Almost Adulting with Violet Benson

BE SUCCESSFULLY DELUSIONAL

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Today we dive into the TEXT that ENDED my toxic friendship, vision board update, and how to be successfully delusional.

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What Motivates Men to Commit

Hey Besties! Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus: The Classic Guide to Understanding the Opposite Sex by John Gray. The book provides a practical and proven way for men and women to improve their communication and relationships by acknowledging the differences between them.

Today, Violetta will talk about the dynamics of motivation and love as she unpacks the secrets to motivating the opposite sex and explores the balance between love, responsibility, and boundaries. From understanding the importance of making a positive difference in someone's life to recognizing the fine line between need and neediness, Violetta dishes out her signature blend of wisdom and wit. So get ready to uncover the keys to fostering meaningful connections and navigating the ups and downs of modern romance.

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What to Listen For:

00:00 Intro
01:34 How to motivate the opposite s*x
09:54 When a man is in love, he’s motivated more
11:27 When a man doesn’t feel he’s making a positive difference in someone’s life
15:22 Many women today want time off, a time for themselves
21:51 A woman needs to recognize her boundaries
22:55 Step 1 - Motivation
23:56 Step 2 - Taking Responsibility
24:45 Step 3 - Practice
26:03 As man experiences limits, he is motivated to do more
28:38 The difference between needing and neediness
31:16 A man appears most caring when he is afraid

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Why He Doesn't Want You

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Today we dive into how to change your perspective when it comes to goodbyes, people, being ghosted and when he doesn't want you - from the why to the how to the moving on.

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Loving Those Who Can't Love Us Back

Hey Besties! For another Benson Book Club session, we’re going to dive deep into Why We Hold On Tightest on the Things That Aren’t Meant for Us from Brianna Wiest’s 101 Essays That Will Change The Way You Think. Violet shares her candid insights on navigating the complexities of relationships - from moving on from unrequited love and why we often find ourselves drawn to those who can't reciprocate our feelings to invaluable advice on finding peace and self-love amidst the chaos of modern romance. It's time to empower yourself and begin your journey to emotional freedom.

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00:00 Intro
05:07 How to let go of the things that’s killing you inside?
10:22 You can't convince someone to love you if they don’t
19:21 How do you fall out of love with the idea of someone?
24:13 Why do we keep choosing people who can’t love us back?

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Feeling Ungrateful

Hello and welcome to the Violetta's diary series available on my PREMIUM PODCAST!! Where I share my random thoughts with no cuts, no edits, no notes, no pre planning, no nothing. Just the two of us naked and honest with each other.

Today we discuss feeling ungrateful, creating a vision board, and large wieners jk maybe.

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You're a Narcissist w/ Scheana Shay (Vanderpump Rules)

Hey Besties! Today, Vanderpump Rules cast Scheana Shay joins Violetta for an exciting and at the same time heart-tugging conversation. Throughout her time on "Vanderpump Rules," Scheana became known for her outgoing personality, dramatic relationships, and candid portrayal of her personal life on the show. In addition to her work on reality television, she has pursued acting and music endeavors. She has appeared in several television shows and films, as well as releasing her own music singles.

Violetta and talk about the complexities of childcare, the challenges of maintaining friendships, and a potential sneak peek of Vanderpump Season 11. Plus the duo spills the tea on lost friendships, potential redemption arcs, and the behind-the-scenes drama you won't hear anywhere else. On a serious note, bravely shares her experiences with postpartum OCD, the healing power of EMDR therapy, and the heartbreaking reality of pregnancy loss. It's a raw and vulnerable exploration of mental health, friendship dynamics, and the bittersweet journey of self-discovery.

