Lil Nas X: Overcoming the Battle Between Embracing Authenticity & Navigating Society's Expectations

    Meaningful conversations, dancing, and self-talk can help us connect with others, find joy, and navigate our inner voices. Embrace all aspects of yourself on your journey.

    enJanuary 29, 2024

    About this Episode

    Do you feel that you struggle with being authentic? 

    Do you want to overcome the judgment of society's perceptions of what it means to be authentic? 

    Today, Jay sits down with Lil Nas X. Lil Nas X is a 24-year-old award-winning rapper, singer, songwriter from Atlanta, Georgia. Dubbed “an internationally recognized phenomenon” by Billboard, Lil Nas X rose to fame in 2019 when he released “Old Town Road” and shattered genre norms, disrupted the charts and went viral worldwide.  After a highly successful EP and several multi-platinum songs, Nas went on to release his critically acclaimed and GRAMMY-nominated debut album Montero in September 2021, which featured the culture-shifting 6x Platinum hit “MONTERO (Call Me By Your Name)”. Following the release of Lil Nas X’s latest single “J CHRIST”, his beautiful new documentary, Lil Nas X: Long Live Montero, debuted this weekend on HBO and is available to stream now on Max.

    In this vulnerable episode Lil Nas X shares his story from being a shy kid in Atlanta Georgie to achieving his wildest dreams. Lil Nas X has proven that there is power of self-awareness and embracing your true identity, even in the face of loss and grief. He shares with us personal stories that have shaped him into the person he is today, and the person he is working on becoming. 

    The conversation navigates through fears, the misunderstood aspects of Lil Nas' message in his latest single, and the importance of cherishing time with family. They discuss spirituality, the quest for genuine love, dealing with a lack of control, and overcoming inner voices. 

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    • How to embrace authenticity
    • How to deal with societal expectations
    • How to be true to yourself
    • How to genuinely believe in what you love to do
    • How to make peace with your inner voice

    Tune in for a thought-provoking and heartwarming conversation that validates our humanness, flaws and strengths, and our ability to overcome difficult times.

    With Love and Gratitude,

    Jay Shetty

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    • 00:00 Intro
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    • 35:05 This One Being That’s Connected to Everything
    • 36:28 Being Authentic and Relatable at the Same Time
    • 38:37 Fully Open to Finding Real, Genuine Love
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    • 01:01:39 Do You Believe in Angel Numbers?
    • 01:03:24 What Do You Do When You Can’t See the Signs?
    • 01:05:11 Lil Nas X on Final Five

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    🔑 Key Takeaways

    • Lil Nas X's transformation from Montero to Lil Nas X has helped him break free from limitations and embrace his true self, influenced by his journey in music.
    • Lil Nas X believes in taking risks and pushing boundaries in order to continue his growth as an artist, while still wanting to preserve his inner innocence and joy.
    • Lil Nas X's childhood experiences and self-awareness at a young age played a significant role in shaping his identity and artistic expression.
    • The passing of loved ones can make us reevaluate our actions and values, reminding us to prioritize relationships over fame and success.
    • Embrace change and find balance between chaos and cherished moments to fully appreciate the beauty of life.
    • Lil Nas X acknowledges the consequences of losing control over his art, while also staying true to his values and exploring new avenues for personal growth.
    • Patience and open-mindedness are key in fostering understanding and acceptance, as demonstrated by Lil Nas X's relationship with his father. Change is possible through education and exposure to alternative perspectives.
    • Fear and discomfort can lead to misunderstanding and judgment, but embracing authenticity and questioning biases allows for personal growth and challenges societal norms.
    • Lil Nas X emphasizes the importance of prioritizing inner growth and self-expression, finding fulfillment in creating art for oneself rather than conforming to external expectations.
    • Balancing the desire to please others with staying true to ourselves is a constant struggle, but meaningful connections and being authentic can inspire us to create greater art and enrich our lives.
    • Meaningful conversations, dancing, and self-talk can help us connect with others, find joy, and navigate our inner voices. Embrace all aspects of yourself on your journey.
    • Recognizing that we all have similar thoughts and experiences, loving and accepting ourselves is essential for personal growth, allowing room to learn from our achievements and mistakes.
    • Lil Nas X prioritizes his family and team, values genuine care, and strives to inspire others to pursue happiness, all while navigating the challenges of managing relationships and responsibilities.
    • Embrace the insignificance of life to find strength, peace, and balance amidst challenges. Remember that personal growth requires creating a sense of home while navigating the constant ups and downs of life.
    • Finding simple activities to detach from overwhelming pressures and prioritize self-care can greatly contribute to overall well-being and mental health.
    • Trust your instincts and remain open to signs and messages from the universe to stay on the right path and make meaningful decisions.
    • Pay attention to the small signs and synchronicities in life, trust your instincts, and prioritize your own happiness and well-being above seeking validation from others.

