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    94. Chronic illness and overcoming adversity ft. Bradley Dryburgh

    enMay 29, 2023

    About this Episode

    In 2020, Bradley found himself questioning death. He was 24 and lying in hospital bed with bleeding lungs caused by his condition, cystic fibrosis. Three years later, he has run multiple marathons, left behind his successful career as a realtor and is now running his podcast 'A Lot To Talk About', sharing his story. This week we break down his journey, including his philosophy towards overcoming the adversity we all face in our 20s, whatever that may be. We dive into the psychology of living with a chronic disease and how Bradley's entire perspective has changed since 2020. Listen to his inspiring story and interview now. 

    Bradley's podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/0F7u8INlXQ0KvtjwK6Zf12?si=3bfe175327f94848

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    ūüĒĎ Key Takeaways

    • Finding a supportive community and inspiring others can help individuals facing chronic illness or other challenges to thrive and achieve great things.
    • CF impacts multiple organs in the body, causing thick mucus and a variety of symptoms like lung infections, reduced lung capacity, and difficulty breathing. Supportive loved ones and a positive mindset can make a difference for those with CF.
    • Early support and positive beliefs form the foundation for resilience, which can help in facing challenging situations. What one believes about oneself can become a reality.
    • Creating a positive and capable environment can protect children from negative views on challenges, leading to a strong mindset and the ability to find purpose. Acknowledge negative impact, understand emotions, and move towards life goals.
    • By taking control of our lives and changing our mindset, we can find confidence, love, and fulfillment despite the challenges we face. Every day is a gift, and we must live our best life possible.
    • Difficult times can teach us valuable lessons and inspire us to become advocates and leaders. By learning from our experiences, we can positively grow and make a difference.
    • Focus on relationships and making a positive impact on others' lives. Life is short and it's important to pursue your passions and live your life to the fullest. Anything is possible with determination and the right mindset.
    • Elevate yourself from circumstances by taking ownership and building resilience. Set lofty goals and prove your capability through discipline and determination to achieve greatness.
    • By reconnecting with his passion for storytelling and prioritizing service, the speaker discovered true purpose and fulfillment. He grew as a person by embracing vulnerability and the power of listening to others' stories, ultimately realizing that service is a powerful driver of fulfillment and purpose.
    • Appreciate the gift of life and embrace your uniqueness. Use your position to live a fulfilling life, make a difference and find true passion through impacting others.
    • Embrace self-acceptance, focus on making a positive impact, prioritize authenticity, connect with others, and be proud of your unique journey to inspire others to do the same.

    ūüďĚ Podcast Summary

    Overcoming Adversity in Your 20s: Insights from a Cystic Fibrosis Advocate

    In this podcast episode, the host discusses how we can overcome adversity in our 20s and become flourishing individuals. The guest, Bradley, who suffers from cystic fibrosis, provides insights into dealing with chronic illnesses and the advocacy work required for better coverage of medications used to treat these illnesses. Cystic fibrosis is a complex genetic illness that is present from birth and affects around 3,600 Australians. CF is caused by carrying the CF gene from both parents and has different mutations with Delta F508 being the most common and severe. This podcast highlights the importance of finding people who share similar passions and energy, creating amazing friendships and inspiring one another to achieve great things.

    Understanding the complexity of Cystic Fibrosis.

    Cystic fibrosis is a complex chronic illness that affects multiple organs in the body, not just the lungs. It is caused by a genetic mutation which impairs the transportation of salt and water to cells, leading to thick and sticky mucus which breeds infections and scars the organs. People with CF often struggle with lung infections, reduced lung capacity and difficulty breathing, as well as pancreatic insufficiency which impacts their ability to absorb nutrients. The illness can also lead to other complications like cirrhosis of the liver and diabetes. CF is a challenging illness to understand and manage, but having a supportive family and a positive mindset can go a long way in coping with it.

    Believing in oneself and positive support can overcome life's challenges.

    Believing in oneself can make all the difference in overcoming challenges, as evidenced by the speaker's positive attitude towards living with cystic fibrosis and the strong support and encouragement from their family during their formative years. The speaker's early life experiences and beliefs laid the foundation for their resilience, which allowed them to face their first major CF challenge with a level head and determination. This highlights the importance of a positive support structure and environment in shaping one's mindset towards adversity and overcoming challenges, especially during childhood when self-esteem is being formed. What one believes about oneself can ultimately become a reality, as proven by the speaker's inspiring story.

