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    #139 Laurie Santos: The Pursuit of Happiness

    Social interaction and kindness are essential for happiness, and cross-cultural studies support this. Even young children benefit from prosocial behaviors, but loneliness is increasing among older individuals and college students due to technology.

    enJune 14, 2022

    About this Episode

    Can you accurately identify what aspects of life make you happy? Would you even know if you found true happiness? Leading psychology professor and happiness expert Laurie Santos dives deep on all the factors that contribute to our happiness, why we spend so much energy pursuing it, some evidence-based methods to boost your happiness, why it’s crucial to protect yourself from unhappy people, and so much more.

    Santos is a Professor of Psychology and the Head of Silliman College at Yale University. Since 2018 she’s been teaching Psychology and the Good Life, which is one of the most popular courses at Yale and at one point included approximately a quarter of the school’s undergraduates. She has also turned her course into a popular podcast series, The Happiness Lab.

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    🔑 Key Takeaways

    • True happiness lies in prioritizing internal factors that bring genuine fulfillment and contentment, rather than constantly chasing external achievements and material possessions.
    • Comparing ourselves to others and adapting to positive experiences can lead to feelings of inadequacy and prevent us from appreciating the good things in our lives.
    • True happiness is found through purpose, meaning, and kindness, not through material possessions or self-indulgence. It requires overcoming cravings and societal influences to find our own paths.
    • Educators can address the mental health crisis among students by teaching strategies for well-being and fulfillment, such as positive psychology and behavior change, to navigate the pursuit of happiness while maintaining mental well-being.
    • College students are facing high levels of stress and anxiety, exacerbated by the COVID-19 pandemic. They are actively seeking solutions to cope with these challenges, emphasizing the importance of mental health support and strategies.
    • Incorporating rituals and maintaining social connections can improve our overall well-being by providing structure, reducing anxiety, and increasing happiness.
    • Engaging in behaviors that foster social connections, kindness, and mindfulness can profoundly impact one's well-being, whether through religious institutions or similar groups.
    • We must be mindful of how we use social media to protect our mental health and prioritize genuine connections over comparison and digital distractions.
    • Reflecting on our phone usage, being intentional about where our attention goes and practicing attentional hygiene can improve our well-being and enhance our connections with others.
    • Subjective measures of happiness, such as self-report scales, provide valuable insights into individuals' happiness levels and should be prioritized for interventions aimed at maximizing well-being. Practices like social connection and mindfulness benefit both current and future happiness.
    • Social interaction and kindness are essential for happiness, and cross-cultural studies support this. Even young children benefit from prosocial behaviors, but loneliness is increasing among older individuals and college students due to technology.
    • Prioritizing genuine social connections and acts of kindness, while minimizing distractions from phones and technology, can greatly increase our long-term happiness and overall well-being.
    • By shifting our focus and expressing gratitude, we can improve our well-being and reset our reference points to appreciate the positive aspects of life.
    • While genetics play a part in happiness, environmental and epigenetic factors also significantly impact our wellbeing. As parents, it is important to teach children skills for fostering happiness and strike a balance between support and allowing them to learn from challenges.
    • Parents should let their children face challenges and failures on their own, as it helps them develop resilience and self-confidence, while also being mindful of their own emotions and well-being.
    • By practicing mindfulness and being present in the moment, we can become aware of our emotions and choose how to respond to situations, preventing negative emotions from affecting our behavior and relationships.
    • By being mindful of our own needs and setting boundaries, we can avoid burnout and maintain our happiness.
    • Experiencing burnout is a sign to make changes in your life. Take action by resting, reevaluating work-life balance, engaging with others, and finding fulfilling activities to combat burnout and find happiness.
    • Engaging in challenging and attention-demanding leisure activities, incorporating social elements and a playful attitude, can promote a sense of flow and fulfillment, contributing to overall well-being and happiness. Additionally, in relationships, showing genuine interest and paying attention to bids for connection can improve relationship quality.
    • Prioritizing relationships, giving attention, and being present in the moment are essential for happiness and fulfillment in a fast-paced world.
    • Balancing time and prioritizing well-being is essential for happiness, as the scarcity of time can have a greater negative impact than the scarcity of money.
    • By prioritizing exercise, sleep, and self-care, individuals can improve their mental health and overall happiness, even during challenging times.

