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Michelle O’Neill’s election as First Minister of Northern Ireland made worldwide headlines.

On today’s Free State, Joe reflects on the importance of O’Neill’s election and considers what it means for the nationalist community. 

Joe and Dion look at the generous speeches of O’Neill and the deputy first minister Emma Little-Pengelly and consider their journeys to this point. 

It is a moment of real significance where history may now become just that - history. It is a moment where Ulster finally said Yes.

Free State with Joe Brolly and Dion Fanning is a Gold Hat Production in association with SwanMcG.

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You can set your watch to it. They flake or break up with you . . . you spend weeks — in fact, months — hurting and getting over them, and just as you realize you no longer think about them all the time and begin to feel happy again, you get the text.
 
“Hey, how you doing?”
 
Does this sound familiar? I suspect it does . . .
 
So what is this phenomenon? Why do they always come back? What does it mean? And more importantly, what do you SAY when they do?
 
In today’s episode, I talk about 5 possible reasons why they come back.

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Why is it so hard to say 'I'm sorry?' In the final episode of our Healing 2.0 series, we talk with psychologist Tyler Okimoto about the mental barriers that keep us from admitting when we've done something wrong, as well as the transformative power of apologies.

If  you liked this episode, check out the rest of our Healing 2.0 series. And if you know someone who would benefit from the ideas we explored in this series, please share these episodes with them. Thanks! 

Earlier this week, we heard a Palestinian perspective on the conflict. Today, I wanted to have on an Israeli perspective.

Yossi Klein Halevi is a senior fellow at the Shalom Hartman Institute in Jerusalem and the author, most recently, of “Letters to My Palestinian Neighbor.”

In this episode, we discuss Halevi’s unusual education as an Israeli Defense Forces soldier in Gaza during the first intifada, the “seminal disconnect” between how Israel is viewed from the inside versus from the outside, Halevi’s view that a Palestinian state is both an “existential need” and an “existential threat” for Israel, the failures of the Oslo peace process and how the second intifada hardened Israeli attitudes toward peace, what Oct. 7 meant for the contract between the Israeli people and the state, the lessons and limitations of Sept. 11 analogies and much more.

Book Recommendations:

A Tale of Love and Darkness by Amos Oz

Who By Fire by Matti Friedman

The War of Return by Adi Schwartz and Einat Wilf

Thoughts? Guest suggestions? Email us at ezrakleinshow@nytimes.com.

You can find transcripts (posted midday) and more episodes of “The Ezra Klein Show” at nytimes.com/ezra-klein-podcast, and you can find Ezra on Twitter @ezraklein. Book recommendations from all our guests are listed at https://www.nytimes.com/article/ezra-klein-show-book-recs.

This episode of “The Ezra Klein Show” was produced by Emefa Agawu. Fact-checking by Michelle Harris, with Kate Sinclair, Mary Marge Locker and Kristin Lin. Engineering by Isaac Jones. Our senior editor is Claire Gordon. The show’s production team also includes Jeff Geld and Rollin Hu. Original music by Isaac Jones. Audience strategy by Kristina Samulewski and Shannon Busta. The executive producer of New York Times Opinion Audio is Annie-Rose Strasser. And special thanks to Sonia Herrero.

In this episode, you’re going to learn that it is never too late to try to repair a broken or difficult relationship.

Research shows that estrangement is not only on the rise but that the majority of us have at least one extended family member or friend who is estranged.

I know this is true in my own extended family, and I also have friends who are estranged from their parents.

Whether you’re the person who’s cut off contact or you're the one wondering why someone you love did, our episode today will give you the language, tools, and context to start moving toward understanding and healing.

Dr. Joshua Coleman is a psychologist and best-selling author who works with families to repair broken bonds and help them reconcile and improve difficult or estranged relationships.

In fact, according to Dr. Coleman, the strategies he shares work, and the statistics are in your favor.

I hope you share this with anyone you know dealing with a difficult relationship. It is very common, especially after a divorce and when there is a new spouse or significant other.

When someone you love suddenly pulls away or cuts you out of their life, you need a playbook to help you know when to reach out and when not to reach out, and what exactly to say and not say.

Today you’ll learn:

• Why estrangement is on the rise.
• What some therapists do wrong that can make things worse.
• What to do if you’re the sibling caught in the middle.
• How to take responsibility, even if you don’t think you should.
• Early mistakes we make that can lead to estrangement.
• Early steps we can take to avoid estrangement.
• How long it takes to reconcile and where to even begin.

The pain of separation is real, but it doesn’t have to be forever.