    Overcoming Obstacles and Achieving Success

    Although facing obstacles can be difficult, it is possible to overcome them and achieve success. By creating a positive and capable environment, parents can protect their children from negative views on their challenges, allowing them to unknowingly develop a strong mindset. These challenges can also lead to finding purpose in life, recognizing resilience and gaining perspective. However, it's essential to acknowledge the negative impact that obstacles can have on mental health, such as insecurities and fears. By understanding and processing these emotions, it's possible to overcome them and move forward with one's life goals.

    Living with Cystic Fibrosis: Finding Purpose and Overcoming Limiting Beliefs

    Living with cystic fibrosis can create a sense of loneliness, but it's possible to find purpose and overcome limiting beliefs. By taking control of his health and focusing on what he can control, the speaker found confidence and a sense of liberation. Every day is a gift and there is no such thing as life expectancy, so it's important to live the best life possible. By changing his mindset and not seeing cystic fibrosis as a limitation, the speaker found love and is creating a fulfilling life. Every bad experience or twist of fate can ultimately lead to growth and a better place in life despite the challenges.

    Reflecting on Life-Changing Moments as Motivation for Growth.

    Life-changing moments and experiences can shape our mindset and lead to important lessons. It's important to reflect on these moments and use them as motivation to move forward in life. The fear and anxiety felt during difficult times can also teach us to appreciate the people we have in our lives. These experiences can be used to inspire others, such as becoming an advocate or podcaster. It's important to remember that even the most difficult moments can lead to positive growth if we choose to learn from them.

    Embracing the Gift of Life

    Life is a precious gift and it is important to live it to the fullest. The realization can come at any age. The speaker realized it when he felt close to death and met a man who loved and cared for his people. The man's perspective on life made the speaker question his priorities and he decided to quit his job and pursue his passion. Later, when the speaker faced a health crisis, he found a new purpose in life - to inspire and uplift others. He ran a marathon to show that anything is possible and to be a role model for others. The key takeaway is to focus on what truly matters - relationships and making a positive impact on others' lives.

    Overcoming challenges and achieving greatness through ownership and resilience.

    Life can throw us challenging situations, but it is up to us to choose how we react to them. Rather than being a victim of circumstances, we should take ownership of them and use them to our advantage. The experience of overcoming challenges can build resilience and provide a greater perspective, leading to a sense of appreciation for the little things in life. It's important to set yourself lofty goals and prove to yourself that you are capable of achieving them, even when facing turbulent moments. Fate may be mysterious, but it can lead us on the path we are meant to go on. Through discipline, purpose, and determination, we can develop the sense of capability needed to overcome any obstacle and achieve great things.

    Finding Fulfillment Through Storytelling and Service

    Through reconnecting with his passion for storytelling and hosting a podcast focused on service, the speaker found true purpose and a sense of fulfillment that he had been missing while pursuing traditional markers of success. He learned the value of vulnerability and the power of listening to others' stories, leading him to grow as a man and develop a deeper understanding of his purpose to impact others' lives. By recognizing that everyone has different experiences and emotions, he gained a new perspective on life and a desire to serve others. The message from a listener uplifted him more than any financial success he had achieved, proving that service is a powerful driver of fulfillment and purpose.

    Recognizing the Blessing of Today

    It all starts with today. If you get the gift of waking up with air in your lungs and a heartbeat, then you have been given this incredible blessing. Recognize that blessing and appreciate the fact that if you get tomorrow, you're even luckier than you are today. Often we look at ourselves and focus on all the things we're not, but the beauty of life is that you get to be one of one, there is no one like you. By positioning ourselves rationally and understanding where we sit in the world, we're able to have so much more freedom, authenticity and propensity for passion. Focus on doing things that really touch people, and make your life happier, better and deeper.

    Embracing Self-Acceptance and Authenticity for Personal and Professional Success.

    Embrace who you are and stop comparing yourself to others. Accept all your challenges and focus on making an impact in your small corner of the world. This self-acceptance and appreciation will give you the power to do great things in life. Authenticity and doing good for others should be the priority, which will lead to personal and professional success. Connect with others and have meaningful conversations to uplift and impact people. Downward social comparison can put you in a negative headspace, so it's crucial to focus on your journey and be proud of it. Remember, there is no one like you, and that's your superpower. Be yourself, make a difference, and inspire others to do the same.

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