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    5 Ways To Get Over Yourself | Pascal Auclair

    enDecember 22, 2023

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    • Understanding the illusion of self in Buddhism for happinessBuddhism teaches that self is an illusion and taking thoughts and emotions less personally can help reduce suffering. Listen to the '10% Happier' podcast for insights and expert interviews.

      Getting out of our own heads and reducing self-centered suffering is a fundamental goal in Buddhism. This can be achieved by understanding that the self is an illusion and learning to take thoughts and emotions less personally. Wondery Plus subscribers can listen to the "10% Happier" podcast, where Dan Harris discusses these concepts and interviews experts like Pascalo Claire. In other news, Dell Technologies is celebrating its 40th anniversary with tech deals, and Whole Foods Market is the perfect place for Easter brunch supplies, including high-quality eggs and catering options. Additionally, DoorDash can help make Easter shopping more convenient by delivering groceries and supplies right to your door.

    • Understanding the Five Aggregates in BuddhismRecognizing and understanding the five aggregates (materiality, sensation, perception, mental formations, and consciousness) in Buddhism can help us navigate the complexities of reality, gain insight into the sources of stress and suffering, and cultivate a deeper understanding of ourselves and our experiences.

      The Buddhist concept of the five aggregates, or the five rivers of experience, offers a useful way to understand and navigate the complexities of reality. These aggregates, which include materiality, sensation, perception, mental formations, and consciousness, can be thought of as conceptual hang-ups that prevent us from seeing things accurately. They are always changing, like rivers, and are interconnected in our experience. By recognizing and understanding these aggregates, we can gain insight into the sources of stress, confusion, and suffering, and work towards overcoming them. This perspective can help us make sense of the world around us and cultivate a deeper understanding of ourselves and our experiences.

    • Navigating the rivers of experienceRecognizing the insubstantial nature of our experiences can help us live more fully and mindfully.

      Being human involves navigating various "rivers of experience," including intention, consciousness, form, feeling, and perception. These experiences can bring joy and understanding, but they can also lead to confusion, suffering, and a sense of separation. By deconstructing our experiences and recognizing how we get trapped in our conceptual world, we can gain deeper insight into ourselves and the world around us. This practice can be illuminating and even transformative, as was the case for the speaker when they were diagnosed with a life-threatening illness and realized the impermanence of their body and the world around them. Ultimately, understanding the insubstantial nature of our experiences can help us live more fully and mindfully.

    • Understanding impermanence reduces sufferingRecognizing the illusion of a permanent self can bring peace and freedom from stress and fear

      Our perception of a solid, permanent self is an illusion, and recognizing this can help reduce suffering and feelings of separation and fear. The Buddha's teachings, as described, emphasize the impermanence of all things, including the body and perception, using the metaphor of a mirage to illustrate this concept. By understanding that everything is an aggregation and there is no permanent core self, we can better cope with the inevitability of death and the uncertainty of existence beyond it. This perspective can bring a sense of peace and freedom from the stress and loneliness that come from clinging to a solid, permanent self.

    • Understanding impermanence of experiencesRecognizing transience of emotions, opinions, and sensations can lead to peace and liberation, reducing stress and suffering

      Our constant identification and appropriation of the ever-changing experiences and sensations in our bodies and minds can lead to stress and suffering. The Buddha's teachings on the five aggregates or aspects encourage us to observe and understand the impermanence of these experiences, freeing us from attachment and wrongful appropriation. Our emotions, opinions, and physical sensations are not permanent possessions but rather transient events of the public domain. By recognizing this and letting go of our attachment, we can find peace and liberation not only for ourselves but also for the emotions and experiences themselves. As the speaker mentioned, this concept may seem intellectual or fun to consider, but its relevance and importance lie in the potential for reducing stress and suffering in our lives.

    • The transience of life and the importance of cherishing the present momentMindfulness and acknowledging impermanence can foster equanimity, compassion, and appreciation for life. Cherish the present moment, as things are always changing and we never know what may come next.

      The Buddhist practice of mindfulness and acknowledging the impermanence of things can help us develop equanimity, compassion, and appreciation for life. The speaker shares how they have observed the transience of moments, thoughts, and ideas, and how this awareness has helped them cope with the prospect of death. They emphasize that things are always changing and that we should cherish the present moment, as we never know what may come next. The speaker also reflects on how this practice has helped them navigate personal relationships and understand the instability of opinions and perspectives. They encourage listeners to practice noticing the flickering nature of life and find joy and compassion in the ephemeral nature of things.

