Roxie Nafousi ON: Manifestation Masterclass & How to Set Better Intentions to Attract Your Dream Life

    Self-love is about honoring where we are today and where we want to be tomorrow, so prioritize self-care to achieve balance in life.

    enDecember 19, 2022

    About this Episode

    Today, I am talking to Roxie Nafousi. Roxie is an self-development coach, manifesting expert, author, ambassador for the Mental Health Foundation and Instagram Agony Aunt. Her commitment to transforming the lives of people who suffer with emotional and mental health issues, and helping them to fulfill their potential, has seen her become a well-known figure in the wellness world. She has hosted self love and motivational workshops and events for major brands as well as being a regular speaker on wellness and mental health panels both in and outside the UK.   

    Roxie opens up about her past, her addiction, and how she found spiritual healing that eventually led her to a better path in life. We both shared our vulnerability as we talk about the real value of manifestation, the misconceptions surrounding it, how fear and doubt can hold us back from manifesting our goals, and how we can continue to manifest the goals we want to achieve alongside the priorities we currently have.   

    Having clear goals will help us set a clearer vision of the future we want to have. And when we work hard to achieve these goals, its manifestation is put into action.    

    What We Discuss:

    • 00:00:00 Intro
    • 00:03:10 When did your spiritual journey start?
    • 00:07:43 Tapping in drugs and addiction
    • 00:10:48 Manifesting the wrong things
    • 00:14:07 How do we manifest negativity?
    • 00:17:02 Devaluing the meaning of manifestation
    • 00:21:43 Misconceptions about manifestation
    • 00:24:27 Having clear goals
    • 00:30:22 Fear and doubt
    • 00:36:05 Self care through fear and doubt
    • 00:41:23 Does manifestation and prioritization work together?
    • 00:45:44 Mom guilt
    • 00:50:01 Legally changing a name
    • 00:54:24 Who you want to be
    • 01:00:35 Being clear with your vision
    • 01:03:14 What does envy represent
    • 01:08:59 Finding joy in other people’s losses
    • 01:11:53 Building self respect
    • 01:16:45 Roxie on Final Five

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    🔑 Key Takeaways

    • Manifesting requires us to connect with ourselves and take action, rather than simply relying on luck.
    • Self-development is the key to achieving positive change in our lives.
    • Self-development and self-worth are essential for long-term recovery from addiction.
    • Self-development is not a one-time event, but a lifelong journey of growth and manifestation.
    • Believe in your own instincts to find the answers you seek.
    • Turning envy into inspiration helps you stay motivated and focused on your goals while quality guidance can help you make the journey to success easier and faster.
    • Manifesting success is not about luck, but about hard work and self-development. Visualizing and creating a vision board are effective tools to help manifest your dreams.
    • Overcome fear and self-doubt to discover and focus on your unique gifts to serve and empower others.
    • To reach our full potential, we must learn to love and accept ourselves unconditionally.
    • Empower yourself to take charge of your life and wellbeing through self-care and self-love, and seek the support of dedicated professionals to help you reach your goals.
    • Self-love is about honoring where we are today and where we want to be tomorrow, so prioritize self-care to achieve balance in life.
    • Having clarity on your priorities and a purpose that you are passionate about can help you make decisions and create progress in life. Vision boards and manifesting should not include too many things at once, as it can be difficult to manage.
    • Parenting requires unconditional love and space to let children grow and develop independence, while taking time to show affection.
    • It is important to trust in your own judgement and prioritize yourself in order to be a good parent, as children learn more from your actions than words.
    • Understand who you want to be and align your behaviour with that to create a safe space for yourself.
    • Achieving our goals and staying focused requires resilience to stress, which can be improved naturally with Apollo.
    • Manifestation requires a structured process and system, and understanding that not everyone will like us allows us to be our true selves and reach our goals.
    • Use envy as a motivator to push you beyond your comfort zone and heal within yourself.
    • Celebrating and supporting each other's successes is essential for maintaining motivation and achieving our goals.
    • Self-trust, self-discipline, and self-respect are essential for achieving your dreams and taking charge of your own destiny.
    • Find the courage to make decisions that are right for you, and work hard for something meaningful to manifest the life you want.
    • Believe in yourself and focus on your unique purpose to manifest what you desire in life.

