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    190. Fall in love with your own company!

    Embrace self-care, laugh at yourself, maintain dental hygiene with Pronamel toothpaste and Pro Enamel mouthwash, use Conair Girl Bomb for hair removal, access health services from CVS Health, and support overall health with Nature's Way Alive gummies.

    enApril 26, 2024

    About this Episode

    Finding the joy in your own company is one of the most healing, rewarding and fulfilling things we can do. It's also really difficult in an age of FOMO, constant distraction, stimulation and fear of boredom or loneliness. In today's episode we break down exactly why you need to fall back in love with your alone time, the amazing benefits and HOW to do it. Listen now! 

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    🔑 Key Takeaways

    • Discover essential products for health, manage finances effectively, practice self-care, and prioritize solitude for overall well-being and success.
    • Neglecting self-relationship can lead to struggles with loneliness and adjusting to new situations. Prioritize and nurture it for personal peace and growth.
    • FOMO can lead to a competitive and unsatisfying approach to socializing, causing feelings of inadequacy and a need to constantly be engaged. However, recognizing that loneliness is a natural cue to connect or introspect can help cultivate a richer inner world.
    • Embracing solitude leads to greater introspection, independence, and creativity, despite societal stigmas.
    • Embracing solitude boosts productivity, self-expression, independence, and personal growth. Learning to enjoy doing things alone expands experiences and gives more control over emotions and decisions.
    • Learning to enjoy our own company can lead to self-reliance and happiness, allowing us to navigate relationships and life more effectively.
    • Invest in essential products for body, mind, and finances to improve overall well-being. Try Nature's Way multivitamins for energy and bone health, Nutrafol for hair growth, Intuit for financial management, and Pronamel for oral care. Use given codes for discounts.
    • Schedule alone time, engage in joyful activities, and recognize self-care vs labor for personal growth and well-being.
    • Create rituals like monthly 'date night' with yourself, do things alone to build confidence, and embrace loneliness to deepen self-connection
    • Embrace loneliness, prioritize self-discovery, and strive for the joy of missing out (JOMO) to live more fulfilling and intentional lives
    • Embrace self-care, laugh at yourself, maintain dental hygiene with Pronamel toothpaste and Pro Enamel mouthwash, use Conair Girl Bomb for hair removal, access health services from CVS Health, and support overall health with Nature's Way Alive gummies.

    📝 Podcast Summary

    Investing in personal growth in our twenties

    Investing in personal growth and self-love in our twenties is crucial for overall well-being and success in various aspects of life. Three specific ways to do this include: 1. Discovering and utilizing products that support our health, such as Nature's Way Alive women's multivitamin gummies, which provide essential vitamins and minerals for women's health and wellness. 2. Managing finances effectively with the help of platforms like Intuit, which offers tools for managing personal finances and running small businesses. 3. Practicing self-care, including protecting our oral health with ProNamel's enamel repair products. Additionally, it's important to prioritize solitude and falling in love with our own company to deepen our relationship with ourselves and improve our interactions with others. This can lead to a more intentional and defined life.

    Investing in self-relationship for personal growth

    Investing in the relationship with oneself is crucial for personal peace, growth, and overall well-being. The speaker shares her personal experience of valuing her own company during childhood due to feeling lonely and bullied. However, when she entered university and met new friends, she neglected this skill and eventually struggled to be alone during a transitional period in her early twenties. The fear of missing out (FOMO) is a significant reason why many people, including the speaker, have a hard time spending time alone. FOMO involves both a perception that others are having more fun without us and a compulsion to be part of it. Neglecting the relationship with oneself can lead to difficulties in coping with loneliness and adjusting to new situations. Therefore, it's essential to prioritize and nurture the relationship with oneself, even when it's not easy or convenient.

    The Fear of Missing Out (FOMO) and its impact on socializing

    The fear of missing out (FOMO) is a common compulsion driven by constant social media exposure and comparison. This can lead to a competitive and unsatisfying approach to socializing, as well as an unhealthy fear of loneliness. FOMO was first identified in 2004, around the same time social media began to take off. Today, we are bombarded with details of others' lives, leading to feelings of inadequacy and a need to constantly be engaged. However, it's important to recognize that missing out on plans or alone time doesn't equate to physical pain or immobilization. Instead, loneliness can be seen as a natural cue from our bodies to connect or introspect. By reframing our relationship with our own company and recognizing the universal nature of loneliness, we can cultivate a richer inner world. It's also important to remember that excessive socializing can lead to a higher threshold for satisfying social connection, requiring even more engagement. Instead of fearing loneliness, let's hold space for it and learn from its lessons.

