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    3 Ways To Brainwash Yourself for Success & A More Meaningful Life

    Maintain a positive mindset, align energy, and find meaning in setbacks to unlock inner power and achieve goals.

    enApril 01, 2024

    About this Episode

    In today’s episode, you’ll learn 3 surprising steps to help you unlock the unlimited power of your mind, grounded in exciting research.

    You were meant to see this today.

    There is a reason you need to listen.

    You can feel inspired, energized, and in control again, if you know how to turn on your mind’s superpowers.

    Your mind has unlimited potential, and there are larger possibilities available to you, but you haven’t been taught how to unlock them.

    YET.

    Wouldn’t it be amazing if you had a sense that life was conspiring to help you?

    That there are signs that you are on the right path if you know how to look for them?

    That things are working out for you? 

    You deserve to live a life filled with meaning and purpose. Today you’ll learn 3 ways to make that happen.

    This episode is a companion to Mel's brand new free training, Make It Happen

    This training is designed to help you make your next 6 months extraordinary.  It includes a 29 page workbook and 2 video trainings that use the latest research to help you get clear about what you want and create a plan to make it happen.

    And the cool part? It takes less than a minute for you to get started. Just sign up at melrobbins.com/makeithappen

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    🔑 Key Takeaways

    • Focus on synchronicities, be open to the unexpected, practice gratitude, and reflect on the significance of seemingly coincidental events to tap into the profound and magical experiences life has to offer, potentially leading to increased life satisfaction.
    • Recognizing synchronicities as signs of deeper meaning can increase life satisfaction and resilience
    • Practicing stating and claiming synchronicities, mastering energy, and finding a bigger meaning can help tap into a deeper connection and lead to greater happiness and fulfillment
    • Claiming desired outcomes as synchronicities can deepen your connection to life and increase belief in creating positive changes.
    • Focusing on your intention and trusting the process can lead to finding what you're looking for in unexpected ways
    • Believing in your intention can lead to unexpected opportunities and uncover hidden solutions
    • Setting intentions and embracing a positive mindset can lead to desirable connections and synchronicities, ultimately shaping a more fulfilling and meaningful life.
    • State your desires as if they've already happened and align your energy to attract positive outcomes. Practice positive self-talk and energy alignment for greater success and deeper meaning in life.
    • Visualize and feel emotions of achieving goals to shift energy and increase likelihood of attracting outcomes.
    • Believing in signs and synchronicities can amplify success and add meaning to daily life. By setting intentions and aligning energy, you can strengthen your connection to a guiding force and find deeper significance in everyday experiences.
    • Maintain a positive mindset, align energy, and find meaning in setbacks to unlock inner power and achieve goals.
    • Sign up for Mel Robbins' free 'Make It Happen' training to push through fear and take action, backed by science, available at her website.

    📝 Podcast Summary

    Unlocking the power of synchronicities

    You have the power to experience more synchronicities in your life, leading to greater success and a more meaningful experience. Synchronicities are unexplainable moments that leave you with a sense of being guided by the universe. By learning to recognize and create these moments, you can unlock the power of your mind and spirit. Research suggests that focusing on synchronicities can lead to increased life satisfaction. You can start by being open to the unexpected, practicing gratitude, and reflecting on the significance of seemingly coincidental events. These steps can help you tap into the profound and magical experiences that life has to offer.

    Viewing seemingly random events as signs of deeper meaning

    Seeing the deeply personal meaning behind seemingly random events in our lives can help us tap into a deeper sense of meaning and unlock the power of our minds. Instead of dismissing these moments as coincidences, we can choose to view them as signs of something greater. This perspective not only increases our life satisfaction but also bolsters our resilience during challenging times. Research supports this idea, showing that simply being aware of synchronicities can lead to greater life satisfaction. So next time you encounter a seemingly random event, try seeing it as a sign on the right path towards deeper meaning and personal growth.

    Recognizing synchronicities can lead to greater meaning and happiness

    Recognizing and embracing the signs of synchronicity in your life can lead to greater optimism, resilience, and a more profound sense of meaning. These signs are not coincidences but rather evidence of a deeper connection at work. By practicing the three skills of stating and claiming synchronicities, mastering your energy, and finding a bigger meaning, you can tap into this deeper connection and experience more success and a more meaningful life. As Dr. Bernard Beitman's research shows, people who experience a high number of synchronicities often report greater happiness and fulfillment. So, consider the signs you encounter in your daily life as confirmation that you're on the right path and an opportunity to open yourself up to greater possibilities.

    Practicing referential thinking and stating desires

    Practicing the skill of stating your desires and claiming them when they manifest can help you feel more connected to the world around you and increase your belief in your ability to create positive changes in your life. This skill, known as referential thinking, allows you to see events as connected to you and take ownership for creating the energy shift that leads to synchronicities. You can start practicing this skill by stating what you want in specific terms and then claiming it when it happens, rather than dismissing it as a coincidence. This simple act of intention and confidence can help you create a more meaningful and personal connection to your experiences. A powerful example of this is setting an intention before entering a situation, such as finding a specific item at a market, and then staying focused on that intention throughout the experience. By stating and claiming your desires, you can harness the unexplainable or quantum nature of the universe to bring about positive changes in your life.