    📝 Podcast Summary

    Lil Nas X's Time Travel Journey: Exploring Escapism in Art

    Lil Nas X's fascination with time travel serves as a form of escapism that he explores in his art. He enjoys the idea of being able to go back and change things in the past or venture into the future to see what lies ahead. However, as he grows older, he realizes that he doesn't want to change anything in the past. Instead, he is more intrigued by the future and wants to ask his future self what actions led him to his current success. Lil Nas X's transformation from the shy and insecure Montero to the confident and unrestricted Lil Nas X persona has helped him break free from any limitations and embrace his true self. This evolution has been influenced by his journey in music.

    Lil Nas X: Pushing Boundaries to Grow Musically

    Lil Nas X's hunger to grow musically pushes him to do things in his personal life that he wouldn't normally do. He believes that in order to continue being Lil Nas X, he needs to take risks and push boundaries. He acknowledges that there is a part of him, the innocent little boy inside, that he wants to protect and maintain. It's not about removing fear, but being able to do things despite the fear. Lil Nas X has faced moments of self-doubt and felt the pressure to live up to his past successes, but he has learned to tap into different sides of himself to keep moving forward. Despite the challenges, he holds onto a favorite childhood memory of running around a tree, symbolizing the purity and joy that he wants to preserve.

    The Profound Influence of Lil Nas X's Early Memories

    Lil Nas X's early memories hold profound significance in shaping his identity and experiences. Growing up in an apartment in Atlanta's Bankhead courts, Lil Nas X recalls a blissful childhood despite the challenging neighborhood. At the age of five, he witnessed the cutting of a symbolic tree, marking a turning point towards a more turbulent life. It was around this time that he began to understand his sexuality, grappling with the realization that he was different. Such heavy thoughts and self-awareness at such a young age were incredibly burdensome. The passing of his great-grandmother, whom he deeply cherished, further propelled his connection to music as an emotional outlet. Lil Nas X's memories highlight the impact of early experiences in shaping his journey towards self-discovery and artistic expression.

    Reflecting on Loss and Priorities

    The loss of loved ones can impact our perspectives and priorities. Lil Nas X and Jay Shetty both experienced the passing of important figures in their lives, and it led them to reflect on their actions and values. Lil Nas X felt guilty for not being present for his grandmother before she passed away, as he was preoccupied with social media. Similarly, Jay Shetty realized that he had prioritized his career over his relationship with his uncle during his spiritual journey. These experiences made them question the importance of fame and success compared to the love and connection with the people who truly cared for them. It serves as a reminder to evaluate and cherish our relationships while we have the chance.

    Reflecting on the importance of cherishing family and embracing change in life.

    As we grow older, time seems to fly by faster and we realize the importance of cherishing family and loved ones. Lil Nas X reflects on how quickly his nieces and nephews are growing up, emphasizing the need to appreciate these precious moments. This realization is seen as wise and uncommon at a young age. The conversation with Jay Shetty delves into the fear of change and the struggle of navigating through negative feedback in one's career. Lil Nas X admits to being in a mentally and physically focused state, but feeling uncertain about the reception of his art. Despite this uncertainty, he believes in the possibility of magical moments arising from the chaos, as long as he can maintain control over it. Overall, the key takeaway is the importance of finding balance and appreciating both the controlled chaos and cherished moments in life.

