Russ ON: How to Change Your Self-Critical Mindset & The Truth Behind the Emotional Struggles of Men

    Embracing our insecurities and vulnerabilities is crucial for personal growth and building genuine connections with others.

    enAugust 21, 2023

    About this Episode

    Have you tirelessly pursued a dream, only to discover an underlying emptiness even after achieving it?

    Many have experienced this paradox of achieving a dream, yet still feeling unfulfilled.

    It's a common experience where the pursuit of a goal doesn't always lead to lasting contentment.

    Today, we have a special guest who's been on the podcast before - multi-platinum rapper, singer-songwriter, producer, and best-selling author - Russ. 

    Russ talks to us about his successful music career and the highs and lows that come with fame and excess. He shares his self-development journey and the realizations he's come to by facing his emotions and going to therapy. 

    Russ' fifth studio album SANTIAGO was released on August 18th, 2023.

    In our quest for understanding, we shatter the myth of perfectionism, revealing its often-hidden undercurrents and the misconceptions around seeking help. We will examine the roles we play in the lives of others and the profound effects of vulnerability on our connections, the profound shift in mindset that dismantles rigidity and nurtures flexibility, and the role of emotional suppression in men's lives. 

    Intriguing conversations lead us to the heart of healthy internal dialogue, providing tools to process thoughts and emotions while nurturing a sense of self-awareness. We contemplate the intricate relationship between our identities and the roles we assume, and the transformative effects of releasing these roles when they no longer serve us.

    In this interview, you will learn:

    • The emotional struggles of men
    • The misconceptions about being a perfectionist
    • How to have a healthy dialogue with yourself
    • How to get around destructive habits
    • How evolution is part of personal growth
    • How to become flexible in life

    We invite you to join us on this deep exploration of self, witnessing the power of embracing authenticity and confronting insecurities head-on. 

    With Love and Gratitude,

    Jay Shetty

    What We Discuss:

    • 00:00 Intro
    • 00:19 What happens when you keep chasing after something you thought you wanted but you still feel empty?
    • 04:46 Men have become professionals in masking their emotions. What happens when it becomes too much?
    • 08:43 What do men struggle with the most? How are they coping with it?
    • 11:27 The misconception about being a perfectionist and how help is being coded as a form of criticism
    • 14:26 What role do you play in other people’s lives? 
    • 16:15 Why are men afraid to show vulnerability to others, especially around women?
    • 19:43 Everyone is at a different place in their journey, wherever you maybe right now is fine
    • 22:57 Stop chasing approval and validation from other people
    • 31:22 What are the practices you’re doing to validate yourself?
    • 34:14 Healthy internal dialogue with yourself can help you process the thoughts in your mind
    • 38:39 If your identity is based on the role you play, what happens when you can longer play that role?
    • 39:49 What does growing up and then growing down mean?
    • 40:58 “I don’t like myself.” Have you felt this before?
    • 42:27 Why does the rejection of your insecurities lead to destructive habits?
    • 45:51 What insecurity have you been holding onto?
    • 48:00 If you can talk to your younger self now, what do you need to hear?
    • 52:07 If you still carry the same beliefs from your younger self after learning so a lot of things then you’re not growing
    • 56:29 The downside of having the mentality that you’re always right
    • 58:41 The shift in mindset that can help you remove rigidity and become more flexible
    • 01:04:01 This version of yourself that has not been shown to the world
    • 01:06:17 Do you create a false sense of safety and security in your life?
    • 01:11:09 Creating music after a book and the message it portrays  

