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    2 Ways Your 'Icks' Are Ruining Your Dating Life & #1 Way to Date Better with Jared Freid and Jordana Abraham

    Embrace self-care during travel, ignore external judgments, and prioritize mental health resources for overall well-being.

    enFebruary 23, 2024

    About this Episode

    How do your 'icks' affect your dating life?

    And what's the ultimate key to better dating?

    Today, Jay is sharing the conversation he had with Jared Freid and Jordana Abraham where he was being interviewed in their podcast, U Up?. The U Up? is a definitive modern dating podcast where they discuss their take on the ebbs and flows of the crazy dating world we live in.

    Jay talks about a wide array of topics including the challenges of booking guests for new podcasts, the importance of preparing for important interviews, and his  unique approach to every show, offering listeners a diverse and enriching experience with each episode.

    The conversation takes on a serious note when Jay talks about his take expressing anger, dealing with insecurities, and navigating the complexities of modern dating. Gain valuable insights into mindfulness practices and learn how to focus on the wins while amplifying the abundance of life.

    In this interview, you'll learn:

    • How to deal with insecurities
    • How to become a better partner
    • How to change your mindset about dating

    Truth be told, dating remains one of the challenging hurdles we go through in life but it is also one of the most rewarding when we find the right person to spend our life with.  

    With Love and Gratitude,

    Jay Shetty

    What We Discuss:

    • 00:00 Intro
    • 02:43 Calming Positive Influence to Others
    • 03:29 The Competitive Aspect of Drinking Games
    • 05:26 The Difficulty of Booking Guests for New Podcasts
    • 07:05 Preparing for Important Guests
    • 08:54 Every Show Has a Unique Offering
    • 11:27 How Do You Express Anger and Hate?
    • 13:57 Did You Ever Felt Wrongfully Targeted?
    • 16:41 Did You Ever Block Anyone?
    • 19:58 What are the Biggest Mistakes About Dating Today?
    • 25:44 What’s Your Go-To First Date Activity?
    • 27:16 Working in the Same Industry with Your Partner 
    • 28:52 How Practicing Mindfulness Changes Your Mindset
    • 31:07 How Do You Deal with Insecurities?
    • 36:18 Focus on the Wins and Amplify the Abundance of Life
    • 38:26 Two Things I Look Forward To
    • 39:29 What’s Your Travel Pet Peeve?

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    🔑 Key Takeaways

    • CVS Health offers comprehensive health services in-person and virtually. Herbs like slippery elm bark and ginger root can support digestive health. Planning travels is made easier with Booking.com. Mental wellness tools like Calm can reduce stress and improve sleep. Positivity, understanding, and effective communication are key in relationships.
    • Prioritizing friends' safety and well-being can mean missing out on experiences but is a selfless act of support. Games and competition can add excitement to social settings but may lose appeal when sober. Adaptation and creativity can lead to new ways of enjoying social activities.
    • High-profile guests value the opportunity for unscripted, meaningful conversations about personal experiences, including childhood trauma and mental health journeys.
    • Openness to unexpected experiences and emotions can lead to new perspectives and stories. Negotiating with anger and giving others the benefit of the doubt can foster positive outcomes.
    • Focus on feedback from engaged community members, create value, and historical biases will fade away.
    • Being too rigid with deal-breakers can prevent forming meaningful relationships. Distinguish preferences from priorities and strive for openness and flexibility.
    • Focus on compatibility and genuine connection, not just superficial traits, when choosing a partner. It's okay to filter out those who don't align with our preferences, but remember that having a reasonable pool of potential partners can lead to finding a good match.
    • Incorporating herbs and traveling can lead to personal growth and stronger relationships by broadening perspectives, deepening connections, and enhancing experiences.
    • Recognize that you may interpret external comments through the lens of your own insecurities. Practice self-awareness and mindfulness to reframe criticism as a compliment and maintain confidence.
    • Focus on authenticity and self-reflection to build meaningful connections, rather than trying to impress or please others.
    • Authentically share experiences from a positive perspective and seek inspiration to maintain a growth mindset.
    • Embrace self-care during travel, ignore external judgments, and prioritize mental health resources for overall well-being.