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What to Listen For:

00:00 Intro
01:27 What’s one thing people misunderstood about you in the show?
02:30 How did motherhood change you?
04:13 What’s your biggest fear around getting help with babysitting your child?
07:06 Have you had support from other new moms?
07:45 What’s a question someone has never asked you?
08:30 “I’m never the favorite of this show.”
12:18 Hopes for Season 11
13:17 Losing a friendship of 15 years
17:09 Is the new season setting the stage for Sandoval’s redemption arc?
19:16 Are you the friend that flip-flops?
20:38 Figuring out a way to not breakdown in front of your child
22:24 Friendship pact with Katie
24:37 What can people look forward to this season?
26:05 Is Billie Lee in love with Tom Sandoval?
33:31 Postpartum OCD
39:39 EMDR Therapy
43:35 Pregnancy loss and traumatic labor
45:13 Severe intrusive thoughts
47:07 Signs of OCD before pregnancy
50:54 Thinking of death everyday

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You’re Not My Person w/ Kamie Crawford

Hey Besties! Today, Violetta welcomes television host and producer Kamie Crawford. Kamie also hosts her successful podcast, Relationsh*t and MTV’s long-running reality-based documentary series “Catfish: The TV Show”.

Get ready to dive into all things fun and fabulous with Violet and Kamie. They chat about everything from what's currently keeping them busy to the importance of staying hydrated (because, let's face it, we need to keep those vibes flowing!). Plus, we'll dish on some seriously spicy topics, like the Stanley cup's wild ride through a car fire and the sinful indulgence of beignets. Oh, and don't worry, Bestie, we’ll let you in on some secrets too—like debunking those silly misconceptions about their social media persona and sharing the biggest lessons learned last year.

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What to Listen For:

00:00 Intro
04:04 What are you currently working on?
05:48 The importance of staying hydrated all day
06:40 The Stanley cup that withstood a car fire
09:18 Unhealthy food choices
11:48 Have you had a beignet?
15:06 What’s something most people don’t know about you?
20:05 What’s the most common misconception about you?
25:26 How are you when someone gets on your bad side?
28:57 What are you currently working to improve?
35:24 What’s the hardest lesson you learned last year?
37:37 Does your mom have a very thick accent?
40:27 What past experience that still resonates with you today?
48:15 What’s the worst thing that can happen?
54:41 What’s something you don’t want to repeat this year?
01:00:53 My social media is like my house…

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Love is Blind - Matthew is a Serial Killer

Hey Besties! Today, Violetta will give us a quick recap of Love is Blind Season 6. Is Matthew just your average guy, or could he be hiding a dark secret? From navigating the rules of marriage with AD and Clay to exploring the dynamics of religious love with Brittany and Kenneth, we'll delve into the highs and lows of partnership. Buckle up as we dissect the correlation between love and lust with Jimmy and Jessica, and uncover the telltale signs of trouble in relationships. Whether it's recognizing red flags or learning to prioritize self-growth, this episode is packed with insights to navigate the rollercoaster of love and emotions.

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What to Listen For:

00:00 Intro
01:38 Is Matthew a serial killer?
07:55 AD and Clay - rules of marriage
09:59 Brittany and Kenneth - the religious couple
11:06 Jimmy and Jessica - correlating love with lust
14:55 When someone rejects you, leave
18:30 Jimmy’s red flags
24:16 Crying over the consequences of your actions
26:44 Chelsea, work on yourself and stop seeking validation from your partner
28:19 Who will walk down the aisle?

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Love is Not Enough w/ Mark Groves

Hey Besties! The man behind the Create the Love is back! Mark Groves is a human connection specialist, speaker, writer, motivator, creator, connector and collaborator. As a bridge between the academic and the human, Mark invites people to explore the good, bad, downright ugly, and beautiful sides of connection.

What does it truly mean to find liberation in love? How do we reclaim our worth after it's been taken from us? Today, Violetta and Mark explore these questions and more, delving into topics like building self-trust, healing codependency, and navigating the emotional complexities of heartbreak. From learning to communicate our deepest emotions to embracing closure and letting go, each chapter of this episode offers profound insights and empowering strategies for navigating the highs and lows of love. If you’re looking for answers, this one's for you!