    📝 Podcast Summary

    Manifesting is About Self Belief, Empowerment and Making Things Happen

    Roxie started her spiritual journey in her late twenties after she had gone through a period of addiction and depression.She decided to create a vision board for the start of the year, and one of her dreams was to connect with Jay Shetty.She was then invited onto his podcast, On Purpose, and was incredibly excited to be on it.Jay was fascinated by how Roxie had taken the concept of manifesting and made it practical and applicable.The two talked about manifesting and how it should come from a place of genuine connection and not just wanting something from someone.Roxie's journey teaches us that manifesting is about self belief, empowerment and making things happen, rather than simply relying on luck.

    From Bullying and Self-Loathing to Manifesting a Positive Change

    Roanne was a young Iraqi growing up in Oxford and endured a lot of bullying at school.The bullying and negative media towards Muslims caused Roanne to reject her identity and have a lot of self-loathing.She changed her name to Roxy and continued her journey of trying to escape from her identity.In 2018 she had a major rock bottom and tried to make a change by doing yoga, meditation and other self-development activities.Despite her best efforts, Roanne found herself back in the same situation - taking drugs and engaging in activities she regretted.She then found a podcast about manifesting and realised that self-development was the key to a positive change in her life.

    Overcoming Addiction and Finding Self-Worth.

    Roxie Nafousi had no confidence when she was younger and started drinking and taking drugs as a way to feel more confident.She soon realised that she had an addiction and by the age of 22, she was attending her first NA meeting.Despite this, it took her until 28 to give up drugs and alcohol, a period of time where she felt a lot of shame.Roxie then discovered self-development and self-worth and started her healing journey.She used techniques such as falling asleep to affirmation playlists to start this journey.Roxie made it clear that this is an ongoing journey which she is still on and will be for the rest of her life.

    Unveiling Abundance and Opportunity Through Self-Development

    Healing and self-development is a lifelong journey.With each layer you peel off, you open up potential for growth, abundance and opportunity.When you take a step back, you're still never going back as far as you went.Everything is either growing or dying at any given time.You can manifest negatively and positively.Subconsciously, you are already manifesting, whether you know the term or process or not.

    Unveiling the Seven Steps to Manifesting

    Roxie had a passion to help others and was inspired to do a self-love workshop.She was surprised to see a hundred people attend her workshop, so she began to learn more about manifesting.She asked her audience if she should do a workshop on manifesting and they said yes.She thought of the Seven Steps to Manifesting while on a walk and was surprised that it came instinctively to her.She had a fear that people would realize that things were not in her Seven Steps, but found that everything fit one of the steps.Her workshop on manifesting was a success and she was able to help many people.

    Aligning Your Behavior To Reach Your Goals And Overcome Tests From The Universe

    Manifesting is not just about visualizing what you want and having a positive mindset.It involves taking tangible steps to make your dreams come true.Aligning your behavior to your goals is also important to make progress.Turning envy into inspiration helps you stay motivated and focused on your goals.Overcoming tests from the universe is also important to keep growing.Getting quality guidance can help you make the journey easier and faster.

    Believe in Yourself and Make Things Happen

    Hard work is the only way to achieve success and it is not magic.Manifesting requires constant self-development and everything you do is part of your practice.Manifesting is not about luck, it is about believing in yourself and making things happen.It is important to be clear and specific about your goals in order to manifest them.Visualizing and creating a vision board are important tools to help manifest your dreams.Practicing visualization meditation is a great way to stay focused on your goals.

    Connecting Your Purpose to Service and Empowerment

    Having a clear idea of what you want and how you want to show up in the world is important, even if you don't know what it exactly looks like.Our purpose in life is to help and serve others but often due to lack of time and resources, we are unable to help as many people as we want to.There is no need to set specific goals or numbers to manifest what you want, instead focus on how you can use the gifts you have been given in the service of others.It is natural to feel fear and self-doubt when we are not sure of what we want, but it is important to push through these feelings and focus on the bigger picture.Take a step back and think about what will make you feel connected to people and how you can reach out to those who don't have access to resources.Feeling lost is part of the journey, but having a clear idea of who you want to be and how you want to feel is the best starting point.

