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On today's show I am talking about prisons, men managing distress, boarding schools and our leaders with one of the UK's leading forensic clinical psychologists.

It's a fascinating discussion about Dr Murphy's work in the UK's secure prison units working with some of the most dangerous men. What did she learn? How did she teach these men to move from anger and violence to grief and healing? How did help these men to feel again?

We also talk about trauma and its relationship to violence and the prison system. We also talk about boarding school and how prison offers similarities to boarding school life and boarding school syndrome. We talk about how our leaders have been to boarding school and the impact that might have on the people they serve.

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Dr Naomi Murphy is one of the UK’s most respected forensic clinical psychologists. Recently appointed Honorary Professor of Psychology at Nottingham Trent University, she qualified as a clinical psychologist in 1997 and as a consultant clinical psychologist in 2003. 

She is also an accredited sensorimotor psychotherapist, NeurOptimal brain trainer and Safe & Sound Provider. She is also the co-editor of Treating Personality Disorder and co-host of the podcast The Locked Up Living Podcast.

Some of the areas that we talk about:

1. I would love for you to share some of your journey. How did you arrive at the work that you now do?
2. I would love for you to speak about trauma. What is it and how does it impact us psychologically?
3. What about trust? Do men trust? How do we cultivate more trust in our lives as men?
4. Women seem to be engaged in change whereas men seem to be more relectant to change. Could you please talk about that?
5. Vulnerability. Could you talk about how the prisoners changed once they started to be vulnerable?
6. Trauma informed society. We can't be trauma informed if we don't feel safe. Please speak to that?
7. The importance of sharing emotions
8. Could you please talk about what you understand about boarding school and how it might impact people. What if these people were the leaders of the country?
9. What's the research about boys being more needy than girls? How might this impact them if they are separated at a young age and put into an institution?
10. Why do men struggle so much?
11. Could the prison system in the UK and US be the way it is because the leaders of the country spent years in similar institutions? Whereas where there are few boarding schools like Finland or Sweden, the prison system is very kind and generative.
12. Where do people find out more about your work?

To find out more about Dr Murphy's work please visit: https://octopuspsychology.com

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Piers is an author and a men's transformational coach and therapist who works mainly with trauma, boarding school issues, addictions and relationship problems.

He also runs online men's groups for ex-boarders, retreats and a podcast called An Evolving Man.

He is also the author of How to Survive and Thrive in Challenging Times. To purchase Piers first book: https://www.amazon.co.uk/How-Survive-Thrive-Challenging-Times/dp/B088T5L251/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=piers+cross&qid=1609869608&sr=8-1

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Have you gotten bad marriage advice? We sure have! We’ve heard so many things that just aren’t helpful for marriage, but we didn’t always realize it! Trying to follow a harmful piece of marriage will damage your marriage over time. So today we call out bad marriage advice, give ways to prevent yourself from falling prey to it, and help you determine what's good advice, and what's worth tossing out. 

Episode highlights include: 

• How to tell whether it’s good advice or not 

• The downside of getting marriage advice online 

• Plus Dr. Kim answers an listener question about a spouse who refuses to go to church 

We pray this episode is helpful to you and your marriage. 

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When someone you care about is suffering, is your automatic response to try and fix it? Pam speaks to the deep tenderness we can access within ourselves to hold space for suffering.

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Todd is a former Civil and Tunnel Engineer who worked on what was at the time the biggest project in Europe called Crossrail, until his life came crashing down when he needed life changing foot surgery.

This caused him to be on crutches for 15 months which he calls the start of his refinement period during which he became overweight, sad and depressed. One day he went to tie his shoes and had to bend over to do it and became short of breath because his belly was too big! It was at that moment that he knew he had to change his life so he turned to exercise and reading books to cope with the depression of seeing his former life being taken away from him in real time.

It was during this time that he started to research the origins of man that led him down the rabbit hole of trying to find himself but instead he found The Mother Father God that has been hidden from humanity.

This lead him to realize that EVERYTHING that was taught to him in school and about history was a lie including all religious books which keeps man in mental slavery.

This caused him to start working on his mind and spirit while simultaneously building his body which led him to be an Online Fitness Trainer who helps spiritually inclined people to burn fat and build muscle with his bespoke training system called Compound Body Training.

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‘Art’s task is to Save the Soul of Mankind, and that anything less is a dithering while Rome burns. ...Because if the Artist, who are self-selected to be able to journey into the other... if the Artist cannot find the way, then the Way cannot be Found.’ 

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Do you have a way to free your mind when you’re up against a wall? Pam speaks to Cindy Appanaitis about the value and wisdom of letting go of thought in order to regain clarity, creativity and self-compassion.

Cindy Appanaitis is a Certified Coach for Your Infinite Life, a Teacher in the Corvallis, OR school district, Mom of 2, and a wife.  Cindy lives from the motto of doing her personal best, which means she is always in learning.  Her joy, commitment, love, compassion, and integrity make her a great person to listen to when it comes to freeing your mind.

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