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When we think about romance, many of us have a specific script in mind. Two people date, fall in love and get married. But that traditional path doesn't work for everyone.

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Ever wondered if there’s more to your sexuality than you ever realized? Or relationship models that challenge everything you’re used to? Men’s Health and Cosmo sex columnist Zachary Zane has been there. As a self-proclaimed “boyslut,” he’s radically open about his journey as a bisexual, polyamorous man and tells all in his forthcoming book: BOYSLUT: A Memoir and Manifesto. He shares how he came to understand his attraction to all genders, his experience living in a polycule, why it’s healthy for all of us to get used to rejection, and how bisexuality for men is gaining more visibility. He also helps me answer your questions on exploring bisexuality while in a long-term relationship, how to respond if you’re in a hetero relationship and your partner tells you they’re bisexual, and how to find casual, no strings attached sex. Show Notes: Ask Emily: What is a Penis Ring and Why Should I Use It? The Sexiest Morning Routine Ever PRE-ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure SMART SEX PRIZE PACK (submit your pre-order proof of purchase at the bottom of the page, be entered to win the prize pack and everyone that enters receives a copy of my new and improved Yes! No! Maybe? Guide) Promescent.com/Emily (use this link to automatically save 15% at checkout) Boyslut: A Memoir and Manifesto: Bookshop | Amazon More Zachary Zane: Website | Instagram | Twitter Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

