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    Gary Brecka: 5 Ways Sitting is Shortening Your Lifespan & 2 Changes to Transform Your Daily Routine

    Addressing deficiencies in DHEA, D3, boron, and other essential nutrients can improve hormone levels and overall wellbeing, often without the need for hormone therapy.

    enApril 01, 2024

    About this Episode

    Do you want to know why sitting for a long time shortens your lifespan?

    Do you want to know how to transform your daily routine?

    Today, Jay is joined by Gary Brecka, the Co-Founder and Chief Biologist of 10X Health and the founder of The Ultimate Human. With more than 20 years of Bio-Hacking and functional medicine experience, Gary has worked with and everyone from CEOs to professional athletes from the UFC, NFL, Professional Boxing, and entertainment industries. 

    What will you do when there is a possibility to predict how many more years you have left? Jay and Gary ponder on how our daily habits and emotional states impact our overall health and longevity, the dangers of a sedentary lifestyle and emphasizing on the need for regular movement, the benefits of deep, intentional breathing to enhance physical and mental well-being, and the complexities of mental health disorders, shedding light on common misunderstandings and the reasons why some supplements may not deliver their promised benefits. 

    In this interview, you'll learn:

    How to boost your emotional health with simple daily practices

    How to reduce health risks by moving more throughout the day

    How to deepen and lengthen your breaths for better health

    How to clear your mind by understanding and addressing brain fog

    This conversation is focused on empowering listeners with knowledge to make healthier lifestyle choices.

    With Love and Gratitude,

    Jay Shetty

    What We Discuss:

    00:00 Intro

    01:13 Predicting Your Lifespan

    09:17 What Is An Emotional State?

    12:54 Sedentary Lifestyle Is a Health Hazard

    15:37 Why You Need to Breath Deeper and Longer

    22:44 Why Mental Health Disorders are Often Misunderstood

    32:20 The Some Supplements Don’t Work

    36:54 The Science Behind Brain Fog

    44:30 Pre and Postpartum Care

    48:55 Folic Acid Mutation

    50:36 Deficiencies Are Passed Down, Not Diseases

    56:01 What’s Wrong with Tap Water?

    01:03:02 How Much Chlorine is in Your Water?

    01:06:41 Gary on Final Five 

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    See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    🔑 Key Takeaways

    • Discovering a podcast that resonates with you can lead to significant improvements in overall wellbeing through small changes such as subscribing or making lifestyle adjustments.
    • Through access to extensive medical records and demographic data, the life insurance industry can accurately predict an individual's lifespan to the month, potentially revolutionizing modern medicine by revealing diagnostic mistakes and medical errors.
    • Improving oxygen management through nutrient intake and emotional states can lead to better health outcomes and elevated emotional experiences
    • Regular movement, a healthy diet, and a sense of purpose can improve mental fitness and lead to better emotional well-being by ensuring proper oxygenation of the brain, which is essential for energy production and waste elimination.
    • Deep, intentional breaths enhance oxygen intake, supporting overall health and potentially adding years to our lives
    • Deep breathing engages the lobes of the lungs, alkalizes the blood, elevates mood, acts as an antidote to disease, and can be done anywhere, anytime.
    • Podcasts like Koala Moon, Bedtime History, and Stories for Kids by Lingo Kids provide educational and enjoyable bedtime experiences for children through original stories, sleep meditations, historical narratives, and interactive activities. Mental health and nutrition are interconnected, and mental health disorders may be linked to vitamin deficiencies.
    • Addressing nutrient deficiencies in the gut could be crucial for mental health, as they impact neurotransmitter production
    • A gene mutation called COMT can disrupt neurotransmitter metabolism, leading to sleep disturbances. Methylated B vitamins can help regulate neurotransmitters and promote healthy sleep patterns.
    • Determine missing raw materials and deficiencies through tests, address root causes for informed decisions on supplementation and health improvement
    • Having optimal levels of testosterone, DHEA, and vitamin D3 can lead to increased red blood cell count and hemoglobin, resulting in improved oxygen transportation, energy levels, focus, and deeper, restorative sleep.
    • Addressing deficiencies in DHEA, D3, boron, and other essential nutrients can improve hormone levels and overall wellbeing, often without the need for hormone therapy.
    • Understanding your unique genetic makeup can help prevent postpartum depression by identifying which nutrients your body can effectively use. Consider getting a genetic test to determine if you have the MTHFR gene mutation and focus on methyl folate instead of high doses of synthetic folic acid.
    • Instead of blaming external factors for health issues, explore internal causes for better health outcomes
    • Genetic mutations can cause anxiety and health conditions like hypertension and hypothyroidism. It's essential to address these deficiencies through targeted interventions, and be mindful of what we consume to avoid harmful substances.
    • Be mindful of what we consume and allow into our lives, considering the potential negative impacts on our health, even if the substances seem harmless.
    • Consider testing tap water for chlorine and choose filtered or bottled water to minimize exposure to potential health risks like synthetic estrogens.
    • To effectively address challenges, focus on expanding your purpose instead of shrinking problems.