    Lil Nas X's Reflection: Misinterpretation, Mental Health, and Self-Reflection

    Lil Nas X reflects on the uncomfortable feeling of losing control over his own creation. He shares how his artistic intentions were misinterpreted and turned into something completely different, causing negative effects on his mental health. The situation made him realize the impact his actions could have on his family and fans, leading him to question the perception of his intentions. Lil Nas X emphasizes that while he apologizes for any offense caused by his video involving communion, he stands firm in his belief that he did nothing wrong in other aspects. He also mentions how he has been exploring gospel music as a way to connect with his spiritual side.

    The Evolution of Relationships and Understanding

    Relationships and understanding can evolve over time. Lil Nas X's relationship with his father has grown closer as he has grown older and his father has gained a better understanding of him. Initially, his father had a negative reaction to Lil Nas X coming out, but through time and exposure to Lil Nas X's true self, their relationship has transformed. This highlights the importance of patience, compassion, and open-mindedness in fostering understanding and acceptance. It also reminds us that people's beliefs and reactions are often shaped by external influences, and that change is possible with education and exposure to alternative perspectives. Ultimately, this story encourages empathy and challenges us to seek understanding even in the face of initial resistance.

    Challenging Bias and Embracing Authenticity

    Fear and discomfort often lead to misunderstanding and judgment. Lil Nas X and Jay Shetty discuss how humans are conditioned to fear what they don't understand. This fear is often sparked by uncertainty and change. Lil Nas X's controversial image and music challenge societal norms, and some people see him as a devilish figure. However, Lil Nas X uses these perceptions to question people's biases and prejudices. He aims to challenge the demonization of certain groups and bring awareness to the power of authenticity. This conversation also explores the balance between positivity and darkness, highlighting the importance of embracing all aspects of ourselves for personal growth, including the shadow work involved.

    Embracing Self-Discovery and Authenticity

    Lil Nas X emphasizes the importance of doing inner work and understanding oneself, rather than conforming to societal expectations. He acknowledges the pressure to always be funny or wise, but he also recognizes the need for personal time and self-expression. Lil Nas X believes that his art is primarily for himself, but he is grateful when it connects with others and helps them in some way. He agrees with Rick Rubin's perspective that true art is not created for consumption, but rather comes from within. Ultimately, Lil Nas X feels most connected to his authentic self when he is creating music and letting go of concerns about how it will be received. Success cannot compare to the fulfillment he experiences in those moments.

    Striving for Authenticity and Meaningful Connections

    We all strive for love and authenticity in our lives. Lil Nas X expressed his desire to find a strong love, acknowledging that it can't be manufactured or faked. He initially wanted to please others and be accepted, but eventually embraced his authentic self. However, he acknowledges the push and pull of wanting to please others while staying true to oneself. Jay Shetty added that finding a balance between being true to oneself and connecting with others is a constant struggle. They both recognized the importance of meaningful connections and the desire to avoid superficiality. Ultimately, they emphasized that love and meaningful connections can inspire us to create greater art and enrich our lives, even though it may be daunting at times.

    Embracing Vulnerability and Self-Expression

    Having deeply meaningful conversations can create lasting connections and bring joy. Jay Shetty emphasizes the value of vulnerable discussions and shares an example of a dinner where everyone openly expressed their pains and connected on a deeper level. Lil Nas X adds that dancing provides a place of safety and joy for him. Both agree that talking out loud to oneself can be helpful when battling negative thoughts. They discuss the importance of recognizing and understanding the voices in our heads, even the critical ones. Lil Nas X mentions that he sees these voices as a part of himself, acknowledging their purpose but choosing not to listen to them. The key lesson is to embrace and understand all aspects of oneself and recognize that everything has its place in our journey.

    Embracing Self-Compassion and Personal Growth

    We are all the same deep down, just on different life paths. Lil Nas X emphasizes the importance of recognizing that every person, including himself, has thoughts and experiences similar to ours. By understanding this, we shouldn't feel ashamed or guilty about who we are or what we think. Instead, Lil Nas X highlights the need to love and accept ourselves, allowing room for growth and learning from both our accomplishments and mistakes. Jay Shetty adds that we cannot guilt or shame ourselves into becoming better; instead, love is the answer to personal growth. These insights remind us to embrace self-compassion and extend it to others, promoting understanding, acceptance, and personal development.

