Zane Lowe ON: 3 Tools for Navigating Social Anxiety & 3 Ways to Change Your Relationship with Your Ego

    Prioritizing meaningful connections and creating inclusive environments can help individuals in the entertainment industry feel more comfortable and accepted in social settings.

    enOctober 06, 2023

    About this Episode

    How do you deal with social anxiety?

    Do you have tools in place to help you overcome anxious thoughts?

    Today, Zane Lowe sits down with Jay Shetty for a conversation about success in career, marriage and parenthood, and how to navigate social anxiety. Zane is a grammy-nominated producer, executive, and radio host. He is Apple Music’s Creative Director and the flagship anchor for Apple Music 1, part of the award-winning Apple Music Radio.  In addition to hosting his daily show, Zane curates original programming and oversees Apple Music's artist-led programming, which features shows hosted by Lady Gaga, Billie Eilish, Lil Wayne, Justin Bieber, and many more.  

    Zane opens up about his lifelong passion for music, which was ignited by a chance meeting with Split Enz. What's truly remarkable is that, despite his immense success in the music industry, He remains a devoted fan at heart. He reminds us that our passions can be a driving force in our lives, and when we put our focus on manifesting what truly matters, we can create space within ourselves for the good things.

    As we dive deeper into this candid discussion, Zane shares his insights on maintaining a balanced life in the face of distractions and the importance of cherishing the simple things. He highlights the value of creating communities and experiences that inspire others, shedding light on how therapy played a pivotal role in preparing him for parenthood, and the essence of love as an unspoken language, the secrets of lasting marriages, and the true meaning of greatness. 

    In this interview, you'll learn:

    • Why you need to focus on what truly matters in your life
    • How to create space for positive things
    • The power of shared experiences in a community
    • How to love deeply and more meaningfully
    • How to be in-tune with your ego
    • How to maintain a healthy balance in your life
    • How to have impactful and inspiring conversations

    In the end, we are reminded that the most inspiring conversations often happen with those who have no intention to sell, leaving us with profound insights about life and purpose.

    With Love and Gratitude,

    Jay Shetty

    What We Discuss

    00:00 Intro 

    01:29 How A Life-long Passion For Music Evolved Into A Successful Career 

    07:36 We Manifest The Things We Focus On 

    10:06 Dedicate Your Focus To Things That Feel Authentic To You 

    14:19 The Importance Of Creating Space Within Your Mind 

    16:30 The True Purpose Of Music Is To Inspire and Create Community 

    20:55 How Therapy Helped Prepare Zane For Parenthood 

    24:55 What Kind Of Father Do You Want To Be? 

    26:30 Why Is Love Considered An Unspoken Language?

    29:36 You Need To Grow Together If You Want Your Marriage Can Last 

    33:44 Navigating Social Anxiety 

    36:26 True Greatness Comes From Knowing How To Access It 

    42:06 How To Recognize A Genuine Connection With An Individual 

    45:37 What’s Your Relationship With Your Ego? 

    51:30 Do You Manifest? How Do You Practice Manifestation? 

    53:23 How Do You Manage Ambition And Still Maintain A Balanced Life? 

    58:46 You’ll Miss Opportunities If You’re Only Focused On Speed 

    01:01:00 Practicing Healthy Routines 

    01:04:07 Undoing Habits And Practices That Society Built For Us 

    01:11:03 What Is The Difference Between Working And Working Hard?