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What to Listen For:

00:00 Intro
02:43 Liberated Love
06:36 You’ve forgotten yourself in the relationship
09:46 They took your worth with them when they left
13:36 How do you build a high level of self trust?
17:42 How do you heal codependency?
19:46 The great disconnect
28:04 Learning self-regulation through co-regulation
35:14 Creating a space for you and your partner’s pain
38:47 The analogy of the burning house
42:57 Closing ceremony for an ended relationship
51:19 Communicate how to feel
56:16 Emotional triggers actually never go away
01:02:21 Does your partner get you?
01:04:27 The right person can’t come if you won’t let go of the wrong one
01:06:39 What does it mean when love is not enough?
01:10:52 Using the ides of love to bypass the pain
01:16:03 How do you get your ex back?

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16 Reasons You Don't Have Love

Hey Besties! Ready to take a deep dive into the world of love and self-discovery? Today, for another episode of Benson Book Club, Violetta will read and ponder on the 16 Reasons Why You Still Don’t Have The Love That You Want from Brianna Wiest’s 101 Essays That Will Change The Way You Think. Whether you're relying on others to do the work for you or expecting love to change your life, we've got the insights to help you navigate the twists and turns of the heart. Discover how honoring your inner child, embracing kindness, and aligning your heart and mind can lead to deeper connections and self-fulfillment. Don't miss out on this enlightening journey to finding love within yourself and beyond!

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00:00 Intro
01:54 16 reasons why you still don’t have the love that you want
14:25 The most meaningful relationships are the ones in which we are reflective back to ourselves
16:47 Every relationship you have is with yourself
19:38 Be your own person and do what you can on your own time

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4 Ways To Self Love

And no, not in the way you're thinking! Since this month is all about relationships, Violet decided to talk about the most important relationship you will ever have - the one with yourself. Today Violet gets super vulnerable and upacks some things of her own, while giving you guys her step by step guide she uses to practice self love. Besties, In order for us to have healthy relationships with others, we have to look inward and mend the relationship with ourselves.

And remember, never let a person show you twice that they don’t want you. If they want you in their life, they’ll treat you with kindness and love. If they want you to be part of their journey, they will want to spend their time with you and will always appreciate spending time with you. When they love you for who you are, you will never have to change. You will be loved just as you are, flaws and imperfections included.

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What to Listen For:

00:00 Introduction
02:37 Dating the male version of me
06:55 Set boundaries for yourself
10:19 Be self-aware
17:04 Know who you are
23:49 Change your perspective
35:00 My love letter to you

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Let Your Rage Fuel You

They always say let go of your anger, let go of your pain, blah blah blah! But why doesn’t anyone talk about how using these “negative” feelings to your advantage to catapult you into your best season yet?

Hello, Besties! September is all about checking in with ourselves, our mental health, and with our goals. To kick things off Violet is back with another solo episode and she is NOT here to sugarcoat. In today’s episode Violet admits last month was very hard, filled with severed relationships and heartbreaks, but today she is Violet thankful. Thankful that it’s all in the past and she has now welcomed September feeling better, stronger, and fiercer. Today, she shares four tips that can help anyone struggling internally, going through difficult and seemingly impossible situations, and help turn the negatives into optimism and positive change. Besties, let's use our pain and rage to turn the page - and today you’re gonna find out how!

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What to Listen For:

00:00 Introduction
02:47 “I woke up this morning feeling blessed and thankful.”
06:40 There’s no timeline to how long you should take to heal
10:28 Ask yourself, “Is it working for me?”
14:18 It’s all in your head
17:07 Sit with rejection, get comfortable with it
19:31 Turn your resentment into your superpower

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Why Loneliness is Worse Than Cigarettes w/ Dr. Guy Winch

Hey Besties! Today, we welcome author, psychologist, and speaker Dr. Guy Winch. Guy specializes in the field of emotional health and well-being. He has gained recognition for his work in advocating for the importance of addressing emotional pain and mental health. He has given popular TED Talks on subjects such as "Why We All Need to Practice Emotional First Aid" and has authored books, including "Emotional First Aid: Healing Rejection, Guilt, Failure, and Other Everyday Hurts."

Discover how to handle rejection without becoming your own worst critic and get inspired by Guy's own journey through fourteen years of rejection. From trust issues to self-criticism, we got your back with some real talk on navigating those tough moments. Learn the art of nurturing a supportive inner voice, practicing healthy self-reflection, and building emotional resilience. Plus, explore the fascinating world of emotional hygiene and the tools you need for a more resilient emotional well-being.

