Noah Cyrus ON: How to Handle Negative Opinions of Others & Turning Anxiety into Creativity

    Believe in your abilities and potential, repeat positive affirmations, focus on goals, and shift your mindset to see positive changes.

    enSeptember 19, 2022

    About this Episode

    You can order my new book 8 RULES OF LOVE at 8rulesoflove.com or at a retail store near you. You can also get the chance to see me live on my first ever world tour. This is a 90 minute interactive show where I will take you on a journey of finding, keeping and even letting go of love. Head to jayshettytour.com and find out if I'll be in a city near you. Thank you so much for all your support - I hope to see you soon.

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    Checkout her latest album here: https://noahcyrus.lnk.to/thp

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    • 00:03:53 “I just wish the days are longer”
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    • 00:23:27 Do people change?
    • 00:28:23 Life changing experience
    • 00:34:11 Worshiping other people
    • 00:38:53 “I can” mentality
    • 00:42:40 Noah on Many Sides To Us

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    🔑 Key Takeaways

    • Book memorable vacations with booking.com and prioritize health with Nature's Way herbs like slippery elm bark and ginger root.
    • Shared experiences, whether digital or in-person, can lead to meaningful connections. Cherish these relationships and the joy they bring.
    • Acknowledge and address childhood emotions, even if difficult, through therapy for self-love and acceptance, protecting and loving the inner child.
    • Accepting oneself, including past traumas and body, is crucial for self-love and growth. Music can serve as a powerful healing tool during the recovery process.
    • Creating a daily routine and sticking to it can help maintain progress and find joy in personal passions during challenging times. IKEA offers affordable solutions for creating an outdoor oasis at home.
    • By embracing change and seeking out the right support, we can continue to thrive in various aspects of our lives, whether it's rediscovering our passion for music or improving our gut health.
    • People may change in response to significant pain or upheaval, but their core identities usually stay the same
    • Change takes time, effort, and dedication. Celebrate progress and acknowledge the strength it takes to make positive changes, but be realistic about expectations.
    • It's normal to feel a range of emotions during significant life changes, but comparing ourselves to the past or others can add stress. Focus on self-love and self-care instead.
    • Explore various sources for inspiration and self-growth, including music, spirituality, and herbs. Embrace what brings joy and fulfillment in life, and prioritize personal growth and self-love.
    • Believe in your abilities and potential, repeat positive affirmations, focus on goals, and shift your mindset to see positive changes.
    • Authenticity and sensitivity can foster deep connections by allowing us to share feelings and experiences, making us more relatable and understanding towards others.
    • Being open about personal experiences can lead to learning from others and making unexpected connections
    • BetterHelp offers online therapy with licensed therapists for accessible, flexible, and affordable mental health support from the comfort of your own home

    📝 Podcast Summary

    Discovering perfect getaways with booking.com and investing in wellness with Nature's Way

    Planning unforgettable getaways is made easy with booking.com, offering a wide range of accommodation options to suit any preference and location in the US, with the convenience of easy booking through their app. Another important takeaway is the significance of investing in one's wellness journey, with herbs like slippery elm bark and ginger root being effective for digestive health, as sourced by Nature's Way for over 50 years. Lastly, creating a great work environment is crucial, and UKG is a dedicated partner for HR, pay, time and culture solutions, ensuring employees have the tools and insights they need, no matter their role or location.

    Forming Meaningful Connections Through Shared Experiences

    Meaningful connections can be formed through shared experiences, even if they start digitally. The importance of these connections is highlighted when individuals have the opportunity to meet in person and deepen their relationship. The speaker expressed gratitude for a previous interview experience where they felt they were given a voice and a platform. They also shared the joy of reconnecting with loved ones and how these experiences inspire their music. The speaker's emotional connection to their father and the desire for more time with him led to the creation of a song titled "Hardest Part," which is the title track of their upcoming album. Overall, the conversation emphasized the significance of acknowledging and cherishing the relationships and experiences that bring us joy and help us grow.

    Healing our inner child: A journey towards self-love and acceptance

    Healing our inner child is a valuable and common goal. The speaker shared her experience of discovering this goal through therapy, which helped her identify and address emotions from her childhood, particularly related to self-love and body image. She emphasized the importance of acknowledging and addressing these emotions, even if they are difficult or painful. The speaker also highlighted the significance of therapy as an outlet for emotional expression and healing. She shared a specific experience of struggling with body dysmorphia from a young age and the heartbreak of not being able to love that version of herself. She now recognizes the importance of protecting and loving that child within herself, and encourages others to do the same. Despite the challenges, she emphasizes that it's important to keep working towards healing and self-love, even on good days.