    01:11:55 The Most Inspiring Conversations Are With People Who Have No Intention To Sell 01:17:25 Zane Lowe on Final Five

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    🔑 Key Takeaways

    • Embrace your passions and find meaning in the things that truly inspire and move you, as being a fan can shape your identity and path in life.
    • Our initial encounters and unexpected opportunities can shape our passions and lead us to our true calling. Stay open, curious, and determined on your path to discovering and pursuing your passions.
    • Pursue simplicity in life by focusing on what truly matters, ignore distractions, and open doors that align with your purpose to achieve fulfillment and holistic growth.
    • By refining our intentions, clearing out external noise, and curating our experiences, we can navigate chaos and make impactful decisions aligned with our true values and desires.
    • Zane Lowe's passion for creating a transformative experience through DJing led him to use effects, reverbs, and even sing along to songs, ultimately putting people in a trance and creating a memorable experience for his audience.
    • Music has the ability to bring people together and create a moment of pure joy and presence, while personal growth and self-love are essential for truly loving and being present for others.
    • By taking responsibility for our actions and emotions, focusing on being a loving and responsible parent, and cultivating love and understanding in our relationships, we can foster personal growth and build strong family bonds.
    • Long-lasting relationships thrive when individuals prioritize personal growth while also growing together as a couple. Mutual respect, understanding, and adaptability are essential for a successful partnership.
    • Success requires putting in the work, pushing through challenges, and being kind to oneself along the journey.
    • Understanding oneself and being free from pressure and expectations can help access the flow state, leading to extraordinary performance and inspiration from those who have mastered it.
    • Prioritizing meaningful connections and creating inclusive environments can help individuals in the entertainment industry feel more comfortable and accepted in social settings.
    • Building genuine connections requires self-awareness, recognizing others' intentions, and understanding the various roles relationships play in fulfilling different needs. Embrace authenticity and manage ego for deeper connections.
    • Being aware of our ego, focusing on meaningful work, and embracing humility are crucial for maintaining a healthy ego and finding fulfillment.
    • Our mindset and beliefs play a crucial role in our performance and success. Embracing a mentality that prioritizes self-belief and confidence can propel us to reach our full potential, even if it may not always align with objective truth.
    • Balancing ambition and gratitude can lead to a more fulfilling and mature perspective, allowing us to prioritize what truly matters in life.
    • Take breaks, practice gratitude, and find peace through meditation to achieve success and fulfillment in a sustainable way.
    • Our mental and physical well-being are closely linked, and practices such as cognitive awareness, boxing, exploring different modes of living, discipline, sleep, and exposure to natural light can greatly contribute to our overall well-being.
    • Prioritizing gratitude, rest, and discipline can lead to a more fulfilling life by reconnecting with nature, cultivating habits, and prioritizing physical and mental health.
    • Surrounding ourselves with supportive people, practicing discipline and self-confidence, and addressing emotional issues are essential for long-term happiness and fulfillment.
    • True productivity and balance come from efficient working methods and trusting the process, not just putting in hours. Genuine conversations foster learning and inspiration.
    • By letting go of preconceived notions and a desire to control, meaningful and genuine conversations can be achieved through active listening and staying present.
    • Be yourself, show love, question ingrained beliefs, understand different perspectives, and create positive change.

    📝 Podcast Summary

    The Power of Being a Fan

    Both Jay Shetty and Zane Lowe define themselves as fans. They emphasize the importance of being passionate and immersed in something that brings them joy and purpose. For Zane Lowe, it is music, and he describes himself as a super fan who has had life-changing experiences at concerts and through his love for certain bands. Jay Shetty shares his own experiences with a movie and an album that made a lasting impact on him. This takeaway reminds us to embrace our passions and find meaning in the things that truly inspire and move us, as being a fan can be a powerful force in shaping our identity and path in life.

    The Power of Experiences and Unexpected Opportunities

    Our experiences and exposure shape our passions and interests. Jay Shetty's upbringing in a home focused on discipline rather than enjoyment hindered his ability to appreciate music until he discovered Eminem. This highlights how our initial encounters with something can have a lasting impact. Similarly, Zane Lowe's journey into the music industry was not predetermined or easily accessible, but his deep connection to music and desire to be in recording studios propelled him forward. These stories emphasize the importance of staying open to new experiences and embracing unexpected opportunities. It reminds us that the path to our passions may not always be clear-cut, but with curiosity and determination, we can find our way.