    Uncovering Self-Worth Through Manifestation

    We are all born with confidence and self-love, but life can make us feel like we are not enough.Unconditional love from our parents is rarely present in our lives, which can lead us to think that we have to behave in a certain way to be accepted.This can lead to a lack of self-worth as we become older and realise what we have lost.It is important to approach our healing journey with compassion, in order to start to undo our old conditioning and find our inner confidence.We may try to put on a facade of confidence to cope with the world, but it is important to find ways to address our insecurities.Manifestation can help us to learn to love ourselves and find the confidence we are looking for.

    Overcoming Fear and Doubt to Conquer Cancer

    Fear of failure and doubt can limit us from achieving our goals.Looking at the accomplishments of others can lead us to become small-minded.We need to remember to keep a child-like perspective and vibrance in our lives and work.Self-care and self-love are essential to overcoming fear and doubt.Innovative research and dedicated doctors are working to empower everyone to conquer cancer.Therapy can provide helpful coping skills and support during difficult times.

    Cultivating Self-Love for a Balanced Life

    Everyday presents an opportunity to nurture our self-love or not.To cultivate self-love we must become mindful and aware of our decisions, from how we start our day to how we end it.Self-love is about honoring where we are today and where we want to be tomorrow.We must practice self-care by engaging in activities that make us feel better physically and emotionally.Prioritizing our needs helps us achieve balance in life.Having competing priorities doesn't mean they can't coexist, they just need to be managed.

    Can Clarity on Priorities Help You Create Progress in Life?

    It is important to have clarity on your priorities, so you can create progress in your life, whether it be family, career, or other areas.Having a purpose that you are passionate about is key, so you don't feel like you have to give up other areas of your life.Your priorities can change day to day and week to week, so it is important to be comfortable with that.It is not possible to prioritize everything at once, so it is important to be realistic about what you can and cannot do.Having a priority can help you make decisions, like what to eat or whether you should break up with your partner.Vision boards and manifesting should not include too many things at the same time, as it can be difficult to manage.

    Can We Find Balance Between Being a Good Parent and Pursuing Our Dreams?

    Parenting is a multifaceted job that requires unconditional love and space to let your child grow.It is important to find a balance between pursuing your own dreams and being a good parent.Roxie's son Wolf is a source of joy for her and she loves to see him happy.Even though she is away from him often, she's still able to give him the support and love he needs.Wolf has learned to be independent, but it is important to take time to show affection.Roxie has taken lessons from her own mother's example and has been able to navigate the difficult balance of motherhood and work with success.

    Taking On a New Name: Define Who You Want to Be

    We all have different definitions of what a good parent is and it's important to trust in your own judgement.It is ok to prioritize ourselves, as our children learn more from our actions than words.It is important to define who you want to be and live up to that definition.Trying to compare our definitions to others only adds unnecessary pressure to our lives.It is ok to make a big identity shift, such as taking on a new name, as we grow older.Taking on a new name can help us step into a character of ourselves we want to be.

    Aligning Your Behaviour with Your True Self

    For many teenagers, it can be difficult to fit in and have a sense of belonging in school.Jay Shetty experienced this struggle and found a way to create a safe space for himself.He was identified as the "class rebel" and "class clown" by his peers.Jay Shetty reflects that he was trying to be someone he was not and was not aligning his behavior with his true self.He emphasizes the importance of understanding who you want to be and aligning your behavior with that.Whoop is a great tool to help track and prioritize your health, giving you a daily recovery score to help you understand how much your body can handle in a day.

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    Liberate Yourself From Seeking Validation and Manifest Your Goals With Structure and Clarity

    It is okay to not be liked by everyone. We can love and admire people, but there will always be those who don't like them.Understanding this can be liberating as it allows us to be ourselves without seeking external validation.When we are in line with our true self, the universe will start to align and support us.Manifestation has to be done with a structured process and system, and not just magic.Part of manifesting is to do things we don't want to and still excel at them.Being clear with our vision will help to do the things that don't make us comfortable, but are necessary to reach our goals.