    Healing through self-acceptance and music

    Self-acceptance and self-love are ongoing processes that involve dealing with past traumas and learning to trust others. The speaker shares her personal experience of being bullied and the impact it had on her self-esteem and trust. She discusses the circular nature of progress and the importance of accepting oneself, including one's body, as it is. The speaker also talks about the healing power of music, particularly in the creation of her album, which helped her connect with her artist side and provided an outlet for her emotions during her recovery process. Despite the challenges, she encourages the importance of constant learning and growth. Confidence, while not always felt, can still be displayed through actions. The process of creating music served as a source of structure and focus during a difficult time, allowing her to express herself and connect with her artistry.

    Finding structure and focus during recovery

    Finding structure, focus, and an outlet during the recovery process is essential for personal growth and healing. This was evident in the musician's experience while creating an album during their recovery. They found a strict schedule and routine in the studio helped them stay on track and prevented them from slipping back into isolation. For everyone, having a daily routine, no matter how small, can make a significant difference in maintaining progress and finding joy in things we love, even during challenging times. The musician also emphasized the importance of not giving up and keeping going, even when things get tough. Additionally, the discussion touched on the idea of making the most of summer without breaking the bank. By focusing on affordable outdoor furniture and accessories from IKEA, everyone can create their dream summer escape at home without the high cost of traditional vacations. So whether it's a cozy reading nook, a picnic in the shade, or a morning coffee with the sun, IKEA can help make your outdoor dreams a reality, inside your budget. Lastly, the musician shared a relatable experience of trusting their gut and regretting the decision. They encouraged everyone to consider the potential consequences before acting on impulse, especially when it comes to driving and taking shortcuts.

    Rediscovering Passion Through Change and Experimentation

    Just like our relationships with people and things, our connection to music and other aspects of our lives can change. Shetty shared her experience of falling out of love with music but then finding her way back through experimentation, rediscovering her passion for new instruments, and the excitement of the writing and performing process. In the same vein, our gut health can also require support at times, and Ritual's Synbiotic Plus offers a solution with a combination of prebiotics, probiotics, and postbiotics to help alleviate bloating, gas, and diarrhea. By embracing change and seeking out the right support, we can continue to thrive in various aspects of our lives. To learn more about Ritual and get 25% off your first month, visit ritual.com/shetty. Additionally, CVS Health is making healthier living more accessible through their various services and offerings. For more information, visit cvshealth.com/forward/healthierhappenstogether.

    People's identities often remain consistent

    While people can change and grow, it's not always easy or guaranteed. The desire for a relationship to work often comes down to both parties being fully invested and willing to put in the effort. However, change typically occurs when an individual recognizes the need for it within themselves, rather than for someone else. Ultimately, the probability of significant change is low, but the possibility remains. People's core identities often remain consistent throughout their lives, despite external transformations. The idea that people change for others is a misconception. Change often requires substantial pain or upheaval to motivate an individual to make improvements. The speaker shares personal experiences of transformation and acknowledges the rarity of such occurrences.

    Personal growth and change

    Growth and change are ongoing processes that require time and effort. The speaker shared her personal experience of feeling disconnected from herself and the drastic change she made to stop taking Xanax, which saved her life. She acknowledged that change can be a collective experience and that it's important to celebrate and acknowledge the strength it takes to make positive changes. However, our expectations of change can sometimes be unrealistic, leading to disappointment or frustration. The speaker emphasized that growth is a daily process, and change is possible with dedication and perseverance.

    Accepting emotions during life changes

    It's normal to experience a range of emotions, including shame, guilt, and regret, during significant life changes. Comparing ourselves to the past or to others can add unnecessary stress and make it harder to love and nurture ourselves. It's important to remember that we're all experiencing emotions every day, just like we experience changes in temperature, and it's okay to acknowledge and address them. The concept of trying to make someone a "god figure" in our lives can be dangerous, as no one can fully meet all our needs or expectations. Instead, focusing on self-love and self-care can help us navigate life's ups and downs. The lyric "You can't make a god of somebody who's not even half of half a decent man" serves as a reminder of this idea, encouraging us to find inner strength and independence.

    Discovering joy and growth through music, spirituality, and herbs

    People can find inspiration and growth from various sources, whether it's falling in love, music, spirituality, or even herbs. For the speaker, her love for music helped her discover herself and love herself more. Meanwhile, exploring her spirituality and learning about herbs have become essential parts of her wellness routine. Brands like IKEA and CVS Health offer affordable solutions for enjoying summer and prioritizing health, respectively. It's crucial to remember that no one should idolize another person or themselves, and instead, focus on personal growth and self-love. The speaker's journey highlights the importance of discovering what brings joy and fulfillment in life and embracing it wholeheartedly.