    Finding Fulfillment Through Simplicity

    Focusing on simplicity and single-mindedness can lead to true fulfillment and success. The noise and distractions of everyday life can cause us to lose sight of our purpose and feel overwhelmed. When we try to pursue multiple goals and spread ourselves thin, we end up contradicting and counteracting our own efforts. Instead, we should follow the advice of Jay Shetty's spiritual teacher and open every door we can, but only continue walking through the ones that remain open. By pulling the car over and ignoring the noise and distractions around us, we can choose our own direction and focus on what truly matters to us. Simplifying our lives and focusing on the simple doors can lead us to a path of fulfillment and holistic growth.

    Cultivating Internal Simplicity for Success

    In order to navigate external chaos, it is important to cultivate a peaceful mind and internal simplicity. By refining our internal intentions and creating clear space within ourselves, we can better handle the complexities and challenges that come with being an entrepreneur and making an impact in the world. Often, our indecisiveness or inability to make decisions stems from clouding our own clarity and allowing external noise to overwhelm us. Through therapy or self-reflection, we can clear out the unnecessary noise and create room for personal growth and understanding. By actively curating the information and experiences we consume, we can make better use of our finite capacity to process and ensure that our feelings and actions align with our true values and desires.

    Zane Lowe: Transforming Music Through DJing and Broadcasting

    Zane Lowe found his outlet for his performative nature through DJing and broadcasting on radio. He wanted to go beyond simply playing music and create a transformative experience for his audience. He loved using effects, reverbs, and even singing along to the songs to enhance the music and connect with listeners in a different way. He admired DJs who treated music as a tool to excite and engage the audience, rather than just pressing play and waiting for the song to end. Zane aimed to bring chaos and unpredictability to his sets, drawing inspiration from artists like the Clash and the Bomb Squad. Ultimately, he learned to put people in a trance and create a memorable experience through his DJing.

    The Power of Music and Personal Growth

    Creating a community and experience through music allows us to escape the chaos of life and be completely present in the moment. Zane Lowe, a DJ, emphasizes the joy he finds in watching people react to music and the power it has to transcend worries or distractions. By stepping onto a stage and bringing people together through music, he creates an environment where nothing else matters except the shared enjoyment. Additionally, Lowe shares that the journey to self-love and the ability to love others completely requires personal growth and seeking therapy. Through this process, he discovered the importance of being able to love oneself in order to truly love and be present for others.

    Taking Responsibility and Cultivating Love for Personal Growth and Stronger Relationships.

    Taking responsibility for our own actions and emotions is crucial for personal growth and creating a positive future for ourselves and our loved ones. Zane Lowe emphasizes the importance of not dwelling on circumstances beyond our control, such as his parents' separation. Instead, he chose to focus on being a responsible and loving father. He strives to provide his children with unconditional love, support, and honesty, while also instilling values like hard work, dedication, and seizing opportunities. Lowe acknowledges the work required to understand oneself and appreciates the role his wife plays in helping him become a better person. Ultimately, love and understanding create a powerful unspoken language that strengthens family bonds and fosters personal growth.

    Nurturing Love Through Individual Growth

    Long-lasting relationships require intentional growth together. Zane Lowe and his wife's journey is a testament to this. Despite knowing each other for a long time, they understood the importance of allowing each other to grow individually while also growing together as a couple. They recognized that staying together meant actively evolving together. Their decision to get married quickly was driven by external circumstances, but it ultimately solidified their commitment to a shared future. They didn't feel pressured by societal expectations or the opinions of others. Instead, they focused on their own unique path, embracing the idea of continuously discovering and learning about each other. Their story highlights the importance of mutual respect, understanding, and the willingness to adapt as individuals and as a couple.

    Embracing hard work, persistence, and self-kindness for personal and professional growth.

