How To Overcome Setbacks

Do you know what’s one of the great things in life is? It’s that at any point in life, you can choose a different path. You can choose to change anything about your life that you don’t like, or that you feel is holding you back from achieving the things in life that you want.

In this episode, I want to explore random acts of kindness by first sharing a personal story. Then I’m going to talk about why you would want to start random acts of kindness. Next, I’m going to share suggestions on how you can proactively be kind. Finally, I’m also going to talk about how not to get it wrong because the last thing you ever want to do is make someone feel as if you pity them. Because most of the time, people in need are not looking for a handout, but a hand up. And as sporadic as your act of kindness may be, and if it’s not done anonymously, it’s easy to make someone in need feel less than they are already feeling.

As we become the adults we are, our lives reshape because of the ebbs and flows that happen throughout our lives. Those same events that we sometime consider burdensome or insurmountable are the opportunities that define us. As we expand, we grow and become stronger than we ever thought possible. 

So let me restate, you are a work in progress. 

In this episode, I want to empower you to believe in you. I want to empower you to see the good in the bad, and know that it’s only a page in the book of your life. I want to help anyone who feels as if life is hard, who often says “I am tired”, or “I am sick and tired.” Or even “I will never succeed,” start believing and saying, “I can do this.”

This episode is all about empowerment. About sharing with you how to get beyond the mind space that’s keeping you from trying, from realizing that your time will come. You just have to keep going.

Are you following your passion?

By passion I mean doing what you love and loving what you do. Or perhaps a better description would be doing that thing you are excited about, that doesn’t feel tiring, and certainly doesn’t feel like a job.

I wish I can say many of us follow our passion. The reality is, many are not making a living doing the kind of work that when they wake up in the morning, they are excited to start their day because they can’t wait to do that next best thing that exciting for their day, week, and year.

In fact, a study done in 2017, shows that only 13% of the US workforce are passionate about their job.

What would happen if you challenge yourself and push beyond your comfort zone? It certainly would feel uncomfortable. Any time you reaching beyond what’s comfortable It’s never easy, but it is an effort worth making because it’s one way you can live your life optimally. When you strive to do more, you can gain a better understanding of your limitations. You can also awaken that internal part of you that’s willing to grow and expand.

So I am asking you Evolvers, are you challenging yourself? Are you pushing yourself to move even a little beyond your comfort zone? Let’s explore why you should and how to get comfortable with sometimes being uncomfortable in some areas of your life.

I love this quote: “Are you green and growing or ripe and rotten?” It’s the perfect metaphor for being stagnant and it’s such an easy trap to fall into. We go through life wanting to see the things we want to accomplish become a reality, but fall short because of you fall in a rut and you’re not sure how to get out of it.

In this episode, we are going to address what stagnation is and its effect. Then we are going to identify how to get out of it. Why would you want to deal with this condition? Because it’s possible, it’s keeping you from living optimally. every day.

In order to identify stagnation and if you are experiencing it, you first need a definitive idea of what it is.

The principle behind this rule which I’m going to tell you more about in a moment is that 80% of the results you achieve are from 20% of your efforts.

Think about that for a minute. You work hard on a project. Let's say that the project is starting a business. According to the 80-20 rule, only 20% of your effort was viable. Only 20% of working hours and hours, days and days on your business, was productive enough to produce results.

When I heard about the 80-20 rule, it intrigued me. I wanted to know more. I wanted to know if I was actually wasting my time, which, to some degree, we all do.

But, I really wanted to know if I am only getting 20% results from my effort.

In episode 12, I shared a quote I loved by Aristotle. We are what we repeatedly do is a part of the quote. That’s what I think about these success habits I’m about to share. If you pick the ones that make sense in your life and adapt them and make them become a part of your life. In time, they will become subconscious acts that will, without a doubt, help you achieve the things you want.

Ask yourself and answer three questions as you listen to the success habits

• Is it right for me?
• How can I adapt to it and make it my own?
• Will It make a difference?

You are going to ask yourself these questions not because I said so, but because of one simple fact. We are all solitary. We have a life that is uniquely our own. With self-development, there is no one size fits all. It’s about what you know and using that knowledge to create and implement a plan that works for you.

Our Inner critic is like what kryptonite is to superman.

It can destroy us and make us weak and vulnerable to where we are helpless, feel hopeless and lost.

Our inner-critic is one of the greatest deterrent to having semi-decent self-confidence, or the enthusiasm to choose action over inaction. Or We spend uncountable hours challenging our decisions and indecision; the choice we make and the ones we don’t. We go through a vicious cycle of so much self-doubt, we eventually just give in.

Some say our inner-critic is a survival mechanism. Perhaps that’s true, but I have another perspective. It’s that our inner-critic is about the confidence we don’t have. Consider this question:

Would our Inner-critic be as prevalent in our lives, if we had greater self-confidence?