Explore " confidence" with insightful episodes like "S2 Affirmation #17", "S2 Affirmation #15", "I said, I'M TAKING MY HAIR OFF, and he said, WHAT!", "For anyone feeling left out or alone" and "075. How to Ask for Help" from podcasts like ""Affirmation Sauce", "Affirmation Sauce", "Beyond the Head Start Presented by Dimples", "Affirmed" and "10 for Teens + Tweens"" and more!
S2 Affirmation #17
I am a mountain lion, silent and swift, stalking my goals with unyielding focus.
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Sometimes sweet, never sour.
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S2 Affirmation #15
I am a vibrant butterfly, transforming with grace and beauty, embracing the metamorphosis of my being.
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In this conversation, we'll delve into Tracy's story, her passion for helping those experiencing hair loss, and the challenges and triumphs that have defined her career. In order to get a better connection with her clients, Tracy shaved her head.
Some of the topics discussed in the conversation:
Beyond the Usual Hairdresser
- Tracy's introduction to the world of beauty
- Her decision to specialize in toppers and wigs
- The distinctiveness of her skillset The Power of Empathy in Styling Making a Difference Beyond Looks*
- The emotional impact of hair loss on individuals - Tracy's decision to undergo head shaving to empathize with clients
- The emotional journey of helping women regain their confidence Expertise and Ongoing Learning The Importance of Continuous Education*
- The evolution of Tracy's skills over the years - Specialized training in wig styling and coloring
- The dynamic nature of hair and the need for adaptability
THE TOPPERS AND WIGS TRACY WEARS ALMOST EVERY DAY
Tracy's favorite color for her wigs and toppers: Dark Chocolate 5N5G
Tracy's most used accessories for her human hair:
Shampoo and Conditioner for Remy Human Hair
Conditioner Spray Remy Human Hair
Dimples is a family owned business since 1968. We're here to ease the difficult JOURNEY. We offer education on toppers and wigs. We make the most comfortable, and the most natural looking toppers and wigs for everyday wear. Our goal is to help make you feel and be who you want to be. Many of our consumers say, "I just want to look like me." We help make this happen while also bringing: comfort, breathability, 100% styling freedom (part the hair anywhere), and free initial consultations.
Many people feel alone or left out. Even though it feels like only you experience this, that only you are the outcast or the only odd-one-out, I can assure you that every 1 in 5 people you cross paths with feel similarly. This episode discusses coping with feeling left out, the human need to belong, and much more.
If you feel open to it, please share your experience with feeling alone or left out by commenting under this episode on YouTube: https://youtu.be/PKd1HcOVINk, you never know who else feels the same. This is a universal experience that is nothing to be ashamed of. I myself have gone through this, and promise that It's not always as personal as it seems.
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Have you ever hesitated to ask for help, or even struggled with it? I think a lot of people, girls especially, feel conflicted about asking for help, no matter what the issue is. I brainstormed reasons we don’t ask for help, the hurdles that block our path forward. I want to explore these hurdles first so we can identify effective ways to get over them.
. . .
To help you, I created a "How to Ask for Help" poster. Get your printable in the 10 for Teens + Tweens Ep. 075 show notes on EmpowerfulGirls.com.
Uncover the key to creating the life you want.
Learn about the powerful concept of the Empowerment Triangle in this minisode. Join Caneel as she explains the three essential roles within this triangle: the Creator, the Coach, and the Challenger. Discover how the different roles on the Empowerment Triangle will help you step into your power.
Emphasizing taking responsibility, Caneel explores how your choices, beliefs, and actions shape your life. Radical responsibility, embracing curiosity, and focusing your attention on all that you can control can lead to profound creativity, growth, and transformation.
Raise your awareness of the patterns that no longer serve you and choose the path of the creator, coach, and challenger to create the life you want to live. By embracing the roles of the Empowerment Triangle, you can tap into your true potential and be the powerful leader you were born to be.
Listen to the full-length episode on the Empowerment Triangle here!