    📝 Podcast Summary

    Exploring the World of Podcasts: Entertainment, Education, and Inspiration

    There are numerous podcasts available on various platforms that cater to different interests and needs. From Laverne Cox's entertaining and insightful conversations on her show, to Katherine Nikolai's bedtime stories designed to help you sleep, to Jay Shetty's inspiring interviews with renowned personalities, there's something for everyone. Additionally, Gary Brecker, the co-founder and chief biologist of 10x Health, emphasizes the importance of biohacking and functional medicine in achieving optimal health and longevity. A key message from the podcast episode is that small changes, such as subscribing to a channel or making simple lifestyle adjustments, can lead to significant improvements in overall wellbeing. So, whether you're looking for entertainment, education, or inspiration, consider tuning in to a podcast that resonates with you.

    Predicting Lifespan in the Life Insurance Industry

    Large data analysis in the life insurance industry can accurately predict an individual's lifespan to the month. This is possible due to access to extensive medical records and demographic data, which includes the cause and location of death for millions of lives. The insurance industry's ability to predict mortality is impressive, with a valid death claim never failing to be paid in the US. This data could revolutionize modern medicine by revealing mistakes in diagnostics and medical errors, which are the third leading cause of death. Despite the common belief that all humans die of different causes, the truth is that we all die due to hypoxia, or lack of oxygen to the brain. Predicting the convergence of various processes in the body that lead to hypoxia allows for a more accurate prediction of the end of someone's life.

    The importance of oxygen for physical and emotional health

    The presence of adequate oxygen in the body plays a crucial role in both physical and emotional health. From a medical perspective, understanding someone's oxygen management is essential for predicting their health outcomes. However, the speaker emphasized that most health issues stem from modifiable risk factors, often related to nutrient deficiencies. Emotionally, oxygen plays a significant role as well. Neurotransmitters, which determine our emotional states, are often bound to oxygen. Therefore, improving the oxidative state can lead to elevated emotional experiences and better overall well-being. Furthermore, our emotional state currently determines our future by accessing memories and influencing our consciousness. Thus, focusing on enhancing emotional states for extended periods could significantly improve one's future.

    Improve mental fitness for optimal brain health

    People who struggle with emotional states and mood disorders may not be deficient in specific mental health conditions, but rather in mental fitness. This mental fitness can be improved through regular movement, a sense of purpose, and a whole foods diet. The key to maintaining optimal brain health lies in ensuring proper oxygenation of the brain, which is hindered by sedentary lifestyles and shallow breathing. This lack of oxygen can negatively impact the mitochondria in cells, leading to a decrease in energy production and the inability to eliminate waste, repair, and regenerate. Therefore, incorporating regular movement, a healthy diet, and a sense of purpose into daily life can significantly improve overall mental and emotional well-being.