    • Exploring the Conditional Nature of Our PerceptionsOur perceptions of ourselves and the world are fluid and depend on our thoughts, emotions, and experiences. Understanding this can help us be more mindful and adaptable.

      Our perception of ourselves and the world around us is fluid and conditional. During the discussion, the podcast host praised the book "Age of Vice" by Deepi Kapoor for its well-written and plotty narrative. They also shared their excitement about trying out new products from Quince, a company offering affordable luxury essentials. Furthermore, the host and their guest explored the "10% Happier" meditation app and the Buddhist concept of the "Five Aggregates." They specifically discussed the first aggregate, which refers to the physical body. The Buddha identified four ways we may perceive our body: it is mine, I am it, it is in me, or I am in it. The host shared how their sense of ownership over their body can shift depending on their mindset and the situation. This conversation highlights the importance of understanding the "conditional nature of our perceptions," as the host put it. It's a reminder that our relationship to ourselves and the world can change based on our thoughts, emotions, and experiences.

    • Recognizing the impermanence of ownershipAcknowledging the impermanence and conditional nature of material forms can help us approach them with fluidity and care, bringing some liberation even in the face of change.

      Our perception of ownership towards material forms, including our bodies and possessions, can be limiting and cause suffering when we cling to the idea that they are absolutely ours. Instead, acknowledging the impermanence and conditional nature of these things can help us approach them with fluidity and care. This understanding can bring some liberation, even if the external circumstances do not change. For instance, the belief that a restaurant is absolutely ours may lead to suffering when faced with unexpected events like graffiti or war. However, recognizing that it is ours and not ours simultaneously can help us avoid tantrums and better cope with change. The Buddha's teachings on the earth element emphasize this idea, reminding us to investigate our relationship with form and its impermanence.

    • Observing Feelings Tone and Avoiding EmbellishmentsRecognize and observe feelings tone without adding personal stories, keeping meditation simple and grounded in reality.

      Our experiences, whether it's the feeling of pressure on the body or emotions, come with a certain feeling tone that can be pleasurable, unpleasurable, or neutral. However, we often add to these experiences by making them personal and building stories around them, leading to fear and selfing. The Buddha recognized this tendency and made feeling tone one of the aggregates, inviting us to tune in and observe how these feelings arise and vanish, recognizing their instability and unreliability. In meditation, we can come back to the present moment and renounce the embellishments that trap us, keeping things simple and grounded in reality.

    • Embrace life's unpredictabilityUse unpleasant experiences to cultivate virtues and find joy in discovering new things through curiosity and openness.

      Life is unpredictable and filled with a mix of pleasant, unpleasant, and neutral experiences. The Buddha encourages us to pay attention to this variability and not cling to what is pleasurable or fear what is unpleasant. Instead, we can use unpleasant experiences to cultivate virtues like patience, integrity, and compassion. The third aggregate, perception, highlights the importance of how we perceive things and how it shapes our inner experience. By approaching life with curiosity and openness, we can find joy in discovering new things and learning about ourselves and the world around us. So, embrace the unpredictability of life and use every experience as an opportunity for growth.

    • Perceptions of Reality are SubjectiveOur perceptions of reality are influenced by past experiences and biases, and can be very different from objective facts. Recognizing this can bring a sense of liberation and help us respond to situations instead of reacting based on outdated beliefs.

      Our perceptions of reality are heavily influenced by our past experiences and biases. What we perceive as objective facts can actually be very subjective. This can be seen in how we perceive people, the past, and the future. For example, on a bad day, we might see people as annoying or uncompassionate, but on a good day, we might see them as touching and compassionate. Similarly, we might perceive the future as bleak, but if we recognize that this is just a momentary perception, we can hold it more lightly. It's important to remember that these perceptions are not reality, but rather mirages shaped by our own conditioning. Recognizing this can bring a sense of liberation and help us respond to situations instead of reacting to them based on outdated beliefs.

    • Understanding Perception through G2FI shoes and MeditationBoth G2FI shoes and meditation offer transformative experiences by helping us recognize and let go of attachments, leading to improved well-being and happiness through better posture, muscle engagement, and self-awareness.

