Relationship

Today, I talk to John and Julie Gottman to discuss how to strengthen relationships. Dr. Julie and John share their thoughts on why we should stop being the person who we think our partners like and start being our genuine selves, what can we do to build and/or improve intimacy with our partner, and how to deal with the changes you and your partner go through without losing the connection and stay committed to each other. 

Dr. Julie Schwartz Gottman is a co-founder and President of The Gottman Institute and co-founder of Affective Software, Inc. with her husband John Gottman. For over 40 years they have devoted their life to the research and practice of fostering healthy, long-lasting relationships through the training of clinicians and the creation of transformative products for couples around the world. 

You can order my new book 8 RULES OF LOVE at 8rulesoflove.com or at a retail store near you. You can also get the chance to see me live on my first ever world tour. This is a 90 minute interactive show where I will take you on a journey of finding, keeping and even letting go of love. Head to jayshettytour.com and find out if I'll be in a city near you. Thank you so much for all your support - I hope to see you soon.

What We Discuss:

• 00:00 Intro
• 02:08 What qualities should we focus on when we start dating a person?
• 05:25 We are always molding ourselves in accordance to someone else’s preferences
• 11:09 The role of self-esteem and self awareness in healthy relationships
• 16:57 What happens when we limit ourselves in meeting people online
• 24:45 Why asking a ‘big’ question is important in building intimacy?
• 28:27 How do you deal with your partner and the constant changes they go through?
• 33:36 Finding new ways to stay connected with your partner
• 38:58 This is why you need to focus more on the positive aspects of your relationship
• 42:57 Expressing gratitude and explaining why you’re thankful ads more depth to the moment
• 50:00 Is there a way to know if a relationship can last?   

Episode Resources

• The Gottman Institute
• The Gottman Institute | Facebook
• The Gottman Institute | Instagram
• The Gottman Institute | YouTube
• The Gottman Institute | Twitter
• The Gottman Institute | Books

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Jay Shetty is a #1 New York Times bestselling author, award-winning podcast host of On Purpose, and the Chief Purpose Officer of Calm. Since launching his video channel in 2016, Jay’s viral wisdom videos have garnered over 7 billion views and gained over 35 million followers globally. He is one of the more viewed people on the internet internationally. 

Be sure to check out Jay’s newest book, 8 Rules of Love.

In this episode you will learn, 

• The difference between toxic and conscious love. 
• The greatest skill everyone should learn in order to master love.
• Why so many of us don’t feel worthy of love, and how to change that limiting mindset.

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Can You Make Money & Also Be Spiritual? https://link.chtbl.com/1298-pod

Train Your Mind For Peace And Purpose Everyday: https://link.chtbl.com/953-pod

Today, I am going to share with you another snippet from my latest book, 8 Rules of Love. This time, we will talk about karma. Rule #2: Don’t Ignore Your Karma - in this chapter we take a look at how first and early impressions on love shape our future relationship choices, the different personality types we get drawn to and why, the tendency to look for validation from others when seeking love, and how we should learn from our past relationships. 

You can order my new book 8 RULES OF LOVE at 8rulesoflove.com or at a retail store near you. You can also get the chance to see me live on my first ever world tour. This is a 90 minute interactive show where I will take you on a journey of finding, keeping and even letting go of love. Head to jayshettytour.com and find out if I'll be in a city near you. Thank you so much for all your support - I hope to see you soon.   

Key Takeaways:

• 00:00 Intro
• 01:17 Rule #2: Don’t Ignore Your Karma
• 05:04 The Karma Cycle - From the time we are born, choices are made for us.
• 07:36 Karma and Relationships - This is how our early impressions affect our future choices
• 12:01 Our expectations and desires around relationships are shaped after our earliest experiences of love
• 17:34 Parental Gifts and Gaps - The four pillars that help us establish relationship dynamics
• 24:54 No matter how imperfect the situation we were born into, we can learn from our karma
• 28:29 Emotional Support - What kind of love and emotional support your parents have given you?
• 31:00 We are hardwired to look outward to others for validation and satisfaction
• 35:25 Scenemtic images of love set the standard for how love should occur and make us feel we aren’t achieving the level of romance that we should
• 40:35 First Love - Our ideas of love are also shaped by our first loves
• 44:15 Type #1: The Rebel - Adventure and mystery does not necessarily give way to loyalty and responsibility
• 45:32 Type #2: The Chase - Getting drawn to someone who isn’t emotionally available
• 48:08 Type #3: The Project - You’re not equals and you’re investing more in the relationship
• 53:09 When you date someone who sleeps around and doesn’t want to commit
• 55:31 The Opulent One: If someone is attractive we tend to assign positive attributes to them
• 58:55 Reflect and learn from a past relationship
• 01: What approach do you use to attract someone?
• 01:08:33 What you want from someone else, first give to yourself  