    Believing in what you want can lead to unexpected discoveries

    Having a clear intention and repeatedly expressing it can lead to unexpected discoveries. The woman in this story believed she would find a perfect red and white antique shaker quilt, and despite encountering several disappointments throughout the day, she remained determined. Eventually, she found a quilt with her daughter's name, Sawyer, written all over it, which was a rare wedding quilt from 200 years ago. This experience demonstrates the power of focusing on what you want and trusting that it will manifest in unexpected ways. To apply this concept in your own life, before going shopping, create a mental scavenger hunt by stating what you intend to find, even if you don't know exactly what's available. This can help you tap into the power of manifestation and increase your chances of finding what you're looking for.

    The power of setting an intention

    Having a clear and focused intention can create unexpected opportunities. In the story, Amy and her daughter Jane went to TJ Maxx with the intention of finding a dress for an upcoming dance. Despite initial setbacks and seemingly insurmountable obstacles, Amy's unwavering belief and determination led them to discover a perfect dress on a random rack of pajamas. This experience highlights the power of setting an intention and trusting that the universe will bring opportunities to fulfill it. By practicing this mindset, we can open ourselves up to experiencing life in a richer and more meaningful way, and potentially uncover hidden opportunities that we might otherwise overlook. So, the next time you're faced with a challenge or a goal, try stating your intention clearly and believing that the universe will bring you the solution.

    Believing in positive outcomes before they happen

    Having a positive mindset and believing that good things will happen before they do can significantly impact your experiences and opportunities. By setting your intentions and declaring what you want, you open yourself up to potential connections and synchronicities that may lead to desirable outcomes. This practice can also be applied to reflecting on the past and recognizing how seemingly challenging experiences have led you to where you are today. Ultimately, embracing the belief that the universe is conspiring to guide you can lead to a more fulfilling and meaningful life.

    Harnessing the Power of Thoughts and Emotions

    Our thoughts and emotions play a significant role in shaping our experiences and outcomes in life. The first skill to harness this power is to state what you want as if it's already happened and then claim it when it manifests. The second skill is to align your energy with your desires, which can be challenging when faced with frustrating situations. By mastering your energy, you can create a positive and productive state that attracts the outcomes you seek. This practice of positive self-talk and energy alignment is a form of "brainwashing" that can lead to greater success and deeper meaning in life. Remember, the more you practice this with others, the more you amplify each other's positive energy.

    Imagine and feel your goals to align your energy

    Aligning your energy with your goals can help bring about positive outcomes in your life. This can be achieved by imagining and feeling the emotions of having already achieved what you desire, even before it happens. This practice, called "acting as if," can help you master your energy and shift it to align with your goals. A simple hack to help you get started is by creating a mood-shifting playlist and listening to it when you need a boost. By focusing on your desired outcome and the feelings it brings, you can put yourself in a positive state of mind and increase the likelihood of attracting that outcome into your life. Remember, it takes time and practice, but with consistency, it can become a powerful tool for manifesting your desires.

    Expecting signs and aligning energy

    Believing in a bigger meaning behind everyday occurrences can amplify success and bring more meaning to your life. This involves setting your intentions, aligning your energy, and recognizing signs or synchronicities as messages from something greater. By practicing this skill, even on seemingly insignificant days, you can strengthen your connection to this guiding force and make every day feel more meaningful. An example given was the experience of seeing a hummingbird as a sign from a loved one who had passed away. By expecting to see this sign and aligning your energy, you can unlock the power of your mind to help you notice it and find greater significance in your daily experiences. This practice can lead to a deeper sense of connection and guidance in your life.

    Staying Positive During a Crisis

    During a professional crisis or business disaster, it's essential to maintain a positive mindset and keep believing in your goals. The speaker shares her experience of a failed book launch due to a glitch in Amazon's system. Instead of giving up, she used the three steps of stating her goal, mastering her energy, and finding the bigger meaning to keep going. Despite initial setbacks, her audiobook became a bestseller on Audible, leading to a successful partnership. This story illustrates the power of persistence, belief, and the ability to find meaning in seemingly unfortunate events. By staying focused on your goals, aligning your energy, and keeping an open mind, you can unlock your inner power to create the outcomes you desire.

    Believing in listeners' potential for success

    Mel Robbins, the host of the podcast, expresses her love and belief in her listeners' ability to create a better life and achieve greater success. She also announces a free two-part training called "Make It Happen," designed to help listeners push through fear and take consistent, confident action. This training, which comes with a workbook, is available at Mel Robbins' website and is backed by science. Mel encourages listeners to sign up and share the link with loved ones to create a supportive community for taking action. The podcast is for educational and entertainment purposes only and should not be considered a substitute for professional advice.

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