    Work and effort are crucial for success in any aspect of life. Whether it's pursuing a career, maintaining relationships, or overcoming social anxiety, putting in the work pays off. Zane Lowe emphasizes the importance of just getting to work and consistently working at it, even when it feels challenging. Similarly, Jay Shetty shares his experience of navigating social anxiety and facing uncomfortable situations, highlighting the need to push through and negotiate through those moments. Both individuals stress the significance of persistence and self-kindness in achieving personal and professional growth. So, the key takeaway is to embrace hard work, be resilient in the face of challenges, and treat oneself with compassion along the journey to success.

    Tapping into the Flow State

    There is a special state called "flow" where people tap into their highest potential and perform at an extraordinary level. This state is characterized by a sense of timelessness and effortless action. Zane Lowe, in his conversation with Jay Shetty, reflects on how he has experienced this flow state in his own life. He emphasizes that accessing this state requires a deep understanding of oneself, allowing oneself to be free from pressure and expectations. The greats, like Michael Jordan and Beyonce, are able to consciously access this state and consistently level up their performances. While Zane Lowe acknowledges that he may not be at that level yet, he finds inspiration in those who have mastered the art of tapping into this flow state.

    Addressing social anxiety in the entertainment industry

    Social anxiety is a common experience, especially in the entertainment and arts industry. Many individuals, even those in the spotlight, often feel uncomfortable and struggle to find a sense of belonging or authenticity in social settings. This is because events and gatherings are often organized in a way that lacks true community and connection. However, there are exceptions to this, such as the Cannes Lions Festival, where a sense of togetherness and openness is fostered. It's important to recognize that social anxiety can manifest in different ways for different people, but by prioritizing meaningful connections and creating inclusive environments, we can help individuals feel more comfortable and accepted in social settings.

    Fostering Meaningful Relationships Through Intuition and Authenticity

    Building meaningful relationships goes beyond surface-level interactions and personal gain. Jay Shetty and Zane Lowe discuss how intuition and energetic connection play a significant role in identifying genuine connections. It's about recognizing the frequency and vibration of someone's language, body language, and emotional language. They emphasize the importance of self-awareness and being aware of others' intentions. Both individuals acknowledge that not all friendships serve the same purpose, and different types of relationships fulfill various needs. It's crucial to understand and respect the role we play in others' lives and to be thoughtful in how we serve and support one another. Managing our ego and embracing authenticity is key in fostering deeper connections.

    Managing our ego for long-term success

    Managing our relationship with our ego is crucial for long-term success and fulfillment. Jay Shetty emphasizes the importance of being aware and engaging with our ego on a daily basis. He shares that comparing ourselves to the work we truly want to do, focusing on the impact we want to make rather than numbers or recognition, helps keep our ego in check. Additionally, Shetty highlights the value of humility, noting that denying our abilities and ambition can lead to a false state of humility, hindering our ability to help others. Ultimately, maintaining a healthy ego involves recognizing that success should not be about feeling superior or inferior to others, but rather about doing meaningful work and making a positive impact.

    The Power of Mindset and Beliefs

    Our mindset and beliefs can greatly impact our performance and success. Jay Shetty brings up the example of renowned athletes like Cristiano Ronaldo and Michael Jordan, who emphasize the importance of thinking they are the best in the world in order to perform at their peak. It's not about claiming superiority over others, but rather adopting a mentality that propels them to reach their full potential. This mentality, however, is not necessarily synonymous with reality. It's a mindset that prioritizes self-belief and confidence, even if it may not always align with objective truth. The idea of manifestation also emerges in the conversation, highlighting the curiosity and surrender necessary to embrace the mystery and magic of life's unfolding processes.

    Jay Shetty's Evolving Journey with Ambition

    Jay Shetty's journey with ambition has evolved over time. He began by working tirelessly, but always made time for meditation, which served as his grounding practice. He felt grateful and content, even with a small audience, but eventually realized that his message had the potential to reach more people. He saw this as a gift and a responsibility, so he worked tirelessly to make the most of it. However, Jay also recognized that this level of intensity was not sustainable and started prioritizing work-life balance. He learned that chasing endless opportunities can consume people and harm relationships, so he adjusted his approach. This turning point allowed Jay to have a more focused and mature perspective on ambition, knowing when to prioritize what truly matters in life.