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Today, I sit down with Stephan Labossiere to talk about breakups and relationship building. We exchange thoughts on the importance of emotional maturity and how it greatly helps couples resolve misunderstandings, the reasons most relationships are dubbed challenging and difficult, understanding what a love cycle is and how emotionally damaging it is, and healing your trauma and working on yourself first are the first steps to attracting the right partner.    

Stephan Labossiere a.k.a Stephan Speaks is a man on a mission, and that mission is to make relationships happier and more fulfilling. As a certified relationship coach, a speaker and author, Stephan seizes every opportunity to help both men and women overcome the challenges that hinder their relationships. Some of his most popular books are Love After Heartbreak, He's Lying Sis: Uncover the Truth Behind His Words and Actions, and The Man God Has For You: 7 Traits To Help You Determine Your Life Partner.

You can order my new book 8 RULES OF LOVE at 8rulesoflove.com or at a retail store near you. You can also get the chance to see me live on my first ever world tour. This is a 90 minute interactive show where I will take you on a journey of finding, keeping and even letting go of love. Head to jayshettytour.com and find out if I'll be in a city near you. Thank you so much for all your support - I hope to see you soon.

What We Discuss:

• 00:00 Intro
• 01:40 What are the signs that someone deeply loves you?
• 04:01 Both partners need to be emotionally ready to grow love
• 08:56 Compatibility is about two people co-existing in harmony
• 13:10 How do you differentiate connection and chemistry, and what stage are you in?
• 16:51 Is anything that is not sustainable not healthy for any relationship?
• 21:15 Allowing children to discover themselves and their interests helps them become more self-aware
• 24:16 Why are most relationships difficult and become a continuous struggle?
• 29:13 The love advice you’ve probably heard but shouldn’t practice
• 34:07 Why do you need to nurture both of your masculine and feminine energy?
• 43:23 This is how you test the compatibility you have with your partner
• 46:42 Learn about the unhealthy love cycle that often causes relationships to fail
• 55:14 Aim to become the best you and you start to attract the right person
• 58:16 Focus on the healing from everything that you’ve been through, not just from your breakup
• 01:05:42 Stephan on Final Five  

Episode Resources

• Stephan Labossiere | Website
• Stephan Labossiere | Instagram
• Stephan Labossiere | YouTube
• Stephan Labossiere | Twitter
• Stephan Labossiere | Facebook
• Stephan Labossiere | TikTok
• Stephan Labossiere | Books

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Depending on what form they take, our relationships with others can either make our lives fulfilling and joyful or stressful and even sad. Everyone has the intention to live well and feel happy, but so many of our choices derail us from those goals. Investing our time and energy into our relationships (even the one we have with ourselves) might be the key.

In today’s episode, I talk with Dr. Robert Waldinger, Esther Perel, and Angelika Alana about why relationships are so important to our health and how to be the best version of yourself in them.

Dr. Robert Waldinger is a professor of psychiatry at Harvard Medical School, director of the Harvard Study of Adult Development at Massachusetts General Hospital, and cofounder of the Lifespan Research Foundation. Dr. Waldinger received his AB from Harvard College and his MD from Harvard Medical School. He is a practicing psychiatrist and psychoanalyst, and he directs a psychotherapy teaching program for Harvard psychiatry residents. Dr. Waldinger is also a Zen master (roshi) and teaches meditation in New England and around the world.

Esther Perel, psychotherapist and New York Times bestselling author, is recognized as one of today’s most insightful and original voices on modern relationships. Fluent in nine languages, she helms a therapy practice in New York City and serves as an organizational consultant for Fortune 500 companies around the world. Her celebrated TED Talks have garnered more than 30 million views and her bestselling books, Mating in Captivity and The State of Affairs, are global phenomena translated into nearly 30 languages.

