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Have you ever wondered what the right amount of effort to put in with someone is?

Should you let them know you’d like to go on a date with them? And what about after the date. . .

Should you let them know you’d like to see them again if you felt the date went well but they're not being proactive about setting up another one?

Where is the line between showing someone you like them, and chasing someone who’s simply not that interested?

It can be tricky. But I want to make it simple.

You may have heard me say, “Invest in those who invest in you.” But that could leave you wondering to yourself: “Fine Matthew, but so often that means I’m doing nothing because no one is investing in me! And doesn’t someone need to take the first step to invest something if anything is ever going to happen?”

It’s a valid point. I’ll show you exactly how to solve this at the end of the episode, so make sure you listen all the way through.

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After my incredible interview with Roman Kemp last week, I wanted to spend this week's bonus episode talking about men and their mental health. Why do men struggle to talk about what's bothering us? This episode is essential listening for all men, plus any girlfriends, wives, mothers and friends who want to find out how to support someone in their life who is struggling.

This episode covers:

1'20 - Why there's a stigma surrounding getting help

3'00 - Do all mental health issues stem from childhood trauma?

4'00 - Why are men reluctant to talk about their emotions?

6'20 - How does talking help?

10'10 - When is it time to go to therapy?

15'00 - Why do I parent my son differently to my daughter?

18'00 - Will the destigmatisation of ill-mental health lead to a weaker generation?

21'00 - How do you speak to someone who is struggling?

Welcome to our second bonus episode of Big Fish - where each week I'm joined by my former therapist, Chip Somers, to unpack what's going on in my life and learn how we can all become the best versions of ourselves. This week we're tackling social media - and how damaging it is to our mental health and relationships.

What we cover in this episode:

3’00 - Why negatives comments stick

5’00 - What’s the impact on young children?

8’00 - Are we now struggling to communicate our feelings?

12’45 - What’s the impact of technology addiction on society?

18'00 - Top tips on reducing your usage

Ever find yourself yearning for a deeper bond with those around you?  

Creating deeper connections doesn't have to be an exhausting or daunting task.

We can still create connections in the simplest most ordinary ways if we make time for it and show sincerity. 

From the hustle and bustle of everyday life to the moments of solitude, we'll uncover the secrets to forging relationships that stand the test of time. Your social life doesn't have to feel like a performance – let's make it a celebration.

Let's explore how broadening your emotional language can be the key to unlocking a world of deeper connections. Say goodbye to surface-level chatter and say hello to discussions that spark genuine connections. From sharing smiles with strangers to using technology to our advantage, each habit is a stepping stone to deeper relationships. 

In this episode, you'll learn:

• How to bridge connection gap
• How to tune into yourself before making connections
• How to be more vocal about your emotions
• How to make new memories with old friends
• How to start engaging conversations

Hope you're able to genuinely connect with someone today. Let's make every connection count!

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

What We Discuss:

• 00:00 Intro
• 01:36 Do you sometimes feel lonely, or disconnected from the people around you?
• 07:58 Habit #1: Check in with yourself - Does your social life start to feel like work or when your social life feels like it's non-existent?
• 14:14 Habit #2: Expand your emotional vocabulary -  If you wanna see, hear, and understand and value other people better, you need to expand your emotional vocabulary
• 17:56 Habit #3: Old new and new old - While we use nostalgia to build connection, try to build new memories with an old friend
• 20:44 Habit #4: Ask interesting questions - Go for more open and fascinating questions that won’t pressure other people to answer
• 23:05 Habit #5: Deep versus shallow time - Take the time to invest in creating a small group where you can build deeper connections 
• 26:07 Habit #6: Look for patterns and connections where others don’t see them
• 27:20 Habit #7: Smile at strangers and say hello creates an energy for small moments of connection
• 28:40 Habit #8: Use technology to your advantage and connect with people you haven’t talked with in a while or reconnect with them anytime
• 30:04 Habit #9: Giving creates connect - When you give someone a part of you, a piece of you, a truth about you, it allows you to connect with them
• 30:52 Habit #10: Invite people for ordinary tasks - It’s okay to spend time with people in boring ways and connect with them
• 31:34 Habit #11: Connecting with people in all ages 

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Every language has its taboo words (which many people use all the time). But the list of forbidden words is always changing — and those changes tell us some surprising things about ourselves. Note: The swear words in this episode have been bleeped out. To hear a version of this episode without the bleeps, go to freakonomics.com.

What’s the purpose of profanity? Why is cursing on the rise? And will Angela finally swear off swearing?

What are tears? Are humans indeed the only animal that wraps and what purpose do they serve? In this episode of Stuff to Blow Your Mind, Robert and Joe explore the topic of tears from a scientific and even religious standpoint.

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On a previous episode, I talked about the distinction between positive and negative motivation and action, and the way we're taught that negative emotions lead to positive actions. Many of us think our anger will motivate us to take actions, believing this will change things, but I'm hoping to share some insight that will shed a little light on why this is a mistaken thought pattern.

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I got an email from a Christian who tells me that I should save the God stuff for church and talk about other subjects. I hear this kind of thing a lot from Christian readers/viewers. It is a symptom of the secularization of faith in America. We treat faith and "the real world" as two entirely separate things that should not cross over into one another. But I don't think that is the right approach, and here's why.

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People have the greatest levels of success when they live and work at the edge of their abilities. - Susan David
All of us want to be happy. Many of us pursue happiness in different ways, and sometimes that includes trying to block out less than happy emotions.
You might have noticed that becoming obsessed with this pursuit can actually make you less happy in the long run.
That's because all emotions are meant to be experienced. They are meant to pass through you, and when you suppress them or try to pretend they aren't there they will just come back to you with a vengeance.
So how do we be truly happy?
That's exactly what Susan David has spent her career studying.
Susan David is a psychologist, originally from South Africa, that has been learning about emotions and people's pursuit of happiness since she lost her father in high school.
She has recently written a best selling book, Emotional Agility, about the importance of every emotion we go through.
Susan also recently gave a Ted Talk that was one of the most successful campaigns to date. It received over a million views within the first week.
I like to think that things come into our lives at the perfect time and for the right reasons. Lately I've been going through some emotional challenges, which I open up about on this episode, and I took so much away from Susan's advice.
I feel privileged to have Susan on this episode and I know you will learn a lot, on Episode 604.
Some questions I ask:
How did you handle the passing of your dad at a young age? (2:13)
What does disability mean? (5:06)
How should we approach situations in life we're unhappy about? (7:12)
What are your range of emotions like on a daily basis? (11:24)
How do we evaluate our emotions? (19:05)Would you say that to make a greater impact in the world that you need to take on more stress? (24:05)
How should we approach people going through a difficult time but won't admit it? (29:33)
What advice do you have for me if I lose my father? (38:40)
In this episode you will learn:
What it was like losing her father in high school (00:58)
The importance of journaling (56:15)
Are we trying to become resilient with our emotions? (4:41)
How do we learn from our emotions? (8:28)
As a trained psychologist, how do you just allow your emotion to be? (14:20)
Are all emotions valuable? (23:09)
What does a healthy relationship with our emotions look like? (27:04)
What should people do when they lose their job? (37:00)
What advice do you have for men who hold in their emotions? (50:03)

Contrary to popular belief, arguments themselves aren’t what damage relationships; it’s the amount of time that we take to recover after an argument. But no matter how compatible you are with your partner, disagreements are inevitable. So today, I’m going to teach you my secret weapon to end an argument as quickly as possible using six powerful words. When you say these, you’ll immediately switch from being adversaries to teammates and get right into solving the problem…so you can shift your focus from fighting to the fun part: making up.