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    #1 Way to Find Confidence Within When You Have Low Self- Esteem with Victoria Jackson

    Overcoming personal challenges can fuel determination to make a meaningful impact, despite obstacles like lack of collaboration and sharing of information in certain fields.

    enMarch 15, 2024

    About this Episode

    Today, let's welcome to the On Purpose podcast cosmetics entrepreneur, medical research trailblazer, and Women’s Hall of Fame inductee, Victoria Jackson. Victoria founded the global powerhouse brand Victoria Jackson Cosmetics where she irrevocably altered the beauty landscape with her creation of the “No Makeup” makeup aesthetic. She and her husband, Bill Guthy—founder of the marketing behemoth Guthy-Renker—established The Guthy-Jackson Charitable Foundation to fund research on NMO treatments and a potential cure. 

    Victoria shares her lifelong experiences, from the anxiety of feeling different to the profound questions about our existence and the roles we play in this world. She opens up about the darkest day in her life as well as the trials of transforming passion into a successful enterprise. These stories aren't just about overcoming; they're about thriving, giving hope to those striving to make a meaningful impact in their lives and the lives of others, especially when facing seemingly insurmountable obstacles.

    In this interview, you’ll learn:

    How to stay resilient in the most difficult circumstances

    How to move on from trauma

    How to turn passion into a career

    How determination can change lives

    Why we never stop learning

    The episode is a beacon for anyone seeking to make sense of life's complexities, offering insights into building relationships, handling adversity, and finding one's calling. 

    With Love and Gratitude,

    Jay Shetty

    What We Discuss:

    00:00 Intro

    04:38 I Always Felt That I’m Different

    05:51 We’re All Trying to Figure Out the World

    06:38 What Were You Most Anxious Of?

    08:55 What is My Purpose?

    11:29 Love for Teaching and Sharing Knowledge

    13:58 Trust the Process and Have Patience for Yourself

    17:13 “The Night I Nearly Lost My Life” 

    23:13 How Do You Overcome Trauma

    25:04 “I Wanted to Give Women Hope”

    27:42 Transforming Passion to a Successful Business

    32:32 Navigating Relationship Can Be Challenging

    35:56 “My Daughter Had Four Years to Live”

    39:54 Prove It To Them That You Can Do It

    42:39 The Biggest Roadblocks in Healthcare

    47:37 How Do You Survive Difficult Situations?

    49:48 Finding Cure For Alli

    53:21 Going Against All Odds

    55:00 Finding Answers and Taking Actions

    57:48 Victoria on Final Five

    01:03:11 It’s Hard to Get People to Pay Attention

    01:06:43 Download the NMO Resources App

    01:09:13 Strategic Allocation of Funds

    01:10:32 You Just Have to Find a Way

    Episode Resources:

    Victoria's latest book, "We All Worry, Now What?" is now available for pre-order on Amazonhttps://www.amazon.com/All-Worry_Now-What-Victoria-Jackson/dp/1595911324