Angelika Alana is the founder and CEO of the Somatic Healing Institute. She has been featured in Vanity Fair, Well+Good, and Modern Luxury. She certifies coaches and facilitators in her transformational body-based healing method. She has traveled and studied extensively in Indonesia, Brazil, Australia, and the UK, and is a massive foodie with her husband Patrick Drake, cofounder of Hello Fresh.

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In this episode, we are digging into betrayal and learning how to get your power back after someone shatters your trust.

It’s happened to me and I know it’s happened to you, too.

Maybe someone cheated on you. Maybe someone stole from you in business. Perhaps it was a friend who stabbed you in the back.  

It’s painful.  

You might not be sure how to confront that person, or if it’s even worth it. 

Or if you did confront them, they may have denied and deflected, making you feel like something was wrong with you.

Well today I’m using my own experiences with betrayal to coach Sonia and Jenn - and you - through this. 

You always have options, and whether you believe it or not, you can get your power back.

Today’s episode will help you heal, change your perspective, and equip you with the tools you need to land on your feet and be smarter, more open and able to create healthier relationships, partnerships, and friendships in the future.

You deserve that.

Buckle up, because your friend Mel is hitting you between the eyes with some hard earned wisdom and tough love today. 

 Xo Mel 

Check out research and other resources at melrobbins.com/podcast.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• 3:30: I was betrayed by someone in my business and this is what I learned.
• 4:12: Sonia asks her question about a painful betrayal.
• 5:15: Should you confront this person? Ask yourself this first.
• 11:40: You don’t need to have this in order to feel closure with someone.
• 14:20: Here’s how to have a conversation with someone who betrayed you.
• 16:00: Jenn reveals how her painful betrayal has changed her.
• 17:30: This is the hardest part of betrayal to grasp. Please play on repeat.
• 19:20: Here is what you’re actually grieving after you’ve been betrayed.
• 26:45: You need to change your story of betrayal. Here’s how.
• 28:30: Trying to work through betrayal with someone you love? Listen to this.
• 34:40: Here is what the experts say about affairs. 
• 39:45: The advice from Jenn that you need to hear if you’ve just been betrayed.

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Here is Betrayal 101: “3 Lessons From One of the Hardest Years of My Life.”

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"I was mortified! Like, I’ve literally told everyone he’s my boyfriend, and he hasn’t told his friends about me! They don’t know who I am!"

Happy Valentine's Day! We're celebrating as we always do on the Ali on the Run Show: with a whole lot of love! This year, it's Emily Infeld and Max Randolph's time to shine. Emily is a Nike-sponsored professional athlete and member of Team Boss, coached by Joe Bosshard. Max is a longtime Nike-employee and self-described "Professional Wife Supporter," making his podcast debut! In this conversation, we hear about Emily and Max's first meeting (fittingly, they met at a cross-country meet), and the long road to their first real date. Plus, how Max proposed, Emily and Max's advice for making a long-distance relationship work (this applies to all kinds of relationships), what Max is like when Emily is racing, and what's next on Emily's racing calendar.

And hey, whether you celebrate today or not, know that one thing is for sure: I love you.

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What you’ll get on this episode:

• Max and Emily introduce each other (2:25)
• The story of how Max and Emily met, and the long road to their first date (4:35)
• On the “rules” of dating when you’re on a professional running team (35:00)
• When Emily and Max finally got to be in the same place at the same time — six years after meeting! (40:25)
• How Max and Emily adjusted to living together for the first time, and how Max proposed (47:55)
• Max and Emily’s advice for people in long-distance relationships (58:45)
• What Max is like when Emily’s racing (1:00:00)
• Emily offers updates on her running (1:03:30)
• Max and Emily share the moments when they felt proudest of each other (1:08:30)

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This episode is part one of our four-part series where we’re counter-programming against the way Valentine’s Day is often celebrated, and examining different kinds of relationships including romantic, friendship, and family. 

Today’s guest hews a bit more closely to the traditional Valentine’s Day theme and will do some myth-busting around all the things we tend to get wrong when we talk about romantic relationships. 

Myisha Battle is the author of the book, “This Is Supposed to Be Fun: How To Find Joy in Hooking Up, Settling Down, and Everything in Between.” She also hosts the podcasts Down for Whatever, and Dating White. Much of her public work focuses on the early stages of relationships, but in her private practice, she counsels people at all stages, and in all kinds of relationships. 

Content Warning: Explicit language and conversations about sex. 

