Unbreak My Heart

What if someone could study how we make choices? The attitudes and philosophies behind the decisions we make? When we reflect on our relationship choices or the patterns of behavior we have - sometimes it's hard to make sense of it! 

Sheena takes us through her research about studying choice! It's fascinating and may provoke some new thoughts and insights. Enjoy!

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Kerry and I's conversation flowed with casual ease and laughter. Can you start over in your mid-30's as a divorcee and single Mom? Yes!

What about navigating the mystery and terrors of online dating? Kerry shares about diving in, finding new liberties and navigating the disappointments and hopes of possible new relationships. 

Listen to be entertained and inspired.

Daniel grew up conforming to the ideas of what it meant to be a man through the critical words and judgments of the women in his life. 

He was not going to be like his Dad or his Uncles. He was going to be a good guy and a nice guy. Little did he know that he was only masking and hiding who he truly was. 

It wasn't until his 3rd marriage and counseling, that he finally realized his behaviors and beliefs were all under his self-deception, justification, and rationalization. Instead of helping others, he saw he was really hurting those he cared for and ultimately himself.

His paradigm shift allowed him to start living from the inside out with inner-peace and calm. Before it was all about him and his need for love. This story is about his experience discovering unconditional love.

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So many thoughts and questions arise when talking with Spencer. He was betrayed a few times in a row with women that brought out extreme opposite sides of himself.

He took time to recover after his second break up and found himself wounded again in an unexpected way. Through his trials, he discovered ways to accept - what is and let go of - the idea of himself or the idea of what life should be.

Spencer takes us through his muck, he even confesses he smashed his x-box! It was a sign of closure and healing - listen as he shares how he has overcome his heartaches!

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Ending a relationship is an opportunity we can embrace to become a better person. Sometimes breakups are unexpected, or they end a bad situation. Either way, what if this is the ticket out of prison - a fresh start to exploring life without being stuck?

Gary addresses this very topic in today's episode. Thank you for listening!

Raul, found love in New York with a partner who seemed to be a dream come true. Raul invested wholeheartedly into the relationship - holding nothing back.

Only one seed of doubt existed in their connection and he sensed it from the beginning. Was Anthony going to be ready? Did he still need time to explore the world as a single man? Anthony is six years younger than Raul. After two years of bliss, Anthony pulled back and said goodbye to what we can only guess was premature Love. 

Though Raul found the answer as to why they were going their separate ways, he has had a very difficult time moving on. This episode is a reflection of that love story and a way to gain peace of mind and move one step closer to closure.

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Maranda is still recovering from a breakup that happened a year ago. He ended 4 1/2 years in a text and it's left her hurting. 

After a lot of time to self-reflect, we take time on this episode to deep dive into what holds her back from moving forward. Guilt, regret and anger have plagued her long enough!

Listen to find out how she navigates her way to greater freedom and clarity.

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The attachments we carry with us to our partner are what bond us. Those attachments also make letting go after a breakup pretty tough, sometimes, near impossible. Is it a matter of the mind or the heart? Could it be both?

Dessa, couldn't let go. "Everyone else seems to be able to do this, why is it so tough for me?". In this short and light-hearted presentation, she shares how neuroscience helped heal her brain. 

Enjoy!

What happens when you open the door to your body and soul wide open? Liberty tells us about the adventures of online dating and self-discovery. She was married for a long time and since her divorce, she's explored her artistic creativity, her spirit of adventure, and her sexuality. Some of it has been fun and some of it has left her with deep pain. 

For more information about Liberty - follow her

@spring_unfolding
@libertyshea

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Alcohol: friend or foe? Good question. Alcohol has a common presence in relationships and in breakups. Ann tells her story of finding out that she was truly an alcoholic. She outs herself in her book called "Drink". Many people know the woes of alcohol but not as many know both the woes and wins of sobriety. Listen as Ann shares her lessons, her heartache, and discovers her gains!

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Check out Ann's book here: Drink

Sometimes you miss the good things you had even though it was far from perfect. April struggled with anorexia and her boyfriend didn't quite get the scope of her pain. The relationship ended but the feelings remained. 

He had big news - he's going to be a Dad! Any hopes of a future dissolved. She met someone new and he isn't the man she longs for... can you relate to being stuck in the sticky shadows between the past and present? Listen as April and I find a bridge to move past this inner torment.

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Not all relationships on the brink of failure are hopeless. There are tools that can help you discover where the negative patterns of communication and behavior come from. This talk is a replay of a conversation between the author, Oprah, and a few couples who find out they can be vulnerable and redeem their relationships!

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Will had a good job and a nice house. He was looking for a wife, someone to build a future and a home with. When he met Maddie, they fell fast! 

She was a strong, independent woman and knew what she liked. Turns out that was a mask. Beneath the mask he found a woman who was afraid, isolating, and controlling. When he tried to have boundaries their capacity for compatibility started to wane.

This story is fresh and in the details you may find lots of areas that you can relate to. For example, being manipulated, moving for someone or feeling unappreciated, being overly generous and ultimately feeling threatened.  

Join Will as he navigates reconciling the loss of love or what he thought would be his future...

When you look at your past, do you see failure? Tracy did. She thought she'd find love by marrying men who'd make her feel at home and like she had a place to belong. 

It wasn't working. She always knew she wanted to be married, and discovered that if she could marry herself and be committed, faithful and trustworthy - then she could know love. Her story is sweet and inspiring. No matter what stage of relationship you're in - this is a message that will speak to your heart!

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Doesn't heartache feel unfair and like unwanted suffering? When we are rejected, we can feel disoriented. It's hard to know we're loved, that we belong and we are valued. This is the danger of a rough breakup! No matter what you go through, it is never true that you aren't worthy of love. This is when we suffer. We had our partner and we belonged together. When we are no more, there is suffering. How do you shift out of this suffering? Is the answer to be vulnerable? Even when you've put your armor of protection up? Listen to Brene and Oprah share about this idea. I hope you feel inspired and encouraged. Thank you for listening.

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When we feel alone in the darkness, when we're being bullied by lies that say we aren't worthy - we need hope and faith! Sometimes, just that you're showing up is enough. It counts and you're not alone! 

This chat echos these sentiments as Brene and Oprah share about risks and consequences of vulnerability. Thank you for listening!

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Falling in love for the first time or even the 20th time is both exhilarating and disorienting. 

After he found out his girlfriend was cheating on her he decided it wasn't safe to fall in love again. It's best to hold back part of my heart and my love so I don't feel that pain again. 

What are the consequences we pay for putting our hearts in a cast and never taking it off? What price do we pay when we vow: "I'll never love or let someone love me like that again"? These are the questions we explore in today's episode.

She cheated but the relationship was fractured before her one night stand. Was it the difference in their religious beliefs, or lifestyle interests or general compatibility? It's most likely a combination of all the above. Listen as Eirik and I explore marriage, divorce, love, religion and relationships!

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"We all go through bad seasons". David starts his talk with these universal words.

Whether we get what we want or lose what we thought we wanted, we can experience a sense of feeling delusional. I believe David does a great job addressing some of the moments where we have to reconcile the picture we had in our minds to what's actually happening in reality.

I hope you are encouraged by this talk if you find yourself in a winter season.

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