    📝 Podcast Summary

    Rethinking Happiness: Chasing External Achievements versus Finding Internal Fulfillment

    Our misconceptions about happiness lead us to chase external achievements and material possessions to find lasting happiness. We have been conditioned to believe that achieving certain goals or acquiring certain things will bring us eternal happiness. However, studies show that these external factors only provide a temporary boost in happiness, and our minds often overestimate the intensity and duration of this happiness. This bias, known as effective forecasting, sets us up for disappointment as we continually chase after the next promotion, higher salary, or bigger house. Even the incredibly wealthy experience the same mistaken intuitions about money, always thinking that the next level of wealth will finally bring them the happiness they seek. Thus, true and lasting happiness requires us to reevaluate our priorities and focus on internal factors that bring genuine fulfillment and contentment.

    The Dangers of Comparison and Adaptation

    Our brains are wired to compare ourselves to others and constantly seek reference points that make us feel inadequate. We have a tendency to judge our success, wealth, and happiness based on how we measure up to those around us, rather than having an objective framework. This reference group bias can leave us feeling unsatisfied and always striving for more, as we constantly shift our reference points to those who appear more successful or have more than us. Additionally, we have a natural tendency to adapt to the positive things in our lives, taking them for granted and losing the initial excitement and appreciation we once had. These biases, combined with our changing reference points and the phenomenon of hedonic adaptation, can prevent us from fully recognizing and appreciating the good things in our lives.

    Exploring the Path to True Happiness

    Happiness requires effort and often goes against our natural instincts and misconceptions. We tend to believe that amplifying our happiness by seeking material possessions or indulging in self-care will bring us joy, but that's not necessarily the case. True happiness comes from finding purpose, meaning, and doing kind things for others. Overcoming our cravings and intuitions that may lead us astray is essential. It's important to understand that happiness is not just about experiencing positive emotions all the time but also allowing ourselves to feel negative emotions when appropriate. Seeking happiness in the wrong ways can make us anxious, selfish, and ultimately lead us away from happiness. Society and media play a role in shaping our beliefs about what brings happiness, but it's essential to question these messages and find our own paths to happiness.

    The Pitfalls of Pursuing Success and Happiness: Why Material Possessions and Societal Expectations Leave Us Feeling Miserable

    Our natural inclination to strive for success and happiness may not always lead to fulfillment. Our brains are wired by natural selection to focus on survival and reproduction, which means we are constantly seeking resources, accolades, and status. Advertisers take advantage of this by convincing us that acquiring certain products will bring us happiness. However, this constant pursuit of material possessions and societal expectations often leaves us feeling miserable. This is especially evident in the high rates of depression, anxiety, loneliness, and suicidality among college students. As educators, it is vital to address the mental health crisis by equipping students with strategies for well-being and fulfillment. Teaching positive psychology and behavior change can help individuals find better ways to navigate the pursuit of happiness while balancing their mental well-being.

    The Need for Mental Health Support and Strategies Among College Students

    College students are experiencing high levels of stress, anxiety, and social disconnection, especially exacerbated by the COVID-19 pandemic. The popularity of Laurie Santos' class on evidence-based strategies for well-being indicates that students are actively seeking solutions to cope with these challenges. The pandemic has disrupted important social and developmental experiences for students, with many missing out on milestone events and limited in-person interactions. However, there were some unexpected positive aspects during the initial phase of returning to campus, as students reported feeling less overwhelmed without the usual demands of extracurricular activities and had a newfound appreciation for in-person social connections due to increased screen time. These insights highlight the pressing need for support and strategies that focus on promoting mental health and well-being among college students.

    The Importance of Rituals and Social Connections in Our Well-Being

    Rituals and routines play an essential role in our happiness and well-being. They help our minds compartmentalize different aspects of our lives, allowing us to maintain a sense of balance and identity. The pandemic has disrupted these rituals and routines, blurring the boundaries between our personal and professional lives. This has led to cognitive overwhelm and a loss of connection with others. Rituals not only provide us with a sense of structure but also facilitate social connections and reduce anxiety. Whether it's a simple commute to work or a team coffee break, these rituals can help us feel more bonded with the people around us. Prioritizing social interactions, even with strangers, has been shown to increase happiness. Therefore, it is important to incorporate rituals and maintain social connections to improve our overall well-being.

    The role of religious behaviors in enhancing happiness and the importance of supportive environments in religious institutions.

