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    • Exploring the Three Proliferating Tendencies and Non-Self in Buddhist TeachingsMeditation can lead to a lighter and less self-centered perspective, and understanding the framework for our tendencies and non-self can help reduce suffering and achieve liberation.

      Joseph Goldstein discusses the three proliferating tendencies or prop punches that contribute to an unhealthy sense of self. Through meditation, Joseph explains that going deeper into the practice can help lighten up and become less self-centered. He emphasizes the importance of understanding the framework for these tendencies and their role in manufacturing our own suffering. Joseph also delves into the concept of non-self and its significance in Buddhist teachings. Additionally, he explains the two levels of truth - conventional and ultimate - and how language and conditioning impact our experience. Overall, this conversation highlights the practical guidance provided by the three proliferating tendencies in achieving liberation and reducing suffering.

    • Understanding the Mind's Proliferating TendenciesBy being aware of and letting go of our craving, possessiveness, and the belief in a separate self, we can reduce suffering and move towards freedom and liberation.

      There are three proliferating tendencies of the mind: craving, taking things to belong to oneself, and the view of self. These tendencies contribute to how we suffer as humans and create complexity in our lives. It is important to become aware of these tendencies, distinguish between them, and learn how to free ourselves from them or relate to them with wisdom. The Buddha's teaching of seeing everything with perfect wisdom - that it is not mine, not I, not myself - provides a framework for understanding these tendencies. By recognizing and curbing our imperialistic tendencies and the sense of ownership, we can alleviate suffering and find a path towards liberation.

    • Letting go of ownership and conceit for freedom from suffering.Embracing the impermanence of our bodies and recognizing our interconnectedness can lead to liberation from the suffering caused by attachments and comparisons.

      Our attachment to the concept of ownership and the belief that things belong to us can lead to suffering. When we claim something as "mine," such as our body or our leg, we create cravings and desires for it to be a certain way. But this attachment is delusion and prevents us from accepting the inevitable changes and impermanence of our bodies and the world around us. By seeing our body as just an aspect of nature, subject to the laws of impermanence, we can find ease and harmony with nature. The belief in ownership also fuels conceit, which is the deeply felt sense of "I am." This conceit manifests in comparing ourselves to others, whether it's feeling superior, inferior, or equal. By letting go of this conceit and recognizing the under-the-radar moments when it arises, we can find freedom from suffering.

    • Breaking free from suffering and finding peace in the present momentOur suffering is caused by comparing ourselves to others and clinging to a fixed identity. By recognizing the illusion of a separate self and focusing on the six basic building blocks of our experience, we can find peace and happiness in the present moment.

      Our suffering often stems from our tendency to compare ourselves to others and cling to a fixed sense of self. Dan Harris and the Buddhist speaker discuss how these habits of conceit and identification with the past and future lead to contraction and dissatisfaction. They emphasize that our experience of the world is actually made up of only six basic building blocks: sight, sound, smell, taste, touch, and thoughts. The complexity and suffering in our lives come from our mental response and attachment to these simple elements. By recognizing the illusion of a separate and substantial self, we can free ourselves from unnecessary suffering and find peace and happiness in the present moment.

    • The Ever-Changing Flow of Self: Understanding Non-Self and Finding FreedomLetting go of a fixed and separate self leads to freedom and greater happiness, as we recognize the impermanence and interconnectedness of all things.

      The concept of self is not a fixed or independent entity, but rather a designation for the ever-changing flow of mind and body elements. Just like a river, the self is not a separate thing, but rather a word used to describe the phenomenon of constant change and flow. Understanding this idea of non-self does not mean that we cease to exist or disappear, but rather that we recognize the impermanence and interconnectedness of all things. The "I am" or the sense of self can be compared to an eddy in the river, a temporary disruption in the natural flow of experience caused by mental fabrications. By letting go of attachments to a fixed and separate self, we can find freedom and greater happiness.

    • Navigating Life Skillfully: Embracing Impermanence and Cultivating Peace through Buddhist TeachingsUnderstanding the impact of our actions and living in harmony with impermanence allows us to choose actions that bring about peace and happiness, transcending our sense of self.

      Understanding the concept of impermanence and living in harmony with it is crucial for navigating life skillfully. The Buddhist teachings provide ways to live in the constant flow of change while bringing about peace and harmony. It is important to recognize that all our actions have consequences and are not isolated events. By understanding the impact of our actions, we can choose to engage in actions that bring about peace and happiness, rather than suffering. The sense of self or "I" is not necessary to comprehend the cause and effect relationship of actions. By paying attention to the causes behind different results, we can plant seeds for greater peace and happiness. The terms "relative level" and "ultimate level" are helpful for understanding the concept of not self and our fluid nature as individuals.

