Therapist Mike Mathers joins Daniel and Karen to talk about his new book coming out in 2024, Curious AF. Mike sets us up to understand how the human mind operates as a social entity that needs to belong to a group, and influences us to operate to avoid shame, particularly childhood shame that we can’t even remember, but that our subconscious still accesses to inform our daily thoughts & decisions.

Mike talks about his common friend who is always there for him, “I’m a Fucking Idiot”, and how we have a relationship with “I’m a Fucking Idiot” and we don’t even know it. Daniel asks if all addictions are driven by shame. Mike says he calls shame “unconscious unworthiness”. He draws a link to feelings as data that provide information about our lives and what’s missing in terms of emotional regulation, social connection and meaning and purpose.

Mike goes on to explain that the antidote to shame is to get curious about it using “I wonder…” questions, whose answer doesn’t matter because you can’t be judgmental and curious at the same time. Curiosity changes what's going on in our mind and body and gets us out of shame. 

Follow along with Karen who gets “therapized” in this episode. Early listener reviews have characterized Curious AF as a free half hour of damn good therapy.

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This episode I decided to share some of my favorite books I read or listened to in 2023.
Here's a list of all the books mentioned in this episode.

Fiction:
Tenth of December - George Saunders
Liberation Day - George Saunders
A Swim in a Pond in the Rain - George Saunders
Norse Mythology - Neil Gaiman

Philosophy:
The Creative Act - Rick Rubin 
The Wisdom of Insecurity - Alan Watts.
Be Water, My Friend - Shannon Lee 
Pure Meditation - Pema Chodron
Meditations - Marcus Aurelius
Letters from a Stoic - Seneca
How to be a Stoic - Massimo Pigliucci
A field guide to a Happy Life - Massimo Pigliucci
Think Like a Stoic - Massimo Pigliucci
Discipline in Destiny - Ryan Holiday
Stillness is the Key - Ryan Holiday
The Obstacle is the Way - Ryan Holiday 
Courage is Calling - Ryan Holiday
The Tao Te Ching - Lao Tzu, Stephen Mitchell Translation
The Art of Living - Thich Nhat Hahn

Politics and Political Theory:
What's Our Problem? - Tim Urban
The Cruelty is the Point - Adam Serwer
Poverty, by America - Matthew Desmond
Ghettoside - Jill Leovy
The Short and Tragic Life of Robert Peace - Jeff Hobbs
Charter Schools and Their Enemies - Thomas Sowell

Parenting:
Bringing up Bébe - Pamela Druckerman 
How to Raise Successful People - Esther Wojcicki
It. Goes. So. Fast. - Mary Louise Kelly

Sociology:
Braiding Sweetgrass - Robin Wall Kimmerer
The Myth of Normal - Gabor Maté MD and Daniel Maté
A Hunter-Gatherers Guide to the 21st Century - Heather Heying and Bret Weinstein
10 Arguments for Deleting Your Social Media Account Right Now - Jaron Lanier
Deepfakes - Nina Schick
The Art of the Good Life - Rolph Dobelli
The Good Life - Robert Waldinger
Irreversible Damage - Abigail Shrier
Pageboy - Elliot Page

One excellent book I accidentally left out was yet another great on from Michael Pollan,  The Botany of Desire. 

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This week Grace discusses Generational Trauma and her connections to her own family struggles! 

Thank you so much for watching! Here are the journal prompts! 

1. How would you describe the unique issues your family has faced? 
-And how did that affect you as a child? 
-How does that still affect you as an adult? 
2. What would you describe your personality as when interacting with others? Do you try to match the energy of your environment or do you shrink away? 
3. Do you resonate with any of the symptoms we previously described? Which ones? Can you think of other symptoms you endure? 
4. What has been your healing process, or if you don’t have one yet can you think of your grieving process? 
5. What are things you look forward to? Is it easy or difficult, are you afraid to set expectations for yourself or others? 
6. Do you wish to establish boundaries with your family? 
7. If you could change anything about your current family dynamic, what would it be? 
8. If you could change something about your childhood what would it be? 
9. What are you going to do moving forward to prevent the cycle from continuing to your future children? 
10. What is one thing that you will not do in parenting your children? 
11. What are you proud of yourself for in facing adversity? 
12. How can you forgive the family that raised you? 
13. How can you encourage yourself today? 

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This week my partner Dr. Erin Boyce joins me to talk about one of her areas of study, attachment theory. We discuss childhood development, identity formation, the important of strong attachments to parental figures, authenticity, depression, repression, and lots more.

For more on Attachment Theory, check out Mary Ainsworth's work.
For more on attachment, authenticity and addiction, check out Dr. Gabor Maté's work.

Daniel Maté is a New York-based composer, lyricist, and playwright for musical theatre. He is a recipient of the Edward Kleban Prize for Most Promising Lyricist in American Musical Theatre, a Jonathan Larson Foundation Grant, and the ASCAP Foundation's Cole Porter Award for Excellence in Music and Lyrics (for his song cycle "The Longing and the Short of It").

Daniel is also co-author - along with his father, Dr. Gabor Maté - of the recently released New York Times bestseller: "The Myth of Normal: Trauma, Illness, and Healing in a Toxic Culture". He and his father have another book project in the works - "Hello Again: A Fresh Start for Parents and Their Adult Children" - based on the workshops of the same name that they have been co-leading since 2016.

Please enjoy this illuminating conversation with Daniel!

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What if you could coach YOURSELF when you really needed it? When you’re feeling stuck in overwhelm, confusion and defeat? What if it were super simple and only took 10 - 15 minutes to drastically change your brain?

I’ve spent a small fortune working with several life coaches over the years with all different styles, tools and modalities and I want to share with you the very BEST one. It’s so good that you can use it to coach yourself. 

I often use this coaching tool during my Daily 15 (15 min of journaling thought work). It will blow your mind and could change everything for you. 

In this episode I will teach you what it is and how to use it to lose your first 10lbs with me, no matter what personalized protocol (food plan) you’ve chosen.

Weight loss is the RESULT of a mindset and skillset. Using this tool is the most effective skill you’ll learn for not only losing weight, but for reaching any goal you set. 

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• Common missteps using the Mindful Inquiry Model and how to avoid them

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He’s working to give a voice to the voiceless, but maybe not in the way that you might think. Listen as holistic healer and musician Eric Majeski discusses stepping into the unknown and giving voice to what’s deepest inside each one of us. 

Highlights: 

• Difference between hard and soft addictions and why some are more stigmatized than others 
• Dr Gabor Mate teaches us not to ask “why the addiction?” but instead to ask, “why the pain?”
• People want to get out of pain. How? By medicating. That’s normal. There’s nothing more normal than wanting to get out of pain.
• Learn what a “Musical Intervention” is and its role in healing 
• Using music as a way of grieving 
• To be voiceless is painful. To not be in full expression is painful.
• The concept of harm reduction in healing 
• Step into the unknown - it’s really not as our minds anticipate it to be 
• As human beings, we’re not supposed to stop learning, and why it’s so easy to forget 
• Persistence is the key to transformation 
• If there are no obstacles, am I on a path worth being on? 
• If your dreams don’t scare you, they aren’t big enough. -Ellen Johnson Sirleaf

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In this week's podcast episode, The team of mental health therapists discuss addiction and how it effects our lives.  But reveal a secret side to addiction most people are not aware of.

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