    📝 Podcast Summary

    Exploring Health, Travel, and Relationships

    CVS Health is committed to providing comprehensive health and wellness services, both in-person and virtually, for various needs including senior care, mental health, and digital evaluations. Herbs like slippery elm bark and ginger root, available through Nature's Way, can support digestive health. Planning travels is made easier with Booking.com's wide range of accommodations and user-friendly app. Mental wellness is crucial, and Calm offers accessible tools such as meditation and expert content to reduce stress and improve sleep. In this episode, Jay Shetty shared insights on dating and relationships from his interview on the You Up podcast. Overall, the conversation emphasized the importance of positivity, understanding, and effective communication in relationships.

    Being the sober friend: Prioritizing safety over fun

    Being a supportive friend can sometimes mean being the sober one in a group, even if it means missing out on certain experiences. This was a role the speaker took on willingly, as she prioritized the safety and well-being of her friends over her own desire to drink. The speaker shared her experience of being the sober friend during a trip to Spain, where her friends accused her of ruining the party. However, she felt proud of her role in protecting them from potential harm. Another significant takeaway is the impact of games and competition in social settings. The speaker fondly recalled playing a drinking game called Ring of Fire, which added excitement and fun to social gatherings. However, she acknowledged that the game lost its appeal once she stopped drinking, and she began to explore ways to adapt it for sober socializing. Lastly, the speaker shared a meaningful moment from her podcast journey when Kobe Bryant became her first high-profile guest. This experience validated her efforts in creating a successful podcast and gave her the confidence to continue pursuing her goals.

    Exploring personal depths and discussing challenges in a safe space

    The guests on the podcast feel a strong connection to the show's unique offering, which provides a safe space for them to explore personal depths and discuss challenges, flaws, and imperfections in a relevant, accessible, and practical way. This draws in high-profile guests like Kendall Jenner, Michelle Obama, and Kevin Hart, who don't often do interviews, as they value the opportunity to have unscripted and meaningful conversations. The host's approach to creating a space for guests to open up about their experiences, including childhood trauma and mental health journeys, has made the show a valuable resource for listeners seeking authentic and insightful discussions.

    Exploring unexpected interactions and emotions

    Our experiences, even the seemingly insignificant ones, can lead us to unexpected thoughts and stories. The speaker shares how openness to unexpected interactions can reveal new perspectives. Additionally, the podcast aims to cater to various aspects of human personality, including the exploration of emotions like anger and hatred. The speaker shares how anger was a prevalent emotion in his upbringing and how he chose to negotiate with it due to the negative consequences he witnessed. The podcast also acknowledges the importance of giving others the benefit of the doubt and the negative impact of unnecessary targeting. The speaker reflects on the power of feedback, both positive and negative, and how it can evoke a range of emotions. Overall, the discussion highlights the importance of being open to unexpected interactions and the exploration of emotions in understanding the human experience.

    Recognize historical biases in negativity

    While dealing with negativity and hateful comments online, it's essential to recognize that often, those comments are based on historical biases and expectations that have little to do with the current situation. Instead of getting bogged down by the negativity, it's important to focus on the feedback from those who are still engaged in the conversation and consider them a part of the community. Furthermore, creating something of value, like a special product or an insightful interview, can transform even the harshest critics into supporters. In the case of creating Juni sparkling tea, the focus on nurturing the body with natural adaptogens and providing a delicious and refreshing drink has resonated with a wide audience, regardless of their initial biases or opinions. So, keep creating and engaging with your community, and the negativity will fade away.

    The perils of having overly long lists of deal-breakers

    People are missing out on potential connections due to having overly long lists of deal-breakers or preferences. This mentality, as exemplified by the popular TikTok account "Guy with the List," can prevent individuals from being open to forming meaningful relationships. The speaker suggests that it's essential to distinguish between preferences and priorities when considering potential partners. Additionally, the abundance of dating options in today's digital age can make it easier for people to avoid vulnerability and use superficial reasons as excuses not to connect. Overall, the key takeaway is to be mindful of the potential consequences of having overly rigid lists of deal-breakers and to strive for openness and flexibility in the dating landscape.