    Embrace the Spectrum of Emotions and Conquer Envy

    It is important to be gentle with ourselves and to experience the full spectrum of emotions.We should take risks, even if it means facing rejection or failure.We need to be motivated and committed to going beyond our comfort zone.Envy comes from a place of fear and scarcity.We should not be ashamed of feeling envious and should instead use it to identify what we need to heal within ourselves.Envy can be a source of inspiration if we use it to our advantage.

    Transforming Envious Thoughts Into Inspiration

    Envy can be a block to achieving our goals, because it can take away our motivation and focus.We can choose to transform our envious thoughts into inspiration by focusing on the beauty of the situation.Celebrating and supporting each other's successes is important, as it can help to lift our spirits and keep us motivated.Knowing our values can help us to focus our envy on things that are important to us, rather than become overwhelmed by it.Taking joy in other people's losses can be damaging to ourselves, as we will judge ourselves in the same way.Celebrating and supporting each other can help us to manifest our goals and create a positive environment.

    Embracing Abundance and Discomfort to Achieve Your Dreams

    It is important to have a mission and help others, and for every coach, healer, and author, there are thousands of people eager to learn.Abundant mindset is necessary to appreciate the other healers, even if their style is different from yours.Comfort is necessary for self-care, but discomfort builds self-respect.Going through tough times helps build self-respect, self-worth, and self-belief.Following through with things you say you will do builds self-trust and self-discipline.Having self-trust, self-discipline and self-respect leads to empowerment and helps to achieve your dreams.

    Discover the Courage to Live Your Life Meaningfully

    It's important to take time to think about what's meaningful to you and what you value in life.Don't do hard things just to fit in or because someone else wants you to.It's much more rewarding to do hard things that are meaningful to you.Taking the time to make decisions that are right for you instead of trying to please others can be liberating.Working hard for something meaningful will help to manifest the life you want.It's important to find the courage to be yourself in public, no matter what other people think.

    Unlocking Your Worthy Desires Through Manifestation

    Manifestation is the process of creating something in your life by believing it can be achieved.The best advice you can receive is to believe you are worthy of receiving what you desire.The worst advice is to think that if you focus on something hard enough it will appear.Every person has a unique purpose in life and it is important to identify and focus on it.To help you focus on your goals, create a vision board in whatever way works best for you.To live in harmony with others, avoid negative comments and focus on being kind.

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    How do you identify when you're restricting your desires in a relationship?

    How can couples work together to align their desires and ensure mutual fulfillment?

    Today, Jay welcomes back his good friend Lisa Bilyeu. Lisa is a co-founder of the billion-dollar brand Quest Nutrition and the president of Impact Theory, a digital media company aimed at empowering content. With a strong focus on developing content that speaks to personal growth and empowerment, especially for women, Lisa has been a pivotal figure in shifting paradigms within her industry. Her show, "Women of Impact," addresses issues facing modern women, combining personal anecdotes with actionable advice.

    The core theme of this conversation is outlining a roadmap for individuals seeking to overcome insecurities and cultivate a resilient, action-oriented confidence. Jay and Lisa discuss the common misconceptions around confidence, emphasizing that it is not a prerequisite for action but a result of engaging with the world despite fears and doubts.

    Lisa shares how her initial need for external validation was a significant barrier to personal growth, sharing transformative moments that reshaped her understanding of confidence and self-worth. She stresses the importance of embracing imperfection and vulnerability as catalysts for genuine self-improvement and empowerment.

    In this interview, you'll learn:

    How to start building confidence

    How to validate yourself

    How to prioritize personal growth

    How to handle fear of judgment

    How to transform relationships

    Together, let's continue to  question the preconceived notions about success and happiness and to take bold steps towards a life aligned with our deepest values and aspirations.

    With Love and Gratitude,

    Jay Shetty

    What We Discuss:

    00:00 Intro

    03:32 How Do You Define Confidence?