    The impact of breathing on health and longevity

    The way we breathe significantly impacts our health and longevity. Shallow, quick breaths can lead to decreased oxygen intake, making the blood more acidic and less hospitable to good health. Practicing breathwork, such as Wim Hof's method, can help increase oxygen intake by taking deeper, less frequent breaths. As we age, we often stop using our full respiratory capacity, but incorporating breathwork practices like this into our daily routine can help improve overall health and potentially add years to our lives. By focusing on deep, intentional breaths, we can enhance our body's ability to oxygenate our blood and support our overall well-being.

    Deep Breathing: A Powerful Tool for Improved Health and Emotions

    Practicing deep, obnoxiously deep breaths can significantly improve your health and emotional state. During shallow breathing, only the apex of the lungs is used, while deep breathing engages the lobes where two-thirds of the storage capacity is. This deep breathing not only elevates mood and emotional state but also acts as an antidote to disease by alkalizing the blood. The practice involves three rounds of 30 deep breaths, followed by holding the exhale for as long as possible to build carbon dioxide, the main vasodilator in the human body. This practice, which is free and portable, can be done anywhere, including during long flights, and can even be done in a group setting to enhance the experience. Deep breathing is a simple yet powerful tool for optimizing health and well-being.

    Podcasts for Bedtime Stories and Learning

    Podcasts like Koala Moon and Bedtime History, as well as Stories for Kids by Lingo Kids, can make bedtime an enjoyable and educational experience for children. Koala Moon, hosted by Abby, offers original stories and sleep meditations to help children relax and fall asleep, while Bedtime History provides engaging historical stories with inspirational messages. Stories for Kids by Lingo Kids offers interactive and fun activities. Additionally, mental health and vitamin deficiencies may be linked, as neurotransmitters, which are responsible for mood and emotional states, can be affected by nutrient imbalances. Mental health disorders, such as anxiety and depression, can be treated with supplements and dietary changes, although severe cases require professional medical attention.

    Link between gut health and emotional experiences

    Our emotional experiences, such as fear and anxiety, are linked to the production of neurotransmitters like serotonin and dopamine, which are derived from amino acids in the gut. Deficiencies in these amino acids could lead to deficiencies in neurotransmitters, potentially contributing to mental health issues. The speaker argues that addressing these underlying nutrient deficiencies could be an important first step in treating mental health conditions, rather than solely relying on therapy or medication. The human body's complex design and the role of nutrients in maintaining optimal health further support this perspective.

    The role of neurotransmitters and metabolism in sleep

    Our body goes through a continuous cycle of metabolism, where waste is created and then transformed into something useful. This concept can be applied to neurotransmitters like catecholamines, which can lead to sleep disturbances when not properly metabolized. A gene mutation called COMT can impact the ability to down-regulate these neurotransmitters, leading to excess catecholamines in the brain and difficulty falling asleep. Fortunately, this condition can be addressed through supplementation with methylated B vitamins, providing the body with the necessary raw materials to regulate neurotransmitters and promote healthy sleep patterns. While studying seemingly unrelated subjects like plant biology may not seem fascinating at first, it's essential to remember that all areas of science are interconnected and can lead to valuable discoveries. In the case of sleep disturbances, understanding the role of neurotransmitters and their metabolism can lead to simple and effective solutions.

    Identifying nutrient deficiencies for optimal health

    Just as a tree needs the right nutrients in the soil to thrive, human bodies require specific nutrients to function optimally. Neglecting to identify and address nutrient deficiencies can lead to various health issues. The speaker emphasizes the importance of obtaining data about one's body through tests like blood work and genetic methylation tests to determine missing raw materials and deficiencies. By focusing on addressing these root causes, individuals can make more informed decisions about supplementation and overall health improvement. For instance, brain fog could be a sign of low oxygen levels in the blood, which can be addressed by improving the oxidative state through various methods, such as increasing oxygen intake.

