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    Explore "self-understanding" with insightful episodes like "Abby & Amanda’s IFS Therapy Sessions with Richard Schwartz: Why We Do What We Don’t Want to Do", "Create a ritual to honor your ancestors", "4 Steps to Build Emotional Maturity & Make Relationships Last (Tom Bilyeu Interviews Jay)", "GUEST SERIES | Dr. Paul Conti: How to Build and Maintain Healthy Relationships" and "127. Can we be too self aware?" from podcasts like ""We Can Do Hard Things", "Life Kit", "On Purpose with Jay Shetty", "Huberman Lab" and "The Psychology of your 20s"" and more!

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    Abby & Amanda’s IFS Therapy Sessions with Richard Schwartz: Why We Do What We Don’t Want to Do

    Abby & Amanda’s IFS Therapy Sessions with Richard Schwartz: Why We Do What We Don’t Want to Do
    296. Abby & Amanda’s IFS Therapy Sessions with Richard Schwartz: Why We Do What We Don’t Want to Do In Part 2 of our Internal Family Systems (IFS) discussion with IFS founder Richard C. Schwartz, we dive into how to recognize and hear from your own parts, how to know when you are being led by your parts instead of your true self, and Abby and Amanda each have a transformative on-air IFS therapy sessions! Discover:  -The KEY to uncovering your true self;  -How to apply IFS to parenting; -Abby’s revelation during her IFS session about how to finally find self-love;  -The parts behind Amanda’s journey to satisfaction; and  -How to have compassion AND Gratitude for your inner critic; For Part 1 of this conversation, check out: Inside an Internal Family Systems (IFS) Therapy Session with Glennon & Richard C. Schwartz  For our earlier episodes that deal with IFS, check out: Episode 170. The Most Radical Way to Heal: Internal Family Systems with Dr. Becky Kennedy; and Episode 252. Martha Beck Helps Amanda Let Go  Richard C. Schwartz, PhD, is the creator of Internal Family Systems, a highly effective, evidence-based therapeutic model that depathologizes the multi-part personality. His IFS Institute offers training for professionals and the general public. He is currently on the faculty of Harvard Medical School and has published five books, including No Bad Parts: Healing Trauma and Restoring Wholeness with the Internal Family Systems Model.  Social Media:  Instagram: @internalfamilysystems To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices

    4 Steps to Build Emotional Maturity & Make Relationships Last (Tom Bilyeu Interviews Jay)

    4 Steps to Build Emotional Maturity & Make Relationships Last (Tom Bilyeu Interviews Jay)

    Do you like spending time alone or by yourself?

    How does alone time help clear your mind and fuel positive thoughts?

    Today, I am excited to share a conversation I had with Tom Bilyeu in his podcast, Impact Theory, where he interviews me about my profound journey through solitude, relationships, and self-love.

    We kick things off by shedding light on the wisdom found in ancient texts like the Vedas, which many monks study in solitude. It's a reminder that spending time alone is not a sign of weakness; in fact, it can be a powerful tool for personal growth. I share the incredible benefits of allocating just one hour a week to being alone with your thoughts, a practice that can transform your life.

    As we venture further into this enlightening conversation, we discuss the importance of dealing with life's challenges, share insights on daily meditation, and the complexities of loneliness and why it's essential to feel seen, heard, and understood in our relationships. With heartfelt anecdotes and wisdom, we explore the concept of love, self-worth, and the hard work required for genuine, lasting relationships.

    In this interview, you’ll learn:

    • How to be comfortable with being alone
    • How to sit with your inner thoughts 
    • How to prepare for love
    • The tips to finding true love
    • How to make relationships last
    • The impotence valuing self-worth
    • How to build lasting trust on others
    • How to maintain a successful marriage

    Remember, relationships are just one part of our life's journey, and it's up to us to make it a meaningful and fulfilling one. Let’s navigate the complexities of life and relationships with wisdom and love.