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    🔑 Key Takeaways

    • Discover a range of podcasts discussing culture, trends, life's transitions, grief, mental health, and more for personal growth and inspiration
    • Despite facing challenges like prematurity, anxiety, and parental divorce, Victoria found meaning and connection in her experiences, highlighting the importance of empathy and perseverance in overcoming adversity.
    • It's normal to feel unsure of oneself during teenage years, but keeping an open mind and trying new things can lead to discovering one's creativity and passion, which in turn can help others and bring fulfillment.
    • Starting a passion project won't be perfect, but embracing imperfection and being patient with oneself can lead to growth and confidence.
    • Even the most challenging experiences can lead to personal growth and positive change, as the speaker's fear of enclosed spaces led her to help empower women in jails and later start a business promoting self-improvement
    • After a traumatic experience, focus on finding inner strength, making necessary adjustments, and moving forward instead of letting fear control your life.
    • Trauma can inspire new beginnings and lead to discovering one's purpose, resulting in a successful business.
    • A determined founder transformed a small business into a successful brand, creating over 600 products and teaching makeup artistry, inspiring women with natural-looking cosmetics and infomercials.
    • Recognize emotional baggage, practice self-awareness, introspection, and open communication for healthy relationships.
    • Discovering a life-altering diagnosis can lead to newfound determination, resilience, and a renewed sense of purpose. Whether it's leaving a cosmetics empire behind to find a cure for a loved one or finding joy in everyday life through podcasts, perseverance can transform lives.
    • Overcoming personal challenges can fuel determination to make a meaningful impact, despite obstacles like lack of collaboration and sharing of information in certain fields.
    • Creativity and determination led Dr. Lean to build a world-renowned MS research blood bank despite challenges, inspiring us to respond to difficulties with opportunity and collaboration instead of fighting.
    • Surviving adversity can lead to finding purpose and making a positive impact on the world through helping others and inspiring change
    • When facing health challenges, it's vital to find your voice, advocate for yourself, and build a community for support. Perseverance, self-advocacy, and community resources can help overcome seemingly insurmountable odds.
    • Victoria Beckham's journey from pop star to successful businesswoman and philanthropist underscores the importance of staying true to oneself, finding one's voice, and focusing on humanity. Her mother's advice inspired her to pursue dreams, and she now aims to be a good person and help others, particularly in autoimmune diseases.
    • Invested over $80 million to develop a model for diagnosing and treating autoimmune diseases, created a free app called NMO Resources to provide valuable information and resources for those suffering from these conditions, and dedicated to using success to serve others.
    • A researcher invests $80M of her own funds into translational research for Neuromyelitis Optica Spectrum Disorder and other autoimmune diseases, advocating for self-advocacy and global collaboration to stay informed and persistent in finding solutions.
    • Educate yourself, stay determined, prioritize health and well-being, address health care and incurable diseases, and practice mental wellness through tools like Calm.
    • Listening to thought-provoking discussions on podcasts or in-person can lead to valuable insights and decisions for self-improvement.

    📝 Podcast Summary

    Exploring Different Podcasts for Personal Growth

    There are a variety of podcasts available that offer conversations on different topics to help listeners navigate life's challenges and find inspiration. Danielle Robey and Simone Boyce host "The Bright Side," a daily podcast discussing culture, trends, and life's transitions. Megan Devine's "It's Okay That You're Not Okay" podcast focuses on discussing the taboo topics we don't usually talk about, like grief and mental health. Ruthie Rogers' "Ruthie's Table 4" podcast offers conversations with famous guests at a famous restaurant. And Victoria Jackson, a medical research trailblazer and author, shares her journey from cosmetics entrepreneur to finding a cure for Neuromyelitis Optica (NMO) on her podcast and in her books "Saving Each Other" and "The Power of Rare." These podcasts offer a range of perspectives and resources to help listeners become happier, healthier, and more healed.

    Early Childhood Experiences Shaped Victoria's Resilience

    Victoria's early childhood experiences shaped her into a resilient individual, with a unique perspective on life. Born prematurely and struggling with anxiety, she has spent her life in survival mode. Despite the challenges she faced, including her parents' divorce, she has managed to find meaning and connection in her experiences. Her journey is a testament to the power of perseverance and the importance of understanding and empathizing with the struggles of young people, whether they're navigating the complexities of social media or dealing with more traditional challenges. Victoria's experiences may have looked different from those of young people today, but the underlying struggles remain the same. Her ability to relate to their experiences, despite the differences in context, makes her a valuable voice in conversations about mental health and well-being.

    Discovering Identity and Purpose

    Finding one's identity and purpose in life is a common experience for many people, especially during the teenage years. This process can be filled with anxiety and feelings of not fitting in or being unsure of one's place in the world. The speaker shares her personal experience of struggling with low self-esteem and seeking approval, while also feeling a sense of unease about her future. She ultimately discovered her creativity and passion for makeup, which became her way of expressing herself and helping others feel better about themselves. Through her experiences, she learned that it's okay to keep trying new things and to never stop seeking out new opportunities for growth. Additionally, she emphasizes the importance of discovering one's purpose and using it to help others, as she did with her makeup tutorials and infomercials.

