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    56. Why am I so unhappy?

    Embrace self-care, recognize seeking happiness isn't always about changing ourselves, and celebrate small victories. Try new products during Black History Month, use Pronamel toothpaste and mouthwash, and utilize Canva for presentations.

    enNovember 21, 2022

    About this Episode

    How do we explain the feeling where we have everything we could want, but we still feel so unhappy and dissatisfied? In this episode we explore some of the reasons for unhappiness in the face of success and everything we have ever wanted to dispel some of the stigma around sadness, depressive episodes and the normalcy of feeling unhappy.

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    ūüĒĎ Key Takeaways

    • Use Pronamel toothpaste and mouthwash for enamel repair, prioritize health, and shop at Kroger for affordable options. Everyone's journey is unique, remember it's okay not to feel perfectly happy all the time.
    • It's normal to experience unhappiness, and it's important to normalize this feeling instead of stigmatizing or feeling guilty about it. Happiness is subjective and not always within our control, and it's okay to feel sad, blue, or down. We're not alone in our struggles, and there are insights and perspectives to help us move forward.
    • Aristotle's idea that happiness is composed of both pleasure and a well-lived life emphasizes the importance of both immediate joy and long-term purpose in the pursuit of happiness.
    • Maslow's hierarchy of needs highlights the importance of meeting basic needs for safety and security before focusing on higher needs for happiness, and feeling sadness is a natural part of life.
    • Depression is a mental illness with prolonged periods of sadness, lack of interest, insomnia, agitation, and feelings of worthlessness, requiring clinical help, caused by complex biological and external factors, not a sign of personal weakness.
    • Fear and unease about the world and our place in it, constant exposure to negative news, and social media comparisons can contribute to unhappiness in our 20s, emphasizing the importance of focusing on inner happiness and satisfaction.
    • Understand that it's normal to feel sad during major life transitions, reflect on personal interpretations, and consider external factors contributing to emotions.
    • Connecting with others and focusing on joy and gratitude can help us move past sadness and experience more happiness
    • During tough periods, remember change is constant, seek therapy for personal growth, and don't rely solely on lifestyle changes
    • Practice gratitude, focus on positives, recognize toxic relationships, and remember to live life to the fullest for overall well-being.
    • You have the power to shape your life for happiness, remove negatives, and schedule pleasurable activities
    • Embrace self-care, recognize seeking happiness isn't always about changing ourselves, and celebrate small victories. Try new products during Black History Month, use Pronamel toothpaste and mouthwash, and utilize Canva for presentations.

    ūüďĚ Podcast Summary

    Taking care of your health, specifically your teeth, is crucial

    Taking care of your health, specifically your teeth, is crucial as you only get one set. Pronamel intensive enamel repair toothpaste and mouthwash can help repair acid-weakened enamel. Meanwhile, shopping at Kroger offers quality products at affordable prices, guaranteed. For those in their 20s, feeling unhappy despite having many reasons to be content is common. This experience can lead to feelings of guilt, shame, and confusion. However, it's essential to remember that everyone's journey is unique, and it's okay not to feel perfectly happy all the time. Additionally, using tools like Canva presentations can help streamline tasks, such as creating presentations quickly and easily.

    Understanding Unhappiness

    Feeling unhappy or experiencing periods of intense unhappiness is a common experience, and it's important to normalize this feeling instead of stigmatizing or feeling guilty about it. Happiness is subjective, and it's not always within our control to feel happy despite external successes or positive circumstances. This episode aims to provide comfort and encouragement to those questioning why they're not happy, sharing psychological, social, cultural, and biological explanations for unhappiness. It's a reminder that we're not alone in our struggles and that it's okay to feel sad, blue, or down. The mission is to create a space for vulnerability and share the good and bad experiences of this decade, including the difficult moments, and to offer insights and perspectives on how to get out of a rut and move forward.

    The Complex Journey of Happiness

    Happiness, an elusive emotional state, is subjective and difficult to define. While we may know it when we feel it, its absence often consumes our thoughts. Happiness is not easily created artificially, and while practices like self-care and support from loved ones can help, they may not be enough during low points. The definition of happiness remains a topic of debate, with some arguing it's the absence of sadness, while others believe it requires both pleasure and a sense of purpose. Aristotle's idea that happiness is composed of both pleasure and a well-lived life resonates, emphasizing the importance of both immediate pleasure and long-term purpose. Ultimately, the pursuit of happiness is a complex journey, one that involves recognizing and addressing the biological, environmental, and cultural factors that impact our emotional well-being.

    Understanding the Complexity of Happiness

    True and lasting happiness is not just about having material possessions or a sense of purpose, but also about feeling safe and secure on a deeper level. Maslow's hierarchy of needs provides a framework for understanding this, as our most basic needs for food, shelter, and safety must be met before we can attend to higher needs like love, esteem, and self-actualization. Happiness is not a shallow, materialistic concept, but a complex and multifaceted emotion that requires attention to various aspects of our lives. Additionally, it's important to remember that feeling unhappy or sad is a natural part of life and not the same as depression.