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错过了粉樱的烹饪节目或想重温过去的节目，可以到 MeListen，收听“靓妈厨房粉Tastic" 的 Podcast：
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本周指定食材：鱼
糖醋鱼
材料1
1. 金目鲈肉 一 450克
腌料
1. 胡椒粉 一 1茶匙
2. 料理酒 一 15毫升
3. 麻油 一15毫升
4.盐 一 1茶匙
做法
1. 金目鲈肉冼淨后切成厚片或块状再把全部的腌料放入拌均匀后待用。
材料2
1. 玉米油一 300毫升
2.酥炸粉 一两大匙
3.大洋葱 一 12克 （去外衣后洗净切块）
4.番茄 一 150克 切块
5. 黃梨一 150克 切块
6.黄瓜一150克 去心切块
7. 红辣椒 一50克 去仔切块
酱料
1.糖 一1汤匙
2.柠檬汁一 30毫升
3.番茄酱 一 150毫升
4.清水一 15毫升
做法2
1.热锅下300毫升的油待油热时,把腌好的鱼肉滚上一层酥炸粉后下炸
*请不要马上翻动
用大火炸至金黃色后撈起待用。
2.锅里留2汤匙油，放入洋葱块翻炒几秒后加入糖，柠檬汁，番茄酱和清水。拌炒均匀最后加入番茄，黄梨，黄瓜，红辣椒和炸好的鱼块一起下锅翻炒均匀即可出锅。*全程用大火
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About Brigitta:
Brigitta Bekesi is a female specialist transformation coach and mentor who has helped thousands of women spark their inner and outer glow to achieve confidence, success, happiness, and harmony. By building her experience working as a professional life coach, fitness trainer, and yoga instructor and studying naturopathy, nutrition, dance-, manual-, beauty techniques, and many more holistic techniques, she adapted her complex knowledge to develop Beautyrobic. This unique program has empowered women to improve their health, nutrition, body shape, confidence, femininity, self-love, and overall happiness.
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In this episode, we chat all about how to reclaim your personal power—that self-assured, inner confidence that liberates your thinking and has the capacity to instigate real change. I open up about my own struggles in this department and how the narrative I’ve been pushing forward isn’t in alignment with who I want to be. We chat about what contributes to this perceived powerlessness, the importance of letting go of the past and other strategies to become the person you set out to be.
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错过了粉樱的烹饪节目或想重温过去的节目，可以到 MeListen，收听“靓妈厨房粉Tastic" 的 Podcast：
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本周指定食材：花胶
黄金花胶鸡汤
材料1 （第1天）
花胶 80克
姜 切片20克
青葱 切段 20克
做法：
1. 拿个干净无油无水的盆把干花胶放在盆中，放入姜片和姜段用大火蒸20分钟后，拿出花椒放入冰块和冰水中，放入冰箱隔夜再用。
材料2 （第2天）
干贝 50克 *泡软水别倒掉，可以用来炖鸡汤用
去皮鸡腿 1500克 *一只鸡腿切成三段待用
金瓜 300克 去皮切块，蒸熟后压成泥，备用
姜 切丝或片 共30克 （10克用来烫鸡腿用）
白果300克 *可以买现成的
胡椒粉 1茶匙
枸杞子 10克
盐 1茶匙
料理酒或米酒30毫升 （分两次用）
做法：
1. 1000毫升的水加入姜片10克和15毫升的料理酒， 再把鸡块放入，煮8分钟后捞起待用。
2. 另外一个锅放入1000毫升的水煮滚后放入姜丝和烫过水的鸡腿，白果，干贝滚煮滚后加入盐和胡椒粉，继续煮30分钟 *用中小火
3. 30分钟后放入花胶继续煮10分钟后，最后把金瓜泥和料理酒倒入搅拌均匀，出锅前放入枸杞，便可以开动了。
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Emma has had a gloriously squiggly career, starting in pharmaceutical sales, then training as a Speech and Language Therapist. After a short and sweet affair with the NHS, she became Operations Director in a successful event business, before finding her true passion and training as Voice Coach at the prestigious Royal Central School of Speech and Drama. She brings the wealth of all that knowledge to help women raise their visibility and credibility at work, by amplifying their ability to be heard and cultivating thoughtful leadership in both the corporate and entrepreneurial worlds.
