Glennon Doyle

Navigating Miscommunication and Misunderstanding

 

Jen helps me process through a communication blip I had with my son. My husband & I have very different styles when talking to our boys, & I felt inadequate, and I sometimes struggle to attune. We talk about context when communicating, projection, who is a safe person to get angry at, & I talk about my own reactivity and confusion at my reaction. Jen reminds me that my family sticks with hard conversations. We also talk about having neuro-normative standards, & how that constantly leads to disappointment.

 

CO-HOST

Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC

 

HIGHLIGHTS

Summary

 

In this conversation, Patricia and Jen discuss their experiences with burnout and the importance of leaning into rest. They explore the challenges of pushing boundaries, asking for what you want, and allowing others to say no. They also discuss the impact of neuro-normative standards and the power of dropping expectations and starting from zero. The conversation delves into the dynamics of communication within families and the difficulties of attuning to different perspectives. They emphasize the importance of staying connected and working through bumps in relationships, while also acknowledging the need for space and the reality of being imperfect humans. The conversation concludes with a reminder to have grace and humility in relationships and to express love and appreciation for one another.

 

Takeaways

 

Leaning into rest and embracing the new norm during burnout can be a powerful tool for recovery.

Recognizing and respecting boundaries, both for oneself and others, is essential for maintaining healthy relationships.

Challenging neuro-normative standards and embracing individual differences can lead to greater understanding and acceptance.

Taking space and allowing for imperfection in relationships can foster growth, connection, and grace.

 

Additional points discussed:

1. Challenges in attuning to one's child compared to a spouse.
2. Contextual factors influencing communication breakdowns.
3. Impact of burnout on family dynamics.
4. Struggles of young adults balancing independence and parental support.
5. Importance of preparation in family communication.
6. Patterns of miscommunication and receptivity.
7. Emotional release and support in times of conflict.
8. Feeling disempowered in communication dynamics.
9. Need for open dialogue and understanding in relationships.
10. Misinterpretation of messages leading to conflict.
11. Defensive reactions in communication breakdowns.
12. Family dynamics during conflict resolution.
13. Neurodivergence and emotional dysregulation.
14. Rupture and repair work in relationships.
15. Acceptance of human imperfections in communication.
16. Parenting challenges and self-awareness.
17. Generational differences in perspectives on communication.
18. Emotional availability and its impact on relationships.
19. Perfectionism and its hindrance to authentic communication.
20. Importance of self-care and emotional readiness in conflict resolution.

 

Chapters (please adjust time for addition of introduction)

 

00:00 Introduction and Checking In

00:48 Coming Out of Burnout and Leaning Into Rest

02:06 Pushing Boundaries and Asking for What You Want

03:27 Navigating Setbacks and Embracing Patience

04:02 Valuing Autonomy and Allowing Others to Say No

05:22 Challenging Neuro-Normative Standards

06:05 Dropping Expectations and Starting from Zero

07:19 Powering Down and Restoring the Brain

08:26 Communication Challenges with Children

09:17 Recognizing Different Perspectives and Values

11:21 Navigating Family Dynamics and Emotional Activation

14:10 Miscommunication and Misunderstandings

15:41 The Impact of Words and Different Perspectives

18:08 Feeling Inadequate and Wounded

19:20 Staying Connected and Working Through Bumps

22:24 Empathic Communication and Paving the Way

25:01 Taking Space and Being Imperfect Humans

26:27 Staying in Relationship Through Messiness

30:20 Having Grace and Humility in Relationships

32:01 Accepting Imperfection and Being Present

35:15 Wrapping Up and Expressing Love

PODCAST HOST

Patricia was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker for over 17 years, but she is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller.  Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD with a PDA profile and RSD, helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion.  She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren’t alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges.  Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for neurodivergent folks that focus on understanding what it means to be a sensitive neurodivergent. Topics covered include: self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you

 

CO-HOST BIO

Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC has been a psychotherapist for 20 years. She specializes in helping Highly Sensitive People thrive in love, work, and parenting Highly Sensitive Children. Jen is passionate about using mindfulness and compassion-based approaches to ameliorate human suffering.

 

LINKS

 

Jen’s Links

 

Email: Jen@heartfulnessconsulting.com

 

Jen’s website: https://heartfulnessconsulting.com/

 

Patricia’s Links

 

Neurodivergent Online Course-- https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/neurodivergent-online-courses/

 

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The Importance of Rest & Learning to Receive & Ask for Help

 

Patricia and Jen discuss their health updates and the challenges they have faced. They also delve into the pressure to be productive and the fear of not functioning. The conversation shifts to vulnerability and insecurity in relationships, as well as the process of learning to receive and ask for help. They reflect on the growth and healing that comes from navigating attachment wounds. The conversation concludes with a discussion on the significance of not always having to do deep work in therapy.

 

CO-HOST

Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC

 

HIGHLIGHTS

Summary

In this conversation. They explore the importance of finding joyful movement and the impact of rest on their well-being. In this conversation, Jen and Patricia discuss the importance of self-compassion and acceptance. They acknowledge the need to be kind to oneself and accept the challenges that come with it. They also talk about the practice of naming and addressing gremlins, which are negative thoughts or beliefs that can hold us back. By bringing these gremlins to light, they can be examined and dealt with. Lastly, they touch on the topic of protectiveness and support, highlighting the importance of being there for each other during difficult times.

 

Takeaways

 

Finding joy in movement can energize and fulfill us.

Rest is essential for rejuvenation and creativity.

Vulnerability and asking for help can deepen connections.

Navigating attachment wounds can lead to growth and healing. Practicing self-compassion and acceptance is crucial for personal growth and well-being.

Naming and addressing gremlins can help in overcoming negative thoughts and beliefs.

Being protective and supportive of others during challenging times fosters strong relationships.

Acknowledging and accepting temporary struggles can lead to personal growth and resilience.

 

Chapters (please adjust for the addition of the introduction)

 

00:00 Introduction and Health Updates

03:11 Finding Joyful Movement

08:02 Struggles with Productivity and Pressure

13:10 The Importance of Rest

18:20 Vulnerability and Insecurity in Relationships

23:08 Learning to Receive and Ask for Help

28:27 Navigating Attachment Wounds

30:30 The Growth and Healing Process

33:01 The Importance of Rest in Therapy

33:53 Closing Remarks

33:58 Self-Compassion and Acceptance

34:46 Naming and Addressing Gremlins

35:04 Protectiveness and Support

PODCAST HOST

Patricia was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker for over 17 years, but she is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller.  Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD with a PDA profile and RSD, helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion.  She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren’t alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges.  Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for neurodivergent folks that focus on understanding what it means to be a sensitive neurodivergent. Topics covered include: self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you

 

CO-HOST BIO

Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC has been a psychotherapist for 20 years. She specializes in helping Highly Sensitive People thrive in love, work, and parenting Highly Sensitive Children. Jen is passionate about using mindfulness and compassion-based approaches to ameliorate human suffering.

 

LINKS

 

Jen’s Links

 

Email: Jen@heartfulnessconsulting.com

 

Jen’s website: https://heartfulnessconsulting.com/

 

Patricia’s Links

 

HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/

 

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Exploring Identity, and Turning Toward Yourself in Affirming Ways

 

Jen and I touch on so much in this episode: challenges setting boundaries; structure vs. the need for novelty (ADHD vs. autism), attachment injuries and bids for connection; the challenges and gifts of hard conversations; what neuro-affirming therapy looks like; PDA and focusing on others to reduce demands; masking; what comes up when someone suspects they are autistic or are recently diagnosed.

