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    The “Performance Whisperer” George Mumford Has Deep Strategies for Flow and Success

    enApril 26, 2023

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    • The Art of Unlocking Yourself: Spontaneity, Mindfulness and LoveLearn to express your true self by practicing mindfulness, gratitude and challenging negative self-talk. Embrace spontaneity and recognize the importance of love, hope and faith in unlocking your fullest potential.

      Unlocking yourself means to express your true self in the moment without being pulled by desire or fear. Spontaneity is the key to unlock yourself. Be present in the moment and operate on all cylinders of your mind, body, heart, and soul. Practicing meditation and mindfulness can help you to achieve the state of flow in various areas of your life such as work, public speaking, social situations and writing. Challenge negative self-talk by practicing gratitude and making mistakes. Service to others plays an important role in unlocking yourself. Recognize your hideouts and work towards overcoming them. Love, hope, and faith are often misunderstood terms, recognize their importance.

    • Unlocking Your True Potential through PsychoanalysisEmbrace your greatness by being fully engaged and present in the moment. Consistent effort to stay unlocked and find flow will lead to a fulfilling and productive life.

      The essence of psychoanalysis is to help individuals love, work, and play at their highest capacity. Unlocking oneself means to be real, be fully engaged and enjoy just doing the thing one is doing or just being. Moments of being unlocked are not rare but a consistent effort to pull one’s head out of their ass, meditate, or listen to their intuition. Embracing one's greatness means saying yes to whatever comes up and rolling with it to find the flow. Flow is nonlinear and hard to describe, but it is a state where one is fully engaged and the only thing that matters is the present moment. We all have the ability to find our flow and be in it more often.

    • Practicing Positive States to Access Inner WisdomFocusing on positive emotions like gratitude and calm helps us access our intuition and see clearly, leading to creative solutions. Embracing the unknown with faith and confidence unlocks hindrances and trains us to notice automatically.

      Noticing positive states like flow, gratitude, helpfulness, friendliness and calm grows our consciousness and awareness. We become more tuned into it and access our intuition or inner wisdom. It takes faith and confidence to embrace unknown unfolding moments and generate hope. Training ourselves to embrace it unlocks hindrances like ill will and greed, allowing us to see clearly and act from a place of inner wisdom or divine spark. Struggle and error correction pick up patterns unconsciously and programming ourselves through the practice of gratitude helps us notice automatically. Having the attitude of being alert, relaxed and allowing things to happen instead of making things happen creates the opportunity for creativity and discovering things.

    • The Four A's to Embrace Struggle And Unlock Our PotentialEmbrace struggle, develop wisdom, and follow the Four A's: Awareness, Acceptance, Admitting, and Allowing. Accept and embrace what's happening to discover new things and live in creativity and joy.

      The key to unlocking our potential is by embracing struggle and saying yes to whatever comes up. It is necessary to listen with an open mind, understand how things work, and align ourselves with it, like we do with gravity. Wisdom is developed by seeing things clearly and figuring things out. We need to go through the struggle to have moments of clarity and breakthroughs. To do this, we follow the Four A's: Awareness, Acceptance, Admitting, and Allowing. The challenging part is accepting things as they are. By accepting and embracing what's happening, we can discover new things and live in creativity and joy.

    • Embracing Awareness and Wisdom to Overcome ObstaclesBy cultivating mindfulness and creating space between stimulus and response, we can choose wisely and overcome obstacles. It takes effort and time, but our potential for greatness and creativity can lead us to new levels of achievement.

      Accepting and embracing the awareness of our struggles or hindrances can lead to compassionate action and wise choices. By creating space between stimulus and response, we can choose wisely based on our values and goals. It may take effort and time, but by sustaining moments of clarity and presence, we can overcome obstacles and view them as stepping stones to another level. Mindfulness and wisdom work together to collect data and understand the essence of how we can achieve flow and sustain it. Embracing our capacity for greatness and creativity, we can unlock our ability to overcome obstacles and reach new levels in our lives.

    • Overcoming Your Hideouts for Personal GrowthEmbracing life's challenges and being open to learning from mistakes can help us overcome resistance and become our best selves. Self-awareness is key to unlocking our creativity and realizing our true potential.

      To become our best selves, we must chip away at our hideouts, which prevent us from unlocking our true potential. These hideouts can manifest in denial, resisting change, or playing the blame game, which block personal growth. Instead, we must embrace whatever comes our way, even in survival mode, and view life as a learning adventure. By staying open and asking ourselves what we need to learn from mistakes and challenges, we can overcome resistance and achieve our goals. This practice also requires self-awareness and recognizing how we tend to withdraw energy or shut down. By taking these steps, we can unlock our creativity and become the masterpieces we are meant to be.

    • Facing Uncertainty and Anxiety to Embrace GreatnessTo embrace one's greatness, it is important to prioritize self-care, use empathy to help oneself and others, and face anxiety and uncertainty without withdrawing into comfort zones. Painful experiences can be used positively to help others.

