Logo
    Search

    Podcast Summary

    • Exploring the Three Proliferating Tendencies and Non-Self in Buddhist TeachingsMeditation can lead to a lighter and less self-centered perspective, and understanding the framework for our tendencies and non-self can help reduce suffering and achieve liberation.

      Joseph Goldstein discusses the three proliferating tendencies or prop punches that contribute to an unhealthy sense of self. Through meditation, Joseph explains that going deeper into the practice can help lighten up and become less self-centered. He emphasizes the importance of understanding the framework for these tendencies and their role in manufacturing our own suffering. Joseph also delves into the concept of non-self and its significance in Buddhist teachings. Additionally, he explains the two levels of truth - conventional and ultimate - and how language and conditioning impact our experience. Overall, this conversation highlights the practical guidance provided by the three proliferating tendencies in achieving liberation and reducing suffering.

    • Understanding the Mind's Proliferating TendenciesBy being aware of and letting go of our craving, possessiveness, and the belief in a separate self, we can reduce suffering and move towards freedom and liberation.

      There are three proliferating tendencies of the mind: craving, taking things to belong to oneself, and the view of self. These tendencies contribute to how we suffer as humans and create complexity in our lives. It is important to become aware of these tendencies, distinguish between them, and learn how to free ourselves from them or relate to them with wisdom. The Buddha's teaching of seeing everything with perfect wisdom - that it is not mine, not I, not myself - provides a framework for understanding these tendencies. By recognizing and curbing our imperialistic tendencies and the sense of ownership, we can alleviate suffering and find a path towards liberation.

    • Letting go of ownership and conceit for freedom from suffering.Embracing the impermanence of our bodies and recognizing our interconnectedness can lead to liberation from the suffering caused by attachments and comparisons.

      Our attachment to the concept of ownership and the belief that things belong to us can lead to suffering. When we claim something as "mine," such as our body or our leg, we create cravings and desires for it to be a certain way. But this attachment is delusion and prevents us from accepting the inevitable changes and impermanence of our bodies and the world around us. By seeing our body as just an aspect of nature, subject to the laws of impermanence, we can find ease and harmony with nature. The belief in ownership also fuels conceit, which is the deeply felt sense of "I am." This conceit manifests in comparing ourselves to others, whether it's feeling superior, inferior, or equal. By letting go of this conceit and recognizing the under-the-radar moments when it arises, we can find freedom from suffering.

    • Breaking free from suffering and finding peace in the present momentOur suffering is caused by comparing ourselves to others and clinging to a fixed identity. By recognizing the illusion of a separate self and focusing on the six basic building blocks of our experience, we can find peace and happiness in the present moment.

      Our suffering often stems from our tendency to compare ourselves to others and cling to a fixed sense of self. Dan Harris and the Buddhist speaker discuss how these habits of conceit and identification with the past and future lead to contraction and dissatisfaction. They emphasize that our experience of the world is actually made up of only six basic building blocks: sight, sound, smell, taste, touch, and thoughts. The complexity and suffering in our lives come from our mental response and attachment to these simple elements. By recognizing the illusion of a separate and substantial self, we can free ourselves from unnecessary suffering and find peace and happiness in the present moment.

    • The Ever-Changing Flow of Self: Understanding Non-Self and Finding FreedomLetting go of a fixed and separate self leads to freedom and greater happiness, as we recognize the impermanence and interconnectedness of all things.

      The concept of self is not a fixed or independent entity, but rather a designation for the ever-changing flow of mind and body elements. Just like a river, the self is not a separate thing, but rather a word used to describe the phenomenon of constant change and flow. Understanding this idea of non-self does not mean that we cease to exist or disappear, but rather that we recognize the impermanence and interconnectedness of all things. The "I am" or the sense of self can be compared to an eddy in the river, a temporary disruption in the natural flow of experience caused by mental fabrications. By letting go of attachments to a fixed and separate self, we can find freedom and greater happiness.

    • Navigating Life Skillfully: Embracing Impermanence and Cultivating Peace through Buddhist TeachingsUnderstanding the impact of our actions and living in harmony with impermanence allows us to choose actions that bring about peace and happiness, transcending our sense of self.