Dr. Winch's Recovering from Rejection and Failure program, made in collaboration with Mindbloom, is available now! Make sure to check it and start turning setbacks into wins.

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What to Listen For:

00:00 Intro
01:52 What are the most common emotions we experience when going through rejection?
02:58 Why do we stop trusting ourselves after a rejection?
04:33 Don’t become self critical when you experience rejection
06:11 How do you personally handle rejection and failure?
07:40 Getting through fourteen years of rejection
09:12 Having enough encouragement to keep you going
10:49 How do you nurture a more supportive inner voice?
15:42 What is healthy self-reflection?
18:17 It’s about falling down, it’s about getting back up
21:17 What is emotional hygiene?
24:46 What happens when you don’t practice emotional hygiene?
26:44 The tools you need to build emotional resilience
28:56 Is self-compassion a game changer when it comes to dealing with failure?
31:22 How do emotional wounds show up physically?
34:37 Why do people get stuck in loneliness?
39:28 Mindbloom: ketamine therapy for anxiety and depression
45:05 Common misconceptions of psychedelics
47:37 What are people most curious about psychedelics?
49:16 Change your approach to emotional well-being
50:00 The duration of ketamine treatment
51:10 Is ketamine treatment right for you?
53:26 What we don’t understand about heartbreaks
56:17 Heartbreak is a grief process
01:00:00 If you’re not feeling great, it’s not the best time to go online
01:04:14 Real connection requires slight emotional vulnerability
01:05:57 How can you make yourself happier?
01:09:34 The difference between being alone and chronic loneliness
01:11:12 Our emotional health requires effort
01:15:08 Check-in with yourself periodically

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Exceptions To Let Go In Ur 20’s

Hey Besties! For another Benson Book CLub session, we are unpacking the fifteen expectations to let go of from the book, 101 Essays That Will Change The Way You Think by Brianna Wiest - a collection of the author’s most beloved pieces of writing. Some of these pieces have never been seen; others have been read by millions of people around the world.

This week, we're shedding the weight of unrealistic expectations and embracing the beauty of imperfection. From the myth of being meant for extraordinary things to the revelation that faults can be forgivable and attributes exceptional, Violetta breaks down the barriers that hold us back. Learn why the right person doesn't always come at the right time and why postponing your happiness is a recipe for dissatisfaction. It's time to let go, embrace the now, and set goals that truly align with your happiness!

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What to Listen For:

00:00 Intro
01:40 Fifteen expectation to let go of to live a good life
02:14 #1: You are mean to be extraordinary
03:11 #2: Your faults are more forgivable and your attributes are more exceptional
03:54 #3: You can outsmart pain
04:15 #4: You must let go of the expectation that love is something other people give you
04:57 #5: Feeling something deeply means that it’s meant to be
06:01 #6: If you work on yourself enough then you will not struggle anymore
06:13 #7: The idea that you can control what people think of you
07:56 #8: Hard work guarantees success
08:23 #9: The idea that your thoughts will change themselves when your circumstances change
09:03 #10: The belief that other people are responsible for your feelings
10:00 #11: Emotional intelligence is infallible composure
10:44 #12: The idea that the right person will come at the right time
11:21 #13: The idea that you can postpone your happiness or save it up
11:59 #14: Anxiety and negative thinking are just pesky irritants that you have to learn to avoid
12:33 #15: Focusing slowly on your own needs will make you the happiest
13:20 Good goals to set to enjoy what you have than chase what you don’t have

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Narcissists & Boundaries

Hey Besties! Welcome to the second week of Benson Bootcamp, a boot camp specifically designed to help you become the best version of yourself, no matter how bad it hurts. It’s called BOOTCAMP for a reason, duh!