Support the showThis episode follows Chapter 3, Section 6: Activate Courage of "Anxiety... I'm So Done with You!" It is chock full of information, so get out your notebook and pen! In this episode, we will dive deep into taking risks and having courage. You'll learn:
I will debunk your comfort zone because, a lot of times, it doesn't serve you. It's important to understand risks to make the best conscious decisions for your highest good, so I'll explain everything you need to know to create the life you want.
Analyzing risk requires looking at the possible negative consequences and their severity. I give many examples so you can understand precisely how to assess situations to make conscious decisions. Examples like a log over a stream, telling someone you like them, and brushing your teeth. Then, we look at courage and when and why you need the courage to take risks.
You can mitigate (make less severe) risks when you know what they are by taking actions aligned with maximizing benefits and minimizing negative possibilities. Risk can be scary, and courage can feel hard to find when anxiety is around. How do you push the boundaries of your comfort zone when you're anxious? I share the four key steps to help you do that.
"Comfort zones don't get established and stay the same forever. They're constantly changing, getting bigger and smaller. A desire or a mood can change how someone weighs risks and benefits. One day we might not be up for something, and the next day we totally are." - Dr. Jodi Aman
Resources discussed in this episode:
About Dr. Jodi Aman
Therapist | Author | Spiritual Mentor
Dr. Jodi Aman is a Leadership and Spiritual Coach who has spent 25 years as a trauma-informed psychotherapist. She earned a Doctorate in Social Work in ’23, focusing on Leadership, Social Justice, Diversity, Equity, and Inclusion. Social Work acknowledges the person in their environment and understands how humans react to situations. Work with Jodi.
“After 25 years of clinical experience, I feel deep resonance and empathy for the complexities of others’ pain and am compelled to stand against the context of injustice that causes it. Using this keen understanding of how and why people suffer, my unique and varied training, rooted ethics, as well as decades being a trauma-informed psychotherapist, I help sensitive souls release what they don’t want, recover their energetic bandwidth, and grok a socially conscious life of overflowing joy. More about me.”
Her doctorate thesis project addresses the current teen mental health crisis. She is designing a psychoeducational curriculum for improving teen mental health. This program, called COMPASS, will help young people navigate human emotions, giving them the information to understand what is happening and the tools to heal themselves and their communities. If you care about, work with, love, and/or are concerned for teenagers and are worried about the devastating mental health crisis too many of them are living through, you may be interested in my research and plans for this classroom-based, culturally-sensitive curriculum for high school health teachers to facilitate during their mental health units. Learn More.
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Hey, you're here with Dr. Jodi, and this is Season 3 of "Anxiety… I'm so Done with You!" This podcast is a teen and young adult guide to ditching toxic stress and hardwiring your brain for happiness. If you're new here, grab a copy of my book "Anxiety… I'm so Done with You!" because this series goes section by section through the book, going a little bit deeper, giving more examples, and telling more stories. Season 3, which goes along with Chapter 3, expands hope by looking at your skills and abilities.
You are amazing! You have many skills and abilities. However, anxiety does not want you to know that. It tries to block your view of them. But not anymore! In this season, we'll bring them out into the open, giving you more access to them when you need them the most. As this season progresses, you're going to envision yourself in a new way––as a person who is able, caring, confident, and determined. Thank you for listening, subscribing, and leaving me five stars on Apple Podcasts. Mental health problems are skyrocketing, especially among young people, and this series will help them cease judging, stop questioning, and start healing!
Welcome to Chapter 3, Section 6: Activate Courage. In this episode, I:
Let's get right into it. First, let's define "risks" because you wouldn't need courage if there were no risks. When I demystify risks for you, you'll feel in control of your decisions (instead of fear being in control of them). A risk is the chance of something happening that will have a negative effect. It is someone or something that creates or suggests a hazard. So it's a hazard. A hazard is a source or a situation with the potential for harm in terms of human injury, ill health, damage to property or the environment, or something like that. That means risks and hazards show potential for harm that necessitates your caution. In other words, you have to be aware of them and be conscious of how you navigate them as you move forward with your decisions.
