, nurture and invest in them like plants in a garden. The 20-60-20 rule suggests spending 20% of our time with mentors, 60% with peers who uplift us and whom we uplift, and 20% serving others. Being both a teacher and a student fosters humility and proactivity. By following the five-step model of bliss, belonging, legacy, independence, safety, and surrender, we can experience more fulfilling relationships and make a positive impact on the world.

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    Today, Jay welcomes Ryan Holiday, renowned philosopher, bestselling author, and host of The Daily Stoic. With over 10 million copies of his books sold globally, Ryan returns to the podcast to dive deep into the concepts of personal growth, parenting, and finding purpose in a success-driven world.

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    With Love and Gratitude,

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    • 01:15:30 Fear as a Parent
    • 01:19:11 This Stops with Me     

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    On Purpose with Jay Shetty
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    8 Reasons Why Traveling Alone is the Ultimate Path to Self-Discovery & Why You Should Take a Solo Trip

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    Have you ever thought about taking a solo trip?

    What do you think you'd learn about yourself if you traveled alone?

    Today, Jay unpacks the unexpected benefits of solo travel. Whether you’re an avid traveler or someone hesitant to step out of your comfort zone, traveling alone, even just once, can be one of the most powerful experiences of your life. 

    Jay explains how solo travel helps break free from the “herd mentality”—when we defer to the preferences of those around us—and instead allows us to deeply understand our own desires and needs. You’ll learn how traveling alone can expand your worldview, teach self-reliance, and push you to explore not just new places but new aspects of yourself.

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    How to Boost Self-Reliance

    How to Connect with New People and Cultures

    How to Build Confidence Through Solo Travel

    Whether you're seeking new perspectives or personal growth, traveling alone can be a powerful tool to reconnect with your true self.

    With Love and Gratitude,

    Jay Shetty

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    00:00 Intro

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    04:50 #1: Learn More About Yourself

    11:10 #2: Improve Your Confidence

    13:43 #3: Expand Your Worldview 

    16:53 #4: Develop Self-Reliance

    19:49 #5: Master Your Mind

    21:54 #6: Beat Boredom and Distraction

    23:09 #7: Vigilance

    24:55 #8: Get to Know Diverse People

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    On Purpose with Jay Shetty
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    How do you communicate them clearly?

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    Jay and Nicole explore how awareness is the first step toward breaking these patterns. They emphasize the importance of understanding our subconscious beliefs and the roles we play in relationships, often unknowingly repeating cycles of pain and misunderstanding. She talks about the importance of staying present, learning to regulate our emotions, and building healthier habits that align with our true selves, and offers practical advice on how to navigate the complexities of love, whether it's setting boundaries with toxic family members or letting go of unrealistic expectations in romantic relationships.

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    Remember, every moment is an opportunity to choose differently, to show up for ourselves with kindness, and to build the relationships we truly deserve.

    With Love and Gratitude,

    Jay Shetty

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    • 11:21 Change is Voluntary
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    • 18:35 Why We Struggle in Relationships
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    • 27:27 We Project What We Think to Others
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    On Purpose with Jay Shetty
    enSeptember 09, 2024

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    How to use challenges to evolve

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    With Love and Gratitude,

    Jay Shetty

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    07:08 #2: Envy will erode your life.

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    18:37 #7: You'll let things define you if you don't define them first.

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    21:34 #9: Try to see things as an invitation, not an impediment. 

    24:07 #10: Sometimes to get to your dreams, you have to take the stairs, the elevator, or come through the roof.

    25:17 #11: The people you leave behind will feel left behind no matter what you do.

    26:35 #12 Love is not enough.

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    On Purpose with Jay Shetty
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    In this interview, you'll learn:

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    How to deal with the pressure of expectations

    How to use personal struggles as a source of strength

    How to maintain creativity under pressure

    How to find redemption through new opportunities

    How to help others through your work

    Nicky's story demonstrates that with unwavering determination and a genuine approach, it's possible to transform challenging beginnings into legacies of success and enduring influence.