    With Love and Gratitude,

    Jay Shetty

    What We Discuss:

    • 00:00 Intro
    • 00:35 Jay explains the vedas that most monks study in solitude
    • 03:34 Loneliness is not the enemy while being alone is not a weakness
    • 08:12 The benefits of allocating an hour a week to alone time
    • 14:12 “This bad thing happened, and now what?”
    • 17:31 Daily meditation has varying positive effects on people
    • 18:47 Why do people struggle with being alone with their thoughts?
    • 23:51 Allow yourself to have positive distractions and random thoughts
    • 27:44 Loneliness is when you don’t feel seen, heard, or understood
    • 30:46 How do you prepare for love?
    • 34:01 Jay shares an unrecorded interview with his mom
    • 35:32 “When you’ve experienced your strength, no one can make you feel weak.”
    • 37:35 Why you should not turn to others to validate your self worth
    • 38:59 Can doing hard things make life easier?
    • 43:11 The absence of a good role model and proper tools can lead to making bad choices
    • 45:15 On parenthood: Would you intervene or allow kids to learn about themselves?
    • 49:06 Top 3 things that can help develop a successful relationship
    • 54:38 Why do people select the wrong partner?  
    • 57:26 Jay talks about the four levels of trust we have for relationships
    • 01:00:13 The desperation to be loved makes us give away trust so easily
    • 01:02:20 True, genuine love takes hard work
    • 01:05:01 How can you keep your marriage sacred and successful?
    • 01:14:12 How to grow the relationship you’re currently in and in the right way
    • 01:17:05 Jay explains the consciousness of the human soul  
    • 01:19:42 A relationship isn’t everything, it is not the be-all and end-all of your journey
    • 01:22:55 Would you live your life in a hypothesis?

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    GUEST SERIES | Dr. Paul Conti: How to Build and Maintain Healthy Relationships

    GUEST SERIES | Dr. Paul Conti: How to Build and Maintain Healthy Relationships
    This is episode 3 of a 4-part special series on mental health with Dr. Paul Conti, M.D., a psychiatrist who did his medical training at Stanford School of Medicine and residency at Harvard Medical School. He is the author of the book, “Trauma: The Invisible Epidemic.” Dr. Conti explains how to find, develop and strengthen healthy relationships — including romantic relationships, work and colleague relationships, and friendships. He explains a roadmap of the conscious and unconscious mind that can allow anyone to navigate conflicts better and set healthy boundaries in relationships. We also discuss common features of unhealthy relationships and clinically supported tools for dealing with relationship insecurity, excessive anxiety, past traumas, manipulation and abuse. Dr. Conti explains how, in healthy relationships, there emerges a dynamic of the mutually generative “us” and how to continually improve that dynamic. The next episode in this special series explores true self-care, which can be cultivated through a process of building self-awareness along with other important practices.   For the full show notes, visit hubermanlab.com. Thank you to our sponsors AG1: https://drinkag1.com/huberman BetterHelp: https://betterhelp.com/huberman Waking Up: https://wakingup.com/huberman Eight Sleep: https://eightsleep.com/huberman Momentous: https://livemomentous.com/huberman Timestamps (00:00:00) Build Healthy Relationships (00:02:04) Sponsors: BetterHelp & Waking Up (00:05:01) Healthiest Self in Relationships (00:10:51) Structure & Function of Self (00:15:44) Relationships, Levels of Emergence (00:22:48) Generative Drive in Relationships (00:35:00) Sponsor: AG1 (00:36:26) Generative Drive, Aggressive Drive, Pleasure Drive (00:45:16) Romantic Relationships & Matched Generative Drives, Trauma Bonds (00:53:05) Generative Drive Expression, Libido, Giving & Taking (01:04:29) Sponsor: Eight Sleep (01:05:50) Generative Drive in Partnerships (01:11:16) Libido, Avoidance & Working through Barriers (01:18:02) Repeating Bad Relationship Patterns, Repetition Compulsion (01:29:23) Narcissism, Dependence, Attachment Insecurity (01:34:10) Abusive Relationships, Demoralization (01:39:37) Oppressors, Darkness, Hope & Change (01:48:08) Work Relationships, Oppression & Accountability (01:53:53) Jealousy vs. Envy, Narcissism (01:59:13) Power Dynamics in Relationships (02:05:54) Giving vs. Taking in Relationships (02:09:39) Transactions & Relationships; Family & Generative Drive; Flexibility (02:19:47) Relationships & Kindergarten (02:23:04) Anxiety in Relationships, Communication (02:31:32) The “Magic Bridge of the Us” (02:37:09) Mentalization, Getting into Another’s Mindset; Navigating Conflict (02:46:51) Healthy Boundaries (02:52:08) Self-Awareness, Mentalization (02:55:28) “Broken Compass” & Self Inquiry, “Map” Analogy (03:02:25) Zero-Cost Support, YouTube Feedback, Spotify & Apple Reviews, Sponsors, Social Media, Momentous, Neural Network Newsletter Title Card Photo Credit: Mike Blabac Disclaimer