    Finding Balance: The Key to Fulfillment and Joy

    Finding balance is crucial in achieving fulfillment and joy in life. It's important to recognize that constantly grinding and pushing ourselves without taking breaks can lead to missed opportunities and burnout. While ambition is admirable, it's also necessary to create space for gratitude and allow ourselves to truly feel it. Meditation can be a valuable practice for finding peace and calm amidst the busyness of life. Just like in a Formula One race or boxing, it's not always about going fast all the time, but knowing when to speed up and when to slow down. By finding the right rhythm and balance, we can experience success and fulfillment in a more sustainable way.

    The Interconnectedness of Mind and Body

    Our minds and bodies are deeply interconnected. Zane Lowe and Jay Shetty discuss the importance of cognitive awareness in witnessing memories and the power of boxing as a mind-body sport. They highlight that boxing is not just about mindlessly bashing things but involves strategy and rhythm. Jay Shetty emphasizes the need to explore different modes of living beyond just speed or slowness, drawing parallels to driving a car. He also mentions the value of discipline and high performance, while acknowledging the importance of taking cheat days. Both Lowe and Shetty discuss the significance of sleep and the benefits of exposing oneself to natural light in maintaining circadian rhythms. These practices are deeply rooted in ancient traditions like yoga. Overall, the conversation underscores the interconnectedness of our mental and physical well-being.

    Rediscovering Ancient Practices for a Balanced Life

    We have lost touch with the ancient understanding of practicing gratitude, rest, and discipline. Our ancestors knew the importance of saluting the sun, not just as a form of worship, but also as a way to connect with nature and find vitality and energy. They understood the power of gratitude for everything the sun provides. However, in modern times, we have become disconnected from these principles and have adopted a lifestyle of working hard and neglecting our own well-being. We have not been taught how to build and break habits, or how to cultivate discipline. Reestablishing these practices and prioritizing our physical and mental health is crucial for living a more balanced and fulfilling life.

    The Impact of Habits and Environment on Well-being

    Our habits and routines have a significant impact on our overall well-being. Jay Shetty emphasizes how living with his wife helped him make positive changes to his health habits, such as giving up unhealthy foods. This highlights the influence of our environment and the importance of surrounding ourselves with people who support our goals. Furthermore, Jay and Zane Lowe discuss the power of discipline and self-confidence in staying on track and avoiding distractions. They also touch on the idea of absorbing and processing emotions, as unresolved issues can manifest as physical pain. The key message is that understanding our values and taking a holistic approach to our mental and physical health are vital for long-term happiness and fulfillment.

    Creating Space and Releasing Emotional Baggage

    It's important to create space and release emotional baggage. Zane Lowe realized that he had been storing his emotions in his brain because he didn't have the ability to deal with them emotionally. Once he started talking about them and letting them go, he felt a transfer of pain and it started to disappear. He also acknowledged the tendency to avoid dealing with difficult emotions by working hard and distracting oneself. However, he learned that true productivity and balance come from finding efficient ways of working and trusting the process. It's not about putting in the hours, but about getting the most out of them. Moreover, Zane Lowe emphasized the value of genuine conversations where there is no need to sell anything, but rather to seek learning and inspiration.

    Embracing the Power of Listening and Being Present

    Zane Lowe has learned the power of listening and staying present in conversations. He no longer goes into discussions with preconceived frameworks or predetermined questions. He embraces the human experience and seeks to understand the person he is speaking with, rather than trying to control the narrative or meet external expectations. This shift in mindset came from a conversation with Justin Bieber, where Lowe realized that it was more important to listen and observe than to try and sell something. This approach has allowed Lowe to connect with others on a deeper level and have surprising and genuine conversations. Listening and staying present is key to meaningful interactions.