    Optimal hormone and nutrient levels for red blood cell production

    There is a connection between low levels of testosterone, DHEA, and vitamin D3, and the production of red blood cells and hemoglobin. This means that having optimal levels of these hormones and nutrients can lead to an increase in red blood cell count and hemoglobin, resulting in improved oxygen transportation in the blood. This, in turn, can lead to increased energy levels, better focus and concentration, and deeper sleep. Additionally, it's important to note that sleep medications can interfere with the brain's ability to detect low oxygen levels and wake us up, leading to a deeper sleep that may not be restorative. By addressing deficiencies in these hormones and nutrients, individuals may experience significant improvements in their overall health and well-being.

    Optimizing hormonal balance through essential nutrients

    Access to optimal health and wellbeing is key, especially when it comes to hormonal balance. The body's oxidative state plays a significant role in this, and addressing deficiencies in essential nutrients can make a big difference. For example, some individuals may only need to supplement with nutrients like DHEA, D3, or boron to improve their hormone levels and feel better. Hormone therapy is not always necessary. The menstrual cycle and pregnancy demonstrate the body's natural hormonal fluctuations, and postpartum care is crucial to restore balance. The MTHFR gene mutation, which affects the conversion of folic acid into methylfolate, is common and can lead to various health issues, including miscarriages, infertility, and postpartum depression. Ensuring the body can effectively use the most prevalent nutrients in the diet is essential for overall health.

    MTHFR gene mutation and postpartum depression

    The common practice of prescribing high doses of folic acid to pregnant women with the MTHFR gene mutation, which they cannot process effectively, can lead to postpartum depression. Instead, providing methyl folate, a form of folate that the body can naturally use, could prevent this issue. It's important to note that folic acid is a synthetic chemical not found in nature and was not even available until the 1990s. By understanding our unique genetic makeup, we can identify which nutrients our bodies can effectively use and focus on those for optimal health. To determine if you have the MTHFR gene mutation, consider getting a genetic cheek swab test. This test can provide valuable information about your body's ability to convert raw nutrients into usable forms, allowing you to make informed decisions about your health.

    Consider the root cause within

    Instead of focusing on external factors when experiencing physical or mental health issues, we should consider the possibility that the root cause might be coming from within. Using the example of a rotting leaf in a tree, Dr. Bradford encourages us to think that something happening within us could be the cause of our symptoms, rather than something happening to us. For instance, gut issues might not be solely related to what we last ate, but could be due to a deficiency in a simple nutrient like methyl folate, which affects the peristaltic activity of the gut. By considering this perspective, we may realize that we're not as sick or pathological as we believe, and that addressing the root cause within ourselves can lead to improved health and wellbeing.

    Genetic causes of anxiety and health conditions

    Anxiety and certain health conditions are not necessarily caused by external factors, but rather by internal deficiencies that are often inherited. For example, anxiety can be a result of a genetic mutation that affects the regulation of certain chemicals in the brain. Similarly, conditions like hypertension and hypothyroidism can be caused by an inability to convert certain raw materials into their usual forms. It's important to recognize that these deficiencies can be passed down through generations and can be addressed through targeted interventions, rather than focusing on external factors that may not be the root cause of the issue. Additionally, it's essential to be mindful of what we consume, such as tap water, which can contain harmful substances like fluoride, chlorine, microplastics, glyphosate, and pharmaceuticals. These substances can negatively impact our health if not properly filtered out. Overall, it's crucial to prioritize our health and understand that some conditions may have underlying genetic causes that require specific interventions.

    Consider the long-term effects of substances in our lives

    We need to be more conscious and intentional about what we allow into our bodies and lives. The speaker shares an example of how people may focus on business metrics but neglect their health, specifically mentioning the potential dangers of consuming fluoride in tap water. Fluoride, a byproduct of phosphate fertilizer production, is neurotoxic and can negatively impact IQ, especially in children. The speaker encourages us to consider the long-term effects of seemingly harmless substances and make deliberate choices to prioritize our health. The speaker's call to action is to filter out harmful substances, like fluoride in tap water, and only allow things that serve us into our lives.

