5 Types Of Guilt You Are Going Through And 7 Steps To Stop Letting It Drain Your Energy

    enAugust 11, 2023

    Podcast Summary

    • Understanding the difference between shame and guiltRecognizing the distinction between shame and guilt helps challenge our inner critic, overcome feelings of inadequacy, and understand that we are not alone in experiencing these emotions.

      Shame and guilt are two distinct emotions that can greatly impact our lives. Shame is the belief that we are inherently bad, while guilt stems from acknowledging a specific action we consider to be bad. It is important to recognize the difference between the two, as shame can be a destructive force that leads us to believe we are the problem, rather than identifying a problem we have made. Understanding this distinction allows us to challenge our inner critic and overcome feelings of inadequacy. Additionally, it is comforting to know that everyone experiences shame and guilt in different ways, and we are not alone in these emotions. It is important to be kind to ourselves and acknowledge that perfection is not attainable, as this mindset often leads to feelings of guilt and shame.

    • Overcoming Guilt for Personal GrowthGuilt should be seen as an opportunity for change, not as a hindrance. By separating our identity from our mistakes and accepting them, we can grow and develop as individuals.

      Guilt can hinder personal growth. Jay Shetty discusses various categories of guilt that humans experience, including neglecting someone, not achieving something, and indulging in unfavorable health habits. He emphasizes that guilt should be used as a launchpad for change rather than allowing it to block growth. To overcome guilt, one must separate their identity from their mistakes and failures. By recognizing that they have experienced failure and made mistakes, individuals can create distance between their self-worth and negative beliefs. Acceptance of past mistakes is important, but it is crucial not to define oneself solely based on those mistakes. Life is a combination of successes and failures, and every individual has the capacity for both.

    • Addressing Guilt and Moving ForwardGuilt should be acknowledged and addressed by taking responsibility for past mistakes. It is important to consider the impact on others before apologizing. Changing our behavior in the present is the best way to overcome guilt and create the future we desire.

      It is important to address and accept guilt over past mistakes. Guilt can become deeply rooted and impact our lives and relationships. If possible, reaching out and trying to solve the issue with the person involved is a beautiful thing to do. However, it is crucial to prepare before reaching out and consider the potential impact on the other person. If direct communication is not possible or beneficial, apologizing energetically or as a healing practice can still be helpful. Changing our behavior in the future is the best remedy for guilt. We cannot change the past, but by editing the present, we can create a future that we truly desire. Guilt is a sign of reflection and caring, while shame should be avoided.

    • Understanding and Managing Guilt in RelationshipsAcknowledge and validate your feelings of guilt, listen to others' perspectives, take responsibility for your actions, and prioritize meaningful connections to avoid guilt and improve personal growth.

      Guilt is a complex emotion that can arise from various situations and interactions. It is important not to guilt yourself for feeling guilt, but rather, to acknowledge and validate your own feelings. When someone expresses how your words or actions made them feel, it is crucial to listen and understand their perspective, even if it was unintentional. By shunning them away or going on the defensive, we only worsen the guilt and make both parties feel worse in the long run. It is essential to recognize biases and subjective views that may have influenced our behavior and to take responsibility for our part while also understanding that there may be other factors at play. Owning the future we want to build rather than accepting fault for past events is key. Therapy can be a powerful tool to navigate these complex emotions and achieve personal growth. Additionally, it is important to make time for others and prioritize meaningful connections to avoid feelings of guilt or letting others down.

    • Prioritizing Relationships and Embracing Privilege for a Healthier SocietyMake time for loved ones, prioritize relationships, and use privilege and resources to support others. Creating a safe space to discuss guilt is essential for personal healing and contributing to a healthier society.

      We should make time for the people who matter to us, even if we may have lost the opportunity with someone in the past. It's important to recognize our priorities at certain times and understand why we made certain choices. Guilt should not consume us when circumstances forced us to focus on other areas of our lives. Similarly, we shouldn't feel guilty for having privileges or opportunities that others may not have had. Instead, we should use our privilege and resources to help and support others. Sharing our experiences and supporting others on their journeys can contribute to a healthier society. It's crucial to create a safe space to express and discuss our feelings of guilt, as this can aid in our own healing process.

    • Embracing Equanimity: Navigating Life's Ups and DownsFinding balance through embracing equanimity allows us to experience and navigate life's highs and lows with calmness and composure, fostering a more stable outlook on life.

      Finding the middle path and embracing equanimity can help us navigate the ups and downs of life. Jay Shetty shares the importance of not getting too attached to either the high moments or the low moments. Just like a rollercoaster, life has moments of smooth sailing where we can catch our breath and find calmness. Equanimity allows us to experience emotions but then come back to a state of calm and composure. It's not about constantly chasing positivity, but rather finding peace within ourselves amidst the swirl of life. By returning to center and practicing self-compassion, we can cultivate a more balanced and stable outlook on life.

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    Episode #165: Unraveling the Mantel of Shame with Katie Gilbertson

    Episode #165: Unraveling the Mantel of Shame with Katie Gilbertson

    Katie Gilbertson is a licensed mental health professional, founder and owner of Rainy Day Therapy, women’s advocate, host of the Shame Rebel Podcast, and proud dog mom.