    Embracing imperfection on the path to passion

    Finding confidence and sharing your passions with the world doesn't require perfection. The speaker, a successful makeup artist, shared her experience of struggling with self-doubt and anxiety but finding the courage to teach others despite feeling uncertain. She emphasized that the first steps in pursuing a passion won't be perfect, and that's okay. Instead, it's essential to be patient with oneself and the project, and be willing to put oneself out there and try. The speaker's journey to creating "no-makeup makeup" in the late 80s, when heavy makeup was popular, demonstrates this concept. She started by experimenting in her garage and building her skills, eventually creating a natural look that helped women feel confident and true to themselves. So, if you're feeling anxious or uncertain about sharing your passion, remember that the first steps won't be perfect, but with patience and determination, you can make progress and find confidence along the way.

    Childhood fear leads to empowering women in jails

    Our past experiences, no matter how difficult, can shape our future in unexpected ways. The speaker, Jay Shetty, shares how her encounter with the pillowcase rapist in her childhood left her with emotional scars and a deep-rooted fear of being in enclosed spaces. However, this fear led her to work in jails for 20 years, where she discovered the power of self-respect and empowering women. This experience ultimately influenced her to promote self-improvement and the importance of feeling good about oneself, which she calls the "power of mascara." Later in her life, she and her wife started a business producing a healthy beverage, Juni sparkling tea, to help others boost their energy and combat stress. Despite the challenges she faced, she remained determined and found purpose in her experiences, demonstrating that even the most difficult moments can lead to growth and positive change.

    Finding inner strength after a traumatic event

    Despite experiencing a traumatic event of being attacked in her home, the speaker was able to find inner strength and make a conscious decision to fight back, ultimately surviving the ordeal. This experience led her to value her life and appreciate the unexpected second chance she was given. After the attack, she made necessary security adjustments to her home and chose not to let fear control her life. Instead, she focused on moving forward and finding ways to heal and grow from the experience. The speaker's bravery and resilience serve as an inspiration for overcoming adversity and finding hope in the face of tragedy.

    Finding Purpose Through Trauma

    Trauma can shape a person's life in profound ways, leading them to discover their purpose and turn it into a successful business. The speaker, who experienced a traumatic event in her teenage years, used her fear of being alone and desire to help others to start a beauty business. She found inspiration by visiting prisons and observing the transformative power of appearance on people's confidence. Her passion for helping women feel good about themselves eventually grew into a successful business, which went beyond selling cosmetics and focused on empowering women to see their own potential. The speaker's experience shows that even in the face of adversity, one can find meaning and create something positive.

    From 'no makeup makeup' to inspiring women's confidence

    The founder's unique perspective and determination to help women feel confident in their natural selves transformed a small business into a successful brand. Starting from the concept of "no makeup makeup" in the late 80s when nothing similar existed, she created over 600 products, including her foundation with natural-looking shades. With no formal education, she taught makeup artistry at UCLA, reaching a wide audience and inspiring many. Through this experience, she met TV producers who helped her sell her color cosmetics through infomercials, leading to significant sales. The founder's healing journey, intertwined with her professional growth, informed her work and influenced countless women's lives.

    Childhood experiences and relationships shape future connections

    Our past experiences and relationships can significantly impact how we navigate future relationships and our ability to form healthy connections. The speaker shared how her traumatic childhood and fear of being alone led to codependent tendencies and challenges in relationships. When her daughter was diagnosed with a rare illness, she described the emotional turmoil of watching someone she loved deeply go through a life-threatening condition. Both experiences highlighted the importance of recognizing the emotional baggage we bring to our relationships and the need to address it for the sake of our own growth and the health of our connections. The speaker emphasized the importance of self-awareness, introspection, and open communication in navigating the complexities of family relationships and love.

    The Power of Perseverance and Finding Purpose

    When faced with a life-altering diagnosis, the importance of determination, resilience, and finding purpose becomes paramount. Laura Vanderkamp, a mother and businesswoman, shares her experience of discovering her daughter Ally had a rare condition called neuromyelitis optica, which led to a devastating prognosis. Instead of giving up, Laura decided to leave her cosmetics empire behind and dedicate herself to finding a cure for her daughter. This moment of clarity helped her overcome past traumas, including rape, and gave her a renewed sense of purpose. The story highlights the power of perseverance and the transformative effect it can have on one's life. In the podcast world, Danielle Robey and Simone Boyce, two working mothers and journalists, share stories of managing work, family, and finding joy in everyday life through their podcast, The Bright Side. Katherine Nikolai, an architect and host of the Bedtime Story podcast, invites listeners to explore the world of Cozy, a place where kindness is the default and the simple joys of life are celebrated. These podcasts offer inspiration, support, and a reminder that even in the darkest of times, there is always a bright side to be found.

