Podcast Summary
Navigating Relationships with Narcissists: Understanding the Impact of Gaslighting: Gaslighting is a form of manipulation used by narcissists to make a person feel off balance and question their own reality.
Dr. Ramani is an author and professor who works to help people understand narcissism and its impact on relationships.She started researching narcissism in 2003 and noticed patterns in her clinical practice of people having the same relationship stories.She began to apply her research on narcissism to her clinical practice to help people better understand the issue.One of the first steps of gaslighting is denying someone's reality, which can make a person feel off balance.The next step is to tell the person there is something wrong with them, which is a form of gaslighting.Dr. Ramani's work helps people understand the issue of narcissism, as well as how to stay sane and navigate relationships with narcissists.
Finding Your Voice and Standing on Your Own in a Narcissistic World: It is important to talk openly about narcissistic relationships in order to help those who have been invalidated in such relationships to find their voice and stand on their own.
People have been narcissistic since there have been people and it is only recently that the idea of Narcissistic Personality Disorder has come up.Two young people approached the author and suggested he go on YouTube, which he initially refused, but eventually the reach on his channel was huge.He noticed that mental health professionals were not recognizing the issues faced by people in narcissistic relationships.This motivated him to write his first book on narcissism and also speak about it on YouTube.He believes that talking about this issue openly is important to help people who have been invalidated in such relationships.His mission is to help people find themselves and have their voice again, so that they can stand on their own in the world.
Exploring the Economic and Psychological Effects of Narcissistic Abuse: Economic environments can influence the way people behave, and the psychological effects of narcissistic abuse should not be overlooked.
For hundreds of years, people have been behaving badly and aggressively, though it was only recently that science has been able to explain why.It turns out that the economic environment plays a role in the way people behave, with those who are hurting animals and stealing things being more aggressive than those who are farming and collaborating.In the last 15 years, more attention has been given to the harm that narcissistic people can do in relationships.For generations, people have lived in difficult relationships without understanding why and without the support of mental health professionals.In the 1970s, Lenore Walker identified the cycle of abuse in relationships.Even today, emotional abuse is not accorded the same level of importance as physical abuse, though it can cause similar psychological effects.
Unmasking Narcissism: Achieving Holistic Therapeutic Support: Personality is the baseline, and it is important to address all aspects of personality in order to best help someone.
Personality is an important factor in our lives.Narcissism is a personality style that can be seen as a more maladaptive behavior such as arrogance, entitlement, and manipulativeness.Narcissistic Personality Disorder is a mental illness that requires the person to experience distress or have their life disrupted by their behavior and be aware of it.People with Narcissistic Personality Disorder rarely seek help and when they do, it is usually because of other issues such as depression, anxiety, or substance use disorder.Therapists often focus on the more acute issues like depression, anxiety, or substance use disorder and may overlook the personality disorder.Personality is the baseline, and it is important to address all aspects of personality in order to best help someone.
Can We Overcome Narcissistic Personality Traits?: Narcissism is a consistent pattern of behaviour and not a one-off occurrence.
While we all have different personalities, they are our psychological fingerprints and they won't change overnight.Some people have narcissistic personalities, which are characterised by a lack of empathy, entitlement and a need for validation.Narcissism isn't a one-off – it's a consistent pattern of behaviour.People can have bad weeks and be short-fused, but this doesn't mean they're narcissistic.StoryWorth is a great way to document life stories and create a keepsake book for future generations to enjoy.We can learn from our loved ones and cherish the timeless stories they share with us.
Unlocking the Origins of Narcissism: Our personalities can be shaped by our environment, invalidating experiences, and trauma in early life, making it important to be aware of ourselves and those around us.
Personality is something that is a combination of genetics and environment.We can observe temperament in babies, as some are easy to soothe, smiley and content, while others are more difficult and demanding for attention.Our temperaments formed in infancy and toddlerhood influence our personalities.Invalidating experiences such as parents, babysitters, teachers and peers not liking us could affect our personalities.Trauma in early life can sometimes be associated with narcissism, but it's not always the case.Understanding the origins of narcissism can help us learn to navigate the world and be aware of ourselves and those in our lives.