    With Love and Gratitude,

    Jay Shetty

    What We Discuss:

    • 00:00 Intro
    • 03:12 Earliest Childhood Memory
    • 04:06 First Deal
    • 06:44 I Was Happy with the Album
    • 08:15 Life on the Streets
    • 12:06 There’s a Different World Out There
    • 15:22 Looking for Billy
    • 17:20 Simpler or Complicated Life?
    • 19:05 Commands Don’t Work on Me
    • 24:58 Battling Alcohol Addiction
    • 31:06 Drug and Alcohol Problem
    • 34:20 Finding Help
    • 36:40 Feeling Alone
    • 39:18 Almost Dying
    • 42:52 Prison Life
    • 45:59 Moving to Columbia
    • 52:00 My Mom is Different
    • 54:48 Do You Pray a Lot?
    • 58:01 Reconciliation
    • 59:49 Forgiveness
    • 01:05:31 I’m not Retiring
    • 01:09:24 My Album is My Story
    • 01:10:11 Some Misunderstanding People Have
    • 01:12:37 Surgery and Recovery
    • 01:13:46 Talking is Therapy
    • 01:15:12 Nicky on Fast Five

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    On Purpose with Jay Shetty
    enSeptember 02, 2024

    10 Proven Strategies to Boost Productivity & Create a Clear Plan for Achieving Your Goals

    10 Proven Strategies to Boost Productivity & Create a Clear Plan for Achieving Your Goals

    Do you feel unproductive?

    How can you boost your daily productivity?

    Today, Jay talks about how to become productive without feeling burned out. In a world where productivity often leads to burnout, Jay offers practical and transformative strategies to help you achieve more while reducing stress. Whether you're feeling overwhelmed by an endless to-do list or struggling to manage your time effectively, this episode provides the tools you need to reclaim your focus and energy. 

    Jay shares the importance of creating a workspace that fuels productivity and how subtle changes, like scent and sound, can enhance your environment. He also highlights the significance of workplace trust and how identifying whether an issue is people- or system-related can save you time and energy. He wraps up with insights on "monk mode," a method to achieve deep focus in the midst of distractions, and encourages listeners to experiment with these principles to find what works best for them..

    In this episode, you'll learn:

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    How to identify key drivers of success 

    How to lean into your momentum for maximum output

    How to use a 'to start' list instead of a to-do list

    Tune in to discover how to be productive without compromising your well-being, and walk away with actionable tips that you can implement immediately. 

    With Love and Gratitude,

    Jay Shetty

    What We Discuss:

    00:00 Intro

    02:29 Burnt Out Already?

    04:03 Tip #1: Doing One Thing at a Time

    10:10 Tip #2: Clean Your External Space

    12:40 Tip #3: Create a To-Start-List

    14:17 Tip #4: Give Yourself Positive Validation of Task Completion

    18:51 Tip #5: No Email Until 10AM

    19:47 Tip #6: Goal of the Day, Goal of the Week

    22:03 Tip #7: Know When is Your Most Productive Time

    23:41 Tip #8: Create a Space of Workplace Trust

    26:21 Tip #9: Focus on What’s Causing Success or Failure

    27:42 Tip #10: Lock Into Your Task

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    Chris Voss: #1 Secret Formula FBI Negotiators Use To Always Get What They Want & 4 Ways to Apply These Tactics to Your Life

    Chris Voss: #1 Secret Formula FBI Negotiators Use To Always Get What They Want & 4 Ways to Apply These Tactics to Your Life

    What's a simple negotiation trick you can try today?

    How can you get better at persuading others?

    Today, Jay welcomes former FBI lead international kidnapping negotiator and author of "Never Split the Difference", Chris Voss. He is renowned for his innovative negotiation strategies that emphasize empathy, emotional intelligence, and tactical communication. After retiring from the FBI, Voss founded The Black Swan Group, a consultancy firm that provides negotiation training for businesses and individuals. He is also a popular speaker and has taught negotiation at various business schools.

    Chris discusses his journey from being on a SWAT team to becoming a lead FBI negotiator. He shares that his career path changed after a knee injury and his growing interest in crisis response led him to hostage negotiation where he found the work more satisfying than his previous roles, emphasizing the importance of decisive action in crises.

