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    Get Your Sh*t Together: This 85-Year-Old Badass Does More Than You & Me (Steal Her 7 Amazing Secrets to Life)

    enAugust 28, 2023

    Podcast Summary

    • Living a Purpose-Driven Life: Inspiration from a Vibrant WidowBy staying active, having a positive mindset, prioritizing fun, and cultivating meaningful relationships, we can live a vibrant and fulfilling life at any age.

      Living a long, vibrant, connected, happy, healthy, and purpose-driven life is possible, even in the last chapter of our lives. Judie Robbins, Mel's mother-in-law, is a prime example of this. Despite being a widow since the age of 69, Judie lives her life with such zest and energy that she inspires those around her. Her secrets include staying physically active, having a positive mindset, prioritizing fun and enjoyment, and cultivating meaningful relationships with friends. By making small changes and adopting similar habits and values, we can all wake up at any age and authentically feel like the best days are yet to come.

    • The Power of Morning Routines and Personal RitualsEstablishing a morning routine and personal rituals can improve well-being and mindset by promoting self-care, mindfulness, and authenticity. It is important to prioritize ourselves and find joy in everyday practices.

      Establishing a morning routine can greatly contribute to one's well-being and mindset. Despite their differences, Judie Robbins's unique morning routine showcases the importance of self-care, mindfulness, and authenticity. Waking up early and taking time for oneself, whether it be through a sauna session, hydrating, or enjoying a cup of coffee, sets the tone for the day. Judie's practice of going through her mail and playing a game on her phone displays the significance of personal rituals that bring joy. Additionally, her meditation practice and mantra, "sa," highlight the power of finding inner peace and focusing on the present moment. Ultimately, this conversation reminds us to prioritize self-care, honesty, and being true to ourselves.

    • The Power of Physical Movement and Thought on Brain HealthEngaging in daily physical movement and intentional thought through Neurobics can improve cognitive function, prevent cognitive decline, and enhance overall well-being as we age.

      Engaging in daily physical movement paired with intentional thought can stimulate the brain and create new neural pathways. This practice, known as Neurobics, has been proven to have positive effects on cognitive function, particularly for individuals with Alzheimer's and dementia. Additionally, incorporating exercise into daily routines, such as walking or running, can have significant benefits for overall physical and mental well-being, promoting mobility and preventing cognitive decline. The story highlights the importance of making exercise a habit and demonstrates how it can contribute to maintaining a youthful appearance, enhancing mood, and feeling like oneself. Ultimately, staying active and engaged in physical activity as we age can greatly improve quality of life.

    • The Importance of Social Connections and Love in Our LivesBy nurturing relationships with others and showing love and care, we can experience a greater sense of well-being and fulfillment in our own lives.

      Being social and feeling loved is incredibly important for our overall well-being, especially as we get older. Older friends often struggle with admitting their feelings of depression, but having younger friends can bring a sense of vitality and connection. Additionally, the advice given by Judie Robbins suggests that if someone feels like they don't have anyone who loves them in their life, they can start by taking care of someone else, such as through hospice training. By providing love and care to others, we can experience a tremendous feeling of satisfaction and create love in our own lives. Ultimately, filling our own need for love by giving it to others can bring more love and meaning into our lives.

    • Taking control and fostering meaningful connectionsInstead of wasting time and building resentment, we should actively create the relationships and experiences we desire, focus on our own lives, and engage in activities that bring us fulfillment.

      Many people waste time and build up resentment by wishing things were different or that others would care more. However, the conversation highlights the importance of taking control of our own lives and creating the connections we desire. Instead of sitting around and getting angry or feeling sorry for ourselves, we can actively create the relationships and experiences we want. By focusing on our own lives, pursuing our interests, and giving others the freedom to live their lives, we can pour out love and foster meaningful connections. Additionally, finding ways to engage ourselves, such as listening to books or engaging in hobbies, can provide a sense of companionship and fulfillment.

    • The Power of Staying Active and Engaged as We AgeBy maintaining physical and mental activity, fostering meaningful relationships, and making it a routine, we can lead a fulfilling and vibrant life as we age.