Traversing the Troubled Waters of Narcissistic Relationships: Narcissism is a personality trait that can be caused by certain experiences, making it important to remember that people in relationships with narcissists are not always at fault.
Narcissism is a personality trait that can occur due to certain experiences, such as being overindulged by parents or being neglected or mistreated.Narcissistic people can be very attractive and charming, but their bad moments can be very damaging.People who are in relationships with narcissistic people may not realise it until it is too late.Narcissists are often very ambitious and successful, and may have experienced trauma in their lives.They often seek out new experiences and crave attention and admiration.People in relationships with narcissists can often feel like they are the ones with the problem, but it is important to remember that it is not always their fault.
Recognising the Red Flags of a Relationship: It is important to be aware of the red flags in a relationship and not ignore them, even if you feel pressure to make it work.
After a few months of a relationship, it can become clear that there are red flags that have been appearing.When people are trying to find a relationship, they may feel pressured to make it work and ignore the red flags.It can take a few years to get a full picture of what the relationship is like and it is normal to feel embarrassed if it takes this long.Love bombing can last anywhere from 6 weeks to a year and afterwards the person can become immediately sensitive to criticism.When someone gets upset about a criticism, it can feel like a tsunami and it can confuse people as to why this happened.It is important to remember that the other person has not changed, even if the relationship has.
Can Recognizing Both Positive and Negative Aspects of a Person Help Us Better Understand Relationships?: Multiple truths can exist in relationships at the same time, and recognizing both the positive and negative aspects of a person can help us better understand our relationships.
Relationships can be complicated and understanding them can be difficult.We often try to think of the people we love in terms of good and bad, but this can be misleading.It can be helpful to remember that multiple truths can exist at the same time.We need to be comfortable with this concept of multiple truths when it comes to the relationships we have.Being able to recognize both the positive and negative aspects of a person can help us better understand our relationships.If you are struggling to make sense of your relationships, talking to a professional therapist can be a great way to gain perspective and find helpful strategies.
Recognizing the Signs of Love Bombing and Building Healthy Relationships: Understanding the traits of a healthy relationship and being aware of the signs of love bombing can help you cultivate strong and lasting relationships.
Love bombing is when someone showers you with attention, compliments and gifts in a short period of time.It is an attractive feeling, but can be addictive and can lead to unhealthy relationships.A healthy relationship should be kind, compassionate, flexible, respectful, cooperative, collaborative and equitable.Once someone understand these things, it becomes easier to recognize when love bombing is happening.Knowing the signs of love bombing can help you slow down the relationship and make sure it is healthy.Love bombing often happens because it fills a deficit from a person's past, so it is important to recognize when it is happening and take steps to make sure the relationship is healthy.Taking the time to understand the traits of a healthy relationship and being aware of the signs of love bombing can help you make sure your relationships are healthy and strong.
Unmasking the Reality of Gaslighting and Love Bombing: Setting boundaries and limits is an important way to test if someone is gaslighting you.
Gaslighting is a type of psychological manipulation where a person’s reality is twisted to make them doubt themselves.It usually happens in relationships, where one partner might try to make the other feel like they are wrong or overreacting.Love bombing is a tactic used by some people to quickly make the other person feel like the relationship is intense and special.A good way to test the waters is to set boundaries and limits.If someone is gaslighting you, they might respond to your boundaries by doubting your commitment or taking away the game.Gaslighting is now a recognized phenomenon, and it is important to be aware of it and understand it correctly in order to protect yourself.
Recognizing the Signs of Gaslighting and Reclaiming Self-Worth: Gaslighting is a form of emotional abuse that can lead to feelings of worthlessness and self-criticism. Awareness of the signs of gaslighting is the first step to reclaiming self-worth and trust in oneself.
Gaslighting is a form of emotional abuse used by people with power over someone to break their spirit and leave them feeling worthless.It is done by denying the other person's reality and repeatedly telling them there is something wrong with them.It is important to recognize that gaslighting is not just lying but also invalidating the other person.Gaslighting can lead to people having difficulty trusting, feeling anxious, and developing self-criticism.Having an awareness of the signs of gaslighting can help people avoid being taken advantage of by manipulative people.If someone has been a victim of gaslighting, they can focus on rebuilding their self-worth and trust in themselves to help them heal and move forward.