What's important to remember is that not all risks are created equal. There are different levels of risks that people have to consider. The level of risk is related to two things: 1) how likely the unwanted event is and 2) how bad the potential negative consequences might be. So you have to weigh all of these two things' variables to determine the level of risk.
For example, let's look at the risk of falling in when walking across a log suspended over a stream. What's the level of risk here? Well, you have to consider all of the variables. The likelihood of falling increases or decreases depending on the following:
The potential negative consequences depend on:
All decisions involve some risk, but often the risk is so low that the answer is clear, like "Should I brush my teeth?" Yes, you have to get up, it takes time, and you might be too tired to bother, but you know it is safe, quick, good for your teeth and mouth, and will feel good. This kind of decision necessitates effort but not courage. Mostly, tasks such as brushing your teeth are integrated already. You might think of them as a pain to have to do, but you don't think of it as risky.
Other times the risk is high, but the desire is worth it, so you do need to have some courage to get outside that comfort zone. For example, let's consider the risk of telling someone you like them. You have to consider all of the variables. First, you'll consider the likeliness of being rejected by trying to guess if they return your affection. Then, you'd consider how embarrassing it would be if it would make things awkward between the two of you, or worse if they'd be mean to you after you said something. You might even worry that everybody in the school would be laughing at you, or it would ruin your friendship. All of these and maybe more would go through your mind and affect your decision on whether to take the risk or not.
When you approach a decision like this, you can do nothing, which also carries a risk of losing the opportunity to date that other person or you can decide to do it then, gather the courage and mitigate the risks. Mitigating means somehow making them less severe, serious, or painful. We'll talk about gathering courage soon, but let's first review how to mitigate risks. You mitigate risks by manipulating "controls." Controls are measures, actions, or things you put in place to decrease the likelihood of the negative thing happening or the negative consequences of that event. For example, if that log over the stream had a branch from a neighboring tree that you could hold on to and balance yourself while you walk over, it would mitigate the risks of you falling in. That control, the branch, assists you in making the decision to cross there. Or, when you ask your friends if they think the person that you want to date might like you too, they might give you some information that will help you decide whether to tell them how you feel or not.
Now that we're on the same page with levels of risk and controls, let's talk about courage. I start this section by illustrating three circles inside each other. The center circle represents your comfort zone. The middle circle includes risks, worries, and discomforts. And the biggest circle includes, as it says, "Everything worthwhile." Even though there are always risks, they pale when you are approaching something worthy of your time and effort. Or, the task has been so integrated (familiar and easy for you) that any risks are discarded.
It's like having a pet. You may have had your dog forever and have integrated the work you must put into that relationship. You may not even think of the sacrifices and potential loss as risky, so it's comfortable to have your pet. However, if you were deciding whether to get a new pet, then you would weigh the risks and the benefits. When you have integrated a new thing, you've overcome the worry, risk, or discomfort it took you to get there, and your circle widens. The circle's still there, but it's no longer an obstacle for that event or experience. You've become familiar with and used to it so much so that you don't even see those activities as risky anymore.
Comfort zones are different for everyone, depending on how people assess and evaluate risks, what they're accustomed to, the past experiences and current supports that they have, and what's important to them. Comfort zones don't get-established-and-just-stay-the-same-forever. They're constantly changing and getting bigger and smaller. A desire or mood can change how someone weighs risks and benefits in a moment. One day we may not be up for something, and the next day we are. It happens all the time.
That may make you wonder how a comfort zone gets started in the first place. Often they start from something simple, like one day, you have that calorie-conserving resistance to something in your life, but you don't understand why you have that resistance. So you put meaning around the task as something "uncomfortable" or "undesirable." That meaning makes you feel trapped or oppressed if you do it. Or, if you've had a negative experience with that task, or something similar to it, that would make you weary of doing that again. Even mildly bad events, like when you've been embarrassed, can build up a strong sense of discomfort. Intense embarrassment can feel humiliating and be experienced by your body and mind as traumatic. Once those parameters are set in your comfort zone, you make more and more meaning out of them until they feel quite impassable.