    Religious behaviors, such as attending church, doing acts of kindness, and being present in prayer or meditation, play a significant role in enhancing happiness. These behaviors are found to mediate the correlation between religion and happiness, indicating that religious beliefs alone do not have the same effect. The power of religious institutions lies in their ability to create a supportive environment that encourages these behaviors and provides a sense of identity and tradition. However, it is important to note that the benefits of happiness can also be achieved through other institutions or groups that promote similar behaviors and a sense of shared identity. Ultimately, engaging in behaviors that foster social connections, kindness, and mindfulness can have a profound impact on one's well-being.

    The Negative Effects of Social Media on Well-being

    Social media, although a tool that has the potential to promote happiness and positive experiences, often leads to negative effects on our well-being. It has become a means to reduce social connection in real life and intensify social comparison, which can make us feel unhappy or inadequate. Furthermore, social media disrupts our ability to be present and attentive to the world around us, affecting our sleep and overall well-being. Despite being willing participants in using social media, we must recognize the negative impact it can have and consider implementing guardrails to strike a balance and protect our mental health. It is crucial to use these technological tools in ways that promote happiness and foster genuine social connections.

    Rethinking our Relationship with Phones: Taking a Mindful Approach

    We need to reconsider our relationship with our phones and be mindful of our attention. Laurie Santos suggests that instead of completely breaking up with our phones, we should 'take them to couples counseling' and renegotiate the way we use them. She introduces the WWW acronym (what for, why now, what else) to help us pause and reflect on our phone usage. By asking ourselves these questions, we can become more aware of our behaviors and the impact they have on our connections with others and our overall well-being. Additionally, Shane Parrish raises the question of how our happiness is influenced by where we place our attention. Laurie Santos emphasizes the importance of attentional hygiene and being intentional about where our attention goes. Being present and mindful in our interactions and activities is key to finding happiness and improving our well-being.

    Measuring Happiness: The Power of Self-Reports and Subjective Well-Being

    Measuring happiness is subjective, but self-report scales can be reliable scientific instruments. Asking individuals about their satisfaction with life and their experiences of positive emotions can provide meaningful insights into their happiness levels. While it may seem less objective, these self-reports align with other indicators such as hormonal analysis and interviews with friends and family. In order to maximize happiness, interventions should focus on improving individuals' subjective well-being rather than solely relying on physiological changes. Additionally, there is often a misconception that present happiness and future happiness are in conflict, leading to a trade-off. However, practices like social connection and being present can benefit both current and future happiness. Cultural differences may exist, but many evidence-based approaches to happiness can be applicable across different cultures.

    Universal Practices for Happiness

    Certain practices for happiness, such as being social, being nice to others, being present, and engaging in non-judgmental interactions, are likely to be universal across cultures and ages. While most of the studies in psychology have been conducted on Western populations, there is surprising consistency in the findings when cross-cultural studies are done. Additionally, research shows that even young children experience greater happiness when they engage in prosocial behaviors. However, there is a shift in historic patterns of happiness, with loneliness increasing among older individuals and college students. This change could be attributed to various factors, including the impact of technology on social connections.

    The Impact of Phones and Technology on Social Connections

    Our obsession with phones and technology often hinders our ability to engage in real-life social connections. Laurie Santos admits that she has missed out on opportunities for social connection because she was distracted by her phone. Even basic social interactions, like smiling at others, decrease when our phones are nearby. Our brains recognize that our phones hold a plethora of rewarding content, which can be more alluring than in-person interactions. However, research shows that genuine social connections and acts of kindness have a tremendous impact on our long-term happiness. Empirical psychology has confirmed that increasing social connections, performing acts of kindness, and prioritizing healthier habits significantly improve our overall sense of well-being. Taking time for gratitude can have a profound effect on our happiness levels.

    Harnessing the Power of Gratitude for Well-being

    Changing our mindset and focusing on gratitude can significantly improve our well-being. Simply writing down three to five things we are grateful for can have a lasting positive impact. Expressing gratitude to others, such as through thank you notes, can also enhance our well-being. By changing our frame and where we place our attention, we can gain perspective and see things in a broader light. We have the power to reset our reference points and appreciate the good things in our lives. Negative visualization, an ancient technique used by stoics, can help us reset our reference points and stop hedonic adaptation. Additionally, we can influence the happiness set point of our children through our own modeling of behavior.