    The paradox of choice in dating

    Having too many choices in dating can lead to making poor decisions due to the paradox of choice. However, having a reasonable pool of potential partners to choose from can help find a compatible and good partner. It's essential to focus on what truly matters in a relationship rather than superficial traits. At the same time, it's okay to filter out those who don't align with our preferences. The speaker's experience shows that after going through many relationships, they found their current partner by playing the percentages and looking for compatibility. The idea of watching a movie together on a first date is not hated, but it's essential to find activities that genuinely connect both individuals. Additionally, modern healthcare services like CVS Health offer various ways to ensure quality care and support for individuals, making healthcare more accessible and convenient.

    Exploring Herbs and Travel for Personal Growth and Deeper Connections

    Incorporating herbs into your wellness routine, like ashwagandha for stress reduction, can greatly benefit both your body and mind. Traveling also plays a role in personal growth and discovery. Herbs, such as those offered by Nature's Way, and travel experiences can deepen relationships and broaden perspectives. Additionally, engaging in various activities together, beyond just watching shows, can help relationships grow and become more intimate and connected. My personal experience shows that friendships and even professional collaborations can enhance relationships, although there may be challenges like jealousy to navigate. Overall, embracing new experiences, whether through herbs or travel, can lead to personal growth and deeper connections in our relationships.

    Handling External Criticisms with Grace and Confidence

    Our reactions to external comments or criticisms are often a reflection of our own self-perception and insecurities. The speaker shares an experience of being complimented on his wife while feeling criticized about other aspects of his work. He acknowledges that this reaction comes from a place of insecurity and lack of confidence in himself and his abilities. The speaker emphasizes the importance of mindfulness and self-awareness in dealing with such situations, as it helps to reframe the criticism as a compliment and maintain a sense of calm and confidence. He also recommends focusing on personal growth and self-improvement to build a strong sense of self-worth and resilience against potential triggers. The movie "Fair Play" is suggested as an example of how insecurities and feelings of irrelevance can impact relationships. Overall, the discussion highlights the importance of self-awareness and confidence in handling external criticisms and maintaining a positive self-image.

    Being true to yourself in relationships

    Being true to yourself is key in building meaningful connections. The speaker shares how they used to feel pressure to change themselves to please others, leading to a lack of presence and authenticity. They learned to let go of this need for validation and instead, be comfortable in their own skin. Additionally, the speaker acknowledges the insecurity of being perceived as important or thinking one is better than others, which can lead to trying to prove oneself to others. Instead, it's important to focus on the positive and being genuine in interactions, rather than trying to impress or appease others. The speaker also reflects on the challenges of dating and the importance of getting to know someone for who they are, rather than trying to make them like us. Overall, the speaker's insights highlight the importance of self-reflection, authenticity, and focusing on the positive in building meaningful connections.

    Communicating Experiences: Amplify the Goodness

    The way we communicate and express our experiences, especially when we encounter success or growth, can impact those around us. For some people, their reactions might make us question our own achievements or even make us doubt ourselves. This can lead us to focus more on the negatives and adopt a negative mindset. It's important to remember that sharing our experiences should come from a place of authenticity and not be driven by a need to make others feel comfortable or relatable. Instead, we should focus on the positives and amplify the goodness in our lives. Additionally, seeking inspiration and learning from others, whether through observing humans, reading biographies, or listening to podcasts, can help us maintain a positive mindset and continue growing.

    Travel and Self-Judgment: A Complex Relationship

    Travel time can be a precious moment for self-care and personal enjoyment, but it can also be a source of anxiety due to potential judgment from others. During a conversation on a podcast, guests discussed their travel pet peeves and the pressure to present a certain image. Jay Shelly, a frequent traveler and podcast host, shared how he values this time to unwind and be alone, but sometimes feels self-conscious about what he's doing or watching. This feeling of being judged can impact one's self-perception and confidence. However, it's essential to remember that external opinions don't define who we are, and it's crucial to stay true to ourselves. Additionally, the podcast touched on the importance of mental health support and self-care through various means, such as therapy and herbal remedies. Sponsors like BetterHelp and Nature's Way emphasized their commitment to providing accessible mental health resources and natural wellness solutions. In conclusion, the conversation highlighted the importance of embracing self-care during travel and recognizing that external judgments don't define our worth. It also emphasized the significance of accessible mental health resources and natural wellness solutions for overall well-being.

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    What can you do daily to care less about failing?