In fact, some people's comfort zones are very rigid. There are some things they have been a hard no to for a very long time, and in some cases, they may have forgotten the real reason for that. Just the fact that it is the edge of the comfort zone is all that matters, and it keeps them in there. They hear from the anxiety, "It's scary." Period. But never ask themselves why it is scary.
If you feel like this is you, or you're in any position where you want to push out the boundaries of your comfort zone, try these four steps:
1. Find your edge.
This is about having conscious awareness of what's inside and outside of your comfort zone. It gives you the control to dismantle what you can. Whatever the anxiety tells you, immediately ask it: why? Why does it say that will be awful? Why does it think you can't handle it? Why does it think something bad would happen? Do not let it be evasive. You want to know the ins and outs because that unpacks and dismantles the anxiety.
2. Weigh the risks and benefits.
Remember, the level of risk is related to the likelihood of the negative consequence happening and how negative the result is or can be. You want to consider all the variables to be prepared to make a conscious decision. Then, list the benefits of doing that: Why do you want to do it? How great are the benefits? Will they last long? Are they worth the risks (For example, showing off to someone who really doesn't care about you is not worth doing something dangerous, but staying up late one night to finish a homework assignment is worth the risk of getting less than optimal sleep that night.)?
3. Brainstorm the controls and how to manipulate them.
This is thinking of what you can do to minimize the risks. It's like having an exit plan when you're nervous about going somewhere. An exit plan allows you to go to that event without feeling like you'll be trapped there. You're minimizing the discomfort.
4. Gather your courage.
You'll need the courage to step in the direction that you want. Taking to your heart and mind all of the information you have gathered, it's time to make a conscious decision about the way forward. Now, you need the courage to do that. Courage is trust in yourself. Being an impulsive thrill-seeker is not courageous. It's just stupid. Real courage is trusting your skills to assess the situation, weighing the risks and benefits, brainstorming the controls, and making a conscious decision on the best way forward.
Being Ready
After watching people go through this process for a really long time, I noticed something that holds people back from taking risks. It's this: thinking that being ready is tangible. That you'd feel it and know, beyond a shadow of a doubt, that you're ready. But that's not how it works. Ready is hardly ever tangible like that. Either there's something easy, and you do it because it's integrated into your system. (You put a shirt on without thinking if you're ready to do that.) However, so many people feel like they're not ready, and then they think that means they are not ready.
No one feels ready. When people have to do something challenging, they can start without thinking about it too much or start before they have total confidence, trusting that they will get confidence from it. Alternatively, they can feel "not ready" and hesitate. When you do that, the brain thinks something's wrong, and the Monkey Mind does its thing...
A good example is some teens I've worked with who have trouble getting to school. They assume that they'll go when they're ready. They think, "I'm not ready to go back," and then stay home. But they'll only be ready after they go and have been going regularly. They need consistently attend school to get going integrated into their system. We think ready means comfortable (it doesn't). What makes things comfortable is familiarity. Anxiety can't lie to you about something that you know well! It can't hack it. So, the fastest way to overcome the fear of something, like driving a car, or speaking in public, is to do it until it's familiar.
Let's talk about what is on the other side of our comfort zone. That'll be different for everyone, depending on personal tastes and preferences. To find out yours, ask yourself: What is fun and fulfilling? Who are the people in your life that you want to be close to? What would mean success to you? What lifts you up? What excites you?
Take a moment now to think about what is important to you. Think about a time in your future, and imagine this coming true. Try to feel yourself being comfortable and happy there. What would it be like to experience that?
This episode is almost over, and when it's done, I want you to grab a piece of paper and do the above four-step process with what you are visualizing. The first step is to find your edge. Really get clear on what's inside and outside your comfort zone around this. The second step is to weigh the risks and benefits. Think about the level of risk and how important this thing is to you. Step three is to brainstorm your controls. How can you mitigate those risks so that you can achieve those benefits? Finally, in step four, gather your courage and take a step outside your comfort zone. Each step you take will be the building block of the next step, the next step, and the next step. It will build on your momentum and inertia and get you closer to what you truly desire.