    Staying grounded, valuing relationships, and inspiring others

    Lil Nas X recognizes the importance of staying grounded and connected to the people around him, especially his family and team. Despite his success and fame, he values the small things and the genuine care his loved ones have for him. This helps him maintain perspective and humility in the midst of his achievements. He also acknowledges his role as a leader and seeks to understand and support the dreams and aspirations of those in his tribe. Lil Nas X sees himself as someone who can build confidence and inspire others to pursue their own happiness. He understands the challenges of managing relationships and responsibilities, but remains committed to figuring it out and helping his team succeed.

    Embracing Insignificance: Finding Strength and Peace in Life's Challenges

    Embracing the insignificance of our lives can help us navigate through the challenges and pressures we face. Lil Nas X compares himself to a gummy bear, acknowledging that while his journey and achievements hold significance, in the grand scheme of things, it's not that serious. This mindset allows him to relax and find strength in facing difficult situations. The fear of settling and becoming too comfortable can hinder personal growth, but Lil Nas X realizes the importance of creating a sense of home and finding balance between relaxation and productivity. By understanding that life is a constant journey of ups and downs, we can learn to cope with the lack of control and find peace within ourselves.

    Rest and Escapism: the Key to Balance and Re-energizing

    Finding moments of rest and escapism is crucial for maintaining balance and re-energizing in a fast-paced and demanding life. Lil Nas X emphasizes the importance of having a sanctuary, like going to see a movie, as a way to find rest and peace amidst the chaos. For him, watching a movie serves as an escape and a moment to recharge. It's a simple yet effective way to detach from the overwhelming pressures and responsibilities. It's important to prioritize self-care and find activities that bring joy and relaxation, as they can greatly contribute to overall well-being and mental health.

    Intuition and Spiritual Signs: Lil Nas X's Guide to Decision-making as an Artist

    Lil Nas X relies on intuition and spiritual signs to guide his decisions as an artist. He trusts his gut feelings and pays attention to the messages he receives from the universe. For example, when he questioned whether a song would lead him to the next level, he would magically see a cross or experience other meaningful signs. These signs reassured him that he was on the right path. Additionally, when he doubted whether he should release a certain song, he would hear it on the radio or witness a beautiful sunrise, affirming that it was meant to be. This shows the importance of trusting oneself and staying open to the signs and messages that come our way.

    Finding Meaning in Everyday Moments and Trusting our Intuition.

    Our experiences and the signs we perceive can hold deep meaning and significance to us individually. The story shared about the blue butterfly at the wedding highlights how a seemingly ordinary moment can become extraordinary when it aligns with our personal beliefs and emotions. It reminds us to stay open to the beauty of life's synchronicities and to trust our intuition when we sense something meaningful. Additionally, Lil Nas X's advice to "do it scared" encourages us to push past our fears and take action, reminding us that growth often happens outside of our comfort zone. Lastly, the importance of self-love and valuing ourselves over others' approval reminds us to prioritize our own well-being and happiness.

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    How do you identify when you're restricting your desires in a relationship?

    How can couples work together to align their desires and ensure mutual fulfillment?

    Today, Jay welcomes back his good friend Lisa Bilyeu. Lisa is a co-founder of the billion-dollar brand Quest Nutrition and the president of Impact Theory, a digital media company aimed at empowering content. With a strong focus on developing content that speaks to personal growth and empowerment, especially for women, Lisa has been a pivotal figure in shifting paradigms within her industry. Her show, "Women of Impact," addresses issues facing modern women, combining personal anecdotes with actionable advice.

    The core theme of this conversation is outlining a roadmap for individuals seeking to overcome insecurities and cultivate a resilient, action-oriented confidence. Jay and Lisa discuss the common misconceptions around confidence, emphasizing that it is not a prerequisite for action but a result of engaging with the world despite fears and doubts.

    Lisa shares how her initial need for external validation was a significant barrier to personal growth, sharing transformative moments that reshaped her understanding of confidence and self-worth. She stresses the importance of embracing imperfection and vulnerability as catalysts for genuine self-improvement and empowerment.