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    🔑 Key Takeaways

    • True happiness and fulfillment can only be found within ourselves, not through external achievements or possessions.
    • Men are under immense pressure to hide their pain and be self-reliant, but seeking therapy and being vulnerable is crucial for preventing destructive outcomes. Society needs to address masculinity and mental health openly to support men.
    • Russ demonstrates the power of using music as a genuine medium to connect with others and address important mental health topics.
    • It is essential for men to recognize the importance of addressing their mental health needs, regardless of potential criticism, as the world becomes more receptive to the idea of men seeking support.
    • Society's conflicting expectations on men's vulnerability create a dilemma, but breaking these norms requires courage and understanding that everyone deserves to express their pain and connect with others.
    • Seeking validation through external accomplishments is fleeting; true happiness comes from finding purpose and making a positive impact on others' lives. Material success should be viewed as a bonus, not the sole measure of satisfaction.
    • True self-worth and self-esteem cannot be obtained through external validation; it must come from within ourselves.
    • Defining our own success and seeking self-validation are crucial for fulfillment. We can find validation and self-worth from within, independent of external approval.
    • Shifting our mindset to gratitude and self-acceptance allows us to find our true light and escape the constant need for validation. Let go of self-doubt and embrace both the sunny and cloudy days.
    • Our sense of self should not rely solely on external validation, but rather on our core values to maintain authenticity and stability.
    • Embracing our insecurities and vulnerabilities is crucial for personal growth and building genuine connections with others.
    • Acknowledging and embracing our insecurities allows for personal growth and fulfillment, leading to a sense of belonging and self-acceptance.
    • We should be kinder to ourselves, recognizing that mistakes and failures are part of our growth. By seeing ourselves and others as a story, we can embrace change and free ourselves from limitations.
    • It is important to free ourselves from societal expectations and be open to evolving our beliefs. Changing our minds is a normal part of learning and personal development.
    • Life is not black and white; it's multifaceted and interconnected. Embrace flexibility in your identity, challenge stereotypes, and lead with collaboration, humility, and compassion.
    • Shifting our beliefs about leadership requires rewiring gender stereotypes, seeking positive collaboration, focusing on individual experiences, approaching conversations with humility, and using platforms to uplift others.
    • Acknowledging the negative impact of ego and allowing others to have responsibility can lead to healthier dynamics and personal empowerment.
    • We can break free from childhood beliefs and behaviors, and find personal growth and fulfillment by telling our own stories and finding our own paths.
    • Open and honest dialogue can create transformative connections and inspire others to embrace new viewpoints, leading to personal growth and positive impact.

    📝 Podcast Summary

    The surprising truth about chasing success and material possessions

    Chasing external achievements and material possessions will not lead to true fulfillment and happiness. Russ shares his experience of constantly striving for perfection based on his father's high standards, only to realize that even when he achieved success and amassed wealth, he still felt empty inside. He acknowledges that the constant pursuit of more, whether it be money, fame, or material possessions, doesn't truly fulfill us. Instead, Russ emphasizes the importance of introspection and personal growth, recognizing that true happiness comes from looking inward and finding a sense of purpose beyond external validation. The message is clear: true fulfillment and contentment come from focusing on our inner selves rather than external markers of success.

    The Hidden Struggles Men Face Alone - How to Break Free

    Men are often expected to hide their pain and carry their burdens alone, which can lead to internal chaos and psychological warfare. Russ explains that society measures a man's worth based on how much he can carry, how far he can carry it, and how alone he can carry it. This pressure to always appear strong and successful can lead to feelings of distraction and dissatisfaction. However, Russ emphasizes the importance of seeking therapy and being vulnerable in order to address these hidden struggles. By acknowledging and addressing their pain, men can prevent it from reaching a breaking point and causing irreparable damage. It is crucial for society to have open conversations about masculinity and mental health in order to support men in navigating these challenges.

    Music artist Russ breaks through societal expectations to embrace vulnerability

    Men are struggling with being in tune with their own emotions and feeling safe to express them. Society has often told men to "get over it," which has created a pressure for them to suppress their feelings. This pressure to be successful, have it together, and have emotional maturity can be overwhelming. However, Russ, as a music artist, has found a way to intertwine mental health and music in a meaningful and authentic way. He has used his music as an outlet to express his vulnerabilities and struggles, allowing listeners to connect and relate without it coming across as cheesy or corny. Russ's approach shows the importance of addressing meaningful topics in a relatable and genuine manner.