Thank you so much for listening to this episode where I went over risks and controls and how to be ready even if you don't feel ready and shared my four steps to expanding your comfort zone. As always, I have more resources for you on building courage and taking risks on the blog that goes with this episode. I appreciate all the shares in the comments and am indebted to you for those five-star reviews on Apple Podcasts. Remember, I go live every Monday at 11 A.M Eastern on Facebook and YouTube. On YouTube and TikTok, you'll find me at Dr. Jodi d-o-c-t-o-r-j-o-d-i.
The next episode is the last section of this chapter and the last episode of the Season: Chapter 3, Section 7: Activate Your Unique Skills. Read or listen to that section, and I'll meet you there.
This episode follows Chapter 3, Section 5: "Activate Confidence" of Anxiety... I'm So Done with You! Social anxiety, that feeling of overwhelm in social situations, is rising. It's partly because we are becoming more sensitive. But how do you calm it? In this episode, you'll learn:
Having social anxiety tends to make us want to isolate ourselves. But that makes us lose the companionship and connections we need to thrive. In this episode, you learn how to navigate social anxiety, so it is no longer a barrier to a happy life.
Sensitivity, or being an empath, is feeling other people’s energy and often their negative emotions too. Being sensitive can make you want to avoid groups of people. To help you manage your sensitivity, I teach you the difference between clairsentience and claircognizance. However, social anxiety doesn’t just come from sensitivity, though, it also is a product of comparison culture, and worry that you are not good enough, smart enough, pretty enough, and on and on.
One of our biggest fears is being judged. But this is not something we need to worry about as much as we do. People are too wrapped up in their own thoughts and worries. Hear more tips like these in this episode, including my 11 suggestions on how to feel more comfortable in social situations.
"Confidence means that you believe in yourself––that you know you're a good person with skills who can figure things out. When you have robust self-confidence, you're calmer, more comfortable, and more grounded. That comes across as humble, not stuck up. Humble doesn't mean that you have a low opinion of yourself. It means you have an accurate one." - Dr. Jodi Aman
Resources discussed in this episode:
About Dr. Jodi Aman
Therapist | Author | Spiritual Mentor
Dr. Jodi Aman is a Leadership and Spiritual Coach who has spent 25 years as a trauma-informed psychotherapist. She earned a Doctorate in Social Work in ’23, focusing on Leadership, Social Justice, Diversity, Equity, and Inclusion. Social Work acknowledges the person in their environment and understands how humans react to situations. Work with Jodi.
“After 25 years of clinical experience, I feel deep resonance and empathy for the complexities of others’ pain and am compelled to stand against the context of injustice that causes it. Using this keen understanding of how and why people suffer, my unique and varied training, rooted ethics, as well as decades being a trauma-informed psychotherapist, I help sensitive souls release what they don’t want, recover their energetic bandwidth, and grok a socially conscious life of overflowing joy. More about me.”
Her doctorate thesis project addresses the current teen mental health crisis. She is designing a psychoeducational curriculum for improving teen mental health. This program, called COMPASS, will help young people navigate human emotions, giving them the information to understand what is happening and the tools to heal themselves and their communities. If you care about, work with, love, and/or are concerned for teenagers and are worried about the devastating mental health crisis too many of them are living through, you may be interested in my research and plans for this classroom-based, culturally-sensitive curriculum for high school health teachers to facilitate during their mental health units. Learn More.
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Hey, you're here with Dr. Jodi, and this is Season 3 of "Anxiety… I'm so Done with You!" This podcast is a teen and young adult guide to ditching toxic stress and hardwiring your brain for happiness. If you're new here, grab a copy of my book "Anxiety… I'm so Done with You!" because this series goes section by section through the book, going a little bit deeper, giving more examples, and telling more stories. Season 3, which goes along with Chapter 3, expands hope by looking at your skills and abilities.
You are amazing! You have many skills and abilities. However, anxiety does not want you to know that. It tries to block your view of them. But not anymore! In this season, we'll bring them out into the open, giving you more access to them when you need them the most. As this season progresses, you're going to envision yourself in a new way––as a person who is able, caring, confident, and determined. Thank you for listening, subscribing, and leaving me five stars on Apple Podcasts. Mental health problems are skyrocketing, especially among young people, and this series will help them cease judging, stop questioning, and start healing!