    Today, Jay sits down with Benny Blanco for an inspiring conversation about pursuing passions, mentorship, failure, and continuous motivation. Benny has made a huge mark on the music industry contributing to hundreds of millions of album sales worldwide. Benny has worked with A-List artists like Ed Sheeran, Justin Bieber, and Katy Perry. As a solo artist, his albums "Friends Keep Secrets" and its sequel have amassed over 11 billion streams, featuring multiple platinum hits. Beyond music, Benny has ventured into television and even released a cookbook, "Open Wide," showcasing his diverse talents and interests

    Benny shares insight on how to not let failure stop you and getting over imposter syndrome. We also go dive into Benny’s life outside of music, exploring his passion for cooking through his cookbook "Open Wide." Plus, Benny talks about his relationships, how he keeps his creativity flowing, and the small joys that make his life special.

    In this interview, you’ll learn:

    How to pursue your passion with limited resources

    How to not let failure get in your way of achieving your goals

    How to embrace the unexpected in creative work

    How to transition your passion into different fields

    How to find joy and creativity in everyday moments

    Don't miss this intimate look at Benny Blanco's life and maybe learn a thing or two about making your own multi-track masterpiece or the perfect dish to serve at dinner!

    With Love and Gratitude,

    Jay Shetty

    What We Discuss:

    00:00 Intro

    03:43 What’s the First Creative Thing You Put Together?

    06:15 I Never Cared About Failure

    10:33 Developing Amnesia to Failure

    14:22 How Did You Meet Your Mentor?

    18:10 “The Boy I Mentored” 

    23:42 How Do You Show Up After a Rejection?

    26:51 Love Can Be Felt Through Music

    29:56 What Do You Do When You Wake Up?   

    32:02 Why Do You Struggle with Meditation?

    33:28 Why I Went to Therapy

    38:25 The Pressure of Perfectionism

    44:49 Do You Love to Cook?

    47:20 Do You Eat Healthy?

    48:47 Finding Comfort in Food

    54:42 What’s Your Sleep Pattern?

    56:40 Friendships Built Over the Years

    59:19 Multigenerational Friendships

    01:03:44 Better Relationship After Divorce

    01:05:52 Benny on Final Five   

    01:15:57 What’s Your Vice?

    01:17:53 Do You Take Supplements?

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    Why Your Self Worth is Keeping You Stuck & How to Stop Sabotaging Your Personal Growth With Jamie Kern Lima

    Why Your Self Worth is Keeping You Stuck & How to Stop Sabotaging Your Personal Growth With Jamie Kern Lima

    How does low self-worth stop you from moving forward?

    How can you stop self-sabotage and grow personally?

    Today, let’s welcome Jamie Kern Lima. Jamie is a New York Times bestselling author, founder of IT Cosmetics, a company she started in her living room and sold to L'Oreal in a billion-dollar deal, becoming the first female CEO of a brand in its 100+ year history. She's also an active philanthropist who has funded leadership training in more than 100 prisons and shelters across the US, and has donated over $40 million in product and funds to help women face the effects of cancer with confidence. 

    Jamie and Jay ponder on the meaning of self-worth, distinguishing it from mere confidence and challenging the misguided belief that our value is tied to our physical appearance. We get to hear the detrimental effects of self-doubt and present empowering strategies to transform your relationship with rejection, offering a new perspective that fosters resilience and self-compassion. 

    And then the conversation dives deep into personal beliefs, urging us to identify and discard unhelpful misconceptions, while giving emphasis on why authenticity is crucial and its role in conjunction with other factors in achieving success. 

    In this interview, you'll learn:

    How to build self-worth

    How to distinguish confidence from self-worth

    How to handle rejection

    How to overcome self-doubt

    How to remain authentic

    Together, let's learn how to distinguish your worth from external validation, turn rejection into a stepping stone, and live authentically.

    With Love and Gratitude,

    Jay Shetty

    What We Discuss:

    00:00 Intro

    03:17 Do You Feel Worthy Today?

    10:04 Confusing Confidence with Self Worth

    17:37 Your Weight Impacts Your Worth is a Lie 

    24:03 What Has Self Doubt Cost You?

    31:25 How to Change Your Relationship with Rejection

    37:02 The 4-Part R to Reframe Rejection

    44:00 You Need This Today

    48:13 Which Lie Are You Trying to Unlearn? 

    56:32 Authenticity Alone Doesn’t Guarantee Success

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