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    Kevin Hart ON: How to Conquer Your Fear of Failing & Processing the Obstacles of Forgiveness, Love, and Loss

    Believe in yourself and challenge each other to bring out the best in your friendship.

    enJanuary 09, 2023

    About this Episode

    You can order my new book 8 RULES OF LOVE at 8rulesoflove.com or at a retail store near you. You can also get the chance to see me live on my first ever world tour. This is a 90 minute interactive show where I will take you on a journey of finding, keeping and even letting go of love. Head to jayshettytour.com and find out if I'll be in a city near you. Thank you so much for all your support - I hope to see you soon.

    Today, I am talking to Kevin Hart. Kevin is an actor, comedian, author, investor, and CEO. Over the years he has become Hollywood’s box office powerhouse, opening ten films at number one at the box office with $4.23 billion revenue at the global box office. In 2020 Hart starred in “Die Hart,” the first production of its kind, created through his digital network, Laugh Out Loud, and Executive Produced through his production company, Hartbeat Productions. Kevin’s memoir, I Can’t Make This Up, debuted at number one on The New York Times Best Sellers List and remained on the Top 10 Nonfiction Hardcover Bestsellers List for ten weeks straight. Kevin’s digital network, the Laugh Out Loud Network, serves as a platform for emerging comedians and is home to two premium series which both feature Kevin – “What the Fit?” and “Cold as Balls.” 

    We get to see Kevin’s serious side as he talks about self love and team effort. He places emphasis on the importance of focusing our energy on finding a solution rather than wasting time on the problem, how team effort is the foundation to all forms of success, why we should always consider both sides of the story, the beauty of cheering for others success and celebrating it with them, and how self love and self appreciation must start with you and not come from someone else.  

    Truly, there is no shortcut to success. It is earned through hard work, clear purpose, surrounding yourself with the right people, and a multitude of self love.      

    What We Discuss:

    • 00:00:00 Intro
    • 00:03:19 Looking in the mirror and being okay with yourself
    • 00:07:38 Having parents that opens opportunities for you
    • 00:13:06 Don’t focus on the problem, focus on the solution
    • 00:20:45 It’s hard to see the good if you’re only seeing the bad
    • 00:25:20 The simplest things came from an idea
    • 00:35:12 Team effort is the foundation of success
    • 00:43:19 Celebrate each other’s success
    • 00:58:24 Talk to yourself
    • 01:06:47 Looking at things with both lenses
    • 01:10:16 You gotta learn it
    • 01:15:12 Would you wish pain and suffering for anyone?
    • 01:20:50 Critical thinking
    • 01:25:27 There is no handbook to fame
    • 01:29:56 Kevin on Final Five

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    🔑 Key Takeaways

    • Be honest and true to yourself to discover and pinpoint your monsters in order to achieve personal growth and success.
    • Taking the time to get to know ourselves better, understanding our true definition of happiness, and embracing growth and correction can lead to self-improvement in the face of difficult childhood memories.
    • Hard work, effort and understanding are essential for creating a successful future.
    • Change is essential to unlock the power of positivity and create healing.
    • Making conscious decisions to invest in knowledge and self-care can help ensure a brighter future for the next generation.
    • Look within to recognize the good in your life and use the mistakes of others to inform your decisions.
    • Don't be afraid to take risks and try new things - with creativity, openness to learning, and perseverance, you can achieve anything.
    • Surround yourself with people who have different experiences and perspectives to help you grow and learn from failures in order to create generational wealth and opportunities for your family.
    • Success is earned through collaboration and inclusiveness, so recognize the efforts of your team and be humble.
    • Believe in your abilities, take initiative to develop your skills and invest in yourself to reach your goals.
    • Believe in yourself and challenge each other to bring out the best in your friendship.
    • We should recognize and celebrate our successes, and be understanding if we don't reach our goals.
    • Staying realistic and humble with expectations is key to achieving success, as it is important to focus on the process rather than obsess about the end results.
    • Knowing yourself and being happy with who you are is essential to navigating the world of fame and achieving success.

    📝 Podcast Summary

    Taming Your Monsters - Embrace Your Flaws and Stay Humble

    Success and winning can often give us a false sense of perfection, but in reality, we still have flaws.Everyone has 'monsters', or bad versions of themselves, which can be disguised in different ways.We can discover and pinpoint our monsters by being honest and true to who we are.Ego and expectations can cause our monsters to grow stronger, so we have to be aware of them.It is important to stay humble and transparent in order to save lives and be successful.Learning to tame our monsters is an important part of personal growth and development.

    Can Difficult Memories from Childhood Lead to Self-Improvement?

    As a child, it's easy to become complacent and take the easy way out, but we should push ourselves to try our best and work hard.It's important to check our own behaviour and be honest with ourselves, even if that means admitting our mistakes.We should take the time to get to know ourselves better and understand our true definition of happiness.We should embrace the world of growth and correction, and understand that there is always room for improvement.Looking in the mirror should be a reminder that there are no trophies for our successes, and that we should be proud of ourselves for having the courage to be honest with ourselves.Difficult memories from childhood can have a huge impact on our lives, and it's important to be able to turn them into a positive.

