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In the 3rd installation of Benson Bootcamp, Violet covers a topic that we often avoid. Why do we love difficult people? This discussion is difficult because it often forces us to look inwardly, and see what unresolved issues we have - that are allowing us to believe that allowing these people to stay in our lives is okay. But it’s okay Besties, we’re gonna get through it together, because we’ve ALL been there. 

This week on Almost Adulting, Violet starts off with the reasons why we likely fall for the wrong person, armed with a huge ego and a wounded inner child he never knew existed within him. That guy who gives you mixed signals and then leaves you hanging when they have their fun. While difficult people can be frustrating and draining, they also have the ability to help us become better versions of ourselves. And this is possible when we start to love ourselves a little more, see our own value, understand what we truly desire in life. Bestie, it’s finally time to drop that toxic relationship, friendship, or whatever it is. Do it NOW - you will only thank yourself later.

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What to Listen For:

• 00:00 Introduction
• 02:38 Why do we love difficult people?
• 05:07 When we feel the lack of spark
• 08:27 The reasons why we’re attracted to the wrong person
• 11:59 Guys with daddy issues
• 18:56 The second boyfriend: a toxic guy
• 25:39 I thought love had to be achieved
• 28:00 Daddy Issues
• 35:06 Start loving yourself

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Joining me on the show is Chad Etzel, leadership coach and host of the Catholic, Single, and Flourishing Podcast, to talk through the challenges of being a single guy in the dating scene today.

We discuss the limiting beliefs that men often have pertaining to dating, unhelpful cultural messages about men, looking at dating and talking to women as skills that can be developed, the pressures of being one of the few guys at young adult events, the differences in dating from high school to young adulthood, defining dating success, how to know when a girl is interested, how to ask a her out, and what talk to about on the first date.

Ladies chime in and let us know if any of these approaches work!

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Manny and his Fiance' Katy Votapka (to be Vargas) sit down with their son Lincoln in lap to talk about the beginning of their relationship journey and the steps they took to move it forward.

It started long distance from two opposite sides of the country over a phone call that they tell the shocking story of and what gave life to the early days of their time together.

It doesn't stop there, the two get into the radical difficulties Manny made in the process of becoming a partner that was worth staying for, because once you hear this story and his transparent side of the picture, you might have left him, but thank God for love and the women and men who support their partners along the way while they discover answers to the questions on their own.

A true testament to how far one can go and how much she could put herself through to find the light at the end of this darker earlier side of the relationship tunnel....

In this episode you will take away 3 promising insights (plus many more)

-       How Katy found the strength to not give in…

-       How their first interaction was a complete shock.

-       The tough reality of having to grow in a relationship when it’s a challenge!

3 of their Best Quotes!

“I had this voice in my head and I swear it was your mom saying stick with him”

“You realize there is a purpose for it”

“Women tend to remember more emotional feelings”

Watch the FULL Interview on YouTube:

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Other great podcast guest episodes:

Relationship expert Rori Sassoon shares advice on dating and marriage

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When Sonia is invited to yet another baby/bridal/puppy shower, she certainly isn't expecting this. 

*Explicit because there's a well-deserved F-bomb.

Hey Besties! To continue mentor month, this week on Almost Adulting we are joined by yet another legend, Robert Greene! Robert is the author of 6 New York Times bestsellers including the infamous The 48 Laws of Power and The Art of Seduction. 

Together Violet and Robert go through some of the most important lessons in his iconic books and unpack the TRUE meanings behind them - regardless of any ‘bad press’ they may have received. Throughout the conversation Violet and Robert drop gems about how to further your trajectory in life: from learning how to see behind the ‘mask’ people put on for others, to finding your true purpose (even if that means failing). Finally, Robert speaks on what he feels is his most important lesson taught in the 48 Laws of Power, and how you can apply it to your life and reap the benefits. Get your notebooks out Besties, we’re taking over the world in 2023!

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What to Listen For:

• 00:00 Introduction
• 01:13 How it all started
• 04:19 Observing people closely
• 08:40 Is The 48 Laws of Power evil?
• 14:11 The Law of Five
• 16:23 The Laws of Human Nature
• 19:19 We aren’t born with boldness
• 23:42 Russian heritage
• 26:29 Do you need manipulation to succeed?
• 28:52 Think of other people's interest
• 31:55 Being shy/introspective is not a bad thing
• 38:56 How to re-assess yourself this new year
• 44:36 We suffer when we choose the wrong things
• 48:06 Be less interested in yourself and more interested in other people
• 51:41 You’re born unique

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When going through a tough time the most annoying thing in the world is everyone seems to have all the advice on what you “should” do, right? Well you’re not alone, but the reality is that sometimes these things recommended to us are actually things we should be doing - but before we can even fathom doing them, we have to drop our bad habits. 

Besties, welcome Amy Morin to Almost Adulting! Amy is a licensed clinical social worker, college psychology instructor and psychotherapist, and responsible for one of the most popular Ted Talks of all time. Today Violet and Amy start the conversation by unpacking the often stressful topic of habits - how we form them, stick to them, and what we can do when we accidentally break our positive habits. The duo dives into what our bad habits say about us, and the importance of breaking them in order to create good ones. Through this, Amy teaches that mental strength and mental health are actually two entirely different things, and how the lies that our brain tells us affect us on a much deeper level than we realize. Finally, the ladies discuss a topic that life never prepares us for: grief.  Though grief is something no one can avoid, it’s never something anyone is ready for. Through Amy telling her story she learned coping mechanisms that truly changed her life, and that EVERYTHING always relates back to one thing…habits. Whether it be maintaining good ones, or breaking bad ones, habits can be HARD, so give each other grace and tune in to discover the tools you didn’t know you needed. 

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What to Listen For:

• 00:00 Introduction
• 01:38 How long does it take to break a good habit?
• 05:45 The way we respond to breaking a habit matters
• 07:39 It’s just a bad choice, you’re not a bad person  
• 08:40 When you’re stuck in the pity trap
• 12:50 Moving on with life without feeling guilty
• 17:17 Too much social media can trigger envy
• 20:34 Three kinds of destructive beliefs
• 23:27 Start challenging your underlying beliefs
• 27:00 It’s up to you how you respond to people
• 30:54 It’s okay to be honest with your struggles
• 33:32 Not everything is up to chance
• 36:05 We only hear the end game of every success story
• 38:41 Just set doable goals a day
• 41:29 Do you believe in toxic positivity?
• 45:14 Improving your mental strength 

Connect with Amy:

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