      Both the G2FI shoes and the practice of meditation offer transformative experiences by helping us understand the nature of perception. The G2FI shoes provide physical comfort and alignment through their custom orthotics and innovative VersaShock technology, while encouraging proper posture and muscle engagement. Meanwhile, meditation invites us to observe our perceptions and recognize their impermanence and non-personal nature. By practicing meditation, we can learn to unhook from identifying with our thoughts and senses, leading to a deeper sense of self-awareness and freedom. Similarly, the G2FI shoes allow us to move through our day with ease and comfort, free from pain and discomfort. Both experiences offer valuable lessons in recognizing and letting go of attachments, ultimately leading to improved well-being and happiness.

    • Our experiences are not solid or factualRecognize the impermanence and emptiness of mental formations, including emotions, thoughts, and intentions, in meditation for deeper insight into reality and self

      Our experiences, including emotions and thoughts, are not solid or factual as they may seem. They are mental formations, ephemeral and empty in nature, much like the core of a banana tree being fiber and not solid wood. The Buddha encourages us to recognize this and not take these experiences personally or as our true selves. Instead, we should notice the impermanence and emptiness of these mental formations in meditation. Even our intentions, which we may believe define us, are also subject to change and are not the true self. By understanding this, we can gain a deeper insight into the nature of reality and our place in it.

    • Exploring the nature of consciousness through meditationThrough meditation, we can question our assumptions about the self and investigate the nature of consciousness, starting with focusing on the breath and gradually exploring thoughts and emotions, ultimately recognizing the selflessness of consciousness

      Our intentions and consciousness are shaped by various conditions and experiences, rather than being purely personal or solid. The Buddha compared consciousness to a magic show, made up of moments of hearing, thinking, feeling, and perceiving. These moments create the illusion of a permanent self. Through meditation, we can question our assumptions about the self and investigate the nature of consciousness. This investigation typically begins with focusing on the breath and gradually moves towards exploring the nature of thoughts and emotions. The subtle point of recognizing the selflessness of consciousness is reached further into the practice, when the mind is quiet and stable. It's essential not to let this exploration become too intellectual or heady. Instead, we can ask simple questions like "who is hearing?" or "who is thinking?" to begin to understand the nature of consciousness.

    • Shift focus from self to perception during meditationObserving perception itself leads to liberation, heart opening, and access to joy, compassion, and equanimity

      During meditation, instead of focusing on "I" or "eye" in our perception, we should observe that perception itself is happening. This realization can lead to a sense of liberation and heart opening, making joy, compassion, and equanimity more accessible. Pascal, the philosopher who famously wrote about the illusion of self, can provide deeper insights into this concept. To learn more, you can explore Pascal's teachings on Dharma Seeds, a website where many of his teachings are available, or attend his in-person or online classes. This practice of shifting focus from self to perception can lead to a clearer understanding of the world and a more compassionate heart.

    • Exploring the Benefits of Meditation and Mindfulness with Pascal Eau ClaireDiscover the joys of meditation and mindfulness through Pascal Eau Claire's talks on Dharma Seed, and connect with others while uncovering human complexities. Join Wondery Plus or use Amazon Music for early access and ad-free listening, and share your experiences through a survey on Wondery.com.

      Meditation and mindfulness practices, as taught by Pascal Eau Claire, can provide valuable insights into human nature and bring people together in a meaningful way. Pascal's talks, which can be found on the Dharma Seed website, have reached audiences around the world and offer a unique perspective on the benefits of meditation and mindfulness. During their conversation, Dan and Pascal discussed the joy of practicing together and discovering the complexities of human nature. 10% Happier is produced by a team of dedicated individuals, and listeners can access the podcast early and ad-free by joining Wondery Plus or through Amazon Music with a Prime membership. Additionally, listeners are encouraged to share their own experiences by filling out a survey on Wondery.com. Sponsors Delta Amex and Bakers also shared messages about their respective offers and savings for travelers and shoppers.

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    For tickets to TPH's live event in Boston on September 7:

    https://thewilbur.com/armory/artist/dan-harris/


    Full Shownotes:

    https://www.tenpercent.com/tph/podcast-episode/lindsay-c-gibson-617

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    Your Chance for a Do-Over| Bonus Meditation with Oren Jay Sofer

    Your Chance for a Do-Over| Bonus Meditation with Oren Jay Sofer

    In this practice you'll connect with your values and set an intention for how you want to show up today.