    From personal struggles to making a difference

    Overcoming personal struggles and pain can lead to a profound sense of purpose and the ability to make a meaningful impact on the world. The speaker, who transitioned from a cosmetic background to healthcare, drew upon her past experiences of being told she couldn't achieve her goals to fuel her determination to find a cure for her daughter's condition. The biggest roadblocks she encountered were the lack of collaboration and sharing of information in the medical world. Despite these challenges, she was able to bring together a team of experts and set a bold goal to find a cure, using her personal story and shared humanity to inspire and motivate them. This story serves as a reminder that even in the face of seemingly insurmountable odds, the power of love, intention, and determination can help us manifest our goals and make a positive difference in the world.

    Creativity and determination overcome research obstacles

    Determination and creativity are key to overcoming obstacles, even in the face of seemingly insurmountable challenges. Dr. Victoria Lean's story illustrates this perfectly. She entered the world of MS research driven by a desire to bring people together and share knowledge, only to find that collaboration was elusive. The biggest obstacle was building a blood bank for research, which required collecting samples from rare patients around the world. Instead of giving up, she got creative and hired a nurse to collect samples. Today, she has over 100,000 specimens in her blood bank, which has transformed the landscape of MS research. Dr. Lean's approach was not about fighting, but about creating opportunities for progress. Her story is a powerful reminder that in difficult situations, we have the power to choose how we respond, and that creating and collaborating can be more effective than fighting.

    Turning adversity into purpose and helping others

    Despite facing adversity, it's important to find purpose and help others. Karyn Baxter, a survivor of rape, turned her experiences into a mission to make a difference in the world. She found her purpose by helping others, starting with teaching women makeup and later leading to the invention of three drugs for a rare disease. Through her journey, she learned the power of bringing people together and inspiring a medical revolution. Now, she's focusing on finding a cure for autoimmune diseases, including the one her daughter Ali has. Karyn's story shows that even in the face of hardship, it's possible to make a positive impact on the world. Her determination, passion, and ability to bring people together have led to incredible achievements, and she continues to inspire and make a difference in the lives of many.

    Advocating for Yourself and Building a Support Network

    When facing challenges, especially those related to health issues like autoimmune diseases, it's essential to find your voice, advocate for yourself, and build a support network. The journey of Allie and her mother, as shared in the discussion, highlights the importance of perseverance, self-advocacy, and community support. Even when faced with seemingly insurmountable odds, it's crucial to keep pushing forward and seeking out resources and information. The mother's experience of creating an app and building a community for patients is an excellent example of how individuals can take action and make a difference, not only for themselves but also for others. Remember, worry weighs more when carried alone, so channel it into becoming a warrior for yourself and seeking out the support and resources you need to thrive.

    Embrace essential qualities for personal growth

    Vulnerability, generosity, and kindness are essential qualities that can help us overcome challenges and achieve our purpose in life. Victoria Beckham, in her journey from pop star to successful businesswoman and philanthropist, emphasizes the importance of staying true to oneself, finding one's voice, and focusing on the shared sense of humanity. Her mother's advice to "wash your face, put on some makeup, and just go out there and do it" inspired her to start a cosmetic company and pursue her dreams. The worst advice she received was that she couldn't achieve her goals. Her current purpose is to be a good person and help others, particularly in the field of autoimmune diseases. To find one's voice, Victoria suggests getting quiet with oneself and being willing to speak up. If there was one law everyone in the world had to follow, she believes it should be a return to our shared sense of humanity and loving one another. Victoria's inspiring story shows that no matter the personal tribulations and trauma, it's possible to rise and make a positive impact on the world.