 

CO-HOST

Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC

 

HIGHLIGHTS

Summary

In this conversation, Jen and Patricia discuss various topics related to parenting, boundaries, and self-discovery. They explore the challenges of adjusting to new structures and parenting roles, as well as the importance of partnering with children and acknowledging limitations. They also discuss the significance of modeling imperfection and repairing emotional availability. The conversation delves into navigating personal preferences and resistance, expressing needs and bids for connection, and the importance of setting boundaries and embracing autonomy. They also touch on the process of recognizing and embracing an autistic identity, as well as the roller coaster of emotions that can come with this realization. Overall, the conversation highlights the importance of self-reflection, authenticity, and deepening intimacy in relationships.

Takeaways

·         Adjusting to new structures and parenting roles can be challenging but can also provide opportunities for growth and learning.

·         Modeling imperfection and repairing emotional availability can strengthen relationships and create a sense of safety and trust.

·         Setting boundaries and embracing autonomy are essential for self-care and maintaining healthy relationships.

·         Becoming your own heroine in your life and your story

·         Assessing what you want in relationships, and seeing if the people who are disappointing you are people you would choose

·         Communicating when it you’re wanting a bid for connection

·         Addressing our attachment wounds in relationship is really an act of service to the relationship

·         The ongoing challenge between ADHD and the need for novelty and with autism wanting routine and structure

·         Conflict and avoidance of conflict can be hard, and having difficult conversations can also be hard. How does it help the relationship?

·         The importance of having autistic or neuro-affirming therapists and coaches since allistic practitioners can cause more trauma and harm

·         If you’re recently diagnosed autistic or suspect you are autistic, you may experience skill regression, difficulty doing things you previously did, and your identify may be shaken up (there’s grief and anger there as well)

·         Ways your PDA may be showing up and things you have learned to do to minimize having your nervous system activated

·         You may have been socialized to be “other focused,” which makes it hard to know what you are wanting and needing, and it can be a form of masking, and it may reduce PDA and RSD

Recognizing and embracing an autistic identity can bring validation and understanding, but it can also be accompanied by a roller coaster of emotions and a need for self-reflection.

Chapters (adjust time for the addition of the introduction)

00:00 Introduction and Checking In

01:18 Adjusting to New Structure and Parenting

03:03 Partnering with Children and Acknowledging Limitations

04:23 Modeling Imperfection and Repairing Emotional Availability

05:05 Exploring Personal Challenges and Seeking Support

06:41 Navigating Personal Preferences and Resistance

08:08 Expressing Needs and Bids for Connection

09:35 Navigating Difficult Conversations and Repairing Ruptures

10:51 Taking Risks and Embracing Discomfort

12:40 Honoring Wounds and Attending to Healing

14:51 Setting Boundaries and Embracing Autonomy

16:40 Navigating Conflict and Deepening Intimacy

19:03 Recognizing Autistic Identity and Processing Emotions

23:53 Reevaluating Relationships and Prioritizing Values

27:10 Embracing Authenticity and Self-Reflection

31:57 Navigating the Roller Coaster of Autistic Identity

32:44 Conclusion

PODCAST HOST

Patricia was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker for over 17 years, but she is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller.  Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD with a PDA profile and RSD, helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion.  She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren’t alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges.  Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for neurodivergent folks that focus on understanding what it means to be a sensitive neurodivergent. Topics covered include: self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you

 

CO-HOST BIO

Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC has been a psychotherapist for 20 years. She specializes in helping Highly Sensitive People thrive in love, work, and parenting Highly Sensitive Children. Jen is passionate about using mindfulness and compassion-based approaches to ameliorate human suffering.

 

LINKS

 

Jen’s Links

 

Email: Jen@heartfulnessconsulting.com

 

Jen’s website: https://heartfulnessconsulting.com/

 

Patricia’s Links

 

HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/

 

Receive the top 10 most downloaded episodes of the podcast-- https://www.subscribepage.com/e6z6e6

 

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Attachment Injuries, Internal Family Systems (IFS) and Self-Care

Jen and I discuss attachment wounds and using an Internal Family Systems (IFS) framework. We talk about the difference of speaking for our parts vs. speaking from our parts. We talk about overperformance, the pressure to show up and masking, and the importance of feeling seen and heard in relationships. We talk about unpacking an autism diagnosis and reviewing life through the lens of autism. We also emphasize embracing imperfection and practicing self-care and self-compassion.

 

CO-HOST

Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC

 

HIGHLIGHTS

Summary

In this conversation, Patricia and Jen discuss their current states and challenges, including the impact of attachment injuries and autism. They explore the importance of reframing and unpacking an autism diagnoses. They also discuss the significance of embracing imperfection and practicing self-compassion. The conversation delves into the difference between speaking for parts and speaking from parts, as well as the challenges of feeling seen and heard in relationships. They also touch on the role of technology in communication and the connection between self-worth and expressing love. In this conversation, Jen and Patricia discuss the pressure to show up and overperform, particularly in relation to masking and societal expectations. They explore the idea of letting go of perfection in expressing self-worth and the impact it has on relationships. They also delve into managing expectations and self-pressure, recognizing that others often have different expectations than we do for ourselves. Finally, they touch on the importance of embracing different parts of ourselves and being in relationship with them.

 

Takeaways

The pressure to show up and overperform can be overwhelming, especially for individuals who feel the need to mask their true selves.

Letting go of the idea of perfection in expressing self-worth can lead to greater ease and authenticity in relationships.

Managing expectations and self-pressure is crucial for maintaining mental well-being, as others often have different expectations than we do for ourselves.

Embracing different parts of ourselves and being in relationship with them allows for a more integrated and balanced sense of self.

 

Summary

·         Navigating life with autism and managing attachment injuries.

·         The impact of autism on daily routines and family dynamics.

·         Understanding the challenges of having food, routines, and independence,

·         Embracing imperfection and letting go of perfectionism,

·         Recognizing the need for gentleness and self-compassion, especially with the inner critic.

·         Exploring the concept of "autistic burnout" and its impact on daily life and mental health.

·         Reflecting on the journey of self-discovery and acceptance after receiving an autism diagnosis.

·         Embracing the process of reframing past experiences through the lens of autism.

·         Navigating the complexities of showing love and care.

·         Understanding the diverse ways individuals express love and support within the neurodivergent community.

·         Addressing the challenges of communication and maintaining connections

·         Exploring the impact of ADHD and neurodivergence on memory, attention, and maintaining social patterns.

·         Recognizing the importance of open communication and managing expectations in relationships.

·         Embracing vulnerability and acknowledging the impact of attachment wounds in personal interactions.

