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    52. Career anxiety, disillusionment and feeling stuck

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    enNovember 03, 2022

    About this Episode

    Our careers and work can be a major point of stress in our 20’s and we try to figure out what exactly we’re doing and where we want to go. In this episode we discuss career anxiety, feeling lost and when it’s time for a change. Thank you to this weeks sponsor, Athletic Greens. Please go to athleticgreens.com/Jemma to redeem you offer of 1 year do free vitamin C and 5 free travel packs.

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    🔑 Key Takeaways

    • Investing in our health through good dental habits and smart purchases can lead to a successful 20s. Use Pronamel toothpaste and mouthwash to protect enamel, shop at Kroger for affordable essentials, and utilize tools like Canva for time-saving presentations.
    • Focus on personal motivations and joy, rather than unnecessary worry and fear of falling behind. Remember, everyone's journey is unique and opportunities lie ahead.
    • Instead of comparing ourselves to others, focus on our own accomplishments and be kind to ourselves as we navigate our career paths.
    • Up to 40% of individuals deal with work anxiety, and it's not the primary driver of happiness, making changes can improve overall well-being
    • Learning anxiety hinders new experiences, while survival anxiety signals the need for change. Recognizing these anxieties can lead to career growth.
    • Identify benefits vs costs, address root fears, prioritize personal growth, and approach change with confidence using Athletic Grains' AG1 for overall wellness.
    • Prioritize self-care with daily nutrition supplements, acknowledge imposter syndrome, and focus on personal growth for a fulfilling career.
    • Instead of comparing ourselves to others, focus on our own past achievements and celebrate small wins to appreciate progress and reduce feelings of inadequacy.
    • Recognizing imposter syndrome and comparing ourselves to those who inspire us can help reduce career anxiety
    • Career is important but not the only aspect of a happy life. Reflect, identify goals, and take care of yourself.
    • Discover new dental care, self-care, and Black-led products. Pro Namo introduces a new mouthwash for weakened enamel, Walmart celebrates Black History Month with free events, and Con Air launches Girl Bomb for powerful hair removal.

    📝 Podcast Summary

    Protecting our teeth and making smart choices

    Taking care of our health, especially our teeth, and making smart choices in our daily lives can make a significant difference. During our 20s, it's easy to neglect important habits, but it's crucial to remember that we only get one set of teeth and they need protection. Pronamel toothpaste and mouthwash can help repair acid-weakened enamel, making it a top choice among dentists. Additionally, shopping at Kroger for affordable, delicious products can help us feel like we're winning. For those constantly on the go, tools like Canva presentations can save time and effort by generating captivating slides in seconds. Overall, prioritizing self-care, making wise purchases, and utilizing technology can lead to a more efficient and successful 20s. Remember, taking care of ourselves and our needs is an investment in our future.

    Navigating Career Anxiety in Your 20s

    Feeling anxious about our careers and work during our 20s is a common experience. It's natural to compare ourselves to others and feel like we're not where we should be. However, it's important to remember that life is long and full of opportunities. The anxiety we feel about our careers can stem from the sensitive and difficult nature of work and its impact on our happiness and well-being. Social comparison can be a significant contributor to career anxiety, but it's essential to remember that everyone's journey is unique. The 20s are a crucial decade for dispelling career anxiety and creating a healthy foundation for a balanced work life. It's important to focus on what motivates us and what brings us joy, rather than unnecessary worry and fear of falling behind. Ultimately, there are opportunities in our future that we couldn't even imagine, and they may lead us to live our dream lives better than we ever thought possible.

    Comparing ourselves to others in our careers can lead to unhappiness

    Social comparison theory, the tendency to assess our worth based on how we stack up against others, can be a major source of unhappiness, particularly in our professional lives. This feeling is amplified by social media platforms like LinkedIn, which allow us to see only the highlight reels of others' lives and careers. It's important to remember that everyone is figuring things out as they go, and our 20s are a time for learning, making mistakes, and trying new things. Instead of comparing ourselves to others, we should focus on our own accomplishments and be kind to ourselves as we navigate our career paths.

    Work and career-related anxiety is common

    Work and career-related anxiety are common experiences, with up to 40% of individuals dealing with ongoing stress and anxiety in their professional lives. Society's narrative that work equals happiness and success is a misconception, as research shows that work is not the primary driver of happiness. Anxiety related to work can manifest in various ways, such as difficulty completing tasks, focusing excessively on negatives, and experiencing symptoms like fatigue, insomnia, and anticipatory anxiety. It's essential to recognize these feelings and consider making changes to improve overall well-being. Remember, it's natural to feel unhappy or unsatisfied with certain jobs or work environments, and it's okay to seek change. Don't let societal pressures dictate your happiness or mental health.

