#57 When Will I Be Healed? (aka The Great Escape)

The 3 key ingredients you need to succeed in all areas of life.

 

If a parent could pass on only 3 things to their child in order to best prepare them for success, what would they be?

 

Many think it would be a strong mindset, good manners, a great education, but the answer goes deeper than you think….

 

In this episode, Pete lists the 3 developable characteristics that can help you achieve success & more of what you want in the world - from health, wealth & purpose, to family & relationships.

He also lists some effective strategies for cultivating more of these 3 traits in your life.

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How does your image support your bigger mission in life?

 

Laura Markinkovich is a fashion expert & men’s personal stylist. She helps men who are completely clueless about their look to create a unique image & a self identity that stands out amongst the crowd.

Originally from Argentina, Laura originally used fashion as a way to find her own sense of self in the world. She now takes great joy & pride in helping others to do the same.

Many men might think of the concept of image & style as something that is too feminine, or self indulgent & surface level. However it’s something that is present & happening anyway whether you like it or not, so you would do well to embrace it!

In this interview, you will learn about how understanding styling & fashion gets to be a low hanging fruit which you can use to amplify the message you have to share with the world.

In this episode, Pete & Laura explore:

• Laura's unique backstory and how it led her down the path of studying fashion

• Some of the edgy stories from my time working with Lau

• The main limiting beliefs & points of resistance that Laura hears from her male clients

• The fundamental pillars of style that every guy needs to think about

• How upgrading your wardrobe can change your dating life

• Why matchmaking is an exciting & edgy next step for Laura

Visit Laura’s website: www.lauramarinkovich.com

 

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Do you have big goals, but often find yourself procrastinating?

The level of motivation we have to go out in the world & take action is intimately correlated with the level of purpose or meaning we attach to our daily tasks.

In this episode, Pete uses some personal stories and a fun analogy to describe the power of anchoring your daily work to your greater WHY - and how failing to do so can lead to a slow downfall of your vision.

If you’re someone who has big dreams and goals but finds it hard to get excited about the process of getting there - this episode is for you.

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Reference - “Man’s Search for Meaning” by Viktor Frankl

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What lies beyond material success?

If you grew up in the Western world, there’s a good chance you were convinced of the importance of external achievement, and how it’s supposed to bring lasting happiness.

There are some who make it to that level of success, only to realise that more achievement won’t bring them the fulfilment they were promised. So, what to do?

In this episode, Pete tells a story about the entrepreneur’s journey to find something more - the pursuit of true happiness & fulfilment in life.

If you’re someone who has achieved a solid level of financial success - more than enough to cover all your needs, but still feel like there’s something missing in your life - this one’s for you.

 

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How do we optimise for happiness & connection, along with business success?

 

Tarush Aggarwal is the CEO & founder of 5X, a multi million dollar company, is one of the leading experts on empowering businesses to make better data-driven decisions.

His unique style of business leadership mixes rational problem solving with intuition, simplicity & connection to something greater.

 

Originally from India, Tarush moved to the USA for university, and after graduating became one of the first data engineers in Silicon valley while at Salesforce.com.

Most recently he led Data for WeWork, where he built a 100-person data group supporting 12k+ employees to use data at scale.

With his startup “5X” he is on a mission to help any company in the world become a data company.

This is a man who is rewriting the Type A playbook on how to build a startup. Tarush now prides himself on how little he works, and has made the transition to “less is more” - moving from 12 hour work days to only a few hours a day as needed.

Tarush is also passionate about creating communities, and is planning a project in the future which will harness all of his skills to provide an alternative for the broken systems of today’s social media - ie. one that actually facilitates authentic connection.

This interview will give you an insight into the brain of a man who is not just rewriting the playbook on how companies can scale using data, but also how to build a startup while thriving in all other areas of your life.

In this episode, we cover:

• Tarush’s backstory of moving from India to USA, and having success as one of the world’s first Data Engineers.

• His synchronistic story of landing in Bali just before borders closed for Covid

• How the old education system is no longer relevant in today’s business world

• How “Data for companies” works (in layman’s terms)

• Tarush’s 3 rules for business success

• Changing from “working hard” to “working less & smarter”

• Why today’s social media doesn’t assist authentic connection & the importance of community in today’s world.

• How to find out if a new city or location is right for you to live in

• Advice for founders who want to build companies in a more balanced & regulated way.

