Love Is Blind S5 - WTF LYDIA | Almost Adulting with Violet Benson

BE SUCCESSFULLY DELUSIONAL

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Today we dive into the TEXT that ENDED my toxic friendship, vision board update, and how to be successfully delusional.

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What Motivates Men to Commit

Hey Besties! Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus: The Classic Guide to Understanding the Opposite Sex by John Gray. The book provides a practical and proven way for men and women to improve their communication and relationships by acknowledging the differences between them.

Today, Violetta will talk about the dynamics of motivation and love as she unpacks the secrets to motivating the opposite sex and explores the balance between love, responsibility, and boundaries. From understanding the importance of making a positive difference in someone's life to recognizing the fine line between need and neediness, Violetta dishes out her signature blend of wisdom and wit. So get ready to uncover the keys to fostering meaningful connections and navigating the ups and downs of modern romance.

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What to Listen For:

00:00 Intro
01:34 How to motivate the opposite s*x
09:54 When a man is in love, he’s motivated more
11:27 When a man doesn’t feel he’s making a positive difference in someone’s life
15:22 Many women today want time off, a time for themselves
21:51 A woman needs to recognize her boundaries
22:55 Step 1 - Motivation
23:56 Step 2 - Taking Responsibility
24:45 Step 3 - Practice
26:03 As man experiences limits, he is motivated to do more
28:38 The difference between needing and neediness
31:16 A man appears most caring when he is afraid

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Why He Doesn't Want You

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Today we dive into how to change your perspective when it comes to goodbyes, people, being ghosted and when he doesn't want you - from the why to the how to the moving on.

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Loving Those Who Can't Love Us Back

Hey Besties! For another Benson Book Club session, we’re going to dive deep into Why We Hold On Tightest on the Things That Aren’t Meant for Us from Brianna Wiest’s 101 Essays That Will Change The Way You Think. Violet shares her candid insights on navigating the complexities of relationships - from moving on from unrequited love and why we often find ourselves drawn to those who can't reciprocate our feelings to invaluable advice on finding peace and self-love amidst the chaos of modern romance. It's time to empower yourself and begin your journey to emotional freedom.

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What to Listen For:

00:00 Intro
05:07 How to let go of the things that’s killing you inside?
10:22 You can't convince someone to love you if they don’t
19:21 How do you fall out of love with the idea of someone?
24:13 Why do we keep choosing people who can’t love us back?

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Feeling Ungrateful

Hello and welcome to the Violetta's diary series available on my PREMIUM PODCAST!! Where I share my random thoughts with no cuts, no edits, no notes, no pre planning, no nothing. Just the two of us naked and honest with each other.

Today we discuss feeling ungrateful, creating a vision board, and large wieners jk maybe.

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You're a Narcissist w/ Scheana Shay (Vanderpump Rules)

Hey Besties! Today, Vanderpump Rules cast Scheana Shay joins Violetta for an exciting and at the same time heart-tugging conversation. Throughout her time on "Vanderpump Rules," Scheana became known for her outgoing personality, dramatic relationships, and candid portrayal of her personal life on the show. In addition to her work on reality television, she has pursued acting and music endeavors. She has appeared in several television shows and films, as well as releasing her own music singles.

Violetta and talk about the complexities of childcare, the challenges of maintaining friendships, and a potential sneak peek of Vanderpump Season 11. Plus the duo spills the tea on lost friendships, potential redemption arcs, and the behind-the-scenes drama you won't hear anywhere else. On a serious note, bravely shares her experiences with postpartum OCD, the healing power of EMDR therapy, and the heartbreaking reality of pregnancy loss. It's a raw and vulnerable exploration of mental health, friendship dynamics, and the bittersweet journey of self-discovery.

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What to Listen For:

00:00 Intro
01:27 What’s one thing people misunderstood about you in the show?
02:30 How did motherhood change you?
04:13 What’s your biggest fear around getting help with babysitting your child?
07:06 Have you had support from other new moms?
07:45 What’s a question someone has never asked you?
08:30 “I’m never the favorite of this show.”
12:18 Hopes for Season 11
13:17 Losing a friendship of 15 years
17:09 Is the new season setting the stage for Sandoval’s redemption arc?
19:16 Are you the friend that flip-flops?
20:38 Figuring out a way to not breakdown in front of your child
22:24 Friendship pact with Katie
24:37 What can people look forward to this season?
26:05 Is Billie Lee in love with Tom Sandoval?
33:31 Postpartum OCD
39:39 EMDR Therapy
43:35 Pregnancy loss and traumatic labor
45:13 Severe intrusive thoughts
47:07 Signs of OCD before pregnancy
50:54 Thinking of death everyday

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You’re Not My Person w/ Kamie Crawford

Hey Besties! Today, Violetta welcomes television host and producer Kamie Crawford. Kamie also hosts her successful podcast, Relationsh*t and MTV’s long-running reality-based documentary series “Catfish: The TV Show”.