·         Insights into the journey of self-discovery, self-care, and personal growth as a neurodivergent person

Chapters (will need to be adjusted with the addition of the introduction)

00:00 Introduction and Current State

01:07 Exploring Attachment Injuries and Autism

04:04 Accepting the Autism Diagnosis

09:26 Leaning into Challenges and Reframing

12:26 Navigating Self-Criticism and Self-Judgment

15:19 Embracing Imperfection and Self-Compassion

19:01 Speaking for Parts vs. Speaking from Parts

23:28 Being Fully Present in Life

28:02 Feeling Seen and Heard in Relationships

30:03 Navigating Technology and Communication

34:26 Self-Worth and Expressing Love

36:15 Hustling for Self-Worth and Activation

37:02 The Pressure to Show Up and Overperform

38:06 Letting Go of Perfection in Expressing Self-Worth

39:11 Managing Expectations and Self-Pressure

39:27 Embracing Different Parts of Ourselves

PODCAST HOST

Patricia was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker for over 17 years, but she is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller.  Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD with a PDA profile and RSD, helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion.  She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren’t alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges.  Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for neurodivergent folks that focus on understanding what it means to be a sensitive neurodivergent. Topics covered include: self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you

 

CO-HOST BIO

Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC has been a psychotherapist for 20 years. She specializes in helping Highly Sensitive People thrive in love, work, and parenting Highly Sensitive Children. Jen is passionate about using mindfulness and compassion-based approaches to ameliorate human suffering.

 

LINKS

 

Jen’s Links

 

Email: Jen@heartfulnessconsulting.com

 

Jen’s website: https://heartfulnessconsulting.com/

 

Patricia’s Links

 

HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/

Receive the top 10 most downloaded episodes of the podcast-- https://www.subscribepage.com/e6z6e6

 

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Navigating Autism and PDA (Pathological Demand Avoidance or Pervasive Drive for Autonomy)

 I discuss being diagnosed Autistic with a PDA (pathological demand avoidance) profile. I express frustration with the DSM criteria for ADHD and autism, as I don’t see myself in the criteria. I highlight the common misdiagnosis of PDA as oppositional defiant disorder in children, emphasizing the need for a deeper understanding of neurodivergent experiences. I advocate a shift from viewing differences as deficits, and the importance of recognizing the unique perspectives of neurodivergent individuals.

HIGHLIGHTS

Summary

In this episode, Patricia shares her personal reflections on being diagnosed autistic and the challenges she faces with Pathological Demand Avoidance, (PDA). Patricia prefers Pervasive/Persistent Drive for Autonomy instead. She discusses the differences between autism and HSP (Highly Sensitive Person) and emphasizes the importance of understanding the lived experience of autism. Patricia also explores how PDA affects parenting and the need for low-demand environments. She reflects on her struggles with holiday traditions and the importance of self-acceptance and embracing stimming. Additionally, Patricia discusses the impact of seasonal changes and offers insights into managing PDA in daily life. She concludes with a book she enjoyed reading that has coded autistic characters in it.

Some of the challenges and awarenesses about being autistic and having a PDA profile:

·         Patricia shares her frustration with the DSM criteria for ADHD and autism, as she does not see herself in the criteria. It was written for white boys who externalize their symptoms. Many late-diagnosed, high-masking folks tend to internalize their presentation, and they go undiagnosed and don’t see themselves in the criteria, which needs to be updated.

·         Patricia emphasizes the importance of understanding the lived experience of neurodivergent individuals and the need to look at differences rather than deficits.

·         She expresses her passion for wanting researchers and experts in the field of ADHD, autism, and HSP to work collaboratively to find commonalities.

·         Patricia talks about the challenges of being formally diagnosed with autism and how it has led to a year of "Ahas."

·         She shares insights into how PDA shows up in her life, including anticipating things that could go wrong and giving people permission to not respond.

Takeaways

Understanding the lived experience of autism is crucial for creating a supportive environment.

Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA) also known as Pervasive/Persistent Drive for Autonomy, can be misdiagnosed as oppositional defiant disorder and is characterized by nervous system dysregulation.

Parents with PDA may face challenges in parenting neurodivergent children and may benefit from creating low-demand environments.

Embracing self-acceptance and allowing oneself to stim can lead to a greater sense of joy and freedom.

Seasonal changes can impact mood and energy levels, and it's important to listen to one's body and practice self-care.

Anticipating demands and setting boundaries can help manage PDA and reduce stress.

The book 'Lessons in Chemistry' features characters who are coded as autistic and explores themes of feminism and neurodiversity.

Chapters (please adjust times with the addition of the introduction)

00:00 Introduction and Personal Reflections

01:58 Understanding PDA and Autism

06:49 Challenges of Parenting with PDA

08:18 Navigating Holiday Traditions

16:08 Embracing Stimming and Self-Acceptance

17:32 Coping with Winter and Seasonal Changes

24:05 Managing PDA in Daily Life

27:31 Anticipating and Resisting Demands

28:52 Book Recommendation: Lessons in Chemistry

30:17 Closing Remarks and Invitation

PODCAST HOST

Patricia was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, but is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller.  Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD (autistic and ADHD), with a PDA profile, helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion.  She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren’t alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges.  Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for HSPs that focus on understanding what it means to be an HSP, self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you

LINKS

HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/

Online HSP Course Materials (no group included) https://patriciayounglcsw.com/product-category/hsp-classes/

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Building Trust in Neurodivergent Settings: Overcoming Group Apprehension

Ellie and Patricia highlight the importance of creating inclusive spaces that foster trust, comfort, and collaboration for neurodivergent folks. They discuss the benefits of tailoring curriculum to individual and group needs. This episode also touches on the depth and organic nature of group conversations, and the role of personalized attention within a structured framework. Overall, the conversation emphasizes the importance of creating supportive and inclusive environments for neurodivergent individuals.

 

GUEST

Ellie

 

HIGHLIGHTS

Summary

 

This conversation explores the experiences and dynamics of the Online HSP Course and how it fits with being autistic or identifying as neurodivergent. The episode covers topics such as trust and comfort in the group, creating a safe and supportive environment, addressing social issues, embracing whole identities, gaining different perspectives, and forming connections and friendships. The conversation highlights the importance of personalized attention, optional participation, and creating a neurodivergent-friendly space. It also emphasizes the value of feeling seen, heard, and honored in the group. The participants discuss the unexpected benefits and the lasting connections that were formed through the course.

 

Takeaways

 

Creating a safe and supportive environment is crucial for a group focused on highly sensitive people and neurodivergent individuals.

Embracing whole identities and recognizing marginalized parts of ourselves can lead to a sense of belonging and understanding in the group.

Optional participation and personalized attention allow individuals to engage in a way that feels comfortable and authentic to them.

Forming connections and friendships within the group can provide validation, support, and a sense of community.

The dynamics of a smaller group can lead to deeper conversations and a stronger sense of cohesion.