    Understanding the Difference Between Sadness and Depression

    While sadness is a natural emotional response to various life circumstances, depression is a mental illness characterized by prolonged periods of sadness, lack of interest and enjoyment in activities, insomnia, agitation, and feelings of worthlessness. Depression is not something that can be overcome easily, and it significantly impairs one's ability to function in daily life and society. Sadness and depression are not the same, and it's essential to recognize the difference. While sadness can often be treated, depression requires clinical help. The causes of depression are complex and multifaceted, involving both biological and external factors. Neurotransmitter imbalances can contribute to depression, but it's not the only explanation. Environmental, social, and cultural factors also play a significant role in causing and exacerbating depression. It's essential to understand that depression is not a sign of personal weakness or a lack of effort, and seeking help is crucial for coping with this mental illness.

    Existential dread and social media comparison impacting happiness

    Existential dread and social media comparison can significantly impact our happiness and sense of purpose in life. Existential dread refers to fear and unease about the state of the world and our place in it, which can lead to an existential crisis. The constant exposure to negative news and events through media, especially social media, can deepen these feelings. Social media also promotes an internal comparison game, making it difficult to be content with our own lives and experiences. These factors can contribute to the sense of unhappiness many people feel in their 20s, a decade marked by significant life changes and transitions. It's essential to recognize these influences and strive to focus on our inner happiness and satisfaction rather than external comparisons.

    Experiencing significant life changes can lead to feelings of unhappiness

    Going through significant changes in life, such as moving, losing someone, or experiencing a breakup, can lead to feelings of unhappiness and instability. This is a normal response to these experiences, as they can cause radical shifts in how we see the world and interact with it. Our outlook on life also plays a significant role in our emotional experiences. It's important to reflect on how we interpret events, whether we blame ourselves when things go wrong or attribute good fortune to luck or fate. Biological factors, cultural and environmental influences, and social media comparison are also contributors to feelings of sadness and unhappiness in our 20s. Sometimes, it's okay to feel sad, but it's important to be aware of the factors that may be contributing to these feelings and take steps to address them if necessary.

    Experiencing sadness and unhappiness is normal

    Going through periods of sadness and unhappiness is a normal part of life, especially during significant life changes. Listening to sad music or connecting with others who have experienced similar emotions can provide comfort and a sense of relatability. It's important to remember that feeling unhappy doesn't make us any less fortunate or blessed, and external factors beyond our control can also impact our emotional states. To move past these feelings and experience more happiness, it's essential to focus on curating our lives and outlooks to prioritize joy and gratitude.

    Embrace change and seek help during difficult times

    Everything in life is temporary, including our emotional experiences, and change is the only constant. During periods of unhappiness or sadness, it's important to remember that things will change and there are actions we can take to help ourselves. Therapy is an effective strategy for dealing with internal struggles and provides a safe, judgment-free space to focus on personal growth. While lifestyle changes can be beneficial, it's crucial not to rely solely on them during difficult times. Instead, consider seeking professional help to gain valuable insights and strategies for overcoming challenges. Remember, you have agency and the power to make positive changes in your life.

    Focusing on small joys may not always solve deeper issues

    While making lifestyle changes and finding joy in small things can improve mood, they may not always solve deeper issues. It's important to recognize that some factors contributing to unhappiness may be outside of our control. However, practicing gratitude and focusing on the positive can help shift perspective and bring about a sense of appreciation for life's simple joys. Additionally, recognizing and removing toxic relationships or environments can contribute to overall well-being. Ultimately, it's essential to remember that we only get one life and have the power to make choices that allow us to live it to the fullest.

    Take control of your happiness

    You have the power to shape your own happiness and well-being. If there are things in your life causing sadness, unhappiness, or stress, you're allowed to remove them. Additionally, scheduling pleasure and happiness into your life through activities and self-care can help retrain your brain to focus on positive emotions. It's important to remember that everyone experiences ups and downs, and it's okay to feel overwhelmed or unhappy, even when things are going well. However, if you're seriously struggling, don't hesitate to seek professional help. Ultimately, taking steps to improve your life and prioritize your happiness is a brave and commendable choice.

    Embracing Happiness and Self-Care

    Maintaining happiness and overall well-being can be challenging with the various biological, cultural, environmental, and existential factors impacting us daily. It's essential to be kind to ourselves and recognize that seeking happiness is not always about changing something we've done but rather adapting to the circumstances around us. The speaker encourages listeners to send love, support, and strength to those going through similar experiences. Additionally, small actions like taking care of our teeth with Pronamel toothpaste and mouthwash, or using Canva presentations for quick and effective slide creation, can make our lives a little easier. Lastly, celebrating Black History Month at Walmart is an excellent opportunity to discover and try Black-led products, broadening our daily routine choices. Remember, self-care and self-improvement come in various forms, and every small step counts.

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