    The Role of Genetics and Environment in Happiness

    While genetics may play a role in happiness, it is not the sole determining factor. The heritability of happiness is estimated to be around 30-40%, which means that there is a lot of room for environmental and epigenetic effects to influence our happiness. As parents, it is important to focus not just on academic success, but also on teaching our children skills for boosting happiness over time. However, well-intentioned parenting techniques that involve constantly solving problems for our children can lead to negative outcomes. When parents take over and provide the answers, children may develop beliefs that they lack the ability to solve problems themselves, leading to frustration and giving up more easily. It is crucial to strike a balance between support and allowing children to navigate challenges and learn from failures.

    The negative effects of overprotective parenting

    Parents who try to fix everything for their children out of anxiety or with good intentions may actually hinder their children's growth and contribute to their anxiety. By not allowing children to handle conflicts or failures on their own, parents are preventing them from developing resilience and self-confidence. This can lead to increased anxiety and difficulties in adulthood. Additionally, parents need to be aware that their own emotions can be contagious to their children. If parents are constantly anxious or stressed, their children are likely to adopt these emotions as well. Therefore, it is important for parents to prioritize their own well-being and emotional balance in order to create a positive and healthy emotional environment for their children.

    Taking Control of Our Emotions Through Mindfulness

    We have the power to control our reactions and emotions. While we may not have control over the situations that trigger our emotions, we can choose how we respond to them. By practicing mindfulness and being present in the moment, we can become aware of our emotions and the physical sensations they bring. This awareness allows us to pause and assess our reactions before acting on them. Taking control of our emotions is essential in preventing negative emotions from affecting our behavior and relationships. We are responsible for the second arrow, which represents our reaction to situations, and we can use strategies like mindfulness to regulate these secondary emotions and avoid making the situation worse.

    The importance of setting boundaries for well-being and preventing burnout.

    Setting boundaries is crucial for our well-being and can help prevent burnout. Boundaries serve as control mechanisms that allow us to regulate our emotions and limit our exposure to situations that may negatively impact us. By mindfully paying attention to what is truly beneficial for us and making informed decisions about our well-being, we can avoid burnout. Burnout typically manifests as emotional exhaustion, a feeling of personal diveness where our actions feel meaningless, and depersonalization, which includes cynicism and a lack of compassion. Recognizing the signs of burnout and taking measures to establish boundaries can help us maintain our happiness and prevent the negative consequences of unchecked emotional strain.

    Recognizing and Addressing Burnout: A Step-by-Step Approach

    Experiencing symptoms of burnout is a sign that you need to make changes in your life. It's not because you don't care about your work or because it's boring, but often because you've become too invested in it and it has become your sole identity. These symptoms serve as your emotional warning signs for burnout. Ignoring them can lead to a complete depletion of energy and a catastrophic breakdown. Taking action is crucial, and it can involve different approaches such as taking real rest, renegotiating your relationship with work, or even reevaluating societal attitudes towards work. Seeking solitude may seem appealing, but it's important to remember that engaging with others can help refill your happiness tanks. Additionally, finding activities that challenge and engage you in a state of flow can help combat feelings of languishing and apathy.

    Finding Flow and Fulfillment through Engaging Leisure Activities

    Engaging leisure activities can provide psychological benefits and promote a state of flow. When we choose leisure activities that challenge us and require our attention, such as cooking or paddleboarding, we are more likely to experience a sense of flow and fulfillment. Moreover, incorporating social elements and a playful attitude into our leisure activities can enhance the enjoyment and fun factor. However, during burnout, it becomes harder to prioritize these aspects due to emotional exhaustion and personal ineffectiveness. It's important to remember that leisure activities can also contribute to our overall well-being and happiness. Additionally, in relationships, paying attention to our partner's bids for connection and showing genuine interest can significantly improve the quality of the relationship.

    Importance of Attention and Presence in Relationships

    Giving attention and being present in our relationships is crucial for happiness. Responding positively to bids for attention from our partners plays a significant role in predicting the success of a relationship. However, in today's fast-paced world filled with technological distractions and busy schedules, finding time for our loved ones can be challenging. It is important to recognize the value of free time and cultivate a subjective sense of time affluence, rather than feeling time famine. Investing in time-saving purchases or reframing current purchases as time-saving can contribute to our overall happiness by allowing us to create more space for social connections and meaningful moments with our partners. Taking time to prioritize our relationships and being fully present fosters happiness and fulfillment.