    Considering the Quality of Water: Filtered vs Tap

    It's important to consider the quality of the water we consume and the potential health risks associated with tap water. The speaker uses an echo water filter with a four-stage RO filter and re-mineralizes the water with sea salt to ensure the intake of essential minerals. Chlorine in tap water can be absorbed through the skin, and there are concerns about the presence of synthetic estrogens like BPAs in plastic water bottles and food containers. These substances can have hormonal effects and potentially disrupt menstrual cycles. The speaker encourages testing tap water for chlorine and considering alternatives like filtered or bottled water to minimize exposure to these potential health risks.

    Focus on growing your purpose to shrink your problems

    According to Gary Brack, the best advice he's ever received is to focus on growing your purpose to shrink your problems. He also emphasized the importance of pausing before speaking. During the conversation, they touched upon various topics, including the worst advice received, something no longer valued, and defining current purpose. If listeners want to make a change, they are encouraged to choose one thing from the episode and commit to it for the next seven days. Other podcast recommendations included conversations on relationships, longevity, and well-being.

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    Laura shares personal stories and professional experiences that illustrate the transformative power of tuning into the inner wisdom. She outlines practical steps anyone can take to cultivate a stronger connection with their inner voice, such as meditation, reflective practices, and journaling. These activities help clear the mental clutter, allowing the inner voice to emerge more clearly and influentially.

    Jay and Laura also explore common challenges people face, like doubts and confusion about following this inner guidance, and provide reassuring advice on how to overcome these obstacles. Laura also stresses the value of trusting and acting on the insights provided by the inner voice, highlighting how this trust can lead to a more authentic, fulfilling life.

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    How to interpret your feelings

    How to trust your intuition

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    As you become more attuned to this powerful guide, you'll find clarity and direction in areas of life where you need it most. Don’t ignore it; embrace it and let it lead you to a more connected and fulfilling life.

    With Love and Gratitude,

    Jay Shetty

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    00:00 Intro

    03:05 The Difference Between a Psychic and a Medium

    06:59 We All Have Psychic Abilities

    09:50 Discovering Your Own Ability

    17:31 My Brainwave Patterns Are Different

    22:04 The Psychic Abilities We Aren’t Aware Of

    32:17 Weakened Disconnection to Our Inner Voice

    35:50 Standing Firm with Your Moments of Knowing

    40:41 How to Reconnect with Disconnected Relationships?

    49:32 What Does Infatuation Mean?

    55:27 Vibrations of Love

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    01:17:02 The Answers is Within Us

    01:23:14 Being Still Within Yourself

    01:25:19 Death Is Not A Dead End

    01:35:02 How to Connect with Your Soul?

    01:39:20 Getting Into Your Light Energy

    01:42:44 Laura on Final Five

    Episode Resources:

    See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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    Do you want to know how to respectfully tell others about your boundaries?

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    How to NO effectively

    How to communicate boundaries clearly

    How to handle other people's reactions

    How to build confidence in setting boundaries

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    With Love and Gratitude,

    Jay Shetty

    What We Discuss:

    00:00 Intro

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    17:53 #5: Plan a Buffer

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    With Love and Gratitude,

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    25:05 Worst Thing About Being Me

    29:11 Dealing with Online Hate

    31:36 She’s Not My Mom Anymore

    37:46 Processing and Dealing with Grief

    43:36 Resenting and Forgiving My Father

    48:46 The Phone Call with My Dad

    55:24 Let’s Understand People’s Stories

    57:59 Self Care is a Process

    01:02:15 My Father Was Sick

    01:05:07 Make Home in Your Childhood Community

    01:10:29 The Love to Entertain People

    01:18:07 What Would Little T be Proud Of?

    01:20:24 Childhood Dreams

    01:25:09 TIffany on Final Five

    Episode Resources:

    See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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    In this interview, you'll learn:

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    With Love and Gratitude,

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    59:21 Growth Mindset With Your Partner

    Episode Resources:

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    With Love and Gratitude,

    Jay Shetty

    What We Discuss:

    00:00 Intro

    04:20 Where Does Your Idea of Love Come From?

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    31:47 Tactics Are Different From Relationship Standards

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    51:20 Practice Having Real and Difficult Conversations

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    01:15:05 Dealing with the Different Phases of Heartbreak

    01:26:31 What’s Next for Matthew?    