      Understanding the concept of impermanence and living in harmony with it is crucial for navigating life skillfully. The Buddhist teachings provide ways to live in the constant flow of change while bringing about peace and harmony. It is important to recognize that all our actions have consequences and are not isolated events. By understanding the impact of our actions, we can choose to engage in actions that bring about peace and happiness, rather than suffering. The sense of self or "I" is not necessary to comprehend the cause and effect relationship of actions. By paying attention to the causes behind different results, we can plant seeds for greater peace and happiness. The terms "relative level" and "ultimate level" are helpful for understanding the concept of not self and our fluid nature as individuals.

    • The Power of Language and the Trap of Self-JudgmentBy recognizing the role of language in shaping our perception and understanding the concept of "conceit," we can free ourselves from unnecessary suffering and self-judgment, leading to more clarity and compassion in our daily lives.

      Language plays a significant role in shaping our perception of reality. While it is necessary to use conventional language for effective communication, we often get caught up in it and mistake it for the ultimate truth. This can lead to unnecessary suffering and self-judgment. Understanding the concept of "conceit" and recognizing when we are getting trapped in the story of "I am" can free our minds from this suffering. By letting go of the self-story and realizing that it is just a manifestation of conceit, we can bring ourselves back to the present moment and release the negative emotions associated with self-judgment. This understanding has practical applications in our daily lives, allowing us to navigate challenges with more clarity and compassion.

    • Reverse Engineering Insight: Using Language to Understand the Creation of SufferingBy understanding how our mind works and using language as a tool, we can edit out the genes that create suffering and align ourselves with the present moment, ultimately finding freedom and experiencing new insights naturally.

      Understanding how suffering is created in our lives allows us to find freedom on a precise level by understanding how our mind works. The conversation explores the idea of using language, specifically the passive voice, as a tool for reverse engineering insight into our thoughts and experiences. This linguistic framework enables us to edit out the genes that create suffering and align ourselves with the actual state of affairs. By using the passive voice, we remove the sense of self and efforting from our meditative experiences, allowing us to settle back and let new experiences arise naturally. This simple practice of spending a short period of time in sitting or walking can give us an immediate sense of this concept.

    • The Power of Mindfulness: Observing and Recognizing Each Moment UnfoldBy practicing mindfulness, we can effortlessly observe and recognize the impermanent nature of things as they appear and disappear, without judgment or discouragement, leading to clarity and enlightenment.

      Practicing mindfulness can help us effortlessly observe and recognize each moment as it unfolds. By simply paying attention to what is being known moment after moment, without trying to control or direct it, we can experience the impermanent nature of things as they appear and disappear. Using the passive voice and asking the question "what is being known" can reduce the struggle and over efforting often associated with meditation. It allows us to observe our thoughts, emotions, and patterns of mind without judgment or discouragement. In fact, as we gain clarity and mindfulness, we become delighted to see these manifestations because we can catch them and not be seduced by them. The very act of seeing them enlightens us and helps us become lighter.

    • Challenging the Illusion of Concepts in Communication and Understanding RealityRecognizing that language and concepts are not absolute truths can help us deepen our understanding of reality and transcend our limitations.

      Language and concepts are useful but should not be mistaken for reality. The use of "I" and self-designations is convenient for communication, but it's important to recognize that they are merely conventional and don't represent a substantial reality. People often get caught up in the world of concepts and fail to understand the true building blocks of experience. Just like scientists who investigate the nature of physical objects, we should be open to exploring the underlying meaning of our designations. By letting go of attachment to concepts, we can discover new dimensions of reality and transcend the limits ingrained in our DNA. Developing this awareness is a key practice in Buddhism.

    • The Power of Language in Shaping Perception and ExperienceBy consciously connecting simple designations to our physical sensations, we can see that our experiences are not personal possessions, leading to a deeper understanding of impermanence and interconnectedness.

      Language plays a powerful role in shaping our perception and experience of reality. By using simple designations for physical elements like earth, air, fire, and water, the Buddha provided a practical framework for understanding our physical sensations. When we consciously connect these words to our experiences, we can start to see that these elements don't belong to us individually. For example, by labeling our movements as the air element or our contact with the ground as the earth element, we realize that these experiences are not personal possessions or attributes of our identities. This shift in language can help us let go of the attachment to a sense of self, leading to a deeper understanding of impermanence and interconnectedness.

    • Letting go of ego and experiencing the world in a profound way through a shift in language and perspective.By shifting our perspective and understanding that everything we encounter is not ours, we can eliminate pride and attachment, and experience liberation from conventional and conceptual worlds.