    About Oren Jay Sofer:


    Oren has practiced meditation in the early Buddhist tradition since 1997, beginning his studies in Bodh Gaya, India with Anagarika Munindra and Godwin Samararatne. He is a long-time student of Joseph Goldstein, Michele McDonald, and Ajahn Sucitto, and a graduate of the IMS - Spirit Rock Vipassana Teacher Training, and current member of the Spirit Rock Teachers Council.

    Oren is the author of Say What You Mean: A Mindful Approach to Nonviolent Communication, a practical guidebook for having more effective, satisfying conversations. 


    To find this meditation in the Ten Percent Happier app, you can search for “A Fresh Start,” or click here:

    "https://10percenthappier.app.link/content?meditation=b4a40731-798e-4f9e-87ac-e889dd0298e2"

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    Keeping Things in Perspective | Bonus Meditation with La Sarmiento

    Keeping Things in Perspective | Bonus Meditation with La Sarmiento

    Our busy lives rarely afford us time to reflect on what’s truly important. Remembering what matters most empowers us to engage meaningfully.


    About La Sarmiento:


    La Sarmiento is the the guiding teacher of the Insight Meditation Community of Washington's BIPOC and LGBTQIA+ Sanghas and a mentor for the Mindfulness Meditation Teacher Certification Program and for Cloud Sangha. They graduated from Spirit Rock Meditation Center's Community Dharma Leader Training Program in 2012. As an immigrant, non-binary, Filipinx-American, La is committed to expanding access to the Dharma. They live in Towson, MD with their life partner Wendy and rescue pups Annabel and Bader.


    To find this meditation in the Ten Percent Happier app, you can search for “Finding Purpose: What Matters Most?” 



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    Meditation Party: The “Sh*t Is Fertilizer” Edition | Sebene Selassie & Jeff Warren

    Meditation Party: The “Sh*t Is Fertilizer” Edition | Sebene Selassie & Jeff Warren

    Today’s episode is the first in an experimental new series called Meditation Party. 


    Dan takes listener calls with fellow meditators Sebene Selassie and Jeff Warren and get candid about their practices and dealing with life


    Sebene Selassie is based in Brooklyn and describes herself as a “writer, teacher, and immigrant-weirdo.” She teaches meditation on the Ten Percent Happier app and is the author of a great book called, You Belong. Jeff Warren is based in Toronto and is also a writer and meditation teacher who co-wrote the book, Meditation for Fidgety Skeptics with Dan Harris. Jeff also hosts the Consciousness Explorers podcast.


    Call (508) 656-0540 to have your question answered during the Meditation Party!



    Full Shownotes: https://www.tenpercent.com/podcast-episode/sebene-selassie-jef-warren-553

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    Jerks at Work | Amy Gallo

    Jerks at Work | Amy Gallo

    This is the third installment in our Work Life series. In other episodes, we cover topics like imposter syndrome, whether mindfulness really works at work, and whether you should actually bring your whole self to the office.


    Today's episode is one that many of us struggle with: interpersonal conflict at work. Our guest is a true ninja on this topic. Amy Gallo is a workplace expert who writes and speaks about interpersonal dynamics, difficult conversations, feedback, gender, and effective communication.


    Gallo is a contributing editor at Harvard Business Review and the author of a new book, Getting Along, How to Work with Anyone, Even Difficult People. She's also written the The Harvard Business Review Guide to Dealing With Conflict, and she cohosts the Women at Work podcast.

      


    In this episode we talk about:


    • Why quality interactions at work are so important for our professional success and personal mental health
    • Why Gallo believes one size doesn’t fit all when it comes to dealing with difficult people in the workplace 
    • Why avoidance isn’t usually an option 
    • What the research tells us about work friendships
    • Why we have a tendency to dehumanize people who have more power than us
    • Why passive aggressive people can be the most difficult to deal with
    • The provocative question of whether we are part of the problem when work conflict crops up
    • And, a taxonomy of the eight different flavors of difficult coworkers, including the pessimist, the victim, the know-it-all, and the insecure boss — with tactics for managing each. 




    Full Shownotes: https://www.tenpercent.com/podcast-episode/amy-gallo-576

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