    Turning Adversity into Opportunity

    Despite facing challenges and setbacks, including multiple marriages and building a business from scratch, the individual discussed in this conversation has turned their experiences into a means of helping others. They have invested over $80 million of their own money and worked with various institutions to develop a model for diagnosing and treating autoimmune diseases, including a free app called NMO Resources. This app provides valuable information and resources for those suffering from these conditions, including access to clinical trials, support groups, and physicians. The individual's dedication to using their success to serve others is inspiring and demonstrates the importance of turning adversity into opportunity. Additionally, the conversation highlights the prevalence of misdiagnosis and late diagnosis of autoimmune diseases and the need for accessible resources to address this issue.

    Dedicated Researcher's Quest to Understand Autoimmune Diseases

    Dr. Lennon's dedication to researching Neuromyelitis Optica Spectrum Disorder (NMO) and other autoimmune diseases is extraordinary. With the help of technology and collaboration, she's working to create tools like biomarker identification and a relapse navigator to aid in diagnosis and treatment. After 15 years of research, she's put $80 million of her own money into the cause, ensuring every penny goes towards translational research. She urges those affected by autoimmune diseases to advocate for themselves, do their research, and look beyond their immediate doctors and resources to find the latest advancements on a global scale. The importance of focusing on autoimmune diseases, especially in collaboration with cancer research, is crucial as they are interconnected. While there may not be immediate solutions, staying informed and persistent in advocacy can lead to breakthroughs.

    Story of Perseverance in Health and Wellness

    Education and determination are key to overcoming challenges, especially when it comes to health and wellness. Victoria's personal story of perseverance in the face of adversity serves as an inspiration to others, emphasizing the importance of learning, understanding, and finding solutions, even when resources are limited. The conversation also highlighted the significance of addressing health care and incurable diseases, and the potential impact of small actions on a larger scale. Additionally, the importance of mental wellness and stress reduction through tools like Calm was discussed. Overall, the message encourages listeners to educate themselves, stay determined, and prioritize their health and well-being.

    Engaging in Meaningful Conversations Leads to Personal Growth

    Engaging in meaningful conversations with inspiring individuals can lead to personal growth and self-improvement. At Ruthie's Table 4, renowned conversations take place every week with the owner and esteemed guests like Martha Stewart and Paul McCartney. On the Therapy for Black Girls podcast, listeners can explore mental health and personal development through conversations with licensed psychologist Dr. Joy Hardin Bradford. By tuning in to these thought-provoking discussions, we can gain valuable insights and make small decisions to become the best versions of ourselves. Whether it's through podcasts or in-person conversations, taking the time to engage in meaningful dialogue can lead to significant growth. So, take a seat and join the conversation. Listen to Ruthie's Table 4 and the Therapy for Black Girls podcast to expand your horizons and embark on a journey of self-discovery.

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    7 Ways to Reduce the Time You Spend Overthinking & Make Better Decisions Quicker

    7 Ways to Reduce the Time You Spend Overthinking & Make Better Decisions Quicker

    How do you know when you're overthinking too much?

    How can you break the cycle of overthinking?

    Today, Jay will talk about the complexity of overthinking and how we can turn it around and look at things differently. Jay presents seven practical strategies to help listeners combat the grip of overthinking. These range from the psychological—to limit how many people's opinions we seek, preventing the confusion and indecision that too many perspectives can cause—to the physical, recommending activities that disengage the analytical brain and encourage mental reset, like exercise or simply moving around.

    In this episode, you'll learn:

    How to use over thinking for problem-solving

    How to manage alarmed responses

    How to use physical movement for mental clarity

    How to focus on positives and small wins

    Don't let overthinking hold you back! Start implementing these strategies today and take control of your mental space.

    With Love and Gratitude,

    Jay Shetty

    What We Discuss:

    00:00 Intro

    00:52 Has Overthinking Slowed You Down?

    07:53 The Science Behind Overthinking

    10:50 #1: Overthinking as a Problem-Solving Approach

    14:24 #2: Don’t Ask Too Many People For Their Opinion

    18:19 #3: Avoid Responding While You’re Feeling Alarmed

    19:17 #4: Move Your Body When Your Mind Is Stuck

    20:32 #5: Focus on the Good Thing and Small Wins

    22:05 #6: Spontaneous Drawings Relieve Psychological Stress

    24:23 #7: Go Back to Analog

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    Orlando Bloom: 3 Reasons Why You Need to Allow Yourself to Make Mistakes & Shift Your Perspective on Fear

    Orlando Bloom: 3 Reasons Why You Need to Allow Yourself to Make Mistakes & Shift Your Perspective on Fear

    Do you stop yourself from making mistakes? 