      By changing our language and perspective, we can let go of our ego and experience the world in a more profound way. By understanding that everything we encounter is not "mine", "I", or "myself", we can eliminate pride and attachment to physical forms or concepts. The practice of focusing on the disappearing aspect of things helps us see the impermanence of all experiences and liberates us from being solely captivated by new arising objects. Even if we only have brief moments of this understanding, it is powerful and plants the seeds for a deeper understanding and liberation from conventional and conceptual worlds.

    • Embracing Impermanence for a Liberating ExperienceLetting go of attachment and embracing the present moment by understanding the constant nature of change leads to freedom and an open heart in meditation practice.

      Cultivating awareness of the impermanence of things can lead to a liberating and free-flowing experience. By bringing our minds to the point of realizing that everything is constantly disappearing, we let go of attachment and grasping. This allows us to embrace the present moment without getting caught up in reactions or attachments. As we deepen our meditation practice, we shift our focus from the content of what arises to the process of change itself. This perception of constant arising and passing becomes refined, resulting in a sense of exhilaration. By understanding and accepting the transient nature of things, we can experience a greater sense of freedom and an open heart.

    • The Journey of Meditation: From Exhilaration to Peace and EquanimityMeditation teaches us that there is no security in holding onto anything, allowing us to find deep peace and happiness in the constantly changing world.

      In meditation, one experiences a process similar to a free fall. At first, there is exhilaration as things arise and pass quickly. However, as the mind focuses on the disappearing nature of everything, fear arises and there is a sense of insecurity. This challenging period eventually leads to the realization that there is no ground or security in holding onto anything. This understanding of selflessness allows for a deep sense of peace and equanimity. Just as falling into a state of relaxation and enjoyment in a free fall, meditation leads to a profound happiness and non-clinging to the constantly changing world. Through simple exercises like observing the disappearing edge of things, one can experience the liberating aspect of this change.

    Recent Episodes from Ten Percent Happier with Dan Harris

    Mindfulness Without All The Effort | Loch Kelly (Co-Interviewed By Matt Harris)

    Mindfulness Without All The Effort | Loch Kelly (Co-Interviewed By Matt Harris)

    Loch Kelly is an author, psychotherapist, and nondual meditation teacher. Loch has Master’s Degrees from both Columbia University and Union Theological Seminary. He has his own app, called Mindful Glimpses. Loch is also a very popular teacher on the Waking Up app, run by friend of show, Sam Harris.


    Free 30 days of the Waking Up meditation app: https://www.wakingup.com/tenpercent 


    Free training and guided meditation pack from Loch Kelly: https://lochkelly.org/cycle-of-dissatisfaction 


    Related Episodes:

    Sam Harris on: Vipassana vs. Dzogchen, Looking for the Looker, and Psychic Powers


    Sign up for Dan’s weekly newsletter here

    Follow Dan on social: Instagram, TikTok

    Ten Percent Happier online bookstore

    Subscribe to our YouTube Channel

    Our favorite playlists on: Anxiety, Sleep, Relationships, Most Popular Episodes


    Full Shownotes: https://wwwdww.tenpercent.com/tph/podcast-episode/loch-kelly

    See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

    The Science Of Memory: How To Get Better At Remembering And Be Okay With Forgetting | Charan Ranganath

    The Science Of Memory: How To Get Better At Remembering And Be Okay With Forgetting | Charan Ranganath

    A neuroscientist’s strategies to help you remember what really matters, and how mood, multitasking and other people can impact our memories

    Charan Ranganath is a professor at the Center for Neuroscience and Department of Psychology and director of the Dynamic Memory Lab at the University of California at Davis.  He is the author of the New York Times bestselling book Why We Remember: Unlocking Memory’s Power to Hold on to What Matters. 

    In this episode we talk about:

    • The different kinds of memory that help us function day to day
    • The impact mood has on memories - not just making them, but recalling them
    • Why forgetting is not only useful but essential - even if it doesn’t always feel like it
    • Practical tips to help us remember better, including distinctiveness, meaning & organization, planting cues, and chunking
    • Why making errors is actually one of the best things you can do for learning and memory 


    Related Episodes:

    How To Prevent Dementia | Lisa Genova — Ten Percent Happier

    How to Actually Be Present | Matthew Brensilver — Ten Percent Happier  

    Sign up for Dan’s weekly newsletter here

    Follow Dan on social: Instagram, TikTok

    Ten Percent Happier online bookstore

    Subscribe to our YouTube Channel

    Our favorite playlists on: Anxiety, Sleep, Relationships, Most Popular Episodes


    Full Shownotes: https://www.tenpercent.com/tph/charan-ranganath/


    See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

    Just Because You Think It, Doesn’t Make It True | Bonus Meditation with Leslie Booker

    Just Because You Think It, Doesn’t Make It True | Bonus Meditation with Leslie Booker

    Strengthen your ability to know the difference between fact and fiction by using sound to harness a foundational anxiety-taming skill.