      Embracing your greatness is not easy as it brings uncertainty and anxiety. People often withdraw after reaching their goals as changes disturb relationships and some people feel abandoned. Sensitivity can make it harder to deal with these changes and feel responsible for people’s emotions. Addiction might result from this struggle to deal with emotions. To embrace greatness, it is important to focus on oneself first, and use empathy to help oneself and others. Painful experiences can be used positively to help others. One must not hide out in comfort zones, but rather face anxiety and uncertainty to embrace greatness.

    • Mindful sharing and a positive mindset lead to inner greatnessTo effectively help others, focus on personal growth through mindfulness, meditation, and living by Dharma principles. Sharing positive emotions and knowledge leads to reciprocation and minimizing negative emotions.

      Sharing knowledge and positive emotions not only helps others but also creates positive mind states for oneself. One must focus on their own growth and development to be able to help others effectively. Training the mind through meditation and incorporating Dharma principles into everyday life can help build mental muscles that unlock inner greatness and success, as wisdom, integrity and mental discipline go hand in hand with mindfulness. Giving love and appreciation leads to receiving the same in return. The laws of reciprocity work in mysterious ways, and by sharing one's experience, strength and hope, they come back to us in unexpected ways. Mudita or appreciative joy is the antidote to jealousy and envy that helps minimize negative emotions and enhances cognitive functioning.

    • Cultivating our ability to be present and authentic for peak performanceTo perform at our best, we need integrity, right speech, right livelihood, good will, and service to others. We must develop the ability to say yes, generate hope, love ourselves, embrace impermanence and let wisdom guide us to alleviate suffering.

      To perform at our best, we need to cultivate our ability to be present, authentic and aligned with how things work. Our integrity, right speech, right livelihood, good will and service to others can help us achieve this. We need to develop our ability to say yes to whatever comes up, generate hope and see opportunities to learn and evolve. Love is not an empty cliche, but an action involving self-love, caring, respect and knowing oneself. When we love something, we help it grow and label what we love. Love for the greatest good gets us beyond the illusion of separateness and helps us alleviate suffering. Embracing impermanence and letting wisdom guide us can reduce stress.

    • Mindfulness, Compassion, and Wisdom: Keys to a Happy LifeOur thoughts and actions shape our experiences, and by learning to be mindful, compassionate, and wise, we can connect with others and create a fulfilling life. Embrace the unknown and respect others' needs to grow and prosper.

      Our life quality is heavily dependent on the quality of our mind and our ability to relate to our experiences. This is evident even among prisoners who have lost their freedom but still have the power to choose how they develop their minds. Being aware of our surroundings and being guided by mindfulness and wisdom can help us connect with others and meet them where they are. It's crucial to respect others' needs and not impose our beliefs on them. Instead, we should embrace creative energy and be spontaneous in responding with compassion. Reflecting on our experiences can help us learn and grow, but being present in the moment and embracing the unknown can lead to wisdom.

    • Embracing failure and faith for successCultivate a positive mindset, allow things to happen, and learn from mistakes. Grow confidence and faith through effort and embrace failures as opportunities to learn and climb back into the chrysalis to continually succeed.

      To be in 'flow', one needs to be confident and allow things to happen instead of trying to make them happen. This requires complete acceptance of one's greatness and a positive mindset. Embracing errors and failures and constantly learning from them is crucial to earning success. Faith is a superpower that grows with confidence, making it important to continuously make the right effort and figure things out. The nervous system doesn't differentiate between real experiences and thoughts, thus having a positive mindset and faith in oneself can unlock potential. To continually succeed, one needs to keep earning it and climb back into the chrysalis.

    • Positive Reflection and Response for Personal Transformation.Focus on past successes, see the world as friendly, feed the 'love wolf,' have an open mind and heart to learn and respond in alignment with your beliefs and values for personal transformation.

      Focusing on past successes and reflecting on them helps in creating a positive mindset and improves cognitive functioning. Seeing the world as friendly and aligning oneself with how things work helps in responding to situations rather than reacting to them, resulting in a measured response in alignment with one's beliefs and values. While acknowledging the reality of inequality, violence, and other issues, feeding the 'love wolf' increases the chances of responding in ways that create less suffering. It is important to have an open mind and an open heart to be able to see things clearly and learn from them, which ultimately aids in personal transformation.

    • Finding Divinity and Positivity in the Face of Suffering.In the midst of suffering, it's imperative not to let negative thoughts control us. By cultivating compassion, wisdom and hope, we can protect ourselves from negativity and tap into the divinity within us to lead a happy life.

      Suffering is a part of life, but it is important not to let negative thoughts lead to more suffering. Though the world can be hostile and people may have adverse experiences, it is important to align oneself with love and divinity to experience a divine life. This can be achieved through practicing compassion, cultivating states of the heart, and having wisdom to see what works and what doesn't. Generating hope and being optimistic enhances cognitive function, leading to achieving goals and overcoming negative self-talk. It is important to not dehumanize or hate those who act negatively, but rather to focus on protecting oneself and loved ones in a non-judgmental way.