    127. Can we be too self aware?

    127. Can we be too self aware?

    This is a question I have been asking myself a lot recently as someone who is VERY invested in the self-help space. Have we reached a point where we are too aware of our problems, faults, thoughts, actions and behaviours? Self awareness can free us from so many mental restrictions, it allows us to make better decisions, be a better friend, a better person, invest in our dreams and values. But at some point, we can reach a stage where we are too invested in self-reflection and introspection that it interrupts our enjoyment of the moment, can isolate us or even result in obsessive overthinking and rumination. In this episode we explore what it means to be self-aware and how online self help content might be causing us more harm than good. Listen now. 

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    #5 - Getting Tarot Readings w/ Jackie Uweh

    #5 - Getting Tarot Readings w/ Jackie Uweh
    Amanda does a tarot reading for Jackie and Shayne. SUBSCRIBE: https://smo.sh/Sub2SmoshCast WEAR OUR JOKES: https://smosh.com WHO YOU SEE Amanda Lehan-Canto // https://www.instagram.com/filmingamanda/ Shayne Topp // https://www.instagram.com/shaynetopp/ Jacklyn Uweh // https://www.instagram.com/jacklyn_uweh/ FOLLOW US: TikTok: https://smo.sh/TikTok Snapchat: http://smo.sh/OnSnapchat Instagram: https://instagram.com/smosh Facebook: https://facebook.com/smosh Twitter: https://twitter.com/smosh

    Is the journey to self-discovery pointless?

    Is the journey to self-discovery pointless?
    There are many ways people are trying to know themselves these days – from taking the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator test to analyzing their astrological birth charts to identifying their attachment styles. But are any of these methods helpful? Allie Volpe, a senior reporter at Vox, discusses this with Mitch Green, a philosophy professor at the University of Connecticut and author of the book Know Thyself: The Value and Limits of Self-Knowledge. Together they explore why there’s an increased interest in self-knowledge, the merits of self-discovery, and the best way to truly know ourselves. Host: Allie Volpe (@allieevolpe), Senior Reporter, Vox Guest: Mitch Green, Philosophy professor at the University of Connecticut References:  “A personality test can’t tell you who you are” by Allie Volpe (Vox, Jun. 2023) Know Thyself: The Value and Limits of Self-Knowledge by Mitchell S. Green (2017, Routledge) “Why the Meyers-Briggs test is totally meaningless” by Joseph Stromberg and Estelle Caswell (Vox, Oct. 2015) Strangers to Ourselves: Discovering the Adaptive Unconscious by Timothy D. Wilson (Harvard University Press, 2004) Enjoyed this episode? Rate The Gray Area ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ and leave a review on Apple Podcasts. Subscribe for free. Be the first to hear the next episode of The Gray Area. Subscribe in your favorite podcast app. Support The Gray Area by making a financial contribution to Vox! bit.ly/givepodcasts This episode was made by:  Engineer: Patrick Boyd Editorial Director, Vox Talk: A.M. Hall Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