    About Leslie Booker:


    Booker brings her heart and wisdom to the intersection of Dharma, Embodied Wisdom, and Liberation. Using this framework, she supports folks in creating a culture of belonging through her teaching and writing on changing the paradigm of self and community care. She shares her offering widely as a university lecturer, public speaker, and Buddhist philosophy and meditation teacher. She currently lives in Philadelphia with her partner and pup and is the Co-Guiding Teacher of New York Insight.


    To find this meditation in the Ten Percent Happier app, you can search for “Return to Reality.”



    See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

    The Science Of Crying: Evolutionary Roots, Benefits, And Why So Many Of Us Are Uncomfortable With It | Benjamin Perry (Co-hosted By Dr. Bianca Harris)

    The Science Of Crying: Evolutionary Roots, Benefits, And Why So Many Of Us Are Uncomfortable With It | Benjamin Perry (Co-hosted By Dr. Bianca Harris)

    Reverend Benjamin Perry, is the author of Cry, Baby: Why Our Tears Matter. He’s the editorial director at Garrett Seminary, Consulting Minister for Public Theology at Middle Church, and editor of the Queer Faith photojournalism series. He has a masters in divinity from Union Theological Seminary. 


    In this episode we talk about:

    • Why Doty got interested in this subject, and the rather extraordinary exercise he put himself through
    • The gender differences on this issue
    • How vulnerability can be misused or weaponized
    • The issue of interpersonal relationships when it comes to tears (Bianca and Dan delve into this in regards to their relationship)
    • How we replay childhood patterns in grownup relationships
    • The deep connection between crying and shame
    • The messages we share with our children about crying
    • How we can reconnect to the emotional parts of ourselves


    Related Episodes:


    Sign up for Dan’s weekly newsletter here

    Follow Dan on social: Instagram, TikTok

    Ten Percent Happier online bookstore

    Subscribe to our YouTube Channel

    Our favorite playlists on: Anxiety, Sleep, Relationships, Most Popular Episodes


    Full Shownotes: https://www.tenpercent.com/tph/podcast-episode/benjamin-perry


    See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

    Why You Always Want More, And How To Fix It | Michael Easter

    Why You Always Want More, And How To Fix It | Michael Easter

    Learning how to thrive with enough.

    Michael Easter is the New York Times bestselling author of Scarcity Brain and The Comfort Crisis. He travels the world to uncover practical ideas that help people live healthier, happier, and more remarkable lives. His ideas have been adopted by institutions ranging from the military to professional sports teams to Fortune 500 companies. He also shares his ideas on his popular newsletter, 2% with Michael Easter

    In this episode we talk about:

    • The evolutionary roots of overconsumption
    • The challenges of having an ancient brains in a modern world
    • The Scarcity mindset vs. the abundance mindset
    • Understanding what Michael calls the “scarcity loop” – and how to apply it to daily life
    • Tactical ways to work with habits and cravings 
    • Understanding the scarcity loop, how it hooks us, and then how you can unhook using that same loop
    • And How’s Michael’s life changed after researching this book
    • Toward the end, we talk about Michael’s previous book, the comfort crisis—and some Practical steps for embracing discomfort


    Related Episodes:


    Sign up for Dan’s weekly newsletter here

    Follow Dan on social: Instagram, TikTok

    Ten Percent Happier online bookstore

    Subscribe to our YouTube Channel

    Our favorite playlists on: Anxiety, Sleep, Relationships, Most Popular Episodes


    Full Shownotes: https://www.tenpercent.com/tph/podcast-episode/michael-easter

    See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

    Arrival | Bonus Meditation with Kaira Jewel Lingo

    Arrival | Bonus Meditation with Kaira Jewel Lingo

    Learn to connect with the true home of strength, wisdom, and clarity inside of yourself, a place of safety that no one can take away.