    • The Power of Language and the Trap of Self-JudgmentBy recognizing the role of language in shaping our perception and understanding the concept of "conceit," we can free ourselves from unnecessary suffering and self-judgment, leading to more clarity and compassion in our daily lives.

      Language plays a significant role in shaping our perception of reality. While it is necessary to use conventional language for effective communication, we often get caught up in it and mistake it for the ultimate truth. This can lead to unnecessary suffering and self-judgment. Understanding the concept of "conceit" and recognizing when we are getting trapped in the story of "I am" can free our minds from this suffering. By letting go of the self-story and realizing that it is just a manifestation of conceit, we can bring ourselves back to the present moment and release the negative emotions associated with self-judgment. This understanding has practical applications in our daily lives, allowing us to navigate challenges with more clarity and compassion.

    • Reverse Engineering Insight: Using Language to Understand the Creation of SufferingBy understanding how our mind works and using language as a tool, we can edit out the genes that create suffering and align ourselves with the present moment, ultimately finding freedom and experiencing new insights naturally.

      Understanding how suffering is created in our lives allows us to find freedom on a precise level by understanding how our mind works. The conversation explores the idea of using language, specifically the passive voice, as a tool for reverse engineering insight into our thoughts and experiences. This linguistic framework enables us to edit out the genes that create suffering and align ourselves with the actual state of affairs. By using the passive voice, we remove the sense of self and efforting from our meditative experiences, allowing us to settle back and let new experiences arise naturally. This simple practice of spending a short period of time in sitting or walking can give us an immediate sense of this concept.

    • The Power of Mindfulness: Observing and Recognizing Each Moment UnfoldBy practicing mindfulness, we can effortlessly observe and recognize the impermanent nature of things as they appear and disappear, without judgment or discouragement, leading to clarity and enlightenment.

      Practicing mindfulness can help us effortlessly observe and recognize each moment as it unfolds. By simply paying attention to what is being known moment after moment, without trying to control or direct it, we can experience the impermanent nature of things as they appear and disappear. Using the passive voice and asking the question "what is being known" can reduce the struggle and over efforting often associated with meditation. It allows us to observe our thoughts, emotions, and patterns of mind without judgment or discouragement. In fact, as we gain clarity and mindfulness, we become delighted to see these manifestations because we can catch them and not be seduced by them. The very act of seeing them enlightens us and helps us become lighter.

    • Challenging the Illusion of Concepts in Communication and Understanding RealityRecognizing that language and concepts are not absolute truths can help us deepen our understanding of reality and transcend our limitations.

      Language and concepts are useful but should not be mistaken for reality. The use of "I" and self-designations is convenient for communication, but it's important to recognize that they are merely conventional and don't represent a substantial reality. People often get caught up in the world of concepts and fail to understand the true building blocks of experience. Just like scientists who investigate the nature of physical objects, we should be open to exploring the underlying meaning of our designations. By letting go of attachment to concepts, we can discover new dimensions of reality and transcend the limits ingrained in our DNA. Developing this awareness is a key practice in Buddhism.

    • The Power of Language in Shaping Perception and ExperienceBy consciously connecting simple designations to our physical sensations, we can see that our experiences are not personal possessions, leading to a deeper understanding of impermanence and interconnectedness.

      Language plays a powerful role in shaping our perception and experience of reality. By using simple designations for physical elements like earth, air, fire, and water, the Buddha provided a practical framework for understanding our physical sensations. When we consciously connect these words to our experiences, we can start to see that these elements don't belong to us individually. For example, by labeling our movements as the air element or our contact with the ground as the earth element, we realize that these experiences are not personal possessions or attributes of our identities. This shift in language can help us let go of the attachment to a sense of self, leading to a deeper understanding of impermanence and interconnectedness.

    • Letting go of ego and experiencing the world in a profound way through a shift in language and perspective.By shifting our perspective and understanding that everything we encounter is not ours, we can eliminate pride and attachment, and experience liberation from conventional and conceptual worlds.

      By changing our language and perspective, we can let go of our ego and experience the world in a more profound way. By understanding that everything we encounter is not "mine", "I", or "myself", we can eliminate pride and attachment to physical forms or concepts. The practice of focusing on the disappearing aspect of things helps us see the impermanence of all experiences and liberates us from being solely captivated by new arising objects. Even if we only have brief moments of this understanding, it is powerful and plants the seeds for a deeper understanding and liberation from conventional and conceptual worlds.

    • Embracing Impermanence for a Liberating ExperienceLetting go of attachment and embracing the present moment by understanding the constant nature of change leads to freedom and an open heart in meditation practice.

