healthy relationships

Today's conversation features the incredibly insightful and informative Katie McKenna and Helen Villers. In this episode, we are talking about the impact of growing up with emotionally abusive or narcissistic parents, understanding this through the lens of neurodivergence and healing from this behaviour so we can finally break systemic generational patterns.

Helen Villiers, LLB, PG Cert, PG Dip, MA, is a psychotherapist with a master's degree in Working Therapeutically with Adult Children of Narcissistic Parents. Helen works with clients recovering from narcissistic abuse; she also specialises in autism and ADHD and is a couples counsellor, too.

Katie McKenna, BA, MIACP is an accredited psychotherapist who specialises in parentification and emotional abuse. Katie educates adults on how their childhood relationships are impacting their current relationships. She helps them recognise and heal from the lifelong impacts of dysfunctional family dynamics through the psychotherapy process.

Together, they co-host the successful podcast 'In Sight', and they have just brought out their brand new book, You’re Not the Problem: The Impact of Narcissism and Emotional Abuse and How to Heal.

On the ADHD Women's Wellbeing Podcast, with Kate, they talk about:

• Understanding the definition of Narcissistic Personality Disorder - NPD
• Defining terms, such as 'Narcissist' and 'Parentification'
• The impact of growing up with an emotionally abusive parent
• How a narcissistic parent behaves and the traits of a narcissist
• How to set your own boundaries in relationships
• Recognising what are neurodivergent traits and what could've been narcissism
• Validating your trauma and feelings toward a narcissistic parent
• Emotional responsibility, motivational empathy and feeling more empowered
• Healing ourselves from emotional abuse
• Releasing resentment towards an emotionally abusive family member
• How we gaslight ourselves to think their behaviour is justifiable
• Breaking the generational cycle of trauma and doing the work so as not to pass on the abusive behaviour
• Taking responsibility for traumatised, abusive and narcissistic behaviour
• Hypervigilance and being an empath
• Understanding 'weaponised ignorance'
• Understanding infantilization and enmeshment

 Have a look at some of Kate's workshops and free resources here.

Kate Moryoussef is a women’s ADHD Lifestyle & Wellbeing coach and EFT practitioner who helps overwhelmed and unfulfilled newly diagnosed ADHD women find more calm, balance, hope, health, compassion, creativity, and clarity. 

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You’re Not the Problem gives you the tools to recognise and heal from narcissistic and emotional abuse - out now: UK, US (affiliate links)

As her father prepares to reconcile with her abusive mother, our listener feels like she's at breaking point. Her father begs her to put their differences aside for a family wedding, but she can't put her mental health at risk again. For the sake of her father she asks whether a narcissist is capable of change, or is this yet another spin on their Merry-Go-Round relationship?

Listen to Katie and Helen look at this difficult situation from all angles and offer their insight into what's going on.

We talk theories and strategies in our exclusive Patreon show, The Freudian Slip. Unlock instant access to over 50 episodes today on our Patreon page, including identifying your family roles, the cycle of abuse, empathy and how to spot a good apology.

In Sight is sponsored by Pinch of Nom! Buy their amazing cookbook ‘Enjoy’ here!

Submit your own letter, find free resources and sign up for our weekly newsletter at www.InSightPodcast.com.

Have you fallen for someone who just can’t give you the same affection back?

Emotionally unavailable people are the relationship version of junk food. You know it’s bad . . . but your addiction keeps you going back for more.

This is nothing more than a formula for heartbreak. In today’s new episode, I dive into the psychology behind why we’re attracted to emotionally unavailable people, and why just because something’s scarce (such as someone’s attention) doesn’t mean it’s valuable.

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Let’s get into HEAD NOISE where I answer your questions about life, love, friendship, and all the fun messy things that make being alive so lit.

1)   My partner and I are great, and then every now and then they snap when talking about or learning about my past dating history. My dating history isn’t anything wild, and I can’t control that I’ve been with other people, so how do I deal with their reaction to the fact that they’re not my first and only love?

2)    My partner has genital herpes, and has been upfront with me about this. We communicated about expectations in our physical relationship, and how I could most be comfortable and feel protected at the same time. We are now a little further into our relationship and he has started saying things like if I want this relationship to continue I need to stop making him feel so bad about having herpes, that I make him feel dirty and ruin his self confidence because of the precautions I’ve put in place during sex to keep myself at less risk of contracting HSV.

