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    11. The Psychology of Friendship Breakups - the fizzle, toxic people and forgiveness

    enSeptember 16, 2021

    About this Episode

    In this episode we are discussing the psychology behind friendship breakups - why we need to move on from people, the types of toxic friends to look out for, the best way to breakup with a friend and more! Tune in for some juicy psychology and lessons for our 20’s.

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    ūüĒĎ Key Takeaways

    • Reflecting on our past friendships, despite the pain it may cause, can help us bring closure and move on in a healthy way.
    • No one is entirely replaceable, and every individual brings something unique to our lives.
    • Recognize when it's time to end a friendship for the sake of growth and to prevent bitterness and resentment.
    • Honesty and self-reflection are key to fostering healthy relationships.
    • Setting boundaries and taking care of yourself are essential for maintaining healthy friendships.
    • Surround yourself with people who make you feel inspired and supported, and don't forget to forgive and move on.

    ūüďĚ Podcast Summary

    Dealing with Friendship Breakups: An Essential Part of Growing Up

    Making and maintaining friendships is an important part of life.Friendships can bring joy, comfort, and stability to our lives, but can also bring pain and grief when they end.Breakups with friends can cause the same feelings of loneliness, guilt, anger, and awkwardness as romantic breakups.Research has proven that friendships are a major part of our social networks and can help us cope with trauma.Taking the time to reflect on our past friendships can be painful but can also bring closure.It's important to remember that friendship breakups are a part of life and a normal part of growing up.Learning how to cope with them in a healthy way can help us heal and move on.

    Can We Place Equal Value on Platonic Relationships?

    Our society places a higher value on romantic relationships than on friendships, leading us to undervalue the importance of good friendships.We can share a similar level of vulnerability and intimacy with friends as with partners, making it difficult to end these relationships when they become unhealthy.Good friendships are rare, and when they end, it can be just as painful as romantic breakups.We need to recognize the importance of platonic relationships, and not underestimate the difficulty of severing them.We should also remember that no one is entirely replaceable, and that every individual brings something unique to our lives.

    Ending Friendships for a Better Future

    We all have friends that come and go throughout our lives.Sometimes friendships end due to a betrayal, incompatibility, or a drift in chemistry.It's important to recognize when it's time to talk to your friend and let them know it's not working.Though it may be awkward, it's the best way to end things without bitterness and resentment.And it's important to remember that people come into our lives for a reason, season, or lifetime, and that's ok.Growth and change are natural, and it's important to recognize when a friendship is no longer serving you.

    Are You Cultivating the Right Relationships for You?

    Friendships are an important part of our lives and growing as people.It is natural for relationships to end and it is important to be open to creating new ones.We should be honest with ourselves and with our friends if we no longer have a compatible relationship.It is not fair to force a friendship to stay the same when we have both developed into new versions of ourselves.It is also important to recognize that no one is inherently 'toxic' and that it may be the relationship itself that has become negative.There are certain personality types that may not be compatible with others, but that does not mean they are toxic.Understanding this will help us to cultivate the right relationships for us.

    Recognizing Unhealthy Friendships

    We all need friends in our lives, but it is important to recognize that not all friendships are healthy or positive.Some people can be overly demanding and negative, and it can be difficult to keep up with them.We may stay in these relationships out of fear of being alone, but it can be emotionally draining and leave us feeling unseen and unworthy.It's important to recognize the signs of an unhealthy friendship, and to understand that it is okay to distance ourselves from these types of people.We need to remember that we always have the right to set boundaries and take care of ourselves.

    Letting Go of Unfulfilling Friendships

    Friendship breakups are a common experience and can be difficult to navigate.It is important to remember that it is ok to move on from a friendship that isn't enriching your life.You should surround yourself with people who make you feel inspired and supported.If you do need to end a friendship, it can help to talk it out and handle the situation with grace.It's also important to forgive and not carry resentment towards your former friends.Everyone goes through different relationships and it is important to recognize when it is time to move on.

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