    Do you want to shift your perspective on fear? 

    Today, let’s welcome the one and only Orlando Bloom. Orlando gained widespread fame for his roles in some of the most popular films including The Lord of the Rings trilogy and Pirates of the Caribbean series. He will be seen starring in Peacock's limited adventure docuseries, To The Edge, which he also produced. Off-screen, Orlando is known for his humanitarian efforts, including his work as a UNICEF Goodwill Ambassador.

    Orlando shares insights from his life as an actor, adventurer, and someone deeply involved in spirituality. He talks about how meditation and mindfulness help him stay balanced despite the hectic nature of being a celebrity, his views on masculinity, the importance of embracing both masculine and feminine qualities, and striving for balance and introspection in life. We also get to hear stories about facing and overcoming fears, embracing vulnerability, and the lessons he's learned from these challenges. This episode isn't just about getting to know a renowned actor but diving into the personal journey of a man who is constantly looking for deeper meaning and connections in life.

    In this interview, you’ll learn:
    How to overcome fear
    How to maintain balance in a hectic life
    How to incorporate mindfulness into everyday activities
    How to explore and embrace different aspects of your personality
    How to use life's challenges as growth opportunities

    Tune in now for a discussion full of insights on overcoming fears, embracing spirituality, and pursuing personal growth.  

    With Love and Gratitude,
    Jay Shetty

    What We Discuss:
    02:28 Working in an Unscripted Space
    06:09 What’s Your Earliest Childhood Fear?
    08:35 Practicing Buddhism
    13:49 The Lotus Sutra
    20:16 The 8 Wins
    26:28 Trusting Your Life and Becoming Capable
    36:33 Being Present While on the Edge
    44:48 Any Moment Could Be Your Last
    45:43 The Deepest Mirror You’ll Ever Have
    48:58 What Did You Learn from Your Past Relationships?
    51:22 Introducing Buddhism Practice to My Kids
    55:33 Whatever You’re Saying, You Become
    01:02:22 Loving the Parenting Journey
    01:07:16 The Impacts of Your Decisions
    01:09:13 Opportunities Through Obstacles
    01:17:40 Buddhism Is My Anchor
    01:18:59 The Fear You’re Currently Overcoming
    01:26:04 Orlando Bloom on Final Five

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    4 Ways to Know if It Is Time To End Your Relationship (When the Signs Are Not Clear and Things are Not Bad)

    4 Ways to Know if It Is Time To End Your Relationship (When the Signs Are Not Clear and Things are Not Bad)

    Do you find yourself often thinking about breaking up?

    Do you and your partner have unresolved conflicts that keep resurfacing?

    In this episode, Jay tackles the tough emotions and uncertainty many face when considering a breakup. He talks about why people stay in or leave relationships, touching on key factors like emotional closeness, personal investment, and the impact of family responsibilities. Jay also discusses how to ensure emotional security and the risks of staying for financial reasons or out of obligation. 

    In this episode you’ll learn:

    How to recognize emotional investment

    How to assess emotional security

    How to consider financial implications

    How to navigate emotional intimacy

    This honest conversation provides you with the insights to evaluate your relationship more clearly, helping you decide whether to work on it or move on, based on a deeper understanding of your feelings and the relationship's dynamics.

    With Love and Gratitude,

    Jay Shetty

    What We Discuss:

    00:00 Intro

    01:10 When to End Your Relationship

    04:48 10 Reason Why People Stay in a Relationship

    12:44 Top 10 Reasons to Leave Your Relationship

    18:14 The Three Cancers of the Mind

    24:44 Difference in Scorecard Perspective

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    Benny Blanco: 3 Ways to Stop Caring About Failure & Get Out of Your Own Way

    Benny Blanco: 3 Ways to Stop Caring About Failure & Get Out of Your Own Way

    How can you overcome the fear of failure?

    What can you do daily to care less about failing?