Get ready to dive into all things fun and fabulous with Violet and Kamie. They chat about everything from what's currently keeping them busy to the importance of staying hydrated (because, let's face it, we need to keep those vibes flowing!). Plus, we'll dish on some seriously spicy topics, like the Stanley cup's wild ride through a car fire and the sinful indulgence of beignets. Oh, and don't worry, Bestie, we’ll let you in on some secrets too—like debunking those silly misconceptions about their social media persona and sharing the biggest lessons learned last year.

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What to Listen For:

00:00 Intro
04:04 What are you currently working on?
05:48 The importance of staying hydrated all day
06:40 The Stanley cup that withstood a car fire
09:18 Unhealthy food choices
11:48 Have you had a beignet?
15:06 What’s something most people don’t know about you?
20:05 What’s the most common misconception about you?
25:26 How are you when someone gets on your bad side?
28:57 What are you currently working to improve?
35:24 What’s the hardest lesson you learned last year?
37:37 Does your mom have a very thick accent?
40:27 What past experience that still resonates with you today?
48:15 What’s the worst thing that can happen?
54:41 What’s something you don’t want to repeat this year?
01:00:53 My social media is like my house…

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Love is Blind - Matthew is a Serial Killer

Hey Besties! Today, Violetta will give us a quick recap of Love is Blind Season 6. Is Matthew just your average guy, or could he be hiding a dark secret? From navigating the rules of marriage with AD and Clay to exploring the dynamics of religious love with Brittany and Kenneth, we'll delve into the highs and lows of partnership. Buckle up as we dissect the correlation between love and lust with Jimmy and Jessica, and uncover the telltale signs of trouble in relationships. Whether it's recognizing red flags or learning to prioritize self-growth, this episode is packed with insights to navigate the rollercoaster of love and emotions.

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What to Listen For:

00:00 Intro
01:38 Is Matthew a serial killer?
07:55 AD and Clay - rules of marriage
09:59 Brittany and Kenneth - the religious couple
11:06 Jimmy and Jessica - correlating love with lust
14:55 When someone rejects you, leave
18:30 Jimmy’s red flags
24:16 Crying over the consequences of your actions
26:44 Chelsea, work on yourself and stop seeking validation from your partner
28:19 Who will walk down the aisle?

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Love is Not Enough w/ Mark Groves

Hey Besties! The man behind the Create the Love is back! Mark Groves is a human connection specialist, speaker, writer, motivator, creator, connector and collaborator. As a bridge between the academic and the human, Mark invites people to explore the good, bad, downright ugly, and beautiful sides of connection.

What does it truly mean to find liberation in love? How do we reclaim our worth after it's been taken from us? Today, Violetta and Mark explore these questions and more, delving into topics like building self-trust, healing codependency, and navigating the emotional complexities of heartbreak. From learning to communicate our deepest emotions to embracing closure and letting go, each chapter of this episode offers profound insights and empowering strategies for navigating the highs and lows of love. If you’re looking for answers, this one's for you!

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What to Listen For:

00:00 Intro
02:43 Liberated Love
06:36 You’ve forgotten yourself in the relationship
09:46 They took your worth with them when they left
13:36 How do you build a high level of self trust?
17:42 How do you heal codependency?
19:46 The great disconnect
28:04 Learning self-regulation through co-regulation
35:14 Creating a space for you and your partner’s pain
38:47 The analogy of the burning house
42:57 Closing ceremony for an ended relationship
51:19 Communicate how to feel
56:16 Emotional triggers actually never go away
01:02:21 Does your partner get you?
01:04:27 The right person can’t come if you won’t let go of the wrong one
01:06:39 What does it mean when love is not enough?
01:10:52 Using the ides of love to bypass the pain
01:16:03 How do you get your ex back?

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16 Reasons You Don't Have Love

Hey Besties! Ready to take a deep dive into the world of love and self-discovery? Today, for another episode of Benson Book Club, Violetta will read and ponder on the 16 Reasons Why You Still Don’t Have The Love That You Want from Brianna Wiest’s 101 Essays That Will Change The Way You Think. Whether you're relying on others to do the work for you or expecting love to change your life, we've got the insights to help you navigate the twists and turns of the heart. Discover how honoring your inner child, embracing kindness, and aligning your heart and mind can lead to deeper connections and self-fulfillment. Don't miss out on this enlightening journey to finding love within yourself and beyond!

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What to Listen For:

00:00 Intro
01:54 16 reasons why you still don’t have the love that you want
14:25 The most meaningful relationships are the ones in which we are reflective back to ourselves
16:47 Every relationship you have is with yourself
19:38 Be your own person and do what you can on your own time

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BE SUCCESSFULLY DELUSIONAL

What Motivates Men to Commit

Why He Doesn't Want You

Loving Those Who Can't Love Us Back

Feeling Ungrateful

You're a Narcissist w/ Scheana Shay (Vanderpump Rules)

You’re Not My Person w/ Kamie Crawford

Love is Blind - Matthew is a Serial Killer

Love is Not Enough w/ Mark Groves

16 Reasons You Don't Have Love