    Episode Resources:

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    In this episode, you'll learn:

    How to use over thinking for problem-solving

    How to manage alarmed responses

    How to use physical movement for mental clarity

    How to focus on positives and small wins

    Don't let overthinking hold you back! Start implementing these strategies today and take control of your mental space.

    With Love and Gratitude,

    Jay Shetty

    What We Discuss:

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    18:19 #3: Avoid Responding While You’re Feeling Alarmed

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    24:23 #7: Go Back to Analog

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    Orlando Bloom: 3 Reasons Why You Need to Allow Yourself to Make Mistakes & Shift Your Perspective on Fear

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    Do you stop yourself from making mistakes? 

    Do you want to shift your perspective on fear? 

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    In this interview, you’ll learn:
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    How to incorporate mindfulness into everyday activities
    How to explore and embrace different aspects of your personality
    How to use life's challenges as growth opportunities

    Tune in now for a discussion full of insights on overcoming fears, embracing spirituality, and pursuing personal growth.  

    With Love and Gratitude,
    Jay Shetty

    What We Discuss:
    02:28 Working in an Unscripted Space
    06:09 What’s Your Earliest Childhood Fear?
    08:35 Practicing Buddhism
    13:49 The Lotus Sutra
    20:16 The 8 Wins
    26:28 Trusting Your Life and Becoming Capable
    36:33 Being Present While on the Edge
    44:48 Any Moment Could Be Your Last
    45:43 The Deepest Mirror You’ll Ever Have
    48:58 What Did You Learn from Your Past Relationships?
    51:22 Introducing Buddhism Practice to My Kids
    55:33 Whatever You’re Saying, You Become
    01:02:22 Loving the Parenting Journey
    01:07:16 The Impacts of Your Decisions
    01:09:13 Opportunities Through Obstacles
    01:17:40 Buddhism Is My Anchor
    01:18:59 The Fear You’re Currently Overcoming
    01:26:04 Orlando Bloom on Final Five

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    4 Ways to Know if It Is Time To End Your Relationship (When the Signs Are Not Clear and Things are Not Bad)

    4 Ways to Know if It Is Time To End Your Relationship (When the Signs Are Not Clear and Things are Not Bad)

    Do you find yourself often thinking about breaking up?

    Do you and your partner have unresolved conflicts that keep resurfacing?

    In this episode, Jay tackles the tough emotions and uncertainty many face when considering a breakup. He talks about why people stay in or leave relationships, touching on key factors like emotional closeness, personal investment, and the impact of family responsibilities. Jay also discusses how to ensure emotional security and the risks of staying for financial reasons or out of obligation. 

    In this episode you’ll learn:

    How to recognize emotional investment

    How to assess emotional security

    How to consider financial implications

    How to navigate emotional intimacy

    This honest conversation provides you with the insights to evaluate your relationship more clearly, helping you decide whether to work on it or move on, based on a deeper understanding of your feelings and the relationship's dynamics.

    With Love and Gratitude,

    Jay Shetty

    What We Discuss:

    00:00 Intro

    01:10 When to End Your Relationship

    04:48 10 Reason Why People Stay in a Relationship

    12:44 Top 10 Reasons to Leave Your Relationship

    18:14 The Three Cancers of the Mind

    24:44 Difference in Scorecard Perspective

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    Benny Blanco: 3 Ways to Stop Caring About Failure & Get Out of Your Own Way

    Benny Blanco: 3 Ways to Stop Caring About Failure & Get Out of Your Own Way

    How can you overcome the fear of failure?

    What can you do daily to care less about failing?