    The Value of Solitude: Embrace Your Own Company

    Embracing solitude and falling in love with your own company is a radical act of self-compassion and growth in today's world filled with distractions. This isn't an easy feat, but it's important for self-discovery and introspection. Research shows that people who prioritize spending time alone display greater levels of introspection, value independence, and are more creative. However, societal and cultural expectations often equate being alone with being bored or unproductive, making it difficult to appreciate the value of solitude. Despite the initial discomfort, the benefits are worth the effort. So, make time for yourself, enjoy your own company, and discover the profound benefits that come with it.

    Loving your own company in your twenties

    Embracing your own company can significantly enhance your creativity, introspection, and independence. During periods of solitude, your focus and mental space can lead to increased productivity and self-expression. Moreover, when you value your own company, you're not reliant on others for validation or excitement, giving you more control over your emotions and decisions. Additionally, learning to enjoy doing things alone, such as traveling or going to the movies, expands your experiences and allows you to determine them based on your own desires rather than others' availability. Ultimately, falling in love with your own company is essential in your twenties as it provides numerous benefits for personal growth and well-being.

    Appreciating Our Own Company

    It's essential to learn to appreciate and enjoy our own company to avoid staying in unfulfilling relationships out of fear of being alone. Our inner world is rich and full of experiences, and we have the power to make ourselves happy and curious. However, our brains often undervalue our own company compared to others due to psychological biases. To change this, we can prioritize solo experiences through intentional practices. By embracing our own company, we can become more self-reliant and find happiness within ourselves, making us better equipped to navigate relationships and life in general.

    Boost Your Well-being with Essential Products

    Taking care of your body, mind, and finances are essential for overall well-being. Nature's Way Alive women's multivitamin gummies provide essential vitamins and minerals for energy and bone health, while Nutrafol's hair growth supplement addresses internal factors affecting hair growth. Intuit's financial platform helps manage money and build confidence, and Pronamel's oral care products protect teeth. It's crucial to prioritize alone time as a self-care ritual. Nature's Way multivitamins can be found at naturesway.com with a discount using code Gemma, Nutrafol at neutrafol.com with code psychology, Intuit at intuit.com, and Pronamel at pronamel.com. Remember, investing in yourself in these areas leads to a happier, healthier life.

    Intentional Self-Care for Personal Growth

    Prioritizing meaningful self-care is crucial for personal growth and well-being. The speaker emphasizes the importance of scheduling intentional alone time, engaging in activities that bring joy and nourishment, and avoiding mindless tasks. By consciously filling one's own cup with enjoyable and enriching experiences, one can deepen their connection with themselves and avoid the potential pitfalls of mindless distractions. The speaker also highlights the importance of recognizing the difference between labor and meaningful self-care, and encourages everyone to treat their relationship with themselves with the same care and attention as they would a valued relationship with another person.

    Practice self-love through intentional alone time

    Taking care of your alone time is essential for personal growth and self-love. This can be achieved through creating intentional rituals, such as having a monthly "date night" with yourself. Dinner at a favorite restaurant, dressing up, and reflecting on your progress and goals are all part of this practice. Additionally, doing things alone is a powerful way to celebrate yourself and build confidence. It may feel like a strange and awkward thing at first, but remember that others are not judging you as much as you think, and their memories of you are fleeting. Embrace your loneliness as a natural part of the human experience and observe it with curiosity. By prioritizing your alone time and intentionally engaging in self-care, you can deepen your connection with yourself and live a more fulfilling life.

    Find joy in missing out on social engagements

    Embracing the feeling of loneliness and learning to find joy in missing out on social engagements can lead to greater peace, contentment, and self-discovery. By focusing on our own needs and desires, we can cultivate a stronger relationship with ourselves and make intentional choices that prioritize our well-being. The fear of missing out (FOMO) can often lead us to make decisions based on fear rather than joy, causing us to avoid experiences that make us uncomfortable or uncertain. Instead, we should strive for the joy of missing out (JOMO), which encourages us to be present and content with our current circumstances, appreciate the benefits of saying no, and value the quality time we spend with ourselves and others. Ultimately, investing in our relationship with ourselves is the most valuable investment we can make, as we are the only constant presence in our lives. By learning to enjoy our own company and finding joy in the simple things, we can live more fulfilling and intentional lives.

    Find joy in self-care and dental health

    It's important to find joy and entertainment in your own company, and taking care of yourself is crucial, especially when it comes to your dental health. Dr. Amy Acton emphasized the importance of self-care and finding happiness within oneself, including the ability to laugh at oneself. She also highlighted the significance of maintaining good dental hygiene, as we only get one set of teeth. Additionally, she mentioned various products that can help with this, such as Pronamel Intensive Enamel Repair toothpaste and Pro Enamel mouthwash. In the realm of personal grooming, Conair Girl Bomb was introduced as a tool that empowers women with control and precision in their hair removal routine. CVS Health was presented as a company dedicated to providing comprehensive health and wellness services, including virtual care, in-home evaluations, and mental health support. Lastly, Nature's Way Alive women's multivitamin gummies were introduced as an easy and delicious way for women to support their overall health and well-being.

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