“Women cheat for emotional connection, men cheat for sex.” “Men are horn dogs, women are frigid.” Heard any of this before? Did you know these are factually untrue? In this fan favorite episode, cultural anthropologist and bestselling author Wednesday Martin joins me to talk about female sexuality research findings, now that more females are entering the field of sex research. Believe me when I say: her revelations will change your life. Wednesday’s book Untrue: Why Nearly Everything We Believe About Women, Lust, and Infidelity is Wrong and How the New Science Can Set Us Free was a major conversation starter. Today, we’re more open to alternative relationship models, and a huge part of that is because of Wednesday. In this conversation, she debunks the lies we’ve been told for decades about female sexuality, including: men just want to spread their seed, while women want to protect their precious eggs. Wrong! Turns out, monogamy is pretty rough on female desire. How about this one: women cheat because they crave emotional care. Nope! Sometimes, women just want sex with someone new. Finally, how did these lies get started in the first place? Wednesday walks us through the faulty science that got us here, and how accurate measures of female desire are radically changing the way we understand sex – for all genders.  For More Information About Wednesday Martin: Website | Instagram | Twitter Untrue: Why Nearly Everything We Believe About Women, Lust and Infidelity is Wrong Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Here’s a secret. The #1 obstacle standing between you and the sex of your dreams probably comes down to exactly one thing: communication. It’s not a cliche - it’s a skill, and on today’s Ask Emily show, we’re talking our way to better sex. So let’s bravely face the awkwardness, with communication hacks for even the most nerve-wracking of convos. Clamming up during sex talks? I’ve got a confidence-building solution for that. How about giving tough feedback, like asking for better handjobs, or addressing a funky smell? We get into it! Finally, we tackle tough topics like telling a friend you have feelings for them, whether or not to open a relationship, and if you should stay in a partnership if the sex is just OK. Communication is lubrication, but you know what? It’s also liberating, and by the end of this episode, you’ll be feeling a lot freer. Show Notes: Yes, No, Maybe List Episode: Hot Sex with STIs w/ Dr. Ina Park Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Aubrey Marcus is a podcaster, author and founder. Aubrey just sold his company Onnit to Unilever for a huge undisclosed amount and he just got married after years of polyamory. How do you find fulfilment in life when all the pursuits which used to give you meaning are now completed? Expect to learn what it feels like to wake up with millions and millions of dollars in your bank account one day, the dangers of constantly desiring validation, how Aubrey would suggest someone get into psychedelic therapy, his opinion on polyamory as a newly married man and much more... Sponsors: Get over 37% discount on all products site-wide from MyProtein at http://bit.ly/modernwisdom (use code: MODERNWISDOM) Get 10% discount on your first month from BetterHelp at https://betterhelp.com/modernwisdom (discount automatically applied) Extra Stuff: Follow Aubrey on Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/aubreymarcus Buy Own The Day - https://amzn.to/326Ijmq Get my free Reading List of 100 books to read before you die → https://chriswillx.com/books/ To support me on Patreon (thank you): https://www.patreon.com/modernwisdom - Get in touch. Join the discussion with me and other like minded listeners in the episode comments on the MW YouTube Channel or message me... Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/chriswillx Twitter: https://www.twitter.com/chriswillx YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/ModernWisdomPodcast Email: https://chriswillx.com/contact/  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Alternative relationships are more popular than ever so today I’m talking to Miley Manliguis from #OPEN, a new dating app that’s designed for modern relationships - essentially, anything other than monogamy. Maile shares the intimate details about opening up her relationship with her husband after they had a child. She talks about juggling parenting and dating, her boundaries with her husband and how giving birth empowered her to embrace her sexuality more than she ever had. Maile’s an amazing woman. You’re going to love her perspective. I also talk to our content coordinator, Amanda, about her first experience being a unicorn (that’s slang for a third in a threesome). We get into how she felt going into it and what she learned about herself from the experience. Talk about getting to know your team on the job! Have you ever wondered how you’d feel going into a threesome? Amanda walks me every step of the way through her worries leading up to it and the things that helped her be present and have a fun, relaxed experience throughout. For more information about Maile Manliguis, visit: hashtagopen.com For even more sex advice, tips, and tricks visit sexwithemily.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Caleb Jones is an online coach, blogger and non-monogamy advocate. Statistically, most marriages end in divorce. This limited life span for the traditional approach to relationships has lead some people to seek an alternative setup. Today we hear from one of the most prominent figures in the non-monogamy movement as Caleb explains his relationship-rationale, we also discuss industry, weed legalisation and UK vs US politics. Extra Stuff: Check out Caleb's Website - https://calebjonesblog.com/ Follow Caleb on Twitter - https://twitter.com/TheCalebJones Check out everything I recommend from books to products and help support the podcast at no extra cost to you by shopping through this link - https://www.amazon.co.uk/shop/modernwisdom - Get in touch. Join the discussion with me and other like minded listeners in the episode comments on the MW YouTube Channel or message me... Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/chriswillx Twitter: https://www.twitter.com/chriswillx YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/ModernWisdomPodcast Email: https://www.chriswillx.com/contact Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On today’s show, Emily is joined by social researcher & best-selling author Dr. Wednesday Martin to talk about her book, Untrue, – because we’ve got a lot of unlearning to do. They talk about the misinformation we’ve been taught about female sexuality, why we aren’t necessarily meant or designed for monogamy, and how there isn’t just an orgasm gap – there’s an everything gap. Thank you for supporting our sponsors who help keep the show FREE: Woo Freshies, Magic Wand, Veritas Farms, SiriusXM, We-Vibe Moxie.   Follow Emily on all social: @sexwithemily For even more sex talk, tips, & tricks visit sexwithemily.com For more info on Dr. Wednesday Martin, click HERE. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

On today’s show, Emily is joined by sex and relationship coach, & the founder of Down to There, Pam Costa to talk about how to navigate an an open relationship after being monogamous for so many years. They discuss what it’s really like to go from a long-term monogamous relationship to swinging to becoming a sex coach herself, as well as how you can make jealousy work – because it doesn’t just go away. Plus, Emily gives advice on how to go from gentle to rough in the bedroom without going overboard, and whether or not there’s an age limit on “playing the field.” Thank you for supporting our sponsors who help keep the show FREE: pjur, Apex, Promescent, SiriusXM, Fleshlight Follow Emily on all social: @sexwithemily For more info on Pam, click HERE. For even more sex advice, tips & tricks, visit sexwithemily.com   Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