    Taking Nietzsche seriously

    Taking Nietzsche seriously
    Sean Illing talks with political science professor Matt McManus about the political thought of Friedrich Nietzsche, the 19th-century German philosopher with a complicated legacy, despite his crossover into popular culture. They discuss how Nietzsche's work has been interpreted — and misinterpreted — since his death in 1900, how his radical political views emerge from his body of work, and how we can use Nietzsche's philosophy in order to interpret some key features of our contemporary politics. Host: Sean Illing (@seanilling), host, The Gray Area Guest: Matt McManus (@MattPolProf), lecturer, University of Michigan; author Referenced works by Friedrich Nietzsche (1844–1900): Ecce Homo (1888; published posthumously), Thus Spoke Zarathustra (1883), Beyond Good and Evil (1886), Twilight of the Idols (1888), The Birth of Tragedy (1872), The Antichrist (1888; published posthumously), The Gay Science (1882) References:  Nietzsche and the Politics of Reaction: Essays on Liberalism, Socialism, and Aristocratic Radicalism, ed. Matthew McManus (Palgrave; 2023) The Political Right and Equality: Turning Back the Tide of Egalitarian Modernity by Matthew McManus (Routledge; forthcoming) Nietzsche's Great Politics by Hugo Drochon (Princeton; 2016) Nietzsche's Letter to Georg Brandes (Dec. 2, 1887) Nietzsche: Philosopher, Psychologist, Antichrist by Walter Kaufmann (Princeton; 2013) “God is dead. God remains dead. And we have killed him. How shall we comfort ourselves, the murderers of all murderers?” from Nietzsche's The Gay Science, §125 (1882; tr. W. Kaufmann) "Atheist bus campaign spreads the word of no God nationwide" by Riazat Butt (The Guardian; Jan. 6, 2009) "Since Copernicus man has been rolling from the center toward X," from Nietzsche's The Will To Power, published posthumously in 1901. Immanuel Kant, Metaphysics of Morals (1797) Kierkegaard's Attack Upon "Christendom", 1854-1855 (tr. Walter Lowrie) Nietzsche, the Aristocratic Rebel by Domenico Losurdo (Brill; 2019) Joseph de Maistre, Considerations on France (1797) "Does Liberalism Mean Supporting Communism?" by Matthew McManus (Liberal Currents; Jan. 4, 2022) Frantz Fanon, The Wretched of the Earth (1963) United States of Socialism by Dinesh D'Souza (All Points; 2020) "The alt-right is drunk on bad readings of Nietzsche. The Nazis were too" by Sean Illing (Vox; Dec. 30, 2018) The Third Reich series by Richard J. Evans Ayn Rand, Atlas Shrugged (1957)   Enjoyed this episode? Rate The Gray Area ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ and leave a review on Apple Podcasts. Subscribe for free. Be the first to hear the next episode of The Gray Area. Subscribe in your favorite podcast app. Support The Gray Area by making a financial contribution to Vox! bit.ly/givepodcasts This episode was made by:  Producer: Erikk Geannikis Engineer: Patrick Boyd Editorial Director, Vox Talk: A.M. Hall Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

    How To Cope With Negative Emotions

    How To Cope With Negative Emotions
    You can join the community here for additional support, laughs, and FREE community events! https://explore.healthygamer.gg/en/discord  Check out our latest community event, Right In The Feels, where you can track your emotions to learn more about yourself! Take control today! https://feels.healthygamer.gg Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

    #237 BITESIZE | The Secret to Long-Term Happiness and Fulfilment | Matthew McConaughey

    #237 BITESIZE | The Secret to Long-Term Happiness and Fulfilment | Matthew McConaughey

    Are you performing at life, or are you really living it?


    Feel Better Live More Bitesize is my weekly podcast for your mind, body, and heart.  Each week I’ll be featuring inspirational stories and practical tips from some of my former guests.

     

    Today’s clip is from episode 134 of the podcast with the wonderful Matthew McConaughey.


    In this clip Matthew explains why authenticity is important to him and how, by understanding who we really are and showing up as ourselves more often, we can live a happier life.


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    UFYB 213: When You Don’t Know What the F*ck Is Going On With Your Brain

    UFYB 213: When You Don’t Know What the F*ck Is Going On With Your Brain

    Coaching is like magic when you’ve identified a “problem” and want help creating something new in your life. But what about the times that you genuinely, truly, cannot figure out what the fuck is going on with your brain? When you’re feeling angry, sad, or lost and you can’t pinpoint why for weeks or months or even years at a time?

     

    Tune in to this week’s podcast to learn how to hold space for yourself even when you don’t understand what’s happening in your brain - and how to turn these experiences into an opportunity to strengthen your relationship with yourself.

     

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    Build Yourself to a Mindset Where You Don't NEED Anyone Else to be Happy

    Build Yourself to a Mindset Where You Don't NEED Anyone Else to be Happy

    Today’s episode is all about self-love and independence. I have gotten myself to a place where I don't need outside affirmation from anyone, not even my kids or parents in order to be happy. I've worked through my life to get to a place where if I need answers I go to myself. I want to share that mindset with you in hopes you take a little bit of it on your journey from here.