    Chris and Jay discuss how human beings are naturally wired to be negative as a survival mechanism, which impacts negotiations. He reframes negotiation as a collaborative process rather than a confrontational one and suggests that effective negotiation often goes unnoticed because it looks like seamless collaboration. They also talk about gender dynamics in negotiation, with Voss providing advice on how women can better negotiate in environments where they might be undervalued.  

    In this interview, you'll learn:

    How to calm tense talks

    How to negotiate with narcissists

    How to disarm aggression

    How to foster collaboration

    How to build rapport

    In any situation, effective negotiation is not about winning at all costs but about creating a shared path forward that benefits everyone involved. 

    With Love and Gratitude,

    Jay Shetty

    What We Discuss:

    • 00:00 Intro
    • 01:23 Becoming a Lead Negotiator
    • 04:08 Suicide Hotline Conversations
    • 08:03 Labeling the Negative Emotions
    • 09:35 Negotiation Isn’t a Form of Conflict
    • 14:59 How to Get Someone to Collaborate with You?
    • 21:15 How Do You Slow Down?
    • 25:10 How Do You Prepare for a Negotiation?
    • 29:54 Biggest Negotiation Mistakes
    • 31:42 Always Look for the Patterns
    • 40:20 Used and Taken Advantage Of
    • 44:21 The Illusion of Control
    • 46:17 What’s Your Intention?
    • 48:37 How to Negotiate a Better Salary?
    • 50:49 Reward Strategy in the Workplace
    • 53:33 Negotiating Unfulfilled Salary Raise 
    • 58:57 How Can Women Negotiate Better?
    • 01:00:57 Negotiations That Don’t End with a Deal
    • 01:05:03 Work with the ELFs
    • 01:11:05 Polite Boundary Setting
    • 01:16:29 How to Not Be Emotional When Negotiating
    • 01:22:08 Are You in the Right Relationship?
    • 01:25:55 Respecting Other People’s Values
    • 01:30:52 Tactical Empathy Documentary
    • 01:34:01 Chris on Final Five

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    They Weren't The One For You and That's Ok (8 Steps to Breakthrough Heartbreak)

    They Weren't The One For You and That's Ok (8 Steps to Breakthrough Heartbreak)

    How did you realize they weren't the one for you?

    How did you cope with the heartbreak?

    Today shares a detailed exploration of the emotional journey involved in recognizing and accepting that someone you once believed was "the one" for you, wasn't actually the right person. Often, it’s common for people to convince themselves that someone is the perfect partner, even before that person has committed or shown signs of being a suitable match. This can lead to heartbreak when the relationship fails, but  it’s okay because the person wasn't truly right for them either.

    Jay also discusses the importance of understanding whether the person was truly healed from past wounds or whether they were presenting a version of themselves that wasn’t authentic. Consider the idea that sometimes people stay in relationships out of fear of being alone rather than genuine love or connection. And if a partner is unable or unwilling to engage in meaningful conversations, they might not be the right person.

    In this episode you'll learn:

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    How to focus on your partner's reality, not ideals

    How to prioritize meaningful conversations

    How to stay self-aware after a breakup

    How to balance emotions in a relationship

    Remember, it's okay if someone wasn't the one for you—what matters most is that you remain true to yourself and continue to seek the love and connection you deserve. 

    With Love and Gratitude,

    Jay Shetty

    What We Discuss:

    00:00 Intro

    01:54 They Weren’t For You and That’s Okay

    05:04 #1: When People Show You Who They Are, Believe Them

    09:09 #2: They Never Showed Up When It Mattered

    10:55 #3: They’re Still Healing

    12:41 #4: They Kept Saying We Can’t Do This

    16:37 #5: You Were Chasing the Whole Time

    18:53 #6: They Made You Feel Detached

    19:13 #7: You Are More Scared Of Being Alone Than Be With Them 

    20:58 #8: They Couldn’t Open Up in Meaningful Conversations

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    Dr. Aliza Pressman: How to Avoid Your Parents Mistakes & Raise Confident and Resilient Kids

    Dr. Aliza Pressman: How to Avoid Your Parents Mistakes & Raise Confident and Resilient Kids

    How do you help your children build confidence?