    Understanding Two Types of Anxiety in Career Decisions

    Anxiety plays a significant role in our decision-making process regarding our careers. There are two types of anxiety that often go unnoticed: learning anxiety and survival anxiety. Learning anxiety arises from the fear of trying something new and the discomfort that comes with it. It can prevent us from making a change, even if the current situation is toxic. Survival anxiety, on the other hand, is the realization that to achieve our career goals, we may need to make a change. It's the feeling of restlessness and the desire to move on when we've exhausted our current resources. When survival anxiety becomes stronger than learning anxiety, it's a clear sign that it's time for a change. Additionally, the speaker shared that calling in sick multiple times before quitting a job can be a coping mechanism for anxiety, and it's a clear sign that something isn't right. Overall, understanding these two types of anxiety can help us recognize when it's time to make a change and pursue a more fulfilling career.

    Considering a career change?

    It's important to recognize when it's time for a change in your career or job, even if it's scary. The feeling of being stuck between staying and leaving an unsatisfying situation is a common experience. While there may be financial or other pressures to consider, ultimately, you have agency and control over your own career path. It's essential to ask yourself if the benefits of making a change outweigh the costs and to identify the root causes of your fear. Meanwhile, taking care of your physical and mental health can help you navigate these transitions. One tool for doing so is Athletic Grains' AG1, a nutritional supplement that provides essential vitamins and minerals for overall wellness. By prioritizing your personal growth and well-being, you can make informed decisions about your career and approach change with confidence.

    Balancing Self-Care and Career Growth

    Prioritizing self-care, including using convenient daily nutrition supplements like Athletic Greens, is essential for personal well-being and aligns with eco-friendly values. Additionally, it's important to acknowledge feelings of imposter syndrome and the comparison of success, recognizing that it's subjective and relative. Overcoming these feelings involves focusing on personal growth and fulfillment in our careers, rather than comparing ourselves to others. Remember, work is not your life. The speaker, who balances a full-time job and personal passions, emphasizes the importance of finding fulfillment in our professional lives and maintaining a strong sense of self-worth. By prioritizing self-care and recognizing the subjectivity of success, we can navigate the complexities of career growth and maintain a healthy perspective. For a limited time, Athletic Greens is offering a free one-year supply of immune-supporting vitamin D and five free travel packs with your first purchase. Visit athleticgreens.com/Gemma to claim this offer and start your journey towards better health.

    Celebrate progress, not perfection

    Instead of comparing ourselves to others and focusing on their current successes, we should measure our progress based on our own past achievements and celebrate our small wins. This can help us appreciate how far we've come and reduce feelings of inadequacy or failure. Our dreams and goals can change over time, and it's important to remember that what we consider a success may be someone else's dream. By focusing on our own journey and celebrating our progress, we can break free from the cycle of comparison and find greater satisfaction and motivation in our personal and professional lives.

    Comparing ourselves to role models instead of constant comparisons

    It's natural to compare ourselves to others, but sometimes looking up to those who see us as role models, rather than constantly comparing ourselves to those perceived as ahead, can be a comforting thought. Additionally, imposter syndrome, a feeling of self-doubt and incompetence despite evidence of accomplishment, is a common experience, especially in professional settings. It can lead to self-sabotage and hinder career growth. Understanding these mental phenomena can help us recognize and challenge the negative thoughts that contribute to career anxiety. Remember, you belong and you're capable of more than you think.

    Don't let career be your only focus

    While your career is an important aspect of your life, it should not be the sole focus. Your relationships, health, hobbies, and personal growth are equally significant. Career anxiety is a common experience, and it's essential to remind yourself that it's not the end of your story. You have the power to change paths and discover new opportunities. Society's emphasis on work and success can make it challenging to maintain perspective, but it's crucial to recognize that work is just one element of a happy life. Take time to reflect on your accomplishments, identify your dreams, and break down your goals into manageable steps. Remember, it's okay to experience setbacks and feel uncertain. These moments can provide valuable learning experiences that help you adapt and grow until the next challenge arises. Lastly, take care of yourself, including your dental health, as you only get one set of teeth.

    New products and events to try this month

    There are several noteworthy products and events being highlighted this month. Pro Namo, the top dentist-recommended brand for acid erosion, has introduced a new mouthwash to help repair weakened enamel. This mouthwash is now available wherever you buy your toothpaste or mouthwash. Meanwhile, Walmart is celebrating Black History Month with free events at the Walmart Black and Unlimited Clock in New York City and Ovation Hollywood in Los Angeles. These events, which run from 8 a.m. to 8 p.m., offer giveaways every hour and provide an opportunity to discover Black-led products and level up your daily routine. Lastly, Con Air is celebrating women every day with their new line of powerful hair removal tools, Girl Bomb. These tools, available now at Walgreens, offer a confidence boost and the chance to experience silky smooth skin. Overall, it's an exciting time to try new products and support various communities, whether it's through dental care, self-care, or celebrating Black history.

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