    Unlocking Success for the Future Through Hard Work, Understanding and Effort

    Parents often provide their kids with opportunities to stay active and engaged.Hard work and effort are key components in creating a successful future.It is important to finish what you started and not to give up.It is important to put in your best effort to get the most out of an experience.It is important to learn from the mistakes of the past to create a better future.Reconciliation and understanding are important when dealing with difficult family situations.

    Unlocking the Power of Positive Change

    It is important to focus on solutions rather than problems.It is never too late to make a change and turn your life around.Don't focus on what you can't change and don't hold onto grudges.Actions can sometimes be more powerful than words.Giving your energy to something positive and life-changing can have unexpected rewards.It is not about us but about the bigger picture and how we can create healing.

    Empowering the Future with Knowledge and Self-Care

    Life is full of choices, and as adults, it's our responsibility to make the best ones to ensure a brighter future for the next generation.We have to pass on the baton correctly and make decisions which will help them have a better life than we had.Doing something positive, like learning, is a great way to make yourself feel productive and good.One Dream is an educational platform with access to a wide range of content so you can learn anything you want.Mental health is a priority, and it's important to take care of yourself and find ways to cope with life's struggles.Better Help is an online therapy platform which can help you get closer to the best version of yourself.

    Letting Go of Unserving Feelings and Emotions for a Higher Purpose

    It is important to be able to recognize when a feeling or emotion is no longer serving you, and have the courage and strength to let it go.In any relationship, when it is just about two people, they may have opposing views.When there is a higher purpose or value, people can start looking in the same direction.It is easy to compare yourself to others, and this can lead to being unhappy with your own life.It is important to recognize the good in your own life, and the mistakes that others have made.Sometimes the best wisdom comes from understanding what not to do, rather than what someone has said.

    Embracing Challenges to Reach New Heights

    Take risks and try new things - don't be afraid to put yourself out there and try something new, even if it's outside of your comfort zone.Be creative - Have an open mind and come up with a lot of ideas, as the most simple things could lead to something big.Be a sponge - Listen to those around you, absorb all the information you can, and be ready to learn.Don't be afraid to fail - Failure is part of the journey and it's only through taking risks and trying new things that you can succeed.Aim high - Believe that you can achieve anything and set yourself big goals - don't limit yourself to one job or one thing.Persevere - Don't give up, even when things get tough. Put in the hard work and keep going until you reach your goals.

    Breaking Barriers and Achieving Goals Through Education and Knowledge

    There is more to life than just achieving a goal- the person you become on the journey is equally important.It is possible to break barriers and create something new, no matter your starting point.Education, knowledge and understanding are all key for growth.It is important to surround yourself with people who have different experiences and perspectives.Failures are part of the learning process but it is important to learn from them and keep going.Creating generational wealth and opportunities for your family can be a powerful motivator.

    Achieving Success by Embracing Team Efforts

    Nothing is ever achieved alone.For success you need to surround yourself with good people and support them.It's important to recognize the efforts of your team and embrace them.Everyone has something to contribute and it's important to let them do their part.It's important to have a mindset of inclusiveness and collaboration.Success is earned and it is important to be humble and recognize the efforts of others.

    Are We Prepared To Invest In Ourselves and Our Craft For Success?

    We can all succeed together, instead of looking at each other as competitors.We should focus on our own goals and success rather than comparing ourselves to others.Being prepared and taking the initiative to develop our skills is key to success.Frustration is natural but it should not deter us from our journey.Having a sense of confidence and believing in our abilities is important.Taking the time to invest in ourselves and our craft is the way to reach our goals.

    Celebrating The Friendship of Successful People

    It is beautiful to witness the trust and friendship between successful people like Spielberg, George Lucas, and Tarantino.They showed each other their movies and gave each other feedback before launching them.They were confident in their own style and genre which made them successful.Kevin Hart and Chris Rock trust each other’s opinion and story which helps them to improve.They challenge each other and celebrate each other's success.This fraternity of successful people should be an example of friendship and positivity to the younger generation.

    Celebrating Success and Learning from Loss

    We can compete with each other and still be friends.There is a special atmosphere that is created when you are with people who are striving to be the best.At the end of the day, everyone was still friends and supported one another through their competition.We need to be able to recognize and celebrate our successes, even if we don't always reach our goals.It is important to not get too hard on ourselves when we miss the mark and understand that our successes may not happen again.Studies have shown that people who win bronze medals are actually happier than those who win silver, because they knew where they stood and were still happy with their result.

    Achieving Success Through Mindful Processes

    We all want to succeed, but it is important to stay realistic and humble with our expectations.Trying to control the uncontrollable can lead to disappointment and hurt.It is important to focus on the process and celebrate the wins along the way.The success of a project or endeavor should not be completely tied to the end results.Being overly obsessed with the results can lead to an unhealthy obsession.It is important to be mindful of our reactions to the highs and lows of life, as it is all part of the journey.