This week on Almost Adulting we’re having the difficult discussion about boundary setting. Though it may be hard, these realizations will not only be long-lasting, but also help you love yourself a little more. Violet tells an in depth story about her friend who possesses the fatal victim mentality flaw. Ya know, that kind of friend who never fails to make EVERYTHING about themselves, and when you finally cut them off your life becomes inexplicably better? Yeah, that type. But that’s what setting boundaries can do. It aids you in protecting your mental health, having inner peace, and taking control of your own emotions and thoughts even when you don’t have control over other people’s words and actions. Besties, if there’s one thing you take from this please let it be that you are NEVER selfish for setting boundaries and prioritizing yourself. You are your biggest advocate and supporter, now act like it!

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What to Listen For:

00:00 Introduction
00:53 Let’s call my friend Nicole
15:51 The main issue is my lack of boundaries
19:41 Everyone gets tired of pretending
21:00 When you start setting boundaries for yourself
25:09 “We never really know why people do what they do.”
27:13 We can choose to not be a victim

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TAP INTO YOUR DIVINE FEMININE

Hey Besties! It is the fourth and final installation of Benson Bootcamp, and we’re ending on a note to set you up perfectly for the month of love coming up!

This week on Almost Adulting, you and Violet are diving into your divine femininity. What does this mean you ask? The divine feminine is the feminine aspect of the divine power that connects and binds the earth together. It is something we all have within us, and something that if channeled correctly, can open us up to so many things we are unknowingly evading ourselves from. While both masculine and feminine energy are present and necessary in all people, tapping into one's feminine energy can help further receptivity, openness, and vulnerability. In this episode Violet will discuss the pros of unleashing the various types of femininity and how leaning into their presence can assist you throughout your life. By the way, this is not to be confused with old school gender roles, or doing things just to attract a partner, but rather tap into an intimate side that is already within you. Enjoy the journey, Besties.

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00:00 Introduction
04:14 We all have masculine and feminine energy
07:48 What you want is not what you attract
13:55 Be in your feminine divine energy
18:44 Your dark, seductive feminine energy
22:05 Your light, innocent feminine energy
25:43 Trusting the process of dating
26:08 Set standards and stick by them
29:43 They always see your worth

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Insecure Men & Childhood Trauma w/ Brooke Schofield

Hey Besties! Ever dealt with a guy who thinks he's a dating maestro, juggling messages with multiple girls at once? Ugh, the worst! Can't we have one guy who's actually committed to making a girl feel special?

In today's episode, Violetta gets real with Brooke Schofield, co-host of Cancelled with Tana Mongeau. They spill the tea on Matt Rife's questionable dating tactics (seriously, bro?), but the conversation takes a deep turn as Brooke opens up about her challenging childhood with two drug-addicted parents. Brooke shares her journey dealing with borderline personality disorder, revealing the power of self-healing and finding stability through medication. It's a rollercoaster of real talk and genuine connection—tune in, Besties!

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00:00 Intro
00:51 What’s your hidden talent that no one knows about?
02:53 Did you go to college?
05:12 What piece of advice have you recently heard?
06:19 Why do you want to manifest a healthy relationship?
12:26 Is Matt Rife the one that got away?
13:38 What would be your star rating for Matt Rife?
17:16 I never see the red flags
19:15 What did you learn so far that you want in a partner?
22:07 What’s the most pivotal moment in your life that shaped you today?
23:58 What made 2022 a terribly low year?
26:30 A horrible breakup packed with deceit and lying
29:43 I was so miserable, I needed help
30:48 What is borderline personality disorder?
33:53 Did you feel a sense of relief when you were on medication?
35:42 How do you slowly get out of a dark place?
42:56 What do people assume when you have borderline personality disorder?
45:00 What advice do you have for those who aren’t taking medication?
49:30 Why do I struggle with therapy?
53:02 Growing up in family with two drug addict parents
56:34 I stayed with my grandparents and never got picked up
59:40 My mom helped me get through the toughest time
01:02:11 How do you deal with guilt?
01:04:12 Our parents are just like us when they were our age
01:06:53 Upcoming tour with Tana and Brooke

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Recreate Yourself in 3 Steps

Hey Besties! Ever wondered how to turn your life around when you're feeling rock bottom? Need a boost when it all seems bleak? Well, it's Benson Book Club time, and today, we're delving into Robert Greene's "The 48 Laws of Power," specifically Law #25 – Recreate Yourself. Violetta kicks off by reading the juicy core of the chapter, then dives into why it's perfectly okay to hit the reset button when everything feels stuck. Spoiler alert: You're totally allowed to shake things up, start anew, and recreate yourself for a better, more badass version of you! Tune in for the inspiration you didn't know you needed.