    Why Men Need to Overcome Their Fear of Seeking Help

    It is important for individuals, especially men, to recognize and address their need for help and therapy. Russ discusses how his perfectionist mentality and fear of criticism prevented him from seeking help in the past. However, he emphasizes that the world is becoming more open and receptive to the idea of men needing support. While his immediate circle, including friends and family, was supportive, Russ acknowledges that not everyone may respond positively to vulnerability. He believes that there are women who appreciate and value men's willingness to seek help, while others may be deterred by it. Ultimately, it is crucial for individuals to prioritize their mental well-being and seek assistance when needed, regardless of others' reactions.

    The Surprising Conflict Society Has Created for Men's Vulnerability

    Society often has conflicting expectations when it comes to men and their vulnerability. Men are desired to be tough and rugged, but are also expected to keep their pain to themselves. This creates a dilemma where men may feel ashamed to open up about their emotions and experiences. On the other hand, there are individuals, both men and women, who want their partners to be more emotionally open, creating a contrast in expectations. Breaking these societal norms requires courage and sometimes desperation to defy the conventional definition of what makes a strong man. It is important to recognize that everyone, regardless of gender, has experienced pain and should be given the space and understanding to express and connect with others about their stories.

    How Achieving Fame and Fortune Failed to Bring True Happiness

    Seeking external validation, such as fame, money, and material success, does not guarantee true happiness or fulfillment. Russ shares his journey of realizing that despite achieving triple platinum status and financial stability, it didn't solve the void inside him. He acknowledges that he was seeking validation subconsciously through his accomplishments, thinking it would make him feel validated and good enough. However, he eventually learns that true happiness comes from having a sense of purpose and positively impacting others' lives. Jay Shetty emphasizes the importance of finding deep meaning in one's work and serving others, as this is what truly brings happiness. Material success is seen as a bonus, rather than the ultimate measure of satisfaction.

    Why Seeking External Validation Will Never Truly Satisfy You

    Seeking external validation and approval will never truly fill the void within ourselves. Russ shared his experience of replacing the validation he craved from his father with the approval of the music industry, a profession that is not easily acknowledged for someone like him. However, he realized that even with accomplishments and recognition, the feeling of emptiness persisted. Jay Shetty emphasized that material achievements, like buying a house or making it onto Forbes list, may be great in themselves, but they do not change how we feel about ourselves at a deeper level. Both participants in the conversation acknowledged that true self-worth and self-esteem come from within and cannot be obtained through external validation.

    How Jay Shetty and Russ show the key to self-validation

    Defining our own version of success and self-validation is crucial. Jay Shetty shares his experience of not having a positive male role model in his life, which led him to seek approval from friends and engage in negative behavior. However, he realized that not having his father's version of success allowed him the freedom to define his own achievements and become the man he wanted to be. Meeting positive male role models, like the monks, helped him understand that self-validation is essential and that we have to rely on ourselves to find true fulfillment. Similarly, Russ acknowledges the importance of giving himself validation and celebrating his own achievements rather than waiting for external validation. Both individuals emphasize the need to live in our own minds and choose our own thoughts, ultimately finding validation and self-worth from within.

    How to transform negative judgments into positive affirmations

    It is important to shift our mindset and motivations from negative and critical judgments to positive and grateful ones. By celebrating ourselves and focusing on the abundance in our lives, we can break free from the pressure of constantly seeking validation and success. Spending time alone and facing our emotions and thoughts takes courage and strength, regardless of gender stereotypes. It is okay to acknowledge our dark side and imperfections because, just like the sun behind the clouds, our true light is always there. By embracing both the sunny and cloudy days, we can find the light within ourselves and avoid feeling like frauds. Let go of self-doubt and judgment, and choose to see ourselves as the shining sun.

    How losing my role in relationships shattered my identity

    Our identities often become intertwined with the roles we play in our relationships and society. When those roles are challenged or taken away, it can have a profound impact on our sense of self. For Russ, his identity was tied to being the emotional savior for his family, and when his parents got divorced, he felt devastated and lost. Similarly, he derived his self-worth from being liked and approved by others, so when he faced hate and criticism, it shook him to the core. The lesson here is that placing our value solely on external factors leaves us vulnerable to losing our sense of identity and authenticity. Instead, focusing on our core values allows us to have a more stable and grounded sense of self, even when external circumstances change.

