Criticism

This week, we're looking at Black Box, a movie that surprisingly has nothing to do with airplanes! Listen in as we try to figure out if we liked this one. Was it too Black Mirror? Did it do enough to appease our "uhm technically" nature? Only one way to find out!

Tired of being misunderstood all the time?

Are you looking for ways to stop living up to other people's expectations?

Then this podcast is for you. 

Today, Jay Shetty welcomes world-ranking professional tennis player Nick Kyrgios. Nick burst onto the pro tennis scene in 2012 after a prolific junior tennis career. Since his start he has captivated fans with a larger than life personality, passion for the game, and unpredictability. Kyrgios has won 7 singles titles and 4 doubles titles in his career, but 2022 marked the first time Kyrgios displayed his dominance making it to his first Grand Slam Final, winning 3 singles titles, and 3 doubles titles. He also reached the Quarter Finals of the 2022 US Open beating then-ranked No. 1 Daniil Medvedev and is one of the few players on Tour who have beaten the Big Three (Novak Djokovic, Roger Federer, Rafael Nadal) at least once. 

In this conversation, Nick opens up about how his strong personality online has sparked hate and negativity - how misunderstood his persona is and how different he is with friends and family.

Nick also briefly talks about dark times, dealing with depression and addiction and turning the most difficult phase of his life into a pivotal moment to have the best year of his life when he reached the Wimbledon final. He also talks about looking at life beyond tennis and what awaits him in the future.

In this episode, you will learn:

• How to accept your flaws
• How to overcome fear and anger
• How to turn your life around
• How to deal with negativity
• How to become your best self

A truly inspiring story begins with a challenge and ends with a triumph, and Nick has just proven to us that success isn't elusive when you dream big and work hard for it. 

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

What We Discuss:

• 00:00 Intro
• 00:54 Enjoying Some Time Off
• 02:00 Nick Used to Hate Playing Tennis
• 03:35 Misbranded by the Media
• 06:00 The Effects of Promoting Negative Content
• 08:25 Dealing with Mental Health in Silence
• 10:49 Getting Out of the Darkest Moments
• 15:08 How Hard Work Led to Wimbledon
• 17:04 People Only See the Anger
• 19:23 People Will Always Have Something to Say
• 22:56 Being Okay with Leaving the Game Behind
• 24:52 Nick Talks About His Injury
• 25:46 Would You Spend Time with Your Haters?
• 28:25 Playing the Character of a Villain
• 29:55 The Best Crowd to Play For
• 33:32 Who is the Nice Guy Nick?
• 34:59 Tennis Is A White Privileged Sport!
• 38:34 How Media Can Negatively Affect Your Mental Health
• 44:26 How Strong Boundaries Make Relationships Work
• 49:36 An Old Conversation with Drake
• 51:50 Happiness is Spending Time with Family
• 54:44 The Many Breakdowns that People Do Not Know
• 59:14 What’s Keeping You Busy These Days?
• 01:00:30 The Best Places to Visit
• 01:02:00 Regrets of Losing a Loved One
• 01:06:44 Learning How to Bounce Back Right Away
• 01:07:58 The Hardest Lesson You Had to Learn
• 01:12:05 How Stress Can Affect How You React to People
• 01:16:24 Why Would You Break a Racket?
• 01:19:14 Routine Consistency is Hard Work
• 01:21:15 The Struggle of Letting People Down
• 01:24:13 Nick on Final Five

Episode Resources:

• Nick Kyrgios | Website
• Nick Kyrgios | X
• Nick Kyrgios | Instagram
• Nick Kyrgios | Facebook

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Have you ever found yourself comparing your current partner to someone from your past? 

Are you wondering why your current relationship isn’t as happy as it used to be?

If you’re currently struggling with keeping your relationship afloat, then this episode is for you. 

We all know that effective communication is the key to maintaining healthy connections, and I am here to guide us on how to better express our thoughts and concerns to our loved ones. Here's the first golden rule in improving your relationships – someone's past behavior doesn't define them today. And it's not just about their actions; it's about what you bring to the table as well. 

Let's take a look at crucial insights on how we tend to fill in the gaps with our own assumptions, the importance of asking the right questions, and why criticism rarely leads to positive change. And always consider the significance of seeing vulnerability as strength and not putting your loved ones down in public.

In this episode, you'll learn:

• The reasons why relationships fail
• How to avoid actions that ruin relationships
• How to become a better listener
• How to communicate yourself effectively

We're in for a heartfelt discussion that will surely help you strengthen your relationships and take a step closer to the happier, healthier connections you deserve.

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

What We Discuss:

• 00:00 Intro
• 01:38 How to Better Communicate Issues in Your Relationship
• 03:31 #1: Someone's Behavior Doesn’t Make Them The Same As Someone You Were With Before  
• 09:01 #2: Don't Fill In Uncertainties Mentally
• 13:26 #3: We All Have A Long List Of Needs
• 18:12 #4: Ask Yourself These Three Questions
• 20:38 #5: Criticism Doesn’t Help Change, Coaching Does
• 23:27 #6: Seeing Opening Up As A Weakness 
• 26:33 #7: Criticism Is Often Linked With Comparison
• 27:20 #8: Don’t Put Them Down In Public

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"I used to attend his church, but as a pastor, he just doesn't live the same anymore. God is definitely not happy with him!"

That comment floated across my Facebook feed as I was aimlessly flipping through my feed killing time about a week ago. I went back to read it again because then I noticed the comment was made by a person that has always attended church with that pastor, even way before he was leading a church. They were long time acquaintances and it kind of surprised me about the comment ... but then it didn't surprise me.

The reason was, the commenter was still living heavily in legalism, the pastor had studied his Bible and took being saved by grace and not works at face value and was living in the freedom God had given him.

My first thought was, "And you have a direct connection with God to know what God thinks? Really??!"

I did understand why the comment was made. You see, I grew up in legalism and under the influence of a critical spirit as well. It was a practice that was handed down to me from my parents and my old church family and it is still a battle today. I fight a critical spirit all the time. It's only by the grace of God that over the years I have found a new meaning in the Grace that Jesus gave us when He died on that cross so that I could live in the freedom He gave as well.

We have to take Galatians literally if we are going to say we live by the Bible. It's not by works, it's by grace. God didn't give us the power to judge. That is God's job! It's our job as Christians to live in God's grace and love others like He loves us, unconditionally. We show them the love of Christ without passing off the criticism and let God take care of the rest.

So how do we fight that spirit that resides in so many of us? This week on Connecting the Gap, we discuss some ways we can overcome the urge to criticize and potentially run someone from God for an eternity.

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