    Believing in yourself is key to personal growth

    Having a strong belief in one's abilities and potential is a powerful tool for personal growth and overcoming challenges. The speaker shared how she used to doubt herself but has since learned to believe in her capacity to achieve her goals. This belief, which she has tattooed on her wrist as a reminder, has helped her move forward in her recovery journey and other areas of her life. However, she acknowledged that it's not always easy to fully trust this belief and that negative self-talk can be a persistent battle. Nonetheless, she emphasized the importance of repeating positive affirmations and focusing on one's thoughts and goals to bring about change. The speaker also shared how her mentor's encouragement to "you become what you think about" helped her shift her mindset and start seeing positive changes in her life. Overall, the takeaway is that having a strong belief in oneself and one's abilities is a crucial step towards personal growth and overcoming challenges.

    The Power of Authenticity and Sensitivity in Building Connections

    Authenticity and sensitivity are powerful qualities that can bring people together. During a conversation, the speaker shared how she was described as sincere by someone she just met, and how her mom described her as sensitive. While sensitivity can be seen as a negative trait, the speaker emphasized that it can also be a healthy and compassionate one. She also described herself as a loving and giving person who has a hard time talking about herself but values honesty and connection. The speaker's album was described as extremely honest and open, touching on various aspects of her life and allowing listeners to relate to her experiences. The importance of sharing feelings and experiences was emphasized as a way to overcome feelings of isolation and loneliness. Overall, the conversation highlighted the power of authenticity and sensitivity in building connections with others.

    Surprising discoveries through open communication

    Honesty and open communication can lead to surprising discoveries and connections. The speaker shared an experience of being surprised to find out that many of her friends under 30 had undergone a hernia surgery, something she had initially thought was unusual for her age. She emphasized the importance of being open about personal experiences and the potential benefits of learning from others. Additionally, the speaker shared a personal phrase, "standstill," that she has come to embody, emphasizing the importance of taking time to reevaluate and reflect. Overall, the conversation highlighted the power of sharing experiences and the importance of self-reflection.

    Accessible, flexible, and affordable mental health support

    Mental health support is essential for everyone, and it should be accessible, flexible, and affordable. BetterHelp offers an online therapy solution that fits these requirements. With BetterHelp, you can connect with a licensed therapist from the comfort of your own home, at a time that suits you, and at a lower cost than traditional in-person therapy. The platform is user-friendly, making it an excellent option for those who may find it difficult to attend appointments in person due to physical or logistical challenges. By providing mental health support that meets people where they are, BetterHelp is helping to break down barriers to accessing the care that is needed. For more information, visit betterhelp.com.

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    How to navigate modern dating with confidence

    How to enhance relationships with effective communication

    How to enrich love life through self-awareness

    Whether you're single, dating, or in a relationship, this episode offers valuable lessons on love, resilience, and the transformative power of embracing your true self.

    With Love and Gratitude,

    Jay Shetty

    What We Discuss:

    00:00 Intro

    04:20 Where Does Your Idea of Love Come From?

    10:34 What Differentiates a Peaceful to a Boring Relationship?

    19:35 What Are Your Must-Haves in a Relationship?

    31:47 Tactics Are Different From Relationship Standards

    39:59 Egoic Standards Versus Setting Standards for Happiness

    51:20 Practice Having Real and Difficult Conversations

    01:04:48 The Importance of Communicating Your Thoughts and Feelings

    01:08:25 Is Your Partner the Right One for You?

    01:15:05 Dealing with the Different Phases of Heartbreak

    01:26:31 What’s Next for Matthew?    

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    7 Ways to Reduce the Time You Spend Overthinking & Make Better Decisions Quicker

    7 Ways to Reduce the Time You Spend Overthinking & Make Better Decisions Quicker

    How do you know when you're overthinking too much?

    How can you break the cycle of overthinking?

    Today, Jay will talk about the complexity of overthinking and how we can turn it around and look at things differently. Jay presents seven practical strategies to help listeners combat the grip of overthinking. These range from the psychological—to limit how many people's opinions we seek, preventing the confusion and indecision that too many perspectives can cause—to the physical, recommending activities that disengage the analytical brain and encourage mental reset, like exercise or simply moving around.

    In this episode, you'll learn:

    How to use over thinking for problem-solving

    How to manage alarmed responses

    How to use physical movement for mental clarity

    How to focus on positives and small wins

    Don't let overthinking hold you back! Start implementing these strategies today and take control of your mental space.

    With Love and Gratitude,

    Jay Shetty

    What We Discuss:

    00:00 Intro

    00:52 Has Overthinking Slowed You Down?

    07:53 The Science Behind Overthinking

    10:50 #1: Overthinking as a Problem-Solving Approach

    14:24 #2: Don’t Ask Too Many People For Their Opinion

    18:19 #3: Avoid Responding While You’re Feeling Alarmed

    19:17 #4: Move Your Body When Your Mind Is Stuck

    20:32 #5: Focus on the Good Thing and Small Wins

    22:05 #6: Spontaneous Drawings Relieve Psychological Stress

    24:23 #7: Go Back to Analog

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    Orlando Bloom: 3 Reasons Why You Need to Allow Yourself to Make Mistakes & Shift Your Perspective on Fear

    Orlando Bloom: 3 Reasons Why You Need to Allow Yourself to Make Mistakes & Shift Your Perspective on Fear

    Do you stop yourself from making mistakes? 

    Do you want to shift your perspective on fear? 

    Today, let’s welcome the one and only Orlando Bloom. Orlando gained widespread fame for his roles in some of the most popular films including The Lord of the Rings trilogy and Pirates of the Caribbean series. He will be seen starring in Peacock's limited adventure docuseries, To The Edge, which he also produced. Off-screen, Orlando is known for his humanitarian efforts, including his work as a UNICEF Goodwill Ambassador.

    Orlando shares insights from his life as an actor, adventurer, and someone deeply involved in spirituality. He talks about how meditation and mindfulness help him stay balanced despite the hectic nature of being a celebrity, his views on masculinity, the importance of embracing both masculine and feminine qualities, and striving for balance and introspection in life. We also get to hear stories about facing and overcoming fears, embracing vulnerability, and the lessons he's learned from these challenges. This episode isn't just about getting to know a renowned actor but diving into the personal journey of a man who is constantly looking for deeper meaning and connections in life.

    In this interview, you’ll learn:
    How to overcome fear
    How to maintain balance in a hectic life
    How to incorporate mindfulness into everyday activities
    How to explore and embrace different aspects of your personality
    How to use life's challenges as growth opportunities

    Tune in now for a discussion full of insights on overcoming fears, embracing spirituality, and pursuing personal growth.  

    With Love and Gratitude,
    Jay Shetty

    What We Discuss:
    02:28 Working in an Unscripted Space
    06:09 What’s Your Earliest Childhood Fear?
    08:35 Practicing Buddhism
    13:49 The Lotus Sutra
    20:16 The 8 Wins
    26:28 Trusting Your Life and Becoming Capable
    36:33 Being Present While on the Edge
    44:48 Any Moment Could Be Your Last
    45:43 The Deepest Mirror You’ll Ever Have
    48:58 What Did You Learn from Your Past Relationships?
    51:22 Introducing Buddhism Practice to My Kids
    55:33 Whatever You’re Saying, You Become
    01:02:22 Loving the Parenting Journey
    01:07:16 The Impacts of Your Decisions
    01:09:13 Opportunities Through Obstacles
    01:17:40 Buddhism Is My Anchor
    01:18:59 The Fear You’re Currently Overcoming
    01:26:04 Orlando Bloom on Final Five

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    4 Ways to Know if It Is Time To End Your Relationship (When the Signs Are Not Clear and Things are Not Bad)

    4 Ways to Know if It Is Time To End Your Relationship (When the Signs Are Not Clear and Things are Not Bad)

    Do you find yourself often thinking about breaking up?

    Do you and your partner have unresolved conflicts that keep resurfacing?

    In this episode, Jay tackles the tough emotions and uncertainty many face when considering a breakup. He talks about why people stay in or leave relationships, touching on key factors like emotional closeness, personal investment, and the impact of family responsibilities. Jay also discusses how to ensure emotional security and the risks of staying for financial reasons or out of obligation. 

    In this episode you’ll learn:

    How to recognize emotional investment

    How to assess emotional security

    How to consider financial implications

    How to navigate emotional intimacy

    This honest conversation provides you with the insights to evaluate your relationship more clearly, helping you decide whether to work on it or move on, based on a deeper understanding of your feelings and the relationship's dynamics.

    With Love and Gratitude,

    Jay Shetty

    What We Discuss:

    00:00 Intro

    01:10 When to End Your Relationship

    04:48 10 Reason Why People Stay in a Relationship

    12:44 Top 10 Reasons to Leave Your Relationship

    18:14 The Three Cancers of the Mind

    24:44 Difference in Scorecard Perspective

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