    Discover the surprising secret to personal growth and connection!

    Embracing our insecurities and vulnerabilities is essential for personal growth and avoiding self-destructive habits. Russ opens up about his past struggles with insecurity and feeling like a fraud, which led to destructive behaviors such as drinking excessively. Jay Shetty emphasizes the importance of authenticity and accepting our insecurities as the first step towards overcoming them. He shares his own experiences of feeling insecure at events where he lacked a clear purpose, and how connecting with someone who shares the same insecurities can break down barriers and create a sense of belonging. This conversation highlights the harmful effects of resisting insecurity and the power of vulnerability in building genuine connections with others.

    This man thought he didn't belong, but his story changed everything

    Acknowledging and embracing our insecurities is essential for personal growth and fulfillment. We often resist our insecurities, but in doing so, we hinder ourselves from experiencing true connection and belonging. Russ shares his experience of not feeling like he belonged in the entertainment industry because of his race, which led him to adopt a "do it myself" mentality. However, deep down, he desired support and validation from others. Similarly, our younger selves often crave compassion, grace, and reassurance. It is important to offer ourselves and others the understanding and support they need, even if they reject it initially. By giving ourselves more grace and acknowledging our accomplishments, we can break free from perfectionism and find a sense of belonging and self-acceptance.

    Discover the Secret to Personal Growth and Self-Acceptance Today!

    We need to be kinder to ourselves and recognize that we are constantly evolving. It's easy to be hard on ourselves when we make mistakes or don't perform at our best, but we must remember that our decisions are based on the knowledge and resources we had at that time. We shouldn't judge ourselves or others based on isolated events or moments. Instead, we need to see ourselves and others as a story, understanding that growth and change are possible. Just as we wouldn't judge a whole book based on one page, we shouldn't judge ourselves or others based on one mistake. By embracing the potential for change, we can free ourselves from self-imposed limitations and allow for personal growth.

    Discover the power of changing your mind and finding true growth!

    It is essential to give ourselves permission to change our minds. In today's society, social media and public scrutiny often trap individuals into rigid beliefs, preventing growth and personal development. We must release ourselves from the prison of societal expectations and be open to evolving our belief systems. Changing our minds should not be seen as a negative act, but rather a natural part of learning and gaining new insights. It is crucial to reconcile with ourselves rather than seeking validation from the internet or the opinions of others. By allowing ourselves to change our minds, we can break free from limiting beliefs and embrace new opportunities for growth and self-improvement.

    Discover the surprising truth about life: it's beautifully complex!

    Life is complex and multifaceted. There is no one right answer or one-size-fits-all approach. We tend to oversimplify things and put people in boxes, but in reality, everything is layered and interconnected. It's important to be flexible in our identities and not limit ourselves to one label. Instead of defining ourselves narrowly, we should focus on our strengths and transferable skills that can be applied to various aspects of life. We must also challenge societal expectations and stereotypes, like the idea that leaders need to be stoic and dominant. True leaders lead through collaboration, humility, and by setting an example, rather than demanding respect. Ultimately, it's about being kinder to ourselves, embracing vulnerability, and showing compassion and grace.

    The Surprising Truth About Leadership, Masculinity, and Femininity

    There is a need for a shift in our beliefs and perceptions about leadership, masculinity, and femininity. We have been conditioned to think that powerful leaders need to be forceful and dominating, while kind and gracious individuals are seen as weak. However, healthy leadership calls for a rewiring of these beliefs. It is important for both men and women to stop seeking validation and definitions from the opposite gender. Instead, men need positive male collaboration and role models, and women should focus on their own experiences. True growth and understanding can only happen when we approach conversations with humility, acknowledging that we may not know or understand the experiences of others. Additionally, this conversation also highlights the importance of using our platforms and resources to uplift and empower others, instead of letting ego guide our decisions.