    Today, Jay sits down with Benny Blanco for an inspiring conversation about pursuing passions, mentorship, failure, and continuous motivation. Benny has made a huge mark on the music industry contributing to hundreds of millions of album sales worldwide. Benny has worked with A-List artists like Ed Sheeran, Justin Bieber, and Katy Perry. As a solo artist, his albums "Friends Keep Secrets" and its sequel have amassed over 11 billion streams, featuring multiple platinum hits. Beyond music, Benny has ventured into television and even released a cookbook, "Open Wide," showcasing his diverse talents and interests

    Benny shares insight on how to not let failure stop you and getting over imposter syndrome. We also go dive into Benny’s life outside of music, exploring his passion for cooking through his cookbook "Open Wide." Plus, Benny talks about his relationships, how he keeps his creativity flowing, and the small joys that make his life special.

    In this interview, you’ll learn:

    How to pursue your passion with limited resources

    How to not let failure get in your way of achieving your goals

    How to embrace the unexpected in creative work

    How to transition your passion into different fields

    How to find joy and creativity in everyday moments

    Don't miss this intimate look at Benny Blanco's life and maybe learn a thing or two about making your own multi-track masterpiece or the perfect dish to serve at dinner!

    With Love and Gratitude,

    Jay Shetty

    What We Discuss:

    00:00 Intro

    03:43 What’s the First Creative Thing You Put Together?

    06:15 I Never Cared About Failure

    10:33 Developing Amnesia to Failure

    14:22 How Did You Meet Your Mentor?

    18:10 “The Boy I Mentored” 

    23:42 How Do You Show Up After a Rejection?

    26:51 Love Can Be Felt Through Music

    29:56 What Do You Do When You Wake Up?   

    32:02 Why Do You Struggle with Meditation?

    33:28 Why I Went to Therapy

    38:25 The Pressure of Perfectionism

    44:49 Do You Love to Cook?

    47:20 Do You Eat Healthy?

    48:47 Finding Comfort in Food

    54:42 What’s Your Sleep Pattern?

    56:40 Friendships Built Over the Years

    59:19 Multigenerational Friendships

    01:03:44 Better Relationship After Divorce

    01:05:52 Benny on Final Five   

    01:15:57 What’s Your Vice?

    01:17:53 Do You Take Supplements?

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    Why Your Self Worth is Keeping You Stuck & How to Stop Sabotaging Your Personal Growth With Jamie Kern Lima

    Why Your Self Worth is Keeping You Stuck & How to Stop Sabotaging Your Personal Growth With Jamie Kern Lima

    How does low self-worth stop you from moving forward?

    How can you stop self-sabotage and grow personally?

    Today, let’s welcome Jamie Kern Lima. Jamie is a New York Times bestselling author, founder of IT Cosmetics, a company she started in her living room and sold to L'Oreal in a billion-dollar deal, becoming the first female CEO of a brand in its 100+ year history. She's also an active philanthropist who has funded leadership training in more than 100 prisons and shelters across the US, and has donated over $40 million in product and funds to help women face the effects of cancer with confidence. 

    Jamie and Jay ponder on the meaning of self-worth, distinguishing it from mere confidence and challenging the misguided belief that our value is tied to our physical appearance. We get to hear the detrimental effects of self-doubt and present empowering strategies to transform your relationship with rejection, offering a new perspective that fosters resilience and self-compassion. 

    And then the conversation dives deep into personal beliefs, urging us to identify and discard unhelpful misconceptions, while giving emphasis on why authenticity is crucial and its role in conjunction with other factors in achieving success. 

    In this interview, you'll learn:

    How to build self-worth

    How to distinguish confidence from self-worth

    How to handle rejection

    How to overcome self-doubt

    How to remain authentic

    Together, let's learn how to distinguish your worth from external validation, turn rejection into a stepping stone, and live authentically.

    With Love and Gratitude,

    Jay Shetty

    What We Discuss:

    00:00 Intro

    03:17 Do You Feel Worthy Today?

    10:04 Confusing Confidence with Self Worth

    17:37 Your Weight Impacts Your Worth is a Lie 

    24:03 What Has Self Doubt Cost You?

    31:25 How to Change Your Relationship with Rejection

    37:02 The 4-Part R to Reframe Rejection

    44:00 You Need This Today

    48:13 Which Lie Are You Trying to Unlearn? 

    56:32 Authenticity Alone Doesn’t Guarantee Success

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