 

Some topics covered in this episode:

1. Neurodivergence and its representation in the course

2. Personal perspectives and interactions with course material

3. Overcoming apprehensions about joining a group

4. The dynamics of group participation and introversion

5. Creating a supportive and inclusive group environment

6. Addressing potential group members' concerns

7. Establishing core values and expectations for group participation

8. Discussions on social issues and human rights

9. Tailoring the curriculum to individual and group needs

10. Group size and its impact on interactions

11. Depth and organic nature of group conversations

12. Personalized attention within a structured framework

13. Flexibility and guidance in group discussions

14. Trust and comfort in participating in the course

15. Impact of discussions on autism and neurodivergence within the HSP group

 

Chapters (please add time to account for introduction

 

00:00 Introduction and Spontaneous Recording

00:46 Initial Thoughts about the Group

01:45 Trust and Comfort in the Group

02:09 Discussion about Autism in the Group

03:08 Creating a Safe and Supportive Environment

04:27 Addressing Social Issues in the Group

05:29 Intersectionality and Embracing Whole Identities

06:15 Recognizing Marginalized Parts of Ourselves

07:02 Expectations and Insight in the Group

08:17 Gaining Different Perspectives in the Group

09:24 Learning and Sharing Experiences in the Group

10:40 Creating a Cohesive Group

11:19 Building Trust and Connection in the Group

12:02 Different Perspectives on Group Cohesion

13:03 Feeling Safe and Comfortable in the Group

14:03 Optional Participation and Individual Needs

15:47 Forming Connections and Friendships in the Group

17:40 Validation and Understanding in the Group

19:37 Feeling Seen, Heard, and Honored in the Group

20:23 Personalized Attention and Tailored Discussions

23:14 Flexibility and Personalized Approach in the Group

24:46 Creating a Safe and Neurodivergent-Friendly Space

26:12 Feeling Safe and Understood in the Group

28:18 Addressing the Lack of Mention of Neurodivergence in the Course

30:17 Recommendations for Joining the Course

32:57 Continuing Connections and Friendships after the Course

36:31 Smaller Group Dynamics and Cohesion

39:25 Acknowledging Different Group Experiences

40:07 Gratitude and Positive Feedback

 

GUEST BIO

Ellie is a corporate professional in a senior manager position. Through experiencing significant burnout, she was identified as autistic earlier this year. Her formal diagnosis followed. Leading up to her diagnosis and through today, she has been searching for information to help her understand her autism and for strategies for managing the seemingly endless effort it takes to be her in a world that expects her not to be autistic.

 

LINKS

 

HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/

 

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Neurodivergent Insights: Navigating ADHD, Autism, PDA, and Communication

 

Jen and I discuss the challenges of living with ADHD, Autism and PDA, including communication difficulties and perception of reality. We talk about how these show up for us differently, and how we navigate some of the challenges. I also share about disclosing to my MD about being autistic, and how that was received. We also talk about the difficulty of the holidays for some, and some end of year reflections that may (or may not be) helpful.

 

CO-HOST

Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC

 

HIGHLIGHTS

Summary

This conversation explores the challenges and dynamics of relationships when one or both individuals have Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA), also known as Pervasive/Persisten Drive for Autonomy, a profile of autism. The speakers discuss how PDA shows up in their lives and the importance of understanding and managing individual differences. They emphasize the need for generosity, repair, and open communication in relationships. The conversation also touches on the impact of sensory issues, the role of medication in managing ADHD and autism symptoms, and the significance of end-of-year reflections and holiday traditions. Overall, the speakers highlight the importance of embracing and honoring different experiences and finding gentleness in navigating relationships and the holiday season. In this conversation, Patricia and Jen discuss the importance of effective communication and provide practical tips for improving communication skills. They cover topics such as active listening, empathy, non-verbal communication, building trust and rapport, and conflict resolution. The conversation emphasizes the significance of clear and open communication in personal and professional relationships.

 

Takeaways

 

Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA), also called Pervasive/Persistent Drive for Autonomy, can present challenges in relationships, particularly in terms of communication and managing expectations.

Generosity, repair, and open communication are essential in maintaining healthy relationships when one or both individuals have a PDA profile.

Understanding and embracing individual differences, such as sensory issues and different perspectives, can foster empathy and connection in relationships.

Managing ADHD and autism symptoms may involve medication, but it is important to consider individual needs and preferences.

Effective communication is crucial for building and maintaining relationships.

Active listening and empathy are key components of effective communication.

Non-verbal communication, such as body language and tone of voice, can greatly impact the message being conveyed.

Building trust and rapport is essential for effective communication.

Conflict resolution skills are important for resolving disagreements and maintaining healthy relationships.

Finally, end-of-year reflections and holiday traditions can be meaningful to assess growth and change during the year. Some ideas for these reflections are given, but it is essential to prioritize self-care and find what works best for each individual.

 

Topics covered in order:

 

Introduction and PDA in Relationships

Managing PDA in Relationships

Understanding Different Perspectives

Generosity and Repair in Relationships

Sensory Issues and Individual Differences

Communication and Understanding in Relationships

Shared Realities and Overlapping Perspectives

Embracing Quirks and Repairing Relationships

ADHD Medication and Neurodivergent Perspectives

Managing ADHD and Autism Symptoms

Reflections on the End of the Year

Finding What Works for You

Disclosing Autism to Healthcare Practitioners

Navigating Holiday Cards and Expectations

Taking Time for End-of-Year Reflection

Honoring Different Experiences during the Holidays

Unpacking Expectations and Finding Gentleness

The Importance of Effective Communication

Active Listening and Empathy

Non-Verbal Communication

Building Trust and Rapport

Conflict Resolution

Conclusion

PODCAST HOST

Patricia was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, but is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller.  Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD with a PDA profile helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion.  She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren’t alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges.  Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for HSPs that focus on understanding what it means to be an HSP, self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you

 

CO-HOST BIO

Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC has been a psychotherapist for 20 years. She specializes in helping Highly Sensitive People thrive in love, work, and parenting Highly Sensitive Children. Jen is passionate about using mindfulness and compassion-based approaches to ameliorate human suffering.

 

LINKS

 

Jen’s Links

 

Email: Jen@heartfulnessconsulting.com

 

Jen’s website: https://heartfulnessconsulting.com/

 

Patricia’s Links

 

HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/

 

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Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com

 

Redefining Success for the Neurodivergent

 

Jen and I discuss the concept of success and how it is often measured by neurotypical norms. We challenge these measures, and explore alternative ways to define and measure success for the neurodivergent. We emphasize the importance of authenticity, having hard conversations, and embracing imperfection. We also discuss the value of uncertainty and not knowing, and how it can lead to creativity and growth. We invite you to redefine success on your own terms and find joy and fulfillment in your own unique journeys. it.

 

CO-HOST

Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC

 

HIGHLIGHTS

The conversation explores the concept of uncertainty and its relationship with creativity. It emphasizes the idea that uncertainty can be a space for endless possibilities and encourages embracing the uncomfortable and the unknown.

 

Takeaways

 

·         Success can be measured in ways that go beyond traditional measures, such as productivity and achievements.

·         Authenticity and the ability to have hard conversations are important aspects of success.

·         Embracing imperfection and being okay with not knowing are key to personal growth and creativity.

·         Success can be defined on an individual level, based on personal values and priorities. Uncertainty can be a creative space where anything can happen.

·         Embracing uncertainty allows for exploration and new opportunities.

·         Being comfortable with uncertainty can lead to personal growth and development.

 

Chapters

These will need to be slightly adjusted since the introduction is not calculated into this

 

00:00 Introduction and Thanksgiving Dilemma

01:44 Defining Success and Productivity

02:57 Measuring Success by Making Others Feel Safe

03:52 Challenging Traditional Measures of Success

06:10 Authenticity and Success

07:32 Having Hard Conversations

08:15 Process Over Content

09:57 Accepting Imperfection and Procrastination

11:43 Navigating Difficult Conversations

13:54 Unconditional Love and Boundaries

15:41 Measuring Success in Relationships

17:42 Being Messy and Imperfect

19:32 Embracing Uncertainty and Not Knowing

37:11 Embracing Uncertainty

PODCAST HOST

Patricia was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, but is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller.  Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD with a PDA profile helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion.  She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren’t alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges.  Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for HSPs that focus on understanding what it means to be an HSP, self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you

 

CO-HOST BIO

Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC has been a psychotherapist for 20 years. She specializes in helping Highly Sensitive People thrive in love, work, and parenting Highly Sensitive Children. Jen is passionate about using mindfulness and compassion-based approaches to ameliorate human suffering.

