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On this episode, I get to actually see what real life Tinder page looks like, and we discuss LIVE if Anna should swipe right, and why or why not. The ladies tell me some things that are “Vagina repellant” – a term I never knew and could have gone my whole life without hearing… We answer how many pet guinea pigs is too many, how often you should update your profile picture and information and what is your responsibility to somewhat resemble your current picture. How much revenge is too much? 

In this jam-packed episode of ADD – we wonder why the eggplant became the go-to suggestive emoji over the heavily favored banana, compare notes on how to spot an actual hooker, and how  the “ordering process” in a brothel look like. We talk about a few uncomfortable taboo fetishes that Anna has been offered to participate in. What are some deal breakers on you profile, and wonder if etiquette still matters in today’s world of dating – do you dress up a little? Be on time? Open the door? Pick up the check… And why these two ladies do not care about your favorite sports team and probably don’t want to camp in the wild… spoiled? They are also a little mean in my opinion to Bill and a couple other dates of Anna’s...

On this week’s installment of ADD – Adult Dating for Dummies, we meet Anna and scratch the surface of her recent dating history. We hear about “Special K” she only uses his first initial for some semi anonymity. We discuss door opening etiquette, good, safe places to meet on a first face to face or “IRL” that’s what the kids call in real life, date. Spoiler alert, an under-construction house with covered windows and plastic tarps everywhere is not a good idea… but that does not stop Anna! I explain what a Masshole is and why it is not as bad as it sounds. We do a PG-13 introduction to “foot guy.” And basically talk about first dates and how much you should share before hand, expect during, and reveal after. 

So grab a quart of Ben and Jerry’s and a cozy blanket and give us a listen o this week’s episode of ADD! 

Hey folks, for those expecting a scintillating interview episode, this is a brand new project, launched under the Tony on the Mic banner. ADD – Adult dating for Dummies. We talk about the new dating frontier – dating apps and how to meet someone in 2024. I am happily married and so naïve to what is out there, I mostly sit mouth wide open as I hear about the wild wild world on online dating, intimate pics, sliding into DMs, swiping, how to choose a profile pic and more. I also get a disturbing bit of info about the brazen-ness of today’s on-line males and share a now infamous photo of a shirtless me with a cat in my lap, trying to look… sexy? 

Please reach out to the show if you have any horror stories, funny stories, tips or tricks for navigating this crazy new marketplace. It will be an interactive show! In the meantime, tune in, like comment, share and tell your friends. Then get in on the fun! 

Do you ever look back at the movies of your childhood and see similarities with how you saw relationships? Movies have always being an expression of society's beliefs and influenced the creation of the future. It's clear more than ever how our misconceptions today have roots in the TV and FILM of the past as research shows. 

We welcome actor and comedian Malcolm Barrett to discuss the film SPLASH and how it's tropes mirror a lot of the relational issues we see today. IT is is anything INCENDIARY !

Malcolm Barrett, a native of New York City, studied at NYU's Tisch School of the Arts. He recently worked on several NY based television series including "Law & Order" and "The Sopranos", "As the World Turns" and "The Beat". His feature film credits include "King of the Jungle," "Swimfan," and most recently, "The Rhythm of the Saints," shown at the 2003 Sundance Film Festival. Barrett received his Equity membership at the age of 16 when he appeared in the McCarter Theatre production of "The Stonemason." He later appeared in the national tour of "Wit" with Judith Light, while simultaneously continuing his education at NYU.Make sure to follow him on  instagram !

Complicated orange. Blueberry scamcakes. Mail-adjusted. The China(wo)man is the issue here. Another fulfulling and totally worthwhile Bumble date. The Donut King. 0 for 3 on "not weirdo/noisy neighbors" so far in 1.5 years of living here. My two cents on Taylor Swift and Travis Kelcie, I weigh in like everyone else-y. True Detective, Dark Country. (so far) Matthew Weiner head (apparently). 

Okay, I did it! I joined Bumble Bff and the review is in... drumroll please. Needless to say, I'm obsessed. 5 STARS! I only wish I would have signed up sooner. The simplicity of making a new friend with similar hobbies and likes is almost impossible out in the wild. On Bumble Bff it's as easy as one swipe away. Listen to this week's episode for more details. 