    Embrace your uniqueness, love others, unlearn, and listen for positive change.

    Being yourself is the best advice you can ever receive. It's important to embrace your uniqueness because everyone else is already taken. Another key takeaway is the power of love. Zane Lowe highlights the importance of reminding our children every day that they are loved and capable of loving others. Additionally, this conversation sheds light on the struggle of unlearning deeply ingrained habits or beliefs. It's a challenging process, but it's essential to question and let go of behaviors that no longer serve us. Finally, Zane Lowe emphasizes the need for listening and understanding before taking action. If we make an effort to genuinely understand different perspectives, it can lead to positive change and prevent further damage.

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    How to enrich love life through self-awareness

    Whether you're single, dating, or in a relationship, this episode offers valuable lessons on love, resilience, and the transformative power of embracing your true self.

    With Love and Gratitude,

    Jay Shetty

    What We Discuss:

    00:00 Intro

    04:20 Where Does Your Idea of Love Come From?

    10:34 What Differentiates a Peaceful to a Boring Relationship?

    19:35 What Are Your Must-Haves in a Relationship?

    31:47 Tactics Are Different From Relationship Standards

    39:59 Egoic Standards Versus Setting Standards for Happiness

    51:20 Practice Having Real and Difficult Conversations

    01:04:48 The Importance of Communicating Your Thoughts and Feelings

    01:08:25 Is Your Partner the Right One for You?

    01:15:05 Dealing with the Different Phases of Heartbreak

    01:26:31 What’s Next for Matthew?    

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    7 Ways to Reduce the Time You Spend Overthinking & Make Better Decisions Quicker

    7 Ways to Reduce the Time You Spend Overthinking & Make Better Decisions Quicker

    How do you know when you're overthinking too much?

    How can you break the cycle of overthinking?

    Today, Jay will talk about the complexity of overthinking and how we can turn it around and look at things differently. Jay presents seven practical strategies to help listeners combat the grip of overthinking. These range from the psychological—to limit how many people's opinions we seek, preventing the confusion and indecision that too many perspectives can cause—to the physical, recommending activities that disengage the analytical brain and encourage mental reset, like exercise or simply moving around.

    In this episode, you'll learn:

    How to use over thinking for problem-solving

    How to manage alarmed responses

    How to use physical movement for mental clarity

    How to focus on positives and small wins

    Don't let overthinking hold you back! Start implementing these strategies today and take control of your mental space.

    With Love and Gratitude,

    Jay Shetty

    What We Discuss:

    00:00 Intro

    00:52 Has Overthinking Slowed You Down?

    07:53 The Science Behind Overthinking

    10:50 #1: Overthinking as a Problem-Solving Approach

    14:24 #2: Don’t Ask Too Many People For Their Opinion

    18:19 #3: Avoid Responding While You’re Feeling Alarmed

    19:17 #4: Move Your Body When Your Mind Is Stuck

    20:32 #5: Focus on the Good Thing and Small Wins

    22:05 #6: Spontaneous Drawings Relieve Psychological Stress

    24:23 #7: Go Back to Analog

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    Orlando Bloom: 3 Reasons Why You Need to Allow Yourself to Make Mistakes & Shift Your Perspective on Fear

    Orlando Bloom: 3 Reasons Why You Need to Allow Yourself to Make Mistakes & Shift Your Perspective on Fear

    Do you stop yourself from making mistakes? 

    Do you want to shift your perspective on fear? 

    Today, let’s welcome the one and only Orlando Bloom. Orlando gained widespread fame for his roles in some of the most popular films including The Lord of the Rings trilogy and Pirates of the Caribbean series. He will be seen starring in Peacock's limited adventure docuseries, To The Edge, which he also produced. Off-screen, Orlando is known for his humanitarian efforts, including his work as a UNICEF Goodwill Ambassador.