    06:54 Believe You’re Capable

    09:54 Admitting That You’re Unhappy

    16:13 The Frame of Reference

    19:36 Everything Is A Risk

    27:42 Non-Negotiables in Relationships

    34:41 Conversations That Don’t Break Relationships

    41:30 Who Leads, Who Follows

    49:26 Conflicting Value System

    54:57 Don’t Assume, Find a Compromise

    59:21 Growth Mindset With Your Partner

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    Matthew Hussey: 5 Reasons Why There is No Such Thing As The Right Person At The Wrong Time & How to Stop Missing Your Ex

    Matthew Hussey: 5 Reasons Why There is No Such Thing As The Right Person At The Wrong Time & How to Stop Missing Your Ex

    Does timing really matter in whether a relationship works?

    What are healthy ways to deal with a breakup?

    Today, let’s welcome back dating coach Matthew Hussey. Matthew is also a YouTube personality and writer known for offering advice on dating, love, and relationships to both men and women through his online content, seminars, and his book "Get The Guy." His approach typically combines practical advice, motivational coaching, and a bit of psychology to help individuals understand what they want from a relationship and how to get it.

    Matthew shares his insights on the complexities of love, self-discovery, and the importance of honest communication. He emphasizes on the significance of creating a peaceful relationship, distinguishing it from a boring one, and the value of embracing vulnerabilities to foster deeper connections. Matthew's reflections on his own experiences, coupled with his expertise, provide a comprehensive guide on navigating the challenges of modern dating, building meaningful relationships, and cultivating self-awareness. 

    In this interview, you'll learn:

    How to cultivate peaceful relationships without boredom

    How to deepen connections through vulnerability

    How to navigate modern dating with confidence

    How to enhance relationships with effective communication

    How to enrich love life through self-awareness

    Whether you're single, dating, or in a relationship, this episode offers valuable lessons on love, resilience, and the transformative power of embracing your true self.

    With Love and Gratitude,

    Jay Shetty

    What We Discuss:

    00:00 Intro

    04:20 Where Does Your Idea of Love Come From?

    10:34 What Differentiates a Peaceful to a Boring Relationship?

    19:35 What Are Your Must-Haves in a Relationship?

    31:47 Tactics Are Different From Relationship Standards

    39:59 Egoic Standards Versus Setting Standards for Happiness

    51:20 Practice Having Real and Difficult Conversations

    01:04:48 The Importance of Communicating Your Thoughts and Feelings

    01:08:25 Is Your Partner the Right One for You?

    01:15:05 Dealing with the Different Phases of Heartbreak

    01:26:31 What’s Next for Matthew?    

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    7 Ways to Reduce the Time You Spend Overthinking & Make Better Decisions Quicker

    7 Ways to Reduce the Time You Spend Overthinking & Make Better Decisions Quicker

    How do you know when you're overthinking too much?

    How can you break the cycle of overthinking?

    Today, Jay will talk about the complexity of overthinking and how we can turn it around and look at things differently. Jay presents seven practical strategies to help listeners combat the grip of overthinking. These range from the psychological—to limit how many people's opinions we seek, preventing the confusion and indecision that too many perspectives can cause—to the physical, recommending activities that disengage the analytical brain and encourage mental reset, like exercise or simply moving around.

    In this episode, you'll learn:

    How to use over thinking for problem-solving

    How to manage alarmed responses

    How to use physical movement for mental clarity

    How to focus on positives and small wins

    Don't let overthinking hold you back! Start implementing these strategies today and take control of your mental space.

    With Love and Gratitude,

    Jay Shetty

    What We Discuss:

    00:00 Intro

    00:52 Has Overthinking Slowed You Down?