    How do you teach your kids to be resilient?

    Today, Jay welcomes Dr. Aliza Pressman. Aliza is a developmental psychologist with nearly two decades of experience working with families and healthcare providers. She is the host of the Raising Good Humans podcast and an expert in parenting strategies and child development. Dr. Pressman is also the author of The Five Principles of Parenting: Your Essential Guide to Raising Good Humans, where she offers practical advice and insights for parents looking to raise emotionally resilient and well-rounded children. 

    Aliza begins by discussing whether everyone should become a parent and emphasizes the importance of being intentional and reflective before making that decision. She suggests that potential parents should think about their own values and how they want to approach parenting. She explains that having a strong, secure bond with a child is crucial for their development and that this bond can evolve over time, even if there have been mistakes along the way. 

    Some children are more sensitive and require a specific environment to thrive, while others are more adaptable. She encourages parents to be mindful of their child’s unique needs. The discussion moves on to discipline and encouragement. Dr. Pressman suggests that discipline should focus on teaching rather than punishing, with clear boundaries set for the child’s safety and well-being. When it comes to building confidence, she emphasizes that helping children develop skills (competence) is more effective than simply giving praise.

    In this interview, you'll learn:

    How to handle parenting guilt and shame

    How to set boundaries for your child

    How to build your child’s confidence

    How to discipline effectively

    How to foster independence in your child

    How to build a secure attachment with your child

    By focusing on building secure attachments, setting clear boundaries, and fostering independence, parents can create a nurturing environment where their children can thrive. 

    With Love and Gratitude,

    Jay Shetty

    What We Discuss:

    • 00:00 Intro
    • 02:57 Should Everyone Be a Parent?
    • 04:29 How Do We Get to Be Who We Are?
    • 05:50 Secure Attachment Relationship
    • 07:15 Feeling of Guilt and Shame as a Parent
    • 11:07 Tiny Moments to Build Resilience
    • 15:31 The Tendency to Overcorrect
    • 17:03 What is Effective Reflection?
    • 21:44 Learn to Reflect with Your Children
    • 26:31 Failure as a Parent
    • 31:14 Different Forms of Communication with Children
    • 35:10 What is the Right Approach to Discipline?
    • 39:10 Three Parenting Styles 
    • 41:36 Tension and Rejection Can Be a Motivation
    • 45:34 Dealing with a Child Who Doesn’t Want to Open Up
    • 50:12 Your Presence is Important
    • 51:46 How to Have a Social Media Conversation?
    • 57:12 How to Raise a Confident Human?
    • 01:01:40 Allow Kids to Showcase What They Learned
    • 01:05:53 Adults Can Work on Themselves
    • 01:07:23 Aliza on Final Five

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    6 Steps to Detox from Your Phone & Reduce Your Anxiety Levels

    6 Steps to Detox from Your Phone & Reduce Your Anxiety Levels

    How often do you check your phone daily?

    Do you feel anxious when you’re away from your phone?

    Today, Jay addresses the growing concern of excessive phone and internet usage, exploring its detrimental effects on mental and physical health. He begins by explaining how activities like swiping, liking, and commenting on social media provide our brains with dopamine hits, which can create a cycle of dependency and compulsive behavior. Despite the benefits of technology, such as increased connectivity and access to information, many people feel less connected and more distracted, anxious, and impatient.

    Jay elaborates on the neurological aspects of dopamine and its role in pleasure-seeking behaviors, emphasizing that problems arise when we expect constant rewards from our online activities. He draws parallels between the brain's response to food and its response to digital consumption, advocating for a balanced approach that avoids overindulgence in either.

    In this episode, you'll learn:

    How to become more conscious of your internet use

    How to have wifi-free meals

    How to replace morning phone use with healthier habits

    How to stay mindful when using technology

    How to engage in a cell phone detox

    The ultimate goal is to create a healthier, more intentional relationship with technology, leading to a more fulfilling and balanced life.