      Cultivating awareness of the impermanence of things can lead to a liberating and free-flowing experience. By bringing our minds to the point of realizing that everything is constantly disappearing, we let go of attachment and grasping. This allows us to embrace the present moment without getting caught up in reactions or attachments. As we deepen our meditation practice, we shift our focus from the content of what arises to the process of change itself. This perception of constant arising and passing becomes refined, resulting in a sense of exhilaration. By understanding and accepting the transient nature of things, we can experience a greater sense of freedom and an open heart.

    • The Journey of Meditation: From Exhilaration to Peace and EquanimityMeditation teaches us that there is no security in holding onto anything, allowing us to find deep peace and happiness in the constantly changing world.

      In meditation, one experiences a process similar to a free fall. At first, there is exhilaration as things arise and pass quickly. However, as the mind focuses on the disappearing nature of everything, fear arises and there is a sense of insecurity. This challenging period eventually leads to the realization that there is no ground or security in holding onto anything. This understanding of selflessness allows for a deep sense of peace and equanimity. Just as falling into a state of relaxation and enjoyment in a free fall, meditation leads to a profound happiness and non-clinging to the constantly changing world. Through simple exercises like observing the disappearing edge of things, one can experience the liberating aspect of this change.

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    To find this meditation in the Ten Percent Happier app, you can search for “A Fresh Start,” or click here:

    "https://10percenthappier.app.link/content?meditation=b4a40731-798e-4f9e-87ac-e889dd0298e2"

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    Keeping Things in Perspective | Bonus Meditation with La Sarmiento

    Keeping Things in Perspective | Bonus Meditation with La Sarmiento

    Our busy lives rarely afford us time to reflect on what’s truly important. Remembering what matters most empowers us to engage meaningfully.


    About La Sarmiento:


    La Sarmiento is the the guiding teacher of the Insight Meditation Community of Washington's BIPOC and LGBTQIA+ Sanghas and a mentor for the Mindfulness Meditation Teacher Certification Program and for Cloud Sangha. They graduated from Spirit Rock Meditation Center's Community Dharma Leader Training Program in 2012. As an immigrant, non-binary, Filipinx-American, La is committed to expanding access to the Dharma. They live in Towson, MD with their life partner Wendy and rescue pups Annabel and Bader.


    To find this meditation in the Ten Percent Happier app, you can search for “Finding Purpose: What Matters Most?” 



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    Meditation Party: The “Sh*t Is Fertilizer” Edition | Sebene Selassie & Jeff Warren

    Meditation Party: The “Sh*t Is Fertilizer” Edition | Sebene Selassie & Jeff Warren

    Today’s episode is the first in an experimental new series called Meditation Party. 


    Dan takes listener calls with fellow meditators Sebene Selassie and Jeff Warren and get candid about their practices and dealing with life


    Sebene Selassie is based in Brooklyn and describes herself as a “writer, teacher, and immigrant-weirdo.” She teaches meditation on the Ten Percent Happier app and is the author of a great book called, You Belong. Jeff Warren is based in Toronto and is also a writer and meditation teacher who co-wrote the book, Meditation for Fidgety Skeptics with Dan Harris. Jeff also hosts the Consciousness Explorers podcast.


    Call (508) 656-0540 to have your question answered during the Meditation Party!



    Full Shownotes: https://www.tenpercent.com/podcast-episode/sebene-selassie-jef-warren-553

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    How to Disentangle from Toxic People | Lindsay C. Gibson

    How to Disentangle from Toxic People | Lindsay C. Gibson

    Our relationships are the most important variable in our health and happiness, but they may also be the most difficult. This is especially true when those closest to us turn out to be emotionally immature people.


    Lindsay C. Gibson is a clinical psychologist and bestselling author who specializes in helping people identify and deal with emotionally immature people, or EIP’s. Her first appearance on our show was one of our most popular episodes of 2022. Now she’s back to offer concrete strategies for handling the EIP’s in your life, wherever you may find them. Her new book is called Disentangling from Emotionally Immature People.


    In this episode we talk about:

    • A primer on the cardinal characteristics of emotionally immature people (EIP’s), how to spot them, and why you might want to
    • What Lindsay means by “disentangling” from EIP’s, and how to do it
    • What often happens to your own sense of self when you’re in relationship (or even just in conversation) with an EIP 
    • How to interact with an EIP 
    • How to prevent brain scramble when you’re talking with someone who isn’t making any attempt to understand what you’re saying  
    • How she reacts when she comes across EIP’s in her everyday life
    • Whether it’s possible to have some immature characteristics without being an EIP
    • Handling your own emotionally immature tendencies  
    • Whether or not EIP’s can change
    • The limits of estrangement
    • Why she encourages “alternatives to forgiveness”


    For tickets to TPH's live event in Boston on September 7:

    https://thewilbur.com/armory/artist/dan-harris/


    Full Shownotes:

    https://www.tenpercent.com/tph/podcast-episode/lindsay-c-gibson-617

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