Understanding Your Identity and Values to Combat Gaslighting: Taking time to reflect and build understanding of yourself allows you to stay true to yourself and disengage from gaslighting situations.
It is important to understand who you are, your identity, and your values so that if someone says something mean about you, it does not affect you.Gaslighting is a tricky situation and it is important to never confront the person in the moment as they may double down.Taking some time to reflect and show yourself compassion is important.Talking things out or journaling can help build a better understanding of yourself.A good therapist can help you make sense of a gaslighting situation and help you understand how to stay true to yourself.If you are in a situation with someone who is gaslighting you, it may be best to disengage.
Finding Clarity and Comfort with State Farm and Sleep Number: Quality sleep is essential to managing life's unpredictability and State Farm and Sleep Number can help you find the clarity and comfort you need during the busy holiday season.
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Achieve Positive Outcomes with Sleep Number 360 Smart Bed: Having the right intentions and knowing yourself are essential for achieving success in any situation.
Sleep Number beds provide comfortable and adjustable beds for both partners with different preferences.Sleep IQ Scores track your personal sleep quality.The Holiday Savings Event allows you to save money on their most popular Sleep Number 360 Smart Bed.Knowing yourself and having the right intentions is essential to achieving a positive outcome in any situation.It is important to avoid minimizing someone else's distress out of our own discomfort.It is not realistic to expect a narcissistic person to change due to external influence.
Facing Cultural Pressure: Staying or Leaving in a Relationship?: It is ultimately up to the individual to decide when to stay or leave a committed relationship. Building self-awareness within one's self and the other can provide a foundation for making that decision.
A woman was questioning whether she should stay in her relationship for another 10 years.She decided to stay and experienced 10 more years of being mistreated.The therapist recognized that the client wasn't ready to leave and will sometimes receive calls later on.A client recently decided to leave and found that her husband had become more self-aware.The therapist believes that it's up to the client to decide when to leave and will provide support.The therapist also understands the cultural pressure to stay in a committed relationship.
Taking Ownership of Our Emotional Needs While Finding Authenticity in Relationships: We need to be mindful of our emotional needs and guard our authenticity in toxic relationships.
It is not possible to force someone to change their behavior and way of thinking.We need to focus on our own emotional needs and grow our own empathy.This could be done through friends, family, spirituality or any other source that makes us feel seen and heard.We have to be ready for both the good and bad days in a relationship and not take them personally.We have to individuate, or become our own person, while still being authentic in other spaces, but not in the toxic setting.We need to be mindful and protect ourselves, while still participating in the glory of our authenticity.
Breaking Free from Toxic Relationships to Bloom: Self-care and restraint in toxic relationships is an act of rebellion - make time for yourself to bloom and find friends and community who give you strength.
In toxic relationships, it often takes a lot of courage and strength to be a version of yourself that is not your full self.Even if you don't end the intimate relationship, it is important to learn how to set boundaries – like taking a pass on Thanksgiving or only attending one day of a family wedding.Self-care and restraint in these kinds of toxic relationships is an act of rebellion.Make time for yourself to bloom and find friends and community that give you strength.Don't get into arguments with the toxic person unless you just want to argue.After these kinds of interactions, take time to come down and replenish your energy.
Overcoming Difficult Relationships Through Self-Realization: Find hope within yourself, not in the other person, to heal and find joy in difficult relationships.
It is easy to start adopting the same behaviour as someone if you are constantly exposed to them.This can lead to feelings of depletion and eventually illness.In such situations, we often find ourselves defending ourselves in a way that we would not normally do.We may find our empathy waning due to the emotional strain of the situation.To recover, we need to realise that the hope lies within ourselves and not in the other person.It is possible to heal and be joyful even in difficult relationships, by focusing on our own story.
Rediscovering Innocence After Trauma: Trauma can be a difficult experience, but it can also bring out an inner beauty and depth that can lead to rediscovering innocence.
Trauma can be a difficult experience, but it can also bring out an inner beauty and depth.It is not worse or better than other experiences, but it can cause a loss of innocence.When laughter is experienced again, it can feel like a gift.People are not defined by their trauma.Narcissism is a problem in our culture and should be addressed.People can learn to sense it and can find help and support to navigate it.