On today’s show, Emily is joined by Dr. Justin Lehmiller – a leading expert on human sexuality – to talk about his book, Tell Me What You Want: The Science of Sexual Desire and How it Can Help You Improve Your Sex Life. They discuss sexual fantasies, what they mean, and why it’s totally okay to have them (psst, we all do). Plus, they get into the benefits of sharing your fantasies with your partner, what the top ones are around the U.S., and the difference between men and women – and the similarities, too. Thank you for supporting our sponsors who help keep the show FREE: Hot Octopuss, Womanizer, Fleshlight, Adam & Eve Follow Emily on all social: @sexwithemily Follow Dr. Lehmiller on Instagram: @justinjlehmiller For more of Dr. Lehmiller, visit: sexandpsychology.com For even more sex advice, tips & tricks, visit: sexwithemily.com   Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

On today’s episode, Emily’s sharing some of the most open and insightful conversations with sexologists she’s hosted over the past few years. Emily speaks with sexual empowerment coach Amy Jo Goddard, sex therapist Hernando Chavez, teacher and porn star legend Nina Hartley, and sex educators Sunny Megatron and Ken Melvoin-Berg about a range of topics. From the basics of sex to ways to ease into back door play to non-traditional relationships, this show has a piece for everyone to learn and enjoy. Thank you for supporting our sponsors who keep the show FREE: RXBar, UVee, Intensity, and Adam & Eve Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

There’s no doubt that way we view and engage in sex is constantly changing. On today’s show, Emily sits down with friend,colleague, and sex therapist Dr. Ian Kerner to talk about sex, relationships, eroticism, and more! Emily and Ian talk in depth about the discourse of intercourse, meaning that sex isn’t just about penetration. They also cover sexual cliteracy, explore the different types of non monogamous relationships, core erotic themes, and how sex has changed over the years. Tune in for a truly inspiring show! Thanks for supporting our sponsors who help keep the show FREE: Magic Wand, Sportsheets, Intensity Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this podcast, Emily is joined by married couple and real-life swingers Holli & Michael! This sexy twosome is used to sharing all the intimate details of living the “lifestyle” on their number one Playboy Radio show SWING, and today they’re bringing all their romantic and sexual wisdom to the Sex With Emily studio. Emily and the pair talk tips for healthy relationships and healthy threesomes, discuss how to squash jealousy for good and explain how to go from ‘icy to spicy’ in the bedroom. The three also answer your emails on unsatisfying sex lives, making it work with a selfish lover and finding the perfect “unicorn” to make your menage-a-trois dreams come true. Whether you’re looking for ways to improve your communication skills or hop on the non-monogamy train, this podcast is sure to teach you a thing or two to help you improve your sex life and love life! Don’t miss it… Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

It doesn't matter how big your penis is or how long you can last, if you don't know how to move those hips during sex! Emily shows you how to shallow thrust, swivel, and screw. Next, Emily explores some common questions from listeners: Is sex with a virgin hot? Does masturbation inhibit your ability to orgasm with your partner? Is 69ing too much work? And is paying for sex ever okay? Also, Emily reveals the “chin trick” for giving women amazing oral sex. If you're interested in learning how to move during sex and want to change your love life, check out my sponsors: Crazy Girl, Masque, and Good Vibrations. Use coupon code Emily25 at checkout for 25% off your purchase at Crazy Girl. Use coupon code GVEmily20 at checkout for 20% off purchases of $100 or more at Good Vibrations. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Emily and Menace party together at Dolores Park in San Francisco and Emily is happy to have a dog free weekend with wine and friends.Gay porn interrupts a Canadian news show, a night club for Mormons without alcohol (shock), the Indian Burn hand job and marrying your lesbian girlfriend.The pros and cons of dating someone at work--sex, gossip and jealousy. It’s can be tricky idea but lots of fun when you sneak off to have sex in an empty office. It creates a happy work environment. That is until you break up. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.