 

LINKS

 

Jen’s Links

 

Email: Jen@heartfulnessconsulting.com

 

Jen’s website: https://heartfulnessconsulting.com/

 

Patricia’s Links

 

HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/

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Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com

Navigating Relationship Bumps: Whose Stuff is This?

 

Once again, I had a bump in a relationship, and I got to see that I had a part in it. Our fear of rejection, abandonment, or someone getting angry with us, can prevent us from having difficult conversations. We minimize our feelings for fear of being too sensitive. When we do this work enough, eventually, remaining silent, no longer works. I got pretty dysregulated, but I was able to manage. It was more important to share my feelings than worrying about managing the other person’s feelings.

 

HIGHLIGHTS

 

What you will learn from this podcast:

·         Strategies for managing stress during the holiday season

·         How to navigate relationship bumps and take responsibility for our own feelings

·         The concept of "gremlins" and how they can hold us back in life

·         How to identify and recognize when our gremlins are present

·         The importance of practicing self-compassion and reframing negative thoughts

·         How to manage fear of rejection and being "too much"

·         The difference between our expectations and reality

·         How to find balance and fulfillment in life

·         The benefits of setting boundaries in relationships

·         How to communicate effectively in relationships

·         The importance of self-care and self-love

·         How to deal with feelings of overwhelm and burnout

·         The role of perfectionism in our lives and how to overcome it

·         How to cultivate gratitude and noticing what is going right

·         The power of vulnerability and authenticity in relationships

·         How to set goals and work towards them

·         The benefits of mindfulness and meditation

·         How to develop a growth mindset

·         The importance of self-reflection and self-awareness

·         How to cultivate resilience and bounce back from setbacks

 

What are Gremlins and how to work with them:

 

"Gremlins" refer to the negative self-talk and limiting beliefs that can hold us back in life.

Acknowledging your gremlins can make them feel more manageable.

Identifying them and recognizing them when they are present can also help.

Practicing self-compassion and reframing negative thoughts into more neutral thoughts can help.

PODCAST HOST

Patricia was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, but is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller.  Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD (autistic and ADHD), with a PDA profile, helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion.  She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren’t alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges.  Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for HSPs that focus on understanding what it means to be an HSP, self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you

LINKS

 

HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/

 

Online HSP Course Materials (no group included) https://patriciayounglcsw.com/product-category/hsp-classes/

Receive the top 10 most downloaded episodes of the podcast-- https://www.subscribepage.com/e6z6e6

 

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Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com

Navigating Competing Needs in a Relationship

Jen & I talk about having competing needs while I was visiting her, and what came up for me, and how we navigated having uncomfortable feelings. We look at this through the lens of neurodivergence (Autism, HSP, ADHD and PDA). We also explore the difficulty I had as a neurodivergent person assessing if I had a good time on the trip or not. We also look at where we blended well and what we will do differently next time.

CO-HOST

Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC

HIGHLIGHTS

Navigating shifts in relationships can be challenging, but there are strategies and tools that can help. By being proactive and intentional, we can build stronger, more resilient relationships that can weather the storms of change. Some specific strategies and tools for navigating shifts in relationships include: - Communication: Open and honest communication is key to navigating shifts in relationships.

This includes

·         Active listening, expressing needs and boundaries, and being willing to compromise and negotiate.

·         Self-reflection: Taking time to reflect on our own needs, values, and goals can help us navigate shifts in relationships more effectively. This includes identifying our own triggers and patterns, and being willing to take responsibility for our own actions and emotions.

·         Seeking support: Building a support network of friends, family, or professionals can provide us with the resources and guidance we need to navigate shifts in relationships. This includes seeking out therapy, coaching, or other forms of support when needed.

·         Practicing self-care: Taking care of ourselves physically, emotionally, and mentally can help us navigate shifts in relationships more effectively. This includes getting enough sleep, exercise, and healthy food, as well as engaging in activities that bring us joy and fulfillment.

·         Cultivating gratitude: Focusing on the positive aspects of our relationships and expressing gratitude for the people in our lives can help us navigate shifts in relationships with a sense of perspective and appreciation.

Navigating shifts in relationships can be tough, and it's okay to feel overwhelmed or uncertain. It's important to recognize that these challenges are normal and can be overcome with the right tools and support. By acknowledging and addressing these difficulties, we can strengthen our relationships and build deeper connections with those we care about.

 

Some common challenges people face during times of change include

·         Uncertainty and fear of the unknown

·         Loss of trust or communication breakdowns

·         Competing needs and priorities

·         Differences in values or goals

·         Resistance to change or difficulty adapting

·         Emotional triggers or unresolved issues from the past

 

During times of change, it can be tempting to withdraw or put up walls to protect ourselves. However, by embracing transparency and vulnerability, we can create a deeper sense of connection and understanding with those around us. By sharing our thoughts, feelings, and experiences, we can build trust, encourage empathy, and foster growth and learning. This can help reduce conflict and misunderstandings, and create a sense of safety and security for ourselves and others. Ultimately, by being open and honest, we can strengthen our relationships and build deeper connections with those we care about.

 

·         Building trust and intimacy: When we share our thoughts, feelings, and experiences with others, we create a deeper sense of connection and understanding.

·         Encouraging empathy and compassion: By being vulnerable, we allow others to see our humanity and can inspire empathy and compassion in others.

·         Fostering growth and learning: When we are transparent about our struggles and challenges, we create opportunities for growth and learning, both for ourselves and for others.

·         Reducing conflict and misunderstandings: By being open and honest, we can avoid misunderstandings and conflicts that can arise from miscommunication or hidden agendas.

·         Creating a sense of safety and security: When we are transparent and vulnerable, we create a safe space for ourselves and others to be authentic and true to ourselves.

 

PODCAST HOST

Patricia was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, but is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller.  Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD with a PDA profile helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion.  She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren’t alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges.  Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for HSPs that focus on understanding what it means to be an HSP, self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you

CO-HOST BIO

Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC has been a psychotherapist for 20 years. She specializes in helping Highly Sensitive People thrive in love, work, and parenting Highly Sensitive Children. Jen is passionate about using mindfulness and compassion-based approaches to ameliorate human suffering.

LINKS

Jen’s Links

Email: Jen@heartfulnessconsulting.com

Jen’s website: https://heartfulnessconsulting.com/

Patricia’s Links

HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/

Receive the top 10 most downloaded episodes of the podcast-- https://www.subscribepage.com/e6z6e6

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Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com

 

 

Hi Cutie! Today I sit down with Jeffrey Crane Graham to discuss his journey in creating his feature film 'Always Lola'. Jeffrey or Jeff, as I call him, and I have know each other since we were little 20-somethings working (or in my case, interning) at AfterBuzz TV. Today he shares how he achieved his greatest creative dream: writing, producing and directing a feature film --which is now out on Prime Video, no less! He will talk about how he alchemized. his personal grief into a compelling script, the antidote to imposter syndrome and the importance of staying true to personal vision as an artist. Jeff provides insight into the challenges and benefits of working with one's spouse, vulnerability’s role in the creative process, the changing climate of the industry, and the key tenant to all good stories. It’s a compelling episode between two friends that will give you practical tools to go toward your dreams on a shoestring budget and a full heart. Timestamps and links below!! Love you more than you know. 