    About Kaira Jewel Lingo:


    At the age of twenty-five, Kaira Jewel Lingo entered a Buddhist monastery in the Plum Village tradition and spent fifteen years living as a nun under the guidance of Zen Master Thich Nhat Hanh. Now based in New York, she sees her work as a continuation of Engaged Buddhism as well as the work of her parents, inspired by their stories and her dad’s work with Martin Luther King Jr. on desegregating the South. The author of We Were Made for These Times: Ten Lessons on Moving through Change, Loss and Disruption, Kaira Jewel especially feels called to share mindfulness and meditation with Black, Indigenous, and People of Color, as well as activists, educators, youth, artists, and families.


    To find this meditation in the Ten Percent Happier app, you can search for “Deeply Accepting Yourself.”



    See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

    The Things Nobody’s Talking To Jada Pinkett Smith About

    The Things Nobody’s Talking To Jada Pinkett Smith About

    On hitting Rock Bottom, de-armoring, and worthiness.

    Jada Pinkett Smith is a multifaceted artist whose career spans over 30 years. Raised in Baltimore, she studied dance and theater at the Baltimore School for the Arts before moving to Los Angeles to pursue acting. Her breakthrough came in with the NBC series A Different World, followed by her first feature film, Menace II Society. From there, Pinkett Smith became a global star, appearing in numerous films like The Nutty Professor, Set It Off, The Matrix franchise and the comedic hit Girls Trip.

    In addition to her acting work, Pinkett Smith has also executive produced projects such as Karate Kid, Free Angela and All Political Prisoners, The Queen Latifah Show, Red Table Talk, Red Table Talk: The Estefans, as well as Queen Cleopatra and Queen Njinga for Netflix. She expanded her skills further as the host of the Emmy award-winning talk show, Red Table Talk, where she engages in multigenerational discussions about social and cultural issues with her daughter, Willow Smith, and mother, Adrienne Banfield-Norris. She is now heading out on a worldwide book tour to promote her memoir, Worthy (a NYT Bestseller).

    Related Episodes:

    Non-Negotiables Playlist

    Sign up for Dan’s weekly newsletter here

    Follow Dan on social: Instagram, TikTok

    Ten Percent Happier online bookstore

    Subscribe to our YouTube Channel

    Our favorite playlists on: Anxiety, Sleep, Relationships, Most Popular Episodes


    Full Shownotes: https://www.tenpercent.com/tph/podcast-episode/jada

    See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

    RuPaul On: Surviving Your Family, Overcoming Addiction, And How To Have Fun (Including “Dirty Charades”)

    RuPaul On: Surviving Your Family, Overcoming Addiction, And How To Have Fun (Including “Dirty Charades”)

    The Queen of Drag discusses his new memoir, The House of Hidden Meanings, and makes Dan play an R-rated game.


    RuPaul Charles became famous in 1993 with the song “Supermodel.” Since then, he’s put out 18 albums, he’s been in more than 50 films and TV shows, including his global hit, “RuPaul’s Drag Race.” He’s put out four books, including his latest, the number one New York Times best seller The House of Hidden Meanings. He’s won fourteen Primetime Emmy Awards, and he won a Tony in 2022 for producing the Broadway show A Strange Loop. 



    In this episode we talk about:

    • His daily spiritual practices
    • Talking to his inner child
    • The challenging family he grew up in
    • His incredible business idea for a daytime disco for the over-40 set
    • His definition of wealth, and why he says he’s always been rich, even when he had no money
    • And he ropes Dan into a game of Dirty Charades – which gets a little spicy, so heads-up if you’re listening with kids around or have sensitive ears


    Other resources mentioned: 


    Related Episodes:

    A Star, Utterly Unguarded | Brett Eldredge

    How to Deal With Emotionally Immature People (Including Maybe Your Own Parents) | Lindsay C. Gibson

    There’s No Part Of Your Life You Can’t Make More Awesome | Jeff Warren


    Sign up for Dan’s weekly newsletter here

    Follow Dan on social: Instagram, TikTok

    Ten Percent Happier online bookstore

    Subscribe to our YouTube Channel

    Our favorite playlists on: Anxiety, Sleep, Relationships, Most Popular Episodes


    Full Shownotes: https://www.tenpercent.com/tph/podcast-episode/rupaul-2024


    See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

    Abby Wambach On: Grief, Addiction, And Moving From External To Internal Validation

    Abby Wambach On: Grief, Addiction, And Moving From External To Internal Validation

    Plus her definition of the oft-dismissed yet game-changing notion of self-love.