Visit 5X’s website: www.5x.co

 

Connect with Tarush on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tarushaggarwal/

 

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In this “Aligned Moment”, Pete & Jen explore the 3 most potent & efficient techniques Jen has found & used to help thousands of people heal from chronic fatigue & anxiety.

 

They dive into the stories behind these powerful techniques & how they have positively impacted Jen’s life. There is even a live singalong with a song about the “Inner Critic”!

 

Jen is a Nervous system practitioner & co-founder of Somia International, a school dedicated to helping people heal from unresolved trauma & chronic symptoms.

 

This clip is packed with relatable anecdotes & stories about the healing journey, and will open a door to what is possible on your path to wellness!

(From Ep.40 “Healing The Root Cause” with Jen Mann)

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Check out Jen’s work @somiainternational

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“When will I reach the end of ‘the struggle’ and finally be able to enjoy life?”

In this episode, Pete explores the different stages of the “Healing Journey” - which can feel like a never-ending endeavour.

He describes observations from his work with his clients along various stages of this process - as they let go of their old ways & created a life more authentic & true to themselves.

He uses an analogy of being “in the tunnel” to describe the process of outgrowing your old life & network, but still being unsure of the path forward.

If you feel fed up, sick of the personal development journey and just want to “be ok” & enjoy life again, this episode will hopefully provide a light at the end of the tunnel & give you the motivation to keep moving forward, one day at a time!

 

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Jan-Willem van der Heiden is the Warrior coach.

In this episode you will meet a lifecoach & boxer who blends the power of “mindset work” with the tool of “getting punched in the face” to build embodied resilience in men & women!

Jan-Willem’s passion for fighting stemmed from being bullied as a kid and struggling with anxiety, which affected how he showed up in life. Through finding boxing & personal development & embodying his inner Warrior, he’s been able to follow his passion in life, become a successful entrepreneur and find his dream woman.

His stats are impressive - 15 years of boxing all over the world, including third place in the Sanda (Chinese Boxing) world championship. Jan has been running his warrior coaching programs for 3 years, including 10 sold out “fight club” containers - where men have the space to face & overcome their greatest physical challenges yet.

In this episode, Pete & Jan explore:

• Jan’s story of going from depressed, isolated & scared to becoming the Warrior coach

• Pete’s experience of getting punched in the face by Jan

• The importance of a somatic component as part of the personal growth journey

• How Jan has approached the limitations of online space for somatic work

• Jan’s story of pursuing his passion to play a musical instrument

• Some inspiring stories from Jan’s “Fight Club” containers

• How do the principles of the Warrior translate into Jan’s intimate relationship?

Get ready to learn the transformative power of getting punched in the face!

 

Visit Jan’s Website: https://www.thewarrior.coach/

 

Follow Jan on IG: @janwillemvanderh

 

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People Pleasing is a pretty rough character trait to live with.

 

The “Nice Guy/ Nice Girl” pattern is insidious - it seeps into every area of life & distorts our perception of the world.

 

At some point along the way, the people-pleaser took on the false belief that they’re some kind of burden on others & must overgive & self-sacrifice in order to receive their basic needs.

 

This pattern can get so bad that, in an act of trying to remain consistent with self, they turn it into a badge of honour (think “the saviour” or “the empath”).

 

These false identities perpetuate toxic relationships, which continue to leave the pleaser feeling burnt out, worthless…and most of all, “correct” in their belief that they are the victim.

 

In this episode, Pete dives into his own lived experience of this seemingly harmful but ultimately destructive pattern. He uses a fun analogy of a rather unique “Exchange Bureau” to describe how ridiculous the unconscious behaviour of the people pleaser really is.

 

He explores the solution to people-pleasing,  a reframe that may help you understand the source of these problems - and a path forward.

 

Remember - Just by existing, you deserve to have your needs met,..“just cos” ;)

Books referenced:
“The Disease to Please - Curing the People Pleasing Syndrome - Harriet B. Braiker

“No More Mr Nice Guy” - Robert A. Glover

 

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In this interview, Pete shares the in-depth story of his very normal upbringing in Ireland to becoming a professional musician travelling the world. He dives into how he became a coach & breathwork facilitator, and how he has now found a way to cross his passions for music & personal development into one unified “North Star”.


(Original episode -  “Claiming Your Deepest Truth” from Heart Of Man Podcast w/Alex Lehmann

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