    With Love and Gratitude,

    Jay Shetty

    What We Discuss:

    00:00 Intro

    01:46 On Your Phone All the Time?

    05:32 Losing Control Over Phone Use

    06:19 Six Steps to Phone Detox

    07:01 Dopamine

    11:23 People Aren’t As Happy As Before

    13:39 How Often Do You Check Your Phone?

    14:27 Cortisol

    17:26 Step 1: Become More Conscious

    19:19 Step 2: Wait an Hour Before Going Online

    21:18 Step 3: The WiFi-Free Meal

    23:45 Step 4: Watch What You Consume Online

    24:54 Step 5: Limit Potions

    25:48 Step 6: Intermittent Fasting

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    Julia Keller - The Myth of Perseverance: Discovering the Benefits of Quitting | STM Podcast #176

    Julia Keller - The Myth of Perseverance: Discovering the Benefits of Quitting | STM Podcast #176

    On episode 176, we welcome Julia Keller to discuss the importance of knowing when to quit, the history of the self-help industry, how the notion of ‘grit’ helps sustain elitism and privilege, the cultural and internal shame surrounding the desire to quit, quitting as embedded in human nature and what animal studies teach us about it, the quitting formula and realizing that a decision is ineffective, the neuroscience of quitting and the brain chemicals related to it, Julia’s cynicism and how she learned when to quit, the negative beliefs normally associated with giving up, The Great Gatsby and our tendency to moralize perseverance, the difference between responsibility and blame and its importance, and how to begin to accept and use our inherent limitations.

    Julia Keller, PhD, is a Pulitzer Prize-winning journalist, novelist, and teacher. She has a Ph.D. in English Literature from the Ohio State University, and has taught at Princeton University, the University of Chicago, and the University of Notre Dame. She was the chief book critic and a staff writer at The Chicago Tribune for many years, before quitting the world of daily journalism to write books. Her new book, available now, is called Quitting: A Life Strategy: The Myth of Perseverance―and How the New Science of Giving Up Can Set You Free.

     

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    #109 - I go to Therapy & so should You

    #109 - I go to Therapy & so should You

    We are slowly moving into the direction where mental health support is being seen as something that many people can benefit from, and as something that is being more and more openly talked about - although I believe there is still a long way to go.

    Therapy isn’t affordable for everyone and support looks different in almost every country of the world. An additional barrier is asking for help and talking openly about one’s feelings, which is a skill that many of us have had to learn actively in their lives - often even in adulthood. And that’s okay.

    No matter where you are in your life, how you feel about yourself, your dreams, your work, your relationship with others - you can benefit from therapy in so many ways. This episode is to encourage you and give you even more strength to reach out, and to reassure you that asking for help and seeking mental health support is an act of self-love and will bring you closer to who you are.

    Topics:
    Why I started therapy again
    My own experience
    It’s great that therapists listen to you for money!
    No one is without issues
    Prevention
    Why we can all benefit from therapy
    Asking for help
    Self-love
    Getting to know yourself again
    Ways to get help

    Do you want to speak to someone?
    Samaritans: Call 116 123
    Or email Jo@samaritans.org (may take a few days)
    Website: https://www.samaritans.org/how-we-can-help/contact-samaritan/ 

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    #52 - Do you love them or are you just used to being with them?

    #52 - Do you love them or are you just used to being with them?

    In this episode, Verena explores the groundwork of healthy and lasting relationships - romantic and platonic. It can be beautiful to have established a relationship in which everything seems predictable, because you know each other so well. But do you really know each other so well? What about change? Because we all change, always.

    Instagram: @verenaberndt_
    Artwork: @fempowerart

    #41 - You do you

    #41 - You do you

    This episode is about Verena's travel journey through California, why imperfection is so beautiful and important and why your self-care is YOURS. Verena talks about the importance of listening to your intuition in order to do what feels good for you, and why you can do what YOU want and not what seems 'right'. 

    Instagram: @verenaberndt_
    Artwork: @fempowerart

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