How are you doing? Welcome to Chapter 3, Section 5, Activate Confidence. In this episode, we will talk about social anxiety to uncover what is different about it than other anxieties. We'll talk about being an empath or a highly sensitive person, and I'll share how your sensitivity affects social situations. We'll also review what confidence is and how to build it in yourself, and then we'll go over the 11 suggestions that I list in this section on how to feel more comfortable in social situations. Let's go!
Alright, social anxiety. What is social anxiety? Social anxiety manifests in social situations. So people get irritable or overwhelmed when they're in scenarios where there are groups of people. It is a growing trend that people are more or more affected by social contacts, making this a really unique category of anxiety because people with it are not necessarily afraid of danger like most other anxieties. A lot is happening here, so there's a lot to understand why this is rising. One of the reasons is that people are becoming more sensitive in general as our awareness and consciousness expand. That awareness is tapping into the energy of the field around us. We feel other people's energy and the energy imprint of the spaces that we're in.
A friend once told me a story about when she was traveling. She told me that she was sitting in a cafe one day and was suddenly overwhelmed emotionally. Nothing was wrong in her life; she was happily traveling, and things were going well, but at this moment, she cried and cried and cried, and she couldn't stop. She was so overwhelmed with sadness and doom they had to leave. Her friends had to take her out of there and return to the hotel. Later they discovered that there had been a brutal battle in that very location, with a shocking betrayal during World War I.
I also know a woman who is so sensitive that she's out for days after attending a funeral, even if she doesn't know the person very well. She cries and cries, feeling overwhelmed and exhausted. This level of sensitivity is real, and it is growing. With the publication of the book, The Highly Sensitive Person by Elaine Aaron, many people who have been feeling sensitive for years have finally understood what is wrong with them. If you've grown up sensitive, you know exactly what I mean. It feels awful. You assume that the negative emotions you feel are coming from you when it's not; it's coming from the people around you. When you think it's you, you try to figure out why you feel this bad, but you can't because there's no answer to that. It's not about you. And so you have to guess why you feel that bad. Unfortunately, the guesses end up being something like, "I must be a depressed person," "I just have depression," "I'm different," "Something's wrong with me," and "I just can't be happy."
Crowds often feel overwhelming to sensitive people, so they sometimes choose to stay home and not go out. That would be okay if they had a small group of good people at home and felt a sense of belonging. But all too often, staying away from people (crowds) make sensitive people isolate in an effort to protect themselves. And hopefully, you all now know how isolation affects a person: it's not good.
I'm happy to say that there is some good news here: people who are sensitive can learn how to tell the difference between what is theirs and what is not theirs, and they can learn how to get rid of what is not theirs. They can also hone skills in blocking unwanted energy from coming in the first place. I cover how to do this in my Energy Shield Training video for empaths and highly sensitive people. That link is in the blog post that goes along with this episode. In it, I also show people how to transform their clairsentience to claircognizance. Clairsentience is another word for empathy. It means you feel feelings that are not yours. Claircognizance is clear knowing, meaning you have knowledge of something that you wouldn't know from ordinary means.
Claircognizance gives you information from the energy. Having the information come to you through claircognizance instead of clairsentience gives you the information without you being bowled over by the feeling of it. And from there, instead of struggling to right yourself and recover, you can decide if there's some action you want to take to help the situation. Sometimes you get information from someone, and there's nothing you can do. Other times, for example, if it's a friend having a problem, you could check on them, which you now have the bandwidth to do since you're not being benched by those feelings of overwhelm. You can grab my online course about how to do this. I'll link to it in a blog post. (Just knowing that it's possible for you to learn will help you have hope.)
Back to social anxiety: another reason why social anxiety is on the rise is that comparison culture is on the rise. With the constant use of social media, cultural expectations to be good enough, smart enough, cool enough, skinny enough, etc., etc., are in your face more and more. Feelings of inadequacy are also in your face more and more. Then, you isolate yourself, which makes you more sensitive when people are mean and negative around you.