In this episode we talk about:

• Five ways to improve intimacy and connection in romantic partnership
• The nuts and bolts of sex, and how we often get intimacy and sex confused in unhelpful ways
• Understanding men’s and women’s cycles to depersonalize issues in sex and relationships
• The myth of finding “the one”
• The orgasm gap
• Bromance
• And if you’re looking, tips on how to make finding a partner easier

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You can order my new book 8 RULES OF LOVE at 8rulesoflove.com or at a retail store near you. You can also get the chance to see me live on my first ever world tour. This is a 90 minute interactive show where I will take you on a journey of finding, keeping and even letting go of love. Head to jayshettytour.com and find out if I'll be in a city near you. Thank you so much for all your support - I hope to see you soon.

Today, I am going to share with you relationship red flags. There are warning signs that indicate potential problems in a romantic relationship. These can be behaviors or attitudes that are harmful or incompatible with a healthy relationship. It's important to be able to spot these red flags early on in a relationship so that you can make an informed decision about whether to continue the relationship. Pay attention to your gut feelings and listen to any concerns that your friends or family may have. Trust your instincts and if you notice multiple red flags, it may be time to reassess the relationship and consider whether it is a healthy and positive situation for you.  

Key Takeaways:

• 00:00:00 Intro
• 00:02:09 Avoiding relationship red flags 
• 00:09:09 Red Flag #1: Saying “I love you” too soon
• 00:12:46 Red Flag #2: Pressure to have s*x
• 00:15:52 Red Flag #3: Talking about moving in and starting a family
• 00:20:18 Red Flag #4: Gaslighting
• 00:21:34 Red Flag #5: Encouraging you to give up your passion
• 00:25:08 Red Flag #6: Talks about their ex-partner

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You can order my new book 8 RULES OF LOVE at 8rulesoflove.com or at a retail store near you. You can also get the chance to see me live on my first ever world tour. This is a 90 minute interactive show where I will take you on a journey of finding, keeping and even letting go of love. Head to jayshettytour.com and find out if I'll be in a city near you. Thank you so much for all your support - I hope to see you soon.

Today, I am going to share with you a snippet of my latest book, 8 Rules of Love’s introduction. The book is a powerful and thought-provoking guide to understanding the true meaning and importance of love in our lives. Included are my own personal experiences and wisdom, as well as insights from ancient spiritual traditions, to offer practical and actionable advice for cultivating deeper and more meaningful connections with ourselves and others.   

Key Takeaways:

• 00:00:00 Intro
• 00:02:27 The difference between like and love 
• 00:05:31 Many forms of love
• 00:08:09 The Vedas
• 00:10:53 The Practice of Love
• 00:14:35 The First Ashram - Preparing for Love
• 00:15:42 The Second Ashram - Practicing Love
• 00:17:02 The Third Ashram - Protecting Love
• 00:18:00 The Fourth Ashram - Perfecting Love

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You can order my new book 8 RULES OF LOVE at 8rulesoflove.com or at a retail store near you. You can also get the chance to see me live on my first ever world tour. This is a 90 minute interactive show where I will take you on a journey of finding, keeping and even letting go of love. Head to jayshettytour.com and find out if I'll be in a city near you. Thank you so much for all your support - I hope to see you soon.

Today, I am talking to Drew Barrymore. Drew is a talented actress, producer, and director, known for her roles in films such as "E.T. the Extra-Terrestrial", "Charlie's Angels", and "50 First Dates." She made her acting debut at the age of six in the film "Altered States" and rose to fame as a child star in the 1982 film "E.T." She has since established herself as a leading lady in Hollywood and has also produced and directed several films. In addition to her successful career in the entertainment industry, she is also an author and a businesswoman, with her own production company and a cosmetics line. Currently, she hosts the The Drew Barrymore Show, which debuted in 2020 and has been renewed for a fourth season this year.  

Drew shares her thoughts on being more empathetic, which means putting ourselves in others' shoes and treating them with kindness and compassion, why learning self-forgiveness is crucial for personal growth and healing, liberating or freeing yourself from mental, physical, or emotional constraints and can be achieved through self-awareness, self-care, and self-love. Prioritizing ourselves means taking care of our physical and mental well-being, setting boundaries, and making time for our own needs and wants. 

It is important to remember that we cannot pour from an empty cup, and taking care of ourselves allows us to show up fully for others.    