Link to watch/rent, 'Always, Lola' Here: https://www.amazon.com/Always-Lola-Roxy-Striar/dp/B0CBB4SGZG

Follow Unleash: @unleashyourinnercreative

Follow Me: @LaurenLoGrasso 

TIMESTAMPS:

00:04 Introduction and Guest Introduction

00:52 Jeffrey’s Journey to Filmmaking

02:27 Jeffrey’s Move to New York City

04:49 Jeffrey’s Creative Process and Inspiration

09:26 Jeffrey’s Film Project: Always Lola

12:46 Challenges and Triumphs in Filmmaking

19:23 Collaborating with a University for Film Production

25:53 How to work with a Spouse in Creative Projects

29:35 How to navigate Creative Differences in Film Production

32:35 The Power of Communication in Relationships

33:13 The Challenges of Producing a Micro-Budget Film

34:01 The KEY to Good Storytelling

35:39 The Evolution of your Creative Identity

36:33 The Decision to Write and Direct

42:22 The Power of Vulnerability in Leadership

45:58 The Struggles and Triumphs of film making 

48:53 How to navigate Journey of Self-Discovery and Transformation

49:22 The Challenges and Rewards of Casting

52:51 The Impact of the Strike on Film Distribution

54:12 The Joy and Fear of Releasing a creative project 

59:59 The Importance of Supporting Independent Film

01:00:26 Final Thoughts and Reflections

 

When Your Stuff Bumps Up Against Your Friend’s Stuff

How do you navigate feeling hurt in a relationship, and the other person doesn’t understand (or realize) that you have been hurt? What do you do when the other person thinks you want space, but you feel hurt, and that’s not what you need, but you think the other person is distancing from you? Is it ok to text or email someone when you feel hurt and a phone call or in-person conversation feels overwhelming? I also talk about my dislike of costumes and what that brings up for me.

HIGHLIGHTS

·        The episode discusses what happens when our stuff bumps up against someone else's stuff and how to navigate those situations. •

·        The author shares a personal experience of sharing an experience on the podcast and how the person being talked about felt about this.

·         The importance of communication and being mindful of how our words and actions can affect others in our relationships is emphasized. •

·         The episode is relatable and discusses how our past experiences and trauma can impact our interactions with others.

·         The episode emphasizes the importance of communication skills in navigating difficult situations in relationships. •

·         The author models emotional intelligence by sharing a personal experience and reflecting on how their actions impacted others. •

·         The episode highlights the importance of being mindful of how our words and actions can affect others, and how to approach conversations with empathy and understanding. •

·         The author encourages listeners to reflect on their own past experiences and how they may be impacting their current relationships. •

·         The episode provides practical tips for how to approach difficult conversations, such as asking for permission before sharing personal information about others. •

·         The author also models vulnerability by sharing their own fears and insecurities about their ability to communicate effectively.

·         The importance of consent and clear communication asking for permission to share personal experiences is discussed.

PODCAST HOST

Patricia was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, but is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller.  Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is autistic helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion.  She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren’t alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges.  Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for HSPs that focus on understanding what it means to be an HSP, self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you

LINKS

HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/

Receive the top 10 most downloaded episodes of the podcast-- https://www.subscribepage.com/e6z6e6 

Sign up for the Newsletter-- https://www.subscribepage.com/y0l7d4 

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The Best Of Unleah (original Episode Description Below!)

Anne Helen Petersen is an academic, journalist, and author best known for her work as the former senior culture writer and western correspondent at BuzzFeed, her book Can't Even: How Millennials Became the Burnout Generation, and her most recent gig as a writer at Substack. On top of that, She has been featured in publications such as Forbes, The New York Times, Business Insider, The Wallstreet Journal, NPR and many more.

As I mentioned, Anne wrote a book on Millennial burnout and is an expert on it. So I wanted to have Anne on the show, because honestly, I am pretty burnt out. And I have been for a while. Reading her book was a revelation of just how much I’ve been living hand to mouth and my out-of-whack priorities have been.The awareness of what burnout looks like, has helped me start to make small changes to rejuvenate myself and get back in touch with the sweetness and simple joys of life. It’s my hope that this interview can be an inciting moment for you to do the same, if you’re feeling similarly.

From This Conversation You’ll Learn:

• What burnout is and how to know if you have it
• Why she was drawn to the topic
•  How to form a practice to deal with your burnout & rest
• Why millennials suffer for burnout more
• What our boomer parents/history has to do with it
• What to do if you feel like you never work hard enough
• How the pandemic is affecting burnout
• Why you should talk to trees and plants (REALLY)
• Why a traditional office setting lends itself to burnout
• Why employers both overwork millennials and criticize them for not being hardworking enough
• Why Anne believes it’s sometimes better to do what you really like instead of what you love
• How to get over Creative heartbreak
• And more!

Get Anne's Book Here! 

Download my new song, "Freakshow" Here: ffm.to/laurenlofreakshow 

Time codes: 

00:00 Introduction and Welcome

00:06 Revisiting the Burnout Episode

01:11 The Importance of Rest and Reflection

01:51 Introducing the Guest: Anne Helen Peterson

02:33 The Burnout Generation: A Deep Dive

03:03 Anne Helen Peterson's Expertise and Background

03:31 Personal Experiences with Burnout

04:18 Understanding and Dealing with Burnout

04:56 Interview with Anne Helen Peterson Begins

06:22 Personal Journey and Burnout Realization

06:34 Understanding Millennial Burnout

10:14 The Impact of Work Culture on Burnout

13:07 The Role of Parenting and Childhood in Burnout

24:46 The Pandemic and Its Effect on Burnout

27:42 The Paradox of Productivity on Slack

28:20 The Impact of Surveillance on Work Culture

29:48 The Journey of Writing a Book

31:58 The Misconception of Millennials and Work

41:43 The Transition from Academia to Journalism

46:52 The Challenges and Freedom of the Gig Economy

53:03 Reflections on Childhood and the Journey to Now

54:31 Closing Thoughts and Acknowledgements

Navigating Change: How to Stay True to Yourself While Traveling

Travelling and being a guest in someone’s home can be challenging due to change: adjusting to new routines, and being out of your routine. I spend a week with Jen, and we talk about checking in with each other, and my need for structure, and Jen’s lack of structure. We talk about structure vs. flexibility, and as an autistic, how do I honor how I’m wired and still go with the flow? We focus heavily on self-care and compassion. I also offer tips for travelling and packing that help me.

CO-HOST

Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC

HIGHLIGHTS

Travel tips and trips when visiting

·         Create a master travel list on your computer to help you stay organized

·         Adapt your travel list for each trip to ensure you bring everything you need

·         Keep a post-it note nearby (if your travel list isn’t handy) to jot down things you think of later

·         Pack a carry-on suitcase to make traveling easier

·         Bring a little bag with all your toiletries to save time and space

·         Allow yourself to have objections to new places and experiences, and be willing to consider the possibilities of how a new experience might be amazing

·         Recognize that change and novelty can be difficult for people who like sameness. This doesn’t mean that those people won’t enjoy new experiences though

·         Try to focus on the positive aspects of new experiences, like the possibility of having an amazing time

·         Be aware that plane rides can be difficult for some autistics

·         Find ways to make plane rides more comfortable, like bringing a comfort item, downloaded movies, books, and noise-cancelling headphones

·         Consider traveling with a partner or friend who understands your needs

·         Research your destination ahead of time to find out what accommodations are available

·         Be open to trying new things, like taking a day trip to explore your destination - Remember to check your schedule and make sure you don't have any appointments or commitments you've forgotten about

·         Be patient with yourself and others, and recognize that everyone's feelings and needs matter

 

Overall themes discussed in this episode

·         People who are autistic may become familiar with their behaviors and not have any idea that others may have judgements about them

·         Checking in with yourself and being able to recognize your own feelings is important

·         Nonviolent communication is a useful tool for problem-solving and understanding others' needs

·         Many behaviors that are considered unusual or abnormal are actually quite normal.  This is due to norms set by allistics (non-autstics).