    Orlando shares insights from his life as an actor, adventurer, and someone deeply involved in spirituality. He talks about how meditation and mindfulness help him stay balanced despite the hectic nature of being a celebrity, his views on masculinity, the importance of embracing both masculine and feminine qualities, and striving for balance and introspection in life. We also get to hear stories about facing and overcoming fears, embracing vulnerability, and the lessons he's learned from these challenges. This episode isn't just about getting to know a renowned actor but diving into the personal journey of a man who is constantly looking for deeper meaning and connections in life.

    In this interview, you’ll learn:
    How to overcome fear
    How to maintain balance in a hectic life
    How to incorporate mindfulness into everyday activities
    How to explore and embrace different aspects of your personality
    How to use life's challenges as growth opportunities

    Tune in now for a discussion full of insights on overcoming fears, embracing spirituality, and pursuing personal growth.  

    With Love and Gratitude,
    Jay Shetty

    What We Discuss:
    02:28 Working in an Unscripted Space
    06:09 What’s Your Earliest Childhood Fear?
    08:35 Practicing Buddhism
    13:49 The Lotus Sutra
    20:16 The 8 Wins
    26:28 Trusting Your Life and Becoming Capable
    36:33 Being Present While on the Edge
    44:48 Any Moment Could Be Your Last
    45:43 The Deepest Mirror You’ll Ever Have
    48:58 What Did You Learn from Your Past Relationships?
    51:22 Introducing Buddhism Practice to My Kids
    55:33 Whatever You’re Saying, You Become
    01:02:22 Loving the Parenting Journey
    01:07:16 The Impacts of Your Decisions
    01:09:13 Opportunities Through Obstacles
    01:17:40 Buddhism Is My Anchor
    01:18:59 The Fear You’re Currently Overcoming
    01:26:04 Orlando Bloom on Final Five

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    4 Ways to Know if It Is Time To End Your Relationship (When the Signs Are Not Clear and Things are Not Bad)

    4 Ways to Know if It Is Time To End Your Relationship (When the Signs Are Not Clear and Things are Not Bad)

    Do you find yourself often thinking about breaking up?

    Do you and your partner have unresolved conflicts that keep resurfacing?

    In this episode, Jay tackles the tough emotions and uncertainty many face when considering a breakup. He talks about why people stay in or leave relationships, touching on key factors like emotional closeness, personal investment, and the impact of family responsibilities. Jay also discusses how to ensure emotional security and the risks of staying for financial reasons or out of obligation. 

    In this episode you’ll learn:

    How to recognize emotional investment

    How to assess emotional security

    How to consider financial implications

    How to navigate emotional intimacy

    This honest conversation provides you with the insights to evaluate your relationship more clearly, helping you decide whether to work on it or move on, based on a deeper understanding of your feelings and the relationship's dynamics.

    With Love and Gratitude,

    Jay Shetty

    What We Discuss:

    00:00 Intro

    01:10 When to End Your Relationship

    04:48 10 Reason Why People Stay in a Relationship

    12:44 Top 10 Reasons to Leave Your Relationship

    18:14 The Three Cancers of the Mind

    24:44 Difference in Scorecard Perspective

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    Benny Blanco: 3 Ways to Stop Caring About Failure & Get Out of Your Own Way

    Benny Blanco: 3 Ways to Stop Caring About Failure & Get Out of Your Own Way

    How can you overcome the fear of failure?

    What can you do daily to care less about failing?

    Today, Jay sits down with Benny Blanco for an inspiring conversation about pursuing passions, mentorship, failure, and continuous motivation. Benny has made a huge mark on the music industry contributing to hundreds of millions of album sales worldwide. Benny has worked with A-List artists like Ed Sheeran, Justin Bieber, and Katy Perry. As a solo artist, his albums "Friends Keep Secrets" and its sequel have amassed over 11 billion streams, featuring multiple platinum hits. Beyond music, Benny has ventured into television and even released a cookbook, "Open Wide," showcasing his diverse talents and interests

    Benny shares insight on how to not let failure stop you and getting over imposter syndrome. We also go dive into Benny’s life outside of music, exploring his passion for cooking through his cookbook "Open Wide." Plus, Benny talks about his relationships, how he keeps his creativity flowing, and the small joys that make his life special.