I am thrilled to welcome Thais Gibson on our podcast today!

Thais Gibson is a best-selling author, counselor, speaker, and leader in the personal development field. 

She has been recognized by Psychology Today, Time Business News, The New York Post, Yahoo! News, Success Magazine, CEO Weekly, and many other outlets for her cutting-edge research on the subconscious mind and personal transformation. 

Thais has a Ph.D. and is certified in over 13 modalities, including Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, NLP, Somatic Processing, and Trauma Work. Her scientific research, personal experience, and compassionate approach led to her founding the Gibson Integrated Attachment Theory™. 

A modern expansion on the attachment theory developed in the 1960s, Integrated Attachment Theory™ empowers individuals to heal different attachments in their lives and reprogram any limiting thoughts and behaviors.

In this epsiode we will discussed the expanded version on ATTACHMENT STYLES which honestly BLEW MY MIND so much I had to release this epsiode IMEDIATELY! 

Here are thr 4 (YES 4!) ATTACHMENT STYLES WE ARE DISCUSSING:

1. ANXIOUS PREOCUPIED
2. FEARFUL AVOIDANT
3. DISMISSIVE AVOIDANT 
4. SECURE ATTACHED 

If you would like to work with Thais you can find her via the Personal Development School

TAKE A FREE ATTACHMENT STYLE QUIZ HERE!!

You can also find amazing bite size tips and feedback by following Thais on socials!

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And be sure to buy her book LEARNING LOVE which is phenomenal! 

Hope this epsiode really sheds light into your relational patterns. 

Today I invite executive Adriana Martinez Barrón to chat with us on how to success at online dating. She candidly opens up about her experices, good and bad, so our listeners can have a leg up when romantically engaging online. Have some horror online dating stories? This episode is for you. You can connect with Adriana on Instagram. 

Wet handshakes. White knuckle weekend. Girls on dating apps think they're hilarious, but no one will tell them guys only pretend to laugh at everything they say because they want to see their butthole. (And other annoying LA dating profile attributes) A moderately revelatory week of stand up/open mic grindage. The lost Howard Stern cassette archive. (Worst Indiana Jones plot ever) This new doctor is a real backstabber. 

Join Mimi and Topher as they take you on a sexual rollercoaster ride recounting the unforgettable story of their first date.

From that fateful introduction on a dating app to the banter that followed, the long-awaited first meet up and the unforgetable fashion disaster between his khakis and her spanx. Plus Mimi shares her porn star move that landed his heart! 

Eskimo brothers with Steven Spielberg. More totally reliable and relatable women in Los Angeles, dating here is just wonderful. A reflection on one year as a Sherman Oaks resident, and a fond farewell to my first roommate. Stand up round up, and a sort of review of Funny People. (Apatow flick from 2009) Rocha's show at the gay bar, and a 4th of July run down. Arnold still pulls chicks. 

A Bumble miracle. I finally approached a woman in the gym after 20 years of working out in public. I helped T Dog move (again) this weekend, and realized Im gettin fuckin old. I rage-fucked the drug dealer after a long day Sunday, and I had a show at THC Friday. I elaborate further on these seemingly rather narrow topics, and it's funny here & there. There's only one way to find out. 

"The analogy episode!" Listener alert - it's Fathers Day on Sunday, don't fuck up like I did. One more note about Bokes' drowning pool. The Joe List show at the Improv. "Goonies II," and the confounding nature of early NES games. Quarterly comedy existential crisis: The Rec Room and Bakersfield shows. The New Guy at MDR film festival recounting. A Bumble date with Giselda Blanco. (basically) 

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Joining Maria on this week’s hotline is Logan Ury, the Director of Relationship Science at Hinge, who has the awesome job of conducting research into modern dating. 

Logan Ury is a behavioral scientist turned dating coach and the author of the bestselling dating book How to Not Die Alone. She studied psychology at Harvard and ran Google’s behavioral science team, the Irrational Lab.

Sign up for Logan's Love Letter, her weekly newsletter and learn about her online courses at https://www.loganury.com/

Pick up Logan's book, How to Not Die Alone, here.

Follow Logan on Instagram at  https://www.instagram.com/loganury/

Let's work together! 

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