    How Ego Can Sabotage Your Growth and Relationships

    Ego can create a false sense of security and hinder personal growth. Russ and Jay Shetty discuss how ego manifests in their lives, leading them to defend themselves even when they know they're wrong, or feeling responsible for the emotional well-being of their loved ones. They realize that trying to play god and control everything can breed a lack of confidence and prevent others from developing their own capabilities. They both recognize the need to let go, allowing others to take responsibility for their own lives and growth. By acknowledging this aspect of ego and embracing their true roles in relationships, they can foster healthier dynamics and personal empowerment.

    Man sacrifices his own emotional health to help others

    We often carry childhood beliefs and behaviors into our adult lives. Russ shares how he feels responsible for others' well-being and would go to great lengths to help them, even if it meant sacrificing his own emotional health. However, he realizes that he doesn't need to "go down into the hole" with someone when they're upset. Russ is working on understanding that others will be okay and that he doesn't have to shoulder the entire burden. Jay Shetty acknowledges Russ's journey and relates it to his own experience of finding inspiration in a book, the Alchemist. The key takeaway here is that we can learn to break free from past roles and beliefs, allowing ourselves to tell our own stories and find our own paths of growth and fulfillment.

    This powerful conversation between Jay Shetty and Russ will change your perspective forever!

    Open and honest dialogue can lead to deep connections and personal growth. Jay Shetty and Russ engaged in a meaningful conversation where they explored various topics and shared their perspectives. This exchange allowed them to dig deep and discuss important issues, such as mental health and the power of music. It is evident that both individuals felt comfortable and safe in expressing their thoughts and ideas, leading to a rich and empowering conversation. The key takeaway here is that fostering an environment of non-judgment and curiosity can create transformative connections and inspire others to embrace new viewpoints. By being open to meaningful conversations, we can cultivate deeper relationships and make a positive impact on those around us.

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    22:48 Growing with a Creative Mind

    25:05 Worst Thing About Being Me

    29:11 Dealing with Online Hate

    31:36 She’s Not My Mom Anymore

    37:46 Processing and Dealing with Grief

    43:36 Resenting and Forgiving My Father

    48:46 The Phone Call with My Dad

    55:24 Let’s Understand People’s Stories

    57:59 Self Care is a Process

    01:02:15 My Father Was Sick

    01:05:07 Make Home in Your Childhood Community

    01:10:29 The Love to Entertain People

    01:18:07 What Would Little T be Proud Of?

    01:20:24 Childhood Dreams

    01:25:09 TIffany on Final Five

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    Why You Are Restricting Your Desires in Your Relationship & How to Stop Blocking Yourself from the Happiness You Deserve with Lisa Bilyeu

    Why You Are Restricting Your Desires in Your Relationship & How to Stop Blocking Yourself from the Happiness You Deserve with Lisa Bilyeu

    How do you identify when you're restricting your desires in a relationship?

    How can couples work together to align their desires and ensure mutual fulfillment?

    Today, Jay welcomes back his good friend Lisa Bilyeu. Lisa is a co-founder of the billion-dollar brand Quest Nutrition and the president of Impact Theory, a digital media company aimed at empowering content. With a strong focus on developing content that speaks to personal growth and empowerment, especially for women, Lisa has been a pivotal figure in shifting paradigms within her industry. Her show, "Women of Impact," addresses issues facing modern women, combining personal anecdotes with actionable advice.

    The core theme of this conversation is outlining a roadmap for individuals seeking to overcome insecurities and cultivate a resilient, action-oriented confidence. Jay and Lisa discuss the common misconceptions around confidence, emphasizing that it is not a prerequisite for action but a result of engaging with the world despite fears and doubts.

    Lisa shares how her initial need for external validation was a significant barrier to personal growth, sharing transformative moments that reshaped her understanding of confidence and self-worth. She stresses the importance of embracing imperfection and vulnerability as catalysts for genuine self-improvement and empowerment.

    In this interview, you'll learn:

    How to start building confidence

    How to validate yourself

    How to prioritize personal growth

    How to handle fear of judgment

    How to transform relationships

    Together, let's continue to  question the preconceived notions about success and happiness and to take bold steps towards a life aligned with our deepest values and aspirations.