3)    My therapist says I am anxiously attached from a past trauma. I was wondering if you could talk me through limerence vs love, because my anxiety around dating

RECCOMENDATIONS:

• Listen to my episode all about retroactive jealousy – Ep 109 ‘Retroactive Jealousy and Overthinking’ at https://pod.fo/e/1f82f3 .
• Listen to Happy Hour with Lucy and Nikki ‘Opening Up The Conversation Around Herpes ft. Annaleise Easlea’ at https://spoti.fi/3STJNwP

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CREDITS

Host: Alexis Fernandez       
Executive Producer & Editor: Elise Cooper
Digital Producer: Zoe Panaretos
DYFM Social Producer: Shania Magua
Managing Producer: Sam Cavanagh 

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Today’s episode is a masterclass in narcissism. 

If you want to know how to protect yourself from a narcissist, you first have to know how to identify one. 

You’ll learn the top 10 personality traits to look for, how to handle a narcissist in your life (that you can’t avoid), the difference between ‘love bombing’ and infatuation, and a whole lot more.

Joining Mel today is Dr. Ramani Durvasula, a clinical psychologist and one of the world’s leading experts on narcissism.

Her mastery of all things narcissism has made her the #1 most requested guest on The Mel Robbins Podcast.

Dr. Ramani has been researching this topic for over 20 years and is here to give you the wisdom, practical advice, and well-researched tools and tricks to navigate what is one of the most unpredictable experiences: being in a relationship with a narcissist. 

According to Dr. Ramani, 1 in 5 people has narcissist traits, which means you know (and may love) someone who is a narcissist. After you listen, you’ll know what to do.

For more resources, including links to Dr. Ramani’s book, website, and social media platforms, click here for the podcast episode page.

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Disclaimer

Moving into the new year, I've decided that I have new boundaries and standards when it comes to dating, so here's a full episode about it. As always, send me a DM on instagram @lyss or @dateyourselfinstead if you enjoyed this episode.

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•  4 days of videos instructed by me
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You may not know this, but you probably have an unconscious dating mindset.

We all do. It might be learned from our parents, an early relationship, or any other kind of formative childhood experience, but it affects so much of our behavior when we meet someone we like.

In today’s new video, I’m going to share 3 of the most dangerous dating mindsets to avoid, and one powerful mindset that will let you enjoy the process while naturally attracting the person you really want.

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So this wasn’t the video we’d planned to release this week . . . 

But an online conversation turned into something so unexpected that we scrapped the original plan and recorded something new, because I couldn’t wait to talk about it.

The video this week is all about bravery and kindness, and my goal is that by the end of it, you will understand and be able to relate to men a little better.  

Your coach,  

Matthew x  

P.S. Which revelation surprised you the most? I look forward to reading your thoughts as we continue this discussion . . . which has already become one of my favorites.  

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What’s the difference between a boundary and a controlling behaviour? Well my beans, this episode I’m taking you through the difference, as well as how to set boundaries for yourself in a healthy respectful way. PLUS I touch on how to tell when someone is using “boundaries” to actually be manipulative.

LINKS:

• Dive deeper into purpose with my episode ‘233. Boundaries VS Controlling Behaviour AND how to set healthy boundaries to improve your self love’ at https://bit.ly/dyfm-233 .
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• Join the DYFM Facebook Group https://bit.ly/dyfm-group .
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CREDITS

Host: Alexis Fernandez       
Executive Producer & Editor: Elise Cooper
Digital Producer: Zoe Panaretos
DYFM Social Producer: Shania Magua
Managing Producer: Sam Cavanagh 

Find more great podcasts like this at www.listnr.com/

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Are you a sociopath?

People not coming through VS Betrayal.

Which training methods best for becoming a Warrior.

Self doubt in light of a promotion at work.

Maintaining relationships virtually.

Getting over a break-up and self-destruction.

This week is all about your mental health questions! I recently did a shout-out on social media for questions you’d like me to cover, and there were so many good ones I had to do this as a two-parter. This week I’m answering questions about topics like growth, world events, unreliable people, healing, worry, procrastination, friendships and more, and then next week I’ll cover even more topics. 

So, let’s talk! 🙂

And for tips on how to be more self-aware, watch my latest YouTube video: https://youtu.be/aQ-fyBM1w8s  

👋💬 PS: When you’re done, leave me a comment to let me know what you think or find me on Instagram at www.instagram.com/ltamentalhealth 😃

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About Let’s Talk About Mental Health:

Let's Talk About Mental Health is the weekly podcast that makes mental health simple, with tips that draw on both quality research and the experience of writer/presenter Jeremy Godwin. Each episode focuses on practical things you can do immediately to improve your mental health and take control of your wellbeing. Discover the podcast all about better mental health and join listeners in over 170 countries worldwide!

Let's Talk About Mental Health. Making mental health simple.

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Resources: 

📚 Buy my book Life Advice That Doesn't Suck!: https://jeremygodwin.com.au/latds/  

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