    In this interview, you'll learn:

    How to start building confidence

    How to validate yourself

    How to prioritize personal growth

    How to handle fear of judgment

    How to transform relationships

    Together, let's continue to  question the preconceived notions about success and happiness and to take bold steps towards a life aligned with our deepest values and aspirations.

    With Love and Gratitude,

    Jay Shetty

    What We Discuss:

    00:00 Intro

    03:32 How Do You Define Confidence?

    06:54 Believe You’re Capable

    09:54 Admitting That You’re Unhappy

    16:13 The Frame of Reference

    19:36 Everything Is A Risk

    27:42 Non-Negotiables in Relationships

    34:41 Conversations That Don’t Break Relationships

    41:30 Who Leads, Who Follows

    49:26 Conflicting Value System

    54:57 Don’t Assume, Find a Compromise

    59:21 Growth Mindset With Your Partner

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    Matthew Hussey: 5 Reasons Why There is No Such Thing As The Right Person At The Wrong Time & How to Stop Missing Your Ex

    Matthew Hussey: 5 Reasons Why There is No Such Thing As The Right Person At The Wrong Time & How to Stop Missing Your Ex

    Does timing really matter in whether a relationship works?

    What are healthy ways to deal with a breakup?

    Today, let’s welcome back dating coach Matthew Hussey. Matthew is also a YouTube personality and writer known for offering advice on dating, love, and relationships to both men and women through his online content, seminars, and his book "Get The Guy." His approach typically combines practical advice, motivational coaching, and a bit of psychology to help individuals understand what they want from a relationship and how to get it.

    Matthew shares his insights on the complexities of love, self-discovery, and the importance of honest communication. He emphasizes on the significance of creating a peaceful relationship, distinguishing it from a boring one, and the value of embracing vulnerabilities to foster deeper connections. Matthew's reflections on his own experiences, coupled with his expertise, provide a comprehensive guide on navigating the challenges of modern dating, building meaningful relationships, and cultivating self-awareness. 

    In this interview, you'll learn:

    How to cultivate peaceful relationships without boredom

    How to deepen connections through vulnerability

    How to navigate modern dating with confidence

    How to enhance relationships with effective communication

    How to enrich love life through self-awareness

    Whether you're single, dating, or in a relationship, this episode offers valuable lessons on love, resilience, and the transformative power of embracing your true self.

    With Love and Gratitude,

    Jay Shetty

    What We Discuss:

    00:00 Intro

    04:20 Where Does Your Idea of Love Come From?

    10:34 What Differentiates a Peaceful to a Boring Relationship?

    19:35 What Are Your Must-Haves in a Relationship?

    31:47 Tactics Are Different From Relationship Standards

    39:59 Egoic Standards Versus Setting Standards for Happiness

    51:20 Practice Having Real and Difficult Conversations

    01:04:48 The Importance of Communicating Your Thoughts and Feelings

    01:08:25 Is Your Partner the Right One for You?

    01:15:05 Dealing with the Different Phases of Heartbreak

    01:26:31 What’s Next for Matthew?    

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    7 Ways to Reduce the Time You Spend Overthinking & Make Better Decisions Quicker

    7 Ways to Reduce the Time You Spend Overthinking & Make Better Decisions Quicker

    How do you know when you're overthinking too much?

    How can you break the cycle of overthinking?

    Today, Jay will talk about the complexity of overthinking and how we can turn it around and look at things differently. Jay presents seven practical strategies to help listeners combat the grip of overthinking. These range from the psychological—to limit how many people's opinions we seek, preventing the confusion and indecision that too many perspectives can cause—to the physical, recommending activities that disengage the analytical brain and encourage mental reset, like exercise or simply moving around.

    In this episode, you'll learn:

    How to use over thinking for problem-solving

    How to manage alarmed responses

    How to use physical movement for mental clarity

    How to focus on positives and small wins

    Don't let overthinking hold you back! Start implementing these strategies today and take control of your mental space.

    With Love and Gratitude,

    Jay Shetty

    What We Discuss:

    00:00 Intro

    00:52 Has Overthinking Slowed You Down?