    Through Katie’s own journey of self-awareness and discovery, she realized how much shame she was carrying and how it was impacting her life, her relationships, and her choices. She decided to go deeper and unravel the mantel of shame to understand where it was coming from, until she finally eliminated it from her life. As a life coach, she helps her clients do the same to help them enjoy a fulfilling life, free from guilt and shame.

    Katie’s work focuses on boundaries, shame, self-esteem, relationships, and trauma. Her podcast provides space for people to share their stories, because Katie understands that healing comes from being heard. Her goal is that the show can be a resource for listeners as they resonate with guests, learn new tools for personal growth and self-care as they join the shame rebellion. Download this episode to learn how YOU can unravel the mantel of shame.   

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    # 86 Danielle Dorney - Survivors of Child Sexual Abuse, You aren't Alone

    # 86 Danielle Dorney - Survivors of Child Sexual Abuse, You aren't Alone

    Danni and I discuss child sexual abuse, she was a childhood victim of sexual violence from a member of her family. But kept that hidden for many, many, many years, as so many survivors do. She believes that the average age to disclose actually is about 48. With many people tending to sit on it for a long, long, long time before before telling others. She sees it now as her mission to help other people to realize that they're not alone. One in five of us have perhaps been subjected to sexual violence as a child. And there are many out there.   She thinks her role now is about making other people realize that we're certainly not alone.


    Danielle Downey


    I am Danielle Downey, The Rapid Transformation Coach, Speaker, author and campaigner.

    I help people to begin thriving after surviving. So many of us face challenge and adversity which can leave us feeling stuck, exhausted and unconfident. I help my clients to step into their unique power and begin a journey towards loving, healing and feeling.

    As a qualified domestic abuse advocate with many years in the domestic abuse industry I support those living with domestic abuse to feel safe and take steps towards leaving, if they choose. i offer support with court and divorce matters, signposting and empowering client's. I work alongside the Police to offer consultancy and encourage those suffering from domestic abuse. or sexual violence to stay safe and get help.

    I wrote my book in order to share with survivors of childhood sexual abuse that they are not alone.



    LinkedIN -  Danielle Downey 

    Twitter  - @crazykids48

    Website - danielledowney.co.uk

    Instagram - downeydanielle

    Email - danielledowney40@gmail.com


    Tel - 07838018079

    Best Selling Author, Motivational Speaker & Coach

    Book - It's no Secret  - https://amzn.to/2K9mZti


    Wendy is a Psychotherapist, Coach, Public Speaker, and Author. She helps people who are stuck either in their personal, professional or relationships, get to the root of the problem which is holding them back, let go - and move forward into a happier more successful life. 

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    60: Todd Kashdan | The Bright Truth about Your Dark Side

    60: Todd Kashdan | The Bright Truth about Your Dark Side

    Todd Kashdan (@toddkashdan) is a Professor of Psychology and Senior Scientist at the Center for the Advancement of Well-Being at George Mason University and co-author of The Upside of Your Dark Side: Why Being Your Whole Self -- Not Just Your "Good" Self -- Drives Success and Fulfillment.

    What We Discuss with Todd Kashdan:

    • Why trying to be positive and happy all the time may be harming your ability to get things done and achieve the results you want.
    • How what you may think of as negative emotions -- like anger -- can be useful superpowers with the proper awareness and application.
    • The problem with living in a time and place when distraction from discomfort comes in an easier and greater variety than ever before.
    • Why every decision you make now is based on how you expect to feel in the future -- and you probably underestimate your ability to tolerate distress.
    • How you can use the discomfort caveat to ease out of the "put on a happy face" rut around others.
    • And much more...

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    The Pain of Unmet Expectations: How to Navigate & Overcome

    The Pain of Unmet Expectations: How to Navigate & Overcome
    Struggling in my relationships and feeling resentful, I had no idea that my unrealistic expectations were the culprit. Little did I know, understanding expectations took me on a journey of self-discovery, learning to accept and love myself, and developing healthier relationships. What I've gained from this experience is nothing short of life-changing - and I'm still learning. In this episode, you will be able to: Enhance your communication skills in relationships to convey expectations clearly. Spot unreasonable expectations and tackle them for healthier bonds. Appreciate the importance of diverse values or priorities among individuals. Find solace in adopting acceptance as a means to alleviate disappointment. Foster stronger connections by consciously managing expectations. More info: https://brendareisscoaching.com/

    Tame Your Triggers: 4 Steps to Shift from Reacting to Responding

    Tame Your Triggers: 4 Steps to Shift from Reacting to Responding
    Do you want to break free from negative reactions and live a calmer life? If so, I have the solution for you. Discover the art of responding instead of reacting and experience a more peaceful and fulfilled existence. In this episode, you will be able to: > Gain clarity on the fundamental difference between reacting and responding and its significance. > Understand the impact of your core beliefs on how you react and respond in your everyday life. > Acquire a four-step technique to help you transition from hasty reactions to considered responses. > Investigate the power of journaling, meditation, and forgiveness in slowing down impulsive reactions. More info: https://brendareisscoaching.com/