Xo, Mel

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• 01:04: The silent epidemic that’s happening right now is estrangement.
• 02:10: What is estrangement?
• 04:42: How "cancel culture" is impacting relationships
• 09:07: The horrible advice for estrangement Dr. Coleman got in therapy.
• 12:24: What moving towards a child's trauma looks like
• 14:07: How do you know if someone has deliberately cut you out of their life?
• 16:32: The most common complaint adult children have for their parents
• 19:56: One of the most common pathways to estrangement
• 22:04: The most common mistakes estranged parents make
• 24:32: Why you cannot take things personally
• 26:35: Why radical acceptance is a required step in reconnecting
• 29:50: Let’s unpack why guilt doesn’t work.
• 35:20: What to do when reconciliation isn’t desired by the other person
• 36:32: What are the steps towards reconciliation?
• 39:07: Why Dr. Coleman says that parents have a moral obligation to take the high road
• 42:10: The silent treatment is wrong. Here’s why
• 47:15: When you should stop reaching out for reconciliation
• 49:30: What is an amends letter, and how should you write it?
• 56:18: How do you engage with someone who doesn’t want to engage with you?

Disclaimer

Today, we are going to explore the Native boarding school systems in Canada, and in our 49th and 50th states, Alaska and Hawaii. The US wasn’t the only nation setting up mandatory residential schools for Indigenous populations, and in the beginning, many of these programs mirrored those of the US with a focus to “civilize” Indigenous children. We’re not referring to merely hundreds of students who were taken from their families, but hundreds of thousands spanning decades. With many students unable to return home and schools operating “in loco parentis,” it would be years before the truth of these atrocities would come to light. 

Note: We would like to issue a content warning for this episode. Some parts of this episode may not be suitable for younger audiences.

Hosted by: Sharon McMahon

Executive Producer: Heather Jackson

Audio Producer: Jenny Snyder

Written and researched by: Heather Jackson, Amy Watkin, Mandy Reid, and KariMarisa Anton

Thank you to our guest K. Tsiannina Lomawaima and some of the music in this episode was composed by indigenous composer R. Carlos Nakai.

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In the second part of Ooh Aah, Up Which Ra, Dion and Joe wonder what being honest about history really means and if Ireland wants to be Austria or Germany. Joe talks about Martin McGuinness and how many people were angered by what he wrote after McGuinness’s death and he also recounts an eye-opening experience at an Old Firm game.

Free State with Joe Brolly and Dion Fanning is a Gold Hat Production in association with SwanMcG.

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A huge number of relationships that end, should end.
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But how do we know if ‘ours’ should have ended. We leave with a giant question mark: “Did I just lose the person I was supposed to be with?”
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That lack of closure is a horrible feeling that eats away at us. We don’t always get perfect closure. But there is a way of being proactive about getting peace of mind if you feel like you have someone who is worth fighting for.
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It’s through a simple conversation, and I tell you how to have it in this video.
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And here’s the good news - whatever happens, you and I are going to move into this next chapter of our lives stronger. (Massive thanks to @rayna.greenberg, @ashhess and the @girlsgottaeatpodcast for making this conversation possible!)

Tonight on Piers Morgan Uncensored, Piers Morgan comments on Prince Harry's response to Jeremy Clarkson's apology and asks if he should be banned from the King's coronation. Piers and Tessa Dunlop have a fiery debate over the Prince with Anne Widdecombe having to intervene! Piers comments on the lack of women in the Brits Best Artist category. Piers looks across the pond to Biden's hypocrisy over classified documents.

Watch Piers Morgan Uncensored at 8 pm on TalkTV on Sky 522, Virgin Media 606, Freeview 237 and Freesat 217. Listen on DAB+ and the app. 

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The phenomenon of babies stolen from hospitals in Spain, once shrouded in secrecy, is now being spoken about.

The thefts happened during the end of the regime of Francisco Franco, the right-wing dictator who ruled the country until 1975, and even today the disappearances remain a subject of mystery and debate among scholars.

According to the birth mothers, nuns who worked in maternity wards took the infants shortly after they were delivered and told the women, who were often unwed or poor, that their children were stillborn. But the babies were not dead: They had been sold, discreetly, to well-off Catholic parents, many of whom could not have families of their own. Under piles of forged papers, the adoptive families buried the secret of the crime they committed. The children who were taken were known in Spain simply as the “stolen babies.” No one knows exactly how many were kidnapped, but estimates suggest tens of thousands.

Nicholas Casey relates Ana Belén Pintado’s discovery, after the deaths of her parents, that she was a “stolen baby,” and considers the web of culpability and the tricky question of blame, as Spain reckons with its past.

This story was written by Nicholas Casey and recorded by Audm. To hear more audio stories from publications like The New York Times, download Audm for iPhone or Android.

Apologies have the potential to heal relationships, soothe hurt feelings and even begin to address historical wrongs. But they’re not always easy to offer. Karina Schumann, PhD, of the University of Pittsburgh, discusses why apologies matter, what makes for a good, effective apology and what makes for a bad one, whether women really do apologize more than men, what to do when someone wants to apologize to you but you’re not ready to forgive them, and the role of institutional and government apologies in addressing historical injustice.

The Justice Department begins investigating Trump for January 6th, Russia pulls out of the International Space Station, and Joe Manchin shocks Washington with a climate change bill compromise. Here's what happened this week.

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