    With Love and Gratitude,

    Jay Shetty

    What We Discuss:

    00:00 Intro

    03:32 How Do You Define Confidence?

    06:54 Believe You’re Capable

    09:54 Admitting That You’re Unhappy

    16:13 The Frame of Reference

    19:36 Everything Is A Risk

    27:42 Non-Negotiables in Relationships

    34:41 Conversations That Don’t Break Relationships

    41:30 Who Leads, Who Follows

    49:26 Conflicting Value System

    54:57 Don’t Assume, Find a Compromise

    59:21 Growth Mindset With Your Partner

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    Matthew Hussey: 5 Reasons Why There is No Such Thing As The Right Person At The Wrong Time & How to Stop Missing Your Ex

    Matthew Hussey: 5 Reasons Why There is No Such Thing As The Right Person At The Wrong Time & How to Stop Missing Your Ex

    Does timing really matter in whether a relationship works?

    What are healthy ways to deal with a breakup?

    Today, let’s welcome back dating coach Matthew Hussey. Matthew is also a YouTube personality and writer known for offering advice on dating, love, and relationships to both men and women through his online content, seminars, and his book "Get The Guy." His approach typically combines practical advice, motivational coaching, and a bit of psychology to help individuals understand what they want from a relationship and how to get it.

    Matthew shares his insights on the complexities of love, self-discovery, and the importance of honest communication. He emphasizes on the significance of creating a peaceful relationship, distinguishing it from a boring one, and the value of embracing vulnerabilities to foster deeper connections. Matthew's reflections on his own experiences, coupled with his expertise, provide a comprehensive guide on navigating the challenges of modern dating, building meaningful relationships, and cultivating self-awareness. 

    In this interview, you'll learn:

    How to cultivate peaceful relationships without boredom

    How to deepen connections through vulnerability

    How to navigate modern dating with confidence

    How to enhance relationships with effective communication

    How to enrich love life through self-awareness

    Whether you're single, dating, or in a relationship, this episode offers valuable lessons on love, resilience, and the transformative power of embracing your true self.

    With Love and Gratitude,

    Jay Shetty

    What We Discuss:

    00:00 Intro

    04:20 Where Does Your Idea of Love Come From?

    10:34 What Differentiates a Peaceful to a Boring Relationship?

    19:35 What Are Your Must-Haves in a Relationship?

    31:47 Tactics Are Different From Relationship Standards

    39:59 Egoic Standards Versus Setting Standards for Happiness

    51:20 Practice Having Real and Difficult Conversations

    01:04:48 The Importance of Communicating Your Thoughts and Feelings

    01:08:25 Is Your Partner the Right One for You?

    01:15:05 Dealing with the Different Phases of Heartbreak

    01:26:31 What’s Next for Matthew?    

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    7 Ways to Reduce the Time You Spend Overthinking & Make Better Decisions Quicker

    7 Ways to Reduce the Time You Spend Overthinking & Make Better Decisions Quicker

    How do you know when you're overthinking too much?

    How can you break the cycle of overthinking?

    Today, Jay will talk about the complexity of overthinking and how we can turn it around and look at things differently. Jay presents seven practical strategies to help listeners combat the grip of overthinking. These range from the psychological—to limit how many people's opinions we seek, preventing the confusion and indecision that too many perspectives can cause—to the physical, recommending activities that disengage the analytical brain and encourage mental reset, like exercise or simply moving around.

    In this episode, you'll learn:

    How to use over thinking for problem-solving

    How to manage alarmed responses

    How to use physical movement for mental clarity

    How to focus on positives and small wins

    Don't let overthinking hold you back! Start implementing these strategies today and take control of your mental space.

    With Love and Gratitude,

    Jay Shetty

    What We Discuss:

    00:00 Intro

    00:52 Has Overthinking Slowed You Down?