    • The significance of hope, optimism, and faith in achieving goalsHaving hope and faith brings optimism which enables us to overcome adversity and think outside the box to find solutions to problems. Remaining present, viewing challenges as opportunities, and avoiding negativity are important for achieving goals.

      Having hope, optimism, and faith is crucial in achieving our goals. Without them, we tend to quit as soon as we face any adversity. When we generate hope, we open ourselves up to seeing outside the box and finding solutions to problems. It's important to remain present and not get stuck on one channel when pursuing our goals. Without faith and hope, we won't make the effort required to achieve the result. The importance of hope is something that we should all remember, especially when we face challenges that make us lose hope or motivation. We must view challenges as opportunities and not let negativity take over.

    • Unleashing Your Inner Potential through Present-Moment Focus and Growth Mindset.Believe in yourself and don't let negative self-talk hinder your progress. Embrace uncertainty and surround yourself with positive and challenging people. The key to success is being present, doing your best, and expressing yourself passionately.

      Focus on doing your best in the present moment and trust that your efforts will lead to success. Don't let negative self-talk hold you back, challenge it and unlock your greatness. Embrace uncertainty and struggle as opportunities for growth and to express your latent abilities. Surround yourself with people who challenge you and bring out the best in you. Check out George Mumford's new book, 'Unlocked' and his website for resources and teachings on finding flow and success. Remember, it's not about replicating the past or predicting the future, it's about being present and doing your best now to create an awesome process and express yourself more clearly and passionately.

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    • Why she encourages “alternatives to forgiveness”


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    https://thewilbur.com/armory/artist/dan-harris/


    Full Shownotes:

    https://www.tenpercent.com/tph/podcast-episode/lindsay-c-gibson-617

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    Jerks at Work | Amy Gallo

    Jerks at Work | Amy Gallo

    This is the third installment in our Work Life series. In other episodes, we cover topics like imposter syndrome, whether mindfulness really works at work, and whether you should actually bring your whole self to the office.


    Today's episode is one that many of us struggle with: interpersonal conflict at work. Our guest is a true ninja on this topic. Amy Gallo is a workplace expert who writes and speaks about interpersonal dynamics, difficult conversations, feedback, gender, and effective communication.


    Gallo is a contributing editor at Harvard Business Review and the author of a new book, Getting Along, How to Work with Anyone, Even Difficult People. She's also written the The Harvard Business Review Guide to Dealing With Conflict, and she cohosts the Women at Work podcast.

      


    In this episode we talk about:


    • Why quality interactions at work are so important for our professional success and personal mental health
    • Why Gallo believes one size doesn’t fit all when it comes to dealing with difficult people in the workplace 
    • Why avoidance isn’t usually an option 
    • What the research tells us about work friendships
    • Why we have a tendency to dehumanize people who have more power than us
    • Why passive aggressive people can be the most difficult to deal with
    • The provocative question of whether we are part of the problem when work conflict crops up
    • And, a taxonomy of the eight different flavors of difficult coworkers, including the pessimist, the victim, the know-it-all, and the insecure boss — with tactics for managing each. 




    Full Shownotes: https://www.tenpercent.com/podcast-episode/amy-gallo-576

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    Jennifer Senior On: Grief, Happiness, Friendship Breakups, and Why We Feel Younger Than Our Actual Age

    Jennifer Senior On: Grief, Happiness, Friendship Breakups, and Why We Feel Younger Than Our Actual Age

    It’s likely uncontroversial to assert that Jennifer Senior is one of our finest living journalists. She’s currently a staff writer at The Atlantic and before that she spent many years at the New York Times and New York magazine. Jennifer’s written on a vast array of topics, but she has a special knack for writing articles about the human condition that go massively, massively, viral. One such hit was a lengthy and extremely moving piece for The Atlantic that won a Pulitzer Prize. It was about a young man who died on 9/11, and the wildly varying ways in which his loved ones experienced grief. That article, called “What Bobby McIlvaine Left Behind,” has now been turned into a book called, On Grief: Love, Loss, Memory.


    In this interview, we spend a lot of time talking about this truly fascinating yarn, but we also talk about her other articles: one about an eminent happiness researcher who died by suicide, another about why friendships often break up, and a truly delightful recent piece about the puzzling gap between how old we are and how old we think we are. Jennifer has also written a book about parenting, called All Joy and No Fun which we also reference a few times throughout.


    In this episode we talk about:

    • Jennifer’s perspective on the Bobby McIlvaine story 
    • Lesser known theories of grieving from Elisabeth Kubler-Ross
    • The work involved in finding meaning in loss
    • Why – from an evolutionary standpoint – we hurt so badly when we lose someone we love
    • Commitment and sacrifice
    • The puzzling gap between how old you are and how old you think you are
    • The power and perils of friendship
    • Why Jennifer has chosen to focus so much of her writing on relationships


    Full Shownotes: https://www.tenpercent.com/podcast-episode/jennifer-senior-583

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