    Enjoy! Let me know what you thought.


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    #336 - Richard Lang - What It Feels Like To Have No Head

    #336 - Richard Lang - What It Feels Like To Have No Head
    Richard Lang is the Co-ordinator of the Shollond Trust, a UK charity focussed on sharing the Headless Way. If you see a person from 6 feet away, they're a person. From 100,000 miles away they're a planet. From a few microns away they're cells. So what are they at their very centre? Who are we? This is the central question of The Headless Way and today Richard takes us through Douglas Harding's work to answer it along with some meditations and experiments you can do to illuminate these insights for yourself. Sponsors: Get 20% discount on the highest quality CBD Products from Pure Sport at https://puresportcbd.com/modernwisdom (use code: MW20) Get perfect teeth 70% cheaper than other invisible aligners from DW Aligners at http://dwaligners.co.uk/modernwisdom Extra Stuff: Check out Richard's Website - https://headless.org/ Watch "Who Are You?" - https://youtu.be/X_Vx2NcGWgo  Get my free Ultimate Life Hacks List to 10x your daily productivity → https://chriswillx.com/lifehacks/ To support me on Patreon (thank you): https://www.patreon.com/modernwisdom - Get in touch. Join the discussion with me and other like minded listeners in the episode comments on the MW YouTube Channel or message me... Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/chriswillx Twitter: https://www.twitter.com/chriswillx YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/ModernWisdomPodcast Email: https://www.chriswillx.com/contact Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

    #242 — Psychedelics and the Self

    #242 — Psychedelics and the Self

    Sam Harris speaks with James Fadiman about the psychedelic experience. They discuss who should and shouldn’t take psychedelics, set and setting, the role of a guide, the effects of microdosing, the difference between MDMA and true psychedelics, “good” and “bad” trips, the power of thought, the fiction of a unified self, changing states of self, compassion, and other topics.

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    03 - THERAPY - How does our childhood define the adults we become?

    03 - THERAPY - How does our childhood define the adults we become?
    Hi friends! Welcome to Episode 3 of OPENHOUSE. This one is a little different to our usual pre-recorded podcast episodes and it is a live-streamed therapy workshop where we explore how childhood impacts your development into adulthood.⠀This episode includes an at-home worksheet booklet for you to work through as we go through the session. If you want to join into the session, please head to http://www.thisisopenhouse.com/episodes/episode-3- to get yours!⠀The importance of childhood experiences cannot be underestimated. Seemingly small events in childhood can sometimes have more significance than major events in adulthood and hugely impact the way we develop. The situations that we grow up in become our baseline normal and we form ideas about how life should be and how others should act from this perspective. Many are not always aware of this template that has been built from a young age.⠀Should we experience stressful situations as a child, we also may develop unhelpful coping mechanisms that can endure long into adulthood and our adult relationships.⠀Join us in this session where we explore a number of questions - looking through the lens of Louise and her life experiences, before asking you to look inwards and query:⠀What did you learn from your family?⠀⇢ What is an attachment style and how do they impact our connection with those around us? ⠀ ⇢ How to work out our attachment style with those closest to us. Are you secure, anxious, avoidant, or disorganised? How does this differ across family members?⠀ ⇢ What is self esteem, how is self esteem built in childhood and how does it change into adulthood?⠀⇢ What are love languages and how can you most effectively manage your relationships in order to help them flourish by understanding these?⠀We also run through a number of different analogies - including the Oil Rig analogy - to best understand how you can bolster your self esteem to support you as you grow from childhood, into adolescence and then into adulthood, as well as answering live questions along the way.⠀Did you like this live podcast? Did our message resonate with you? Be sure to subscribe and leave a 5-star review and please do share onto your socials and tag us - so we can start a conversation with you! We appreciate you! ⠀Connect with Louise:⠀📲 @iamlouiserumball⠀ www.thisisopenhouse.com ⠀Connect with OPENHOUSE:⠀📲 openhouselife⠀––––––––––––––––––––––––––––––⠀Vibe With Me by Joakim Karud http://soundcloud.com/joakimkarud⠀Music promoted by Audio Library https://youtu.be/-7YDBIGCXsY⠀––––––––––––––––––––––––––––– Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices