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Societal perceptions of masculinity are often rooted in traditional and restrictive norms, which can pressure gay men to conform to stereotypical ideals, leading to internalized homophobia, feelings of inadequacy, and a diminished sense of self-worth. Even within the queer community, ideals of masculinity and femininity can be at odds, creating a complex dynamic for gay men who are navigating their identity.

In this episode, Erick DuPree, a literary anthropologist specializing in the intersection of literature and culture, joins us to explore societal concepts of masculinity, how it impacts gay men's sense of self, the importance of mindfulness in navigating our identity, and their anthology, Men & The Goddess, which explores male relationships with the divine feminine.

Related Episodes:

• Listen to Episode 04. Pop Icons and Their Gay Emotional Appeal
• Listen to Episode 11. Overcoming Internalized Homophobia
• Listen to Episode 82. Gay Gym Culture

Additional Resources:

• Learn More About Erick DuPree
• Follow Erick DuPree on Instagram
• Read Men And The Goddess: An Anthology Revisited
• Read Awaken To Mindfulness: Cultivating Daily Practice & Wellbeing

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Covering it all in this episode. The Biden administration invests almost $700k in sex education for trans male youth. The Abbey's disturbing allegations have finally caught up with the infamous WeHo club. And the Oscars wouldn't be the Oscars if they didn't snub anyone– we talk nominations and controversy over who was left out.   

In Am I A Bad Queer, we question the timing of "cis" being considered a slur. Is there any personal responsibility for staying with someone who cheated on you four times?  Plus, how to avoid hanging out with your coworkers during your off hours.

The thought journeys continue in Bad Queer Opinions as Shana breaks down WNBA free agency and Kris makes a case for gossiping being genderless.

Shoutouts

Shana: New queer, Black play party launches in Oakland. B. Tourmaline’s vision is to make safe spaces for queer and trans Black people through events, community and the normalization of Black pleasure. Recently had a play party called Routes: Volume 2 - Follow @b.tourmaline_ on IG 

Kris: Natalie J. Harris, former guest, and friend to BQ, who premiered her latest film, Grace, at the Sundance Film Festival. Follow updates on Natalie’s IG  @nataliejasmineharris

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Ahead of the Hetrick-Martin Institute’s 18th annual awards ball, themed "The Year of the Dragon," which is set to take place on Saturday, Jan. 27, Amy Harclerode, CEO and Jermaine Ellis, director of community engagement and program operations at HMI shared their insights into the organization's mission and ballroom events with 1010 WINS’ Sharon Barnes-Waters.

Happy Holidays, my LGBTQuties! As the end of the year approached, it’s important to take a retrospective look to appreciate the challenges overcome, goals achieved, and lessons learned. In doing so, we can use the knowledge gained to build a stronger foundation for the year ahead.

In this episode, we're revisiting some of our featured guest episodes, exploring topics such as sobriety, conversion therapy, media representation, and more!

Additional Resources:

• 59. Say Bye Bye Bye to Bi Erasure (with Sam McClain)
• 62. Let Go of Your Religious Trauma (with Eric Feltes)
• 64. 40 Single Gay (with Jonathan Lee)
• 66. Shoot Your Shot on Archer (with Michael Kaye)
• 72. Recovering from Recovery (with Adam Fitzgerald)
• 75. Sunday Dinners, Moonshine and Men (with Tate Barkley)
• 76. Finally Free (with Seth Showalter)
• 80. Queer Haunts: Happy Halloween (with Ralph Anthony)

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Gay men tend to grapple with complex feelings about body image, influenced by societal ideals that often emphasize a lean and muscular physique. As a result, gay gym culture is often marked by a complex interplay of such body standards, which can both motivate and challenge individuals within the community to base their self-perception on chasing an idealized appearance.

In this episode, we're exploring the intersection of gay culture and gym culture, along with how societal conceptions of masculinity on gay men's self-image and relationships can lead to feelings of insecurity, inadequacy, and the pursuit of often unrealistic physical ideals.

Additional Resources:

• 32. Gay Men and Body Obsession
• Fitness Culture
• The History of How the Modern Day Gym Came to Be
• Wrestling and Weightlifting: The WWF and Fitness in the 1980s
• The Evolution of San Francisco’s Gay Gym Culture
• YMCA
• Working, Out
• 19. The Queer History of Disco
• 24. Gay Villages: Won't You Be My Gaybor?
• Reported Effects of Masculine Ideals on Gay Men
• Eating Disorder Statistics
• Gay Men and Body Image: What You Need to Know
• It’s Complicated: Exploring Why Gay Men Have Such a Unique Relationship with the Gym
• The Sweaty Homophobia of the Gym

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We've got more company! This week we welcome Jessamyn Stanley,  yoga instructor, entrepreneur and the co-founder of The Underbelly. We spanned multiple topics from polyamory and representation in yoga to dating the rugby team and what it's like being LGBTQ+ in the south. Naturally, astrology was brought up and Jessamyn shares multiple Bad Queer Opinions around Harry Potter and the practice round of polyamory. 

Follow Jessamyn:
@mynamejessamyn
www.jessamynstanley.com
www.theunderbelly.com
@theunderbellyyoga

Shoutouts:
Shana: Shahem Mclaurin - Black, genderqueer, social worker/therapist. Shahem uses their platform to address social and mental health issues while showcasing their style, cooking skills and personal journey. Follow and support @5hahem on IG 

Kris: A re-shoutout to Devin and Brit Kirkland- founders and CEO of Deon Libra, an adaptogenic stress care brand that is Black and queer owned. They won an Allure Best of Beauty Award, Ulta Beauty Accelerator, at the WWD beauty and wellness forum, just released their Smoove Exfoliating Cleaners - in addition to their Big Up Body Glaze and Unbothered Elixir. Follow and support their brand @deonlibra_ on IG 

Jessamyn: My coworker - Angel Foster. She is a pilates instructor and incredible creator.  Follow @angel.foster and listen to her podcast "The Foster"

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The opinions expressed during this podcast are conversational in nature and expressed only for comedic purposes. Not all of the facts will be correct but we attempt to be as accurate as possible. BQ Media LLC, the hosts, nor any guest host(s) hold no liability over the conversations on this podcast and by using this podcast you understand that it is solely for entertainment purposes.

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Coming out is a deeply personal and pivotal moment for LGBTQ+ individuals, encompassing the courageous act of sharing their authentic identity with others, fostering self-acceptance, and seeking understanding and validation.

In this episode, we’re taking a look at the origins of the concept of “coming out” and National Coming Out Day, the importance of being our authentic selves, and how we can feel empowered in our decision to live openly.

Additional Resources:

• Listen to My Coming Out Story
• Coming Out Definition
• The History Behind Why We Say a Person 'Came Out of the Closet'
• Gay New York: Gender, Urban Culture, and the Making of the Gay Male World
• The Gay Metropolis: The Landmark History of Gay Life in America
• A Brief History of Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender Social Movements
• Where Did the Phrase 'Come Out of the Closet' Come From?
• Sexual Orientation and Gender Diversity
• 51. ACT UP: Silence = Death
• Understanding Sexual Orientation and Homosexuality
• The Process of Coming Out
• Stages in the Coming Out Process
• Coming Out and Mental Health
• Coming Out is Good for Our Mental Health
• 20 Things to Know Before You Come Out and How to Go About It
• How Do I Come Out?
• Why Do We Need National Coming Out Day?
• This is Why Coming Out is Important (Even After You've Come Out)
• Coming Out as LGBTQ+ in Adulthood
• The Coming Out Handbook

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As America continues to grapple with its cultural and racial challenges, our very own Pilates community is still experiencing these divisive issues. In this episode, we hear from Rayannah Salahuddin and Rachel Gray, co-owners of Pilates School San Francisco. Classically trained and eternally curious, Rayannah and Rachael have created a unique business model designed to welcome students who otherwise couldn’t afford Pilates classes and more specifically, those in the black, brown and LGBTQ communities.

About Darien Gold ~  https://www.dariengold.com
Music credit ~ @theotherjohnmayer
mayerranchrecordings@gmail.com
About Ray Salahuddin, Rachael Gray, Pilates School SF ~ https://www.pilatesschoolsf.com

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This week, we cover the Angelica Ross tea party, Tyler Perry's unwanted dating advice for successful Black women, and a very rare smart move by the U.S. military to reverse the harmful effects of Don't Ask Don't Tell.  In Am I A Bad Queer? we chat Florida trips and obsessive best friends. We're back to our top 5 lists with advice for our younger queer selves.

Shoutouts:

Shana: Coastal Curl - they specialize in helping folks with waves, kinks, coils and curls to embrace their natural hair texture. Black and Queer Owned in Oakland. Follow @coastal.curl on IG

Kris: Kolumn Mag - celebrates the lives of People of Color, by giving our world texture. Follow on IG @kolumnmagazine 

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Hi Felicity, 

The next time you go to Tegucigalpa, consider flying out of the Denver Airport. Why, you ask? Because we know what you really want is to be met with frightening horse statues with glowing eyes and murals simultaneously celebrating Pride and The Third Reich. Werk.

In our penultimate episode of #REACTEMEBER, Quill & Audrey close out the discussion on conspiracy theories. If you thought Melissa was crazy, wait till you hear about the lizard people under the Denver Airport. But in all seriousness, make sure the conspiracy theories you’re consuming aren’t anti-semitic and science-denying <3 

Cameos include:

• A petition to get the “Children of the World Dream Peace” mural out of baggage claim 6
• inhale gay, exhale gay
• hats giving third reich
• “The gays are welcome here, surprisingly”– Quill
• “I’d like to not like it in a museum, not an airport” – Quill
• Being terrified of the pretentious nature of the MoMA #guano
• “That’s called incest over and over, nor porphyria” – Quill, referencing the royal family
• Tegucigalpa #iykyk
• 2 for $6 fish fillets 

Viciously and suspiciously,
Bad Planning (badplanningpod@gmail.com)

Robin Roberts weds her longtime partner, Amber Laign. In his new doc, we learn Lil Nas X gave his brother the courage to come out and Luis Rubiales finally resigned as president of the Royal Spanish Football Federation. The WNBA playoffs are upon us and so are our championship picks. Kris makes another design request during our Bad Queer Opinions.

Shoutouts:

Shana: Sami Schalk - A polyamorous fat Black queer disabled femme who is an author, educator and pleasure activist. On the eve of me seeing Janelle Monae, I am so happy for them getting onstage and backing that ass up as Janelle brought them CENTER STAGE. Also, read Sami’s most book Black Disability Politics and follow on IG at fierceblackfemme

Kris: Bottoms
Bottoms is about two unpopular queer high school students start a fight club to have sex before graduation. Ayo Edebiri as Josie and Rachel Sennott as PJ are hilarious. Go see it, stream it when it comes out. Follow Ayo on IG: @ayoedebiri

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The opinions expressed during this podcast are conversational in nature and expressed only for comedic purposes. Not all of the facts will be correct but we attempt to be as accurate as possible. BQ Media LLC, the hosts, nor any guest host(s) hold no liability over the conversations on this podcast and by using this podcast you understand that it is solely for entertainment purposes.

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Our company this week is Kiana Lewis, a sexuality educator, pleasure mentor, writer, sex work advocate and former online sex worker. Listen in as we learn about Kiana's journey, what pleasure mentoring is and why someone would seek it and Shana and Kiana's friendship origin story.

Shoutouts

Shana: Big Freedia - Is going to receive the Icon Award during Atlanta’s Black Pride Pure Heat Community Festival. The pure heat community festival is a front seat into a spectacular gathering of minority LGBTQ+ people and their allies in the heart of Atlanta. Has food vendors, market, celebrity and local performers, entertainment, educational forums and more! Follow @thepureheatcommunityfestival

Kris: Sally McMullin - Educator, Storyteller- Content series Black stories/history we should know. IG @sallymcmullin 

Kiana: A Little Juju Podcast hosted by Juju Bae @itsjujubae.  This was the podcast that got me into podcasts. It was also the podcast that brought me a sense of spirituality, post religion drama. Juju's the best! Follow on IG @alittlejujupodcast

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The opinions expressed during this podcast are conversational in nature and expressed only for comedic purposes. Not all of the facts will be correct but we attempt to be as accurate as possible. BQ Media LLC, the hosts, nor any guest host(s) hold no liability over the conversations on this podcast and by using this podcast you understand that it is solely for entertainment purposes.

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Previously, we discussed the complicated relationship gay men have with alcohol, which is shaped by diverse factors such as social acceptance, coping with discrimination, and navigating the intersection of LGBTQ+ identity and substance use.

In this episode, writer, director, and filmmaker Adam Fitzgerald joins us to talk about his new book, Recovering from Recovery, which explores his journey away from rhetoric and advice he experienced in Alcoholics Anonymous, which seemed to judge and stigmatize his sexuality.

Additional Resources:

• 56. LGBTQ+ Alcoholism
• Buy Recovering from Recovery
• Adam Fitzgerald (Instagram)
• Adam Fitzgerald (TikTok)
• Adam Fitzgerald (Twitter)

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Grief is frequently associated with the LGBTQ+ experience, from fearing rejection to dealing with hate and living in constant terror of being in danger. While any form of grief is both a universal and personal experience necessary to cope with loss, the complexities of queer grief can lead to isolation, mental health challenges, and the suppression of one's authentic self.

In this episode, we’re delving into the intersection of disenfranchised grief and queer grief, its unique impact on LGBTQ+ people, and how undergoing a second adolescence can serve as a transformative path towards healing, self-discovery, and reclaiming authentic identities in the face of loss and societal challenges.

Additional Resources:

• Grief - American Psychological Association
• Grief - Cleveland Clinic
• What is Grief?
• The Five Stages of Grief
• Honoring Queer Grief
• Why Queer People Need to Talk About Disenfranchised Grief
• Disenfranchised Grief in Queer Companionship and Chosen Family
• LGBT Identification in U.S. Ticks Up to 7.1%
• The Grief in Queer Healing
• The Second Adolescence of LGBTQ+ Adulthood

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Recently, conservatives have used the unrestricted exercise of religious freedom and freedom of speech to promote discriminatory beliefs and harmful ideologies that perpetuate prejudice and undermine the rights and dignity of LGBTQ+ people. On Friday, June 30, 2023, the Supreme Court of the United States ruled that the First Amendment entitles some business owners to refuse same-sex wedding work, which is a staggering blow to LGBTQ+ equality.

In this episode, we’re discussing the Supreme Court’s recent decision regarding 303 Creative LLC v. Elenis and the possible ramifications this conservative ruling may have on the ongoing fight for LGBTQ+ equality.

Additional Resources:

• 303 Creative LLC v. Elenis
• 303 Creative LLC v. Elenis (American Bar Association)
• Alliance Defending Freedom
• Masterpiece Cakeshop v. Colorado Civil Rights Commission
• 46. Obergefell v. Hodges and the Ongoing Fight for Marriage Equality
• Supreme Court Says 1st Amendment Entitles Web Designer to Refuse Same-Sex Wedding Work
• Samuel Alito 'Joked' About Black Kids Wearing KKK Robes During Oral Arguments
• Do Most Americans Oppose Supreme Court LGBTQ Ruling? It Depends on the Poll.
• Gallup LGBTQ+ Rights Poll
• Freedom of Speech and LGBT Rights: Americans’ Views of Issues in Supreme Court Case
• Data for Progress Poll
• Legitimacy of ‘Customer’ in Supreme Court Gay Rights Case Raises Ethical and Legal Flags
• The Mysterious Case of the Fake Gay Marriage Website, the Real Straight Man, and the Supreme Court
• The Man Named in the Supreme Court’s Gay Rights Ruling Says He Didn’t Request a Wedding Website
• The 19th Explains: Why the Respect for Marriage Act Doesn’t Codify Same-Sex Marriage Rights
• Congress: Pass the Equality Act