    We caught up with Abby Wambach at a really interesting time. She’s experiencing grief, for reasons we’ll let her explain. And for the first time in her life, she’s grieving while sober—which, in itself, is an interesting story, which she will also tell.

    As you know, we only talk to famous people on this show if they’re willing to really go deep. And it’s why we call this recurring series Boldface. And Abby is bolder than most.

    We also talk about: moving from external to internal validation, her definition of self-love (a concept in which Dan have a lot of interest, because it’s both cheesy and life-changing), the one question that changed her life, how every experience can turn into something positive, and on a related note, why getting arrested for drunk driving was one of the best things that ever happened to her.

    Abby Wambach is a two-time Olympic gold medalist, FIFA World Cup Champion, and six-time winner of the U.S. Soccer Athlete of the Year award. She is the author of the #1 New York Times bestseller Wolfpack. And, together with her wife Glennon Doyle and sister Amanda Doyle, co-hosts the award-winning, critically acclaimed We Can Do Hard Things podcast. 

    Related Episodes:


    Sign up for Dan’s weekly newsletter here

    Follow Dan on social: Instagram, TikTok

    Ten Percent Happier online bookstore

    Subscribe to our YouTube Channel

    Our favorite playlists on: Anxiety, Sleep, Relationships, Most Popular Episodes


    Full Shownotes: https://www.tenpercent.com/tph/podcast-episode/abby-wambach

    See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

    Small Wins | Bonus Meditation with Matthew Hepburn

    Small Wins | Bonus Meditation with Matthew Hepburn

    When the world feels like a dumpster fire, it helps to remember that your contributions to improve things matter—even the small ones.


    About Matthew Hepburn:


    Matthew is a meditation and dharma teacher with more than a decade of teaching experience and a passion for getting real about what it means to live well. He emphasizes humor, technique, and authentic kindness as a means to free the mind up from unnecessary struggle and leave a healthier impact on the world. Beyond Ten Percent Happier, Matthew has taught in prisons, schools, corporate events and continues to teach across North America in Buddhist centers offering intensive silent retreats and dharma for urban daily life. 


    To find this meditation in the Ten Percent Happier app, you can search for “Celebrate Small Wins.”



    See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

    Related Episodes

    Joseph Goldstein On: How Not To Try Too Hard in Meditation, Why You Shouldn't "Waste Your Suffering," and the Value Of Seeing How Ridiculous You Are

    Joseph Goldstein On: How Not To Try Too Hard in Meditation, Why You Shouldn't "Waste Your Suffering," and the Value Of Seeing How Ridiculous You Are

    It's always a big deal when we get the maestro Joseph Goldstein on the show. He's one of the greatest living meditation teachers—and we cover a lot of ground in this conversation both related to meditation and to life.

    This is the third installment in a series we've been running this month on the Eightfold Path. If you missed the first two episodes, don't worry. Joseph starts our conversation with a brief description and explanation of this pivotal Buddhist list. The list is basically a recipe for living a good life.


    In this episode we talk about:  

    • How to strike a balance between trying too hard and trying too little in meditation
    • How to handle your doubts about whether you're meditating correctly
    • What the Buddhists really mean when they say “let it go” 
    • What Joseph means when he says, don't waste your suffering
    • Why he uses the word ridiculous so much to describe the way our minds work
    • How the eightfold path encompasses both daily life and formal meditation
    • The simplest possible definition of mindfulness
    • How mindfulness can prevent unwholesome or unhealthy states of mind from arising 
    • What to do when unwholesome states have already arisen
    • Being mindful of seeing, which is an often overlooked
    • A simple explanation of the tricky Buddhist concept of not self 
    • The Buddhist concept of wisdom 
    • And the importance of having a sense of humor about your own mind 


    A note that we initially conducted this conversation live via Zoom as part of a benefit in support of an organization called the New York Insight Meditation Center, which is an offshoot of IMS.


    Full Shownotes: https://www.tenpercent.com/podcast-episode/joseph-goldstein-598


    See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

    Your Chance for a Do-Over| Bonus Meditation with Oren Jay Sofer

    Your Chance for a Do-Over| Bonus Meditation with Oren Jay Sofer

    In this practice you'll connect with your values and set an intention for how you want to show up today.