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00:00 Intro
01:41 The 48 Laws of Power by Robert Greene
02:37 Law #25: Recreate Yourself
15:25 You are allowed to start over if you feel like it
18:19 Recreating yourself at the lowest moments is usually the most pivotal moment

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WHY MEN PULL AWAY - The Psychology of a Man's Mind

WHY DO MEN ALWAYS PULL AWAY IN RELATIONSHIPS!?! whether beginning, middle, or end, it seems to always happen at some point. That is why Violetta did all the research written by men, re-read "Why Men Don't Love Women Like You" and "Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus" so you don't have to, TO GIVE YOU THE ANSWER YOU'VE BEEN WAITING FOR.

Today, Violetta is set on discussing the psychology behind a man's mind, the three steps to deal with the situation when a man pulls away, and how dating can be beautiful and perfect but it’s all rainbows and butterflies. It often comes with some form of conflict.

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What to Listen For:

00:00 Introduction
00:46 I booked my parents a trip to Israel
03:05 When a man pulls away, it feels like a bad romcom
05:38 Reason 1: When they feel overwhelmed or uncertain about their feelings
06:26 Reason 2: Some men need space
07:18 Reason 3: They are unsure of the relationship
08:12 Reason 4: The woman is more invested in the relationship
09:41 Step #1: Do not go Britney Spears on him
13:53 Step #2: Do not chase him
15:01 Men and women do things differently
15:40 Imagine that your partner is like a stretched rubberband
18:20 Punishing a man when he pulls away is not the right approach
23:20 Step #3: Focus on yourself
33:17 Dating works but it always comes with some form of conflict

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Why We Love Difficult People

In the 3rd installation of Benson Bootcamp, Violet covers a topic that we often avoid. Why do we love difficult people? This discussion is difficult because it often forces us to look inwardly, and see what unresolved issues we have - that are allowing us to believe that allowing these people to stay in our lives is okay. But it’s okay Besties, we’re gonna get through it together, because we’ve ALL been there.

This week on Almost Adulting, Violet starts off with the reasons why we likely fall for the wrong person, armed with a huge ego and a wounded inner child he never knew existed within him. That guy who gives you mixed signals and then leaves you hanging when they have their fun. While difficult people can be frustrating and draining, they also have the ability to help us become better versions of ourselves. And this is possible when we start to love ourselves a little more, see our own value, understand what we truly desire in life. Bestie, it’s finally time to drop that toxic relationship, friendship, or whatever it is. Do it NOW - you will only thank yourself later.

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00:00 Introduction
02:38 Why do we love difficult people?
05:07 When we feel the lack of spark
08:27 The reasons why we’re attracted to the wrong person
11:59 Guys with daddy issues
18:56 The second boyfriend: a toxic guy
25:39 I thought love had to be achieved
28:00 Daddy Issues
35:06 Start loving yourself

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Episodes (233)

BE SUCCESSFULLY DELUSIONAL

What Motivates Men to Commit

Why He Doesn't Want You

Loving Those Who Can't Love Us Back

Feeling Ungrateful

You're a Narcissist w/ Scheana Shay (Vanderpump Rules)

You’re Not My Person w/ Kamie Crawford

Love is Blind - Matthew is a Serial Killer

Love is Not Enough w/ Mark Groves

16 Reasons You Don't Have Love

4 Ways To Self Love

Let Your Rage Fuel You

Why Loneliness is Worse Than Cigarettes w/ Dr. Guy Winch

Exceptions To Let Go In Ur 20’s

Narcissists & Boundaries

TAP INTO YOUR DIVINE FEMININE

Insecure Men & Childhood Trauma w/ Brooke Schofield

Recreate Yourself in 3 Steps

WHY MEN PULL AWAY - The Psychology of a Man's Mind

Why We Love Difficult People