    Embracing Authenticity in the Face of Fame

    We are often tempted to ignore the mistakes and successes of others as if they are not real life.Fame is the biggest drug, because it makes one feel powerful and makes them think they can get everything they want.However, there is no handbook or guide to navigate the world of fame, so people can get overwhelmed when it suddenly appears.The key is to know yourself and be happy with who you are, so that when fame disappears you can still cope.Being honest and authentic is important, and even when we have achieved success, we should remember it can still change.Life is a journey and we need to take the time to discover who we truly are and become the best version of ourselves.

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    How to focus on positives and small wins

    Don't let overthinking hold you back! Start implementing these strategies today and take control of your mental space.

    With Love and Gratitude,

    Jay Shetty

    What We Discuss:

    00:00 Intro

    00:52 Has Overthinking Slowed You Down?

    07:53 The Science Behind Overthinking

    10:50 #1: Overthinking as a Problem-Solving Approach

    14:24 #2: Don’t Ask Too Many People For Their Opinion

    18:19 #3: Avoid Responding While You’re Feeling Alarmed

    19:17 #4: Move Your Body When Your Mind Is Stuck

    20:32 #5: Focus on the Good Thing and Small Wins

    22:05 #6: Spontaneous Drawings Relieve Psychological Stress

    24:23 #7: Go Back to Analog

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    Orlando Bloom: 3 Reasons Why You Need to Allow Yourself to Make Mistakes & Shift Your Perspective on Fear

    Orlando Bloom: 3 Reasons Why You Need to Allow Yourself to Make Mistakes & Shift Your Perspective on Fear

    Do you stop yourself from making mistakes? 

    Do you want to shift your perspective on fear? 

    Today, let’s welcome the one and only Orlando Bloom. Orlando gained widespread fame for his roles in some of the most popular films including The Lord of the Rings trilogy and Pirates of the Caribbean series. He will be seen starring in Peacock's limited adventure docuseries, To The Edge, which he also produced. Off-screen, Orlando is known for his humanitarian efforts, including his work as a UNICEF Goodwill Ambassador.

    Orlando shares insights from his life as an actor, adventurer, and someone deeply involved in spirituality. He talks about how meditation and mindfulness help him stay balanced despite the hectic nature of being a celebrity, his views on masculinity, the importance of embracing both masculine and feminine qualities, and striving for balance and introspection in life. We also get to hear stories about facing and overcoming fears, embracing vulnerability, and the lessons he's learned from these challenges. This episode isn't just about getting to know a renowned actor but diving into the personal journey of a man who is constantly looking for deeper meaning and connections in life.

    In this interview, you’ll learn:
    How to overcome fear
    How to maintain balance in a hectic life
    How to incorporate mindfulness into everyday activities
    How to explore and embrace different aspects of your personality
    How to use life's challenges as growth opportunities

    Tune in now for a discussion full of insights on overcoming fears, embracing spirituality, and pursuing personal growth.  

    With Love and Gratitude,
    Jay Shetty

    What We Discuss:
    02:28 Working in an Unscripted Space
    06:09 What’s Your Earliest Childhood Fear?
    08:35 Practicing Buddhism
    13:49 The Lotus Sutra
    20:16 The 8 Wins
    26:28 Trusting Your Life and Becoming Capable
    36:33 Being Present While on the Edge
    44:48 Any Moment Could Be Your Last
    45:43 The Deepest Mirror You’ll Ever Have
    48:58 What Did You Learn from Your Past Relationships?
    51:22 Introducing Buddhism Practice to My Kids
    55:33 Whatever You’re Saying, You Become
    01:02:22 Loving the Parenting Journey
    01:07:16 The Impacts of Your Decisions
    01:09:13 Opportunities Through Obstacles
    01:17:40 Buddhism Is My Anchor
    01:18:59 The Fear You’re Currently Overcoming
    01:26:04 Orlando Bloom on Final Five

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    4 Ways to Know if It Is Time To End Your Relationship (When the Signs Are Not Clear and Things are Not Bad)

    4 Ways to Know if It Is Time To End Your Relationship (When the Signs Are Not Clear and Things are Not Bad)

    Do you find yourself often thinking about breaking up?

    Do you and your partner have unresolved conflicts that keep resurfacing?

    In this episode, Jay tackles the tough emotions and uncertainty many face when considering a breakup. He talks about why people stay in or leave relationships, touching on key factors like emotional closeness, personal investment, and the impact of family responsibilities. Jay also discusses how to ensure emotional security and the risks of staying for financial reasons or out of obligation. 

    In this episode you’ll learn:

    How to recognize emotional investment

    How to assess emotional security

    How to consider financial implications

    How to navigate emotional intimacy

    This honest conversation provides you with the insights to evaluate your relationship more clearly, helping you decide whether to work on it or move on, based on a deeper understanding of your feelings and the relationship's dynamics.

    With Love and Gratitude,

    Jay Shetty

    What We Discuss:

    00:00 Intro

    01:10 When to End Your Relationship

    04:48 10 Reason Why People Stay in a Relationship

    12:44 Top 10 Reasons to Leave Your Relationship

    18:14 The Three Cancers of the Mind

    24:44 Difference in Scorecard Perspective

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