What We Discuss:

• 00:00:00 Intro
• 00:00:22 It was a new show and nobody wanted to talk
• 00:03:55 Starting out as a child
• 00:09:28 Being more kind and empathetic
• 00:16:55 Forgiveness and the ultimate form of liberation
• 00:23:50 Letting go of shame and guilt
• 00:27:14 Don’t stay stuck, get on with it
• 00:33:08 Having a sense of safety in your workplace 
• 00:37:59 How do you receive genuine love?
• 00:49:13 Invest in yourself
• 00:53:46 Today, who do you want to be?
• 00:57:43 Your gut is your body’s compass

Episode Resources

• Drew Barrymore | Twitter
• Drew Barrymore | Instagram
• Drew Barrymore | Facebook
• The Drew Barrymore Show | YouTube | TikTok

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On todays podcast we reveal the winner of our Ultimate Valentine's Package! Tracy and I talk on this episode about why couples who fight often love each other more. This statement comes with study after study that confirm what we are telling you. Then we talk about the benefits for couples in love who fight often. It has been said the "Love isn't when there are no fights in the relationship. Love is when once the fight ends, Love is still there." So with that being said... Go home and start a fight! Hahaha. Please if you are enjoying this podcast, SUBSCRIBE, RATE & REVIEW. If you know someone who needs to hear this episode PLEASE SHARE.

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Today, I am going to share with you different ways to strengthen your friendships. Becoming a good friend requires several key qualities such as trustworthiness, loyalty, and communication. Building relationships is always a pursuit in life, and learning how to strengthen every friendship you have can lead to having a better 2023 and becoming more connected to the people around you.

To grab a copy of my book, 8 Rules of Love, go to https://8rulesoflove.com/

Key Takeaways:

• 00:00:00 Intro
• 00:03:09 How to be a great friend?
• 00:07:21 Tip #1: Always carry a snack
• 00:10:32 Tip #2: Invite more people to the table
• 00:13:38 Tip #3: Keep investing in your friendships
• 00:17:40 Tip #4: Try new things together
• 00:19:47 Tip #5: Go visit your school together
• 00:21:31 Tip #6: Don’t make it about you when they’re stressed

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Everyone has the intention to live well and feel happy, but so many of our choices deviate us from those goals. Investing our time and energy into our relationships might be the key. Loneliness is a main measure of unhappiness, and it also happens to be a stressor and risk factor for disease. I’m so excited to talk to Dr. Rober Waldinger on today’s podcast episode, all about fostering better relationships to live a longer, happier, and healthier life. 

Dr. Robert Waldinger is a professor of psychiatry at Harvard Medical School, director of the Harvard Study of Adult Development at Massachusetts General Hospital, and cofounder of the Lifespan Research Foundation. Dr. Waldinger received his AB from Harvard College and his MD from Harvard Medical School. He is a practicing psychiatrist and psychoanalyst, and he directs a psychotherapy teaching program for Harvard psychiatry residents. Dr. Waldinger is also a Zen master (Roshi) and teaches meditation in New England and around the world. He is the co-author of the book The Good Life: Lessons From the World’s Longest Scientific Study on Happiness.

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• The number-one life choice you can make today for future health and happiness (5:08 / 1:43) 
• The connection between our relationships and our health (11:29 / 8:00) 
• Cultivating relationships and well-being (13:41 / 10:16) 
• Getting to know your partner better (23:44 / 20:20)
• Practices that promote happiness (36:50 / 31:29) 
• Letting go of grudges and healing relationships (39:47 / 34:05) 
• Strategies for social fitness (43:32 / 38:25) 
• Navigating romantic relationships ( 53:01 / 47:11)
• Community as medicine (56:57 / 51:25)
• What matters most in life (1:07:43 / 1:02:13) 

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Today, I am talking to Kanwer Singh aka Humble the Poet. Humble is a toronto-bred mc/spoken word artist with an aura that embodies the diversity and resiliency of one of the world’s most unique cities. He stimulates audiences with ideas that challenge conventional wisdom and go against the grain, with dynamic live sets that shake conventions and minds at the same time. Humble's latest EP titled Righteous/Ratchet features the first single H.A.I.R, a celebration of women of all shapes, sizes, hair and walks of life. His self directed video for H.A.I.R has amassed almost 2 million views since its release. The video features YouTube sensation and longtime collaborator, Lilly Singh. His first book Unlearn: 101 Simple Truths For A Better Life was published through Indigo Press in October 2017 and became Heather's Pick and has stayed on the Globe & Mail Bestsellers list since its release. Humble's next book Things No One Else Can Teach Us was released in the fall of 2019. 