    In this interview, you’ll learn:

    How to pursue your passion with limited resources

    How to not let failure get in your way of achieving your goals

    How to embrace the unexpected in creative work

    How to transition your passion into different fields

    How to find joy and creativity in everyday moments

    Don't miss this intimate look at Benny Blanco's life and maybe learn a thing or two about making your own multi-track masterpiece or the perfect dish to serve at dinner!

    With Love and Gratitude,

    Jay Shetty

    What We Discuss:

    00:00 Intro

    03:43 What’s the First Creative Thing You Put Together?

    06:15 I Never Cared About Failure

    10:33 Developing Amnesia to Failure

    14:22 How Did You Meet Your Mentor?

    18:10 “The Boy I Mentored” 

    23:42 How Do You Show Up After a Rejection?

    26:51 Love Can Be Felt Through Music

    29:56 What Do You Do When You Wake Up?   

    32:02 Why Do You Struggle with Meditation?

    33:28 Why I Went to Therapy

    38:25 The Pressure of Perfectionism

    44:49 Do You Love to Cook?

    47:20 Do You Eat Healthy?

    48:47 Finding Comfort in Food

    54:42 What’s Your Sleep Pattern?

    56:40 Friendships Built Over the Years

    59:19 Multigenerational Friendships

    01:03:44 Better Relationship After Divorce

    01:05:52 Benny on Final Five   

    01:15:57 What’s Your Vice?

    01:17:53 Do You Take Supplements?

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    Why Your Self Worth is Keeping You Stuck & How to Stop Sabotaging Your Personal Growth With Jamie Kern Lima

    Why Your Self Worth is Keeping You Stuck & How to Stop Sabotaging Your Personal Growth With Jamie Kern Lima

    How does low self-worth stop you from moving forward?

    How can you stop self-sabotage and grow personally?

    Today, let’s welcome Jamie Kern Lima. Jamie is a New York Times bestselling author, founder of IT Cosmetics, a company she started in her living room and sold to L'Oreal in a billion-dollar deal, becoming the first female CEO of a brand in its 100+ year history. She's also an active philanthropist who has funded leadership training in more than 100 prisons and shelters across the US, and has donated over $40 million in product and funds to help women face the effects of cancer with confidence. 

    Jamie and Jay ponder on the meaning of self-worth, distinguishing it from mere confidence and challenging the misguided belief that our value is tied to our physical appearance. We get to hear the detrimental effects of self-doubt and present empowering strategies to transform your relationship with rejection, offering a new perspective that fosters resilience and self-compassion. 

    And then the conversation dives deep into personal beliefs, urging us to identify and discard unhelpful misconceptions, while giving emphasis on why authenticity is crucial and its role in conjunction with other factors in achieving success. 

    In this interview, you'll learn:

    How to build self-worth

    How to distinguish confidence from self-worth

    How to handle rejection

    How to overcome self-doubt

    How to remain authentic

    Together, let's learn how to distinguish your worth from external validation, turn rejection into a stepping stone, and live authentically.

    With Love and Gratitude,

    Jay Shetty

    What We Discuss:

    00:00 Intro

    03:17 Do You Feel Worthy Today?

    10:04 Confusing Confidence with Self Worth

    17:37 Your Weight Impacts Your Worth is a Lie 

    24:03 What Has Self Doubt Cost You?

    31:25 How to Change Your Relationship with Rejection

    37:02 The 4-Part R to Reframe Rejection

    44:00 You Need This Today

    48:13 Which Lie Are You Trying to Unlearn? 

    56:32 Authenticity Alone Doesn’t Guarantee Success

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