    07:53 The Science Behind Overthinking

    10:50 #1: Overthinking as a Problem-Solving Approach

    14:24 #2: Don’t Ask Too Many People For Their Opinion

    18:19 #3: Avoid Responding While You’re Feeling Alarmed

    19:17 #4: Move Your Body When Your Mind Is Stuck

    20:32 #5: Focus on the Good Thing and Small Wins

    22:05 #6: Spontaneous Drawings Relieve Psychological Stress

    24:23 #7: Go Back to Analog

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    Orlando Bloom: 3 Reasons Why You Need to Allow Yourself to Make Mistakes & Shift Your Perspective on Fear

    Orlando Bloom: 3 Reasons Why You Need to Allow Yourself to Make Mistakes & Shift Your Perspective on Fear

    Do you stop yourself from making mistakes? 

    Do you want to shift your perspective on fear? 

    Today, let’s welcome the one and only Orlando Bloom. Orlando gained widespread fame for his roles in some of the most popular films including The Lord of the Rings trilogy and Pirates of the Caribbean series. He will be seen starring in Peacock's limited adventure docuseries, To The Edge, which he also produced. Off-screen, Orlando is known for his humanitarian efforts, including his work as a UNICEF Goodwill Ambassador.

    Orlando shares insights from his life as an actor, adventurer, and someone deeply involved in spirituality. He talks about how meditation and mindfulness help him stay balanced despite the hectic nature of being a celebrity, his views on masculinity, the importance of embracing both masculine and feminine qualities, and striving for balance and introspection in life. We also get to hear stories about facing and overcoming fears, embracing vulnerability, and the lessons he's learned from these challenges. This episode isn't just about getting to know a renowned actor but diving into the personal journey of a man who is constantly looking for deeper meaning and connections in life.

    In this interview, you’ll learn:
    How to overcome fear
    How to maintain balance in a hectic life
    How to incorporate mindfulness into everyday activities
    How to explore and embrace different aspects of your personality
    How to use life's challenges as growth opportunities

    Tune in now for a discussion full of insights on overcoming fears, embracing spirituality, and pursuing personal growth.  

    With Love and Gratitude,
    Jay Shetty

    What We Discuss:
    02:28 Working in an Unscripted Space
    06:09 What’s Your Earliest Childhood Fear?
    08:35 Practicing Buddhism
    13:49 The Lotus Sutra
    20:16 The 8 Wins
    26:28 Trusting Your Life and Becoming Capable
    36:33 Being Present While on the Edge
    44:48 Any Moment Could Be Your Last
    45:43 The Deepest Mirror You’ll Ever Have
    48:58 What Did You Learn from Your Past Relationships?
    51:22 Introducing Buddhism Practice to My Kids
    55:33 Whatever You’re Saying, You Become
    01:02:22 Loving the Parenting Journey
    01:07:16 The Impacts of Your Decisions
    01:09:13 Opportunities Through Obstacles
    01:17:40 Buddhism Is My Anchor
    01:18:59 The Fear You’re Currently Overcoming
    01:26:04 Orlando Bloom on Final Five

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    4 Ways to Know if It Is Time To End Your Relationship (When the Signs Are Not Clear and Things are Not Bad)

    4 Ways to Know if It Is Time To End Your Relationship (When the Signs Are Not Clear and Things are Not Bad)

    Do you find yourself often thinking about breaking up?

    Do you and your partner have unresolved conflicts that keep resurfacing?

    In this episode, Jay tackles the tough emotions and uncertainty many face when considering a breakup. He talks about why people stay in or leave relationships, touching on key factors like emotional closeness, personal investment, and the impact of family responsibilities. Jay also discusses how to ensure emotional security and the risks of staying for financial reasons or out of obligation. 

    In this episode you’ll learn:

    How to recognize emotional investment

    How to assess emotional security

    How to consider financial implications

    How to navigate emotional intimacy

    This honest conversation provides you with the insights to evaluate your relationship more clearly, helping you decide whether to work on it or move on, based on a deeper understanding of your feelings and the relationship's dynamics.

    With Love and Gratitude,

    Jay Shetty

    What We Discuss:

    00:00 Intro

    01:10 When to End Your Relationship

    04:48 10 Reason Why People Stay in a Relationship

    12:44 Top 10 Reasons to Leave Your Relationship

    18:14 The Three Cancers of the Mind

    24:44 Difference in Scorecard Perspective

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