    The perception of time and its impact on happiness and well-being

    Our perception of time and the value we assign to it greatly affects our happiness and well-being. While it is commonly believed that the rich invest in time and the poor invest in money, the reality is often more complex. The idea of time being money can lead to a constant need to work and earn more, even for those who have reached a certain level of wealth. Poverty is not just a lack of money, but also a lack of time. Time famine, or the scarcity of time, can have a greater negative impact on well-being than the scarcity of money. Additionally, we often overlook the importance of taking care of our bodies and prioritizing healthy habits, especially when we are busy or feeling time-starved. Ultimately, it is crucial to recognize the importance of balancing our time, prioritizing our well-being, and challenging societal pressures to constantly prioritize money over time and self-care.

    Prioritizing Exercise, Sleep, and Self-Care for Mental Health and Happiness

    Prioritizing exercise and sleep is crucial for improving mental health and overall happiness. Laurie Santos highlights the power of anxiety and how it can negatively impact our well-being, emphasizing the importance of taking care of our bodies. She also acknowledges the role that personal experiences played in her understanding of these concepts, particularly as she observed her students' struggles and identified similar patterns in her own life. By implementing the techniques she teaches despite initial resistance, she found that her well-being increased significantly. These approaches may not guarantee a perfect life, but they provide a competitive edge during challenging times. Ultimately, prioritizing self-care and adopting these techniques can help individuals lead happier and more fulfilled lives.

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    (40:45) Confidence and parents
    (50:21) Why negative-only feedback is detrimental for employees
    (56:14) Money lessons
    (58:13) A deep dive on M&A (Jacobs' secret sauce to growing his companies)
    (01:07:51) Questions to immediately get to know anyone
    (01:11:14) On boards and board meetings
    (01:16:57) On decision-making
    (01:23:37) The role of capital markets
    (01:25:41) The type of person you don't want to hire
    (01:31:16) The best capital allocators
    (01:33:53) Biggest lesson Jacobs learned from the past year
    (01:37:20) On success
     

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    #189 Chris Davis: Three Generations of Wealth

    #189 Chris Davis: Three Generations of Wealth

    Most families who obtain immense wealth squander it by the third generation. But Chris Davis comes from a family whose grandfather and father all became independently wealthy of each other, and Davis has done the same. How does that keep happening? In this conversation, we find out.

    Shane and Chris discuss life and investment lessons he learned from his father and grandfather, why writing is more important to clarify one's thinking no matter who's reading it, and the surprising benefit of reading physical newspapers and wearing ties to work. Davis also shares his value-investing philosophy, what he learned from working with and meeting Charlie Munger, and what parents can do to raise kids who aren't entitled. Davis talks about his alcohol drink tracker and why it's important to him, why he never puts himself in situations where envy can grow, and Warren Buffett's letter about why investment managers underperform.

    Chris Davis has been a Director of The Coca-Cola Company since April 2018. Davis is Chairman of Davis Selected Advisers-NY, Inc., an independent investment management firm founded in 1969. Davis joined Davis Selected Advisers-NY, Inc. in 1989 as a financial analyst and in 1995, he became a portfolio manager of the firm’s flagship funds. Prior to joining Davis Selected Advisers-NY, Inc., he served as a research analyst at Tanaka Capital Management and as an accountant at State Street Bank and Trust Co.

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    (00:00) Intro

    (03:20) Life lessons Davis learned from his grandfather and father

    (26:24) The importance of writing things no one reads

    (36:55) Davis' experiences through financial crises

    (52:31) Why Davis loves managing a mutual fund

    (55:49) Why Berkshire Hathaway operates with margin

    (01:01:05) What is risk?

    (01:04:02) On low interest rates and their future impact

    (01:14:46) The mismatched timelines between CEOs, companies, investors, and policy

    (01:22:19) How Davis and Munger met

    (01:30:20) Lessons learned from Munger

    (01:41:29) Why avoiding weaknesses is the ultimate recipe for success

    (01:55:46) How to raise non-entitled kids and avoid lifestyle creep

    (01:16:10) On happiness

    (02:27:00) Good vs. bad board meetings

    (02:31:34) Three generations of wealth

    (02:37:15) On success

    #188: Bryan Johnson: Five Habits for Longer Living

    #188: Bryan Johnson: Five Habits for Longer Living
    What can you do (or avoid) tomorrow to guarantee you can live longer?