·         It's important to talk about these behaviors so that people don't feel isolated or ashamed

·         Some autistics may have a hard time figuring out certain things

·         Coaching and support can be helpful for autistics

·         It's important to recognize that no behavior is inherently good or bad

·         Everyone's feelings and needs matter

·         Autistics can craft a lifestyle that meets their needs

·         Having a partner who understands your needs can be helpful

Balancing the Need for Structure and Flexibility: Tips and Strategies – 

·       Start by acknowledging that both structure and flexibility are important for your well-being and productivity. While structure provides a sense of stability and predictability, flexibility allows you to adapt to changing circumstances and explore new opportunities. –

·         Identify your core values and priorities, and use them as a guide for creating a flexible yet structured routine. For example, if you value creativity and learning, you may want to set aside some time each day for reading, writing, or experimenting with new ideas. - Experiment with different time-management techniques and tools, such as time blocking, Pomodoro technique, or task batching. These methods can help you stay focused and organized while also allowing for some flexibility and spontaneity. –

·         Practice mindfulness and self-awareness to tune into your body and mind's needs. If you feel overwhelmed or stressed, take a break, go for a walk, or do some deep breathing exercises. If you feel energized and inspired, use that momentum to tackle more challenging tasks or try something new. –

·         Be open to feedback and adjust your routine as needed. If you find that a particular strategy or tool is not working for you, don't be afraid to try something else. Remember that flexibility is not about being wishy-washy or indecisive, but about being adaptable and resilient. –

·         Finally, be kind and compassionate to yourself. Balancing structure and flexibility is not always easy, and it's okay to make mistakes or have setbacks. Celebrate your successes, learn from your failures, and keep moving forward with a growth mindset.

·         By following these tips and strategies, you can create a routine that honors your need for structure and flexibility while also optimizing your productivity and well-being. Remember, it's not about finding the perfect balance, but about finding what works best for you in the moment.

 

Tips for Showing Up Authentically Without Overperforming: -

·         Start by defining what authenticity means to you. What are your core values, beliefs, and passions? What makes you unique and special? Use these insights to guide your actions and decisions. –

·         Set realistic expectations for yourself and others. Don't try to be perfect or please everyone. Instead, focus on doing your best and being true to yourself. –

·         Practice self-compassion and self-care. Take breaks when you need them, prioritize your well-being, and avoid comparing yourself to others. –

·         Be honest and transparent in your communication. Speak your truth with kindness and respect, and listen actively to others' perspectives. - Set boundaries and say no when necessary.

·         Don't overcommit or take on more than you can handle. Learn to prioritize your time and energy based on your needs and goals. –

·         Embrace your imperfections and mistakes. Remember that failure is a natural part of growth and learning. Use setbacks as opportunities to reflect, learn, and improve. –

·         Finally, surround yourself with supportive and accepting people who appreciate you for who you are. Seek out communities and relationships that align with your values and interests.

·         By following these tips, you can show up authentically without feeling the pressure to overperform or conform to others' expectations. Remember that authenticity is not about being perfect or flawless, but about being true to yourself and living a meaningful and fulfilling life.

PODCAST HOST

Patricia was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, but is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller.  Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD with a PDA Profile helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion.  She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren’t alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges.  Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for HSPs that focus on understanding what it means to be an HSP, self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you

 

CO-HOST BIO

Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC has been a psychotherapist for 20 years. She specializes in helping Highly Sensitive People thrive in love, work, and parenting Highly Sensitive Children. Jen is passionate about using mindfulness and compassion-based approaches to ameliorate human suffering.

LINKS

Jen’s Links

Email: Jen@heartfulnessconsulting.com

Jen’s website: https://heartfulnessconsulting.com/ 

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Recently, I watched the Netflix film "Nyad," starring Annette Bening and Jodie Foster. The movie recounts the inspiring story of Diane Nyad and her remarkable swim from Cuba to Florida at age 64. It serves as a powerful reminder that we need not regret the paths not taken, as life continually presents us with opportunities to pursue our dreams. Tune in to this podcast for the inspiration to release regrets and pursue your goals with determination because the unknown is an expansive highway filled with possibilities!

If you found this podcast enjoyable, kindly consider subscribing and leaving a rating or review. Additionally, I'd appreciate it if you could share it with your friends to spread the love! 

You can also follow me on Instagram, Facebook, TikTok, Twitter, and LinkedIn. If you are interested in my work, please check out my books, "The Gift of Maybe: Finding Hope and Possibility in Uncertain Times" (including a new audiobook) and "A Year Without Men: A 12 Point Guide To Inspire and Empower Women." 

Above all, my sincere wish is that this podcast has contributed to less suffering and more joy in your life!

Ciao, Creativo🇮🇹✨! Today I'm going to take you inside my deeply joyful and emotional journey back to Sicily. On this trip I reconnected with my ancestral roots and got to introduce my parents to our long-lost relatives (first cousins) after over seven decades. Throughout the episode, you'll hear me delve into the cultural lessons gleaned from my Sicilian ancestry, the formative role family has played in shaping my creativity, why I actually love language barriers and even some funny takeaways about Sicilan food and culture. We will also explore why your ancestry is a rich resource for creative inspiration and talk through how YOU can better understand yourself through addressing familial and generational grief. Hope you love it! Strap in for a Sicilan Adventure 🍝

Chapters: 

00:04Introduction and Ancestral Journey

00:23The Importance of Knowing Your Roots

01:02The Privilege of Knowing Your Ancestry

02:12The Role of Family in Creativity

02:26The Power of Finding YOUR Creative Topic 

04:29My Sicilian Origin Story

06:31The Unexpected Family ReunionS

10:04The Emotional Impact of Meeting Family

13:31The Trip to Sicily: A Homecoming

15:41The Healing Power of Family Connection

25:17The Role of Creativity in Sicilian Culture

40:53The Grief of Losing Cultural Roots

55:09The Miracle of Sicily Jo Ann 

59:15Michelin Stars Are Overrated + I HATE Small Foods

01:00:37 The Uniqueness of Italian Culture

01:03:21The Healing Power of Ancestral Connection

01:06:12The Importance of Family in Creative Expression

Friendships Can Be Bleeping Hard!

Friendship struggles are real! How does being neurodivergent or specifically autistic impact friendships? Common themes of being misunderstood in spite having good intentions, and allowing others to see you in ways that are not how you see yourself. I talk about navigating breakups, not being able to do repair after a rupture, and using these painful experiences to clarify your values and what you want in your friendships. I also talk about coping strategies, support and self-care.