    07:53 The Science Behind Overthinking

    10:50 #1: Overthinking as a Problem-Solving Approach

    14:24 #2: Don’t Ask Too Many People For Their Opinion

    18:19 #3: Avoid Responding While You’re Feeling Alarmed

    19:17 #4: Move Your Body When Your Mind Is Stuck

    20:32 #5: Focus on the Good Thing and Small Wins

    22:05 #6: Spontaneous Drawings Relieve Psychological Stress

    24:23 #7: Go Back to Analog

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    Orlando Bloom: 3 Reasons Why You Need to Allow Yourself to Make Mistakes & Shift Your Perspective on Fear

    Orlando Bloom: 3 Reasons Why You Need to Allow Yourself to Make Mistakes & Shift Your Perspective on Fear

    Do you stop yourself from making mistakes? 

    Do you want to shift your perspective on fear? 

    Today, let’s welcome the one and only Orlando Bloom. Orlando gained widespread fame for his roles in some of the most popular films including The Lord of the Rings trilogy and Pirates of the Caribbean series. He will be seen starring in Peacock's limited adventure docuseries, To The Edge, which he also produced. Off-screen, Orlando is known for his humanitarian efforts, including his work as a UNICEF Goodwill Ambassador.

    Orlando shares insights from his life as an actor, adventurer, and someone deeply involved in spirituality. He talks about how meditation and mindfulness help him stay balanced despite the hectic nature of being a celebrity, his views on masculinity, the importance of embracing both masculine and feminine qualities, and striving for balance and introspection in life. We also get to hear stories about facing and overcoming fears, embracing vulnerability, and the lessons he's learned from these challenges. This episode isn't just about getting to know a renowned actor but diving into the personal journey of a man who is constantly looking for deeper meaning and connections in life.

    In this interview, you’ll learn:
    How to overcome fear
    How to maintain balance in a hectic life
    How to incorporate mindfulness into everyday activities
    How to explore and embrace different aspects of your personality
    How to use life's challenges as growth opportunities

    Tune in now for a discussion full of insights on overcoming fears, embracing spirituality, and pursuing personal growth.  

    With Love and Gratitude,
    Jay Shetty

    What We Discuss:
    02:28 Working in an Unscripted Space
    06:09 What’s Your Earliest Childhood Fear?
    08:35 Practicing Buddhism
    13:49 The Lotus Sutra
    20:16 The 8 Wins
    26:28 Trusting Your Life and Becoming Capable
    36:33 Being Present While on the Edge
    44:48 Any Moment Could Be Your Last
    45:43 The Deepest Mirror You’ll Ever Have
    48:58 What Did You Learn from Your Past Relationships?
    51:22 Introducing Buddhism Practice to My Kids
    55:33 Whatever You’re Saying, You Become
    01:02:22 Loving the Parenting Journey
    01:07:16 The Impacts of Your Decisions
    01:09:13 Opportunities Through Obstacles
    01:17:40 Buddhism Is My Anchor
    01:18:59 The Fear You’re Currently Overcoming
    01:26:04 Orlando Bloom on Final Five

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    4 Ways to Know if It Is Time To End Your Relationship (When the Signs Are Not Clear and Things are Not Bad)

    4 Ways to Know if It Is Time To End Your Relationship (When the Signs Are Not Clear and Things are Not Bad)

    Do you find yourself often thinking about breaking up?

    Do you and your partner have unresolved conflicts that keep resurfacing?

    In this episode, Jay tackles the tough emotions and uncertainty many face when considering a breakup. He talks about why people stay in or leave relationships, touching on key factors like emotional closeness, personal investment, and the impact of family responsibilities. Jay also discusses how to ensure emotional security and the risks of staying for financial reasons or out of obligation. 

    In this episode you’ll learn:

    How to recognize emotional investment

    How to assess emotional security

    How to consider financial implications

    How to navigate emotional intimacy

    This honest conversation provides you with the insights to evaluate your relationship more clearly, helping you decide whether to work on it or move on, based on a deeper understanding of your feelings and the relationship's dynamics.

    With Love and Gratitude,

    Jay Shetty

    What We Discuss:

    00:00 Intro

    01:10 When to End Your Relationship

    04:48 10 Reason Why People Stay in a Relationship

    12:44 Top 10 Reasons to Leave Your Relationship

    18:14 The Three Cancers of the Mind

    24:44 Difference in Scorecard Perspective

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