    Today, Jay sits down with Benny Blanco for an inspiring conversation about pursuing passions, mentorship, failure, and continuous motivation. Benny has made a huge mark on the music industry contributing to hundreds of millions of album sales worldwide. Benny has worked with A-List artists like Ed Sheeran, Justin Bieber, and Katy Perry. As a solo artist, his albums "Friends Keep Secrets" and its sequel have amassed over 11 billion streams, featuring multiple platinum hits. Beyond music, Benny has ventured into television and even released a cookbook, "Open Wide," showcasing his diverse talents and interests

    Benny shares insight on how to not let failure stop you and getting over imposter syndrome. We also go dive into Benny’s life outside of music, exploring his passion for cooking through his cookbook "Open Wide." Plus, Benny talks about his relationships, how he keeps his creativity flowing, and the small joys that make his life special.

    In this interview, you’ll learn:

    How to pursue your passion with limited resources

    How to not let failure get in your way of achieving your goals

    How to embrace the unexpected in creative work

    How to transition your passion into different fields

    How to find joy and creativity in everyday moments

    Don't miss this intimate look at Benny Blanco's life and maybe learn a thing or two about making your own multi-track masterpiece or the perfect dish to serve at dinner!

    With Love and Gratitude,

    Jay Shetty

    What We Discuss:

    00:00 Intro

    03:43 What’s the First Creative Thing You Put Together?

    06:15 I Never Cared About Failure

    10:33 Developing Amnesia to Failure

    14:22 How Did You Meet Your Mentor?

    18:10 “The Boy I Mentored” 

    23:42 How Do You Show Up After a Rejection?

    26:51 Love Can Be Felt Through Music

    29:56 What Do You Do When You Wake Up?   

    32:02 Why Do You Struggle with Meditation?

    33:28 Why I Went to Therapy

    38:25 The Pressure of Perfectionism

    44:49 Do You Love to Cook?

    47:20 Do You Eat Healthy?

    48:47 Finding Comfort in Food

    54:42 What’s Your Sleep Pattern?

    56:40 Friendships Built Over the Years

    59:19 Multigenerational Friendships

    01:03:44 Better Relationship After Divorce

    01:05:52 Benny on Final Five   

    01:15:57 What’s Your Vice?

    01:17:53 Do You Take Supplements?

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    Why Your Self Worth is Keeping You Stuck & How to Stop Sabotaging Your Personal Growth With Jamie Kern Lima

    Why Your Self Worth is Keeping You Stuck & How to Stop Sabotaging Your Personal Growth With Jamie Kern Lima

    How does low self-worth stop you from moving forward?

    How can you stop self-sabotage and grow personally?

    Today, let’s welcome Jamie Kern Lima. Jamie is a New York Times bestselling author, founder of IT Cosmetics, a company she started in her living room and sold to L'Oreal in a billion-dollar deal, becoming the first female CEO of a brand in its 100+ year history. She's also an active philanthropist who has funded leadership training in more than 100 prisons and shelters across the US, and has donated over $40 million in product and funds to help women face the effects of cancer with confidence. 

    Jamie and Jay ponder on the meaning of self-worth, distinguishing it from mere confidence and challenging the misguided belief that our value is tied to our physical appearance. We get to hear the detrimental effects of self-doubt and present empowering strategies to transform your relationship with rejection, offering a new perspective that fosters resilience and self-compassion. 

    And then the conversation dives deep into personal beliefs, urging us to identify and discard unhelpful misconceptions, while giving emphasis on why authenticity is crucial and its role in conjunction with other factors in achieving success. 

    In this interview, you'll learn:

    How to build self-worth

    How to distinguish confidence from self-worth

    How to handle rejection

    How to overcome self-doubt

    How to remain authentic

    Together, let's learn how to distinguish your worth from external validation, turn rejection into a stepping stone, and live authentically.

    With Love and Gratitude,

    Jay Shetty

    What We Discuss:

    00:00 Intro

    03:17 Do You Feel Worthy Today?

    10:04 Confusing Confidence with Self Worth

    17:37 Your Weight Impacts Your Worth is a Lie 

    24:03 What Has Self Doubt Cost You?

    31:25 How to Change Your Relationship with Rejection

    37:02 The 4-Part R to Reframe Rejection

    44:00 You Need This Today

    48:13 Which Lie Are You Trying to Unlearn? 

    56:32 Authenticity Alone Doesn’t Guarantee Success

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