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    About this Episode

    All of us in our 20s have some goal or ambition that we are striving for and whatever that may be, consistency is the key to our success. On this episode we break down how we can use the psychology behind consistency and motivation to help achieve our goals, from microhabits to delayed gratification, self compassion, a monthly routine and incremental reinforcement. We also examine some of the science and social psychology behind productivity and how society has dictated the ways in which we pursue our goals and why we might have it wrong. Join us as we deep dive into the ways we can cultivate consistency in our 20s. Listen now. 

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    ūüĒĎ Key Takeaways

    • Consistent routines and habits are critical to success. Overcome procrastination and all-or-nothing thinking with simple steps towards building habits. Behave in a dependable way to create a path towards success and a balanced life.
    • Consistency and purposeful daily behaviors are crucial for achieving our goals. Building small micro-habits that align with our purpose helps ensure long-term success without burnout. Hard work and consistency are essential.
    • Start with easy micro habits that fit your daily routine, set short-term and long-term goals, prioritize long-term benefits over short-term rewards, and focus on delayed reinforcement to achieve sustainable results.
    • Practice delayed gratification by setting small incremental goals, embracing failures as learning opportunities, and maintaining daily consistency. Train yourself to delay impulses and practice patience, leading to profound gratification when achieving a task with better quality.
    • Celebrate failures, prioritize rest and implement the 80-20 rule to devote the majority of your time towards your goals while also finding time for happiness. Create a sustainable routine by starting with a monthly routine.
    • Start small, set reminders, surround yourself with supportive people and prioritize your goals over temporary pleasures. Your five closest people define your identity and motivation.
    • Success and happiness come from balancing various aspects of our lives, including relationships, hobbies, values, work, and achievements. Consistency and practical habits are vital, but our worth and identity go beyond our outputs, and it's essential to enjoy life and take rest.

    ūüďĚ Podcast Summary

    Building Consistency and Sustainable Habits

    Consistency is key to achieving our goals and building sustainable habits. While it can be challenging to stay focused and motivated, creating a consistent routine and habits can keep us on track. Procrastination and all-or-nothing thinking can hinder our progress, but we can overcome them by understanding the psychology behind motivation and following simple steps towards building habits. Consistency applies to everything from our careers to our personal goals, and it is crucial to prevent burnout and enjoy a balanced life. By behaving in a dependable way, we can create a path towards success and achieve our ambitions. So let's start at the beginning and build our consistency one step at a time.

    The Importance of Sustainable Habits and Micro-Habits for Success

    To achieve our goals, it's important to break them down and create sustainable habits. Consistency is key, but it doesn't mean being robotic or having every hour planned out. It's about incremental daily behaviors that align with our purpose. Struggling with consistency is universal and distractions, procrastination, and lack of motivation can get in the way. Motivation can be hard to sustain when other things demand our attention, so positive habits are important for long-term success. Micro habits are small daily actions that build to bigger, sustained, life-changing habits. Starting small prevents burnout and ensures that we can achieve our goals. Hard work and consistency are the keys to success.

    Building Sustainable Habits for a Healthy Lifestyle

    To create sustainable habits for a healthy lifestyle, start with micro habits that are easy to integrate into our daily routine without causing discomfort. These habits can be as simple as drinking a glass of water or walking to work. Additionally, set short-term and long-term goals that require delayed gratification, which trains our brains to prioritize long-term benefits over short-term rewards, like social media. By doing so, we avoid burnout and increase our chances of achieving our goals in a sustainable way. Remember, life is a marathon, not a sprint, and building consistency in our behavior requires patience, discipline, and a focus on delayed reinforcement.

    Delayed Gratification and Incremental Goals for Long-Term Success.

    Practicing delayed gratification helps to sustain our behavior and achieve long-term success. Incremental gratification involves setting small, achievable short-term goals that lead to the end goal. This approach can help in maintaining daily consistency and micro habits. Instead of defining our self-worth based on failures, we should embrace self-failure as a learning opportunity and motivator to succeed. Setbacks are a part of the journey, and it is crucial to get back up and keep going. Delaying impulses and taking small steps towards goals can lead to profound gratification when a task is completed with better quality. The marshmallow experiment shows how delayed gratification grows over time and is often not fully developed in children. We need to train ourselves to delay gratification by waiting to fulfill an impulse and practicing patience.

    Embracing Failure, Rest and Joyful Work Towards Goals

    Celebrate your failures and treat them with the same amount of success and excitement as your successes. Also, taking the time to rest is crucial for building consistency towards your goal. It allows your brain to receive stimulation and break up the day, so its motivation is sustained. Implement the 80-20 rule. Spend 80% of your time devoted to the work and habits towards your goal, and let the other 20% be focused on things that make you happy. Finally, create a reasonable routine by starting with a monthly routine, instead of jumping straight into a daily routine.

    How to Achieve your Goals with Micro Habits and Positive Reinforcement

    To achieve your goals, start small with micro habits and gradually build up. Don't change everything about your life overnight, as our brains and bodies prefer what is familiar. Also, set reminders for your long-term goals and surround yourself with people who support your ambitions. People who don't believe in their own goals or pressure you into sacrificing your work for fun are not supportive. Visual cues like pictures of your dream university or grades help in staying motivated. And remember, your five closest people influence your identity and motivation. Therefore, it's important to closely examine your environment and relationships and prioritize your goals over temporary pleasures.

    Consistency, Habits, and Identity: Keys to Success and Happiness.

    While consistency and motivation are important for achieving success, it is essential to recognize that our worth does not solely depend on our outputs and successes. Our identity is made up of relationships, hobbies, values, characteristics, and achievements. It's important to focus on micro habits, set long-term and short-term goals, practice delayed and incremental gratification, and rest. Creating a reasonable routine is also important to avoid burnout. Life is more than just career success or fitness goals. Enjoying life and pouring energy into every domain is equally important for happiness. Consistency is the secret to success and implementing practical habits can help us achieve our dreams, but it's essential to remember that we are more than our achievements.

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