    07:53 The Science Behind Overthinking

    10:50 #1: Overthinking as a Problem-Solving Approach

    14:24 #2: Don’t Ask Too Many People For Their Opinion

    18:19 #3: Avoid Responding While You’re Feeling Alarmed

    19:17 #4: Move Your Body When Your Mind Is Stuck

    20:32 #5: Focus on the Good Thing and Small Wins

    22:05 #6: Spontaneous Drawings Relieve Psychological Stress

    24:23 #7: Go Back to Analog

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    Orlando Bloom: 3 Reasons Why You Need to Allow Yourself to Make Mistakes & Shift Your Perspective on Fear

    Orlando Bloom: 3 Reasons Why You Need to Allow Yourself to Make Mistakes & Shift Your Perspective on Fear

    Do you stop yourself from making mistakes? 

    Do you want to shift your perspective on fear? 

    Today, let’s welcome the one and only Orlando Bloom. Orlando gained widespread fame for his roles in some of the most popular films including The Lord of the Rings trilogy and Pirates of the Caribbean series. He will be seen starring in Peacock's limited adventure docuseries, To The Edge, which he also produced. Off-screen, Orlando is known for his humanitarian efforts, including his work as a UNICEF Goodwill Ambassador.

    Orlando shares insights from his life as an actor, adventurer, and someone deeply involved in spirituality. He talks about how meditation and mindfulness help him stay balanced despite the hectic nature of being a celebrity, his views on masculinity, the importance of embracing both masculine and feminine qualities, and striving for balance and introspection in life. We also get to hear stories about facing and overcoming fears, embracing vulnerability, and the lessons he's learned from these challenges. This episode isn't just about getting to know a renowned actor but diving into the personal journey of a man who is constantly looking for deeper meaning and connections in life.

    In this interview, you’ll learn:
    How to overcome fear
    How to maintain balance in a hectic life
    How to incorporate mindfulness into everyday activities
    How to explore and embrace different aspects of your personality
    How to use life's challenges as growth opportunities

    Tune in now for a discussion full of insights on overcoming fears, embracing spirituality, and pursuing personal growth.  

    With Love and Gratitude,
    Jay Shetty

    What We Discuss:
    02:28 Working in an Unscripted Space
    06:09 What’s Your Earliest Childhood Fear?
    08:35 Practicing Buddhism
    13:49 The Lotus Sutra
    20:16 The 8 Wins
    26:28 Trusting Your Life and Becoming Capable
    36:33 Being Present While on the Edge
    44:48 Any Moment Could Be Your Last
    45:43 The Deepest Mirror You’ll Ever Have
    48:58 What Did You Learn from Your Past Relationships?
    51:22 Introducing Buddhism Practice to My Kids
    55:33 Whatever You’re Saying, You Become
    01:02:22 Loving the Parenting Journey
    01:07:16 The Impacts of Your Decisions
    01:09:13 Opportunities Through Obstacles
    01:17:40 Buddhism Is My Anchor
    01:18:59 The Fear You’re Currently Overcoming
    01:26:04 Orlando Bloom on Final Five

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    4 Ways to Know if It Is Time To End Your Relationship (When the Signs Are Not Clear and Things are Not Bad)

    4 Ways to Know if It Is Time To End Your Relationship (When the Signs Are Not Clear and Things are Not Bad)

    Do you find yourself often thinking about breaking up?

    Do you and your partner have unresolved conflicts that keep resurfacing?

    In this episode, Jay tackles the tough emotions and uncertainty many face when considering a breakup. He talks about why people stay in or leave relationships, touching on key factors like emotional closeness, personal investment, and the impact of family responsibilities. Jay also discusses how to ensure emotional security and the risks of staying for financial reasons or out of obligation. 

    In this episode you’ll learn:

    How to recognize emotional investment

    How to assess emotional security

    How to consider financial implications

    How to navigate emotional intimacy

    This honest conversation provides you with the insights to evaluate your relationship more clearly, helping you decide whether to work on it or move on, based on a deeper understanding of your feelings and the relationship's dynamics.

    With Love and Gratitude,

    Jay Shetty

    What We Discuss:

    00:00 Intro

    01:10 When to End Your Relationship

    04:48 10 Reason Why People Stay in a Relationship

    12:44 Top 10 Reasons to Leave Your Relationship

    18:14 The Three Cancers of the Mind

    24:44 Difference in Scorecard Perspective

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