    In this episode, Bryan Johnson reveals the five simple disciplines you can start doing to live healthier and longer. Johnson shares what his daily routine looks like, the ins and outs of his experimentation process, and why he gave his father plasma.

    Johnson also opens up about the constant hate he receives from people online, how he deals with it all, and what he wishes he'd known when he sold his company.

    Bryan Johnson is the world's most measured human. Johnson sold his company to PayPal in 2013. Through Project Blueprint, Johnson has achieved metabolic health equal to the top 1.5% of 18 year olds, inflammation 66% lower than the average 10 year old, and reduced his speed of aging by the equivalent of 31 years.

    Johnson is also the founder of Kernel, creator of the world’s first mainstream non-invasive neuroimaging system; and OS Fund, where he invested in the predictable engineering of atoms, molecules, and organisms.

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    Timecodes:

    (00:00:00) Intro

    (00:03:45) On biographies

    (00:08:03) On depression and coping mechanisms

    (00:14:18) Self-destructive behavior and how to pitch Blueprint to someone

    (00:26:50) What a day looks like on Blueprint (exercise and what to eat)

    (00:42:06) How to turn Blueprint protocols into habits

    (00:45:17) Embracing the hate

    (00:49:07) The downsides and lessons of making money

    (00:59:22) The five habits

    (01:05:09) Why does posture matter?

    (01:07:48) Relationship between biological health and sexual health

    (01:09:50) Hair-loss prevention

    (01:15:46) Sunscreen, plastics, and other miscellaneous impacts on aging

    (01:18:30) How will AI help us?

    (01:22:10) On success

    Dr. Becky Kennedy: The One Thing You Can Say That Changes Everything

    Dr. Becky Kennedy: The One Thing You Can Say That Changes Everything

    Dr. Becky Kennedy shares the skills you need but didn't get taught on regulating emotions, setting boundaries, and the best sentence you can say when a partner tells you something difficult.

    While there is an obvious focus on parenting, the most surprising thing about this episode was how much of what we discussed applies to EVERY relationship in your life.

    Learn how to parent more effectively with less stress, repair after a disagreement, regulate emotions, and unlock the next level in all of your relationships. Listen and Learn

    Dubbed the “The Millennial Parenting Whisperer” by TIME Magazine, Dr. Kennedy is the #1 New York Times bestselling author of Good Inside: A Guide to Becoming the Parent You Want to Be. She also hosts “Good Inside with Dr Becky,” the top kids and family show on Apple Podcasts.

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    Tom Gayner: Invest Like The Best

    Tom Gayner: Invest Like The Best

    Tom Gayner, CEO of Markel Group, reveals the lessons he’s learned from Charlie Munger and Berkshire Hathaway, how he invests, and the specific way he thinks about opportunity cost.

    Gayner shares the difference between good debt and bad debt, where he disagrees with Munger, and why he focuses on the basics.

    This intimate conversation offers a level of insight and honesty that Tom hasn’t offered anywhere else.

    Gayner is currently the CEO of Markel Group and the Director of The Coca‑Cola Company. He also serves as chairman of the Davis Series Mutual Funds board and on the boards of Graham Holdings and Markel.

    Listen and Learn.

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    Blake Eastman: Learn to Read Anyone

    Blake Eastman: Learn to Read Anyone
    Blake Eastman has dedicated his entire life to psychology and nonverbal behavior.
     
    In 2009 he founded The Nonverbal Group, a  behavioral research and education company in New York City which conducts large scale studies on human behavior and uses a wide range of technologies to systematically deconstruct and improve human communication.
     
    Eastman dives deep into a number of subjects revolving around how we communicate with one another, including the ability to read nonverbal cues, his thoughts on big talkers vs. silent types, how we can communicate with our partners without complaining, the value of watching ourselves communicate on video, understanding the power structures and social dynamics at work, and so much more.
     
    Eastman has also served as an adjunct psychology professor at the City University of New York for six years where he taught General Psychology, Developmental Psychology, and Group Dynamics. He is also a former professional poker player and the founder of School of Cards, the first brick-and-mortar poker school in New York City.
     
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