      Staying active, both physically and mentally, is crucial for maintaining a fulfilling and vibrant life as we age. Judie Robbins exemplifies the importance of continuous learning and engagement. She emphasizes the significance of active input, such as reading and engaging in physical activities like bar classes and running. Judie's motivation to exercise every day is driven by a sense of guilt, which psychologists refer to as "good guilt" that serves as a powerful motivator. She also highlights the value of staying connected with old friends and having meaningful relationships in one's life. By making activity a routine and staying connected, we can keep our minds and bodies young, leading to a more fulfilling life.

    • Finding Love and Meaningful Relationships at Any AgeStaying connected and seeking companionship can lead to fulfilling relationships and experiences, reminding us that it's never too late to find love and live life to the fullest.

      Staying connected to others and putting yourself out there can lead to fulfilling relationships and experiences at any age, even in later stages of life. Judie Robbins exemplifies this by actively seeking companionship after being alone for two years and continuously pursuing new connections. She demonstrates the importance of maintaining friendships and surrounding herself with people who bring joy and energy into her life. Despite her age, Judie embraces new experiences and adventures, like going on a cattle drive at a dude ranch. This story reminds us that it's never too late to find love, create meaningful relationships, and live life to the fullest.

    • The Importance of Direct Communication in Maintaining Lifelong FriendshipsTo maintain close relationships with lifelong friends, it is crucial to actively communicate and make the effort to reach out through direct communication.

      Maintaining close relationships with lifelong friends requires active effort and communication. Jude explains that one of the secrets to staying connected to the women she raised her kids with for over 50 years is picking up the phone and calling them. She emphasizes the importance of not going around the back door by talking about friends instead of talking to them directly. Jude's example of her friend with Alzheimer's highlights the need for direct communication and avoiding assumptions. Instead of discussing her friend's situation with someone else, she advises going directly to the source and having open, honest conversations. The key takeaway is that if you value a friendship, make the effort to reach out and connect through direct communication.

    • The Importance of Open Communication and Addressing Sensitive Health Concerns DirectlyBy openly discussing health concerns with the person involved, rather than talking behind their back, we can address worries or issues effectively while embracing gratitude and a positive outlook on life.

      Open communication is essential, especially when it comes to sensitive topics like health concerns. Instead of talking about someone behind their back, it's important to have direct conversations with them to address any worries or issues. Judie realizes this when she contemplates talking to her friend Sally about her potential dementia, understanding that it's crucial to discuss it with her instead of merely discussing it with others. This conversation also highlights the importance of staying young at heart by living in the present and being grateful for each day. By not taking life for granted and embracing new experiences, one can maintain a positive outlook and approach to life.

    • Finding True Happiness and Gratitude Through Appreciation and Living in the PresentTrue happiness and fulfillment can be achieved by embracing gratitude for what we have in the present moment, rather than constantly desiring more.

      True happiness and gratitude come from appreciating what you have in the present moment. Many people have good health, loving families, and fulfilling relationships, yet they still feel miserable because they constantly desire something more. By focusing on what they lack, they create unnecessary stress for themselves. It is important to recognize that the process and journey of life itself can be exhilarating and fulfilling. Instead of always looking ahead and wishing for something else, we should learn to appreciate and be grateful for what we have now. By embracing gratitude and living in the present, we can find true happiness and create the life we desire.

    • Age should never limit your pursuit of a fulfilling life.Your age doesn't determine your ability to form meaningful relationships, maintain a positive mindset, and establish joyful habits. Take charge, be grateful, make a difference, and believe in your power to create the life you desire.

      Age should never be a barrier to pursuing the life you want. Judie's lifelong learning and childlike spirit have shown that your age doesn't dictate your ability to create meaningful relationships, develop a positive mindset, and establish daily habits that bring you joy. Rather than waiting for others to make things happen for you, take charge and be grateful for each day. Find ways to make a difference in someone else's life, as this can bring fulfillment and purpose to your own life. You have the power to reinvent yourself at any point and overcome any excuses. Embrace the belief that you can create the life you desire and take action towards it.

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