Humble emphasizes the importance of making the relationship you have with yourself the best among all the relationships you currently have. This is because knowing your own self worth will make setting boundaries easier for you and for the people around you. We exchange thoughts on what makes us resilient, why self respect matters more than self-esteem, the constant validation we seek from others, and what makes love so simple.     

What We Discuss:

• 00:00:00 Intro
• 00:04:54 Why do we try to impress others?
• 00:06:46 Self-esteem versus self respect
• 00:12:27 What makes us resilient?
• 00:17:04 Not everybody’s going to like you
• 00:20:27 Be in relationship with yourself first
• 00:25:36 There can’t be love if there’s resentment
• 00:34:14 How to develop a healthy relationship? 
• 00:40:21 We are attracted to what’s familiar, not what’s healthy
• 00:54:46 Not getting a reward is not a punishment
• 00:58:47 When you’re in a romantic relationship with someone
• 01:06:45 Love is simple

Episode Resources

• Humble the Poet | Website
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In this episode we discuss the 7 keys to a successful marriage. As usual we start out by poking fun at each other. Jon shares a funny clip about women, and how they talk in code. Then Jon asks Miss Tracy some life changing questions about the past, present and future. Then one that will blow your mind about ice cream. You will have to hear it to believe it. Guys, if you love the podcast please make sure you Subscribe, Rate and Review. Then share it with someone that would enjoy it. Thank you for helping the audience grow. Love you all.

You can order my new book 8 RULES OF LOVE at 8rulesoflove.com or at a retail store near you. You can also get the chance to see me live on my first ever world tour. This is a 90 minute interactive show where I will take you on a journey of finding, keeping and even letting go of love. Head to jayshettytour.com and find out if I'll be in a city near you. Thank you so much for all your support - I hope to see you soon.

Today, I am talking to Dr. Ramani Durvasula, a licensed clinical psychologist in Los Angeles, CA, Professor Emerita of Psychology at California State University, Los Angeles, and the Founder and CEO of LUNA Education, Training & Consulting. She is an author of several books including Should I Stay or Should I Go: Surviving A Relationship with a Narcissist, and “Don’t You Know Who I Am?”: How to Stay Sane in an Era of Narcissism, Entitlement, and Incivility. The focus of Dr. Durvasula’s clinical, academic and consultative work is the etiology and impact of narcissism and high-conflict, entitled, antagonistic personality styles on human relationships, mental health, and societal expectations.   

Dr. Ramani shares her studies about narcissism and our narcissistic tendencies. She and I talk about how our personalities define how we act with people and around people, why narcissists are resistant to change and to how deal with one, the truth about gaslighting and why it is so unhealthy to the person at the receiving end, and why we shouldn't misplace our hopes in others and instead place it on ourselves.      

What We Discuss:

• 00:00:00 Intro
• 00:03:11 When did narcissism become a study of focus?
• 00:07:06 Narcissism is a very quiet condition
• 00:12:45 Awareness and discomfort
• 00:19:37 How do people end up with a narcissistic personality?
• 00:26:25 Narcissists can be very attractive
• 00:33:26 The concept of multiple truths
• 00:36:40 Love bombing
• 00:41:08 The real meaning of gaslighting
• 00:47:05 Dealing with a gaslighter
• 00:53:35 “I can change this person.”
• 01:00:07 Ultimate healing from a narcissistic relationship
• 01:04:31 Setting healthy boundaries
• 01:06:49 Adopting narcissistic patterns to be able to fight back
• 01:09:20 Misplaced hope

Episode Resources

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• Navigating Narcissism with Dr. Ramani

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Happy Monday! Henry has some unfortunate news this week. Stay tuned to find out what’s up with all that. We’ll also discuss Rachel’s vitriolic hatred towards the Juicy Lucy, male wives, Fortnite, the merits of Minnesota, recreational dog-throwing, our Spotify wrapped, our email, and our Patreon! Going forward we’ll take questions, stories, or anything else you want us to see at aychihuahuapod@gmail.com . We’ll announce the Patreon link later this week!