HIGHLIGHTS

Some common struggles in friendships if you’re neurodivergent:

·         Friendship struggles, relationships, friendships are hard

·         Struggling with communication and self-expression

·         Feeling misunderstood or not accepted by others

·         Difficulty with maintaining friendships over time

·         Struggling with boundaries and expressing needs

·         Feeling pressure to conform to societal expectations or norms

·         Struggling with self-doubt or imposter syndrome in social situations

·         Difficulty with finding supportive and inclusive communities

·         Difficulty with social cues and nonverbal communication

·         Sensory sensitivities that can make certain social situations overwhelming or uncomfortable

·         Difficulty with small talk or maintaining conversations on topics that are not of interest

·         Difficulty with understanding and navigating social hierarchies or power dynamics

·         Difficulty with understanding and expressing emotions in a way that is easily understood by others

 

Tips for cultivating resilience and adaptability in the face of friendship struggles: -

·         Acknowledge and validate your emotions: It's okay to feel hurt, disappointed, or angry when a friendship goes through a rough patch.

·         Take time to process your emotions and give yourself permission to feel them without judgment.

·         Practice self-compassion: Treat yourself with the same kindness and understanding you would offer a friend who is going through a tough time. Remember that you are doing the best you can with the resources you have. –

·         Seek support: Reach out to other friends, family members, or a therapist or coach for support and perspective. Talking through your feelings with someone you trust can help you gain clarity and feel less alone. –

·         Practice forgiveness: Forgiveness doesn't mean condoning hurtful behavior or pretending everything is okay. It means letting go of resentment and choosing to focus on healing and growth instead.

·         Set boundaries: If a friendship is consistently causing you stress or pain, it may be time to set boundaries or even end the friendship. Remember that you deserve to be treated with respect and kindness. –

·         Cultivate gratitude: Focus on the positive aspects of your life and relationships, even in the midst of struggles. Gratitude can help shift your perspective and increase your resilience.

Common misconceptions about personal growth and how to reframe our expectations: Misconceptions: -

·         Personal growth is a linear process with a clear endpoint –

·         Personal growth means always being happy and positive –

·         Personal growth is a solitary journey that doesn't involve others –

·         Personal growth is a one-size-fits-all process

 Reframing expectations: -

·         Personal growth is a lifelong journey with ups and downs, setbacks and progress –

·         Personal growth involves a range of emotions, including discomfort and pain, that can lead to greater self-awareness and resilience –

·         Personal growth involves connecting with others, seeking support, and learning from different perspectives –

·         Personal growth is a unique process that looks different for everyone, and involves finding what works best for you and your individual needs

PODCAST HOST

Patricia was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, but is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller.  Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is autistic helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion.  She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren’t alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges.  Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for HSPs that focus on understanding what it means to be an HSP, self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you

LINKS 

HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/

Online HSP Course Materials (no group included) https://patriciayounglcsw.com/product-category/hsp-classes/

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Today’s guest is Amelia Hruby. She is a writer, educator, podcast host and producer and she also has a PhD in philosophy. She’s the founder of Softer Sounds, a feminist podcast studio that supports women and nonbinary small business owners in creating purposeful, powerful podcasts. She is also the host of Off the Grid which is her podcast about leaving social media without losing all your clients.

From this conversation you’ll learn:

• How to push past fear to go through with big changes
• How Social media might be inhibiting your creativity 
• How to recognize when it’s time to leave or lessen your relationship with social media
• How to actually go about leaving socials 
• Where to find clients/community outside of socials
• How to build a valuable email list (and the best platforms to use)
• How to gain greater risk tolerance
• Why we should celebrate endings as much as beginnings 
• And Much More!

Here are links to some of the things Amelia mentioned on the pod: 

• Threshold Moments episode on The Tension Field
• Samara Bay's book Permission to Speak
•  Offthegrid.fun
•  The Interweb
  

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Neurodivergence & Autism: Navigating Challenges in Relationships

We explore the challenges of maintaining friendships for people who are neurodivergent (AuDHD, autistic, HSP etc.) We emphasize the importance of emotional intelligence, empathy, active listening, open communication, patience, setting boundaries, and forgiveness in building and maintaining meaningful relationships.

CO-HOST

Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC

HIGHLIGHTS

·         An autism diagnosis means that sometimes one may have challenges in maintaining friendships –

·         Some people may struggle with making friends, while others may struggle with maintaining relationships (or people may struggle with both).

·         Experiencing feelings of hurt, disappointment, and exclusion in relationships is not uncommon –

·         It can be painful to navigate situations where you feel left out or excluded

·         Having a strong sense of justice and fairness, can make it harder to deal with exclusion in groups or relationships–

·         Despite these challenges, it is possible to navigate friendships with emotional intelligence and empathy.

Navigating the challenges of friendship in daily life can be difficult, but there are ways to approach it with emotional intelligence and empathy. Here are some tips: -

·         Practice active listening: Listen to your friends and try to understand their perspective. This can help you build stronger relationships and avoid misunderstandings.

·         Communicate openly and honestly: Be honest with your friends about your feelings and needs. This can help you avoid conflicts and build trust.

·         Show empathy: Try to understand your friends' emotions and be supportive. This can help you build deeper connections and show that you care.

·         Be patient: Friendships take time and effort to maintain.

·         Be patient and understanding when your friends are going through difficult times.

·         Set boundaries: It's important to set boundaries in friendships to protect your emotional well-being. Communicate your boundaries clearly and respectfully.

·         Practice forgiveness: No one is perfect, and conflicts can arise in friendships.

·         Practice forgiveness and try to move past conflicts with empathy and understanding.

·         Most important: Be sure that your relationships are reciprocal, and that the other person is also utilizing these skills.

PODCAST HOST

Patricia was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, but is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller.  Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD (autistic and ADHD) with a PDA profile, helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion.  She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren’t alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges.  Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for HSPs that focus on understanding what it means to be an HSP, self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you

CO-HOST BIO

Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC has been a psychotherapist for 20 years. She specializes in helping Highly Sensitive People thrive in love, work, and parenting Highly Sensitive Children. Jen is passionate about using mindfulness and compassion-based approaches to ameliorate human suffering. 

LINKS

Jen’s Links

Email: Jen@heartfulnessconsulting.com

Jen’s website: https://heartfulnessconsulting.com/

Patricia’s Links

HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/

Receive the top 10 most downloaded episodes of the podcast-- https://www.subscribepage.com/e6z6e6 

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Today’s guest is Dr. Morgan Cutlip. She holds a PhD in Psychology and is a highly sought after relationship expert, content creator and writer whose most recent book Love Your Kids Without Losing Yourself helps women to mother themselves the way they mother their kids and reclaim their own voice.  I wanted to bring Morgan on because, to reiterate, I think we’ve set up a system that isn’t putting Moms in a position to succeed. They are expected to be everything to everyone--of course there’s burnout and a feeling of failure in all areas.
Morgan provides a path to see that motherhood isn’t a restriction to your life and creativity, but rather, can be an expansion.

From this conversation you’ll learn:

• How to navigate the journey of motherhood without losing yourself 
• How to go from dream to releasing your creative project
• Why it's important to mother yourself as you would mother your children
• How to let go of the dream of balance and STILL find a way to have a full life
• Why it's possible AND Probable for moms to still have their great creative renaissance and unleash after birth
• How to regain your creativity, post-baby
• How to deal with kids protesting your creative time
• What is required of a mother’s partner in order to make mothering not feel impossible
• Why Motherhood is an expansion not a restriction 
• How to unblock your creativity 
• And Much More!
  

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