There are two adages here that I repeat to myself when this happens to remind myself that it is not me. I offer them to you in case they'll help you too. The first is, "Hurt people, hurt people." So people who are hurt, hurt other people. The second one is, "People aren't mean because they don't like you; they are mean because they don't like themselves."
This is the thing: when you've been hurt a lot, you tend to think that you are the most common denominator, "I get hurt a lot. Maybe it's me that attracts it to me?" For sure, when a lot of people hurt you, you feel the unworthiness thick and heavy in your body and mind. I understand why you feel that way and why you think it's you because I have felt that way so many times in my life. But then, I witnessed client after client expressed feeling that way too. This made me wonder about it. We can't all be causing this! I realized that many people hurt you because most people (in Western society) don't actually like themselves. Let me say that again, "People aren't mean to you because they don't like you; they are mean to you because they don't like themselves."
Again, back to social anxiety: whatever the causes of your social anxiety, you need to build confidence and strength in yourself to overcome it. This doesn't mean that you need to go out all the time or that you should go out all the time. It means that you'll be free to choose what you want to do without the social anxiety influencing you.
What is confidence?
Sometimes confidence has a negative connotation. You might think of it as someone with a big head. If you think about it like that, you'd want to avoid having confidence. That negative connotation of confidence comes from anxiety and self-doubt, trying to use anything it can to make you feel bad about yourself. Having a big head is overconfidence. And overconfidence is usually an overcompensation for not feeling confident at all. When you don't think you're great, you have to constantly prove it, and this can keep a person really self-focused.
Real confidence is a good thing. Confidence means that you believe in yourself––that you're a good, skilled, and adaptable person. You're calmer, more comfortable, and more grounded when you have robust self-confidence. To other people, that comes across as humble, not stuck up. Humble doesn't mean that you have a low opinion of yourself. It means you have an accurate one. Also, being humble means that you have the ability to be others-focused because you're not as obsessed with trying to prove that you're great.
In the book section discussed in this episode, I make 11 suggestions on how to feel more comfortable in social situations.
What did I forget? I'm sure all of you have some great tips on what else you could do to make yourself more comfortable in social situations. I want to hear your ideas that are missing from this list. Come on over to the blog post that goes with this episode, and leave me a comment with your ideas. Or, visit me at TikTok at Dr. Jodi and leave me a comment there.
I'm so touched that you spent this time with me today. I hope you got so much out of this episode! We looked at social anxiety, being empathic, and being sensitive in social situations. We reviewed self-confidence and went over the 11 suggestions on how to feel more comfortable in social situations.
Big giant hugs to you for listening, commenting, and leaving me a five-star review on Apple Podcasts! Remember, if I've helped you at all, share this book and this podcast series because you never know who is struggling around you; you may make a big difference in their lives! This whole episode has been a really great segue to the next episode, where we'll go into Chapter 3, Section 6, "Activate Courage." Read that section or listen to it, and I will meet you there!
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What does the phrase, "It's never too late," mean to you? I like to think that for me, it means that I am never too old to be whom I've always wanted to be or live a life that I love. Our guest on this episode decided in her early sixties it was time to change up her health and her mindset. The first step was to find a coach and then kick her Chardonnay and Thai food habit.
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荔枝虾球
材料
虾 300克
盐 半茶匙
胡椒粉 半茶匙
麻油 10毫升
蛋白 1粒
地瓜粉 30克
脆花粒 ＊ 随意，只要能包住全部的虾球就可以了。
玉米油1000毫升 ＊炸虾球用
做法
1. 虾去壳去头去肠后，一半剁成虾泥，一半切成丁后加入蛋白，盐，胡椒粉和麻油搅拌均匀起胶后再加入地瓜粉，继续搅拌均匀，放入冰箱冷冻15分钟 ＊待会比较容易搓成丸子
2. 15分钟后，从冰箱拿出虾肉，做成一粒粒的丸子放入碎花粒中，让每粒虾球都沾满 脆花粒便可。
3. 热锅下油，待油热后关中小火，再把虾球一粒粒的下炸约五分钟便可。＊虾球的大小随意。
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While I hope you’ll be a hype girl for other girls, more importantly my goal is to help you become a hype girl for yourself. I share a personal experience to help you learn how.
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