    About Oren Jay Sofer:


    Oren has practiced meditation in the early Buddhist tradition since 1997, beginning his studies in Bodh Gaya, India with Anagarika Munindra and Godwin Samararatne. He is a long-time student of Joseph Goldstein, Michele McDonald, and Ajahn Sucitto, and a graduate of the IMS - Spirit Rock Vipassana Teacher Training, and current member of the Spirit Rock Teachers Council.

    Oren is the author of Say What You Mean: A Mindful Approach to Nonviolent Communication, a practical guidebook for having more effective, satisfying conversations. 


    To find this meditation in the Ten Percent Happier app, you can search for “A Fresh Start,” or click here:

    "https://10percenthappier.app.link/content?meditation=b4a40731-798e-4f9e-87ac-e889dd0298e2"

    See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

    Keeping Things in Perspective | Bonus Meditation with La Sarmiento

    Keeping Things in Perspective | Bonus Meditation with La Sarmiento

    Our busy lives rarely afford us time to reflect on what’s truly important. Remembering what matters most empowers us to engage meaningfully.


    About La Sarmiento:


    La Sarmiento is the the guiding teacher of the Insight Meditation Community of Washington's BIPOC and LGBTQIA+ Sanghas and a mentor for the Mindfulness Meditation Teacher Certification Program and for Cloud Sangha. They graduated from Spirit Rock Meditation Center's Community Dharma Leader Training Program in 2012. As an immigrant, non-binary, Filipinx-American, La is committed to expanding access to the Dharma. They live in Towson, MD with their life partner Wendy and rescue pups Annabel and Bader.


    To find this meditation in the Ten Percent Happier app, you can search for “Finding Purpose: What Matters Most?” 



    See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

    Meditation Party: The “Sh*t Is Fertilizer” Edition | Sebene Selassie & Jeff Warren

    Meditation Party: The “Sh*t Is Fertilizer” Edition | Sebene Selassie & Jeff Warren

    Today’s episode is the first in an experimental new series called Meditation Party. 


    Dan takes listener calls with fellow meditators Sebene Selassie and Jeff Warren and get candid about their practices and dealing with life


    Sebene Selassie is based in Brooklyn and describes herself as a “writer, teacher, and immigrant-weirdo.” She teaches meditation on the Ten Percent Happier app and is the author of a great book called, You Belong. Jeff Warren is based in Toronto and is also a writer and meditation teacher who co-wrote the book, Meditation for Fidgety Skeptics with Dan Harris. Jeff also hosts the Consciousness Explorers podcast.


    Call (508) 656-0540 to have your question answered during the Meditation Party!



    Full Shownotes: https://www.tenpercent.com/podcast-episode/sebene-selassie-jef-warren-553

    See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

    How to Disentangle from Toxic People | Lindsay C. Gibson

    How to Disentangle from Toxic People | Lindsay C. Gibson

    Our relationships are the most important variable in our health and happiness, but they may also be the most difficult. This is especially true when those closest to us turn out to be emotionally immature people.


    Lindsay C. Gibson is a clinical psychologist and bestselling author who specializes in helping people identify and deal with emotionally immature people, or EIP’s. Her first appearance on our show was one of our most popular episodes of 2022. Now she’s back to offer concrete strategies for handling the EIP’s in your life, wherever you may find them. Her new book is called Disentangling from Emotionally Immature People.


    In this episode we talk about:

    • A primer on the cardinal characteristics of emotionally immature people (EIP’s), how to spot them, and why you might want to
    • What Lindsay means by “disentangling” from EIP’s, and how to do it
    • What often happens to your own sense of self when you’re in relationship (or even just in conversation) with an EIP 
    • How to interact with an EIP 
    • How to prevent brain scramble when you’re talking with someone who isn’t making any attempt to understand what you’re saying  
    • How she reacts when she comes across EIP’s in her everyday life
    • Whether it’s possible to have some immature characteristics without being an EIP
    • Handling your own emotionally immature tendencies  
    • Whether or not EIP’s can change
    • The limits of estrangement
    • Why she encourages “alternatives to forgiveness”


    For tickets to TPH's live event in Boston on September 7:

    https://thewilbur.com/armory/artist/dan-harris/


    Full Shownotes:

    https://www.tenpercent.com/tph/podcast-episode/lindsay-c-gibson-617

    See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.